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Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something.
I was able to practice murphy's law which is "When you argue with a crazy person, people might not know who is the crazy person" I let go. She launched into a huge argument about the mess around the laundry area. I told her it was not my mess where she interjected that she is constantly cleaning up after others. I did not say much and what I did say I said with kindness which is huge for me given I was half awake, had no make up on and felt groggy.
For once this has not ruined my day. I am not, as one of my other roommates does, making anyone the enemy. I know this woman has had a hard life. She cannot be other than she is. Her behavior is still in marked contrast to the total psychopaths I suffered for 9 months. Neverthless this is not going to change anytime soon.
What a joy to have tools rather than feel victimized all the time. Maresie.
Great job of working your program. I love murphey's law, When you argue with a crazy person, people might not know who the crazy person is! I see so much growth in you from your earlier posts, great way to use the tools and stay out of other people's stuff. I know for me detaching is a sure fire way to eliminate the crazies in my life. Detaching with love is even harder, but it seems like you mastered that too with this woman, shown by your understanding of her hard life. We all have people we have to detach from from time to time and it is so much easier if we can detach with love than detach with hate or even a "I don't care" attitude. That only makes me more bitter and less able to detach the next time that it is needed.
Great job and keep on working this wonderful program, your a beautiful person indeed.
Jennifer 
