Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Tracy · Tracy

I spent this weekend at an AA convention with al anon participation. WOW I met some of the most amazing people and recieved lots of gudance from HP. One AA member shared he was in a relationship with a nother AA member and how in an argument he had told her he she needed a meeting, he laughed and said he was f...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety for a few months now. I saw a therapist for the first time yesterday and after explaining all the things that have been going on in my life the past few years, she is convinced that my anxiety is because of my husband's drinking. We're dealing with a lot...

Sincerely · Sincerely

The sun came up and dried up all the water! I got dressed and went to lunch with 2 girlfriends. Hubby went to a meeting. I came home and hubby was pressure washing everything. Tomorrow morning, church with my A. And face to face for me at 6pm. ***and all of my appliances in the utility room are fine and dand...

Mariner · Mariner

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8 HI ((All)) I just wanted to share this with you. I was looking at old posts here last night, and found a link to Eckhart Tolle on youtube. Maybe some of you will know of him already. I found what he had to say very profound. If I havent managed to do the link th...

peacewithin · peacewithin

Hi everyone. I been reading the post for quite a while. Boy has it helped me alot. Yes I also go to F-F meeting too. I been married to my AH for 30 years. I'm still young yet too 47 Yes I got married young to get out of my alcoholic home. Hummm ! And here I am. Living it. I have 4 boys they are gettin tired too. They d...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I'd like to thank everyone who responded to my posts this weekend, it meant a great deal to me, as it was/is a very difficult time for me. For the longest time I believed that HP brought EXABF and I together as part of His plan for a life together for us. I still believe that in part, but today, I prayed fo...

cg85719 · cg85719

My partner has been sober this last time for one year, 5 months. He has been sober before and relapsed every time. Every time he got sober, including this time, it has only been because he would get mean, abuse me, I would have him arrested, and he would get sober in jail, then have to stay sober while on p...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Not sure if I somehow got into the wrong room or what.......there is a meeting going on tonight...well there would be if there were people in the room. Mandy

TLM · TLM

I was going to call this post 'Sunday Gratitude,' but then I am trying to spend time daily in gatitude, so simply 'gratitude.' I used to be in the practice of spending a few minutes a day thinking about what I was grateful for that day. I found that the more I did it, the easier the "attitude of gratit...

Tracy · Tracy

I have to post this after my convention I have so much I want to share and can not fit it all in one post. When I was t the covention I met a lot of amazing alocoholics in recovery. I have so much respect for these people when they share their stories of rock bottoms and gratitude for recovery I felt so very hu...

Holly09 · Holly09

I have been with my A boyfriend for almost 7 years now and have 2 little boys with him and 1 teenage boy from a previous marrage. I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago titled Alone and that really hasn't changed. I'm not sure anymore if my irritated, angry and alone feelings are a result of the drinking or no...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Just got off the phone with EXABF, and that is that. Basically I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling, and he said that I need to keep it in my mind that there is just a good a chance that he might decide it is best not to take things to the next level. That he feels alot of pressure because he hurt me befo...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Not sure what it is but today I just feel overwelming alone, for the first time in awhile. I think a lot of it may be the situation with EXABF, (and my son leaving for camp for a week is taking a toll too). I haven't been handling that well and have not been able to achieve the detachment that I know I need to h...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Well, GOD knows what is right for me. I think this is just another test that I have to pass. Yes, my garage and utility room have 3 inches of water and they are expecting more rain in about 4 hours. But I'm prepared, and I already put in my flood claim with my insurance company. I've packed my important...

Sincerely · Sincerely

OMG, my dog was trying to tell me that this was going to be bad last night. my garage is flooded. one inch more and it will be in my house. i'm in south louisiana, i've seen flooding like this, but never in my home. i'm gonna get my important papers and my photos and i am out of here. i'll keep you posted. ...

Rora · Rora

I spent some time with a long time friend over the past week. We've been friends nearly 15 years. She's wonderful. And what she's really really good at is minding her own business. She has a solid marriage, to a man who is not an A. They have a solid foundation and for the most part a very happy marriage...

deserve_more · deserve_more

The xxxx xxxx. Except that he doesn't know that I know. He was clever enough to even leave his usernames and passwords written down for me. I would be concerned for the marriage (if I thought that we really have one left), and if I hadn't googled the sites to learn that they are scams that want to lure him i...

maresie · maresie

I am trying to prepare for the summer and it looks like a long hard one for me. I'm trying to get some desperately needed dental work done as well as get new glasses. For me that means putting my head down and making that the focus. I'd love to hare some time off, relax and enjoy the scenery but my teeth are no...

superwoman_311 · superwoman_311

Hello, this is all fairly new to me. I found out a few weeks ago that my husband is addicted to cocaine and havnig a problem with alcohol as well. He stayed in a Rehab here in Houston, Texas for 16 days, he is now doing PHP (partial hospitalization) and living with his father at night. Its hard on me. I want hi...

perrier · perrier

Hello everyone, this is my first visit and I would like some direction. My husband is a very serious drinker, starts first thing in the morning, and is drunk about 5 days a week. He lost is driving license when he went to pick up our daughters from school! He drinks at work and as we work together in our o...

brightmommy · brightmommy

I am still not connecting with anyone in the f2f meetings...I am in need of a sponsor. I am looking for a female...who has worked the steps before. I would like someone who is a qualifier because of a spouse and/or an adult child of an A parent. I have been working the steps alone this time round...on St...

Annie69 · Annie69

A and his buddy came back here around 3 a.m. I had the door locked and WOULD NOT let them in. They yelled and scream so I called the law. When they got here A and his buddy went to jail. Still there for all I know. A tried to call me collect but I fixed it where I can't get calls from jail. Had a good day, wen...

Jozie · Jozie

My mother just stop'd by to let me know the news of Abrothers Court day.... I can not stand the worthless people that they have working in our court systems... I don't know why We even pay their salary's... THEY LET HIM GO!!! AGAIN... I mean lets see... He is 29 yrs old, he has a record to date of (4) DWI's (GU...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... So been doing some thinkin on the whole Abrother thing, sat down with my Mom yesterday and told her what I have been telling all of you..June 1st is D-Day... The Final finally of it all... The day I am No Longer responsible for ANY A's in my family... That is the day that all my responsibilty to my Afat...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I will be getting a root canal in the morning. Blech!! A consequence of what I believe to be the direct result of the self-neglect that came from the disease of co-dependency. It had been 2.5 yrs since I went to the dentist. Unbelievable. I used to go every 6 months. I love my teeth. I found out I...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I "borrowed" the title of this post from a response from Glad Lee the other day, but it got me to thinking.... I don't like "labels", for us, or others, as it tends to lump too many people/personalities/circumstances as one.... Two of the really common ones that we see on this b...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Alright I have never said this to anyone because I have never really thought of it. I think it's kind of part of step 4. I posted on here the last couple days about my A cheating and staying with this girl...I have been up and down and thinking A LOT. Here is what I have come up with. I was always afraid to have a...

Annie69 · Annie69

My A has a drinkin buddy that just got out of jail today. And buddy has called and called "drunk of course". His buddy has no place to stay and they want him to stay here. I told them both NO and No. A got mad a storm off to go drinkin with buddy. But before he left he said that I was a cold hearted...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

A lady in a meeting last week talked about how she hated the slogans when she first started AlAnon and thought they were trite, of course that was then. I had to laugh because I was the same way. How could a slogan or a little "chant" as I used to tease my EXABF ever solve or help my problems??...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Yesterday I was leaving work and a friend called me to tell me that my AH's roommate (we don't live together) called her husband to ask for help cause my AH was talking funny and unintelligeble. Of course I freaked and started crying and calling people to see who could go see what was going on. End of story...

maresie · maresie

Today one of my neighbors came up to me and revealed she is an animal lover just like me. I was really happy and my immediate response is to love bomb her with everything under the sun. Of course now I'm in recovery I don't love bomb anymore. I can't I know where that leads. I'm working hard to lead a life...

silver brumby · silver brumby

Dear All, Well after a year or so of thinking I didn't need Alanon, either the board or f2f, I humbly return to the rooms where I found understanding like no other. Face to face meetings and now online, I find friends are still here plugging away as before. I have to really committ to the recovery program...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well after the mounds of anxiety yesterday that I went through, I went home, regrouped and again crawled into bed with all my Al Anon books and started reading. I decided that I did not want to "stuff" my feelings over what EXABF had done and that I was not going to let it rob me of my sanity eith...

Diva · Diva

Today I came home from a shopping trip to WalMart. He's drunk. Made the last promise in November '08 to "never drink again." Fool that I am, I always hold out hope that this time....well you know how it goes. Am I angry? Yes. Does my heart hurt? Yes. Am I going to let it kill me? At one ti...

Sincerely · Sincerely

I think I have detoxed, if you want to call it that! My A has been in recovery (inpatient) for 72 hours right now. It is wild! I thought he would leave, I would rejoyce and he'd get the help he needed and I'll get well. NOT...I had to go through a little process of my own. After three days of pulling mysel...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok well if you read yesterdays post you will all know the demons of yesterday... :) I would like to thank all that returned the favor and posted for me...Love All the ESH... Well today is the tell tail day, to see if the court system will yet again fail! But I guess that isn't up to me now is it? So got up, new th...

Tracy · Tracy

Met may A and softened when he said he is going to go to a meeting. However deep down I thought it was for my benefit as he knows I want him to attend aa so we are on the same prograame. On the day of the meeting I went to his house to give him a lift. We ended up having a really indepth coversation that got a lit...

confusedgirl22 · confusedgirl22

I've been going to alanon meetings which have been a great help (when I go). but I'm not actually living with activity now so I do qualify for alanon?? It's just my behaviour patterns I want to change but when I work the alanon steps they work perfectly. Alanon is good but a lot of people go on about alc...

queenie105 · queenie105

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted here in quite a while, but I do pop in and visit pretty often. Since my last posting, my husband has been in recovery. To recap the past year of my life: AH was sober for over 15 years, relapsed for about 5 or 6 years, went to rehab in 2007 and remained sober 3 months, relaps...

Jozie · Jozie

Well... Here we are again... Welp, today I got out of bed, felt pretty good, got up showered and got the boy movin for school, today was my day to volunteer up at my sons school I go up every wens. Mind ya I don't get to see my son, because the program I run is for the elementary, BUT since my neice & nephew a...

confusedgirl22 · confusedgirl22

My family role is the "scapegoat". I hate myself for assuming such a weak coping mechanism. Intellectually I understand that I am an adult child and in a way, its a relief to get some sort of diagnosis. I went to psychologists, counsellors, CBT therapists, psychiatrists...the lot. All th...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

My last post is here title lost and confused or something like that... Alright I have been doing a lot of thinking the past couple days. Probably not enough. I keep changing my mind on whether or not I want to stay. But as I REALLY think about it I really am waiting for him to decide if he is going to stop seein...

clara · clara

Daughter is supposed to go into hospital Thursday. She will not talk to me; I guess she is mad because I did not take her into my home. If I had, we would be no where near the idea of rehab. She would be in back bedroom drunk and I would be wondering what to do. Several years ago she worked in a cute little sho...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hey y'all! I need some advice/experience. My husband is in rehab. Going on right about 48 hours. I wasn't expecting him to call me for the first 5 days but that is what i get for thinking I know everything, because he called. And boy was he mad! His treatment is competely voluntary. And he has been...

AlaMom · AlaMom

It used to be that anytime I felt deep despair it had to do with one of the alcoholics in my life. We I no longer live with active alcoholism and in fact have lived in a house of recovery for 3 years. In the last 6 months a I have watched 2 of my children make self destructive decisions with little regard of th...

Shell44 · Shell44

My husband and I have had a huge fight and he has gone to his family to vent. He explained to his sister everything that has gone on and she thinks everything is my fault because i drove him to it. I did not make him drink I did not make him steal from me I did not make him start with cocain. He told her everyth...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

My AH as you know is now in the west indies..Today I got a phone call from one of his customers (he is a builder), who I have met once socially. I explained that I was very sorry but the work he had promised he would do when he was there in January (just before he left me for good) wouldnt be getting done and I tol...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Went home last night, took a bubble bath and went to bed. Woke up and spent the rest of my awake time with my HP and buried in AlAnon literature, then back to sleep. Woke up still not feeling real well, then got the email from the ExABF about not adding my comment to his page for "no particular reaso...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a few months since I have written anything here. But I now feel that I can't do this alone and need to write this. My Diabetic AH has been losing control with his drinking for the last three weeks. He has always drank, but it's been worse the last three. Took off for a couple of hours three week...

Jozie · Jozie

Well I know by now "today" you are most likely thinking... What could have happened now.. We heard from her twice today... Well Thirds a charm my friends:) Or so they so... about an hour after my last post... My sons school called, and told me that he had fallen down a metal set of stairs and lan...

ddub · ddub

It is not easy getting an A to leave and I have not planned yet to leave with two teens struggling with mental health & school issures. I am following my path with help of sponsor, therapist, mostly hp and my own getting stronger slowly version of courage but it is exhausting and emotional and ha...

AnnieM · AnnieM

Hi everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I'm 38, been married 18-1/2 years, 2 teenagers. My husbands drinking has been an issue for most of our marriage, but last May I finally sat down and told him that he had to take me seriously, that I had to have some peace in my life, and that the only way I could see...

maresie · maresie

Al anon has helped me to be a better friend. Last week a friend of mine (I do still have a few) had the most alarming news that her husband has leukemia. I've had a long long history with this friend of being in the Karpmans triangle all the time. We both worked at a really horrible dysfunctional office...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

First of all I would like to Thank you all for your responses to my earlier posts. There was a lot of ESH in those posts, so thank you very much. The EXABF sent me a response to my email where I asked him if there was a reason he decided not to post my comment. He responded with "no particular reason&qu...

maryam · maryam

So now i have finally left my situation with my ex b/f. I have moved out of state and now in Fl, I am finding i am less stressed but also once again had to leave a job, insurance and alot of material things. I am angry resentful and hurt that i have spent 8 yrs with this person, through prison, treatments, deto...

New Balance · New Balance

My husband of 12 years is a drug addict & sex addict. We have two children. He has been in rehab for the last 6 months. He relapsed in January with drugs and the other woman. He went into a 6 wk inpatient rehab and was released a couple of weeks ago. His mother has been very sick so he spent a week with her...

ddub · ddub

so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

(((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...

buick23 · buick23

This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	growing pains (Preview) I spent this weekend at an AA convention with al anon participation. WOW I met some of the most amazing people and recieved lots of gudance from HP. One AA member shared he was in a relationship with a nother AA member and how in an argument he had told her he she needed a meeting, he laughed and said he was f...	Tracy	3	846	Mar 30, 2009 by Rora
	Anxiety? (Preview) I've been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety for a few months now. I saw a therapist for the first time yesterday and after explaining all the things that have been going on in my life the past few years, she is convinced that my anxiety is because of my husband's drinking. We're dealing with a lot...	N8SMOM	8	895	Mar 30, 2009 by N8SMOM
	Thank GOD for SUNSHINE! & a pressure washer! (Preview) The sun came up and dried up all the water! I got dressed and went to lunch with 2 girlfriends. Hubby went to a meeting. I came home and hubby was pressure washing everything. Tomorrow morning, church with my A. And face to face for me at 6pm. ***and all of my appliances in the utility room are fine and dand...	Sincerely	3	610	Mar 30, 2009 by Jozie
	One-sided love relationships (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8 HI ((All)) I just wanted to share this with you. I was looking at old posts here last night, and found a link to Eckhart Tolle on youtube. Maybe some of you will know of him already. I found what he had to say very profound. If I havent managed to do the link th...	Mariner	2	3461	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
	New Here Just tired of this disease (Preview) Hi everyone. I been reading the post for quite a while. Boy has it helped me alot. Yes I also go to F-F meeting too. I been married to my AH for 30 years. I'm still young yet too 47 Yes I got married young to get out of my alcoholic home. Hummm ! And here I am. Living it. I have 4 boys they are gettin tired too. They d...	peacewithin	3	900	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
	The true end~Walking back into my life... (Preview) I'd like to thank everyone who responded to my posts this weekend, it meant a great deal to me, as it was/is a very difficult time for me. For the longest time I believed that HP brought EXABF and I together as part of His plan for a life together for us. I still believe that in part, but today, I prayed fo...	shellyj123	1	397	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
	Personality change (Preview) My partner has been sober this last time for one year, 5 months. He has been sober before and relapsed every time. Every time he got sober, including this time, it has only been because he would get mean, abuse me, I would have him arrested, and he would get sober in jail, then have to stay sober while on p...	cg85719	5	2851	Mar 30, 2009 by brightmommy
	chat room (Preview) Hi all, Not sure if I somehow got into the wrong room or what.......there is a meeting going on tonight...well there would be if there were people in the room. Mandy	Mandy123	1	497	Mar 29, 2009 by Sincerely
	Gratitude (Preview) I was going to call this post 'Sunday Gratitude,' but then I am trying to spend time daily in gatitude, so simply 'gratitude.' I used to be in the practice of spending a few minutes a day thinking about what I was grateful for that day. I found that the more I did it, the easier the "attitude of gratit...	TLM	4	618	Mar 29, 2009 by TLM
	alcoholism the disease (Preview) I have to post this after my convention I have so much I want to share and can not fit it all in one post. When I was t the covention I met a lot of amazing alocoholics in recovery. I have so much respect for these people when they share their stories of rock bottoms and gratitude for recovery I felt so very hu...	Tracy	3	768	Mar 29, 2009 by hotrod
	feelings (Preview) I have been with my A boyfriend for almost 7 years now and have 2 little boys with him and 1 teenage boy from a previous marrage. I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago titled Alone and that really hasn't changed. I'm not sure anymore if my irritated, angry and alone feelings are a result of the drinking or no...	Holly09	2	588	Mar 29, 2009 by Sincerely
	You have got to be freakin kidding me!!!!!!!!! (Preview) Just got off the phone with EXABF, and that is that. Basically I tried to talk to him about how I was feeling, and he said that I need to keep it in my mind that there is just a good a chance that he might decide it is best not to take things to the next level. That he feels alot of pressure because he hurt me befo...	shellyj123	4	921	Mar 29, 2009 by glad lee
	Is letting go giving up? Feeling really alone today (Preview) Not sure what it is but today I just feel overwelming alone, for the first time in awhile. I think a lot of it may be the situation with EXABF, (and my son leaving for camp for a week is taking a toll too). I haven't been handling that well and have not been able to achieve the detachment that I know I need to h...	shellyj123	4	841	Mar 28, 2009 by DreamsOver
	Flooded, Retreat Canceled, Hubby Checked out of Rehab (Preview) Well, GOD knows what is right for me. I think this is just another test that I have to pass. Yes, my garage and utility room have 3 inches of water and they are expecting more rain in about 4 hours. But I'm prepared, and I already put in my flood claim with my insurance company. I've packed my important...	Sincerely	14	648	Mar 28, 2009 by wp
	OMG..when it rains..it floods (really, house flooded) (Preview) OMG, my dog was trying to tell me that this was going to be bad last night. my garage is flooded. one inch more and it will be in my house. i'm in south louisiana, i've seen flooding like this, but never in my home. i'm gonna get my important papers and my photos and i am out of here. i'll keep you posted. ...	Sincerely	8	907	Mar 28, 2009 by wp
	The glorious gift of being able to mind your own business... (Preview) I spent some time with a long time friend over the past week. We've been friends nearly 15 years. She's wonderful. And what she's really really good at is minding her own business. She has a solid marriage, to a man who is not an A. They have a solid foundation and for the most part a very happy marriage...	Rora	6	3502	Mar 28, 2009 by maresie
	AH actively looking for 'love connection' (Preview) The xxxx xxxx. Except that he doesn't know that I know. He was clever enough to even leave his usernames and passwords written down for me. I would be concerned for the marriage (if I thought that we really have one left), and if I hadn't googled the sites to learn that they are scams that want to lure him i...	deserve_more	8	818	Mar 28, 2009 by maresie
	back to reality (Preview) I am trying to prepare for the summer and it looks like a long hard one for me. I'm trying to get some desperately needed dental work done as well as get new glasses. For me that means putting my head down and making that the focus. I'd love to hare some time off, relax and enjoy the scenery but my teeth are no...	maresie	4	347	Mar 28, 2009 by maresie
	new at this.... (Preview) Hello, this is all fairly new to me. I found out a few weeks ago that my husband is addicted to cocaine and havnig a problem with alcohol as well. He stayed in a Rehab here in Houston, Texas for 16 days, he is now doing PHP (partial hospitalization) and living with his father at night. Its hard on me. I want hi...	superwoman_311	7	533	Mar 28, 2009 by Tiger2006
	Video Record a drunk! (Preview) Hello everyone, this is my first visit and I would like some direction. My husband is a very serious drinker, starts first thing in the morning, and is drunk about 5 days a week. He lost is driving license when he went to pick up our daughters from school! He drinks at work and as we work together in our o...	perrier	4	624	Mar 28, 2009 by perrier
	in need (Preview) I am still not connecting with anyone in the f2f meetings...I am in need of a sponsor. I am looking for a female...who has worked the steps before. I would like someone who is a qualifier because of a spouse and/or an adult child of an A parent. I have been working the steps alone this time round...on St...	brightmommy	2	408	Mar 28, 2009 by brightmommy
	Update on A and his drinkin buddy (Preview) A and his buddy came back here around 3 a.m. I had the door locked and WOULD NOT let them in. They yelled and scream so I called the law. When they got here A and his buddy went to jail. Still there for all I know. A tried to call me collect but I fixed it where I can't get calls from jail. Had a good day, wen...	Annie69	5	515	Mar 28, 2009 by Jean4444
	& So the Disappointment continues... :+( (Preview) My mother just stop'd by to let me know the news of Abrothers Court day.... I can not stand the worthless people that they have working in our court systems... I don't know why We even pay their salary's... THEY LET HIM GO!!! AGAIN... I mean lets see... He is 29 yrs old, he has a record to date of (4) DWI's (GU...	Jozie	3	428	Mar 28, 2009 by Heather72
	Pick'n Back Up (Preview) Ok... So been doing some thinkin on the whole Abrother thing, sat down with my Mom yesterday and told her what I have been telling all of you..June 1st is D-Day... The Final finally of it all... The day I am No Longer responsible for ANY A's in my family... That is the day that all my responsibilty to my Afat...	Jozie	6	601	Mar 27, 2009 by Rora
	would you rather......? (Preview) Hi Friends, I will be getting a root canal in the morning. Blech!! A consequence of what I believe to be the direct result of the self-neglect that came from the disease of co-dependency. It had been 2.5 yrs since I went to the dentist. Unbelievable. I used to go every 6 months. I love my teeth. I found out I...	Loupiness	9	549	Mar 27, 2009 by Loupiness
	Labels never helped me much (Preview) I "borrowed" the title of this post from a response from Glad Lee the other day, but it got me to thinking.... I don't like "labels", for us, or others, as it tends to lump too many people/personalities/circumstances as one.... Two of the really common ones that we see on this b...	canadianguy	11	767	Mar 27, 2009 by confusedgirl22
	Not even sure what to title this? (Preview) Alright I have never said this to anyone because I have never really thought of it. I think it's kind of part of step 4. I posted on here the last couple days about my A cheating and staying with this girl...I have been up and down and thinking A LOT. Here is what I have come up with. I was always afraid to have a...	Melissa21	9	541	Mar 27, 2009 by maresie
	A and his drinkin buddy (Preview) My A has a drinkin buddy that just got out of jail today. And buddy has called and called "drunk of course". His buddy has no place to stay and they want him to stay here. I told them both NO and No. A got mad a storm off to go drinkin with buddy. But before he left he said that I was a cold hearted...	Annie69	10	532	Mar 27, 2009 by Jerry F
	Easy does it~ How I used to hate those slogans:) (Preview) A lady in a meeting last week talked about how she hated the slogans when she first started AlAnon and thought they were trite, of course that was then. I had to laugh because I was the same way. How could a slogan or a little "chant" as I used to tease my EXABF ever solve or help my problems??...	shellyj123	3	545	Mar 27, 2009 by glad lee
	Scared to death and confused (Preview) Yesterday I was leaving work and a friend called me to tell me that my AH's roommate (we don't live together) called her husband to ask for help cause my AH was talking funny and unintelligeble. Of course I freaked and started crying and calling people to see who could go see what was going on. End of story...	Priscilla83	6	660	Mar 27, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Being codependent is the immediate response (Preview) Today one of my neighbors came up to me and revealed she is an animal lover just like me. I was really happy and my immediate response is to love bomb her with everything under the sun. Of course now I'm in recovery I don't love bomb anymore. I can't I know where that leads. I'm working hard to lead a life...	maresie	4	554	Mar 26, 2009 by java
	Humble comeback (Preview) Dear All, Well after a year or so of thinking I didn't need Alanon, either the board or f2f, I humbly return to the rooms where I found understanding like no other. Face to face meetings and now online, I find friends are still here plugging away as before. I have to really committ to the recovery program...	silver brumby	8	663	Mar 26, 2009 by Peggy7
	Has anyone seen my self esteem? Regaining focus....... (Preview) Well after the mounds of anxiety yesterday that I went through, I went home, regrouped and again crawled into bed with all my Al Anon books and started reading. I decided that I did not want to "stuff" my feelings over what EXABF had done and that I was not going to let it rob me of my sanity eith...	shellyj123	2	542	Mar 26, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Another broken promise...I have run out of fingers and toes... (Preview) Today I came home from a shopping trip to WalMart. He's drunk. Made the last promise in November '08 to "never drink again." Fool that I am, I always hold out hope that this time....well you know how it goes. Am I angry? Yes. Does my heart hurt? Yes. Am I going to let it kill me? At one ti...	Diva	10	694	Mar 26, 2009 by helpme08
	Detoxing from My A Hubby (Preview) I think I have detoxed, if you want to call it that! My A has been in recovery (inpatient) for 72 hours right now. It is wild! I thought he would leave, I would rejoyce and he'd get the help he needed and I'll get well. NOT...I had to go through a little process of my own. After three days of pulling mysel...	Sincerely	4	674	Mar 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	How Ironic... HP Thanks... (Preview) Ok well if you read yesterdays post you will all know the demons of yesterday... :) I would like to thank all that returned the favor and posted for me...Love All the ESH... Well today is the tell tail day, to see if the court system will yet again fail! But I guess that isn't up to me now is it? So got up, new th...	Jozie	1	601	Mar 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	individual (Preview) Met may A and softened when he said he is going to go to a meeting. However deep down I thought it was for my benefit as he knows I want him to attend aa so we are on the same prograame. On the day of the meeting I went to his house to give him a lift. We ended up having a really indepth coversation that got a lit...	Tracy	1	584	Mar 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	alanon v aca-which is better? (Preview) I've been going to alanon meetings which have been a great help (when I go). but I'm not actually living with activity now so I do qualify for alanon?? It's just my behaviour patterns I want to change but when I work the alanon steps they work perfectly. Alanon is good but a lot of people go on about alc...	confusedgirl22	4	3494	Mar 26, 2009 by confusedgirl22
	Going away for a long weekend - a little stressed - some ESH please (Preview) Hi Everyone, I haven't posted here in quite a while, but I do pop in and visit pretty often. Since my last posting, my husband has been in recovery. To recap the past year of my life: AH was sober for over 15 years, relapsed for about 5 or 6 years, went to rehab in 2007 and remained sober 3 months, relaps...	queenie105	5	502	Mar 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	Remind me to Let Go & Let God :( (Preview) Well... Here we are again... Welp, today I got out of bed, felt pretty good, got up showered and got the boy movin for school, today was my day to volunteer up at my sons school I go up every wens. Mind ya I don't get to see my son, because the program I run is for the elementary, BUT since my neice & nephew a...	Jozie	3	674	Mar 26, 2009 by shellyj123
	Resistance (Preview) My family role is the "scapegoat". I hate myself for assuming such a weak coping mechanism. Intellectually I understand that I am an adult child and in a way, its a relief to get some sort of diagnosis. I went to psychologists, counsellors, CBT therapists, psychiatrists...the lot. All th...	confusedgirl22	3	615	Mar 25, 2009 by canadianguy
	Update? (Preview) My last post is here title lost and confused or something like that... Alright I have been doing a lot of thinking the past couple days. Probably not enough. I keep changing my mind on whether or not I want to stay. But as I REALLY think about it I really am waiting for him to decide if he is going to stop seein...	Melissa21	6	543	Mar 25, 2009 by Sincerely
	Another scared, lonely and sleepless night coming on (Preview) Daughter is supposed to go into hospital Thursday. She will not talk to me; I guess she is mad because I did not take her into my home. If I had, we would be no where near the idea of rehab. She would be in back bedroom drunk and I would be wondering what to do. Several years ago she worked in a cute little sho...	clara	6	423	Mar 25, 2009 by Sincerely
	I don't know if I am saying the right things!!! ??? (Preview) Hey y'all! I need some advice/experience. My husband is in rehab. Going on right about 48 hours. I wasn't expecting him to call me for the first 5 days but that is what i get for thinking I know everything, because he called. And boy was he mad! His treatment is competely voluntary. And he has been...	Sincerely	5	599	Mar 25, 2009 by Sincerely
	Despair is not alway alcohol related... (Preview) It used to be that anytime I felt deep despair it had to do with one of the alcoholics in my life. We I no longer live with active alcoholism and in fact have lived in a house of recovery for 3 years. In the last 6 months a I have watched 2 of my children make self destructive decisions with little regard of th...	AlaMom	4	922	Mar 25, 2009 by hotrod
	I hate her!!! (Preview) My husband and I have had a huge fight and he has gone to his family to vent. He explained to his sister everything that has gone on and she thinks everything is my fault because i drove him to it. I did not make him drink I did not make him steal from me I did not make him start with cocain. He told her everyth...	Shell44	11	735	Mar 25, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Things were worse than I knew (Preview) My AH as you know is now in the west indies..Today I got a phone call from one of his customers (he is a builder), who I have met once socially. I explained that I was very sorry but the work he had promised he would do when he was there in January (just before he left me for good) wouldnt be getting done and I tol...	Lilly Burn	5	495	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Calmer but still struggling some with program issues~ (Preview) Went home last night, took a bubble bath and went to bed. Woke up and spent the rest of my awake time with my HP and buried in AlAnon literature, then back to sleep. Woke up still not feeling real well, then got the email from the ExABF about not adding my comment to his page for "no particular reaso...	shellyj123	4	498	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Need help today! Long story.... (Preview) It's been a few months since I have written anything here. But I now feel that I can't do this alone and need to write this. My Diabetic AH has been losing control with his drinking for the last three weeks. He has always drank, but it's been worse the last three. Took off for a couple of hours three week...	helpme08	4	814	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Proof of Change.... (Preview) Well I know by now "today" you are most likely thinking... What could have happened now.. We heard from her twice today... Well Thirds a charm my friends:) Or so they so... about an hour after my last post... My sons school called, and told me that he had fallen down a metal set of stairs and lan...	Jozie	7	634	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	update, some venting, maybe ok (Preview) It is not easy getting an A to leave and I have not planned yet to leave with two teens struggling with mental health & school issures. I am following my path with help of sponsor, therapist, mostly hp and my own getting stronger slowly version of courage but it is exhausting and emotional and ha...	ddub	1	424	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	new here with questions (Preview) Hi everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I'm 38, been married 18-1/2 years, 2 teenagers. My husbands drinking has been an issue for most of our marriage, but last May I finally sat down and told him that he had to take me seriously, that I had to have some peace in my life, and that the only way I could see...	AnnieM	5	598	Mar 25, 2009 by aunitedway
	Being a better friend (Preview) Al anon has helped me to be a better friend. Last week a friend of mine (I do still have a few) had the most alarming news that her husband has leukemia. I've had a long long history with this friend of being in the Karpmans triangle all the time. We both worked at a really horrible dysfunctional office...	maresie	3	461	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	TRYING soooooo hard NOT to react!!!! (Preview) First of all I would like to Thank you all for your responses to my earlier posts. There was a lot of ESH in those posts, so thank you very much. The EXABF sent me a response to my email where I asked him if there was a reason he decided not to post my comment. He responded with "no particular reason&qu...	shellyj123	3	535	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	update alcoholic b/f (Preview) So now i have finally left my situation with my ex b/f. I have moved out of state and now in Fl, I am finding i am less stressed but also once again had to leave a job, insurance and alot of material things. I am angry resentful and hurt that i have spent 8 yrs with this person, through prison, treatments, deto...	maryam	3	537	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Need advice support & encouragement (Preview) My husband of 12 years is a drug addict & sex addict. We have two children. He has been in rehab for the last 6 months. He relapsed in January with drugs and the other woman. He went into a 6 wk inpatient rehab and was released a couple of weeks ago. His mother has been very sick so he spent a week with her...	New Balance	9	1010	Mar 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	stuck (Preview) so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...	ddub	1	442	Mar 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	Just Want To Talk...... (Preview) (((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...	DreamsOver	6	574	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	upset (again) (Preview) This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...	buick23	3	575	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Codependent vs Masochist (Preview) The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?	GailMichelle	10	4783	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
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