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AlaMom · AlaMom

It used to be that anytime I felt deep despair it had to do with one of the alcoholics in my life. We I no longer live with active alcoholism and in fact have lived in a house of recovery for 3 years. In the last 6 months a I have watched 2 of my children make self destructive decisions with little regard of th...

Shell44 · Shell44

My husband and I have had a huge fight and he has gone to his family to vent. He explained to his sister everything that has gone on and she thinks everything is my fault because i drove him to it. I did not make him drink I did not make him steal from me I did not make him start with cocain. He told her everyth...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

My AH as you know is now in the west indies..Today I got a phone call from one of his customers (he is a builder), who I have met once socially. I explained that I was very sorry but the work he had promised he would do when he was there in January (just before he left me for good) wouldnt be getting done and I tol...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Went home last night, took a bubble bath and went to bed. Woke up and spent the rest of my awake time with my HP and buried in AlAnon literature, then back to sleep. Woke up still not feeling real well, then got the email from the ExABF about not adding my comment to his page for "no particular reaso...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a few months since I have written anything here. But I now feel that I can't do this alone and need to write this. My Diabetic AH has been losing control with his drinking for the last three weeks. He has always drank, but it's been worse the last three. Took off for a couple of hours three week...

Jozie · Jozie

Well I know by now "today" you are most likely thinking... What could have happened now.. We heard from her twice today... Well Thirds a charm my friends:) Or so they so... about an hour after my last post... My sons school called, and told me that he had fallen down a metal set of stairs and lan...

ddub · ddub

It is not easy getting an A to leave and I have not planned yet to leave with two teens struggling with mental health & school issures. I am following my path with help of sponsor, therapist, mostly hp and my own getting stronger slowly version of courage but it is exhausting and emotional and ha...

AnnieM · AnnieM

Hi everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I'm 38, been married 18-1/2 years, 2 teenagers. My husbands drinking has been an issue for most of our marriage, but last May I finally sat down and told him that he had to take me seriously, that I had to have some peace in my life, and that the only way I could see...

maresie · maresie

Al anon has helped me to be a better friend. Last week a friend of mine (I do still have a few) had the most alarming news that her husband has leukemia. I've had a long long history with this friend of being in the Karpmans triangle all the time. We both worked at a really horrible dysfunctional office...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

First of all I would like to Thank you all for your responses to my earlier posts. There was a lot of ESH in those posts, so thank you very much. The EXABF sent me a response to my email where I asked him if there was a reason he decided not to post my comment. He responded with "no particular reason&qu...

maryam · maryam

So now i have finally left my situation with my ex b/f. I have moved out of state and now in Fl, I am finding i am less stressed but also once again had to leave a job, insurance and alot of material things. I am angry resentful and hurt that i have spent 8 yrs with this person, through prison, treatments, deto...

New Balance · New Balance

My husband of 12 years is a drug addict & sex addict. We have two children. He has been in rehab for the last 6 months. He relapsed in January with drugs and the other woman. He went into a 6 wk inpatient rehab and was released a couple of weeks ago. His mother has been very sick so he spent a week with her...

ddub · ddub

so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

(((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...

buick23 · buick23

This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Made it there early as we always do.. I have issues yet with being late:)... My SIL drove and she too does not like running late... So was a little strange as we had an idea, but was not sure, were it was exactly bacause it was in the hospital... SOOOO glad that I went... Was a Newbie there, and she was...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well after hearing from my sponsor today and reading the replies to my post I "came down" a bit from my obsessing high:). I am not feeling well at all today and was overburdened at work from the minute I came in the door because I had my usual work to do, plus my boss took off so I had to do her list a...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

This is the first time I have posted on here. I have replied to a couple others. I am pretty new to Alanon. I joined the chat meetings in December, but never really started working the program till about a month ago. And I think the past month I have done very well. My boyfriend is my A. We have a son together....

babysteps · babysteps

I just went back and read all of the topics I have started since I found this board in 2006. It is very interesting to see the progression in myself from a person willing to do anything to help the A in my life to someone willing to do anything to help myself, because I am the only person I can actually affect!...

maresie · maresie

My birthday is coming up in 2 months and coincides with the possible end of my tenure with a wondeful intern for counselling who I have had a lot of success with. My normal approach to birthdays is to bury my head and try not to deal with it. I know how far I got doing that at Christmas. I have also, like man...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! Gratefully I got to my morning home group meeting next to the ocean and gosh I had not realized how much HP can do in such a short time and how much my group members (80+ of them) can change and learn in the same small piece of life. One of my fellow brothers shared his new awarenesses about a &...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Went to a new F2F meeting last night, and believe genuinely that that is where I was supposed to be. Meetings was wonderful and so nice to meet some new faces and get myself "recharged" for the week ahead. Have spoken off and on to EXABF since our date Friday and have to say I am in a place wit...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well today is one of those "off" days we all have and I am trying to remember that. Woke up feeling like I was hit with a bus and still exhausted, so I am sure that is not helping. EXABF took off sick yesterday so I sent him a get well comment to his Myspace page. He and I met on Myspace, and it is a sen...

meagain · meagain

I wrote a few days aga about my youngest son always calling me. Of course he always was good at calling me...but now there's no work, and the calls are really getting to me! He called a few days ago to get the phone # of #2 son--to see if he can help him with building houses etc...well # 2 son also has no work!!...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have never had a slow moving, normal, healthy relationship and I have NO idea how to go about it, what it's supposed to look like and how to control the thing in my heart and brain that drives me into this obsessiveness. I can see how this is about control. I want to MAKE him keep loving me, do what I want h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I got an email from the EXABF this am, saying that he had a nice time too and that he wouldn't date anyone else until we decided what we are going to do besides that he just wants to keep it "light" and won't be consumed again by what we should or should not do or the implications of it as that i...

Grandma Deb · Grandma Deb

I guess I just introduce myself. I'm a 55 yr old woman, married for 34 years to the same man. six kids, plus some fosters. You can imagine this man is quite wonderful, really. There isn't anything he won't do for others. He was a wonderful father and a very good husband, in his way. He provided for us a...

deserve_more · deserve_more

The disease has really taken control - at least many cancers are curable or fought into remission. AH does nothing but drink around the clock, and doesn't seem to think that's wrong. As long as I don't confront him, any words we exchange are about the weather or 'look how cute the dog/cat is'. If I dare ev...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Yesterday I went to my home group meeting- sundays at 9AM. There was a woman there I had not seen before. She was an old timer and in both programs. I really loved what she said when it was time to share. I went up to her and told her so and gave her my card with my phone numbers on it. She gave me hers. She c...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Son has started smoking and drinking aged 15, being very difficult and it is turning into an intolerable situation, am barely getting by with it, as he is quite abusive, send on your prayers please, I need to get things sorted,

wjwcalifgirl · wjwcalifgirl

last night was a long long night for me. Started about 2 pm in the afternoon when my abf told me his friend ( one and only friend he has) was comming by. Now I have no problem with his friend nice guy. Well his friend stopped by and picked up some beer and scotch. ( friend does not drink scotch - and knows tha...

clara · clara

Yesterday I told AD she could not come here. This was her last option and it did not work out as she had hoped it would. So, I guess she see rock bottom from where she was at. A gentleman friend of her family is making phone calls and her blank, blank, blank, husband is finally willing to let go of some of hi...

JS · JS

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Jozie · Jozie

Well got up this morning did my reading, and put out a post, and thought... WHELP... Time to get the ball rolling on finish off "what I can" of what has to be paid off and done my June with it comes to Desease Afathers belongs... Wanted to get a jump on things...Soooo paid off the water bill, and...

Ilovemydaughter · Ilovemydaughter

My daughter is an AH and drug addict. She is spiraling out of control. I believe that death may be in her near future as it seems like this may be her only rock bottom. I am frustrated because everyone tells me .. there's nothing I can do. She is 21 years old and has been to rehab .. attended AA .. had a spon...

clara · clara

I did want I have been going to Al-Anon for and coming to this board. I phoned daughter and told her she could not come here. I do not think she was shocked. I think she saw it coming. She said Brad was sending the divorce papers to our house. I will "return to sender". I am completely ou...

lucky · lucky

I don't have much experience with addiction. My xabf is my son's father, and is the only a in my life, to my knowledge. I recently broke it off, for the billionth time. I have been along for the ride, for the most part, and didn't really recognize how much it affected ME until I was pregnant. I started to rea...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi all... I am try'n out a New F2F tonight, kind of excited, because if all goes well then I know I can go there this summer when I wont be able to get to my "home" F2F... So crossing my fingers for a good night... I was babysitn Fri. so didn't get to get to my usual one, so this worked out perfect f...

clara · clara

I am the person that wondered if Al-Anon would kick me out for not following through on my promises. Well, this has probably been one of the worse days of my life. I called my AD and told her she could under no circumstances come to our house. She is now completely out of options. I have cried a river of te...

Tracy · Tracy

Met my Ab in a local park I was feeling so strong knew he was not going to change my mind he told he he loved me didnt want to loose me. told me it was mad that I was running from him just as he is finally ready to look at himself. to cut a long story short he said he wants to go to aa but has needed time to accept his p...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

After a very low day on Friday, all day in bed nearly, feeling desparately low...which is when I last posted, Saturday I started my new very small part time job at a lovely womenswear designer shop in town working with my friend. Had a good day, came home tired, ate (thats something thats coming back aft...

Holly09 · Holly09

I haven't posted here but once, I've been so busy with the kids and finally going to the gym (doing something for myself). After almost 7 years with my A boyfriend I feel like I'm in this relationship by myself most of the time. Part of it is because he works 2nd shift and 6-7 days a week, but when he is home...

Tracy · Tracy

I think I have finally accepted that I carnt change, fix or make over my boyfriend. for 4 years I have been insanly focusing on his life trying to turn him into another person. HE IS WHO HE IS ACCEPT IT he does have probs with drnk nothing I can do. so what does this leave me with I dont want a lifelike this. I d...

ollie · ollie

hi mip family. my A has been in hospital for 4 days detoxing,he seems alot more focused. he is promising to go to AA. this is his first time. has anyone had any success with this. i know better than to build up any kind of hope. i was just wondering. love to you all ollie x

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I noticed that this weekend I have been somewhat distant from my program and HP (of course I have a tendancy to be a perfectionist in everything I do-Imagine that!:)) Part I'm sure has been because I didn't make my Friday night home meeting, part from not feeling well, and part I'm sure due to recent c...

clara · clara

I was on the phone with my sister and in near hysterics over AD. For the past 3 days daughter has been promising(threatening) to come to our house. I work myself up in a frenzy and then she does not show. Tomorrow I will call her before church and tell not to bother. Then I will throw myself upon the alte...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have found that in my new relationship I feel very needy. It's complicated because I work days and he works nights and he still lives with his parents (yes I know I know... he's young...) so that complicates things too. In the past I always rushed into relationships and then we were glued together af...

wjwcalifgirl · wjwcalifgirl

I decided that I needed to talk to my abf again yesterday after my soap box performance the night before to find out how much sank in and what was is honest thoughts. He aggreed we needed to talk so this was not hard and I decieded not to harp on things or repeat it if he remembers and suprising enough he did...

clara · clara

I posted my first message earlier today and I got very, very good advise. However, I was not strong enough to follow your excellent advise. When my daughter called and begged me if she could come here and stay until her new place was ready(10 very long days), I said "OK". Her husband kicked...

Karilynn · Karilynn

WE HAVE ANOTHER BIRTHDAY GIRL - A ST. PATRICK'S BIRTHDAY! LET US ALL RAISE OUR TO OUR LOVELY BECKY! WOOHOO! YOU'RE A VERY BEAUTIFUL 21 YEAR OLD! HAPPY BIRTHDAY BECKY! REMEMBER CALORIES DON'T COUNT ON YOUR BIRTHDAY WEEK. SO YOU CAN GO AHEAD HAVE YOUR AND EAT IT TOO! HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY AND EXTRA SPEC...

Christy · Christy

Happy Birthday Glad Lee!!!! I'm glad you were born Have a wonderful day!!

ernie · ernie

February Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on February 8th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Vote for January Business Meeting Minutes - Voted on and accepted Treasurers Report was passed as an agenda item as we do not have a Treasurer ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

I'm piggy backing off my last post Boundaries and Expectations. I'm up the creek again. I seen the recovering A this morning coincidentally. He avoided calling and texting yesterday. This morning when I confronted him, he told me that he is starting to care too much and has to slow things down. WTF?? I...

Goodtillitsbad · Goodtillitsbad

And thanks to Al Anon I'm learning to live with this. I can only control MY actions and decisions. I'm new here and just wanted to share this thought. My AH is in rehab (first time) and just called me last night saying he's going to be coming home soon(can be there up to 90 days - it's only been 17 days since...

spirited1 · spirited1

For those of you who are reading this......I decided to change my screen name, and have a bit more anonimity(?)....this is shellyj123, and today is the first day of Spring:). I'm starting over with a fresh start, and thought a new name would be nice. Spent yesterday rereading all of my old posts and wa...

clara · clara

AD was supposed to come to my house yesterday until her apartment was ready. Well, as it turns out, there still is no apartment. She may go stay with her sister in law instead, but that will not be available until about 10 days. Daughter did not show up; claims a migraine headache. So, anyway, here we...

Christy · Christy

I don't recall where I found this but it was saved in my computer. It seemed appropriate for the first day of spring and members of Alanon. We've been tending our Sacred Garden. It is now giving rise to Dream seeds -- ones planted with Faith Wisdom, watered with our tears of Joy and Gratitude, and tender...

ollie · ollie

hi wonderful family. i have a question ,hoping you can help me with. a is coming out of hospital tomorrow ,after being in 4 days of detoxation. he does seem alot more focused ,and has agreed to go to AA. has anyone had a sucess with this,its his first time,i have learned not to build any hopes up here,but wo...

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	Despair is not alway alcohol related... (Preview) It used to be that anytime I felt deep despair it had to do with one of the alcoholics in my life. We I no longer live with active alcoholism and in fact have lived in a house of recovery for 3 years. In the last 6 months a I have watched 2 of my children make self destructive decisions with little regard of th...	AlaMom	4	803	Mar 25, 2009 by hotrod
	I hate her!!! (Preview) My husband and I have had a huge fight and he has gone to his family to vent. He explained to his sister everything that has gone on and she thinks everything is my fault because i drove him to it. I did not make him drink I did not make him steal from me I did not make him start with cocain. He told her everyth...	Shell44	11	676	Mar 25, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Things were worse than I knew (Preview) My AH as you know is now in the west indies..Today I got a phone call from one of his customers (he is a builder), who I have met once socially. I explained that I was very sorry but the work he had promised he would do when he was there in January (just before he left me for good) wouldnt be getting done and I tol...	Lilly Burn	5	422	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Calmer but still struggling some with program issues~ (Preview) Went home last night, took a bubble bath and went to bed. Woke up and spent the rest of my awake time with my HP and buried in AlAnon literature, then back to sleep. Woke up still not feeling real well, then got the email from the ExABF about not adding my comment to his page for "no particular reaso...	shellyj123	4	438	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Need help today! Long story.... (Preview) It's been a few months since I have written anything here. But I now feel that I can't do this alone and need to write this. My Diabetic AH has been losing control with his drinking for the last three weeks. He has always drank, but it's been worse the last three. Took off for a couple of hours three week...	helpme08	4	752	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Proof of Change.... (Preview) Well I know by now "today" you are most likely thinking... What could have happened now.. We heard from her twice today... Well Thirds a charm my friends:) Or so they so... about an hour after my last post... My sons school called, and told me that he had fallen down a metal set of stairs and lan...	Jozie	7	564	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	update, some venting, maybe ok (Preview) It is not easy getting an A to leave and I have not planned yet to leave with two teens struggling with mental health & school issures. I am following my path with help of sponsor, therapist, mostly hp and my own getting stronger slowly version of courage but it is exhausting and emotional and ha...	ddub	1	357	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	new here with questions (Preview) Hi everyone. I wanted to introduce myself. I'm 38, been married 18-1/2 years, 2 teenagers. My husbands drinking has been an issue for most of our marriage, but last May I finally sat down and told him that he had to take me seriously, that I had to have some peace in my life, and that the only way I could see...	AnnieM	5	514	Mar 25, 2009 by aunitedway
	Being a better friend (Preview) Al anon has helped me to be a better friend. Last week a friend of mine (I do still have a few) had the most alarming news that her husband has leukemia. I've had a long long history with this friend of being in the Karpmans triangle all the time. We both worked at a really horrible dysfunctional office...	maresie	3	400	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	TRYING soooooo hard NOT to react!!!! (Preview) First of all I would like to Thank you all for your responses to my earlier posts. There was a lot of ESH in those posts, so thank you very much. The EXABF sent me a response to my email where I asked him if there was a reason he decided not to post my comment. He responded with "no particular reason&qu...	shellyj123	3	463	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	update alcoholic b/f (Preview) So now i have finally left my situation with my ex b/f. I have moved out of state and now in Fl, I am finding i am less stressed but also once again had to leave a job, insurance and alot of material things. I am angry resentful and hurt that i have spent 8 yrs with this person, through prison, treatments, deto...	maryam	3	470	Mar 25, 2009 by maresie
	Need advice support & encouragement (Preview) My husband of 12 years is a drug addict & sex addict. We have two children. He has been in rehab for the last 6 months. He relapsed in January with drugs and the other woman. He went into a 6 wk inpatient rehab and was released a couple of weeks ago. His mother has been very sick so he spent a week with her...	New Balance	9	938	Mar 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	stuck (Preview) so I am trying to get past the accusation from AH that he stopped wanting to talk to me once my depression started 10 yrs ago. aarrrrgh, I didn't take this well as we all have triggers. I feel I was diagnosed and had meds started then because of all the stress from living with an A that triggered the de...	ddub	1	380	Mar 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	Just Want To Talk...... (Preview) (((((Hugs))))) to Everyone. How do we function with so much pain? I am amazed by all of you and in myself, that we can get up every morning & do the things we must, take care of our families, hold jobs and run our homes. We go through our day to day duties, if people could just see inside our minds and our...	DreamsOver	6	510	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	upset (again) (Preview) This is my best outlet to vent. I caught my bf on a porn site that shows local women. I confronted him about it and he denied going on there (of course). Turned it all around on me (as always). He's said hurtful things. The next day he took the 2nd computer (where the site was saved) out of the house, said he wa...	buick23	3	510	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Codependent vs Masochist (Preview) The psychologist that I have seen for quite awhile ended our last session with this statement: "There's a fine line between a codependent and a masochist." He tends to end our sessions with some food for thought. He knows I'm a deep thinker. Any thoughts?	GailMichelle	10	4357	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	New Meeting went Well :) (Preview) Welp... Made it there early as we always do.. I have issues yet with being late:)... My SIL drove and she too does not like running late... So was a little strange as we had an idea, but was not sure, were it was exactly bacause it was in the hospital... SOOOO glad that I went... Was a Newbie there, and she was...	Jozie	2	373	Mar 24, 2009 by Sincerely
	Trying to start over and take it slow with a past love~Feeling Confused, and incompetant. (Preview) Well after hearing from my sponsor today and reading the replies to my post I "came down" a bit from my obsessing high:). I am not feeling well at all today and was overburdened at work from the minute I came in the door because I had my usual work to do, plus my boss took off so I had to do her list a...	shellyj123	3	928	Mar 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm lost and confused (Preview) This is the first time I have posted on here. I have replied to a couple others. I am pretty new to Alanon. I joined the chat meetings in December, but never really started working the program till about a month ago. And I think the past month I have done very well. My boyfriend is my A. We have a son together....	Melissa21	11	1219	Mar 24, 2009 by Sincerely
	Old Posts (Preview) I just went back and read all of the topics I have started since I found this board in 2006. It is very interesting to see the progression in myself from a person willing to do anything to help the A in my life to someone willing to do anything to help myself, because I am the only person I can actually affect!...	babysteps	3	547	Mar 24, 2009 by Jean4444
	Birthdays oh those special occasions! (Preview) My birthday is coming up in 2 months and coincides with the possible end of my tenure with a wondeful intern for counselling who I have had a lot of success with. My normal approach to birthdays is to bury my head and try not to deal with it. I know how far I got doing that at Christmas. I have also, like man...	maresie	4	852	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Open minded awarenesses... (Preview) Aloha Family!! Gratefully I got to my morning home group meeting next to the ocean and gosh I had not realized how much HP can do in such a short time and how much my group members (80+ of them) can change and learn in the same small piece of life. One of my fellow brothers shared his new awarenesses about a &...	Jerry F	4	891	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Easy does it~trying not to become the caboose again:) (Preview) Went to a new F2F meeting last night, and believe genuinely that that is where I was supposed to be. Meetings was wonderful and so nice to meet some new faces and get myself "recharged" for the week ahead. Have spoken off and on to EXABF since our date Friday and have to say I am in a place wit...	shellyj123	3	435	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	I can feel the obsessing coming on fast!!!!-Please help with some ESH!!!! (Preview) Well today is one of those "off" days we all have and I am trying to remember that. Woke up feeling like I was hit with a bus and still exhausted, so I am sure that is not helping. EXABF took off sick yesterday so I sent him a get well comment to his Myspace page. He and I met on Myspace, and it is a sen...	shellyj123	5	694	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	another call to "Mom" (Preview) I wrote a few days aga about my youngest son always calling me. Of course he always was good at calling me...but now there's no work, and the calls are really getting to me! He called a few days ago to get the phone # of #2 son--to see if he can help him with building houses etc...well # 2 son also has no work!!...	meagain	3	520	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	I guess the problem is... (Preview) I have never had a slow moving, normal, healthy relationship and I have NO idea how to go about it, what it's supposed to look like and how to control the thing in my heart and brain that drives me into this obsessiveness. I can see how this is about control. I want to MAKE him keep loving me, do what I want h...	carolinagirl	7	691	Mar 24, 2009 by maresie
	Boundary setting?? (Preview) Well I got an email from the EXABF this am, saying that he had a nice time too and that he wouldn't date anyone else until we decided what we are going to do besides that he just wants to keep it "light" and won't be consumed again by what we should or should not do or the implications of it as that i...	shellyj123	2	560	Mar 24, 2009 by Diva
	Good Lord how do I start? (Preview) I guess I just introduce myself. I'm a 55 yr old woman, married for 34 years to the same man. six kids, plus some fosters. You can imagine this man is quite wonderful, really. There isn't anything he won't do for others. He was a wonderful father and a very good husband, in his way. He provided for us a...	Grandma Deb	6	677	Mar 24, 2009 by Diva
	How to help/set boundries w/ AH who doesn't want to quit? (Preview) The disease has really taken control - at least many cancers are curable or fought into remission. AH does nothing but drink around the clock, and doesn't seem to think that's wrong. As long as I don't confront him, any words we exchange are about the weather or 'look how cute the dog/cat is'. If I dare ev...	deserve_more	7	792	Mar 24, 2009 by blender_girl
	The unconditional love of this program (Preview) Yesterday I went to my home group meeting- sundays at 9AM. There was a woman there I had not seen before. She was an old timer and in both programs. I really loved what she said when it was time to share. I went up to her and told her so and gave her my card with my phone numbers on it. She gave me hers. She c...	Jean4444	3	553	Mar 24, 2009 by Rora
	Problems with son (Preview) Dear All, Son has started smoking and drinking aged 15, being very difficult and it is turning into an intolerable situation, am barely getting by with it, as he is quite abusive, send on your prayers please, I need to get things sorted,	maire rua	7	858	Mar 24, 2009 by maire rua
	Stood my ground did not go well (Preview) last night was a long long night for me. Started about 2 pm in the afternoon when my abf told me his friend ( one and only friend he has) was comming by. Now I have no problem with his friend nice guy. Well his friend stopped by and picked up some beer and scotch. ( friend does not drink scotch - and knows tha...	wjwcalifgirl	5	918	Mar 23, 2009 by blender_girl
	Good news, good news!!! She wants to go to the hospital!!! (Preview) Yesterday I told AD she could not come here. This was her last option and it did not work out as she had hoped it would. So, I guess she see rock bottom from where she was at. A gentleman friend of her family is making phone calls and her blank, blank, blank, husband is finally willing to let go of some of hi...	clara	7	472	Mar 23, 2009 by Karilynn
	After 2 + years of sobriety founded out AH is drinking again and maybe cheating too (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42727&p=3&topicID=24935869	JS	10	704	Mar 23, 2009 by maresie
	What a morning already! :) (Preview) Well got up this morning did my reading, and put out a post, and thought... WHELP... Time to get the ball rolling on finish off "what I can" of what has to be paid off and done my June with it comes to Desease Afathers belongs... Wanted to get a jump on things...Soooo paid off the water bill, and...	Jozie	1	434	Mar 23, 2009 by abbyal
	New & Need some help, advice, prayers! (Preview) My daughter is an AH and drug addict. She is spiraling out of control. I believe that death may be in her near future as it seems like this may be her only rock bottom. I am frustrated because everyone tells me .. there's nothing I can do. She is 21 years old and has been to rehab .. attended AA .. had a spon...	Ilovemydaughter	4	764	Mar 23, 2009 by clara
	I finally took the stand!!! (Preview) I did want I have been going to Al-Anon for and coming to this board. I phoned daughter and told her she could not come here. I do not think she was shocked. I think she saw it coming. She said Brad was sending the divorce papers to our house. I will "return to sender". I am completely ou...	clara	4	547	Mar 23, 2009 by Rora
	right or wrong answer? (Preview) I don't have much experience with addiction. My xabf is my son's father, and is the only a in my life, to my knowledge. I recently broke it off, for the billionth time. I have been along for the ride, for the most part, and didn't really recognize how much it affected ME until I was pregnant. I started to rea...	lucky	5	674	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	New Meeting Tonight :) YEAH :) (Preview) Hi all... I am try'n out a New F2F tonight, kind of excited, because if all goes well then I know I can go there this summer when I wont be able to get to my "home" F2F... So crossing my fingers for a good night... I was babysitn Fri. so didn't get to get to my usual one, so this worked out perfect f...	Jozie	2	569	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	Remember--will Al-Anon kick me out?? That was me that wrote that (Preview) I am the person that wondered if Al-Anon would kick me out for not following through on my promises. Well, this has probably been one of the worse days of my life. I called my AD and told her she could under no circumstances come to our house. She is now completely out of options. I have cried a river of te...	clara	1	493	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	unsure (Preview) Met my Ab in a local park I was feeling so strong knew he was not going to change my mind he told he he loved me didnt want to loose me. told me it was mad that I was running from him just as he is finally ready to look at himself. to cut a long story short he said he wants to go to aa but has needed time to accept his p...	Tracy	2	620	Mar 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	Good day...good day (Preview) After a very low day on Friday, all day in bed nearly, feeling desparately low...which is when I last posted, Saturday I started my new very small part time job at a lovely womenswear designer shop in town working with my friend. Had a good day, came home tired, ate (thats something thats coming back aft...	Lilly Burn	5	592	Mar 22, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Alone (Preview) I haven't posted here but once, I've been so busy with the kids and finally going to the gym (doing something for myself). After almost 7 years with my A boyfriend I feel like I'm in this relationship by myself most of the time. Part of it is because he works 2nd shift and 6-7 days a week, but when he is home...	Holly09	3	683	Mar 22, 2009 by hotrod
	acceptance (Preview) I think I have finally accepted that I carnt change, fix or make over my boyfriend. for 4 years I have been insanly focusing on his life trying to turn him into another person. HE IS WHO HE IS ACCEPT IT he does have probs with drnk nothing I can do. so what does this leave me with I dont want a lifelike this. I d...	Tracy	4	461	Mar 22, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	question (Preview) hi mip family. my A has been in hospital for 4 days detoxing,he seems alot more focused. he is promising to go to AA. this is his first time. has anyone had any success with this. i know better than to build up any kind of hope. i was just wondering. love to you all ollie x	ollie	4	525	Mar 22, 2009 by ollie
	Opening up the tool box (Preview) I noticed that this weekend I have been somewhat distant from my program and HP (of course I have a tendancy to be a perfectionist in everything I do-Imagine that!:)) Part I'm sure has been because I didn't make my Friday night home meeting, part from not feeling well, and part I'm sure due to recent c...	shellyj123	1	700	Mar 22, 2009 by Tracy
	Thank God for Sisters and friends like you!!!! (Preview) I was on the phone with my sister and in near hysterics over AD. For the past 3 days daughter has been promising(threatening) to come to our house. I work myself up in a frenzy and then she does not show. Tomorrow I will call her before church and tell not to bother. Then I will throw myself upon the alte...	clara	2	595	Mar 22, 2009 by clara
	Old habits die hard! (Preview) I have found that in my new relationship I feel very needy. It's complicated because I work days and he works nights and he still lives with his parents (yes I know I know... he's young...) so that complicates things too. In the past I always rushed into relationships and then we were glued together af...	carolinagirl	7	950	Mar 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	took another stand this time he had not been drinking (Preview) I decided that I needed to talk to my abf again yesterday after my soap box performance the night before to find out how much sank in and what was is honest thoughts. He aggreed we needed to talk so this was not hard and I decieded not to harp on things or repeat it if he remembers and suprising enough he did...	wjwcalifgirl	3	710	Mar 21, 2009 by wjwcalifgirl
	Will Al-Anon kick me out??? (Preview) I posted my first message earlier today and I got very, very good advise. However, I was not strong enough to follow your excellent advise. When my daughter called and begged me if she could come here and stay until her new place was ready(10 very long days), I said "OK". Her husband kicked...	clara	19	1731	Mar 21, 2009 by bri4444
	Another birthday girl! (Preview) *WE HAVE ANOTHER BIRTHDAY GIRL - A ST. PATRICK'S BIRTHDAY! LET US ALL RAISE OUR TO OUR LOVELY BECKY! WOOHOO! YOU'RE A VERY BEAUTIFUL 21 YEAR OLD!* *HAPPY BIRTHDAY BECKY!* *REMEMBER CALORIES DON'T COUNT ON YOUR BIRTHDAY WEEK. SO YOU CAN GO AHEAD HAVE YOUR AND EAT IT TOO! HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY AND EXTRA SPEC...*	Karilynn	7	420	Mar 21, 2009 by tea2
	HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (Preview) Happy Birthday Glad Lee!!!! I'm glad you were born Have a wonderful day!!	Christy	8	448	Mar 21, 2009 by tea2
	February Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) February Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held on February 8th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Vote for January Business Meeting Minutes - Voted on and accepted Treasurers Report was passed as an agenda item as we do not have a Treasurer ...	ernie	5	506	Mar 21, 2009 by ernie
	Date night (Preview) Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...	shellyj123	0	355	Mar 21, 2009 by shellyj123
	Back on the Roller Coaster (Preview) I'm piggy backing off my last post Boundaries and Expectations. I'm up the creek again. I seen the recovering A this morning coincidentally. He avoided calling and texting yesterday. This morning when I confronted him, he told me that he is starting to care too much and has to slow things down. WTF?? I...	Saved By Grace	9	550	Mar 21, 2009 by Saved By Grace
	I have no control (Preview) And thanks to Al Anon I'm learning to live with this. I can only control MY actions and decisions. I'm new here and just wanted to share this thought. My AH is in rehab (first time) and just called me last night saying he's going to be coming home soon(can be there up to 90 days - it's only been 17 days since...	Goodtillitsbad	7	497	Mar 21, 2009 by Sincerely
	Starting over~fearless (Preview) For those of you who are reading this......I decided to change my screen name, and have a bit more anonimity(?)....this is shellyj123, and today is the first day of Spring:). I'm starting over with a fresh start, and thought a new name would be nice. Spent yesterday rereading all of my old posts and wa...	spirited1	2	579	Mar 21, 2009 by Sincerely
	Another scarey uncertain day (Preview) AD was supposed to come to my house yesterday until her apartment was ready. Well, as it turns out, there still is no apartment. She may go stay with her sister in law instead, but that will not be available until about 10 days. Daughter did not show up; claims a migraine headache. So, anyway, here we...	clara	5	891	Mar 21, 2009 by Karilynn
	Seedlings of possibility (Preview) I don't recall where I found this but it was saved in my computer. It seemed appropriate for the first day of spring and members of Alanon. We've been tending our Sacred Garden. It is now giving rise to Dream seeds -- ones planted with Faith Wisdom, watered with our tears of Joy and Gratitude, and tender...	Christy	1	367	Mar 21, 2009 by Karilynn
	need a little info (Preview) hi wonderful family. i have a question ,hoping you can help me with. a is coming out of hospital tomorrow ,after being in 4 days of detoxation. he does seem alot more focused ,and has agreed to go to AA. has anyone had a sucess with this,its his first time,i have learned not to build any hopes up here,but wo...	ollie	1	551	Mar 20, 2009 by Jozie
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