glad you made it into this site .. very draining situation to go through .. you are wise to not go it alone .. hp already shows .. went through this myself .. many things i am grateful for .. thank god i had recovery while going through it .. through recovery, i watched my mother share on things that never fit with reality .. because of the spiritual piece of the program, i was able to understand .. my mother wasn't entirely out of it .. much of what she was sharing outloud did happen .. just not in today .. she was living in another dimension of her past life .. (she wasn't always making up stories even though she sounded off her rocker) by listening to her, i learned much about her and much about her family growing up .. shared much with my mother too .. was able to validate her in the beginning when she knew herself something was wrong with her .. whatever she said, whether happening today or not was happening to Her in the moment .. helped me not be so quick to try to change her story, thinking, etc .. just sat with her and let her share .. which only exhausted me more at first ..

helps to remember the thinking disease of alcohol (drinking too but thinking first) .. dymentia is sometimes much like the family disease .. even when hearing the word alcohol .. (powerless over alcohol) .. had to remember to replace the word alcohol with .. people, places, situations, things, etc .. ) i can't cause control cure my perception of any of these .. even myself when i'm fried and confused, etc .. but hp can ..

keep coming, sharing, listening .. in alcoholic-(thinking) or relationships period.. i recognise without a diagnosis many of us have a natural and similar degree of dymentia through thinking and behaviors .. (i laugh at that sometimes but) --> sometimes we refuse to listen or hear what another shares .. we repeat ourselves over and over (control) .. we choose to believe another could have our best interest in mind .. we tend to think think think we are right right right .. sometimes we are stuck in the past .. and sometimes we obsess .. we think we know what another is thinking or saying without even listening to them <--- human nature .. too .. agree have to keep treating our own first .. oxygen mask =)

glad you're here sharing it about it because we're as sick as our secrets .. sometimes it's our secret feelings .. they become like a poison if left'alone inside .. bringing them out in the open brings in the tlc from ourselves and others ..

welcome to mip! I am telling you the support I got here over many years has kept me afloat.

Lurking is great! I am so glad you came in. We have meetings here in the chat room, do you go to meetings in your area?

Yes it is very hard when we have to help our parents. Our hearts can only take so much.

It sounds like daughter has some problems. If she is an adult, she has to figure it out. We have to let them go and do it. we have no control over them. Its so hard!

please keep coming! debilyn

 

my mind must of stopped at dymentia .. see ? i have a touch of it myself Lol .. went straight to my mother .. god love her ..

the daughter is tough .. glad you are seeing you need to take care of you .. hard to watch that process too .. grateful for the recognition through these rooms if our As don't experience their own pain at times, they will never have a need for something greater than themselves .. or us .. sometimes remembering that makes it easier to walk through it ..

i will never be done learning in these rooms .. (( keep coming back and sharing anytime the need is there )) .. we're expecting 3-5 more " of snow .. can't stand it Except that next week is 30 here and the following week a day of 42 is forecasted .. here's hoping they are Right !!!