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Loupiness · Loupiness

It used to be that topics that had new posts were in bold, and those where I had read all the posts were not. Suddenly it seems the posts are staying in bold form, even after I have read all the responses. Is there a setting to change this? Thanks! Lou

New Member Here......... · Cordovian

I just joined MIP this morning. I am looking forward to everything that is offered here. I also hope my past and present experiences that I have survived by living with a severe alcoholic can help other members as well.

smileycat · smileycat

Hi all Christmas eve was the worse but we made it throught. A cam over to open presant and he was drinking and beeing a butt after 20 mimutes he left but came back around 6.pm to get his gifts and i made him leave I just could not handle seeing him. he did not like me telling him that i could handle the abuse. bu...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Yes, it is Christmas, and I am calm. I had less time to prepare and less money to spend, but I am getting through it and didn't use all my time wishing it away like I have in years past. This is not to say I have been full of joyful anticipation, but rather I have just accepted the holidays will come and go, and I...

nmike · nmike

All the best to all the Alanoners who celebrate this season, or don't celebrate this season, who are snowed in or out, who have an A or sober A or ex A or several A's to deal with. Thanks tlc and glad for your esh. It is MY 35th wedding anniversary tonight. He left 3 1/2 years ago. He has been married for 30 yea...

buick23 · buick23

I was thinking about things I like about my abfsober, and sadly could not think of one. Maybe we are going tru a stage, I don't know. He changed so suddely over the last 1 1/2 months. Well, he is sober and that is great. If he had never quit, we would not be together now. At times, I think it does not make a dif...

helpme08 · helpme08

I'm looking to my online friends for support. My AH has about 8 bottles of beer (he bought it himself) in him already and it's only 10:30 a.m. I've made one comment and it just blew up in my face. We have to go to my Grandma's house to celebrate Christmas in a couple of hours and I know what kind of shape he...

helpme08 · helpme08

I am so sad right now. I can't even explain it!!! Not only did my AH drink all day, but he is making cutting remarks towards me and my family. My family is very close to me. Please help me right now!!!!!

helpme08 · helpme08

I am so sad right now. I can't even explain it!!! Not only did my AH drink all day, but he is making cutting remarks towards me and my family. My family is very close to me. Please help me right now!!!!!

mesa_lady · mesa_lady

My boyfriend's dad was admitted to the hospital right before Christmas, and was diagnosed with HRS (cirrhosis, followed by acetis and kidney failure). The hospital won't treat him now as they feel there is nothing that can be done, and have given him 2-5 more days to live. My boyfriend is 36 and has li...

Codependent · Codependent

As you all recall my rejection experience last weekend with the A. Me getting drunk and throwing myself at him and he not even wanting to have sex with me. You know the next morning still intoxicated I told him that my heart couldn't take it anymore and that we could be friendly but no longer friends. W...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I made a good choice this year. I made my plan b my plan a! I went ahead and made my own plans with non-alcoholic people for christmas. I booked a flight to a best friends home who I have not seen in quite some time. We had a lot of fun hanging out and catching up. We cooked, we shopped, went to a movie, watc...

John · John

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), Hello to my favorite family. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. I spent Christmas with my sister for half the day. I made waffles for them and then brought my 17 year old niece back with me. We spent the rest of the day playing with Pipers, cooking dinner, taking a walk. I even...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Merry Christmas to all of you wonderful people out there in MIP land..... And if you don't celebrate Christmas, please join us in this time of good reflection for the things we are thankful for - health, sobriety, serenity, loved ones, etc., etc.... I continue to learn from so many on this board, and e...

maresie · maresie

I went to a meeting yesterday and one of the people there said that there was nothing he would want for Christmas. What a different story it was for me. I had to look at my powerhouse of resentment up there, where's my....coat, apartment, job, friends, food, pressies... all totally destroying me. Tod...

hope for me n you · hope for me n you

I'm new to this Website but not new to alanon. I have been a member for 5 years and have a wonderful sponsor who is now dealing with some difficult issues and, therefore, isn't able to connect with me as much these days. I am not sure where I will go from here but when the time is right I'm sure I'll be led to the...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Trying to get back into focusing on me and my program and thought I'd see what others do as forms of meditation..........This is a very new idea to me and I have some ideas but would like to broaden my horizons so to speak:) Thanks for the input......

glad lee · glad lee

Good morning (((Family))) I'm already feeling stressed and "out of alignment" due to the long lines, the horrible traffic and the never-ending preparations! (I have GOT to let go of the perfectionism!) Later, my exAH will join my 2 adult kids and I for Christmas Eve. My kids had asked m...

buick23 · buick23

We made it through xmas okay and I'm glad it's over. So anyway, concerning him staying gone on the weekends, just when I decided not to care anymore, he's not staying gone as much and he's calling me telling me what he's doing, where he's going. Not like I believe anything he's saying but it doesn't matte...

daylight48 · daylight48

Hello, I am new here, I just wanted to say hello to everyone.

Jill · Jill

This is not major, but I smile to remember it.I celebrate Christmas. I used to enjoy it whole hog and that turned into doing everything the next year I had done the year before plus something extra. That became required the following year, etc. Then Ive had bare-bones alone years of practically no cele...

Maria123 · Maria123

Jonibaloni's mom passed away this morning. Would you all please say a prayer for our friend ((((((((Joni)))))))). May she know that we are with her during this loss. Thanks, Maria -- Edited by Maria123 at 00:24, 2008-12-27

Maria123 · Maria123

((((Friends))))), While driving to work on Christmas eve, very early (5 am), checking off my list, it dawned on me that my list was just about complete and in the hecktedness of the holiday season where I was baking, shopping, wrapping, singing Christmas carols to myself, I was too busy and tired to do...

debilyn · debilyn

Also keep everyone in mind that need some love. last week I got trampled by the gals horse who rents some pasture....was going to the doc again yesterday. right before I left to go to the doc I slipped and broke ribs on my right. it feels like a cramp that won't go away. Of course since I cannot bend over, and...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Today is my ex abf bday. I spoke to him yesterday on Christmas, not bc we were wishing each other a merry one, but more bc I found out that my sister and my brother's wife are both pregnant and both due one day after the other. I was feeling insanely jealous and resentful that this "easy" life co...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Ex ABF is sober 10yrs and in recovery-working program. I have several other people I know who are also in the program-mostly AA. eXABF says things and I hear things from others that I am struggling with....."Focus on yourself......focus on you". Seems to me that if we all were tha...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family young and old new and old timer. I take this little bit of time to express to you all my gratitude for all the love and support and ESH that you have freely offered over the last year and beyond. I owe you and others soooo much not the least of is my very life. Without the lantern that was he...

barisax · barisax

I find when I'm playing my saxophone, that I tend to make the same mistakes in the same places in the music. Over and over. In the same way. Now I can see making a mistake the first few times through unfamiliar music, especially when things get a little fast and furious. But when I make the exact same mi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have to go to the library to communicate all the time because I don't have computer at home--so here goes! I am feeling much more in the spirit of the holiday. It took realizing that I really don't have any control over anyone else's time & that I can be as happy as I want to be! That is why I am posting...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

(((((MIP Family))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness. While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

This past year has been really hard on me. I am learning a lot of things about myself that I have really known all along but didn't want to face. I am learning to stand up for myself because no one else can. That's my job. I am learning that I don't have to settle for someone who abuses me just to feel whole, I a...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

Well, I made it through Christmas, I only broke down hysterically crying once today - which was Christmas day, I started the day off journaling - "Well, here it is Christmas morning. I should be preparing to watch my kids open gifts around my own tree, in my own house with the man I love. But I am...

buick23 · buick23

Today was a good day. My daughter and I had fun. We went shopping with unexpected xmas money, went out to eat, got home and played ping pong, played little petshops, talked, just had fun together all day. She is so much fun to hang out with. Bf called in the afternoon, tells me he got off work early, is at a fr...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

Greetings! My name is Mindy, I often go by Melinda in the Chat room. I am new to the chat room as of about 3 weeks ago and new to this Group as a registered person as of today! I have found solace with the wonderful guys and gals in the chat room and am just simply thrilled to have found this site. I am working...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of m...

abbyal · abbyal

Marathon meetings start at 9 pm eastern time and go til 9pm Xmas Day -so no excuses for feeling alone . Hugs to all Louise

smileycat · smileycat

Hi All I just do not get it. We ( the kids and myself) ask are A over to open presant tonight. I get this thrid degree on how he dose not know where he is going to be and that I have not been asking question about how he is doing and where he is going to live and that I kicked him out and it is all back to it is my faul...

Ash · Ash

My AH drank some tequila at 10 am yesterday morning, then slept the entire day and night. It was his day off - he said he hasn't slept through the night in months because of his knee surgery and that he got to thinking and just drank because he wanted to go to sleep. He once had 14 years sober - until he met me...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP Family!, Just a quick post to say how grateful I am about this program. I know I have said similar things before, but today I feel even more grateful. The thing is, and this surprises me, I feel some sense of serenity, whether my AH continues drinking or not. How the heck did that happen? I know some o...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/23/health/23reha.html?partner=rss&emc=rss

Trinia2 · Trinia2

As someone helpfully suggested in an earlier post, I am trying to think about my 21-year-old son as a man and not my baby. My husband (his SF) refuses to let him back in the house even to visit. My son went to court on Thursday and didn't do what the judge ordered on Friday. I am not sure he'll follow through w...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi again MIP family, I just learned that my AH has been moved from the medical ward to ICU as he has fully entered DTs now. He was hallucinating, combative and confused. All this happened within an hour of my visit with him. During my visit with him this evening, he seemed OK. Maybe a little "fuzzy&q...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Healthy holiday wishes to all of you. I hope that you have some peace in the upcoming weeks. I haven't posted in about a month. My ExABF's birthday is the 26. Tomorrow is the birthday of my fiance who died 7 years ago--he should be turning 38. On top of that, it's Christmas week. So, basically, the on...

QuVat · QuVat

I went ahead and stood my ground with my AW yesterday. I told her that her staying at home was no longer a negotiation and that she was to either find a recovery house or I would drop her off at a homeless shelter. She finally agreed to look up recovery houses and I told her she had until Thursday to have dec...

helpme08 · helpme08

I just wanted to say thank you to those of you that have responded to my post a couple of days ago. I have not been able to get to a face2face meeting yet due to scheduling, but if there is one thing that I picked up on here is that attending a face2face meeting is very important. Until I am able to get there, I...

Lyndie · Lyndie

Over the last few weeks of reading, listening to speakers, and doing online meetings ZI am finally grasping this osncept of 'I have to change.' But, knowing this, and knowing myself, I am reacting to it not so well. My thoughts are along the lines of 'oh great, another thing you've done WRONG.' I am an ac...

helpme08 · helpme08

This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...

Codependent · Codependent

Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I haven't been posting much, but have been here every day-usually several times a day reading and seeking the ESH from everyone's shares. I guess I haven't been posting much because right now I just don't feel I have anything good to give back. To be honest I am angry and filled with so much resentmen...

barisax · barisax

How many times have you heard, "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who xxxxxx and those who yyyyyy". It's often a joke, or used to illustrate some point. Like, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide everybody into two kinds of people and those who don't....

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello all, and happy holidays to you and yours! I was wondering if any of you have any experience with the drug antabuse....if so, how well does it work, etc. Thanks for your input, its always appreciated! seeking peace, jeannie

time4me · time4me

Hi all, I am new to alanon, but unfortunately not new to alcoholism. I have been with my AB for 6 years, I for some reason didn't think that that I needed to do anything for myself. I figured it was his problem. He is in a 30 day treatment center, I committed him through the courts, his drinking was once a...

QuVat · QuVat

If you're familiar with my last post "Now What" you'll know that I was trying very hard to keep any expectations I had of my newly sober wife in check. I heeded the excellent advice of fellow posters and decided to let go and wait for a sign from my HP. Unfortunately that sign came last night w...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Hello All! My story is long, so I'll just sum it up by saying that my husband isn't coming home tonight. I'd rather not see him at all, than to see him drunk AGAIN. We've been married for 9 years and have been dealing with his alcoholism for 3 years (since our son was born). He has cheated on me with a p...

Christy · Christy

This has come up a few times recently. Why do they (fill in the blank)? Why can't they promise they will stop for their family? I don't know the answers for others, but for those that have those questions here is what I DO know. Alcohol is so powerful that eventually the body literally becomes depe...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

Christmas is almost here and this year I am finding it to be more difficult (emotionally) than other years. So much has changed in my life over the past year, some good, and some bad. I miss the people that I have lost in my life; either from death or because of choice. Yet I am so thankful for the relations...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I need your help. It is not a crisis, but I am getting frustrated. This year, instead of "usual" gifts, I am giving donations in people's names. For those who are in my AA/Al Anon family, I was *trying* to donate directly to World Service Office, and am finding myself running into walls. I s...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I made it through Step 5, and thought for sure I'd have a heart attack before hand-lol......I was certain NO ONE could understand, or not judge the insanity of my past. I mean I have judged me for years, why would another not? But thanks to the best sponser a girl could have, I made it through with...

buick23 · buick23

Well, same ole, same ole. Nothing is changing, guess I need to change things for myself. The bf and I did drive around some together earlier today. Then, later on he leaves again for 5 hours. I went to the store just to get out of the house, and when I returned, we got into an argument. He tells me he was at his...

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	Technical question about this board (Preview) It used to be that topics that had new posts were in bold, and those where I had read all the posts were not. Suddenly it seems the posts are staying in bold form, even after I have read all the responses. Is there a setting to change this? Thanks! Lou	Loupiness	3	463	Dec 29, 2008 by StargazerLily
	New Member Here......... (Preview) I just joined MIP this morning. I am looking forward to everything that is offered here. I also hope my past and present experiences that I have survived by living with a severe alcoholic can help other members as well.	Cordovian	7	699	Dec 29, 2008 by Peggy7
	made it throught the holidays (Preview) Hi all Christmas eve was the worse but we made it throught. A cam over to open presant and he was drinking and beeing a butt after 20 mimutes he left but came back around 6.pm to get his gifts and i made him leave I just could not handle seeing him. he did not like me telling him that i could handle the abuse. bu...	smileycat	2	460	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	all is calm... (Preview) Yes, it is Christmas, and I am calm. I had less time to prepare and less money to spend, but I am getting through it and didn't use all my time wishing it away like I have in years past. This is not to say I have been full of joyful anticipation, but rather I have just accepted the holidays will come and go, and I...	Loupiness	4	474	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Reflection (Preview) All the best to all the Alanoners who celebrate this season, or don't celebrate this season, who are snowed in or out, who have an A or sober A or ex A or several A's to deal with. Thanks tlc and glad for your esh. It is MY 35th wedding anniversary tonight. He left 3 1/2 years ago. He has been married for 30 yea...	nmike	4	1575	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	What's the difference? (Preview) I was thinking about things I like about my abfsober, and sadly could not think of one. Maybe we are going tru a stage, I don't know. He changed so suddely over the last 1 1/2 months. Well, he is sober and that is great. If he had never quit, we would not be together now. At times, I think it does not make a dif...	buick23	5	519	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Need Support (Preview) I'm looking to my online friends for support. My AH has about 8 bottles of beer (he bought it himself) in him already and it's only 10:30 a.m. I've made one comment and it just blew up in my face. We have to go to my Grandma's house to celebrate Christmas in a couple of hours and I know what kind of shape he...	helpme08	6	611	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	I am sad (Preview) I am so sad right now. I can't even explain it!!! Not only did my AH drink all day, but he is making cutting remarks towards me and my family. My family is very close to me. Please help me right now!!!!!	helpme08	10	638	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	I am sad (Preview) I am so sad right now. I can't even explain it!!! Not only did my AH drink all day, but he is making cutting remarks towards me and my family. My family is very close to me. Please help me right now!!!!!	helpme08	4	466	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Boyfriend's father dying of Cirrhosis. Help with my feelings/helping my boyfriend. (Preview) My boyfriend's dad was admitted to the hospital right before Christmas, and was diagnosed with HRS (cirrhosis, followed by acetis and kidney failure). The hospital won't treat him now as they feel there is nothing that can be done, and have given him 2-5 more days to live. My boyfriend is 36 and has li...	mesa_lady	6	2318	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	He called (Preview) As you all recall my rejection experience last weekend with the A. Me getting drunk and throwing myself at him and he not even wanting to have sex with me. You know the next morning still intoxicated I told him that my heart couldn't take it anymore and that we could be friendly but no longer friends. W...	Codependent	5	619	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Goodness sticks! (Preview) I made a good choice this year. I made my plan b my plan a! I went ahead and made my own plans with non-alcoholic people for christmas. I booked a flight to a best friends home who I have not seen in quite some time. We had a lot of fun hanging out and catching up. We cooked, we shopped, went to a movie, watc...	Jean4444	6	540	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	John and Rose Christmas and New Year Wish to YOU (Preview)	John	7	742	Dec 29, 2008 by aunitedway
	A bit puzzled.... (Preview) (((((Family))))), Hello to my favorite family. I hope you all had a wonderful holiday. I spent Christmas with my sister for half the day. I made waffles for them and then brought my 17 year old niece back with me. We spent the rest of the day playing with Pipers, cooking dinner, taking a walk. I even...	Karilynn	7	761	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Merry Christmas.... (Preview) Merry Christmas to all of you wonderful people out there in MIP land..... And if you don't celebrate Christmas, please join us in this time of good reflection for the things we are thankful for - health, sobriety, serenity, loved ones, etc., etc.... I continue to learn from so many on this board, and e...	canadianguy	8	524	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Gratitude (Preview) I went to a meeting yesterday and one of the people there said that there was nothing he would want for Christmas. What a different story it was for me. I had to look at my powerhouse of resentment up there, where's my....coat, apartment, job, friends, food, pressies... all totally destroying me. Tod...	maresie	3	441	Dec 29, 2008 by maresie
	Admitting my powerlessness and Acceptance (Preview) I'm new to this Website but not new to alanon. I have been a member for 5 years and have a wonderful sponsor who is now dealing with some difficult issues and, therefore, isn't able to connect with me as much these days. I am not sure where I will go from here but when the time is right I'm sure I'll be led to the...	hope for me n you	5	747	Dec 29, 2008 by hope for me n you
	Meditation ideas needed (Preview) Trying to get back into focusing on me and my program and thought I'd see what others do as forms of meditation..........This is a very new idea to me and I have some ideas but would like to broaden my horizons so to speak:) Thanks for the input......	shellyj123	7	910	Dec 28, 2008 by agatha
	Holiday detachment fuel (Preview) Good morning (((Family))) I'm already feeling stressed and "out of alignment" due to the long lines, the horrible traffic and the never-ending preparations! (I have GOT to let go of the perfectionism!) Later, my exAH will join my 2 adult kids and I for Christmas Eve. My kids had asked m...	glad lee	6	646	Dec 28, 2008 by Loupiness
	attitude change (Preview) We made it through xmas okay and I'm glad it's over. So anyway, concerning him staying gone on the weekends, just when I decided not to care anymore, he's not staying gone as much and he's calling me telling me what he's doing, where he's going. Not like I believe anything he's saying but it doesn't matte...	buick23	3	404	Dec 28, 2008 by Maria123
	newmember (Preview) Hello, I am new here, I just wanted to say hello to everyone.	daylight48	7	560	Dec 28, 2008 by daylight48
	Diminished plans and my very good holiday (Preview) This is not major, but I smile to remember it.I celebrate Christmas. I used to enjoy it whole hog and that turned into doing everything the next year I had done the year before plus something extra. That became required the following year, etc. Then Ive had bare-bones alone years of practically no cele...	Jill	2	508	Dec 28, 2008 by nmike
	Prayers for o2bnormal aka jonibaloni (Preview) Jonibaloni's mom passed away this morning. Would you all please say a prayer for our friend ((((((((Joni)))))))). May she know that we are with her during this loss. Thanks, Maria -- Edited by Maria123 at 00:24, 2008-12-27	Maria123	11	594	Dec 28, 2008 by o2bnormal
	Post Christmas Post (Preview) ((((Friends))))), While driving to work on Christmas eve, very early (5 am), checking off my list, it dawned on me that my list was just about complete and in the hecktedness of the holiday season where I was baking, shopping, wrapping, singing Christmas carols to myself, I was too busy and tired to do...	Maria123	3	531	Dec 27, 2008 by nmike
	put me on that prayer list! (Preview) Also keep everyone in mind that need some love. last week I got trampled by the gals horse who rents some pasture....was going to the doc again yesterday. right before I left to go to the doc I slipped and broke ribs on my right. it feels like a cramp that won't go away. Of course since I cannot bend over, and...	debilyn	9	604	Dec 27, 2008 by TLC2
	A's birthday is today (Preview) Today is my ex abf bday. I spoke to him yesterday on Christmas, not bc we were wishing each other a merry one, but more bc I found out that my sister and my brother's wife are both pregnant and both due one day after the other. I was feeling insanely jealous and resentful that this "easy" life co...	hopeful123	4	610	Dec 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	Struggling a bit with some program concepts(?)~need some input (Preview) Ex ABF is sober 10yrs and in recovery-working program. I have several other people I know who are also in the program-mostly AA. eXABF says things and I hear things from others that I am struggling with....."Focus on yourself......focus on you". Seems to me that if we all were tha...	shellyj123	6	523	Dec 27, 2008 by Jen
	Unwrapping the gift of Gratitude.. (Preview) Aloha MIP family young and old new and old timer. I take this little bit of time to express to you all my gratitude for all the love and support and ESH that you have freely offered over the last year and beyond. I owe you and others soooo much not the least of is my very life. Without the lantern that was he...	Jerry F	8	502	Dec 27, 2008 by ddub
	Practicing Our Mistakes (Preview) I find when I'm playing my saxophone, that I tend to make the same mistakes in the same places in the music. Over and over. In the same way. Now I can see making a mistake the first few times through unfamiliar music, especially when things get a little fast and furious. But when I make the exact same mi...	barisax	7	589	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	sitting at he library thinking about the holiday! (Preview) I have to go to the library to communicate all the time because I don't have computer at home--so here goes! I am feeling much more in the spirit of the holiday. It took realizing that I really don't have any control over anyone else's time & that I can be as happy as I want to be! That is why I am posting...	Hoot Nanny	2	411	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	The Holiday So Far (Preview) (((((MIP Family))))) Thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your well wishes for my famliy. We are surely benefiting from your kindness. While my son and I will be gathering around the Christmas tree in the morning without hubby/dad, we are accepting as we know that he is in the right place for now...	Rocky38	7	653	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Progress? (Preview) This past year has been really hard on me. I am learning a lot of things about myself that I have really known all along but didn't want to face. I am learning to stand up for myself because no one else can. That's my job. I am learning that I don't have to settle for someone who abuses me just to feel whole, I a...	3boysandonegirl	5	578	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	I made it through Christmas! (Preview) Well, I made it through Christmas, I only broke down hysterically crying once today - which was Christmas day, I started the day off journaling - "Well, here it is Christmas morning. I should be preparing to watch my kids open gifts around my own tree, in my own house with the man I love. But I am...	3boysandonegirl	2	679	Dec 26, 2008 by Maria123
	another good day thanks to alanon (Preview) Today was a good day. My daughter and I had fun. We went shopping with unexpected xmas money, went out to eat, got home and played ping pong, played little petshops, talked, just had fun together all day. She is so much fun to hang out with. Bf called in the afternoon, tells me he got off work early, is at a fr...	buick23	1	389	Dec 26, 2008 by daylight48
	Overcoming an abusive past... (Preview) Greetings! My name is Mindy, I often go by Melinda in the Chat room. I am new to the chat room as of about 3 weeks ago and new to this Group as a registered person as of today! I have found solace with the wonderful guys and gals in the chat room and am just simply thrilled to have found this site. I am working...	3boysandonegirl	1	472	Dec 26, 2008 by nmike
	Happy Holidays to my MIP Family (Preview) ((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to take a few minutes to wish all of you a Very Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwansa & Happy Holidays. I love you all very much and am so greatful for my MIP family. You have seen me through the hardest times and the happiest times. From the bottom of m...	Karilynn	6	463	Dec 25, 2008 by Andrea12
	Just a reminder of Marathon Meetings (Preview) *Marathon meetings start at 9 pm eastern time and go til 9pm Xmas Day -so no excuses for feeling alone . Hugs to all Louise*	abbyal	2	457	Dec 25, 2008 by NoVARaif
	do not understand (Preview) Hi All I just do not get it. We ( the kids and myself) ask are A over to open presant tonight. I get this thrid degree on how he dose not know where he is going to be and that I have not been asking question about how he is doing and where he is going to live and that I kicked him out and it is all back to it is my faul...	smileycat	4	515	Dec 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	Am I wrong? I need an interpreter (Preview) My AH drank some tequila at 10 am yesterday morning, then slept the entire day and night. It was his day off - he said he hasn't slept through the night in months because of his knee surgery and that he got to thinking and just drank because he wanted to go to sleep. He once had 14 years sober - until he met me...	Ash	8	488	Dec 24, 2008 by abbyal
	Serenity has arrived and I'm stunned at the power of the program (Preview) Hi MIP Family!, Just a quick post to say how grateful I am about this program. I know I have said similar things before, but today I feel even more grateful. The thing is, and this surprises me, I feel some sense of serenity, whether my AH continues drinking or not. How the heck did that happen? I know some o...	Rocky38	6	657	Dec 24, 2008 by LG
	article on drug rehab- interesting... (Preview) http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/23/health/23reha.html?partner=rss&emc=rss	Jean4444	3	460	Dec 24, 2008 by barisax
	Christmas Without AS (Preview) As someone helpfully suggested in an earlier post, I am trying to think about my 21-year-old son as a man and not my baby. My husband (his SF) refuses to let him back in the house even to visit. My son went to court on Thursday and didn't do what the judge ordered on Friday. I am not sure he'll follow through w...	Trinia2	4	365	Dec 24, 2008 by MamaMia
	Prayers for my AH Please MIP Family (Preview) Hi again MIP family, I just learned that my AH has been moved from the medical ward to ICU as he has fully entered DTs now. He was hallucinating, combative and confused. All this happened within an hour of my visit with him. During my visit with him this evening, he seemed OK. Maybe a little "fuzzy&q...	Rocky38	10	492	Dec 24, 2008 by Loupiness
	I haven't posted in a long time... (Preview) Healthy holiday wishes to all of you. I hope that you have some peace in the upcoming weeks. I haven't posted in about a month. My ExABF's birthday is the 26. Tomorrow is the birthday of my fiance who died 7 years ago--he should be turning 38. On top of that, it's Christmas week. So, basically, the on...	hopeful123	7	514	Dec 24, 2008 by hopeful123
	Help needed (Preview) I went ahead and stood my ground with my AW yesterday. I told her that her staying at home was no longer a negotiation and that she was to either find a recovery house or I would drop her off at a homeless shelter. She finally agreed to look up recovery houses and I told her she had until Thursday to have dec...	QuVat	4	523	Dec 23, 2008 by Jerry F
	Thanks! (Preview) I just wanted to say thank you to those of you that have responded to my post a couple of days ago. I have not been able to get to a face2face meeting yet due to scheduling, but if there is one thing that I picked up on here is that attending a face2face meeting is very important. Until I am able to get there, I...	helpme08	3	469	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	gaining some understanding about me and the 'its a disease' statement (Preview) Over the last few weeks of reading, listening to speakers, and doing online meetings ZI am finally grasping this osncept of 'I have to change.' But, knowing this, and knowing myself, I am reacting to it not so well. My thoughts are along the lines of 'oh great, another thing you've done WRONG.' I am an ac...	Lyndie	7	666	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	My first time (Preview) This is my very first time here. I feel that I need help and I hope to feel a little better after writing this. When my AH drinks, he usually decides to pick a fight (verbal) with me. I usually end up yelling at him back and it goes on and on. We say mean and hurtful things to each other. I don't know wha...	helpme08	3	483	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Requesting Prayer or ESH for Christmas at Ex A's mom's tomorrow (Preview) Tomorrow is Christmas at my A's mom's house. I know the A will be there, but I am not really concerned. I am feeling stronger in that area. However, my dad upset me today by stating that everyone there probably feels sorry for me like a foster child and that the A doesn't even care about me, left me with a...	Codependent	4	452	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Holiday struggles..... (Preview) I haven't been posting much, but have been here every day-usually several times a day reading and seeking the ESH from everyone's shares. I guess I haven't been posting much because right now I just don't feel I have anything good to give back. To be honest I am angry and filled with so much resentmen...	shellyj123	2	452	Dec 23, 2008 by maresie
	Two Kinds of People (Preview) How many times have you heard, "there are two kinds of people in the world, those who xxxxxx and those who yyyyyy". It's often a joke, or used to illustrate some point. Like, there are two kinds of people in the world, those who divide everybody into two kinds of people and those who don't....	barisax	8	531	Dec 23, 2008 by Jean4444
	just a question... (Preview) Hello all, and happy holidays to you and yours! I was wondering if any of you have any experience with the drug antabuse....if so, how well does it work, etc. Thanks for your input, its always appreciated! seeking peace, jeannie	liljeannie	6	534	Dec 23, 2008 by barisax
	New & feeling confused (Preview) Hi all, I am new to alanon, but unfortunately not new to alcoholism. I have been with my AB for 6 years, I for some reason didn't think that that I needed to do anything for myself. I figured it was his problem. He is in a 30 day treatment center, I committed him through the courts, his drinking was once a...	time4me	6	436	Dec 23, 2008 by nmike
	Making excuses? (Preview) If you're familiar with my last post "Now What" you'll know that I was trying very hard to keep any expectations I had of my newly sober wife in check. I heeded the excellent advice of fellow posters and decided to let go and wait for a sign from my HP. Unfortunately that sign came last night w...	QuVat	10	1026	Dec 23, 2008 by liljeannie
	New Here (Preview) Hello All! My story is long, so I'll just sum it up by saying that my husband isn't coming home tonight. I'd rather not see him at all, than to see him drunk AGAIN. We've been married for 9 years and have been dealing with his alcoholism for 3 years (since our son was born). He has cheated on me with a p...	N8SMOM	5	530	Dec 23, 2008 by nmike
	Why can't they just stop? (Preview) This has come up a few times recently. Why do they (fill in the blank)? Why can't they promise they will stop for their family? I don't know the answers for others, but for those that have those questions here is what I DO know. Alcohol is so powerful that eventually the body literally becomes depe...	Christy	7	739	Dec 22, 2008 by tma0413
	Do the holidays make anyone else wonder what an EX A is doing? (Preview) Christmas is almost here and this year I am finding it to be more difficult (emotionally) than other years. So much has changed in my life over the past year, some good, and some bad. I miss the people that I have lost in my life; either from death or because of choice. Yet I am so thankful for the relations...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	5	508	Dec 22, 2008 by glad lee
	Donation Frustration (Preview) I need your help. It is not a crisis, but I am getting frustrated. This year, instead of "usual" gifts, I am giving donations in people's names. For those who are in my AA/Al Anon family, I was trying to donate directly to World Service Office, and am finding myself running into walls. I s...	Tiger2006	2	629	Dec 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	Step 5-Feeling new....... (Preview) Well I made it through Step 5, and thought for sure I'd have a heart attack before hand-lol......I was certain NO ONE could understand, or not judge the insanity of my past. I mean I have judged me for years, why would another not? But thanks to the best sponser a girl could have, I made it through with...	shellyj123	1	439	Dec 21, 2008 by Jen
	fed up (Preview) Well, same ole, same ole. Nothing is changing, guess I need to change things for myself. The bf and I did drive around some together earlier today. Then, later on he leaves again for 5 hours. I went to the store just to get out of the house, and when I returned, we got into an argument. He tells me he was at his...	buick23	3	473	Dec 21, 2008 by Jen
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