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I have often wondered how low hubby would sink. Well today I discovered.
We seperated in September, and it's been very awkward since. He ended up bieng arrested for DUI and breach of the peace in November, after we reported him. How does he get his own back??
He asked me to take his bagpipes and meet him in the local town. Once there he came into the car, and as I started to drive he made a phone call to the police to report me for driving without insurance. I drove him to the police station: I knew it was the only way to get him out fo the car. He went in and made his complaint. Fortunatley, one of the guys on duty knew all about the domestic violence and the whole situation.
He had taken my name off the insurance on Thursday and replaced it with his brother. I phone B-in-Law and he is disowning him! furious at what he's done.
However, it has backfired. He was making the cops angry with his behvaiour, and he has now been charged with entrapment. - the down side is that I may have to be charged as well. The police don't want to, but to get him they have to take me as well. They have said that they will do their best to ensure that the Proculator fiscal drops the charges, due to the entrapment.
Why do they want to sink this low? He did it because I would not drop the charges. He told me he'd make my life hell and make me suffer.
He is still getting inside my head. He did promsie to make me a nervouse wrek - think he's succeeding.
I would get something in writing from the brother in law to the insurance company backing up your version of events and also a copy to the police. Not sure if it helps. I am in Australia and our laws are different. Keep your chin up. LUv Leo xx
It always gets worse before it gets better, at least in my experience.
However, when it got worse, I learned that I could not trust, unfortunately anyone. That was before Alanon.
Once you see this through, don't allow him to "set you up anymore." If he's threatening vindication, realize that he means it. Some things you cannot control, but try not to play into his hand.
A second thought, you may want to do all you can to protect yourself.
In the meantime, keep coming here for support and encouragement.
yours in recovery, Maria
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If I am not for me, who will be? If I am only for myself, then who am I? If not now, when?
The truth always comes out in the end. My friend's ex A had the gas and electric turned off in the house when she was caring for their child who had pneumonia. My friend A from high school treated me horribly and went around telling our mutual friends lies about me. I never understood why they wouldn't talk to me anymore, then after being in Alanon it became very clear. Just keep reaching for your HP and keeping the faith. HP will guide you through all of this. Hugs, Lisa
I think part of the addiction can be rage. The A set me up a lot spoke derogatorily about me to others all the time. He expected total and absolute loyalty to him no matter what. That is unrealistic.
I certainly also understand there are lots of loose ends to tie up in dealing with an A. I have my own loose ends. I work super overtime on not having contact with the A and actually not knowing what is going on for him. I'm now a couple of weeks into no contact. I hope for you that you can get the loose ends tied up. I know for me that took months if not years.
I no longer worry about the A I put him in HP's hands. I do not have the power to make him stop using. I grieve about him but I no longer let him come in and ruin my life. That took me years and years and years to get to. I know without a shadow of a doubt that I would not be there without this room.
My a fluctuates between rage and guilt/sorrow. You didn't know that he had changed your insurance did you? It seems that if you were uninformed and could prove that it should get your case dismissed. I have found that putting my things in my name and disassociating myself from him and his stuff has been helpful. I know now that I can't rely on him for anything. Make sure your name is the only one on all bank accts, credit cards, bills, etc.
when I moved out of my house.... the ex had my insurance canceled when the bill came in and told me that she paid the insurance I did not need to worry about it...
I got lucky though.. a couple months later I was talking to the insurance company and they told me that I cancelled it back on .. and I said no I didn't my ex told me she paid it when the bill came in.. the lady at the insurance company was nice about it... and now I have insurance today that is only me on it..
The sad thing is she felt and still feels she needs to do these kinds of things to get at me... I feel sorry for her and her disease... nothing else I can do.. but do have a boundary set that I will not accept any verbal agreements and the like from her.. everything has to be in writing... it has worked to protect me... and her to a degree...
just my two cents...
good luck with the court.. . and the more you can document to prove your side of things the better...
this was awful. I think I would contact the insurance company and explain the case to them and put it in writing also. I don't think anyone has the right to cancel without letting you know and you can explain that you have nothing in writing from the insurance company directly informing you. You are the innocent part in this. I know the games that they play though, and my prayers are with you for a speedy resolution.
