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Well after a year or so of thinking I didn't need Alanon, either the board or f2f, I humbly return to the rooms where I found understanding like no other. Face to face meetings and now online, I find friends are still here plugging away as before. I have to really committ to the recovery program now and take it seriously. I realise how eroded my soul has become after 15 years of living with an alcoholic. I kicked him out for a while only to fall back into the same for another year. I didn't have a plan and I allowed the disease to lull me into a false sense of security and I fell away from the program while I had a last ditch effort of fixing my husband. Finally, I realised that pride was the reason I wouldn't admit I was married to a wreck and I stopped making excuses for him. I started to see him as he really was. A seriously messed up person. And now, in Alanon I see how messed up I am. I decided I couldn't live with him while he is active and asked him to leave.(again!) Finally, though I still have pangs from the thought, I have resolved that if he doesn't get sober and join AA then I don't want him back. Before, I just wanted to control him and make him suffer, but this time it is all about me. Recovery is his choice, and not my problem anymore. So that's where I am at folks. A grateful member of Alanon. Time for me to get serious and do the steps and fully recover.. Thank God for Alanon. Silverbrumby
Welcome Back! My name is Tonya and I am happy to have a new friend. I've been a member of the MIP family since July of 08. In contrast to where you are at, but still so similar...
* You said....Finally, though I still have pangs from the thought, I have resolved that if he doesn't get sober and join AA then I don't want him back. *
Well, I have pangs from the thought that my A is finally in treatment at an inpatient recovery center, has 72 hours under his belt, and I may still not want to be married to him.
But for today...I am going to enjoy myself and worry about that later.
Hey good to see you SB! Welcome back- sounds like you needed to work it out and you have and I think that is good. You are always welcome to come back. So am I. Sometimes we need to do what we need to do and I know I always find my way back here and thank goodness its still around. Our paths are not straight and narrow!! Lots of dead ends and cul de sacs, etc. I am just glad to see you back here again, I recall you were a good strong smart voice here and offered good ESH. Hugs, J.
Welcome back home. Your MIP family is here and waiting for you with open arms. The beauty of recovery is that we can restart our recovery whenever we want to. There is no right or wrong way to work our recovery - just our way. Glad you came back. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty <-- the cat
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it's funny, as it reminds me of my beginnings with Al-Anon, where I originally went to this one meeting - and stopped after a couple of meetings, deciding that it was just a "bunch of bitter old ladies complaining about their A husbands"..... I decided it wasn't for me...
So I went back to trying to do it all on my own, with an A-wife, two small children at home, etc., and things got progressively worse..... A year or more later, I went back to that same room, with those same people, and they were warm, loving, and very welcoming - all at various stages of their own circumstances/recovery, but I felt "home" there.... Boy, did they ever learn a lot in that year I was gone!!!!! (teasing, as obviously I simply wasn't ready the first time around).
I still like that tongue-in-cheek Al-Anon promise - "try us for six meetings, and if you aren't 100% satisfied, we will gladly refund your misery!"
Glad you're back, and take care. Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
return to the rooms where I found understanding like no other.
Your MIP family is here and waiting for you with open arms. 
The beauty of recovery is that we can restart our recovery whenever we want to. There is no right or wrong way to work our recovery - just our way. Glad you came back. Much love and blessings to you and your family. 
HuG))))) 
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