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After my workout, I went to Goodwill on the hunt for more recovery books....found two gems...one is "path to recovery" that I had been "waiting for"....the other "secussfully living w/screwed up people" that ought to be a "Goodie"
THEN , I come across this rather fat..glossy...new like condition book that kind of said "here I am, look at me" you know the kind...that catch your eye and the curiosity drives ya nuts till you pick up the thing and see what it is....the title was "the fat book on the best insults in any situation" or words to that affect....I flipped through the pages and saw, Yep..In any situation, there are loads of insults to hurl at ones intended object of an emotional and mental "smack down"....I thumbed through it and giggled at some of them...Recognized a LOT of them.......When I was done, I put it down and thought, "now who wants to do this to another human being?? Like if they are that toxic, stay away from them, but why get into this toxic tug o war with anyone??
I put the book back in its place , curiosity satisfied and lesson learned....Even a few years ago, I would have grabbed that sucker and devoured the contents to "blast" the next person who P****s me off, but I decided the recovery way is the best and what I want to do now
Also, to be honest...i have a good enough repartee of my own...Don't need any additional fire power, LOL...
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I just downloaded a free Kindle reader for PC and I am creating a Wish List of recovery books on Amazon. Hoping to get one per month, so excited. Glad you found a keeper at the Goodwill, gotta love Goodwill!
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Nothing has changed but my attitude, everything has changed.
Thank you for the share and good reminder. I relate. For me, I had a faulty mechanism of not knowing that I can be vulnerable and protect myself at the same time; comebacks stuffed my feelings, though. I've learned that I'm much more comfortable speaking my truth and also knowing it's ok not to speak- I even have effected a combo for not speaking and not stuffing my feelings... sometimes "mmm" works for me- lets the other person know that I've heard them (but nothing more), gives me an outlet for my feelings without words.
Rose: Loved this share! Wow! To pick up a book full of insults to fire at another human being and to lay it back down again because you've been there done-done that and don't want to do it anymore - whew! good stuff.
Good work