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Sionna · Sionna

Hi, I'm new to these boards. I've tried posting a few times but always end up rambling on and on and losing my train of thought. Basically, I can't be @rsed with the hassle of coming from my family any more. My dad is the alcoholic, he and mum are separated now, they're both 65. I'm 36 (woman) and I've one you...

ilc0013 · ilc0013

Hello All, I have been dating an alcoholic for over 7 years. It has been off and on. I have been attending meetings 3-4 times a week. However, I am interested in obtaining sponsorship.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

The whole issue of I make plans and God laughs completely applies here .. LOL. I'm so sick at the moment and I'm in a whiney mood to boot. I'll admit it would be nice if someone were here to take care of me and just let do me. Literally I have made it through two 1/2 days of work and I really need to just stay ho...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

After all the excitement over the weekend(it is now Tuesday) I am noticing a shift in my sleep & that I am dragging around. I guess this is just like a hangover w/o any alcohol. I am struggling...at least I don't feel wound up & keyed up. I said before that I wasn't going to post for awhile & the...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Well, it has been five days since the accident now. I discovered that the insurance we had was not the "right" kind of insurance, and I have a $407 tow and storage bill for the car. The salvage yard offered $200 for it. At least it is off my hands. And, I fixed the ground in my truck, so now the tail...

Skorpi · Skorpi

After she drove her car into a pole, I told my wife I was going to Al-anon because I needed support for myself, and, I explained as she looked on in disbelief, I couldn't get that support from her, as she was the thing I needed support with. I said I was going to check our local library to see if they had any Al-...

BresslawLookalike · BresslawLookalike

Hello there - I don't know what to say, so I had best start from the beginning. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for the last 4 months, but she has a problem. Well, she has a few problems not of her making but when she finds things are 'stressful' she reaches for a drink, and when she start...

Lyne · Lyne

I wonder if anyone else has had or is having the experience I am. I am feeling so much better most days. If I think about the change, it doesn't even feel real. But most nights, I dream about my A hurting me, drinking, lying, the affair of the heart, all the real bad yucky stuff that went on for the last 10 y...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I caught myself thinking back to her dad in the OB room with his big coffee mug full of beer and being afraid of him holding her. And so many other memories of being afraid of leaving him with her while I had to go to work in the evening after he got home during her toddler years. Most of her life and my memories...

el-cee · el-cee

This book has the adult child in mind. Todays reading talks about having a hole in our hearts from childhood, growing up with alcoholic parents, and thinking others will fill it, including the alcoholic husband. The reading talks about how working the alanon program can free us from secrets of our...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP family I have just returned. Thanks you so much for your many prayers and warm wishes. With the passing of my brother, in addition to 15 foot waves and a bout of sea sickness, I still managed to have a good and relaxing time. Thanks to alanon tools and much prayer. Looks as if you are all stil...

clarkangel · clarkangel

Hi every one, Iam new to this site and Al-Anon. I met my partner three and a half years ago. He had been in recovery for two years. He had a dual addiction drink and cocaine. He was a lovely partner but very hard work mood wise very up and down. I started to read the signs of him being moody very self absor...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59654077/alanon-tradition-2/Please

Brooke G · Brooke G

Hi everyone. I'm the wife of an alcoholic with complex issues; survivor of childhood abuse and emotional neglect...probably same old story, struggling to know what to do/say/think/feel. I have two young boys, the eldest is 9 and the youngest is 4, I try to get on with life for the most part, but after...

mjferg · mjferg

Winter is taking a toll on me,I have been snowed in,isolated, kind of blue.We are really getting hit by old man winter.My oldest daughter had surgery, she is okay ,but I wasn't able to be there,it was right in the middle of a bad snowstorm.I felt so bad that I wasn't there for her.I also received news fro...

lynnly · lynnly

I jump-started into al anon today when I took my husband to the ER for what I thought was pneumonia (bad enough), but was told it was most likely DT related heart arrythmia! We are still awaiting tests to determine if there was any permanent heart damage. I knew he was a heavy beer drinker, but had no id...

Luiza · Luiza

So, last week I went to my appointment with the homeless team and they wrote a very stern letter to the LL pointing out that his illegal eviction/harassment could land him in big trouble and he needed to start correct lawful procedures if he wanted to see me out of his property. If I come to the end of the l...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and guess what I thought and felt before saying I was gonna do that? This is a test so lets see your answers. Remember "He's got a lot of time in" and "Progress not Perfection" along with your own experiences. Ready GO!! No time limit or ESH limit. ((((Hugs)...

andromeda · andromeda

Ok, so what's wrong with me? I was expecting a huge wash of emotions once I moved out. I got nothing. No tears. The only feelings I've had have been joy, peace, and 'ah, I can breathe again'. I can't tell you all how wonderful it is to not be woken up in the middle of the night by a stumbling drunk, to not h...

hotrod · hotrod

I am at sea Just heard my brother passed last night Please remember us in your prayers.

el-cee · el-cee

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCkLYr8OlFY

New Member on vearge of intervention · LovingHim

This is my 1st post and I have fought this battle for year of ups and downs. The man I love most in this world is an alcoholic and I have finally realized without intervention I will loose him and may loose him in the intervention process anyway. Almost 3 years ago I broke every bottle of alcohol in our hom...

texasgal · texasgal

Last night was a bad night. I have been dating a man for 4 and a half months. And last night after dinner we went to his house to watch a movie and 5 min after we got their a woman came ringing the doorbell and knocking like a mad woman. She said she had slept with him this weekend. He has a son and has custody ever...

Floyd · Floyd

my wife started drinking heavily! she would drink until she passed out! always around our 16yr old daughter, I talked and asked her to stop and get help! but she refused! I asked to leave and think things thru. no matter how hard I tried no matter how I pleaded for her to get help it just got worse! now she is...

sweet potato · sweet potato

Hi everyone. I am new to this board and new to this disease my 34 year old married son is a drug and alcohol addict that has been in recovery since november for the first time WE recently discovered he had a relapse.. covering it up quite well but the lies caught up with him. Hubby and went to our first al ano...

LovingHim · LovingHim

It is no surprise to my husband that I hate his drinking! He will start in about 7pm with, your not talking to me because I am drinking! I only discuss alcohol when he is sober, but I joined the forum yesterday and have found a local chapter in my home town! Do I tell him I'm going??? I am looking for a coun...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I just tried to end my relationship with my ah who is 80 days sober and is a dry drunk. God help me I tried and then when he started flipping out I backed down and told him I don't want to live like this anymore and that every 10 days he picks a fight. How do u do this? Does it have to end so badly? How do you do it when...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone It's been a while since I have posted and this is really not about alcoholism or the problems it brought me but here go's. I'm anxious, lost and scared of things I can't control. My son is safe but I have been thinking about him getting out next year. My SO is retiring and the money will be cut...

el-cee · el-cee

Today's reading is all about courtesy and how a couples 'intense involvement' with each other and 'violent quarrels' can destroy what should be a 'sacred relationship' The reading reminds us that a simple thing like courtesy can be like magic, it can take 'the wind out of the sails of the attacker.'...

christinek61 · christinek61

Hi,I feel like the only way I can maintain joy is to give up and just stay away from this person long enough to stop aching and start living. ten years of roller coaster with my adult daughter has been exhausting and as I hear from yet another affected person (they always end up calling me) expressing conc...

Lyne · Lyne

So I had my lovely day yesterday with family. It was so cold outside here in NY, we were walking fast to the restaurant. But not my A. A is so overweight and body is hurting so she was way back. First my brother walked with her and then I took a turn. I mean, it was below zero with the windchill. Fast forw...

Exhausted33 · Exhausted33

This is my first post. My Mom is an alcoholic and has been all my life. She has had sporadic periods of sobriety over the years. Her cycle is to drink until disaster strikes, get into treatment, stay sober long enough to start earning some trust back and then start drinking secretly. I always find ou...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: The first paragraph in today's reading is about negative attitudes. The example given is if you hear 9 compliments and 1 insult, the focus is put on the insult. It reminds me of how difficult is to just say 'thank you' when someone gives a compliment. I notice that for me I often eith...

tornadoj · tornadoj

Hi, everyone! I'm new to this chat site but not to AlAnon--have been a grateful member for 3+ years and am happy to be here. Because of where I live, it has been hard to get to meetings, but I miss my AlAnon community and support and am so thankful for this venue. I'm writing today because I need help dealin...

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, Funny thing happened this past weekend..... My parents were down visiting, and as many a story's go, my mom and I can have friction from time to time. She is an ACOA, and was raise in a very abusive (every sort) home. The aftermath of which has left her with a lot of fear in her...

Jeri Kat · Jeri Kat

My sister is an alcoholic (never agreed to treatment) and her ex-husband is verbally abusive. Neither is better than the other. They have two children (both about 10 years old). The children are tossed back and forth between two unhappy houses and I can't stand to watch it any more. Today, the old...

Helpangel · Helpangel

I realized something alarming today. My dry drunk husband of about 80 days sober was watching my daughter play on a snow hill as I was sitting the opposite direction. He stormed out the door and I followed he started yelling at my daughter that she kicked a boy in the head. My daughter lied and said she did...

el-cee · el-cee

At the weekend i was told about a young woman, only 35, who is a chronic alcoholic. She has lost her job, her home, lives with her mother and is so bad she cant go up stairs to her room so sleeps on the couch. She is wetting herself and cant get up when she falls. It sounds really bad. I went into panic mode upon h...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

THE PAST MONTH HAS BEEN HELL FOR ME. AH DRINKING ALMOST KILLED HIM. THERE WERE HOSPITAL STAYS,JAIL STAYS FOR DOMESTIC,ETC BANK ACCOUNTS NEARLY EMPTY THATS HIM FOR ME PAIN,ANQUISH EXHAUSTION ANGRER RESOLVE, TRYING TO FIQUIRE OUT WHETER TO LEAVE, TO FIND A LIVING SITUATION LESS EXPENSIVE CLOSER TO R...

Lyne · Lyne

For the first time in maybe 10-15 years, I was not depressed on Val. Day, because my marriage is so disappointing. Been there, done that! Thanks to Alanon, I had no expectations to be ruined! I was actually surprised that my A got me two very nice gifts! I have been practicing detachment, not being c...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading tells us that alcoholism is a disease. Not a 'respectable' disease with germs that we can accept but it is a disease. When we are able to accept it is a disease then we make progress. We dont repond to someone who is sick with frustration and rage so accepting alcoholism is a disease helps u...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Don't know if this a relapse of what was ailing us a couple weeks ago or something else. I didn't get any support at the VA and ended up in the trauma center. Headaches and dizziness and nausea and wild thinking and neck pains and more so I listened to my wife (lol) and she drove me to the TC. Funny how o...

el-cee · el-cee

Happy valentines day! Todays reading is all about what it means to 'work' the program. It says we get out exactly what we put in. Working it means, 'attending meetings faithfully' read some alanon literature every day and apply what we learn to our daily lives. It also means sharing with others what we...

Skorpi · Skorpi

I just wanted to say thank you for being here. I feel like I have nowhere to turn and no one to express myself to at this hour ... or in general. Tonight, my wife was on her way to pick me up from work, and was in a car accident. Thank goodness she didn't hurt anyone. She did take out a rather large lamp post, fro...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading is about gratitude shown by members offers hope to newcomers. It talks about how life changes and the 'world begins to reveal its beauty which was obscured by my worrying over my trouble' it didnt take me too long in alanon to start lifting my head when i walked and looking at the beauty th...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

Where is our resident artist? Has anyone heard from her?

missmeliss · missmeliss

OK so my daughter's father pays his court-ordered child support. To the exact cent, not a penny more or a penny less and that is IT. It's not much, it maybe pays for about 1/4 of her most essential and basic expenses, but it does help a bit. At the same time he has refused to EVER pay for anything beyond this c...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My valentine party went so well that I am so happy that my friends were there & especially the fellowship moved me. I never imagined that I would be able to share such a special time w close women friends. Each lady there had something special to share. I am so blessed I didn't even have to cry because...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to wish y'all a happy day! For some it is SAD. Single awareness day. I just hope no matter you situation married single or whatever you give yourself special care. I am going to soak my feet to start this new day.

To be loved · To be loved

Heading to al anima tomorrow at 130. Not sure what to expect and hope I don't turn up then walk away but I am going!

mjferg · mjferg

This morning I took my daughter to school,she wanted to stop at McDonald's, it is a very busy intersection. I was in a hit and run accident a few months ago,a woman ran a red light and totaled my car,I spun clear around in the road, so I am more careful when I drive and sometimes I have anxiety now when I am i...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I don't share often anymore because my life is pretty darn good. But today I wanted to share how blessed I feel. My AH spends winters in Arizona...this is the third year...because of pain issues. We live in northern Minnesota and it can get bitterly cold here. Today, his sponsor stopped by my house and d...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

In August I let my 16 year olds best friend move in with us so she could go to a bigger high school with my kid. So 6 months later I am having issues with her that I haven't had with my kids. She is sneaky and causing a rift between my oldest and I. I find her to be a lot like my exAH, manipulative and behind the scen...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I definitely have been on the helped side, the car I drive was given to me at a very low point in my life. I like thinking of myself as God's light sent to someone in need! Sometimes its just a smile someone needs. -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 13th of February 2015 10:21:12 AM

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope I am not beating a dead horse. My valentine's party is tomorrow. I have invited 20 women. It is for all the ladies married or single. You can't bring a date but maybe a plus one. I am so excited. I think it will be fun w/ food, games & door prizes. Another thing that is included is things to be gratef...

el-cee · el-cee

This reading is about how we ourselves contributed to the destruction in our homes. It says 'this was no vacuum we were living in' it wasnt only the alcoholic who caused damage, we reacted to and made things worse. It talks about how it can be difficult to face our own shortcomings but its easier to do t...

joanlee13 · joanlee13

Hello, was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. My family was once happy and fun, but in 2009 my adult daughter started having issues with alcohol. Her husband travels all the time and would leave her every week with two little boys, and she couldn't cope. Thankfully she has been a com...

Arizona Intergroup · Arizona Intergroup

Hi Recovery Friends, We just received two registrations from Finland for our 2015 September Retreat. You too are invited. Watch our video and read more at www.aca-arizona.org Yours in service, ACA Arizona Retreat Committee

John · John

Truth · Truth

I know this does not have a lot to do with recovery but it does!!!! I just finished the Valentine bags for my son's party tomorrow!!! It was so much fun helping him learn to write his name. I really know that I need this type of activities to stay sane !!!!!

The greatest joy I have is when I am around childr...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Co Dependancy? (Preview) Hi, I'm new to these boards. I've tried posting a few times but always end up rambling on and on and losing my train of thought. Basically, I can't be @rsed with the hassle of coming from my family any more. My dad is the alcoholic, he and mum are separated now, they're both 65. I'm 36 (woman) and I've one you...	Sionna	5	534	Feb 19, 2015 by pinkchip
	Looking for a Sponsor (Preview) Hello All, I have been dating an alcoholic for over 7 years. It has been off and on. I have been attending meetings 3-4 times a week. However, I am interested in obtaining sponsorship.	ilc0013	3	481	Feb 19, 2015 by Lyne
	Long Week .. at Tuesday (Preview) The whole issue of I make plans and God laughs completely applies here .. LOL. I'm so sick at the moment and I'm in a whiney mood to boot. I'll admit it would be nice if someone were here to take care of me and just let do me. Literally I have made it through two 1/2 days of work and I really need to just stay ho...	SerenityRUS	2	685	Feb 19, 2015 by andromeda
	coming way down... (Preview) After all the excitement over the weekend(it is now Tuesday) I am noticing a shift in my sleep & that I am dragging around. I guess this is just like a hangover w/o any alcohol. I am struggling...at least I don't feel wound up & keyed up. I said before that I wasn't going to post for awhile & the...	Hoot Nanny	3	413	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Day Five, and thankfully still sticking with it. (Preview) Well, it has been five days since the accident now. I discovered that the insurance we had was not the "right" kind of insurance, and I have a $407 tow and storage bill for the car. The salvage yard offered $200 for it. At least it is off my hands. And, I fixed the ground in my truck, so now the tail...	Skorpi	6	549	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	You have to be kidding me.... oh, wait... (Preview) After she drove her car into a pole, I told my wife I was going to Al-anon because I needed support for myself, and, I explained as she looked on in disbelief, I couldn't get that support from her, as she was the thing I needed support with. I said I was going to check our local library to see if they had any Al-...	Skorpi	5	737	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Never ever thought I would need to join a group like this (Preview) Hello there - I don't know what to say, so I had best start from the beginning. I have been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for the last 4 months, but she has a problem. Well, she has a few problems not of her making but when she finds things are 'stressful' she reaches for a drink, and when she start...	BresslawLookalike	28	971	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	Good days, bad dreams (Preview) I wonder if anyone else has had or is having the experience I am. I am feeling so much better most days. If I think about the change, it doesn't even feel real. But most nights, I dream about my A hurting me, drinking, lying, the affair of the heart, all the real bad yucky stuff that went on for the last 10 y...	Lyne	3	367	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	My oldest turned 17 years old yesterday (Preview) I caught myself thinking back to her dad in the OB room with his big coffee mug full of beer and being afraid of him holding her. And so many other memories of being afraid of leaving him with her while I had to go to work in the evening after he got home during her toddler years. Most of her life and my memories...	Breakingfree	8	618	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	hope for today feb 19th (Preview) This book has the adult child in mind. Todays reading talks about having a hole in our hearts from childhood, growing up with alcoholic parents, and thinking others will fill it, including the alcoholic husband. The reading talks about how working the alanon program can free us from secrets of our...	el-cee	1	501	Feb 19, 2015 by hotrod
	I am back (Preview) Hi MIP family I have just returned. Thanks you so much for your many prayers and warm wishes. With the passing of my brother, in addition to 15 foot waves and a bout of sea sickness, I still managed to have a good and relaxing time. Thanks to alanon tools and much prayer. Looks as if you are all stil...	hotrod	9	636	Feb 19, 2015 by el-cee
	New to Al-Anon (Preview) Hi every one, Iam new to this site and Al-Anon. I met my partner three and a half years ago. He had been in recovery for two years. He had a dual addiction drink and cocaine. He was a lovely partner but very hard work mood wise very up and down. I started to read the signs of him being moody very self absor...	clarkangel	7	710	Feb 19, 2015 by hopefull2015
	Tradition 2 posted (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59654077/alanon-tradition-2/Please	hotrod	0	263	Feb 18, 2015 by hotrod
	A long time coming (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm the wife of an alcoholic with complex issues; survivor of childhood abuse and emotional neglect...probably same old story, struggling to know what to do/say/think/feel. I have two young boys, the eldest is 9 and the youngest is 4, I try to get on with life for the most part, but after...	Brooke G	8	737	Feb 18, 2015 by likemyheart
	Winter and loss (Preview) Winter is taking a toll on me,I have been snowed in,isolated, kind of blue.We are really getting hit by old man winter.My oldest daughter had surgery, she is okay ,but I wasn't able to be there,it was right in the middle of a bad snowstorm.I felt so bad that I wasn't there for her.I also received news fro...	mjferg	2	513	Feb 18, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Hubby in ER with delirium tremens-related heart arrythmia! (Preview) I jump-started into al anon today when I took my husband to the ER for what I thought was pneumonia (bad enough), but was told it was most likely DT related heart arrythmia! We are still awaiting tests to determine if there was any permanent heart damage. I knew he was a heavy beer drinker, but had no id...	lynnly	4	621	Feb 18, 2015 by pinkchip
	The move out date is today but I am still here. (Preview) So, last week I went to my appointment with the homeless team and they wrote a very stern letter to the LL pointing out that his illegal eviction/harassment could land him in big trouble and he needed to start correct lawful procedures if he wanted to see me out of his property. If I come to the end of the l...	Luiza	9	572	Feb 18, 2015 by Luiza
	Took the day off (LOL) (Preview) and guess what I thought and felt before saying I was gonna do that? This is a test so lets see your answers. Remember "He's got a lot of time in" and "Progress not Perfection" along with your own experiences. Ready GO!! No time limit or ESH limit. ((((Hugs)...	Jerry F	14	651	Feb 18, 2015 by el-cee
	No tears (Preview) Ok, so what's wrong with me? I was expecting a huge wash of emotions once I moved out. I got nothing. No tears. The only feelings I've had have been joy, peace, and 'ah, I can breathe again'. I can't tell you all how wonderful it is to not be woken up in the middle of the night by a stumbling drunk, to not h...	andromeda	23	718	Feb 18, 2015 by Jen61
	need prayers (Preview) I am at sea Just heard my brother passed last night Please remember us in your prayers.	hotrod	34	677	Feb 18, 2015 by bud
	Lois Wilson Share (Preview) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cCkLYr8OlFY	el-cee	1	292	Feb 18, 2015 by DavidG
	New Member on vearge of intervention (Preview) This is my 1st post and I have fought this battle for year of ups and downs. The man I love most in this world is an alcoholic and I have finally realized without intervention I will loose him and may loose him in the intervention process anyway. Almost 3 years ago I broke every bottle of alcohol in our hom...	LovingHim	6	767	Feb 18, 2015 by kiowawoman
	sad (Preview) Last night was a bad night. I have been dating a man for 4 and a half months. And last night after dinner we went to his house to watch a movie and 5 min after we got their a woman came ringing the doorbell and knocking like a mad woman. She said she had slept with him this weekend. He has a son and has custody ever...	texasgal	14	635	Feb 18, 2015 by Breakingfree
	The new guy (Preview) my wife started drinking heavily! she would drink until she passed out! always around our 16yr old daughter, I talked and asked her to stop and get help! but she refused! I asked to leave and think things thru. no matter how hard I tried no matter how I pleaded for her to get help it just got worse! now she is...	Floyd	8	796	Feb 17, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	relapse (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new to this board and new to this disease my 34 year old married son is a drug and alcohol addict that has been in recovery since november for the first time WE recently discovered he had a relapse.. covering it up quite well but the lies caught up with him. Hubby and went to our first al ano...	sweet potato	4	701	Feb 17, 2015 by pinkchip
	Newbie - Do you tell them! (Preview) It is no surprise to my husband that I hate his drinking! He will start in about 7pm with, your not talking to me because I am drinking! I only discuss alcohol when he is sober, but I joined the forum yesterday and have found a local chapter in my home town! Do I tell him I'm going??? I am looking for a coun...	LovingHim	3	514	Feb 17, 2015 by Jerry F
	How do you leave a dry drunk? (Preview) I just tried to end my relationship with my ah who is 80 days sober and is a dry drunk. God help me I tried and then when he started flipping out I backed down and told him I don't want to live like this anymore and that every 10 days he picks a fight. How do u do this? Does it have to end so badly? How do you do it when...	Helpangel	4	1173	Feb 17, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	I feel lost (Preview) Hi Everyone It's been a while since I have posted and this is really not about alcoholism or the problems it brought me but here go's. I'm anxious, lost and scared of things I can't control. My son is safe but I have been thinking about him getting out next year. My SO is retiring and the money will be cut...	Cathyinaz	15	676	Feb 17, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	One Day at a Time Feb 17th (Preview) Today's reading is all about courtesy and how a couples 'intense involvement' with each other and 'violent quarrels' can destroy what should be a 'sacred relationship' The reading reminds us that a simple thing like courtesy can be like magic, it can take 'the wind out of the sails of the attacker.'...	el-cee	1	326	Feb 17, 2015 by Mirandac
	detaching without losing hope or feeling guilty (Preview) Hi,I feel like the only way I can maintain joy is to give up and just stay away from this person long enough to stop aching and start living. ten years of roller coaster with my adult daughter has been exhausting and as I hear from yet another affected person (they always end up calling me) expressing conc...	christinek61	6	609	Feb 17, 2015 by Cathyinaz
	Progress I think (Preview) So I had my lovely day yesterday with family. It was so cold outside here in NY, we were walking fast to the restaurant. But not my A. A is so overweight and body is hurting so she was way back. First my brother walked with her and then I took a turn. I mean, it was below zero with the windchill. Fast forw...	Lyne	7	504	Feb 17, 2015 by yanksfan51
	I'm so sad (Preview) This is my first post. My Mom is an alcoholic and has been all my life. She has had sporadic periods of sobriety over the years. Her cycle is to drink until disaster strikes, get into treatment, stay sober long enough to start earning some trust back and then start drinking secretly. I always find ou...	Exhausted33	3	446	Feb 17, 2015 by yanksfan51
	Hope For Today Feb 17 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: The first paragraph in today's reading is about negative attitudes. The example given is if you hear 9 compliments and 1 insult, the focus is put on the insult. It reminds me of how difficult is to just say 'thank you' when someone gives a compliment. I notice that for me I often eith...	yanksfan51	0	571	Feb 17, 2015 by yanksfan51
	frustrated! frustration selfishness anxiety unfairness (Preview) Hi, everyone! I'm new to this chat site but not to AlAnon--have been a grateful member for 3+ years and am happy to be here. Because of where I live, it has been hard to get to meetings, but I miss my AlAnon community and support and am so thankful for this venue. I'm writing today because I need help dealin...	tornadoj	6	3143	Feb 16, 2015 by tornadoj
	What? Am I an ACOA???????? (Preview) Hi all, Funny thing happened this past weekend..... My parents were down visiting, and as many a story's go, my mom and I can have friction from time to time. She is an ACOA, and was raise in a very abusive (every sort) home. The aftermath of which has left her with a lot of fear in her...	mastiff	11	1376	Feb 16, 2015 by tiredtonite
	How do you help helpless children? children alcohol help (Preview) My sister is an alcoholic (never agreed to treatment) and her ex-husband is verbally abusive. Neither is better than the other. They have two children (both about 10 years old). The children are tossed back and forth between two unhappy houses and I can't stand to watch it any more. Today, the old...	Jeri Kat	5	8438	Feb 16, 2015 by AranB
	OMG dry drunk treatment awareness with child! (Preview) I realized something alarming today. My dry drunk husband of about 80 days sober was watching my daughter play on a snow hill as I was sitting the opposite direction. He stormed out the door and I followed he started yelling at my daughter that she kicked a boy in the head. My daughter lied and said she did...	Helpangel	6	523	Feb 16, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	fear mode (Preview) At the weekend i was told about a young woman, only 35, who is a chronic alcoholic. She has lost her job, her home, lives with her mother and is so bad she cant go up stairs to her room so sleeps on the couch. She is wetting herself and cant get up when she falls. It sounds really bad. I went into panic mode upon h...	el-cee	2	467	Feb 16, 2015 by Jerry F
	PAIN (Preview) THE PAST MONTH HAS BEEN HELL FOR ME. AH DRINKING ALMOST KILLED HIM. THERE WERE HOSPITAL STAYS,JAIL STAYS FOR DOMESTIC,ETC BANK ACCOUNTS NEARLY EMPTY THATS HIM FOR ME PAIN,ANQUISH EXHAUSTION ANGRER RESOLVE, TRYING TO FIQUIRE OUT WHETER TO LEAVE, TO FIND A LIVING SITUATION LESS EXPENSIVE CLOSER TO R...	YARNCRAZY	5	634	Feb 16, 2015 by Breakingfree
	undepressed Valentine's Day! (Preview) For the first time in maybe 10-15 years, I was not depressed on Val. Day, because my marriage is so disappointing. Been there, done that! Thanks to Alanon, I had no expectations to be ruined! I was actually surprised that my A got me two very nice gifts! I have been practicing detachment, not being c...	Lyne	6	491	Feb 16, 2015 by Sweet Stanley
	one day at a time feb 16th (Preview) Todays reading tells us that alcoholism is a disease. Not a 'respectable' disease with germs that we can accept but it is a disease. When we are able to accept it is a disease then we make progress. We dont repond to someone who is sick with frustration and rage so accepting alcoholism is a disease helps u...	el-cee	0	405	Feb 16, 2015 by el-cee
	Ill... (Preview) Don't know if this a relapse of what was ailing us a couple weeks ago or something else. I didn't get any support at the VA and ended up in the trauma center. Headaches and dizziness and nausea and wild thinking and neck pains and more so I listened to my wife (lol) and she drove me to the TC. Funny how o...	Jerry F	7	468	Feb 16, 2015 by el-cee
	one day at a time feb 14th (Preview) Happy valentines day! Todays reading is all about what it means to 'work' the program. It says we get out exactly what we put in. Working it means, 'attending meetings faithfully' read some alanon literature every day and apply what we learn to our daily lives. It also means sharing with others what we...	el-cee	3	826	Feb 15, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Thank You (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you for being here. I feel like I have nowhere to turn and no one to express myself to at this hour ... or in general. Tonight, my wife was on her way to pick me up from work, and was in a car accident. Thank goodness she didn't hurt anyone. She did take out a rather large lamp post, fro...	Skorpi	8	595	Feb 15, 2015 by LinSC
	one day at a time feb 15th (Preview) Todays reading is about gratitude shown by members offers hope to newcomers. It talks about how life changes and the 'world begins to reveal its beauty which was obscured by my worrying over my trouble' it didnt take me too long in alanon to start lifting my head when i walked and looking at the beauty th...	el-cee	3	459	Feb 15, 2015 by Jerry F
	Paula? (Preview) Where is our resident artist? Has anyone heard from her?	aquamom23	14	740	Feb 15, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	Sad for my girl. (Preview) OK so my daughter's father pays his court-ordered child support. To the exact cent, not a penny more or a penny less and that is IT. It's not much, it maybe pays for about 1/4 of her most essential and basic expenses, but it does help a bit. At the same time he has refused to EVER pay for anything beyond this c...	missmeliss	12	820	Feb 15, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Valentine party (Preview) My valentine party went so well that I am so happy that my friends were there & especially the fellowship moved me. I never imagined that I would be able to share such a special time w close women friends. Each lady there had something special to share. I am so blessed I didn't even have to cry because...	Hoot Nanny	2	382	Feb 15, 2015 by el-cee
	Happy Valentine's Day (Preview) Just want to wish y'all a happy day! For some it is SAD. Single awareness day. I just hope no matter you situation married single or whatever you give yourself special care. I am going to soak my feet to start this new day.	Hoot Nanny	12	414	Feb 15, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	Starting the healing process properly. (Preview) Heading to al anima tomorrow at 130. Not sure what to expect and hope I don't turn up then walk away but I am going!	To be loved	14	670	Feb 15, 2015 by Mirandac
	dealing with ridiculous drivers! (Preview) This morning I took my daughter to school,she wanted to stop at McDonald's, it is a very busy intersection. I was in a hit and run accident a few months ago,a woman ran a red light and totaled my car,I spun clear around in the road, so I am more careful when I drive and sometimes I have anxiety now when I am i...	mjferg	7	711	Feb 15, 2015 by Newlife girl
	Feeling blessed.... (Preview) I don't share often anymore because my life is pretty darn good. But today I wanted to share how blessed I feel. My AH spends winters in Arizona...this is the third year...because of pain issues. We live in northern Minnesota and it can get bitterly cold here. Today, his sponsor stopped by my house and d...	Sweet Stanley	2	376	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	My daughters friend lives with us.... (Preview) In August I let my 16 year olds best friend move in with us so she could go to a bigger high school with my kid. So 6 months later I am having issues with her that I haven't had with my kids. She is sneaky and causing a rift between my oldest and I. I find her to be a lot like my exAH, manipulative and behind the scen...	Breakingfree	7	634	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	One of my favorite concepts (Preview) I definitely have been on the helped side, the car I drive was given to me at a very low point in my life. I like thinking of myself as God's light sent to someone in need! Sometimes its just a smile someone needs. -- Edited by likemyheart on Friday 13th of February 2015 10:21:12 AM	likemyheart	1	387	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	here I go again! (Preview) I hope I am not beating a dead horse. My valentine's party is tomorrow. I have invited 20 women. It is for all the ladies married or single. You can't bring a date but maybe a plus one. I am so excited. I think it will be fun w/ food, games & door prizes. Another thing that is included is things to be gratef...	Hoot Nanny	2	381	Feb 14, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	one day at a time reading 13th feb. (Preview) This reading is about how we ourselves contributed to the destruction in our homes. It says 'this was no vacuum we were living in' it wasnt only the alcoholic who caused damage, we reacted to and made things worse. It talks about how it can be difficult to face our own shortcomings but its easier to do t...	el-cee	4	548	Feb 14, 2015 by Mirandac
	Family is completely broken divorce alcoholic daughter family (Preview) Hello, was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. My family was once happy and fun, but in 2009 my adult daughter started having issues with alcohol. Her husband travels all the time and would leave her every week with two little boys, and she couldn't cope. Thankfully she has been a com...	joanlee13	5	7386	Feb 13, 2015 by Truth
	ACA Arizona Sept. Retreat Video (Preview) Hi Recovery Friends, We just received two registrations from Finland for our 2015 September Retreat. You too are invited. Watch our video and read more at www.aca-arizona.org Yours in service, ACA Arizona Retreat Committee	Arizona Intergroup	0	322	Feb 13, 2015 by Arizona Intergroup
	I want happiness! (Preview)	John	5	523	Feb 13, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Valentine Bags (Preview) I know this does not have a lot to do with recovery but it does!!!! I just finished the Valentine bags for my son's party tomorrow!!! It was so much fun helping him learn to write his name. I really know that I need this type of activities to stay sane !!!!! The greatest joy I have is when I am around childr...	Truth	6	387	Feb 13, 2015 by tiredtonite
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