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John and Rose Christmas and New Year Wish to YOU
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A bit puzzled....
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(((((Family))))), Hello to my favorite family. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. I spent Christmas with my sister for half the day. I made waffles for them and then brought my 17 year old niece back with me. We spent the rest of the day playing with Pipers, cooking dinner, taking a walk. I even...
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Merry Christmas....
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Merry Christmas to all of you wonderful people out there in MIP land..... And if you don't celebrate Christmas, please join us in this time of good reflection for the things we are thankful for - health, sobriety, serenity, loved ones, etc., etc.... I continue to learn from so many on this board, and e...
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Gratitude
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I went to a meeting yesterday and one of the people there said that there was nothing he would want for Christmas. What a different story it was for me. I had to look at my powerhouse of resentment up there, where's my....coat, apartment, job, friends, food, pressies... all totally destroying me. Tod...
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maresie
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Admitting my powerlessness and Acceptance
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I'm new to this Website but not new to alanon. I have been a member for 5 years and have a wonderful sponsor who is now dealing with some difficult issues and, therefore, isn't able to connect with me as much these days. I am not sure where I will go from here but when the time is right I'm sure I'll be led to the...
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Meditation ideas needed
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Trying to get back into focusing on me and my program and thought I'd see what others do as forms of meditation..........This is a very new idea to me and I have some ideas but would like to broaden my horizons so to speak:) Thanks for the input......
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Holiday detachment fuel
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Good morning (((Family))) I'm already feeling stressed and "out of alignment" due to the long lines, the horrible traffic and the never-ending preparations! (I have GOT to let go of the perfectionism!) Later, my exAH will join my 2 adult kids and I for Christmas Eve. My kids had asked m...
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attitude change
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We made it through xmas okay and I'm glad it's over. So anyway, concerning him staying gone on the weekends, just when I decided not to care anymore, he's not staying gone as much and he's calling me telling me what he's doing, where he's going. Not like I believe anything he's saying but it doesn't matte...
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newmember
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Hello, I am new here, I just wanted to say hello to everyone.
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Diminished plans and my very good holiday
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This is not major, but I smile to remember it.I celebrate Christmas. I used to enjoy it whole hog and that turned into doing everything the next year I had done the year before plus something extra. That became required the following year, etc. Then Ive had bare-bones alone years of practically no cele...
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Prayers for o2bnormal aka jonibaloni
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Jonibaloni's mom passed away this morning. Would you all please say a prayer for our friend ((((((((Joni)))))))). May she know that we are with her during this loss. Thanks, Maria -- Edited by Maria123 at 00:24, 2008-12-27
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Post Christmas Post
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((((Friends))))), While driving to work on Christmas eve, very early (5 am), checking off my list, it dawned on me that my list was just about complete and in the hecktedness of the holiday season where I was baking, shopping, wrapping, singing Christmas carols to myself, I was too busy and tired to do...
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put me on that prayer list!
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Also keep everyone in mind that need some love. last week I got trampled by the gals horse who rents some pasture....was going to the doc again yesterday. right before I left to go to the doc I slipped and broke ribs on my right. it feels like a cramp that won't go away. Of course since I cannot bend over, and...
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A's birthday is today
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Today is my ex abf bday. I spoke to him yesterday on Christmas, not bc we were wishing each other a merry one, but more bc I found out that my sister and my brother's wife are both pregnant and both due one day after the other. I was feeling insanely jealous and resentful that this "easy" life co...
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Struggling a bit with some program concepts(?)~need some input
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Ex ABF is sober 10yrs and in recovery-working program. I have several other people I know who are also in the program-mostly AA. eXABF says things and I hear things from others that I am struggling with....."Focus on yourself......focus on you". Seems to me that if we all were tha...
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Unwrapping the gift of Gratitude..
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Aloha MIP family young and old new and old timer. I take this little bit of time to express to you all my gratitude for all the love and support and ESH that you have freely offered over the last year and beyond. I owe you and others soooo much not the least of is my very life. Without the lantern that was he...
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Practicing Our Mistakes
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I find when I'm playing my saxophone, that I tend to make the same mistakes in the same places in the music. Over and over. In the same way. Now I can see making a mistake the first few times through unfamiliar music, especially when things get a little fast and furious. But when I make the exact same mi...
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sitting at he library thinking about the holiday!
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I have to go to the library to communicate all the time because I don't have computer at home--so here goes! I am feeling much more in the spirit of the holiday. It took realizing that I really don't have any control over anyone else's time & that I can be as happy as I want to be! That is why I am posting...
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Hoot Nanny
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The Holiday So Far
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(((((MIP Family))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness. While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now...
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Rocky38
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Progress?
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This past year has been really hard on me. I am learning a lot of things about myself that I have really known all along but didn't want to face. I am learning to stand up for myself because no one else can. That's my job. I am learning that I don't have to settle for someone who abuses me just to feel whole, I a...
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I made it through Christmas!
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Well, I made it through Christmas, I only broke down hysterically crying once today - which was Christmas day, I started the day off journaling - "Well, here it is Christmas morning. I should be preparing to watch my kids open gifts around my own tree, in my own house with the man I love. But I am...
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another good day thanks to alanon
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Today was a good day. My daughter and I had fun. We went shopping with unexpected xmas money, went out to eat, got home and played ping pong, played little petshops, talked, just had fun together all day. She is so much fun to hang out with. Bf called in the afternoon, tells me he got off work early, is at a fr...
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Overcoming an abusive past...
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Greetings! My name is Mindy, I often go by Melinda in the Chat room. I am new to the chat room as of about 3 weeks ago and new to this Group as a registered person as of today! I have found solace with the wonderful guys and gals in the chat room and am just simply thrilled to have found this site. I am working...
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Happy Holidays to my MIP Family
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((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of m...
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Karilynn
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Just a reminder of Marathon Meetings
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Marathon meetings start at 9 pm eastern time and go til 9pm Xmas Day -so no excuses for feeling alone . Hugs to all Louise
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do not understand
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Hi All I just do not get it. We ( the kids and myself) ask are A over to open presant tonight. I get this thrid degree on how he dose not know where he is going to be and that I have not been asking question about how he is doing and where he is going to live and that I kicked him out and it is all back to it is my faul...
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Am I wrong? I need an interpreter
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My AH drank some tequila at 10 am yesterday morning, then slept the entire day and night. It was his day off - he said he hasn't slept through the night in months because of his knee surgery and that he got to thinking and just drank because he wanted to go to sleep. He once had 14 years sober - until he met me...
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Serenity has arrived and I'm stunned at the power of the program
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Hi MIP Family!, Just a quick post to say how grateful I am about this program. I know I have said similar things before, but today I feel even more grateful. The thing is, and this surprises me, I feel some sense of serenity, whether my AH continues drinking or not. How the heck did that happen? I know some o...
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article on drug rehab- interesting...
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http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/23/health/23reha.html?partner=rss&emc=rss
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Christmas Without AS
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As someone helpfully suggested in an earlier post, I am trying to think about my 21-year-old son as a man and not my baby. My husband (his SF) refuses to let him back in the house even to visit. My son went to court on Thursday and didn't do what the judge ordered on Friday. I am not sure he'll follow through w...
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Prayers for my AH Please MIP Family
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Hi again MIP family, I just learned that my AH has been moved from the medical ward to ICU as he has fully entered DTs now. He was hallucinating, combative and confused. All this happened within an hour of my visit with him. During my visit with him this evening, he seemed OK. Maybe a little "fuzzy&q...
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I haven't posted in a long time...
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Healthy holiday wishes to all of you. I hope that you have some peace in the upcoming weeks. I haven't posted in about a month. My ExABF's birthday is the 26. Tomorrow is the birthday of my fiance who died 7 years ago--he should be turning 38. On top of that, it's Christmas week. So, basically, the on...
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Help needed
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I went ahead and stood my ground with my AW yesterday. I told her that her staying at home was no longer a negotiation and that she was to either find a recovery house or I would drop her off at a homeless shelter. She finally agreed to look up recovery houses and I told her she had until Thursday to have dec...
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Thanks!
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I just wanted to say thank you to those of you that have responded to my post a couple of days ago. I have not been able to get to a face2face meeting yet due to scheduling, but if there is one thing that I picked up on here is that attending a face2face meeting is very important. Until I am able to get there, I...
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gaining some understanding about me and the 'its a disease' statement
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Over the last few weeks of reading, listening to speakers, and doing online meetings ZI am finally grasping this osncept of 'I have to change.' But, knowing this, and knowing myself, I am reacting to it not so well. My thoughts are along the lines of 'oh great, another thing you've done WRONG.' I am an ac...
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My first time
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This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...
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Requesting Prayer or ESH for Christmas at Ex A's mom's tomorrow
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Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a...
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Holiday struggles.....
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I haven't been posting much, but have been here every day-usually several times a day reading and seeking the ESH from everyone's shares. I guess I haven't been posting much because right now I just don't feel I have anything good to give back. To be honest I am angry and filled with so much resentmen...
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Two Kinds of People
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How many times have you heard, "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who xxxxxx and those who yyyyyy". It's often a joke, or used to illustrate some point. Like, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide everybody into two kinds of people and those who don't....
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just a question...
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Hello all, and happy holidays to you and yours! I was wondering if any of you have any experience with the drug antabuse....if so, how well does it work, etc. Thanks for your input, its always appreciated! seeking peace, jeannie
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New & feeling confused
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Hi all, I am new to alanon, but unfortunately not new to alcoholism. I have been with my AB for 6 years, I for some reason didn't think that that I needed to do anything for myself. I figured it was his problem. He is in a 30 day treatment center, I committed him through the courts, his drinking was once a...
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Making excuses?
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If you're familiar with my last post "Now What" you'll know that I was trying very hard to keep any expectations I had of my newly sober wife in check. I heeded the excellent advice of fellow posters and decided to let go and wait for a sign from my HP. Unfortunately that sign came last night w...
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New Here
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Hello All! My story is long, so I'll just sum it up by saying that my husband isn't coming home tonight. I'd rather not see him at all, than to see him drunk AGAIN. We've been married for 9 years and have been dealing with his alcoholism for 3 years (since our son was born). He has cheated on me with a p...
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Why can't they just stop?
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This has come up a few times recently. Why do they (fill in the blank)? Why can't they promise they will stop for their family? I don't know the answers for others, but for those that have those questions here is what I DO know. Alcohol is so powerful that eventually the body literally becomes depe...
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Christy
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Do the holidays make anyone else wonder what an EX A is doing?
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Christmas is almost here and this year I am finding it to be more difficult (emotionally) than other years. So much has changed in my life over the past year, some good, and some bad. I miss the people that I have lost in my life; either from death or because of choice. Yet I am so thankful for the relations...
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HEARTBROKEN IN NJ
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Donation Frustration
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I need your help. It is not a crisis, but I am getting frustrated. This year, instead of "usual" gifts, I am giving donations in people's names. For those who are in my AA/Al Anon family, I was *trying* to donate directly to World Service Office, and am finding myself running into walls. I s...
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Step 5-Feeling new.......
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Well I made it through Step 5, and thought for sure I'd have a heart attack before hand-lol......I was certain NO ONE could understand, or not judge the insanity of my past. I mean I have judged me for years, why would another not? But thanks to the best sponser a girl could have, I made it through with...
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fed up
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Well, same ole, same ole. Nothing is changing, guess I need to change things for myself. The bf and I did drive around some together earlier today. Then, later on he leaves again for 5 hours. I went to the store just to get out of the house, and when I returned, we got into an argument. He tells me he was at his...
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buick23
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Decor in F2F meetings
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My home group meeting room is so COLD, everything white or some shade of white. We are seriously considering painting and cleaning to make the room more homey instead of so sterile. The floor which is the only thing that has any color at all in it is a tile that is shades of grey...another sterile non de...
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Having a good week!
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Hi everyone! I'm having a good week and wanted to post that I feel happy . I don't fully understand why I feel happy but, this the first "happy" I've felt in the last six months since I got married and came to the realization that I married an A. I shared for the first time on an online meeting las...
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I'm seeing a pattern
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I feel like I have basically done the same thing over and over again - only each time I get a little more serious about ending my marriage with my A. Of couse there have always been complaints about his bad behavior, and these complaints work for a time but he always goes right back to his old ways. It snea...
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Meetings meetings & more meetings!
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I will be making lots of meetings this holiday season--we even plan to go to one of our local AA meeting on Christmas Day! It just happens to fall on that day. There probably won't be many people but we will be there to open the door! I will be at a sort of marathon type meeting tonight, too. It will be fun-...
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Feel So Despondent
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My AS (possibly bipolar and drug addicted) racked up several court cases in several weeks. He has been incarcerated three times and hospitalized three times in the past 9 weeks. He went to court yesterday and was ordered to get a doctor today, get on meds, not drink or drug, and report to probation dail...
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another level of insight
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I have had a really tough week with the roommates I have. I am certain one of them is now doing crack cocaine. He has become highly aggressive with me. That was one of the hallmarks of my ex A the aggressiveness. There were signs of that on Thanksgiving and I was not perceptive enough to take care of it....
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Could use some healing thoughts...
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My youngest AD had to take me to the ER at 5 this morning. I haven't been that sick in years and thought I was going to die. Some intestinal virus is going around, and I started vomiting and getting diarrhea around 11 last night. I ended up cramping so bad I was crying and had bloody diarrhea. I was on an IV for...
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Went to my first face to face
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Tonight I went to my first face to face meeting. It was not an Alanon Meeting. It was a Celebrate Recovery Meeting and then a Codependency small group. I told the group I believed my primary addiction to be to my addict and my secondary to be to alcohol- as a coping mechanism to deal with my codependenc...
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My first time
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This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...
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failing to keep the focus on myself
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Today I'm having trouble focusing on myself and not the bf. Again, he's gone today. I asked him about why he doesn't want to do things together and he said that I'm always complaining when we are somewhere and I have to stop to go to the bathroom every 5 minutes. That really hurt. I wonder if I'm that bad,...
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New here...
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Hi all, I am brand new here. I am 23 year old mother of a 2.5 year old daughter. And I am the wife of a drug addict. My husband has been addicted to pain meds for over 3 years. He has been in 5 car accidents (1 of which was very serious and caused the early birth of our daughter) and has 2 DUIs (he would have 1 more, b...
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Newbie Question
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Is this the best message board for the spouse of a recovering addict? Or is there a separate..."nar anon" or something? I know this may seem like a silly question. But I'm new to all of this.
And I'm pretty much still reeling from recent events in my life...struggling with how to trust/love/kn...
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BirdGal
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