Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

serendipity · serendipity

My meeting this morning was on the 2nd step and reacting. Someone brought up the fact that they react to their kids as they were reacted to in their family. With anger and frustration. Boy oh boy could I relate!!! I have been such a b**** to my kids. And my kids are exceptionally good kids. Probably becaus...

debilyn · debilyn

I am happy to share my son and I are talking again. I had left him an African mask on his doorknob. He emailed me. He is stressed about a bunch of stuff. As always overreacts. I believe it will be ok.I mostly told him how I felt. It was not that I had to know everything. I was only scared. I have lost so many loved...

round3 · round3

This is a song by Kelly Clarkson - and it rings so true for me. I've had this CD for quite some time, but I heard this song out of the blue tonight and the words just jumped out at me. Here they are.... "Beautiful Disaster" (Kelly Clarkson) He drowns in his dreams An exquisite extreme I know He...

serendipity · serendipity

I replied to Jean444's post yesterday and I was saying that I had 2 things that I have been thinking but I couldn't remember the other thing. I did today! It is (drum roll please....) I don't have to think about him!!!!! Tada!!!! LOL!!! I really do not have to think about him at all. He has no more power in my...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

The events of our past may plague us, but they did contribute to the fullness we feel today. And for them, for their involvement in who we've become, we can be grateful. Claiming ourselves, the good and the bad, is healing. It's taking responsibility--for where we were and where we're going. Claimi...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family))) Today I had to work from 8-6, work was hectic as we were very busy. Of course the retired AH did nothing all day as usual. My daughter called at 4pm to say she would be going out to her boyfriends tonight and wouldn't be home until late. I came home to find the AH passed out cold on the couch he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is dedicated to my husband! I don't know how I survived in this cold & empty world for all this time I only know that I'm alive Because you love me. When I recall what I've been through There are some things I didn't do Now I do the things I do Because you love me. Now that you're in my life I'm so glad...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

I wanted all of you to know that I received a lot of wonderful information to my last post, entitled, "Why do I continue to stay wrapped up in my ex A? ESH please.." I want to thank you for all the kind words as well as kindly telling me (agreeing with me) that my butt was o fire. LOL After reading t...

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello family Sorry I haven't kept in touch like I should. Hope I am still welcome... My ex-fiancee (boyfriend, not hubby) and I have been separated for over a year and I feel I should have made so much progress in recapturing my life and making it better. Not.....I have been pining away for this man, who i...

nmike · nmike

But for the grace of my HP I guess. I was walking home from work last night in yet one more snow storm (try to imagine this Jerry F, he, he). I just could not get past my present situation. You work and live a lifetime to be a good person, eat well, exercise, have kids and raise them well, work, work hard, work h...

Maria123 · Maria123

We've got us a birthday girl today!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy Birthday (((((((((OurTiger))))))))))))), Eat lotsa and have a great day love ya, Maria

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I have got through days of NOT giving in, NOT paying the bill, NOT folding under the clever, intense, daily manipulation and I am feeling good. My daughter has had to go sort the mess out for her self and I have NOT played the rescuer. And, y'know what, I DON'T FEEL GUILTY AND I DON'T FEEL BAD, AND I DON'T FEE...

Maria123 · Maria123

My friends, I just had to share this funny and awesome moment with you all. It is yet another snowy day in New England (God will this snow ever end?) and I get a call from my 22 year old. In his best Maria imitating, and comedic voice, he says "Mom, it's snowing out today. You need to keep 3 car length...

Lady · Lady

Hi all .... I am new member here, but have been reading and absorbing for some time and I have began Alanon meetings in my area as well. I found a wonderful article by a man I repect as a marriage/family counselor, William Harley. He has written many popular books such as "His Needs, Her Needs...

Aloha · Aloha

Today's reading (February 21) in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon saved me this morning. It saved me from myself - from sending myself into a spiral. I can't remember exactly the text from it (the book is at home right now), but the jist of it was stop wondering if your A is lying to you. Stop putting yoursel...

round3 · round3

Got an email this morning from the exBF A. Chatty. Mentioned that he is hurting, mourning. Just a mention of that in passing. Said he doesn't and hasn't had a love life (since us), but he hopes I've found one. Said he didn't know why he was writing, but he knew I would understand and he wanted to hea...

maresie · maresie

when I lived with the A which in essence was only a few short months ago. I spent much of my summer with him in essence although I did not live with him, I was convinced I knew what was best for him.This summer when he decided to be homeless I became convinced I knew what was best for him in regards to living, an...

tea2 · tea2

I would like to post a reminder about copyrighting, because this site is home to so many I really find this issue so important to revisit.Below is what I had posted November 2006 * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retri...

silverbrumby · silverbrumby

Hello friends! I am so blessed to be on this amazing journey! And I, for once in my life, made the decision to make it!! I have never experienced the feelings that I have at the moment. I think I am feeling what freedom is like. I have been deceived for a long time. Though I still fluctuate ,I am, one day at a ti...

maresie · maresie

I do not yet have the job I need (that is with benefits and vacation). I do have something interim which is a mixed bag. I got to go to the doctors and took care of some pretty important issues. I am incredilby broke after years with the A. I desperately need dental work and glasses. I also really need to...

gardengal · gardengal

Oh wow what a concept. For us who have squirreled away some money for bread, milk, rent etc before the A in our lives takes it and buys booze. I always thought if I could only win the lottery things would be much better, my troubles would go away. Anything could be possible with that much money! But the que...

maresie · maresie

Fro me over the past week or so I've been confined to bed with a horrible flu. I could not get out of bed for a week or more and I had to surrender. I did not go into a pit of self pity about having no one. I did not do anything much but surrender to that I'm not in a good space. I am not in as bad a space as I've been in....

kozmicblues · kozmicblues

hello again! so, i did not go to the meeting on sunday because i had to write a paper for class, so i planned on going on tuesday night. but monday night, my brother (the A) went off the deep end. he started off with a suicide rant to my father, and started saying all of these crazy things bc my father had show...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Anger slows healing process after injury: study PARIS (AFP) - The adage that laughter is the best medicine has been backed by an unusual investigation which says that people who seethe with anger take longer to recover from injury. Previous studies have linked ill tempered behaviour, whether brow...

maresie · maresie

I am coming up to a year since I left the A. I am compiling a list of the obstacles I have to getting some place better, money, health, isolation, dental work, glasses, transportation, you name it. I'm putting it out there for hP to heal. I also have a shortage of furniture and other items I need to move to s...

Codependent · Codependent

I know this is a trite question, but I am really interested in what you all have to say on the subject....Do you believe in "meant to be"...in the sense that if it is "meant to be" it will work out....? This is something I believed as a younger girl, rejected later on and tried desp...

Minnehaha · Minnehaha

Hello! I am new to this forum and not happy to be here although I know what a blessing the A programs are. My husband is sneak drinking again for the 4th time in our 10 year marriage. He doesn't know that I know what he is doing. So I get that I need to focus on my own life, but pray tell, how does that work wh...

debilyn · debilyn

Yes that is an opossom,not a gerbil! haha I have a friend who does 'possom rescue. They are such a cute animal but people act like they are awful in the USA. I have raised two and they are so cumb and gentle. I am going to change it soon to another cute pic of them. hugs,debilyn

maresie · maresie

One way I set myself up with the A was to expect anything much from him. This past week I had minimal contact with him. I had no expectatons. I had no fantasy he would say sorry, understand, be appreciative. He may never be. I do not set myself up for that anymore. I expect nothing from him ...what a hard th...

silverbrumby · silverbrumby

Only 16 days after moving my husband out of our home and all those sick"feelings" have gone. I am in a position now to own my own moods. I don't have to blame him (not that I ever had the right to) for my feelings or moods. I am not alcohol afflicted anymore. It's out of my system. I've "deto...

Chetch · Chetch

Hi9 All, Well, here I am again. My AH has been doing fairly well. He hasn't gone to the Alcohol program the judge ordered after his DUI. Says his insurance won't cover it and he doesn't have the $2500 they want up front. He stayed sober for about 3 months and is now having a couple of drinks on weekends a...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Viral Anger Last night I was walking down the street in Los Angeles (yes, some people do walk in LA) and witnessed a fight between two drivers. This was no ordinary argument between passing cars. Both drivers got out of their cars and were screaming at one another. Eventually, even a police officer...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Don't get too hungry, angry lonely or tired! I know if I do any or all of these things, I have no serenity or peace of mind! I have been tired and hungry a lot lately but today I am doing great! Bless everyone! Remember, too, to keep it simple!

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

Yep...been way too long since I have written one so here it goes..... I want to save you I know i can't change you,and I know you may never understand what it is to feel you are too busy numbing your pain with alcohol,that you don't know what is real I see you withering away, I see you aging day by day I want to...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Hi brothers and sisters, recently I have been posting about having some flashbacks and they have come and gone since and I had another one yesterday when I went to Home Depot for the first time in a long long time. See, my hubby and I used to go there like daily because we were working on renovating our prop...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

3 Ways to Handle Anger Before Anger Handles You Feelings are much like waves. We can't stop them from coming, but we can choose which one to surf." -Jonatan Mårtensson In the Western world, we think of strength as big muscles, heavy weights, physical power. But in the ancient Eastern cultures,...

Aloha · Aloha

I didn't want to hijack Omajoy's thread... I was starting to relate then went off into my own tirade, so I'm taking it a separate thread: May I list a character defect of my own? I am a Control-Freak Perfectionist. I often hold to the feeling that if you want something done right, you do it yourself...

Aloha · Aloha

The world is sending me messages left and right today. Anyone eat those Dove dark chocolates? Each piece has a little message on the inside of the wrapper. This one was a new one I'd never seen before... just simply says: "Don't think about it so much." Jeez - would it be weird to frame a ca...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The past few days I have been missing my A (it's been 18 months since I left him) and today I wake up to a text..."I miss you". So I have been entertaining thoughts of seeing him, talking to him, being together again, etc. So I'm thinking about this all the way to work this morning and thinking a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing so much better and if you want to you can check my quick reply at the end of the posting! I wasn't able to elaborate on what happened last Friday! It was nobody's fault that what happened except we arrived at lunch time and left 4 hours later not knowing that we only needed to be there at the appoin...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) We all have crap days and we feel hard done by.....have a look at this video....Our young men and women worldwide have a crap day, but they don't complain..they don't have time too...they just carry on regardless. This video is very emotional...and breaks...

round3 · round3

Got an email from estranged father yesterday (not an A). He is in town (on business) and sent me a rather business-like request for a "visit" with me tonight ("please advise"). I told him I had somewhere I needed to be tonight, but that I had about an hour between work and this ot...

omajoy · omajoy

With all the ups and downs of my life right now, I am trying to admit my wrong in some of this. So I think I need to write it out and confess: I am impatient. Impatience leads to illogical decisions, enabling, out of control emotions, especially anger. When I allow anger to surface I say things and...

bcanuck · bcanuck

Just wanted to say thanks to Al Anon for the serenity. My A has left for a 10 day vacation to Fla., and for the first time I am truly not worried about what he will do or what trouble he will get into, it's his problem. A small step for me, but an important one. Funny how much of this stuff you absorb by osmosis w...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

What I am afraid of: Getting too close to another person for fear of being rejected.Making relationships with others and finding I have to test their honesty and trustworthiness.Opening myself up to criticism as I have a fragile and low self worth as it is, though I am working on this.Being hurt more t...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Today was one of those 2 step back days that I am trying very hard not to have be a major slip for me. I am coming here to get the stinking thinking out of my head and somewhere where I can see it and get some support on. Hubs and I tried to make a major "want" purchase recently and it did not go throug...

maresie · maresie

For the last week I've been ill and on my own. Day in day out, just me to take care of me. I used to beg the A to do small things for me when I was sick, he never (and I mean never) did anything willingly or without being asked 100 times. I am so glad to be out of that. I am so glad to be away from someone who resented...

tea cozy · tea cozy

Hi all! This is my first time with a group like this, and I could really use some direction. My fiance and I have been together for three years or so. He admitted quite freely when we got together that when he divorced some years before, he didn't deal well. He moved back home with his family, found a job...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Thought you might like this song...means a whole lot to me, when i listen to it.."Take what you like"... Ally Chasing Pavements - Adele Ive made up my mi...

Aloha · Aloha

I think, for me, a big part of how I'm going to be able to move forward with my recovery is to learn forgiveness. If I dwell and dwell and dwell on all the things that have gone wrong, then how on earth can I move forward with being a more stable person? It is TOUGH. Oh so tough! I was reading my How Al-Anon W...

Codependent · Codependent

I know I have said this before, but thank you. Thank you for listening and responding. But, most of all, thank you for awakening me to the fact that I don't have to be ashamed that I still love and care for my A. I have spent so much time this past week making excuses for why I let him call me, listening to ho...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, as most of you know my A is in jail. I did go ahead and set up an account so that he could call me. Not making any excuse for opening up that door again- I know I did. I just find it difficult to listen to him talk about getting out in a couple of weeks without wanting to tell him that if he doesn't change he wi...

marybell42 · marybell42

My brother, who is now in his late 30's, has been putting my family through turmoil since his teens with his alcohol issues. He has wrecked and totaled numerous vehicles in drunken stupors. Once hitting a woman's car while totaling his own. By the grace of God the woman was unhurt, as my brother woul...

debilyn · debilyn

Just wondering how you and A are doing. Miss your responses. love,debilyn

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

My AH is laying low and doing lotsa dishes and stuff. Asks me alot about whether he can get me anything or do anything for me. Is it my imagination or is he behaving guilty? Plus, I have not seen him drink...for two days. I thought I smelled some last night but I could have been mistaken. I am so suspicious be...

qwerty · qwerty

Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...

Aloha · Aloha

I know I've seen A's attend Al-anon meetings, so I know it's acceptable. I wonder if A's are given the suggestion in their AA meetings at all to occasionally attend Al-anon meetings with their loved ones to see the other side of the coin, as we Al-anon members are encouraged to attend AA meetings to se...

serendipity · serendipity

I mentioned something about the karma bus running down my ex. Not waiting for it or anything but always on the lookout. And another member said that she doesn't wish her ex any ill will because he gave her 2 of the most awsome kids in the world. When she thinks of him, she wishes him well and all of the love an...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

...thank you all so much for the sharing and caring that you have shown me as you have responded to my last two posts. Everyone of you is so special...and I am hearing what you say canadian guy, I just never thought of it like that. You are right, I have come a long way in such a short time and it is all down to e...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Boy do I ever have anxiety! I went to an appointment with my husband yesterday and we sat for almost 4 hours waiting for a late drs appt. It was excrutiating! Anyway, when I got home I was exhausted and anxious. Now I am trying to turn it over but it is carrying over to today. I hope I can achieve serenity to...

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	rambling about kids and steps and stuff (Preview) My meeting this morning was on the 2nd step and reacting. Someone brought up the fact that they react to their kids as they were reacted to in their family. With anger and frustration. Boy oh boy could I relate!!! I have been such a b**** to my kids. And my kids are exceptionally good kids. Probably becaus...	serendipity	1	467	Feb 25, 2008 by carolinagirl
	My son (Preview) I am happy to share my son and I are talking again. I had left him an African mask on his doorknob. He emailed me. He is stressed about a bunch of stuff. As always overreacts. I believe it will be ok.I mostly told him how I felt. It was not that I had to know everything. I was only scared. I have lost so many loved...	debilyn	7	460	Feb 25, 2008 by maresie
	Beautiful Disaster (Preview) This is a song by Kelly Clarkson - and it rings so true for me. I've had this CD for quite some time, but I heard this song out of the blue tonight and the words just jumped out at me. Here they are.... "Beautiful Disaster" (Kelly Clarkson) He drowns in his dreams An exquisite extreme I know He...	round3	3	277	Feb 25, 2008 by Codependent
	Oh I remember what the other thing was! (Preview) I replied to Jean444's post yesterday and I was saying that I had 2 things that I have been thinking but I couldn't remember the other thing. I did today! It is (drum roll please....) I don't have to think about him!!!!! Tada!!!! LOL!!! I really do not have to think about him at all. He has no more power in my...	serendipity	5	528	Feb 25, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Another take on flashbacks (Preview) The events of our past may plague us, but they did contribute to the fullness we feel today. And for them, for their involvement in who we've become, we can be grateful. Claiming ourselves, the good and the bad, is healing. It's taking responsibility--for where we were and where we're going. Claimi...	Jean4444	2	285	Feb 25, 2008 by babysteps
	AH SWEET SOLACE (Preview) ((((Family))) Today I had to work from 8-6, work was hectic as we were very busy. Of course the retired AH did nothing all day as usual. My daughter called at 4pm to say she would be going out to her boyfriends tonight and wouldn't be home until late. I came home to find the AH passed out cold on the couch he...	cookie1971	4	310	Feb 25, 2008 by cookie1971
	My HONEY! (Preview) This is dedicated to my husband! I don't know how I survived in this cold & empty world for all this time I only know that I'm alive Because you love me. When I recall what I've been through There are some things I didn't do Now I do the things I do Because you love me. Now that you're in my life I'm so glad...	Hoot Nanny	3	392	Feb 24, 2008 by Jean4444
	More about Let Go and Let God (Preview) I wanted all of you to know that I received a lot of wonderful information to my last post, entitled, "Why do I continue to stay wrapped up in my ex A? ESH please.." I want to thank you for all the kind words as well as kindly telling me (agreeing with me) that my butt was o fire. LOL After reading t...	hippietrippiechick	0	320	Feb 24, 2008 by hippietrippiechick
	Why do I continue to stay wrapped up in my ex A? ESH please (Preview) Hello family Sorry I haven't kept in touch like I should. Hope I am still welcome... My ex-fiancee (boyfriend, not hubby) and I have been separated for over a year and I feel I should have made so much progress in recapturing my life and making it better. Not.....I have been pining away for this man, who i...	hippietrippiechick	7	636	Feb 24, 2008 by Heartbroken
	How did I get to where I am? (Preview) But for the grace of my HP I guess. I was walking home from work last night in yet one more snow storm (try to imagine this Jerry F, he, he). I just could not get past my present situation. You work and live a lifetime to be a good person, eat well, exercise, have kids and raise them well, work, work hard, work h...	nmike	5	651	Feb 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	Happy Birthday Tiger (Preview) We've got us a birthday girl today!!!!!!!!!!!! Happy Birthday (((((((((OurTiger))))))))))))), Eat lotsa and have a great day love ya, Maria	Maria123	8	443	Feb 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	RED LETTER DAY (Preview) I have got through days of NOT giving in, NOT paying the bill, NOT folding under the clever, intense, daily manipulation and I am feeling good. My daughter has had to go sort the mess out for her self and I have NOT played the rescuer. And, y'know what, I DON'T FEEL GUILTY AND I DON'T FEEL BAD, AND I DON'T FEE...	Heartbroken	12	525	Feb 23, 2008 by cookie1971
	Just when you think they are not listening . . . (Preview) My friends, I just had to share this funny and awesome moment with you all. It is yet another snowy day in New England (God will this snow ever end?) and I get a call from my 22 year old. In his best Maria imitating, and comedic voice, he says "Mom, it's snowing out today. You need to keep 3 car length...	Maria123	5	592	Feb 23, 2008 by cookie1971
	Co-dependency ~ Alcoholism (Preview) Hi all .... I am new member here, but have been reading and absorbing for some time and I have began Alanon meetings in my area as well. I found a wonderful article by a man I repect as a marriage/family counselor, William Harley. He has written many popular books such as "His Needs, Her Needs...	Lady	16	720	Feb 23, 2008 by newday
	"One Day at a Time in Al-Anon" saved me today (Preview) Today's reading (February 21) in One Day at a Time in Al-Anon saved me this morning. It saved me from myself - from sending myself into a spiral. I can't remember exactly the text from it (the book is at home right now), but the jist of it was stop wondering if your A is lying to you. Stop putting yoursel...	Aloha	5	582	Feb 23, 2008 by godsmerci1
	Where did my program go? (Preview) Got an email this morning from the exBF A. Chatty. Mentioned that he is hurting, mourning. Just a mention of that in passing. Said he doesn't and hasn't had a love life (since us), but he hopes I've found one. Said he didn't know why he was writing, but he knew I would understand and he wanted to hea...	round3	9	606	Feb 23, 2008 by drucilla06
	Giving up control (Preview) when I lived with the A which in essence was only a few short months ago. I spent much of my summer with him in essence although I did not live with him, I was convinced I knew what was best for him.This summer when he decided to be homeless I became convinced I knew what was best for him in regards to living, an...	maresie	1	387	Feb 23, 2008 by nmike
	Copyrighting (repeat of post) (closed) (Preview) I would like to post a reminder about copyrighting, because this site is home to so many I really find this issue so important to revisit.Below is what I had posted November 2006 * * * * * * * When I read: All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in or introduced into a retri...	tea2	0	384	Feb 22, 2008 by tea2
	What an amazing journey! (Preview) Hello friends! I am so blessed to be on this amazing journey! And I, for once in my life, made the decision to make it!! I have never experienced the feelings that I have at the moment. I think I am feeling what freedom is like. I have been deceived for a long time. Though I still fluctuate ,I am, one day at a ti...	silverbrumby	6	613	Feb 22, 2008 by maresie
	new job/new leaf (Preview) I do not yet have the job I need (that is with benefits and vacation). I do have something interim which is a mixed bag. I got to go to the doctors and took care of some pretty important issues. I am incredilby broke after years with the A. I desperately need dental work and glasses. I also really need to...	maresie	6	338	Feb 22, 2008 by maresie
	I thought my troubles would go away , IF I won the lottery (Preview) Oh wow what a concept. For us who have squirreled away some money for bread, milk, rent etc before the A in our lives takes it and buys booze. I always thought if I could only win the lottery things would be much better, my troubles would go away. Anything could be possible with that much money! But the que...	gardengal	12	705	Feb 22, 2008 by Lady
	learning here are limits (Preview) Fro me over the past week or so I've been confined to bed with a horrible flu. I could not get out of bed for a week or more and I had to surrender. I did not go into a pit of self pity about having no one. I did not do anything much but surrender to that I'm not in a good space. I am not in as bad a space as I've been in....	maresie	6	516	Feb 22, 2008 by maresie
	please listen and help! (Preview) hello again! so, i did not go to the meeting on sunday because i had to write a paper for class, so i planned on going on tuesday night. but monday night, my brother (the A) went off the deep end. he started off with a suicide rant to my father, and started saying all of these crazy things bc my father had show...	kozmicblues	10	699	Feb 22, 2008 by nmike
	Yahoo!-ish thoughts on feelings (Preview) Anger slows healing process after injury: study PARIS (AFP) - The adage that laughter is the best medicine has been backed by an unusual investigation which says that people who seethe with anger take longer to recover from injury. Previous studies have linked ill tempered behaviour, whether brow...	Tiger2006	2	371	Feb 22, 2008 by Aloha
	moviong on (Preview) I am coming up to a year since I left the A. I am compiling a list of the obstacles I have to getting some place better, money, health, isolation, dental work, glasses, transportation, you name it. I'm putting it out there for hP to heal. I also have a shortage of furniture and other items I need to move to s...	maresie	2	396	Feb 22, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Meant to be? (Preview) I know this is a trite question, but I am really interested in what you all have to say on the subject....Do you believe in "meant to be"...in the sense that if it is "meant to be" it will work out....? This is something I believed as a younger girl, rejected later on and tried desp...	Codependent	11	470	Feb 22, 2008 by Diva
	Theory and real life (Preview) Hello! I am new to this forum and not happy to be here although I know what a blessing the A programs are. My husband is sneak drinking again for the 4th time in our 10 year marriage. He doesn't know that I know what he is doing. So I get that I need to focus on my own life, but pray tell, how does that work wh...	Minnehaha	9	1238	Feb 22, 2008 by Jerry F
	lol lol my avatar (Preview) Yes that is an opossom,not a gerbil! haha I have a friend who does 'possom rescue. They are such a cute animal but people act like they are awful in the USA. I have raised two and they are so cumb and gentle. I am going to change it soon to another cute pic of them. hugs,debilyn	debilyn	10	680	Feb 22, 2008 by cookie1971
	expectations (Preview) One way I set myself up with the A was to expect anything much from him. This past week I had minimal contact with him. I had no expectatons. I had no fantasy he would say sorry, understand, be appreciative. He may never be. I do not set myself up for that anymore. I expect nothing from him ...what a hard th...	maresie	2	547	Feb 22, 2008 by Jerry F
	Some say love... it is a hunger, an endless aching need... (Preview) Only 16 days after moving my husband out of our home and all those sick"feelings" have gone. I am in a position now to own my own moods. I don't have to blame him (not that I ever had the right to) for my feelings or moods. I am not alcohol afflicted anymore. It's out of my system. I've "deto...	silverbrumby	5	707	Feb 22, 2008 by Heartbroken
	I'm back again! (Preview) Hi9 All, Well, here I am again. My AH has been doing fairly well. He hasn't gone to the Alcohol program the judge ordered after his DUI. Says his insurance won't cover it and he doesn't have the $2500 they want up front. He stayed sober for about 3 months and is now having a couple of drinks on weekends a...	Chetch	9	494	Feb 22, 2008 by cookie1971
	Yahoo!-ish thoughts on feelings 3 (Preview) Viral Anger Last night I was walking down the street in Los Angeles (yes, some people do walk in LA) and witnessed a fight between two drivers. This was no ordinary argument between passing cars. Both drivers got out of their cars and were screaming at one another. Eventually, even a police officer...	Tiger2006	1	577	Feb 22, 2008 by Jerry F
	HALT! (Preview) Don't get too hungry, angry lonely or tired! I know if I do any or all of these things, I have no serenity or peace of mind! I have been tired and hungry a lot lately but today I am doing great! Bless everyone! Remember, too, to keep it simple!	Hoot Nanny	2	289	Feb 22, 2008 by cookie1971
	Poem (Preview) Yep...been way too long since I have written one so here it goes..... I want to save you I know i can't change you,and I know you may never understand what it is to feel you are too busy numbing your pain with alcohol,that you don't know what is real I see you withering away, I see you aging day by day I want to...	Lauren ashley	2	490	Feb 21, 2008 by Maria123
	flashbacks: what they are for (for me, not necessarily anyone else) (Preview) Hi brothers and sisters, recently I have been posting about having some flashbacks and they have come and gone since and I had another one yesterday when I went to Home Depot for the first time in a long long time. See, my hubby and I used to go there like daily because we were working on renovating our prop...	Jean4444	4	510	Feb 21, 2008 by Jean4444
	Yahoo!-ish thoughts on feelings, 2 (Preview) 3 Ways to Handle Anger Before Anger Handles You Feelings are much like waves. We can't stop them from coming, but we can choose which one to surf." -Jonatan Mårtensson In the Western world, we think of strength as big muscles, heavy weights, physical power. But in the ancient Eastern cultures,...	Tiger2006	0	436	Feb 21, 2008 by Tiger2006
	MY shortcomings (Preview) I didn't want to hijack Omajoy's thread... I was starting to relate then went off into my own tirade, so I'm taking it a separate thread: May I list a character defect of my own? I am a Control-Freak Perfectionist. I often hold to the feeling that if you want something done right, you do it yourself...	Aloha	8	390	Feb 21, 2008 by Aloha
	"Don't think about it so much." (Preview) The world is sending me messages left and right today. Anyone eat those Dove dark chocolates? Each piece has a little message on the inside of the wrapper. This one was a new one I'd never seen before... just simply says: "Don't think about it so much." Jeez - would it be weird to frame a ca...	Aloha	2	321	Feb 21, 2008 by omajoy
	Dilemma (Preview) The past few days I have been missing my A (it's been 18 months since I left him) and today I wake up to a text..."I miss you". So I have been entertaining thoughts of seeing him, talking to him, being together again, etc. So I'm thinking about this all the way to work this morning and thinking a...	carolinagirl	6	438	Feb 21, 2008 by maresie
	A little miscommunication! (Preview) I am doing so much better and if you want to you can check my quick reply at the end of the posting! I wasn't able to elaborate on what happened last Friday! It was nobody's fault that what happened except we arrived at lunch time and left 4 hours later not knowing that we only needed to be there at the appoin...	Hoot Nanny	2	439	Feb 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	HEARTFELT AND TOUCHING...PUTS LIFE INTO PERSPECTIVE (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))) We all have crap days and we feel hard done by.....have a look at this video....Our young men and women worldwide have a crap day, but they don't complain..they don't have time too...they just carry on regardless. This video is very emotional...and breaks...	ally	0	284	Feb 21, 2008 by ally
	Amazed myself today (Preview) Got an email from estranged father yesterday (not an A). He is in town (on business) and sent me a rather business-like request for a "visit" with me tonight ("please advise"). I told him I had somewhere I needed to be tonight, but that I had about an hour between work and this ot...	round3	3	378	Feb 21, 2008 by Jerry F
	Admitting wrongs (Preview) With all the ups and downs of my life right now, I am trying to admit my wrong in some of this. So I think I need to write it out and confess: I am impatient. Impatience leads to illogical decisions, enabling, out of control emotions, especially anger. When I allow anger to surface I say things and...	omajoy	7	360	Feb 21, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Thanks to Al Anon and HP (Preview) Just wanted to say thanks to Al Anon for the serenity. My A has left for a 10 day vacation to Fla., and for the first time I am truly not worried about what he will do or what trouble he will get into, it's his problem. A small step for me, but an important one. Funny how much of this stuff you absorb by osmosis w...	bcanuck	5	531	Feb 21, 2008 by Heartbroken
	What I am afraid of... (Preview) What I am afraid of: Getting too close to another person for fear of being rejected.Making relationships with others and finding I have to test their honesty and trustworthiness.Opening myself up to criticism as I have a fragile and low self worth as it is, though I am working on this.Being hurt more t...	Heartbroken	12	625	Feb 21, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Old Demons (Preview) Today was one of those 2 step back days that I am trying very hard not to have be a major slip for me. I am coming here to get the stinking thinking out of my head and somewhere where I can see it and get some support on. Hubs and I tried to make a major "want" purchase recently and it did not go throug...	AlaMom	3	353	Feb 21, 2008 by Maria123
	Ill and on my own (Preview) For the last week I've been ill and on my own. Day in day out, just me to take care of me. I used to beg the A to do small things for me when I was sick, he never (and I mean never) did anything willingly or without being asked 100 times. I am so glad to be out of that. I am so glad to be away from someone who resented...	maresie	6	428	Feb 20, 2008 by carosie
	New here and need help (Preview) Hi all! This is my first time with a group like this, and I could really use some direction. My fiance and I have been together for three years or so. He admitted quite freely when we got together that when he divorced some years before, he didn't deal well. He moved back home with his family, found a job...	tea cozy	5	485	Feb 20, 2008 by nmike
	LISTEN TO THIS..COULD BE FOR ALL OF US. (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Thought you might like this song...means a whole lot to me, when i listen to it.."Take what you like"... Ally Chasing Pavements - Adele Ive made up my mi...	ally	2	562	Feb 20, 2008 by tryingtoheal
	Desiring forgiveness (Preview) I think, for me, a big part of how I'm going to be able to move forward with my recovery is to learn forgiveness. If I dwell and dwell and dwell on all the things that have gone wrong, then how on earth can I move forward with being a more stable person? It is TOUGH. Oh so tough! I was reading my How Al-Anon W...	Aloha	8	698	Feb 20, 2008 by Tuggboat
	Thank you for understanding....I hope you read this (Preview) I know I have said this before, but thank you. Thank you for listening and responding. But, most of all, thank you for awakening me to the fact that I don't have to be ashamed that I still love and care for my A. I have spent so much time this past week making excuses for why I let him call me, listening to ho...	Codependent	5	714	Feb 20, 2008 by round3
	How do you have peace watching someone die? (Preview) Well, as most of you know my A is in jail. I did go ahead and set up an account so that he could call me. Not making any excuse for opening up that door again- I know I did. I just find it difficult to listen to him talk about getting out in a couple of weeks without wanting to tell him that if he doesn't change he wi...	Codependent	10	1042	Feb 20, 2008 by Karilynn
	How to help someone who does not want it? (Preview) My brother, who is now in his late 30's, has been putting my family through turmoil since his teens with his alcohol issues. He has wrecked and totaled numerous vehicles in drunken stupors. Once hitting a woman's car while totaling his own. By the grace of God the woman was unhurt, as my brother woul...	marybell42	10	626	Feb 20, 2008 by Karilynn
	Diva how are things???? (Preview) Just wondering how you and A are doing. Miss your responses. love,debilyn	debilyn	3	383	Feb 20, 2008 by Jen
	he's being nice so I am suspicious (Preview) My AH is laying low and doing lotsa dishes and stuff. Asks me alot about whether he can get me anything or do anything for me. Is it my imagination or is he behaving guilty? Plus, I have not seen him drink...for two days. I thought I smelled some last night but I could have been mistaken. I am so suspicious be...	RainyJamie	5	641	Feb 20, 2008 by cookie1971
	Five years sober: my husband is BORING (Preview) Five years ago, I discovered that my husband of 18 years had cheated on me. This began some serious issues between us, which resulted in some major changes in his life. His father was an alcoholic, and I knew he drank too much, but I never really considered him a full-blown alcoholic until he declared hi...	qwerty	17	10713	Feb 19, 2008 by Tuggboat
	Good idea for an A to attend Al-anon meetings? (Preview) I know I've seen A's attend Al-anon meetings, so I know it's acceptable. I wonder if A's are given the suggestion in their AA meetings at all to occasionally attend Al-anon meetings with their loved ones to see the other side of the coin, as we Al-anon members are encouraged to attend AA meetings to se...	Aloha	7	766	Feb 19, 2008 by canadianguy
	Pray for "them" (Preview) I mentioned something about the karma bus running down my ex. Not waiting for it or anything but always on the lookout. And another member said that she doesn't wish her ex any ill will because he gave her 2 of the most awsome kids in the world. When she thinks of him, she wishes him well and all of the love an...	serendipity	5	359	Feb 19, 2008 by Jen
	Overwhelmed by this family... (Preview) ...thank you all so much for the sharing and caring that you have shown me as you have responded to my last two posts. Everyone of you is so special...and I am hearing what you say canadian guy, I just never thought of it like that. You are right, I have come a long way in such a short time and it is all down to e...	Heartbroken	5	425	Feb 19, 2008 by maresie
	Anxiey! (Preview) Boy do I ever have anxiety! I went to an appointment with my husband yesterday and we sat for almost 4 hours waiting for a late drs appt. It was excrutiating! Anyway, when I got home I was exhausted and anxious. Now I am trying to turn it over but it is carrying over to today. I hope I can achieve serenity to...	Hoot Nanny	8	445	Feb 19, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
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