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nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, I am always trying to understand my AHsober and rationalize his actions. This is our third year of separation. It isn't getting any better. This disease is progressive whether they are drinking or not. When I go to meetings or read your posts and there is active drinking I understand. I c...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I need to get something off my chest I spent last weekend attending an al-anon state assembly which was OK but also kind of depressing because of all the rah-rah al-anon speak from the majority of the people there and the "program" presented. It generates this wall that verges on being...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

Sorry, this turned into a very long post. Guess I had a lot to say lol. After my divorce, a very good friend of mine asked me up to her father's house on Lake Lanier. They were having a family reunion and it would be a good opportunity for some R&R finally. I accepted and we went for a few days. Her co...

maire rua · maire rua

A year and half ago, I found this site in desperation. At that point I lacked focus, my work was incoherent and my life was unmanageable. Today I got the news from my supervisor that my outline is coherent, and he wants to know when I can submit my work. I am grateful to this site for allowing me to express a l...

barisax · barisax

I have to start off by saying I don't care for the term. I've been referred to as a DW, but I don't feel like I've "won" anything. That would imply some talent on my part, when all I've done is show up and be willing. I consider my sobriety, and my Alanon program gifts to be just that - gifts. I d...

Euoria · Euoria

Hi, Family yet to know. I am a gay man who goes by the name of "Euoria," on here. Though it may seem like a female name, it's actually a noun; a unique one. It is the shortest word in English that contains all the vowels and it's meaning is what is important to me: 'beautiful thinking.' My th...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

This has been an ongoing issue for me. I honestly don't feel like I isolate myself, I just feel that people aren't friendly here. Also, that I'm too needy and don't have time for other people because of my hectic schedule. Now this is partially true but here's my issue. I have been in North Carolina for...

QOD · QOD

I don't really know how to start this one.....or really what I am going to say so bare with me. I ended things w/my ex-AH AGAIN a couple of weeks ago. We got into a huge fight...rather he did and I refused to participate, which made him even more mad. So he stayed out of the picture for a week and a half. Th...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family))))) Just wanted to say thanks again to those of you who responded to my call for "ya may be an alanonic" anectdotes about a month ago. This last Saturday evening I attended the AA christmas party and told my story to about 70-80 members of the fellowship. I used several of you...

Codependent · Codependent

I am new to this site and I am still trying to find my place. I am just interested to see if anyone has ever used with their A? I have a 13yr addiction/obsession with the father of my child. This started when I was 18 years old. He went from alcohol to drugs to now IV drugs. I am also the child of both an alco...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I hope you are all well I haven't been here in so long, in fact I haven't even been to many f2f meetings, too much has been going on and changing. But I have been holding on to my thoughts and readings and prayers. My divorce will be final December 12th. I finally did it! It has been 10 months of a l...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

Hi everyone. I can't say I'm happy to be joining a board such as this, but am glad to know there are kind and supportive people to help me through this part of my life. I'm going to post two topics. This will be a little about me and my history to how I got to where I am today. My maternal grandfather was an alc...

maresie · maresie

It is no secret that I feel deprived and lonely at this time. I saw a coat yesterday I really do like but the price tag is way beyond my budget. I know in the past I would find some excuse to buy it and then blame the A. Of course I spent years giving to him I didn't buy a stitch of new clothing or any kind of clot...

klm4446 · klm4446

Thoughts are everywhere. Very difficult lately, crying all the time-almost 5 mos since A BF died . I still look at his picture and cannot believe he isn't going to walk in the door any minute. Can't believe this really happened. Depressed. I want to talk to him about this so bad, sad he cannot see how o...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi Everyone, It has been a long time since i have posted. It is the third year without my mother. It is not hard living without her now because i know she is where she wanted to be. I will tell you that when she was alive feels like another lifetime ago. I dont like letting my feelings out so much but sometimes...

Tammy2 · Tammy2

I am looking for an online sponsor. If you have any suggests for me to find someone to help me with this, please let me know. I thought that maybe I should give you some background information on me. I have been with this program for almost 4 months now and I am totally dedicated in recovery. My AH is act...

maresie · maresie

I used to spend a lot of time arguing with the A. I would do that a lot at Christmas. He always went to his mother's for most of the day and I felt left out. I did not have a program then. I live in a house with lots of dysfuncitonal people, Christmas is a day they act out. I plan to be out of here at a movie. I have...

NightWatcher · NightWatcher

Not sure how to start or word this so going to just write what come in my head and hopefully anyone who reads can make sence of it... First let me say that I have been in program for just over 4 years now... and have heard some things like this over time but never experienced myself till this week... I have bee...

NCC1701 · NCC1701

I have often wondered how low hubby would sink. Well today I discovered. We seperated in September, and it's been very awkward since. He ended up bieng arrested for DUI and breach of the peace in November, after we reported him. How does he get his own back?? He asked me to take his bagpipes and meet h...

serendipity · serendipity

Nothing I intend to send, just need to get it out of my head. It is to ex's last 3 or 4 sponsers. Coincidently, the only one that really worked for ex, helped keep him sober for 2 years, helped him repair damage done to me and the kids and genuinely seemed to love him was also a very active member of alanon....

Gailey · Gailey

I have been thinking about volunteering to be a speaker at my ftf meeting. I am not very good at putting into words what I want to say. Is it ok if I use some sharing from the posts on this board or is that against the rules? Gail

TXGirl · TXGirl

I was wondering if anyone is able to be my sponsor. I am in desperate need of help and need to start working the steps of this program. My life is out of control and I can no longer tolerate this pain any longer. I am looking forward to being fully dedicated to this program and all it has to offer. Thanks and I l...

maresie · maresie

Control was a huge issue in the relationship with the A. The more out of control his addiciton was the more he tried to control me. He would even insist when and if I watched tv and he always had some huge saga about what I was doing and what I spent my money on. In fact he never regarded as my money it was his f...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Saturday morning started out very calm. Ah comes in with a Christmas tree. Rather than asking for permission or how long he was planning on staying, I said I was going to go shopping while he and the kids decorated for Christmas. I left him with pine needles all over the floor and boxes of ornaments. O...

maresie · maresie

4 years ago the A was working someplace (that was in the days he was working). He met a little beagle dog ( agirl) that had been abandoned. He said that it was for him love at first sight. He took one look at her and he was a goner. He brought her home one night, she was such a state, thin, scared, she had an in...

serendipity · serendipity

I am so very sorry if my last post to my ex's sponsers offended anyone. The co-dependent in me has been thinking that I might have hurt some feelings but that was not at all my intention. I mean, it was my intention to hurt ex's sponser's feelings with what I said. But I was saying it here where they will neve...

stormie · stormie

Hello: I posted a while back to introduce myself. Sorry - I can't remember how long ago - perhaps 3 weeks or less. I read the posts frequently in hopes of coming across one that addresses my current situation. My AH went into a 30-day rehab around 4 months ago. I have been separated from him for 5 months...

Shamu89 · Shamu89

Sorry if this is too long, but I'm not sure where to go with this, so I'll just lay it all out as best I can. My aunt was a regular pot smoker for several years, and recently had to give it up due to being arrested and convicted for possesion with intent. She was a successful business owner, but the business...

Jen · Jen

My home group meeting and an AA meeting were aparently started by an AA/Al-Anon couple. She(alanon) has recently been unable to attend due to a new work schedule, but he is still running the AA meeting. Our Alanon group has now finally been registered with WSO, but we are starting to get interference f...

Gotta_Vent · Gotta_Vent

No need to respond - just gotta vent: I AM SO SICK OF THE SMELL OF BEER!!!!!!!! Thank-you. J

maresie · maresie

This weekend when I was in bed nursing my flu I watched a film called Owning Mahoney about a compulsive gambler starring Phillip Seymour Hoffman. Minnie Driver plays his girlfriend. I saw so much of me in the girlfriend. I really do not want to see it but I have to put it out there that this is my behavio...

kissers · kissers

Hi everyone, I applied for a part-time job and it did not work out. I have been looking for a different full-time job with a higher salary, but haven't seen any. I figured most companies don't hire during the holidays. Something told me to look at a State job, so I did just that and stumbled upon a job that...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm alive, thanks for all the concern! All my kids and I have been sick for the past week plus my youngest turned 6 yesterday and I have been working (with pharmaceutical enhancement) to get enough cash in for the birthday and bills. So, it's been busy times for me lately and today is the first day I have...

round3 · round3

Brief background: A bf currently living overseas, relapses over Thanksgiving. Contacts me two weeks later (this past weekend) to tell me he's getting help and realizes that he can't be in a relationship. Really needs to take care of himself. Progam. All that. This is a man I've know (off and o...

acaporali · acaporali

Well, it was a good weekend! over 60 hours sober so far! This is great news and I am excited. But I am having a hard time trusting him! Everytime he goes to buy cigarettes, or gets gas, or goes to a friends, I feel as though he cheated on me. I am catching myself looking in all his hiding places to see if he bough...

maresie · maresie

In some ways living in the crazy house I am currenlty living in is a great great test of my previous over involvement. One of my room mates just lost his job. He's not looking for another. He put in one applicaiton and says he is going to wait around and see if that works. In the past I would be on top of someon...

Chetch · Chetch

In the last 2 months my AH has spent a week in a locked down detox facility, gotten a DUI, for which he has until 12/19 to get in a Court ordered alcohol tratment program. Last night we went to my office XMas party - very small office, only about 10 people. My boss had told me before hand that my AH was not wel...

chick29 · chick29

Well just as I thought I was getting on with things, life was going pretty ok, managing my work, college and the house I did not feel the best but was getting there. Then crash bang wallop the chaos called my aboyf rings up! I had been doing of and the meetings we had were actually fun. I did not have any expec...

optimistundone · optimistundone

My H was addicted to vicodine for 2 years. It was hell. He literally went to work and slept for the last year. I was pregnant with our second. I couldn't get him to take out the trash, screw in a light bulb, nothing. The last 6 months of the addiciton he would run out of his prescription after 2 weeks...

maresie · maresie

I have spent much of the weekend in bed because I felt flu like. I cant say I ever really got to take care of myself around the A. If I ever was sick he always went into a huge sulk and he went out of his way to ignore me and my needs. So for me it is something of a luxury to be able to rest rest and rest. My place is not...

serendipity · serendipity

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ddub · ddub

I don't know what to think or how to feel so I'll just let the swirl of thoughts out and see if I figure it out so I can get some sleep. If I can't figure it out maybe someone here can point me in one direction or another with their esh. I think it has been a run of events good, bad and dissapointing that have f...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Got a call from one of my ah's 2 best friends tonight. He was just calling to check in and see how things are going. This is one of the guys my ah goes on fishing trips with. They always drank beer together. The difference being his buddies are not alcoholics and are devoted family men. They know the scoo...

round3 · round3

Well....it's happened. My A bf (who currently lives overseas) just completed a year of sobriety in November, then relapsed over Thanksgiving. He dropped out on me completely and I, of course, panicked (see my earlier posts). He finally emailed me earlier this week to tell me he was okay, and woul...

gknee · gknee

HI all- forgive me in advance for a long post. I am test driving some thoughts on y'all. so, My A is back using- after 4 months of being AA poster child- he doesn't want to go to any meetings. just wants to stare at the tv, not talk. I can't freaking stand it. I have been going to overeaters anonymous sinc...

dawnie k · dawnie k

I am so relieved to see that I am not alone. I would appreciate any tips you might have on staying focused on my life while being supportive of my A (if he chooses to stay in this program). I have a hard time saying no to people in need, and I tend to worry about their problems as if they were my own. I reali...

justme11 · justme11

hi everyone...im so confused...i am new here and to alanon...just needing some feedback let me know if im totally overanalyzing things...i have all week not mentioned my ah drinking to him...which is amazing in itself i think for me! well last night he went out to the bar..i just casually said ok and h...

Fifi · Fifi

I have not written in ages. Just wanted to share my thanks and memories and experiences with you today. One year ago today my addicted BF went to detox and then rehab and has not drank/used since. It was just days from now a year ago that his counselor at detox said to me to look for alanon meetings on li...

ally · ally

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ddub · ddub

Just wondered if this is one of those common traits for al anoners or just me? I hate going to sleep, love sleeping but avoid, procrastinate and do anything to keep my mind focused on this board, sollataire,etc. to not go to bed. Of corse the results are sleeping some more during the day and getting noth...

ashleymarie · ashleymarie

So this is my first time posting here. I just recently found all of the Al Anon resources on the web. I have children (5) and work full time so I am pretty unable to attend conventional meetings. Me and my husband have been married for 10 years. He is an alcoholic and has been to rehab about 3 years ago. ...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Just an update for my online friends. My AH went into rehab last week,after losing his job.Got home on Wed.Had an appt w a halfway/recovery house on Thur.And he checked in today.Hes unsure of everything.But he said it felt like a huge burden was lifted off of him when he decided to go.This is a first fo...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...for it would have been my mother's birthday and I miss her so. It just does not seem to get any better either as the time passes (3 years this year). My twin sister, whom I have written to numerously does NOT answer my letters and has done just what my mother predicted - cut me off completely. The last t...

debilyn · debilyn

HI, Woke up sick, got myself better and came in here. Now have two Basset warmers up here. I think they love my feather bed and comforters better than me. that is ok, they really do keep me warm.... Life sure is hard eh?I don't feel mine is any harder than anyone elses. Many of you could relate to debilyns pa...

maresie · maresie

I am facing a very very lonely holiday season. One thing I am trying to do in it is plan for the future. My worst scenario is that I have to stay living where I am for 2 years, rebuild my credit and really really just dig deep to find resources. That means virtually living out of one room which I am now. If the...

maresie · maresie

In recent weeks I've established relaitonships with two friends. One was a friend I met in an online group who had many many similar issues. We were in contact daily. We really liked each other. I had great hope that this relationship was going to be supportive. The other was a woman who lives in the s...

lilms · lilms

(((((Friends)))))) I posted last week about The A in my life. She had almost died from ingesting god knows how much alcohol. She got out of hospital yesterday after 11 days. She is attending meetings twice a day. None of this is new. I had a reply to my post from a lovely lady that stated I had been arou...

Lexie · Lexie

(((((((((friends)))))))))) My son is has to appear along with his attorney, before the Board of Pharmacy tomorrow. It is a preliminary hearing in an affort to get his Pharmacist's license back. He has worked so hard and is doing so well in his recovery. He feels he deserves to have his license back...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Why does it feel so good to blame? Can someone explain the psychology of this? Can someone explain why it feels so good to do this (even know I know it is not the right thing to do). I feel like it is almost intoxicating and therefore hard to avoid some days.

barisax · barisax

I posted this in response to the "Acceptance" thread but I realized it's really a new topic so I'm starting one... --------------- When I sought a therapist - at the beginnings of my divorce - it was strictly for myself, not to try and save the marriage. I looked for a psychologist rather th...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Looking for his bottles (Preview) Hi Alanoners, I am always trying to understand my AHsober and rationalize his actions. This is our third year of separation. It isn't getting any better. This disease is progressive whether they are drinking or not. When I go to meetings or read your posts and there is active drinking I understand. I c...	nmike	4	712	Dec 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	State al-anon assemblies (Preview) I need to get something off my chest I spent last weekend attending an al-anon state assembly which was OK but also kind of depressing because of all the rah-rah al-anon speak from the majority of the people there and the "program" presented. It generates this wall that verges on being...	Jean4444	4	682	Dec 13, 2007 by Jean4444
	Alcoholic #2 (Preview) Sorry, this turned into a very long post. Guess I had a lot to say lol. After my divorce, a very good friend of mine asked me up to her father's house on Lake Lanier. They were having a family reunion and it would be a good opportunity for some R&R finally. I accepted and we went for a few days. Her co...	texasproud2005	4	716	Dec 13, 2007 by texasproud2005
	Thanks to this site and alanon principles (Preview) A year and half ago, I found this site in desperation. At that point I lacked focus, my work was incoherent and my life was unmanageable. Today I got the news from my supervisor that my outline is coherent, and he wants to know when I can submit my work. I am grateful to this site for allowing me to express a l...	maire rua	2	596	Dec 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Double Winners? (Preview) I have to start off by saying I don't care for the term. I've been referred to as a DW, but I don't feel like I've "won" anything. That would imply some talent on my part, when all I've done is show up and be willing. I consider my sobriety, and my Alanon program gifts to be just that - gifts. I d...	barisax	8	1047	Dec 13, 2007 by Jen
	Dying to the Old Life (Preview) Hi, Family yet to know. I am a gay man who goes by the name of "Euoria," on here. Though it may seem like a female name, it's actually a noun; a unique one. It is the shortest word in English that contains all the vowels and it's meaning is what is important to me: 'beautiful thinking.' My th...	Euoria	13	804	Dec 13, 2007 by maresie
	Isolation and Lonliness (Preview) This has been an ongoing issue for me. I honestly don't feel like I isolate myself, I just feel that people aren't friendly here. Also, that I'm too needy and don't have time for other people because of my hectic schedule. Now this is partially true but here's my issue. I have been in North Carolina for...	carolinagirl	9	781	Dec 13, 2007 by maresie
	How to start.... (Preview) I don't really know how to start this one.....or really what I am going to say so bare with me. I ended things w/my ex-AH AGAIN a couple of weeks ago. We got into a huge fight...rather he did and I refused to participate, which made him even more mad. So he stayed out of the picture for a week and a half. Th...	QOD	3	597	Dec 13, 2007 by maresie
	Thanks for the Help (Preview) Hi ((((Family))))) Just wanted to say thanks again to those of you who responded to my call for "ya may be an alanonic" anectdotes about a month ago. This last Saturday evening I attended the AA christmas party and told my story to about 70-80 members of the fellowship. I used several of you...	david62	2	498	Dec 13, 2007 by maresie
	New- Has anyone used with their "A" (Preview) I am new to this site and I am still trying to find my place. I am just interested to see if anyone has ever used with their A? I have a 13yr addiction/obsession with the father of my child. This started when I was 18 years old. He went from alcohol to drugs to now IV drugs. I am also the child of both an alco...	Codependent	8	1527	Dec 13, 2007 by maresie
	Happy Update (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope you are all well I haven't been here in so long, in fact I haven't even been to many f2f meetings, too much has been going on and changing. But I have been holding on to my thoughts and readings and prayers. My divorce will be final December 12th. I finally did it! It has been 10 months of a l...	Jeannie	6	547	Dec 13, 2007 by Jeannie
	Hi, I'm new here (Preview) Hi everyone. I can't say I'm happy to be joining a board such as this, but am glad to know there are kind and supportive people to help me through this part of my life. I'm going to post two topics. This will be a little about me and my history to how I got to where I am today. My maternal grandfather was an alc...	texasproud2005	4	673	Dec 13, 2007 by carolinagirl
	charactor defects up there in my face and fanning the flames (Preview) It is no secret that I feel deprived and lonely at this time. I saw a coat yesterday I really do like but the price tag is way beyond my budget. I know in the past I would find some excuse to buy it and then blame the A. Of course I spent years giving to him I didn't buy a stitch of new clothing or any kind of clot...	maresie	5	730	Dec 13, 2007 by optimistundone
	sad sad time (Preview) Thoughts are everywhere. Very difficult lately, crying all the time-almost 5 mos since A BF died . I still look at his picture and cannot believe he isn't going to walk in the door any minute. Can't believe this really happened. Depressed. I want to talk to him about this so bad, sad he cannot see how o...	klm4446	11	746	Dec 12, 2007 by kissers
	vent (Preview) Hi Everyone, It has been a long time since i have posted. It is the third year without my mother. It is not hard living without her now because i know she is where she wanted to be. I will tell you that when she was alive feels like another lifetime ago. I dont like letting my feelings out so much but sometimes...	kerry5	7	692	Dec 12, 2007 by Jean4444
	Sponsorship (Preview) I am looking for an online sponsor. If you have any suggests for me to find someone to help me with this, please let me know. I thought that maybe I should give you some background information on me. I have been with this program for almost 4 months now and I am totally dedicated in recovery. My AH is act...	Tammy2	9	532	Dec 12, 2007 by Tammy2
	arguing (Preview) I used to spend a lot of time arguing with the A. I would do that a lot at Christmas. He always went to his mother's for most of the day and I felt left out. I did not have a program then. I live in a house with lots of dysfuncitonal people, Christmas is a day they act out. I plan to be out of here at a movie. I have...	maresie	4	495	Dec 12, 2007 by maresie
	Trust... . (Preview) Not sure how to start or word this so going to just write what come in my head and hopefully anyone who reads can make sence of it... First let me say that I have been in program for just over 4 years now... and have heard some things like this over time but never experienced myself till this week... I have bee...	NightWatcher	10	731	Dec 12, 2007 by Jean4444
	Vengance and revenge of the A's (Preview) I have often wondered how low hubby would sink. Well today I discovered. We seperated in September, and it's been very awkward since. He ended up bieng arrested for DUI and breach of the peace in November, after we reported him. How does he get his own back?? He asked me to take his bagpipes and meet h...	NCC1701	8	728	Dec 12, 2007 by maire rua
	Letter to my ex-AH's sponser (Preview) Nothing I intend to send, just need to get it out of my head. It is to ex's last 3 or 4 sponsers. Coincidently, the only one that really worked for ex, helped keep him sober for 2 years, helped him repair damage done to me and the kids and genuinely seemed to love him was also a very active member of alanon....	serendipity	7	803	Dec 12, 2007 by NightWatcher
	I have a question (Preview) I have been thinking about volunteering to be a speaker at my ftf meeting. I am not very good at putting into words what I want to say. Is it ok if I use some sharing from the posts on this board or is that against the rules? Gail	Gailey	9	706	Dec 12, 2007 by barisax
	In Search Of A Sponsor (Preview) I was wondering if anyone is able to be my sponsor. I am in desperate need of help and need to start working the steps of this program. My life is out of control and I can no longer tolerate this pain any longer. I am looking forward to being fully dedicated to this program and all it has to offer. Thanks and I l...	TXGirl	1	380	Dec 12, 2007 by SLS
	control (Preview) Control was a huge issue in the relationship with the A. The more out of control his addiciton was the more he tried to control me. He would even insist when and if I watched tv and he always had some huge saga about what I was doing and what I spent my money on. In fact he never regarded as my money it was his f...	maresie	2	455	Dec 12, 2007 by maresie
	HOLY MOLY!!! (Preview) Saturday morning started out very calm. Ah comes in with a Christmas tree. Rather than asking for permission or how long he was planning on staying, I said I was going to go shopping while he and the kids decorated for Christmas. I left him with pine needles all over the floor and boxes of ornaments. O...	Loupiness	7	720	Dec 12, 2007 by NightWatcher
	beagle love (Preview) 4 years ago the A was working someplace (that was in the days he was working). He met a little beagle dog ( agirl) that had been abandoned. He said that it was for him love at first sight. He took one look at her and he was a goner. He brought her home one night, she was such a state, thin, scared, she had an in...	maresie	6	673	Dec 12, 2007 by Diva
	My meeting last night (and apology) (Preview) I am so very sorry if my last post to my ex's sponsers offended anyone. The co-dependent in me has been thinking that I might have hurt some feelings but that was not at all my intention. I mean, it was my intention to hurt ex's sponser's feelings with what I said. But I was saying it here where they will neve...	serendipity	6	871	Dec 12, 2007 by Jean4444
	Apprehensive About Trying Again w/AH (Preview) Hello: I posted a while back to introduce myself. Sorry - I can't remember how long ago - perhaps 3 weeks or less. I read the posts frequently in hopes of coming across one that addresses my current situation. My AH went into a 30-day rehab around 4 months ago. I have been separated from him for 5 months...	stormie	5	616	Dec 12, 2007 by Loupiness
	Looking for a place to start (Preview) Sorry if this is too long, but I'm not sure where to go with this, so I'll just lay it all out as best I can. My aunt was a regular pot smoker for several years, and recently had to give it up due to being arrested and convicted for possesion with intent. She was a successful business owner, but the business...	Shamu89	4	653	Dec 11, 2007 by Shamu89
	Need ESH on f2f meetings (Preview) My home group meeting and an AA meeting were aparently started by an AA/Al-Anon couple. She(alanon) has recently been unable to attend due to a new work schedule, but he is still running the AA meeting. Our Alanon group has now finally been registered with WSO, but we are starting to get interference f...	Jen	3	623	Dec 11, 2007 by Jen
	Gotta Vent (Preview) No need to respond - just gotta vent: I AM SO SICK OF THE SMELL OF BEER!!!!!!!! Thank-you. J	Gotta_Vent	10	472	Dec 11, 2007 by Lookingforpeace
	seeing myself on film (Preview) This weekend when I was in bed nursing my flu I watched a film called Owning Mahoney about a compulsive gambler starring Phillip Seymour Hoffman. Minnie Driver plays his girlfriend. I saw so much of me in the girlfriend. I really do not want to see it but I have to put it out there that this is my behavio...	maresie	3	625	Dec 11, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Prayer Request (Preview) Hi everyone, I applied for a part-time job and it did not work out. I have been looking for a different full-time job with a higher salary, but haven't seen any. I figured most companies don't hire during the holidays. Something told me to look at a State job, so I did just that and stumbled upon a job that...	kissers	6	515	Dec 11, 2007 by carosie
	Update (Preview) I'm alive, thanks for all the concern! All my kids and I have been sick for the past week plus my youngest turned 6 yesterday and I have been working (with pharmaceutical enhancement) to get enough cash in for the birthday and bills. So, it's been busy times for me lately and today is the first day I have...	carolinagirl	3	511	Dec 11, 2007 by QOD
	Need detachment/sanity advice (Preview) Brief background: A bf currently living overseas, relapses over Thanksgiving. Contacts me two weeks later (this past weekend) to tell me he's getting help and realizes that he can't be in a relationship. Really needs to take care of himself. Progam. All that. This is a man I've know (off and o...	round3	4	788	Dec 11, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	How to trust him? (Preview) Well, it was a good weekend! over 60 hours sober so far! This is great news and I am excited. But I am having a hard time trusting him! Everytime he goes to buy cigarettes, or gets gas, or goes to a friends, I feel as though he cheated on me. I am catching myself looking in all his hiding places to see if he bough...	acaporali	6	722	Dec 11, 2007 by Jerry F
	over involvement (Preview) In some ways living in the crazy house I am currenlty living in is a great great test of my previous over involvement. One of my room mates just lost his job. He's not looking for another. He put in one applicaiton and says he is going to wait around and see if that works. In the past I would be on top of someon...	maresie	3	433	Dec 10, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	XMAs Party (Preview) In the last 2 months my AH has spent a week in a locked down detox facility, gotten a DUI, for which he has until 12/19 to get in a Court ordered alcohol tratment program. Last night we went to my office XMas party - very small office, only about 10 people. My boss had told me before hand that my AH was not wel...	Chetch	6	609	Dec 10, 2007 by round3
	for god's sake!!!!! (Preview) Well just as I thought I was getting on with things, life was going pretty ok, managing my work, college and the house I did not feel the best but was getting there. Then crash bang wallop the chaos called my aboyf rings up! I had been doing of and the meetings we had were actually fun. I did not have any expec...	chick29	2	559	Dec 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	? About Healing and Time (Preview) My H was addicted to vicodine for 2 years. It was hell. He literally went to work and slept for the last year. I was pregnant with our second. I couldn't get him to take out the trash, screw in a light bulb, nothing. The last 6 months of the addiciton he would run out of his prescription after 2 weeks...	optimistundone	2	530	Dec 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	being responsible (Preview) I have spent much of the weekend in bed because I felt flu like. I cant say I ever really got to take care of myself around the A. If I ever was sick he always went into a huge sulk and he went out of his way to ignore me and my needs. So for me it is something of a luxury to be able to rest rest and rest. My place is not...	maresie	2	515	Dec 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	CarolinaGirl (Preview) You ok?	serendipity	3	394	Dec 10, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Lost in myself, what is real? (Preview) I don't know what to think or how to feel so I'll just let the swirl of thoughts out and see if I figure it out so I can get some sleep. If I can't figure it out maybe someone here can point me in one direction or another with their esh. I think it has been a run of events good, bad and dissapointing that have f...	ddub	3	690	Dec 10, 2007 by grateful
	Acceptance on my terms (Preview) Got a call from one of my ah's 2 best friends tonight. He was just calling to check in and see how things are going. This is one of the guys my ah goes on fishing trips with. They always drank beer together. The difference being his buddies are not alcoholics and are devoted family men. They know the scoo...	Loupiness	7	703	Dec 10, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	HP's hand? (Preview) Well....it's happened. My A bf (who currently lives overseas) just completed a year of sobriety in November, then relapsed over Thanksgiving. He dropped out on me completely and I, of course, panicked (see my earlier posts). He finally emailed me earlier this week to tell me he was okay, and woul...	round3	5	451	Dec 10, 2007 by round3
	rambling thoughts- new approach (Preview) HI all- forgive me in advance for a long post. I am test driving some thoughts on y'all. so, My A is back using- after 4 months of being AA poster child- he doesn't want to go to any meetings. just wants to stare at the tv, not talk. I can't freaking stand it. I have been going to overeaters anonymous sinc...	gknee	4	527	Dec 10, 2007 by cookie1971
	Thank You, Everyone! (Preview) I am so relieved to see that I am not alone. I would appreciate any tips you might have on staying focused on my life while being supportive of my A (if he chooses to stay in this program). I have a hard time saying no to people in need, and I tend to worry about their problems as if they were my own. I reali...	dawnie k	4	520	Dec 10, 2007 by Jerry F
	im new here..not sure if im thinking too much (Preview) hi everyone...im so confused...i am new here and to alanon...just needing some feedback let me know if im totally overanalyzing things...i have all week not mentioned my ah drinking to him...which is amazing in itself i think for me! well last night he went out to the bar..i just casually said ok and h...	justme11	9	737	Dec 9, 2007 by Maria123
	One Year (Preview) I have not written in ages. Just wanted to share my thanks and memories and experiences with you today. One year ago today my addicted BF went to detox and then rehab and has not drank/used since. It was just days from now a year ago that his counselor at detox said to me to look for alanon meetings on li...	Fifi	4	663	Dec 9, 2007 by Maria123
	MUSIC VIDEO.......GOODBYE MR A........ (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2ErypIapyw&feature=relatedH...	ally	3	564	Dec 9, 2007 by NCC1701
	Anyone sleep deprived? (Preview) Just wondered if this is one of those common traits for al anoners or just me? I hate going to sleep, love sleeping but avoid, procrastinate and do anything to keep my mind focused on this board, sollataire,etc. to not go to bed. Of corse the results are sleeping some more during the day and getting noth...	ddub	11	739	Dec 9, 2007 by nmike
	What to do ...... (Preview) So this is my first time posting here. I just recently found all of the Al Anon resources on the web. I have children (5) and work full time so I am pretty unable to attend conventional meetings. Me and my husband have been married for 10 years. He is an alcoholic and has been to rehab about 3 years ago. ...	ashleymarie	8	622	Dec 9, 2007 by lin0606
	Just an update (Preview) Just an update for my online friends. My AH went into rehab last week,after losing his job.Got home on Wed.Had an appt w a halfway/recovery house on Thur.And he checked in today.Hes unsure of everything.But he said it felt like a huge burden was lifted off of him when he decided to go.This is a first fo...	MIDGET	4	367	Dec 8, 2007 by maresie
	My mother's death and my sister's cold heart... (Preview) ...for it would have been my mother's birthday and I miss her so. It just does not seem to get any better either as the time passes (3 years this year). My twin sister, whom I have written to numerously does NOT answer my letters and has done just what my mother predicted - cut me off completely. The last t...	Heartbroken	5	768	Dec 8, 2007 by maresie
	One crutch after the other.... (Preview) HI, Woke up sick, got myself better and came in here. Now have two Basset warmers up here. I think they love my feather bed and comforters better than me. that is ok, they really do keep me warm.... Life sure is hard eh?I don't feel mine is any harder than anyone elses. Many of you could relate to debilyns pa...	debilyn	3	665	Dec 8, 2007 by Jerry F
	best/wrost scenarios planned out (Preview) I am facing a very very lonely holiday season. One thing I am trying to do in it is plan for the future. My worst scenario is that I have to stay living where I am for 2 years, rebuild my credit and really really just dig deep to find resources. That means virtually living out of one room which I am now. If the...	maresie	1	507	Dec 8, 2007 by justme11
	looking at my behavior (Preview) In recent weeks I've established relaitonships with two friends. One was a friend I met in an online group who had many many similar issues. We were in contact daily. We really liked each other. I had great hope that this relationship was going to be supportive. The other was a woman who lives in the s...	maresie	2	897	Dec 7, 2007 by serendipity
	This may be a different mountian (Preview) (((((Friends)))))) I posted last week about The A in my life. She had almost died from ingesting god knows how much alcohol. She got out of hospital yesterday after 11 days. She is attending meetings twice a day. None of this is new. I had a reply to my post from a lovely lady that stated I had been arou...	lilms	3	657	Dec 7, 2007 by Jerry F
	please pray for my son (Preview) (((((((((friends)))))))))) My son is has to appear along with his attorney, before the Board of Pharmacy tomorrow. It is a preliminary hearing in an affort to get his Pharmacist's license back. He has worked so hard and is doing so well in his recovery. He feels he deserves to have his license back...	Lexie	11	637	Dec 7, 2007 by lilms
	Blame (Preview) Why does it feel so good to blame? Can someone explain the psychology of this? Can someone explain why it feels so good to do this (even know I know it is not the right thing to do). I feel like it is almost intoxicating and therefore hard to avoid some days.	Jean4444	11	729	Dec 7, 2007 by maresie
	Therapy and Counseling (Preview) I posted this in response to the "Acceptance" thread but I realized it's really a new topic so I'm starting one... --------------- When I sought a therapist - at the beginnings of my divorce - it was strictly for myself, not to try and save the marriage. I looked for a psychologist rather th...	barisax	3	664	Dec 7, 2007 by barisax
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