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missmeliss · missmeliss

I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk)

So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...

grateful2be · grateful2be

The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...

DavidG · DavidG

I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...

mjferg · mjferg

I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.

missmeliss · missmeliss

I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...

neshema2 · neshema2

I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...

hotrod · hotrod

Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...

ladee · ladee

Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...

hotrod · hotrod

The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...

mjferg · mjferg

The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks

hotrod · hotrod

Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.

Flower49 · Flower49

My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...

Bostonpugwoman · Bostonpugwoman

This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

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expertatdenial · expertatdenial

Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...

Fairlee · Fairlee

hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...

MooseWork · MooseWork

My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...

Dean P · Dean P

Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...

mjferg · mjferg

Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...

Helpangel · Helpangel

My ah came out of rehab about two weeks ago and was suppose to stay in a apt we paid for the month. He has stayed two days out of two weeks. Not sure I like that, seems like he's taken back his territory. He was nice for about 6 days Rest if the time it is hit or miss. We have a lot of up and downs, He has been complai...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am really discovering how important my friendships are these days. Not that I really didn't realize what they mean to me. I just know that is very easy for me to be a friend & have very meaningful friendships. Recently through this program, I started to finally get to know my neighbor of 15 years. I...

mjferg · mjferg

Well, dealing with people isn't my strong suit.I am rough around the edges and I can be very blunt at times.I don't like to be jerked around and I can be very defensive.I have been called the B word.I need to deal with my landlord in a firm assertive way without getting angry and spouting off.That will be a...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Changed Attitudes; Honesty with Self; Principles above Personalities The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...

hotrod · hotrod

The One Day at a Time reading for today is a powerful reminder to examine our motives and discover what, within us, is keeping us ina destructive relationship and accepting of negative behavior and humiliation. The reading points out that every human being is entitled to live without fear, uncert...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I know several of us attend face to face meetings. If you are like me, you missed the memo on the fact that Al-Anon decided to start a working copy of a 4th Reader for Al-Anon members. They are asking for members to sign in at their webpage using your group's name with afg, going to the individuals/membe...

little miss daredevil · little miss daredevil

Hi, I have been a long time lurker and finally decided to make an account. The things that have been shared on this forum have been very helpful to me and I suppose it's time I outed myself to possibly have a little more specific advice to my situation because it is somewhat complicated. (I apologize in ad...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

hey all, been in al anon a few years, working my 8th step right now, coming up against a lot of confusion about my higher powers will for me these days. I do a lot of social justice work and witness a lot of terrible things in the world, and i don't understand why my higher power would allow these things to be,...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

I was going through taking screen shots of text messages (evidence) this afternoon. It's amazing to me that declarations of forever "love" and "waiting as long as it takes" lasted, as long as it took to send the message.Realistically I know and understand that my marriage was...

nic · nic

About 6 month ago I found out my partner, who I had always suspected of being an alcoholic, had gambled over 50K during the last few years while out on drinking binges. He promised to stop drinking, and swore that the gambling only happened when he was drinking and was not a problem in and of itself. Well...

hotrod · hotrod

ODAT for today states that and if I learn to look at my life as an adventure I will discover thousands of little things that occur in daily that can enriches my day.If I stay in the present moment I can enjoy the sunrise, the sound of the birds, a long walk and all the interesting things I see a long way....

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

I have to desribe what my brain does to me. I guess this might be called "stinking thinking". not sure. If one thing bothers me, then i start thinking about multiple bad things and my day spirals downward. I am trying to prevent that from happening today. I take martial arts. it isnt easy. I a...

DavidG · DavidG

The Alanon concepts might seem to be a long way off to some people. But I think it begins when a person comes to their first meeting. Simply coming along is the first stage of participation. We don't have to be getting it right- at least not all of the time. We have all bin there, done that... there is nothi...

hotrod · hotrod

As I said in a previous post, there has been a few days of confusion and controversy here and it is unsettling. I engaged with a member and other issues surfaced. If this happened at a face to face meeting we would hold a moment of silence followed by the serenity payer and proceed Maybe we coul...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I have so many other things I want to share... I keep typing out these longer thoughts/vents, but I guess first I want to ask this question that has been bugging me. My AH quit drinking 7 months ago. He started going to AA the very night we staged an intervention, and starting working with his priest, who...

Katrina324 · Katrina324

Hi all, This is a rant, so hear me through please...... I have yet to go to another Al anon meeting, I went to one in December and wasn't sure what it all meant. I felt like it meant that the problem was mine, and I do understand that I need to stop trying to fix others. That I get. But I see that the steps are t...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

I had a talk with my AH last night. Tried to keep it to just how I feel and not throw any ultimatums at him. He gave me a bunch of lip service and says that he is going to quit drinking today. I worry that this is just all talk because he isn't seeking out any professional help. Should I encourage him to start wit...

shannon34 · shannon34

Alcoholism yep I was born into the life in 1980. Had a father that had his little girl wrapped around his finger when he was sober. I always felt like my dad was two people in one. A kind loving father and then a monster that could say and do things as though he hated me. His body was found at the young age of 39 a...

mjferg · mjferg

I have school now, which is a strain and it is very cold here,I didn't have any water this morning,I am having problems with my washing machine and I don't have a dryer so I have to lug clothes to the laundromat to dry them.My hot water tank was leaking and the water damaged a bathroom cabinet, it is covered...

flagbabe83 · flagbabe83

Hi, I'm new to all of this! I've come here because I feel like I'm losing a grip on reality and need some new perspective. Here's my story (the short of it): My husband and I have been married for 4 years, dating for 10. When I first met him in college, he'd drink a lot but no more than the average college stude...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Ahhhhhhh. The day got off to a pretty bad start with everyone yelling at and about me and me waking up to it pretty bewildered and upset and I eventually yelled right back. It was just overwhelming. Everyone is picking on me, right? And I am thinking I literally cannot take another moment of this... Well...

hotrod · hotrod

C2C January 11 this is a powerful page as it speaks about the Al-Anon meetings and the feeling of support, understanding and love that is generated when we are accepted for who we are. We can share without having to pretend and trust that what we share will not be gossiped about and that we will not be gi...

bud · bud

I had been under the impression that if I wasn't seeking approval (and maybe I was dipping my big toe into that pool of water), that all my bases were covered, but something clearly still didn't feel right. My Uncle contacted me last night for information. I used words from my T.H.I.N.K. tank and spok...

harveysmom · harveysmom

Thankfully no kids involved... After many years of separation, he finally got evicted from his apartment, I got his stuff and took him to social services. He still wants to die. He was in the hospital night before last because he tried to sleep in his car that is on 3 flat tires. The police took him for a me...

ohno · ohno

For those of you who have family members who have turned out to be alcoholic, when you are working the steps, how are you able to trust God, when he obviously did nothing to prevent alcoholism in your loved one (and all of the negative effects on you)? I don't understand what you are trusting/not trustin...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I hadn't been to a meeting in a couple months. With everything going on through the holidays, boy scouts, everything else, well, you know how it goes sometimes. It was great to be there, and great to see how when you are gone for awhile and come back you can pick right back where you were at an Al Anon meet...

Jessmine · Jessmine

My husband relapsed recently - he is going downhill both physically & emotionally (depressed). I finally wrote down some boundaries/conditions that I could continue to live with him. One of them is that if he drinks on any given day, he will go to a motel. He agreed to the conditions. Today he d...

andromeda · andromeda

Something I don't talk about often here is my home meeting. It's a large meeting, 50 plus people most of the time where we have to use a podium to have people share or else others can't hear them talk, lol. I have been leading the meeting this month and I like doing service work for the group. The problem...

Katy · Katy

It's the early hours of the morning here and I was awoken a while back with our son coming in, he has a girlfriend now and a three month old baby son and has been a constant figure in her two other children,s life's, he has a drink problem though and he was in court last week for being drunk and disorderly, he...

neshema2 · neshema2

Yesterday and today were big tests for my back therapy...my self imposed, and through research, asking others, my tailored therapy for me......stretching, core strengthening, meditating...more focus on strength and agility/mobility and a bit less on cardio sitting is my worst enemy...there...

Debilyn · Debilyn

This is how I do my best to think. Maybe I am too protective, too sensitive. All I know is I just cannot put up with someone hurting another person. Even if what one states is truth, for me it only hurts others and brings negativity. I learned positive goes a lot further than negative. Does not mean I am righ...

Truth · Truth

I finally got what it was I reread the email from my ex-A after I emotionally detached. In the email " Don't worry our son will be able to choose one day" I bought into the fear .... I chose to be afraid and scared. I had a future mind movie going on that he would have to choose. New message...

neshema2 · neshema2

So often I get caught up in "life" and the busyness I have challenges. Busy stuff. I forget to do my gratitude list. I am grateful my back held up after a grueling long day at work. Sore but recovered. Back is slowly healing Grateful I made decent money yesterday and helped a coworker with...

missmeliss · missmeliss

at my mothers. Sorry to come here with negativity but it's not very pleasant. It was a long day moving and cleaning out that little room we had been staying in today. The mother came to help move my stuff (I had told her not to and that I would move it OK on my own but, she doesn't seem to hear the frequency my vo...

DavidG · DavidG

The last f2f meeting I went to was in South Dakota. There was something good going on there and I went to three. Full meetings, vibrant, and there was a local Lakota presence. I could relate because I live in a rural town backing onto two small provincial cities. After one meeting one member came up and t...

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	Tears of relief!!!!! (Preview) I signed a lease yesterday. And paid some rent and generally secured a house for myself and my girl. Let's start with the important stuff. Here's where we will be walking the dog each evening (a 2 minute drive away or maybe 20 minute walk) So it's in town, which will take some getting used to, but it is...	missmeliss	18	774	Jan 16, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	Hope for Today - January 16 (Preview) The writer refers to her early Al-Anon days. It was difficult for her to understand humility and how to develop it. Being teachable was a concept that she could grasp. She decided to look at how she could change herself so that she could become more open and willing to learn. She decided that skippi...	grateful2be	9	975	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	He~art and she~art... (Preview) I was an artistic kid in the sporty frontier style community... ...drinking was 'a way of life' for quite a body of people. An alcoholic was someone who 'drank with the flies' in a corner of the bar.... My rural community is no longer really rural- so many changes! I am still finding my family and my com...	DavidG	10	679	Jan 16, 2015 by tiredtonite
	I'm so over one of my so called school friends (Preview) I carpool with a younger woman who lives at home with her parents. To save money, because we travel one hour each way to college Monday-Friday we carpool. It is no longer worth it for me, nobody else frustrates me the way she does and I walk away most days wondering if she is trying to undermine me on purpos...	Breakingfree	9	817	Jan 16, 2015 by neshema2
	Sweet Freedom (Preview) I have a long weekend,no school today or Monday.My daughter and I are going to have some fun.Thrift store shopping and eating out.It feels so good to be able to have fun and not worry about coming home to chaos!!!Have a great weekend.	mjferg	3	496	Jan 16, 2015 by mjferg
	lol (Preview) I don't laugh so much at A these days unless he makes a joke; I guess now that I don't live with him, I don't live in a constant state of desperation where I have to choose between laughing or losing my mind. But this made me giggle. I was telling him about my new place. It's small, only 2 bedrooms, no spare sp...	missmeliss	5	848	Jan 16, 2015 by DavidG
	the Disease got another one!!!! My darling daughter's SIL KILLED HERSELF LAST NIGHT (Preview) I get a call from my beloved daughter #1 just now, she says "mama , are you working???" and she had "that tone" like I could feel myself bracing for something terrible her SIL went to doctor after doctor, complaining of pain in her stomache, and they tested her and tested her and...	neshema2	21	905	Jan 16, 2015 by Katy
	Step 12 (Preview) Step 12 has been posted to the Step Board. Please join in Learn How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59419276/alanon-step-1...	hotrod	1	542	Jan 16, 2015 by grateful2be
	28 days to form a habit. (Preview) I was told years ago it takes 28 days to form a habit. (A reason for rehabs and 28 days). I never tested it out with active commitment. But I am going to try now. When I miss a day I'll start again. So I'm one day in (again, lol). The 28 day habit I'm trying to form is self care by going to bed before 10.30 pm and ris...	aquamom23	9	3511	Jan 15, 2015 by missmeliss
	Suicidal texts (Preview) Suicidal texts from my A son tonight..... this has been coming for a long time..... I am scared.... but I will not rescue him.... I am a recovering A myself... 30 yrs sober this last Dec...... and I KNOW where he is right now..... I have been there myself.... been there a time or two sober...... only a High...	ladee	11	757	Jan 15, 2015 by hotrod
	Continually Practicing Detachment (Preview) Sometimes people post things that don't particularly sit well with me, so I hit the back button and step away from that particular table. Sometimes a post will get me thinking and I have to take time to process what the post means to me and if I want to do anything about it. Sometimes I will pm a friend for th...	likemyheart	3	2039	Jan 15, 2015 by unique
	Today's Reading and need prayers (Preview) The C 2 C 1-14 reading for today speaks about being powerless over alcohol and letting go of the battle that we are bound to lose. By letting go we become free and in taking the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when we surrender--- our spiritual growth and rewards are unlimited- .esp...	hotrod	25	959	Jan 15, 2015 by Jackie11
	just call me Annie Oakley (Preview) The last couple of weeks have been quite a challenge,starting college,icy roads,car problems,landlord problems a difficult instructor,etc.Well I have learned a lot about myself.Number one I am stronger than I thought, with all of these things hitting when I start something new,I am getting rea...	mjferg	4	721	Jan 15, 2015 by andromeda
	One Day At a Time January 15 (Preview) Speaks about how we pray for sobriety for the alcoholic because we believe this will solve all our problems. It points out that sobriety is only the first step in building a good life. Unless we both work to overcome the emotional conflicts within ourselves, we remain at a standstill. Our troubles st...	Breakingfree	4	860	Jan 15, 2015 by neshema2
	It's a tough job (Preview) My new job is exhausting and demanding. I suppose I'm doing better than I was in the past. I can make decisions without trying to people please. I'm up against a lot right now. This is a hit the ground running kind of job with no down time. In fact, I have a mandatory sixty hours a week right now and they'd li...	tiredtonite	19	924	Jan 15, 2015 by PP
	Forum guidelines/rules...where are they?? (Preview) I have been trying to find guidelines to posting on this forum and I cant find them. can a moderator help with this? thanks	Newlife girl	2	689	Jan 15, 2015 by Debilyn
	Happy Birthday G2B (Preview) Dear Catherine ( aka G2B) I pray that you have a very memorable day and that you enjoy a little of the comfort and love that you bring to others on this your special day.	hotrod	27	1030	Jan 14, 2015 by grateful2be
	Coming Home (Preview) My AH has found out he will be coming home probably within 2 weeks from the 3/4 way house. I don't know how to feel about it really. I had hoped the transition from sober living to home would have been done a lot differently such as building up time and days of being home rather than every other weekend, but i...	Flower49	13	749	Jan 14, 2015 by Helpangel
	Started dating newly recovering alcoholic (Preview) This is a bit of a long story and all very new to me just a heads up... I'm just trying to understand everything. I began dating this guy about 3 months ago. I really fell for him in the beginning because we have similar careers and passions. We both work with children with special needs and I loved talkin...	Bostonpugwoman	33	1401	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
	PP heres the look LOL (Preview) JK	Cathyinaz	5	685	Jan 14, 2015 by neshema2
	A little guidance... (Preview) Im following the steps of AlAnon for my own healing with regard to my A husband of 20 years. 10 years ago he quit drinking And hasn't had a drink since. Little did I know that that was only half the battle. I grew to be a sicker co-dependent as the years went on, even though there was no drinking. His person...	expertatdenial	6	630	Jan 14, 2015 by Debilyn
	Alateen ? (Preview) hi strangers! I am missing this board and really need to get back to being more active! The holidays were fast and furious and now life is getting back to our "normal". Hope the New Year has been good for ya'll! i have 3 teenagers. My middle teen is really struggling and last night she and I had a...	Fairlee	3	558	Jan 14, 2015 by DavidG
	Alcoholic Wife Disaster (Preview) My wife has spent 6 of the last 9 weeks in rehab. During the family program visit she told me that she had removed her wedding band the day she got there and it was "freeing". One week later she was home. She stayed with us for two nights. However, each day she would drive back to the treatment c...	MooseWork	11	1046	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Newbie seeking advice (Preview) Greetings, My girlfriend of almost 3 years entered a womens retreat last Thursday after a almost tragic single vehicle accident on Tuesday. She went willingly and says she is ready to get sober and deal with her painful past. There is no communication allowed during the first week, and very little i...	Dean P	8	819	Jan 14, 2015 by Newlife girl
	feeling 12 years old (Preview) Well I went to class today, I was ten minutes late because of car problems and I apologized to the instructor, this class has been laid back with people cross talking and interrupting, so the girl in front of me was showing me where we were at and all of a sudden he got upset and told us he didn't like talking...	mjferg	28	793	Jan 14, 2015 by Jerry F
	Suggestions how how to deal with recovering alcoholics (Preview) My ah came out of rehab about two weeks ago and was suppose to stay in a apt we paid for the month. He has stayed two days out of two weeks. Not sure I like that, seems like he's taken back his territory. He was nice for about 6 days Rest if the time it is hit or miss. We have a lot of up and downs, He has been complai...	Helpangel	1	673	Jan 14, 2015 by Flower49
	friendships: new & old (Preview) I am really discovering how important my friendships are these days. Not that I really didn't realize what they mean to me. I just know that is very easy for me to be a friend & have very meaningful friendships. Recently through this program, I started to finally get to know my neighbor of 15 years. I...	Hoot Nanny	4	653	Jan 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	practice,practice,practice (Preview) Well, dealing with people isn't my strong suit.I am rough around the edges and I can be very blunt at times.I don't like to be jerked around and I can be very defensive.I have been called the B word.I need to deal with my landlord in a firm assertive way without getting angry and spouting off.That will be a...	mjferg	4	708	Jan 14, 2015 by Breakingfree
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Changed Attitudes; Honesty with Self; Principles above Personalities The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the ser...	shimo	0	595	Jan 14, 2015 by shimo
	Thoughts on ODAT for today (Preview) The One Day at a Time reading for today is a powerful reminder to examine our motives and discover what, within us, is keeping us ina destructive relationship and accepting of negative behavior and humiliation. The reading points out that every human being is entitled to live without fear, uncert...	hotrod	11	779	Jan 13, 2015 by Truth
	World Service Office of Al-Anon's request for member submissions for 4th reader (Preview) I know several of us attend face to face meetings. If you are like me, you missed the memo on the fact that Al-Anon decided to start a working copy of a 4th Reader for Al-Anon members. They are asking for members to sign in at their webpage using your group's name with afg, going to the individuals/membe...	grateful2be	5	1114	Jan 13, 2015 by grateful2be
	Hello and thank you (Preview) Hi, I have been a long time lurker and finally decided to make an account. The things that have been shared on this forum have been very helpful to me and I suppose it's time I outed myself to possibly have a little more specific advice to my situation because it is somewhat complicated. (I apologize in ad...	little miss daredevil	9	649	Jan 13, 2015 by PP
	seeking thoughts on dropping the rock (Preview) hey all, been in al anon a few years, working my 8th step right now, coming up against a lot of confusion about my higher powers will for me these days. I do a lot of social justice work and witness a lot of terrible things in the world, and i don't understand why my higher power would allow these things to be,...	jorjorjor	5	698	Jan 12, 2015 by Debilyn
	Why I need to keep coming back (Preview) I was going through taking screen shots of text messages (evidence) this afternoon. It's amazing to me that declarations of forever "love" and "waiting as long as it takes" lasted, as long as it took to send the message.Realistically I know and understand that my marriage was...	Jackie11	6	641	Jan 12, 2015 by grateful2be
	Alcoholic partner just lied to me after 5 months of trust (Preview) About 6 month ago I found out my partner, who I had always suspected of being an alcoholic, had gambled over 50K during the last few years while out on drinking binges. He promised to stop drinking, and swore that the gambling only happened when he was drinking and was not a problem in and of itself. Well...	nic	6	731	Jan 12, 2015 by aquamom23
	ODAT Thought for Today (Preview) ODAT for today states that and if I learn to look at my life as an adventure I will discover thousands of little things that occur in daily that can enriches my day.If I stay in the present moment I can enjoy the sunrise, the sound of the birds, a long walk and all the interesting things I see a long way....	hotrod	13	750	Jan 12, 2015 by Jerry F
	Beating myself up isn't good....need ESH (Preview) I have to desribe what my brain does to me. I guess this might be called "stinking thinking". not sure. If one thing bothers me, then i start thinking about multiple bad things and my day spirals downward. I am trying to prevent that from happening today. I take martial arts. it isnt easy. I a...	Newlife girl	9	788	Jan 12, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Alanon Concept 4: Participation is the key to harmony... (Preview) The Alanon concepts might seem to be a long way off to some people. But I think it begins when a person comes to their first meeting. Simply coming along is the first stage of participation. We don't have to be getting it right- at least not all of the time. We have all bin there, done that... there is nothi...	DavidG	3	1572	Jan 12, 2015 by hotrod
	MIP Unity (Preview) As I said in a previous post, there has been a few days of confusion and controversy here and it is unsettling. I engaged with a member and other issues surfaced. If this happened at a face to face meeting we would hold a moment of silence followed by the serenity payer and proceed Maybe we coul...	hotrod	9	776	Jan 12, 2015 by Flower49
	Other models besides AA? (Preview) I have so many other things I want to share... I keep typing out these longer thoughts/vents, but I guess first I want to ask this question that has been bugging me. My AH quit drinking 7 months ago. He started going to AA the very night we staged an intervention, and starting working with his priest, who...	oceanpine	9	1037	Jan 12, 2015 by milkwood
	Struggling with all of this, I don't really understand the steps of Al anon and AA (Preview) Hi all, This is a rant, so hear me through please...... I have yet to go to another Al anon meeting, I went to one in December and wasn't sure what it all meant. I felt like it meant that the problem was mine, and I do understand that I need to stop trying to fix others. That I get. But I see that the steps are t...	Katrina324	16	1648	Jan 12, 2015 by PP
	A new day (Preview) I had a talk with my AH last night. Tried to keep it to just how I feel and not throw any ultimatums at him. He gave me a bunch of lip service and says that he is going to quit drinking today. I worry that this is just all talk because he isn't seeking out any professional help. Should I encourage him to start wit...	flagbabe83	2	600	Jan 12, 2015 by hotrod
	WHY!!!!!!!???? (Preview) Alcoholism yep I was born into the life in 1980. Had a father that had his little girl wrapped around his finger when he was sober. I always felt like my dad was two people in one. A kind loving father and then a monster that could say and do things as though he hated me. His body was found at the young age of 39 a...	shannon34	5	592	Jan 12, 2015 by Breakingfree
	I am feeling irritable (Preview) I have school now, which is a strain and it is very cold here,I didn't have any water this morning,I am having problems with my washing machine and I don't have a dryer so I have to lug clothes to the laundromat to dry them.My hot water tank was leaking and the water damaged a bathroom cabinet, it is covered...	mjferg	8	595	Jan 12, 2015 by mjferg
	Feel like I'm going crazy! (Preview) Hi, I'm new to all of this! I've come here because I feel like I'm losing a grip on reality and need some new perspective. Here's my story (the short of it): My husband and I have been married for 4 years, dating for 10. When I first met him in college, he'd drink a lot but no more than the average college stude...	flagbabe83	8	1071	Jan 11, 2015 by andromeda
	A good day. (Preview) Ahhhhhhh. The day got off to a pretty bad start with everyone yelling at and about me and me waking up to it pretty bewildered and upset and I eventually yelled right back. It was just overwhelming. Everyone is picking on me, right? And I am thinking I literally cannot take another moment of this... Well...	missmeliss	14	2671	Jan 11, 2015 by Kerrymom
	C2C Today (Preview) C2C January 11 this is a powerful page as it speaks about the Al-Anon meetings and the feeling of support, understanding and love that is generated when we are accepted for who we are. We can share without having to pretend and trust that what we share will not be gossiped about and that we will not be gi...	hotrod	16	680	Jan 11, 2015 by Tasha
	It's not about me (again) (Preview) I had been under the impression that if I wasn't seeking approval (and maybe I was dipping my big toe into that pool of water), that all my bases were covered, but something clearly still didn't feel right. My Uncle contacted me last night for information. I used words from my T.H.I.N.K. tank and spok...	bud	10	630	Jan 11, 2015 by neshema2
	AH wants to die but says "don't worry so much about me" ps we are legally separated but not divorced. (Preview) Thankfully no kids involved... After many years of separation, he finally got evicted from his apartment, I got his stuff and took him to social services. He still wants to die. He was in the hospital night before last because he tried to sleep in his car that is on 3 flat tires. The police took him for a me...	harveysmom	8	855	Jan 11, 2015 by tiredtonite
	How Do You Trust God When He Has Put An Alcoholic in Your Life? ( 1 2 3 ) (Preview) For those of you who have family members who have turned out to be alcoholic, when you are working the steps, how are you able to trust God, when he obviously did nothing to prevent alcoholism in your loved one (and all of the negative effects on you)? I don't understand what you are trusting/not trustin...	ohno	88	2548	Jan 11, 2015 by grateful2be
	Went to my F2F home group last night - changed attitudes (Preview) I hadn't been to a meeting in a couple months. With everything going on through the holidays, boy scouts, everything else, well, you know how it goes sometimes. It was great to be there, and great to see how when you are gone for awhile and come back you can pick right back where you were at an Al Anon meet...	KennyFenderjazz	7	776	Jan 11, 2015 by missmeliss
	Paralyzed with fear (Preview) My husband relapsed recently - he is going downhill both physically & emotionally (depressed). I finally wrote down some boundaries/conditions that I could continue to live with him. One of them is that if he drinks on any given day, he will go to a motel. He agreed to the conditions. Today he d...	Jessmine	16	755	Jan 11, 2015 by andromeda
	Cliques at meetings (Preview) Something I don't talk about often here is my home meeting. It's a large meeting, 50 plus people most of the time where we have to use a podium to have people share or else others can't hear them talk, lol. I have been leading the meeting this month and I like doing service work for the group. The problem...	andromeda	14	1635	Jan 11, 2015 by DavidG
	stuff (Preview) It's the early hours of the morning here and I was awoken a while back with our son coming in, he has a girlfriend now and a three month old baby son and has been a constant figure in her two other children,s life's, he has a drink problem though and he was in court last week for being drunk and disorderly, he...	Katy	3	596	Jan 11, 2015 by missmeliss
	MY choice--MY effort---however HP is blessing it (Preview) Yesterday and today were big tests for my back therapy...my self imposed, and through research, asking others, my tailored therapy for me......stretching, core strengthening, meditating...more focus on strength and agility/mobility and a bit less on cardio sitting is my worst enemy...there...	neshema2	10	737	Jan 10, 2015 by grateful2be
	I like this bunches (Preview) This is how I do my best to think. Maybe I am too protective, too sensitive. All I know is I just cannot put up with someone hurting another person. Even if what one states is truth, for me it only hurts others and brings negativity. I learned positive goes a lot further than negative. Does not mean I am righ...	Debilyn	29	860	Jan 10, 2015 by Jerry F
	The fear hook....False Evidence Appearing Real (Preview) I finally got what it was I reread the email from my ex-A after I emotionally detached. In the email " Don't worry our son will be able to choose one day" I bought into the fear .... I chose to be afraid and scared. I had a future mind movie going on that he would have to choose. New message...	Truth	9	686	Jan 10, 2015 by Truth
	What am I grateful for (Preview) So often I get caught up in "life" and the busyness I have challenges. Busy stuff. I forget to do my gratitude list. I am grateful my back held up after a grueling long day at work. Sore but recovered. Back is slowly healing Grateful I made decent money yesterday and helped a coworker with...	neshema2	5	701	Jan 10, 2015 by hotrod
	I've arrived (Preview) at my mothers. Sorry to come here with negativity but it's not very pleasant. It was a long day moving and cleaning out that little room we had been staying in today. The mother came to help move my stuff (I had told her not to and that I would move it OK on my own but, she doesn't seem to hear the frequency my vo...	missmeliss	13	562	Jan 10, 2015 by Luiza
	Alanon group issues, and me... (Preview) The last f2f meeting I went to was in South Dakota. There was something good going on there and I went to three. Full meetings, vibrant, and there was a local Lakota presence. I could relate because I live in a rural town backing onto two small provincial cities. After one meeting one member came up and t...	DavidG	6	861	Jan 10, 2015 by Jerry F
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