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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. One night I went to pick up a fare at 2:30 am.
When I arrived at the address, the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.
Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once, but I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation.
Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.
So I walked to the door and knocked. 'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.
By her side was a small nylon suitcase The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.
There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.
'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.
She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'.
'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'
'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.
'Oh, I don't mind,' she said 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'.
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued. 'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and s hut off the meter.
'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.
Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.
Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.
I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
'How much do I owe you?' she asked, reaching into her purse.
'Nothing,' I said
'You have to make a living,' she answered. 'There are other passengers,' I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?
On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.
We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.
PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT 'YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID, ~BUT~ THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.
Life may not be the party we hoped for; but, while we are here, we might as well dance.
Such a great story and reminds me so well how important it is for me to listen to what my inner voice is telling me and to treat everyone I encounter as who they are...a child of God.
Thank you sharing that beautiful story with us....the message is so true. Sometimes just a smile from a stranger can make someone's day...help lift their spirits.. your friend in recovery, rosie
Deeply, deeply touched. My face awash with tears of joy and sadness. Makes one think. God was there with the old lady and the taxi driver, just as he is now, with each one of us.
Speechless.
Thank you
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"The highest form of wisdom is kindness." The Talmund
Beautiful message in this story. One I TRY to remember every day. The world is so rushed and selfish sometimes, that it's easy to get caught up in it. Thanks for the reminder of what we're really here for.
I've seen this before but took great pleasure in rereading it.
Imagine....if everyone in the world had such compassion for their fellow man. No war, no gang killings.
You may say that I'm a dreamer But I'm not the only one I hope someday you'll join us And the world will live as one ~John Lennon~
What can I say? I should have been a "love and peace" hippie in the 60's but I was in grade school :) I'll have to settle for being a tree hugger. For today, my spirit is dampened due to the Canada seal slaughter that started today. WRONG! WRONG! WRONG! On so many levels. Not for food, just senseless slaughter for pelts. Sickening.
Sorry..lol How I got from a cab ride story to John Lennon to baby seals is beyond me.
Love peace and chicken grease, Christy
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If we think that miracles are normal, we will expect them. And expecting a miracle is the surest way to get one.
Elvis may leave the building sometimes, but he always comes back with a good one! That's a keeper my friend. Thanks for being part of my life and recovery. What a blessing you are. Love and blessings to you and your family. Kiss "da boys" for me.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
I've seen this before I itmoves me everytime. I have the privilage og working with senior citizen's every day and they deserve the utmost respect. So many are left without any family and it is an honor to make their day in any small way I CAN. Thanks for sharing! Whitie