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CJ098 · CJ098

Okay, I got home from school tonight and I have to be up at 5am to go to work. My AH goes to school too. He drinks on his breaks from class, because there is a liquor store in the same area the school is in. So, he left class early and I was already done, we left to go wait at the bus stop(we don't have a car). He...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I noticed that Toby Rice Drews, author of the "Getting Them Sober" books, recently published the following summary of "sobriety statistics". I'm confident that Toby would have no issue with me re-posting this here, and also would agree that statistics such as these are tou...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The meeting with the counseling place went well last night, the girl and I were instant friends which usually results in better service (sorry to say but it's true). She was very supportive of me, reinforcing what all of you have said about me not being a horrible mother. She has said that they provid...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was on the phone with the principal at the school trying to set up a morning meeting and my cell phone rings and it's the A. He calls to "thank" me for letting him see the kids yesterday and inform me that he slept on the beach last night - good thing it wasn't in the 30s as it has been lately - and t...

tma0413 · tma0413

Having a rough night tonight....AH got his police report tonight on his OUIL, found out that he may be charged with more than a first offense, which means he could be sent to jail. HE is angry and frustated and wants to fight his ticket...I am just trying to LET GO AND LET GOD. As he ranted and raved abo...

omajoy · omajoy

Regardless of how much I am trying to use the tools and deal with my son, it is always something. Right now and for the past two weeks it is where he wants/needs/can live. Since his divorce( 2 years ago) and losing a beautiful home in that process, he has lived in motel rooms, an efficienty above a laund...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

In class today a large part was spent on alcoholics and recovery based methods. I was in tears a few times. Can't really explain why. Guess sometimes I just realize what I'm up against. The teacher mentioned staged intervention and thought it was a good thing, just really reccomended having profess...

jemimap · jemimap

Hi all, My partner is a member of AA and has been sober for five years. He has not drunk since we've been together, and I haven't been affected by his drinking. I would like to develop healthy thinking habits so I can support his sobriety, and that we can have a healthy life together. I've attended a couple...

Aloha · Aloha

In my desparation to ground myself and stop obsessing about everything I think my AH is doing wrong, I decided to read some of the materials on about.com found here: http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/info2/a/aa010315a.htm I've only managed to get to Part 6 - Why Do They Stay, but so much of th...

gardengal · gardengal

One of my greatest (lets call it) "character defects" was constantly trying to analyze everything and everybody. I was in constant turmoil with my thoughts thinking way too hard on why people act the way they do, when clearly it was none of my business all along. But no, here I was trying to g...

glad · glad

NO doubt this will seem like a small silly question with so many people going through serious issues but I'm gonna ask it anyway since it has been on my mind for a while. A while back my A and I went to a "self help" type seminar which turned out to be a total disaster for our relationship since it w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just got a call from my daughter's school she needs, needs needs. This is the one who is constantly acting out. The teacher caught me on the phone and said she's probably going to fail and have to repeat the 3rd grade this year. She never does homework, she doesn't participate in class, etc. I am at m...

maresie · maresie

My one remaining cat Ruby is really having a hard time mourning her companion, Benny's passing. She cries a lot and goes into a panic when the dogs are out in the yard. Lately she's been wandering round the yard. I think she is looking for Benny. Thank goodness I am at place in my program where I can give her...

meagain · meagain

Tks for the sincere posts of you in regard to my anger issue with my sister. This morning my Sister DID call me--I was so excited!! She finally called to tell me about my sister-in-law. Well it was more DRAMA about our mom....I listened and then I did tell her I was hurt that she could not communiate to me...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

I just want to give a message of encouragement to anyone who is feeling like giving up and running for cover. Believe me, I know that feeling, I have been there and on many occasions I have been proved that I have been nearer to success than I have been to failure when I have experienced and felt the most lo...

needhelp · needhelp

My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He is in rehab for the third time in 8 months. This last time he was out for two weeks and was drinking again within just a few days of being home. He then disappeared for about a week and a half and now went back in. I know that he is not being honest about things to me (I just found o...

meagain · meagain

I know I should not be angry-but I am. My Mom lives in the samw city as my sister. So My sister basically is my Mom's #l caregiver. Mom is 82 but is fine i her own home. My sis in my opinion is very co-dependent. Her 2 adult married daughters are always at her home, eating, laying around etc.. with their kids,...

Aloha · Aloha

Sheesh. Just now as I was reading some of the posts here, my husband finished up writing his separate check to pay rent. After he hands me his check, he asks. "So are we still going to keep our money separate or what?" I just said calmly... "Hmm. Yeah. For the time being." &qu...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Hi family, just a note of some thoughts and questions I have been having. I thought you might be able to help me out- I have been thinking about an earlier post from Maresie about merging and people-pleasing and I began to wonder: what would it look like NOT to merge and people please but still connect a...

maresie · maresie

Does anyone watch this show. I have started watching that and sometimes catch Intervention too. I find it really helpful in identifying traits that used to absolutely cement me to the A. I can also find myself in absolute hyper reactive mode of should could woulda about others. I am amused in some...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So Friday I'm at the restaurant getting ready to eat and the phone rings and it's him saying "what are you doing"... I'm about to eat lunch... mind you we were supposed to meet for lunch and I decided I wasn't going to call him back to schedule it and he never called me... So he says I just now go...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Something I think we can all be proud of within this family, is the fact that we accept how a person is feeling, where a person is at along their journey to recovery and let each other just be. At other times, we take each other by the hand and encourage each other, reaching out to keep each other from stumbl...

omajoy · omajoy

I am very upset right now because I just lost my temper big time with my son....had not done this for a few weeks and had been working so hard not to be drawn into things. But here we are. I am ashamed and embarrassed and my cheeks are actually burning, pulse still racing 45 minutes later, and not looking for...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Is anyone here familiar with PSI - I don't know what it stands for, but it basically involves large group awareness training. Lou

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I really need to see a list of what people have in their al-anon toolboxs. What al-anon tools do you have in your tool box? I am really just seriously getting into the practice of making program phone calls when I feel myself starting to plummet. so, here is my toolbox so far: 1.) attend as many face to fa...

kissers · kissers

My mother called me this morning. She doesn't see very well without her glasses. Last night, she made a salad and used a new salad dressing. When she was finished eating, she went to place the bowl in the dishwasher and noticed she had eaten her salad using her dog's bowl. She thought maybe the crunchy st...

ddub · ddub

Hello MIP family, I keep going some days only by the support and encouragement of this family. I know weekends can be tough for all of us so I thought I'd ask for a line of the week from all of you to review when I am detaching and trying to stay calm. As I take in something daily from al anon readings there s...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm just having a moody moment. Got off the phone with AH... he asked me to take him to the person's house where he's buying a moped during lunch. Fine. I'll take you. This whole time he's just chattering happily about doing this and that with the new moped, yadda yadda yadda... And all I can think abo...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((Family))) One of my weekly chores, is to fill the pill boxes for myself, my AH and my Mother in law. My AH is afraid to take his pills on days when he drinks. Before I started Al Anon, I was very controlling and would nag him about taking his pills every day because that way I would know he wasn't drinkin...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Due to the recent activity here in England caused by one of my prayers being misunderstood, and at the suggestion of round3, this is a serious request. I have a problem with sleeping because of the continual dizziness [Vertigo]. My meds have been changed and I am back at the doctors next week if there i...

Rakenjake · Rakenjake

Hi everyone, I found this group almost three months ago when my AH came home from work and asked for help. He had never gone a day without a drink for his entire adult life and had been an active user(morning drinker etc.) for the past few years. I was in active denial/protector mode myself...wonderin...

CJ098 · CJ098

Hi all, Thank you for the responses from the last post. Maybe I came off as a little strong, but I want to make it clear that I didn't set the alarm clock because it's not my responsibility to make sure he gets up to go to work drunk....... Anyways, I made a big mistake today. My AH has been drunk for so long,...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Some time ago I admitted to myself and my Sponsor whilst taking my searching and moral inventory of myself that I did not always tell the truth and this has really been pressing on my conscience ever since I admitted this. Down the years my birthday, Christmas, Mother's Days, Get Well times have never b...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

So in need to give you all a hug...and so in need to be hugged. Today is one of those days! however I am knocking it down to size. I am NOT GOING TO LET IT PULL ME DOWN. Instead I am handing out hugs and love to anyone who needs some genuine heartfelt loving hugs. Some come and get as much and as many as you like...

round3 · round3

Just thinking tonight how sick I've stayed for so long. I think recovery is just starting to clear some of the fog that has been over my head for YEARS! I mean, with the denial (denial, denial, denial!) and making excuses, and enabling, and all of that that I did with the A. Looking back over the past,...

DANDTALWAYS · DANDTALWAYS

I'm trying to figure out away to handle this situation. My fiancee has been stealing money from me to buy alcohol. I suspected him of doing this in the past but last night it was confirmed. i got off my work my friend was being very rude to me by calling me names. I told him he shouldn't disrespect me l...

mon123 · mon123

hello i have a situation brewing. Non program people wouldn't understand my issue here. I have a very good friend. She's seen me through the early days with my AH. She never judged me. She saw me through my separation and getting back together with my AH. She was a shoulder to cry on and I could vent withou...

maresie · maresie

I went out on a date on Saturday and pretty quickly gave up my boundaries. What was meant to be coffee became an all day thing. At first I was happy. That was the stuff of my dreams before. Merge merge merge. Now I am clear that I need a lot of help and feedback before I test the dating world again. So much for...

Aloha · Aloha

It seems no amount of Al-anon meetings and trying to be an understanding self-supportive person is doing me much good today. Everything my AH is doing today just TICKS me off. I'm finding everything wrong with him, it seems. He comes home from work late now that he got his moped today. He gets all...

digby · digby

I went to my meeting and it helped, but I wasn't ready for some of it. They recommended that I talk to his probabtion officer. He is not a juvenile and I really don't know that it I should intervene. I try to have him settle all his legal issues, and he has decided not to get a license yet. Yes, we drive him or...

silverbrumby · silverbrumby

My AH is acting all cool, saw him this evening on his way somewhere all dressed up and sober and I'm starting to get paranoid and ask myself all these questions. "What's he up to"? He will be here all day while I am away and I am scared that he's happy because he might be taking revenge on me for kic...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Thanks for all your responses to my post! I will end up keeping our kitty as long as I can. I just love her too much to give her up! My husband loves her, too, and would never want to give her up either. I hope I can take time outs more often and let her alone. I will be discussing anger issues with my counsel...

BatonRougian · BatonRougian

I knew that it would be hard for my AW to get sober again after 8 years clean. I was scared of the chronic slipper syndrome. So when I thought she was coming up on 10 months I was think wow she really beat the odds. Oh well. Found out she can hardly remember the last 3 weeks due to pill abuse. All I saw was a tired,...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

After all the posts regarding my A and then the problems with my kids I have come to this conclusion. I have my own problems to deal with and my kids' problems to deal with and I don't have the time or energy to worry about whether he wants to see any of the kids or not. I'm not putting another ounce of energy i...

david62 · david62

Hi family! This Sunday nite at 9pm EST is the time for our next Business meeting to be held in the MIP Chatroom! Come one, come all!!! Here is the agenda so far! MIP Al-Anon Business Meeting March 2, 2008 Open with Serenity Prayer Secretary's Report ...

kissers · kissers

The company I work for is a member of an association. I serve on the committee of this association and there are events I am supposed to attend. One of them is an upcoming gala. I asked my boss for a check for a ticket to attend. He asked me to take a male colleague who is an A. I declined and I suggested taking a...

Aloha · Aloha

Muaaahahahaaaa It's interesting to me how alcoholism turns our loved ones into Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. Tuesday, AH was crabby, spiteful and pouty. Wednesday, AH was just kinda reserved and grumpy but not in attack mode. Today AH and I had lunch together and my REAL husband (at least I HOPE) - not th...

Diva · Diva

The poster's concern about whether or not to ask a partner not to drink when they are together. Of interest were most of the replies because they suggested that we have no right to ask anyone not to drink when we are present. I can see that we might not ask co-workers or casual aquaintances; we can simp...

maresie · maresie

I know for me this date was a huge thing because I have stopped just jumping into relationships looking for a respite from chaos. When I met the A I was on the run from another relaitonship nothing like as bad as him but I was running. I was also really wanting somene to take care of me and I see that now as a co...

marmare · marmare

Your responses were wonderful. Yes one of the things I have been forgetting to do was things for me. I am off to reorganize my craft room, which of as late has become the room to store things in! LOL I also talked to my A. I had to wait until he was not drinking and I had an inner calmness. I remembered to use...

marmare · marmare

Have you had one of those moments, brought on by nothing, where you look at your spouse and think "is this as good as it gets?" This happened to me last Friday and is weighing on me......of course he wants to know what is going on with me because I seem different....he wasn't drunk or anything,...

serendipity · serendipity

And now I have an "aftertaste". I was watching my fav show on tv and the idea was that love knows no time frame and love can save lives. It was just really awsome and then my mother calls. I am immediatly scared because she never calls, especially at night. So that sent my mind racing. Also pisse...

CJ098 · CJ098

I want to scream. I'm trying to stay sane, and trying to detatch - so hard right now. My AH lost his job, and has been out of work for 3 months. We both decided to go back to school because we get the GI Bill from being in the military. He just got a new job. I'm trying to stay focused on school and work but it...

ddub · ddub

Last week I had planned to visit a young couple & baby but we were unable to find any time to visit except in an hour that very day and I ended up having them to our home to join us for supper. I expected they would stay for just a couple hours as they needed to put the baby to bed so that is why I couldn't visi...

thinkstoomuch · thinkstoomuch

Somebody mentioned this in a reply to a recent post, and I would love to see people's input on this. As one who "stuffed" for years without even realizing it, with occasional explosions, I'm getting better at not stuffing - but at the moment this just means more frequent, more public (even i...

Aloha · Aloha

In talking with my AH's brother last night, he said he asks his HP the following thing. Thought it was great and thought I'd share. He said every day, he asks God to gently remove the people from his life that are no good for him and to surround him with the people who are good for him. Loved that.

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Be careful what you think you asked for, it may not be what you actually get, 'cos someone up there has a real sense of humour! Suddenly the floor started to shake and the it felt like the whole house was moving. I found myself gripping the chair and desk tightly and thinking that the roof was going to come d...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I got out of the shower this morning and the daycare lady was in my house there to tell me that my middle child has been stealing from her and lying about it.... I have been having issues with my children and my parenting for a while now and just can't seem to get things in line. I can sum it up in a few words aft...

maresie · maresie

As you all know I am plainly in survival mode right now. I am moving out of being totally nail bitingly barely scraping by but I am still isolated and still not taking care of my immediate needs. I am trying to brain storm how to do that. One thing I have come up with is to try simply to reduce my level of fati...

maresie · maresie

As you all know two weeks ago I came home to find one of my cats dead. I had been out at an interview. I knew my cat was sick and deteriorating but I was in denial. I heard today I am not even being considered for a 2nd interview. I have really put forth a lot of effort to get into particular institution and jus...

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	Do I set the alarm clock? (Preview) Okay, I got home from school tonight and I have to be up at 5am to go to work. My AH goes to school too. He drinks on his breaks from class, because there is a liquor store in the same area the school is in. So, he left class early and I was already done, we left to go wait at the bus stop(we don't have a car). He...	CJ098	8	830	Mar 4, 2008 by concerned123
	Sobriety Statistics (the great debate) (Preview) I noticed that Toby Rice Drews, author of the "Getting Them Sober" books, recently published the following summary of "sobriety statistics". I'm confident that Toby would have no issue with me re-posting this here, and also would agree that statistics such as these are tou...	canadianguy	14	6764	Mar 4, 2008 by SLS
	My solutions (Preview) The meeting with the counseling place went well last night, the girl and I were instant friends which usually results in better service (sorry to say but it's true). She was very supportive of me, reinforcing what all of you have said about me not being a horrible mother. She has said that they provid...	carolinagirl	10	395	Mar 4, 2008 by Tuggboat
	You're not gonna believe this..wait I forget who I'm talking to! (Preview) I was on the phone with the principal at the school trying to set up a morning meeting and my cell phone rings and it's the A. He calls to "thank" me for letting him see the kids yesterday and inform me that he slept on the beach last night - good thing it wasn't in the 30s as it has been lately - and t...	carolinagirl	11	644	Mar 4, 2008 by maresie
	Let go and let GOD.... (Preview) Having a rough night tonight....AH got his police report tonight on his OUIL, found out that he may be charged with more than a first offense, which means he could be sent to jail. HE is angry and frustated and wants to fight his ticket...I am just trying to LET GO AND LET GOD. As he ranted and raved abo...	tma0413	4	707	Mar 4, 2008 by tma0413
	It's ALWAYS something!! (Preview) Regardless of how much I am trying to use the tools and deal with my son, it is always something. Right now and for the past two weeks it is where he wants/needs/can live. Since his divorce( 2 years ago) and losing a beautiful home in that process, he has lived in motel rooms, an efficienty above a laund...	omajoy	8	396	Mar 4, 2008 by Jen
	Intervention on me intervening in AH (Preview) In class today a large part was spent on alcoholics and recovery based methods. I was in tears a few times. Can't really explain why. Guess sometimes I just realize what I'm up against. The teacher mentioned staged intervention and thought it was a good thing, just really reccomended having profess...	RainyJamie	4	544	Mar 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	partner of an AA member and grandchild of an alcholic - do I belong? (Preview) Hi all, My partner is a member of AA and has been sober for five years. He has not drunk since we've been together, and I haven't been affected by his drinking. I would like to develop healthy thinking habits so I can support his sobriety, and that we can have a healthy life together. I've attended a couple...	jemimap	11	653	Mar 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	Wow - this is a great read (Preview) In my desparation to ground myself and stop obsessing about everything I think my AH is doing wrong, I decided to read some of the materials on about.com found here: http://alcoholism.about.com/cs/info2/a/aa010315a.htm I've only managed to get to Part 6 - Why Do They Stay, but so much of th...	Aloha	5	640	Mar 4, 2008 by Codependent
	Do you try to over analyze people or events? (Preview) One of my greatest (lets call it) "character defects" was constantly trying to analyze everything and everybody. I was in constant turmoil with my thoughts thinking way too hard on why people act the way they do, when clearly it was none of my business all along. But no, here I was trying to g...	gardengal	9	966	Mar 4, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	Would help so much to have feedback please (Preview) NO doubt this will seem like a small silly question with so many people going through serious issues but I'm gonna ask it anyway since it has been on my mind for a while. A while back my A and I went to a "self help" type seminar which turned out to be a total disaster for our relationship since it w...	glad	7	630	Mar 4, 2008 by Loupiness
	I'm at the end of my rope! (Preview) I just got a call from my daughter's school she needs, needs needs. This is the one who is constantly acting out. The teacher caught me on the phone and said she's probably going to fail and have to repeat the 3rd grade this year. She never does homework, she doesn't participate in class, etc. I am at m...	carolinagirl	19	818	Mar 4, 2008 by maresie
	Live and let live (Preview) My one remaining cat Ruby is really having a hard time mourning her companion, Benny's passing. She cries a lot and goes into a panic when the dogs are out in the yard. Lately she's been wandering round the yard. I think she is looking for Benny. Thank goodness I am at place in my program where I can give her...	maresie	3	354	Mar 4, 2008 by java
	RE"anger (Preview) Tks for the sincere posts of you in regard to my anger issue with my sister. This morning my Sister DID call me--I was so excited!! She finally called to tell me about my sister-in-law. Well it was more DRAMA about our mom....I listened and then I did tell her I was hurt that she could not communiate to me...	meagain	1	336	Mar 4, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	'I just want to give up and run for cover.' Believe me I know that feeling. (Preview) I just want to give a message of encouragement to anyone who is feeling like giving up and running for cover. Believe me, I know that feeling, I have been there and on many occasions I have been proved that I have been nearer to success than I have been to failure when I have experienced and felt the most lo...	Heartbroken	7	525	Mar 4, 2008 by Heartbroken
	honesty (Preview) My boyfriend is an alcoholic. He is in rehab for the third time in 8 months. This last time he was out for two weeks and was drinking again within just a few days of being home. He then disappeared for about a week and a half and now went back in. I know that he is not being honest about things to me (I just found o...	needhelp	6	459	Mar 3, 2008 by maresie
	Angry (Preview) I know I should not be angry-but I am. My Mom lives in the samw city as my sister. So My sister basically is my Mom's #l caregiver. Mom is 82 but is fine i her own home. My sis in my opinion is very co-dependent. Her 2 adult married daughters are always at her home, eating, laying around etc.. with their kids,...	meagain	5	484	Mar 3, 2008 by maresie
	I didn't take the bait (Preview) Sheesh. Just now as I was reading some of the posts here, my husband finished up writing his separate check to pay rent. After he hands me his check, he asks. "So are we still going to keep our money separate or what?" I just said calmly... "Hmm. Yeah. For the time being." &qu...	Aloha	10	825	Mar 3, 2008 by round3
	So, what do you do if you DON"T people please? (Preview) Hi family, just a note of some thoughts and questions I have been having. I thought you might be able to help me out- I have been thinking about an earlier post from Maresie about merging and people-pleasing and I began to wonder: what would it look like NOT to merge and people please but still connect a...	Jean4444	7	576	Mar 3, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Dr Drew show on VH1 (Preview) Does anyone watch this show. I have started watching that and sometimes catch Intervention too. I find it really helpful in identifying traits that used to absolutely cement me to the A. I can also find myself in absolute hyper reactive mode of should could woulda about others. I am amused in some...	maresie	3	1493	Mar 3, 2008 by maresie
	Update on Visit! (Preview) So Friday I'm at the restaurant getting ready to eat and the phone rings and it's him saying "what are you doing"... I'm about to eat lunch... mind you we were supposed to meet for lunch and I decided I wasn't going to call him back to schedule it and he never called me... So he says I just now go...	carolinagirl	8	389	Mar 3, 2008 by Aloha
	Something this family should be proud of... (Preview) Something I think we can all be proud of within this family, is the fact that we accept how a person is feeling, where a person is at along their journey to recovery and let each other just be. At other times, we take each other by the hand and encourage each other, reaching out to keep each other from stumbl...	Heartbroken	3	593	Mar 3, 2008 by canadianguy
	lOST IT AGAIN (Preview) I am very upset right now because I just lost my temper big time with my son....had not done this for a few weeks and had been working so hard not to be drawn into things. But here we are. I am ashamed and embarrassed and my cheeks are actually burning, pulse still racing 45 minutes later, and not looking for...	omajoy	10	490	Mar 3, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Anyone? (Preview) Is anyone here familiar with PSI - I don't know what it stands for, but it basically involves large group awareness training. Lou	Loupiness	3	353	Mar 3, 2008 by Heartbroken
	What's in YOUR toolbox? (Preview) I really need to see a list of what people have in their al-anon toolboxs. What al-anon tools do you have in your tool box? I am really just seriously getting into the practice of making program phone calls when I feel myself starting to plummet. so, here is my toolbox so far: 1.) attend as many face to fa...	Jean4444	10	6489	Mar 3, 2008 by Jen
	A Little Humor For Today (Preview) My mother called me this morning. She doesn't see very well without her glasses. Last night, she made a salad and used a new salad dressing. When she was finished eating, she went to place the bowl in the dishwasher and noticed she had eaten her salad using her dog's bowl. She thought maybe the crunchy st...	kissers	5	609	Mar 3, 2008 by cookie1971
	and here's the weekend........ (Preview) Hello MIP family, I keep going some days only by the support and encouragement of this family. I know weekends can be tough for all of us so I thought I'd ask for a line of the week from all of you to review when I am detaching and trying to stay calm. As I take in something daily from al anon readings there s...	ddub	6	498	Mar 2, 2008 by ddub
	Grahhhh. What about ME? (Preview) I'm just having a moody moment. Got off the phone with AH... he asked me to take him to the person's house where he's buying a moped during lunch. Fine. I'll take you. This whole time he's just chattering happily about doing this and that with the new moped, yadda yadda yadda... And all I can think abo...	Aloha	3	433	Mar 2, 2008 by soberthought
	AM I BEING CONTROLLING? (Preview) (((Family))) One of my weekly chores, is to fill the pill boxes for myself, my AH and my Mother in law. My AH is afraid to take his pills on days when he drinks. Before I started Al Anon, I was very controlling and would nag him about taking his pills every day because that way I would know he wasn't drinkin...	cookie1971	7	388	Mar 2, 2008 by soberthought
	Read any good books lately? (Preview) Due to the recent activity here in England caused by one of my prayers being misunderstood, and at the suggestion of round3, this is a serious request. I have a problem with sleeping because of the continual dizziness [Vertigo]. My meds have been changed and I am back at the doctors next week if there i...	Heartbroken	14	818	Mar 2, 2008 by Tuggboat
	light (Preview) Hi everyone, I found this group almost three months ago when my AH came home from work and asked for help. He had never gone a day without a drink for his entire adult life and had been an active user(morning drinker etc.) for the past few years. I was in active denial/protector mode myself...wonderin...	Rakenjake	5	537	Mar 2, 2008 by travors
	About to give up on him.... (Preview) Hi all, Thank you for the responses from the last post. Maybe I came off as a little strong, but I want to make it clear that I didn't set the alarm clock because it's not my responsibility to make sure he gets up to go to work drunk....... Anyways, I made a big mistake today. My AH has been drunk for so long,...	CJ098	4	547	Mar 2, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Moral, immoral or just plain apathetic? (Preview) Some time ago I admitted to myself and my Sponsor whilst taking my searching and moral inventory of myself that I did not always tell the truth and this has really been pressing on my conscience ever since I admitted this. Down the years my birthday, Christmas, Mother's Days, Get Well times have never b...	Heartbroken	5	616	Mar 2, 2008 by Heartbroken
	HUGS TO SPARE...LOVE TO GIVE... (Preview) So in need to give you all a hug...and so in need to be hugged. Today is one of those days! however I am knocking it down to size. I am NOT GOING TO LET IT PULL ME DOWN. Instead I am handing out hugs and love to anyone who needs some genuine heartfelt loving hugs. Some come and get as much and as many as you like...	Heartbroken	3	479	Mar 2, 2008 by cookie1971
	I've got a thick skull! (Preview) Just thinking tonight how sick I've stayed for so long. I think recovery is just starting to clear some of the fog that has been over my head for YEARS! I mean, with the denial (denial, denial, denial!) and making excuses, and enabling, and all of that that I did with the A. Looking back over the past,...	round3	10	610	Mar 1, 2008 by Jean4444
	Advice (Preview) I'm trying to figure out away to handle this situation. My fiancee has been stealing money from me to buy alcohol. I suspected him of doing this in the past but last night it was confirmed. i got off my work my friend was being very rude to me by calling me names. I told him he shouldn't disrespect me l...	DANDTALWAYS	26	812	Mar 1, 2008 by DANDTALWAYS
	Just want someone safe to listen (Preview) hello i have a situation brewing. Non program people wouldn't understand my issue here. I have a very good friend. She's seen me through the early days with my AH. She never judged me. She saw me through my separation and getting back together with my AH. She was a shoulder to cry on and I could vent withou...	mon123	4	676	Mar 1, 2008 by mon123
	Testing the water (Preview) I went out on a date on Saturday and pretty quickly gave up my boundaries. What was meant to be coffee became an all day thing. At first I was happy. That was the stuff of my dreams before. Merge merge merge. Now I am clear that I need a lot of help and feedback before I test the dating world again. So much for...	maresie	10	502	Mar 1, 2008 by CJ
	I'm in a dangerous place tonight (Preview) It seems no amount of Al-anon meetings and trying to be an understanding self-supportive person is doing me much good today. Everything my AH is doing today just TICKS me off. I'm finding everything wrong with him, it seems. He comes home from work late now that he got his moped today. He gets all...	Aloha	5	904	Mar 1, 2008 by maresie
	Letting go one thread at a time (Preview) I went to my meeting and it helped, but I wasn't ready for some of it. They recommended that I talk to his probabtion officer. He is not a juvenile and I really don't know that it I should intervene. I try to have him settle all his legal issues, and he has decided not to get a license yet. Yes, we drive him or...	digby	4	543	Mar 1, 2008 by omajoy
	now I'm getting paranoid..another phase? (Preview) My AH is acting all cool, saw him this evening on his way somewhere all dressed up and sober and I'm starting to get paranoid and ask myself all these questions. "What's he up to"? He will be here all day while I am away and I am scared that he's happy because he might be taking revenge on me for kic...	silverbrumby	6	669	Mar 1, 2008 by Tuggboat
	Spooky (Preview) Thanks for all your responses to my post! I will end up keeping our kitty as long as I can. I just love her too much to give her up! My husband loves her, too, and would never want to give her up either. I hope I can take time outs more often and let her alone. I will be discussing anger issues with my counsel...	Hoot Nanny	2	386	Mar 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	Leaving Her Be (Preview) I knew that it would be hard for my AW to get sober again after 8 years clean. I was scared of the chronic slipper syndrome. So when I thought she was coming up on 10 months I was think wow she really beat the odds. Oh well. Found out she can hardly remember the last 3 weeks due to pill abuse. All I saw was a tired,...	BatonRougian	6	476	Mar 1, 2008 by cookie1971
	I know what I'm going to do. (Preview) After all the posts regarding my A and then the problems with my kids I have come to this conclusion. I have my own problems to deal with and my kids' problems to deal with and I don't have the time or energy to worry about whether he wants to see any of the kids or not. I'm not putting another ounce of energy i...	carolinagirl	9	715	Feb 29, 2008 by debilyn
	March Business Meeting - This Sunday Night! (Preview) Hi family! This Sunday nite at 9pm EST is the time for our next Business meeting to be held in the MIP Chatroom! Come one, come all!!! Here is the agenda so far! MIP Al-Anon Business Meeting March 2, 2008 Open with Serenity Prayer Secretary's Report ...	david62	0	376	Feb 29, 2008 by david62
	Is this crossing the line? (Preview) The company I work for is a member of an association. I serve on the committee of this association and there are events I am supposed to attend. One of them is an upcoming gala. I asked my boss for a check for a ticket to attend. He asked me to take a male colleague who is an A. I declined and I suggested taking a...	kissers	5	714	Feb 29, 2008 by maresie
	Jekyl and Hyde (Preview) Muaaahahahaaaa It's interesting to me how alcoholism turns our loved ones into Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde. Tuesday, AH was crabby, spiteful and pouty. Wednesday, AH was just kinda reserved and grumpy but not in attack mode. Today AH and I had lunch together and my REAL husband (at least I HOPE) - not th...	Aloha	8	550	Feb 29, 2008 by maresie
	I read (past tense) with interest... (Preview) The poster's concern about whether or not to ask a partner not to drink when they are together. Of interest were most of the replies because they suggested that we have no right to ask anyone not to drink when we are present. I can see that we might not ask co-workers or casual aquaintances; we can simp...	Diva	18	1454	Feb 29, 2008 by TLC2
	seeing new things (Preview) I know for me this date was a huge thing because I have stopped just jumping into relationships looking for a respite from chaos. When I met the A I was on the run from another relaitonship nothing like as bad as him but I was running. I was also really wanting somene to take care of me and I see that now as a co...	maresie	4	474	Feb 29, 2008 by java
	WOW (Preview) Your responses were wonderful. Yes one of the things I have been forgetting to do was things for me. I am off to reorganize my craft room, which of as late has become the room to store things in! LOL I also talked to my A. I had to wait until he was not drinking and I had an inner calmness. I remembered to use...	marmare	3	376	Feb 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	Any ideas would help.... (Preview) Have you had one of those moments, brought on by nothing, where you look at your spouse and think "is this as good as it gets?" This happened to me last Friday and is weighing on me......of course he wants to know what is going on with me because I seem different....he wasn't drunk or anything,...	marmare	7	531	Feb 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	wierd 5 minutes (Preview) And now I have an "aftertaste". I was watching my fav show on tv and the idea was that love knows no time frame and love can save lives. It was just really awsome and then my mother calls. I am immediatly scared because she never calls, especially at night. So that sent my mind racing. Also pisse...	serendipity	3	388	Feb 29, 2008 by Aloha
	Lost job, went to detox, still drinking (Preview) I want to scream. I'm trying to stay sane, and trying to detatch - so hard right now. My AH lost his job, and has been out of work for 3 months. We both decided to go back to school because we get the GI Bill from being in the military. He just got a new job. I'm trying to stay focused on school and work but it...	CJ098	8	1008	Feb 29, 2008 by CJ098
	the insanity of it all..... (Preview) Last week I had planned to visit a young couple & baby but we were unable to find any time to visit except in an hour that very day and I ended up having them to our home to join us for supper. I expected they would stay for just a couple hours as they needed to put the baby to bed so that is why I couldn't visi...	ddub	9	502	Feb 28, 2008 by round3
	"Ways to identify negative emotions & let them be felt in the moment" (Preview) Somebody mentioned this in a reply to a recent post, and I would love to see people's input on this. As one who "stuffed" for years without even realizing it, with occasional explosions, I'm getting better at not stuffing - but at the moment this just means more frequent, more public (even i...	thinkstoomuch	8	674	Feb 28, 2008 by Jen
	Words of wisdom (Preview) In talking with my AH's brother last night, he said he asks his HP the following thing. Thought it was great and thought I'd share. He said every day, he asks God to gently remove the people from his life that are no good for him and to surround him with the people who are good for him. Loved that.	Aloha	7	888	Feb 28, 2008 by Aloha
	:laughing: Did the earth move for you last night...it certainly did for me...and boy will I remember it? (Preview) Be careful what you think you asked for, it may not be what you actually get, 'cos someone up there has a real sense of humour! Suddenly the floor started to shake and the it felt like the whole house was moving. I found myself gripping the chair and desk tightly and thinking that the roof was going to come d...	Heartbroken	15	702	Feb 28, 2008 by Heartbroken
	Parenting tips please... (Preview) I got out of the shower this morning and the daycare lady was in my house there to tell me that my middle child has been stealing from her and lying about it.... I have been having issues with my children and my parenting for a while now and just can't seem to get things in line. I can sum it up in a few words aft...	carolinagirl	18	632	Feb 28, 2008 by java
	Reaching out (Preview) As you all know I am plainly in survival mode right now. I am moving out of being totally nail bitingly barely scraping by but I am still isolated and still not taking care of my immediate needs. I am trying to brain storm how to do that. One thing I have come up with is to try simply to reduce my level of fati...	maresie	6	484	Feb 28, 2008 by Maria123
	letting go (Preview) As you all know two weeks ago I came home to find one of my cats dead. I had been out at an interview. I knew my cat was sick and deteriorating but I was in denial. I heard today I am not even being considered for a 2nd interview. I have really put forth a lot of effort to get into particular institution and jus...	maresie	5	373	Feb 28, 2008 by Maria123
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