Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

roxygirl · roxygirl

My son is an alcoholic! Why is he so mean and rotten to the core? He treats me like a piece of shit! He talks to me with no respect! Anything I say he has to argue with me, I am never right about anything in his opinion. I don't like being around him, he is very toxic. Has anyone experienced this behavior...

Aloha · Aloha

Feeling kind of blah today. I don't like being reminded to do things that I kind of don't want to do. Talking with my sponsor this morning she was inquiring about when I'm going to get to the next open AA meeting. Erm... shoot. Wasn't really planning on it this week was the thing. In any case, told her I...

maresie · maresie

Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something. I was able to practice murphy's law w...

debilyn · debilyn

My eyes were kicked open. Had to sorta sit back and think about what I am doing. With the disabilities I have it makes it almost impossible to leave home. Can either stand and work, keep moving, or lay down and be here. In that I believe I may have been over bearing with out meaning to. If anyone has felt I was...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Family, I know I know progress not perfection, but when will I stop letting my big mouth, red haired temper, and my pain getting the better of me? My normal child care provider is on vaction today and tomorrow. I asked hub, since he works nights, if her could help me out and parent our children while I am at...

Christy · Christy

(((Fellow Alanuts))) I've mentioned Eckhart Tolle's book "A New Earth" several times recently,. He has such insight and brings to light awareness of things I have struggled with in the past. This one was a forehead smacker for me..lol A simple concept So true, but something my thoug...

Gailey · Gailey

I have not posted in a long time about what is going on in my life....which is a lot right now. First, my A son has not had a drink in 2 months...praise HP!!! In October I had gastric bypass surgery and have so far lost 75lbs. Today is my 6 month surgiversary. I feel great and would still like to lose about 25 mo...

cinmgrier · cinmgrier

I have been living with an alcoholic husband for 12 years. His mom passed away four years ago and since that time he has been very angry and violent. When he goes to AA, it only lasts for two or three months and then it starts all over again. We have a nine year together and I have a 15 year from previous mar...

glad · glad

I am learning that if I stay with my "A" I will have to accept that I get only little bits of him at a time-and the pieces don't always connect. Unable to have the desired flow of thoughts ideas, dreams or plans. - It's like each day stands alone for him. He even sometimes says-this was a good day o...

Aloha · Aloha

Well, I ensnared myself in a disappointment trap yesterday. Just shoulda known, ya know? But I'm okay with it now... doing better. Just taking it as yet another lesson learned. I told my AH a couple days ago that I was going to attend a hot yoga class on Wednesday evening. He sounded mildly interest...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Lots of "junk" under the bridge here. So much junk that it seems to be blocking the trust in my Marriage. I have owned up to alot that I have done with my mistakes and wrong doings. And make it a point to continue to do so--regardless of the anger and pain that comes up in remembrance. I think d...

Maria123 · Maria123

I've been in my head alot lately. Sometimes depending on which way I choose I can find myself in an old neighborhood. I can go round and round Denial Circle, Sabatoge Hill,Sex Drive, Pity Pot Springs and wouldnt ya know it right past Serenity Park. I think I need to bring a few things with me when I go insid...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I have a problem guys. When I get stressed and worked up I binge. I have always had problems with food and I know that its a life time battle I face. I dont know how to stop doing this. I use sweet stuff to cheer me up. To a point where I can eat several chocolate bars, bag and bags of sweets then a packed of busicu...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Where to begin? With the few hours I spent with Michael last night/this morning? or with the fact that I realized last night that my mother does not support my recovery....I think I'll start with mother.... I realized last night while he was in his meeting and I was sitting in a different room reading &q...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...

david62 · david62

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...

Aloha · Aloha

I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...

kes · kes

I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...

Suzannah · Suzannah

This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...

Christy · Christy

I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...

Aloha · Aloha

My sponsor sent me this link. It's a woman who's a neuro-surgeon or something who actually experienced a stroke and she speaks about her experience and what happened to her when there became a certain separation between her right brain and her left. It's long - have about 19 minutes to sit and listen...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My sister in law is in a coma, she had several more massive heart attacks throughout the day. I got a call earlier that she had died but apparently they revived her and she's on machines now. I am just so thankful that my niece got there before she was totally gone because I was told she died while niece wa...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have heard on more than one occasion, that there is something one can take to pass a drug test. Does anyone here know what that is? Just wondering... Lou

gardengal · gardengal

Although I have learned many things which not only I apply to dealing with this disease, I also can change the way I think in all situations ie: work, friends, family etc. The real biggie for me was learning that I did NOT cause this , I CANNOT control this and I CANNOT cure this. The 3 C's held a major impac...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Amoungst all the nastiness and fog of alcohol....and stress...and finances... just when the stuggles and juggles seem somewhat 'steady'...the road of life get more bumps and holes for travel. Without dragging my thoughts through the grimey muck of this deep sink hole, I am remembering steps 1, 2 a...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, I know I haven't been posting in a while. And that's because of alot of things, mostly ego based. I want to show new people that the program works, so I don't want to post bad news and lots of drama, and especially as the quarter was winding up all my life was drama drama drama. And now that I'm an OFFICIA...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I just got an email that my A's sister just had a massive heart attack and is in the hospital. She is in her early 50's. I immediately called my neice who is in the Air Force in Montana and she was crying and packing getting ready to fly out. Nobody really knows what her condition is right now. She has men...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Yesterday while getting ready for work this song came on. And it has always made me think of him in the past. So of course I started to cry. I then asked myself why does this song have to be about him? It didn't. So I restarted the song and listened to it again. And this time I thought of you all, and how I...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Dear Friends, Thank you so very much for the warm welcome back. It took me awhile to get the courage up to come home, wow am I glad I did. I know how many of you have suffered thru this awful disease. I love you all, thank you so very much, wow I have missed you all. Love, Andrea

Aloha · Aloha

This was blabbering on and on in my brain last night as I attempted to try to go to sleep. I was reflecting on MY addiction. My addiction is obsession, the illusion of control over others, worry. My addiction isn't triggered by drinking, inhaling or injecting a poisonous substance into my body....

round3 · round3

I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotte...

nmike · nmike

Why does my AHsober do what he does? Why do I keep asking why? Because he is sick, sick, sick. My son in the military came this weekend. We had a family gathering for his baby girl; my four month old grandbaby. It was the first time our family and his girlfriend's family had met formally. He had told us on the...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Such a wonderful way to calm yourself....breathing. Alot of anxiety and stress can alter your breathing...causing more anxiety or stress. So for now....just for now...I'm remembering to breath in...then out. Hard to remember that at times when you think at any moment you are for certain your wor...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, This has been a long week and quite frankly I am glad to see it come to a close. But this week has been one of not just pain, but also one of learning. I returned to a place of worship. Oh how my soul missed that. I reached out in a time of need, which is not something I find easy to do. But it is so rewarding....

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I am now 1 week in to the program. Things are still very confusing BUT I am now sort of seeing things a little different. Like this is a deasese and its not his fault. I have learnt that I do love my partner very very very much I just hate his deasese. Soooo I guess this a thank you for all your help and those of yo...

angel123 · angel123

My heart is full, Having 3 grandchildren over, yesterday really touched my heart. The love and the Joy, I receive from them is so tender. My youngest grandchild Ayden he is 2. His facial expressions alone have you smile, even when I try to teach something like no no to touching something that could hurt...

MIDGET · MIDGET

Im in the middle of a divorce from my active AH. And I told my Mom, (who lives w me) tht I didnt want any kids over this week , incl my nephew.Who by the way wears me out.Hes extremely disrespectfull.He makes me bite my tongue,, alot...I wanted to spend spring break w my kids, and to pack my ex's things.So wha...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am taking it easier these days and remembering Easy Does It! Life isn't kicking me in the butt lately. I guess I am starting to really see that I have no control over life's challenges except to do what is in front of me. I am still very leary of making major changes in my life. I am planning a lot ahead ab...

BooBoo313 · BooBoo313

It was cold and raining and I was feeling sorry for myself this morning (I think someone else had similar thought in a previous thread). I gave into it for a few minutes because I can't help but feel that I've been robbed of my "happily ever after" by the monster that has taken my AH. (sigh) Bu...

CalamityJane · CalamityJane

Morning All! Well, I had an appointment with my GP yesterday. The appointment was about my health but the conversation quickly turned to my parents health (we have the same GP). How the conversation developed onto them and the alcohol i am not sure. The GP is aware of my father's drinking and has been fo...

david62 · david62

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JenniferN · JenniferN

Good Spring Rainy Day Morning Family As the topic says, I'm needing some esh about my sponsor please. I do have one, and we get along quite well. We are very much alike and that is very comforting to me. I'll give you all a little background about me and then let you know what my trouble with her is. I have 3 ki...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I recently celebrated my one yr al-anon b-day and to be honest, I thought I'd be a lot farther along in the program/with myself at this point. I'm amazed at how just one thing can throw me off course. When I list all the reasons I should hate my husband, the list is enormous. Reasons to love him, uh, not a l...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I just wanted to say thanks for the esh. It is very much appreciated. blessings Jennifer

david62 · david62

Guten Morgen, (((((Familie))))) Sorry for the German folks, but I couldn't resist. Yesterday I went to my Oma's (grandma) 90th birthday party. I had a really good time, ate sausage and German Chocolate cake, and listened to some great polka music! lol Okay boys....anda 1 anda 2...... Got to see some...

ESH · ESH

I haven't seen or heard a peep from my A-bf (or his family) for "one-day-short-of-8-weeks." I just got home from a birthday lunch for my Mom... went with a couple of my sisters & a niece. Had a lot of FUN! Had a call on the answering machine waiting for me for when I got home. It was from a...

HopeinVA · HopeinVA

Hi, I am sort of new here although I joined last summer I haven't posted since. As I sit here at 3:15 in the afternoon my AH has yet to come home from being out last night. This pattern has become increasingly difficult recently and I am having a hard time explaining why daddy doesn't come home much to ou...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...

serendipity · serendipity

I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...

sdoody00 · sdoody00

I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...

norwood · norwood

Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul

Maria123 · Maria123

What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

what does this mean and how do I fix it?

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	WHY IS HE SOOO MEAN? (Preview) My son is an alcoholic! Why is he so mean and rotten to the core? He treats me like a piece of shit! He talks to me with no respect! Anything I say he has to argue with me, I am never right about anything in his opinion. I don't like being around him, he is very toxic. Has anyone experienced this behavior...	roxygirl	5	773	Apr 4, 2008 by debilyn
	Just... blah today. (Preview) Feeling kind of blah today. I don't like being reminded to do things that I kind of don't want to do. Talking with my sponsor this morning she was inquiring about when I'm going to get to the next open AA meeting. Erm... shoot. Wasn't really planning on it this week was the thing. In any case, told her I...	Aloha	1	402	Apr 4, 2008 by serendipity
	detaching from others (Preview) Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something. I was able to practice murphy's law w...	maresie	5	331	Apr 4, 2008 by java
	Taking my own inventory (Preview) My eyes were kicked open. Had to sorta sit back and think about what I am doing. With the disabilities I have it makes it almost impossible to leave home. Can either stand and work, keep moving, or lay down and be here. In that I believe I may have been over bearing with out meaning to. If anyone has felt I was...	debilyn	4	804	Apr 4, 2008 by Suzannah
	will I ever learn to keep the mouth shut? (Preview) Family, I know I know progress not perfection, but when will I stop letting my big mouth, red haired temper, and my pain getting the better of me? My normal child care provider is on vaction today and tomorrow. I asked hub, since he works nights, if her could help me out and parent our children while I am at...	Mandy123	9	698	Apr 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	All I want is peace.. (Preview) (((Fellow Alanuts))) I've mentioned Eckhart Tolle's book "A New Earth" several times recently,. He has such insight and brings to light awareness of things I have struggled with in the past. This one was a forehead smacker for me..lol A simple concept So true, but something my thoug...	Christy	10	619	Apr 4, 2008 by ddub
	Things have been going good (Preview) I have not posted in a long time about what is going on in my life....which is a lot right now. First, my A son has not had a drink in 2 months...praise HP!!! In October I had gastric bypass surgery and have so far lost 75lbs. Today is my 6 month surgiversary. I feel great and would still like to lose about 25 mo...	Gailey	9	768	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	Help (Preview) I have been living with an alcoholic husband for 12 years. His mom passed away four years ago and since that time he has been very angry and violent. When he goes to AA, it only lasts for two or three months and then it starts all over again. We have a nine year together and I have a 15 year from previous mar...	cinmgrier	8	492	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	ugh!! Gotta let my thoughts out! (Preview) I am learning that if I stay with my "A" I will have to accept that I get only little bits of him at a time-and the pieces don't always connect. Unable to have the desired flow of thoughts ideas, dreams or plans. - It's like each day stands alone for him. He even sometimes says-this was a good day o...	glad	2	548	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	Setting ourselves up to be disappointed (Preview) Well, I ensnared myself in a disappointment trap yesterday. Just shoulda known, ya know? But I'm okay with it now... doing better. Just taking it as yet another lesson learned. I told my AH a couple days ago that I was going to attend a hot yoga class on Wednesday evening. He sounded mildly interest...	Aloha	5	504	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	Trust (Preview) Lots of "junk" under the bridge here. So much junk that it seems to be blocking the trust in my Marriage. I have owned up to alot that I have done with my mistakes and wrong doings. And make it a point to continue to do so--regardless of the anger and pain that comes up in remembrance. I think d...	Just For Now	4	449	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	So Funny but true (Preview) I've been in my head alot lately. Sometimes depending on which way I choose I can find myself in an old neighborhood. I can go round and round Denial Circle, Sabatoge Hill,Sex Drive, Pity Pot Springs and wouldnt ya know it right past Serenity Park. I think I need to bring a few things with me when I go insid...	Maria123	8	446	Apr 3, 2008 by Suzannah
	My problem (Preview) I have a problem guys. When I get stressed and worked up I binge. I have always had problems with food and I know that its a life time battle I face. I dont know how to stop doing this. I use sweet stuff to cheer me up. To a point where I can eat several chocolate bars, bag and bags of sweets then a packed of busicu...	mum2leahnjosh	6	429	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	Too Many Things To Say...Too Many Thoughts (Preview) Where to begin? With the few hours I spent with Michael last night/this morning? or with the fact that I realized last night that my mother does not support my recovery....I think I'll start with mother.... I realized last night while he was in his meeting and I was sitting in a different room reading &q...	JenniferN	2	576	Apr 3, 2008 by glad
	RE love and loneliness (Preview) I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...	carolinagirl	6	490	Apr 3, 2008 by drucilla06
	April Business Mtg Sunday....be there!!!!!! :-) (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...	david62	0	408	Apr 3, 2008 by david62
	I love this place - not thinking about the A (Preview) I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...	Aloha	2	573	Apr 3, 2008 by maresie
	Prayer Request (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...	david62	11	578	Apr 3, 2008 by aunitedway
	Help, I'm new & desperate for advice, re sister & her kid (Preview) I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...	kes	9	588	Apr 2, 2008 by kes
	tired of being alone but scared to be together. (Preview) I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...	carolinagirl	11	612	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	I sometimes wonder.... (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...	Karilynn	11	396	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	The real me... (Preview) This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...	Suzannah	9	453	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	Mother Teresa's Wisdom (Preview) I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...	Christy	6	600	Apr 2, 2008 by maresie
	Avoidance or detachment (Preview) After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...	Denoraphy	4	671	Apr 2, 2008 by Jean4444
	Aims For The Week (Preview) Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...	mum2leahnjosh	6	340	Apr 2, 2008 by BooBoo313
	An interesting take on the brain (Preview) My sponsor sent me this link. It's a woman who's a neuro-surgeon or something who actually experienced a stroke and she speaks about her experience and what happened to her when there became a certain separation between her right brain and her left. It's long - have about 19 minutes to sit and listen...	Aloha	3	582	Apr 2, 2008 by BooBoo313
	update (Preview) My sister in law is in a coma, she had several more massive heart attacks throughout the day. I got a call earlier that she had died but apparently they revived her and she's on machines now. I am just so thankful that my niece got there before she was totally gone because I was told she died while niece wa...	carolinagirl	9	380	Apr 2, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	passing drug tests (Preview) I have heard on more than one occasion, that there is something one can take to pass a drug test. Does anyone here know what that is? Just wondering... Lou	Loupiness	7	904	Apr 2, 2008 by Loupiness
	For us "veterans" of alanon, perhaps we can share to this question "What we have learned in this program called alanon?" (Preview) Although I have learned many things which not only I apply to dealing with this disease, I also can change the way I think in all situations ie: work, friends, family etc. The real biggie for me was learning that I did NOT cause this , I CANNOT control this and I CANNOT cure this. The 3 C's held a major impac...	gardengal	6	2226	Apr 2, 2008 by lin0606
	Yet another bump... (Preview) Amoungst all the nastiness and fog of alcohol....and stress...and finances... just when the stuggles and juggles seem somewhat 'steady'...the road of life get more bumps and holes for travel. Without dragging my thoughts through the grimey muck of this deep sink hole, I am remembering steps 1, 2 a...	Just For Now	2	354	Apr 2, 2008 by Mandy123
	I told my dad he needs to go to drug rehab (Preview) So, I know I haven't been posting in a while. And that's because of alot of things, mostly ego based. I want to show new people that the program works, so I don't want to post bad news and lots of drama, and especially as the quarter was winding up all my life was drama drama drama. And now that I'm an OFFICIA...	Tiger2006	3	429	Apr 2, 2008 by Christy
	Prayers and Good Energy Please!!! (Preview) I just got an email that my A's sister just had a massive heart attack and is in the hospital. She is in her early 50's. I immediately called my neice who is in the Air Force in Montana and she was crying and packing getting ready to fly out. Nobody really knows what her condition is right now. She has men...	carolinagirl	8	603	Apr 1, 2008 by Christy
	"You'll Be in My Heart" Alanon-style (Preview) Hi all, Yesterday while getting ready for work this song came on. And it has always made me think of him in the past. So of course I started to cry. I then asked myself why does this song have to be about him? It didn't. So I restarted the song and listened to it again. And this time I thought of you all, and how I...	Mandy123	3	512	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Thank You for the Love (Preview) Dear Friends, Thank you so very much for the warm welcome back. It took me awhile to get the courage up to come home, wow am I glad I did. I know how many of you have suffered thru this awful disease. I love you all, thank you so very much, wow I have missed you all. Love, Andrea	Andrea12	7	750	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	MY Addiction (Preview) This was blabbering on and on in my brain last night as I attempted to try to go to sleep. I was reflecting on MY addiction. My addiction is obsession, the illusion of control over others, worry. My addiction isn't triggered by drinking, inhaling or injecting a poisonous substance into my body....	Aloha	8	548	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Turning a corner (dare I say?!??!?!?) (Preview) I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotte...	round3	8	741	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Timing (Preview) Why does my AHsober do what he does? Why do I keep asking why? Because he is sick, sick, sick. My son in the military came this weekend. We had a family gathering for his baby girl; my four month old grandbaby. It was the first time our family and his girlfriend's family had met formally. He had told us on the...	nmike	4	456	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Breathing....In...Out...In....Out (Preview) Such a wonderful way to calm yourself....breathing. Alot of anxiety and stress can alter your breathing...causing more anxiety or stress. So for now....just for now...I'm remembering to breath in...then out. Hard to remember that at times when you think at any moment you are for certain your wor...	Just For Now	2	433	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Ending the week. Thanks for being here ya'll. (Preview) Hi all, This has been a long week and quite frankly I am glad to see it come to a close. But this week has been one of not just pain, but also one of learning. I returned to a place of worship. Oh how my soul missed that. I reached out in a time of need, which is not something I find easy to do. But it is so rewarding....	Mandy123	7	711	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	1 week in (Preview) I am now 1 week in to the program. Things are still very confusing BUT I am now sort of seeing things a little different. Like this is a deasese and its not his fault. I have learnt that I do love my partner very very very much I just hate his deasese. Soooo I guess this a thank you for all your help and those of yo...	mum2leahnjosh	5	351	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	Responiblity.....let go and Let God (Preview) My heart is full, Having 3 grandchildren over, yesterday really touched my heart. The love and the Joy, I receive from them is so tender. My youngest grandchild Ayden he is 2. His facial expressions alone have you smile, even when I try to teach something like no no to touching something that could hurt...	angel123	3	585	Apr 1, 2008 by Maria123
	I should write a book..........Am I insane, or are they? (Preview) Im in the middle of a divorce from my active AH. And I told my Mom, (who lives w me) tht I didnt want any kids over this week , incl my nephew.Who by the way wears me out.Hes extremely disrespectfull.He makes me bite my tongue,, alot...I wanted to spend spring break w my kids, and to pack my ex's things.So wha...	MIDGET	11	741	Apr 1, 2008 by getoverit
	I feel better! (Preview) I am taking it easier these days and remembering Easy Does It! Life isn't kicking me in the butt lately. I guess I am starting to really see that I have no control over life's challenges except to do what is in front of me. I am still very leary of making major changes in my life. I am planning a lot ahead ab...	Hoot Nanny	4	393	Apr 1, 2008 by Karilynn
	Had a pity party this morning, but feeling better now... (Preview) It was cold and raining and I was feeling sorry for myself this morning (I think someone else had similar thought in a previous thread). I gave into it for a few minutes because I can't help but feel that I've been robbed of my "happily ever after" by the monster that has taken my AH. (sigh) Bu...	BooBoo313	4	632	Apr 1, 2008 by round3
	Been to the Doctors about my parents...... (Preview) Morning All! Well, I had an appointment with my GP yesterday. The appointment was about my health but the conversation quickly turned to my parents health (we have the same GP). How the conversation developed onto them and the alcohol i am not sure. The GP is aware of my father's drinking and has been fo...	CalamityJane	4	593	Apr 1, 2008 by CalamityJane
	The Cab Ride (Preview) **********************************************************************	david62	14	719	Mar 31, 2008 by whitie
	(This is a bit long) Needing esh about my sponsor (Preview) Good Spring Rainy Day Morning Family As the topic says, I'm needing some esh about my sponsor please. I do have one, and we get along quite well. We are very much alike and that is very comforting to me. I'll give you all a little background about me and then let you know what my trouble with her is. I have 3 ki...	JenniferN	7	588	Mar 31, 2008 by kismetstrand
	I need an epiphany, or a lobotomy.... (Preview) I recently celebrated my one yr al-anon b-day and to be honest, I thought I'd be a lot farther along in the program/with myself at this point. I'm amazed at how just one thing can throw me off course. When I list all the reasons I should hate my husband, the list is enormous. Reasons to love him, uh, not a l...	Loupiness	5	568	Mar 31, 2008 by Tenderheartsks
	Just a quick note (Preview) I just wanted to say thanks for the esh. It is very much appreciated. blessings Jennifer	JenniferN	0	339	Mar 31, 2008 by JenniferN
	Back from Grandma's (Preview) Guten Morgen, (((((Familie))))) Sorry for the German folks, but I couldn't resist. Yesterday I went to my Oma's (grandma) 90th birthday party. I had a really good time, ate sausage and German Chocolate cake, and listened to some great polka music! lol Okay boys....anda 1 anda 2...... Got to see some...	david62	8	425	Mar 31, 2008 by maresie
	Sheesh! A call from the ER (Preview) I haven't seen or heard a peep from my A-bf (or his family) for "one-day-short-of-8-weeks." I just got home from a birthday lunch for my Mom... went with a couple of my sisters & a niece. Had a lot of FUN! Had a call on the answering machine waiting for me for when I got home. It was from a...	ESH	7	876	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	In need of support, how to answer tough questions from the kids (Preview) Hi, I am sort of new here although I joined last summer I haven't posted since. As I sit here at 3:15 in the afternoon my AH has yet to come home from being out last night. This pattern has become increasingly difficult recently and I am having a hard time explaining why daddy doesn't come home much to ou...	HopeinVA	9	637	Mar 31, 2008 by canadianguy
	There's the truth and then there's the truth... (Preview) My son was 13 years old when his father and me ended our marriage. I was reading for my degree with the intention that, I would be the main bread winner in the family because of my AH's habit and the financial difficulty he had got us into; we had lost our home and had had to move to MOD married quarters - but t...	Heartbroken	10	611	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	I never have to do this again!!! (Preview) I no longer have to worry about the A comming home with drugs or drunk, or not comming home at all. I no longer sit by the window (literally) and feel my stomach drop whenevr I see headlights round the corner. I do not have to wonder who he is talking to, or who he is sleeping with. And the big one is I do not have...	serendipity	7	629	Mar 31, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Did you know (Preview) Did you know a 2 year old can say "daddy can we go pub" Yes my 2 year old APARENTLY said this yesterday. It was a nice day and I said to mark take Leah outside and play football. Well after 10 mins it went quiet I looked outside and no one was there. When he came back I asked where ahve you been he said L...	mum2leahnjosh	2	303	Mar 31, 2008 by Suzannah
	Treatment discussion with AH (Preview) I have been reading the posts in this message board for some time now. It has been very helpful to me. My bipolar AH and I are currently living apart, both of us support this arrangement. He is actively using and not medicated for his bipolar. I have taken the stand that I would not have any contact with h...	sdoody00	8	535	Mar 31, 2008 by sdoody00
	Not Surprised Anymore (Preview) I never thought it would happen, but it has: I wasn't surprised today by my A. I have talked to him almost everyday this week. Mostly due to him "needing" a wake up call for work. I put that in quotes because I KNOW he doesn't NEED one, he just says/thinks he does. Anyways, I've borrowed the truc...	JenniferN	1	382	Mar 31, 2008 by Mandy123
	Massachusetts annual alanon convention (Preview) Hi ((everyone)), I just returned form the Massachusetts annual alanon convention. I have 3 words - WOW, WOW, WOW!!!. I had a spiritual awakening and it was amazing. Thank you all for your support in my recovery. Paul	norwood	3	335	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	What I learned . . . (Preview) What I learned . . . I went to an Alanon conference this weekend and as someone was sharing this morning in the unconditional love workshop, she said what I felt but did not know I was feeling at the time. When we walk through the doors of the conference, its with a sigh of relief. We arent facing the outsi...	Maria123	3	353	Mar 30, 2008 by Mandy123
	can't enter room/unknown host exception? (Preview) what does this mean and how do I fix it?	seekingserenity	1	312	Mar 30, 2008 by getoverit
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