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carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It was the night from hell and I didn't think I could hurt that much again but there it was. Missed some work and felt somewhat like I lost my soul. He came over Friday night and we talked openly and honestly and worked things out for now but I'm feeling once bitten twice shy and a little hesitant to trust t...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I have posted on here the past 2 weeks about my A having an affair i guess you would call it. Well I can't deal with it anymore. I want to pack my crap and leave now. But I don't have a job have been looking for 4 months with no luck. I have 2 kids. I get 220 a month for child support for my oldest. I called a crisis ho...

spirit · spirit

Hi everyone, you are the only ones that will listen, it seems like I have been writing here when things go bad. I am sorry. Let me apoligize from my heart. i am very sorry. I didnt mean to be selfish. i am in so much pain and this is all I have. I dont have friends or family or anyone i can turn to. so very isolate...

Geez_Wiz · Geez_Wiz

Hi... I am so angry at my dad. He is 81 years old and he started drinking heavily, before we eat dinner, since he was 77 years old. He drinks around 5pm and then he lays down until dinner on the table. When dinner comes he seems sober. However, right before he sits down for dinner, he seems to be sneaking for m...

gngcrzy · gngcrzy

Question for the old timers... There's a new meeting being set up. It's about 2 months old and is about 1/3 business meeting every week because of it- oi! But that's not my question- it'll work itself out. My concern is that they've made a deal with the church where it meets to pay 10% of the 7th Trad colle...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

In my home group we focussed on perfectionism. Perfectionism is such a rampant symptom of our disease. Its a great topic and one I hope to gain more ES & H on through this post. I think I am really understanding WHY perfectionism is such a toxic thing for me. For me, perfectionism is actually fea...

mia883 · mia883

Karma: Consequences of one's actions. The motives behind an action. Motivation usually makes the difference between "good" and "bad", but included in the motivation is also the aspect of ignorance; so a well-intended action from an ignorant mind can easily be "bad&q...

clara · clara

I suffer from clinical depression. I cannot blame my depression on anything or anyone. However, when things kind of pile up on me, I go down in the dumps. That is where I am today. First of all, my AD has the family in a drama situation. Even if I ignore her phone calls, I still worry(my own fault). Nev...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Do relationships exist where you can count on your spouse being emotionally available? Will my A Hubby ALWAYS be emotionally unavailable? Is it too much to ask for my a husband to put my cares, concerns, hopes, dreams, fears or even our marriages hopes and dreams somewhere on his list of things to ad...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been to 4 f2f meetings this past week and I always hear about working the steps. What I want to know is, how and when do you work them? For instance, 2 of the meetings this week focused on Step 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. One of the women at the meeting said that she...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Ever wonder about how things like "28-day" rehabs evolved? If you're like me, you'd hope that there was some "science" behind it all, and it took that amount of time for addicts to have their best chance at sobriety.... My understanding is that the 28-days was arrived at, mos...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), If you have been watching CNN today, then you know about the shooting at the American Civic Association. 12 people are dead, so is the gunmen and numerous are injured. I am stunned by this news. There were problems in the community with gangs coming in and recovery is not easy in this...

gngcrzy · gngcrzy

I got a rather strong lecture from my sponsor about how I needed to share in meetings more. I will talk more about it with her, but I am curious to know what other people think about it. For myself, I find ESH too high of a bar. I don't usually have strength or hope to share. My shares are pretty much confus...

hort7 · hort7

Hello, I am new here and pretty new to world of diagnosed alcoholism. My AH has been a drinker for most of the 16 years we have been married and has been sober for 9 months on 03/29/09. Thank you, God! His pattern of drinking was about every 6-8 weeks going on a 1 day binge. I had an inkling there was a problem b...

spirited1 · spirited1

Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...

HangingOn · HangingOn

I am new here and need some help. I have a session with my AH and his rehab counselor tomorrow. What should I say or should I keep quiet and just listen? Do I believe what he has to say? I'm not sure if its ok to articulate how confused and disappointed I am, or should I try to stay positive and try to move ah...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Tomorrow will be one week since my A Hubby came home from his brief 4 day rehab stay. I must admit, I have been impressed with my A Hubby's renewed strength. Years ago, I always said that I was prepared if he slipped. After big sober for 3 years he slipped. It has been a long hard miserable crazy 5 year sl...

Bernice · Bernice

Hi everyone. I'm new here and not quite sure if I am posting this correctly. My name is Bernice and I have been married for nine years. My husband has been sober six months. We have been seperated for a few years. I take care of me and my children well. I attend codependancy meetings. I fell out of love with h...

Shell44 · Shell44

Ok, so my AH got 2 summon's to appear in court for a missed child support payment back in 06 and another one for not paying a certain % of healthcare for his other daughter. This is all out of jealousy from his ex. anytime she is jealous or mad they are in court for something. Anyways, this upset my AH so he...

Jozie · Jozie

A Butterfly Lesson.... One day a small opening appeared on a cocoon; a man sat & watched for the burtterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then, it seems to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could not go any further... S...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

Sadly, two days ago I got the dreaded phone call from the old ex partner, her chance to get back at me after 7 years...she told me lots of things, some i think were lies some I dont, but she had me in tears for two hours so well done her.Anyway she did tell me that my AH apparantly thinks that Im cool about our sp...

Mariner · Mariner

Hi (((All))) The disease of alcoholism has taken over a friend of mine. I work in the health profession, Tuesday whilst on duty I came across an old friend. I was so shocked as to their condition. He's so ill with all the complications of alcoholic liver disease. To see him this way was awful, it reall...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, I told in another post how a friend of my AH called and said he was talking weird and I freaked out. Well yesterday AH came over and told me that YES, he was sick for 4 hours, not being able to talk, drink water, eyes rolled back, purple lips, seizure, bad bad bad. He was smoking heroin! This is new inform...

QOD · QOD

I have not been on here in a really long time. I initially became a member b/c my husband was abusing drugs and alcohol. It took some time but I was finally able to get a divorce from him. He got his life straightened out and now we are dating again. Not living together but dating. My current situation i...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I met my boyfriend's mom last night. I got the oh my god my son has lost his mind vibe from her. I talked to him on the phone a few minutes ago and he said she said I was nice and there was a pause... and so I said and? and some other things that are between me and her... I'm pretty good at reading people and I'm u...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Okay so I posted on here last week my A is having an affair and openly tells me like there is nothing wrong with it. I have let go and let god. I do my best to only worry about me and just for today. We have gotten along pretty well surprisingly since this has happened, but he sits and acts like I am still his gir...

Nettie Spaghetti · Nettie Spaghetti

I am new to this site, but not to Al-Anon. It saved my life about ten years ago while my AH was actively doing drugs and drinking. I have been with my AH for 15 years, the last 7 ½ he has been sober. I have just recently become aware that not much has changed. I stopped going to Al-Anon shortly after my hus...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

We are scheduled to leave for Hawaii (the Big Island) one week from today. We go every year and we consider it our second home. Last year's trip was ruined a bit by my husband's drinking. Since I still have bad feelings/memories from last year, I decided that this year we'd make some changes - we're s...

Diva · Diva

It was a one-day drunk with all the trimmings. Next day, he straightened himself up, and made all the promises..sounds like a broken record... How would he ever get along without me, the love of his like? Really? Actually it took three days for him to get over the effects of the alcohol. He drinks i...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hi All! This week I am devoting it to keeping my mouth shut. I am practicing the anonymity part of the program. I am so used to being an open book. You ask, I tell. You don't ask, I share. So far, so good. I feel like people at work and my friends know too much of my business. But that is my own fault. I wa...

clara · clara

Earlier post I mentioned that I had not heard from AD for over a week, since I told her she could not crash at our house, because I knew she would be drinking here. Well, guess what? You are right. She called to let me know she did not "drop from the face of the earth". She told me that she had &quo...

Canary · Canary

With my husband newly sober and now, once again, living at home, I am learning how to live one day at a time. SO often I sit and start to worry and panic over what can happen tomorrow. The "what if's" come to mind. What if he drinks again? What if he doesn't come home from work again? What if I star...

maresie · maresie

One of the tasks I have been putting off for a while now is organizing my storage unit. I think its a symbol of all that I've lost. I had a home with the ex A a nice home with a garden I tended, room to move and space. Now I have a temporary home and a storage unit. I don't want to look at the stuff I accumulated w...

barisax · barisax

Not quite fifteen. But close enough. There's something about that number. It runs through my life and when I look back, there are an awful lot of red, yellow, green, blue, orange, white, and black flags sticking through the number 15. Not just on the calendar, although there are plenty of those. ...

Canary · Canary

I have posted in the recent past how my husband, after 8 years of sobriety, started drinking again. After a year of hell, a stint in rehab and being suspended from his job, I removed him from the house. Having 2 babies at home and working full time made it very difficult. I was a mess. My AH is now living back...

silver brumby · silver brumby

I have kicked my AH out again and he has found caretakers next door! It's crazy. But perhaps they will have some time to realise what a user he is. (he used to go over there to get away from me now he is living there.) All he wants to do is come back home so he can have a free ride and spend all his leisure time doin...

Dale · Dale

Hi My name is Dale and I am a gratiful member of Alanon, and AA I have been a member of this site for approximatly one yr. Before that I lived aa for almost 21 yrs, Spent some time in ACOA, All the while growing. Today I need to share something. I woke up crying, part of it was tears of joy and part tears of sadne...

brightmommy · brightmommy

any suggestions on how to move forward past the hurt and anger of past event? I am having a difficult time letting go and not reacting. Also, I think I am just forgetting instead of forgiving. Still hurting today brightmommy -- Edited by brightmommy on Tuesday 31st of March 2009 08:41:56 PM

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

hank you everyone for your tips and support. After I wrote the first post I felt better just releasing my irritation and frustration and seeing people do care and understand what i am going thru helps a lot. Once again I arrived home AH drunk again but this time i just walked away and went about my evening...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Today Me and My Husband desided to take a day and play hookie from work since it has been sooo slow.. I was so excited... We went down to our property by the river, and spent the day... It was invigerating... I mowed, I weeded, I raked, I walked, I put fenses up, cleaned up trash the wind blows aroun...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am seeing that we all have programs. Programs are provisional sets of belief systems in which we live our lives- we all have a program! The issue then is WHAT KIND of program am I going to use in my life today (just for today)? I have had terrible programs- ones that were toxic and very self destructive...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well my son left for camp yesterday and EXABF walked away again on Saturday, and I am feeling more alone that I have ever, but in a way I am ok with it. I realized, through the help of many of you, that EXABF just can't offer what I want-for whatever reason's he is just not capable. I can no longer allow my...

Tired Mom · Tired Mom

I have been lurking on this site since last summer, I kept thinking I didn't belong here and that my situation was different. Seven months later I no longer think that, and I'm very scared for my family. Three years ago I had what I would have described as a great life. I was married to a great guy, we hav...

clara · clara

Daughter did not go into rehab as she promised last week. Not surprised. Anyway, since I would not let her come to live with us, she is not speaking to me. I am counting my blessings. So, i have no idea on what is going on with her. Last week, we had a horrible lightning storm. Lightning struck our phone...

HangingOn · HangingOn

I have ten years with a very functional alcoholic who finally was forced by an ultimatum to enter rehab on 3/19. As background, he decided to get loaded and blow off picking his 6 year old daughter up at the bus. Oh BTW...he decided to pull this stunt on my 3rd day of work at a new job. I am trying to detach f...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

A lot of responses to my post this weekend pretty much said the same thing......he isn't treating me right, walk away. If I cared about him I would want what is best for him and let go and let God. And that is all understandable and fine, but I did do all that before......I severed all contact in January a...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband had an appointment with a rheumatologist this morning for his chronic back pain. My son and I were on our way out of the house for an activity when he came home. He didn't look good and said the appointment didn't go well. I apologized for having to leave (we were running late). I asked him n...

reef999 · reef999

Hi all, So I left my ex ABF 2 and a half months ago. He went back to AA got a new sponsor and was very gung ho about everything. He had 2 months 2 weeks ago and we were starting to talk on the phone every now and then as "friends". Last Friday I started getting really horrible hurtful texts from hi...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, my AH's dealer called me like every day to try and get a hold of him, cause he owned him money. One day I just got tires of having to talk to that dumb*** so I gave him the A's office number. I guess the dealer has been calling nonstop, cause my AH called and he was furious!! He asked me if I gave the dealer his...

TLM · TLM

Has anyone here been through it and want to share a little about it with me?

Tracy · Tracy

I went to my f2f tonight I have been to al anon meetings for the past 4 days because of the covention then tonight. I feel I am walking on air. However last night and early today acceptance had me in the pits this journey is tough but I know I am heading in the right direction. Subject tonight was listen an...

brightmommy · brightmommy

I would be interested in having an online step study meeting to go over my thoughts and feelings of the steps. I can not attend the night time step meeting...and would like to suggest we have a daytime step meeting as well. Would anyone else be interested in having a meeting? I know it would have to be a...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

EXABF just sent me an email advising that "considering our conversation and the weirdness in my head I think we should take a break". He said he knows it is all him and he needs to figure some things out (again), and that he hoped I know how much he cares for me and my son (actions speak so much l...

Jozie · Jozie

I just got 2 thinking about somethings tho.. When I was growing up, we didn't get to do alot of anything AT ALL, Only place I went other then school, was my mom would put us all in swimming lessons in the summer, we were gone most of the day, because of were the bus had to take us, and I think that helped her...

Tracy · Tracy

I had a chat with my sponsor today she said that if I focused on my recovery and told AB that we couldnt be together until he is in recovery that he may promise again that he will enter recovery. we discussed recovery mine and an A's. I carnt be with anyone at moment need to really focus on me. I dont want hi...

Tracy · Tracy

I spent this weekend at an AA convention with al anon participation. WOW I met some of the most amazing people and recieved lots of gudance from HP. One AA member shared he was in a relationship with a nother AA member and how in an argument he had told her he she needed a meeting, he laughed and said he was f...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety for a few months now. I saw a therapist for the first time yesterday and after explaining all the things that have been going on in my life the past few years, she is convinced that my anxiety is because of my husband's drinking. We're dealing with a lot...

Sincerely · Sincerely

The sun came up and dried up all the water! I got dressed and went to lunch with 2 girlfriends. Hubby went to a meeting. I came home and hubby was pressure washing everything. Tomorrow morning, church with my A. And face to face for me at 6pm. ***and all of my appliances in the utility room are fine and dand...

Mariner · Mariner

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8 HI ((All)) I just wanted to share this with you. I was looking at old posts here last night, and found a link to Eckhart Tolle on youtube. Maybe some of you will know of him already. I found what he had to say very profound. If I havent managed to do the link th...

peacewithin · peacewithin

Hi everyone. I been reading the post for quite a while. Boy has it helped me alot. Yes I also go to F-F meeting too. I been married to my AH for 30 years. I'm still young yet too 47 Yes I got married young to get out of my alcoholic home. Hummm ! And here I am. Living it. I have 4 boys they are gettin tired too. They d...

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	He broke up with me on April Fool's Day - No joke.... (Preview) It was the night from hell and I didn't think I could hurt that much again but there it was. Missed some work and felt somewhat like I lost my soul. He came over Friday night and we talked openly and honestly and worked things out for now but I'm feeling once bitten twice shy and a little hesitant to trust t...	carolinagirl	3	578	Apr 6, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Need help leaving (Preview) I have posted on here the past 2 weeks about my A having an affair i guess you would call it. Well I can't deal with it anymore. I want to pack my crap and leave now. But I don't have a job have been looking for 4 months with no luck. I have 2 kids. I get 220 a month for child support for my oldest. I called a crisis ho...	Melissa21	8	771	Apr 6, 2009 by maresie
	thank you (Preview) Hi everyone, you are the only ones that will listen, it seems like I have been writing here when things go bad. I am sorry. Let me apoligize from my heart. i am very sorry. I didnt mean to be selfish. i am in so much pain and this is all I have. I dont have friends or family or anyone i can turn to. so very isolate...	spirit	4	429	Apr 6, 2009 by Jozie
	So Fed Up with Dad’s Denial (at 82 years old) (Preview) Hi... I am so angry at my dad. He is 81 years old and he started drinking heavily, before we eat dinner, since he was 77 years old. He drinks around 5pm and then he lays down until dinner on the table. When dinner comes he seems sober. However, right before he sits down for dinner, he seems to be sneaking for m...	Geez_Wiz	4	899	Apr 6, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	question about meeting being subsidized (Preview) Question for the old timers... There's a new meeting being set up. It's about 2 months old and is about 1/3 business meeting every week because of it- oi! But that's not my question- it'll work itself out. My concern is that they've made a deal with the church where it meets to pay 10% of the 7th Trad colle...	gngcrzy	3	836	Apr 6, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Perfectionism (Preview) In my home group we focussed on perfectionism. Perfectionism is such a rampant symptom of our disease. Its a great topic and one I hope to gain more ES & H on through this post. I think I am really understanding WHY perfectionism is such a toxic thing for me. For me, perfectionism is actually fea...	Jean4444	7	1640	Apr 6, 2009 by Karilynn
	Am I allowed to refer to Karma at Alanon meetings, when sharing? (Preview) Karma: Consequences of one's actions. The motives behind an action. Motivation usually makes the difference between "good" and "bad", but included in the motivation is also the aspect of ignorance; so a well-intended action from an ignorant mind can easily be "bad&q...	mia883	4	615	Apr 5, 2009 by hotrod
	Sad and depressed today---HELP (Preview) I suffer from clinical depression. I cannot blame my depression on anything or anyone. However, when things kind of pile up on me, I go down in the dumps. That is where I am today. First of all, my AD has the family in a drama situation. Even if I ignore her phone calls, I still worry(my own fault). Nev...	clara	4	498	Apr 5, 2009 by maresie
	Emotionally Unavailable (Preview) Do relationships exist where you can count on your spouse being emotionally available? Will my A Hubby ALWAYS be emotionally unavailable? Is it too much to ask for my a husband to put my cares, concerns, hopes, dreams, fears or even our marriages hopes and dreams somewhere on his list of things to ad...	Sincerely	8	726	Apr 5, 2009 by Diva
	Working the Steps (Preview) I've been to 4 f2f meetings this past week and I always hear about working the steps. What I want to know is, how and when do you work them? For instance, 2 of the meetings this week focused on Step 4 - Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. One of the women at the meeting said that she...	N8SMOM	3	609	Apr 4, 2009 by Jean4444
	Length of Rehab... (Preview) Ever wonder about how things like "28-day" rehabs evolved? If you're like me, you'd hope that there was some "science" behind it all, and it took that amount of time for addicts to have their best chance at sobriety.... My understanding is that the 28-days was arrived at, mos...	canadianguy	6	910	Apr 4, 2009 by Sis63
	Prayers for my community please. (Preview) ((((Family))), If you have been watching CNN today, then you know about the shooting at the American Civic Association. 12 people are dead, so is the gunmen and numerous are injured. I am stunned by this news. There were problems in the community with gangs coming in and recovery is not easy in this...	Karilynn	6	1058	Apr 4, 2009 by clara
	question abut sharing in meetings (Preview) I got a rather strong lecture from my sponsor about how I needed to share in meetings more. I will talk more about it with her, but I am curious to know what other people think about it. For myself, I find ESH too high of a bar. I don't usually have strength or hope to share. My shares are pretty much confus...	gngcrzy	15	1183	Apr 4, 2009 by Jean4444
	New to this forum and Al-Anon (Preview) Hello, I am new here and pretty new to world of diagnosed alcoholism. My AH has been a drinker for most of the 16 years we have been married and has been sober for 9 months on 03/29/09. Thank you, God! His pattern of drinking was about every 6-8 weeks going on a 1 day binge. I had an inkling there was a problem b...	hort7	7	654	Apr 3, 2009 by hort7
	Date night (Preview) Good day MIP family~ Woke up early and thought I would stop by and let you know that the date with EXABF went well. We had a nice dinner, watched a movie and he went home. We didn't discuss anything as far as us or reconciling or anything-though he did say something about if we decided to keep seeing one ano...	spirited1	1	469	Apr 3, 2009 by BrianS
	AH in rehab and our 1st Family Session is tomorrow...any advice? (Preview) I am new here and need some help. I have a session with my AH and his rehab counselor tomorrow. What should I say or should I keep quiet and just listen? Do I believe what he has to say? I'm not sure if its ok to articulate how confused and disappointed I am, or should I try to stay positive and try to move ah...	HangingOn	10	941	Apr 3, 2009 by Jean4444
	It's been a week...without being weak! (Preview) Tomorrow will be one week since my A Hubby came home from his brief 4 day rehab stay. I must admit, I have been impressed with my A Hubby's renewed strength. Years ago, I always said that I was prepared if he slipped. After big sober for 3 years he slipped. It has been a long hard miserable crazy 5 year sl...	Sincerely	4	719	Apr 3, 2009 by Jozie
	New to this forum but not new to this disease (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new here and not quite sure if I am posting this correctly. My name is Bernice and I have been married for nine years. My husband has been sober six months. We have been seperated for a few years. I take care of me and my children well. I attend codependancy meetings. I fell out of love with h...	Bernice	8	1480	Apr 3, 2009 by Bernice
	My AH's call for help id it really a suicide attempt? Opnions please! (Preview) Ok, so my AH got 2 summon's to appear in court for a missed child support payment back in 06 and another one for not paying a certain % of healthcare for his other daughter. This is all out of jealousy from his ex. anytime she is jealous or mad they are in court for something. Anyways, this upset my AH so he...	Shell44	13	951	Apr 2, 2009 by Jean4444
	A Lesson in Strength & Fortitude :O (Preview) A Butterfly Lesson.... One day a small opening appeared on a cocoon; a man sat & watched for the burtterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then, it seems to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could not go any further... S...	Jozie	4	836	Apr 2, 2009 by Jerry F
	My AH thinks I am cool about our separation (Preview) Sadly, two days ago I got the dreaded phone call from the old ex partner, her chance to get back at me after 7 years...she told me lots of things, some i think were lies some I dont, but she had me in tears for two hours so well done her.Anyway she did tell me that my AH apparantly thinks that Im cool about our sp...	Lilly Burn	7	876	Apr 2, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	A good friend (Preview) Hi (((All))) The disease of alcoholism has taken over a friend of mine. I work in the health profession, Tuesday whilst on duty I came across an old friend. I was so shocked as to their condition. He's so ill with all the complications of alcoholic liver disease. To see him this way was awful, it reall...	Mariner	2	593	Apr 2, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Dissapointed and kinda OK (Preview) So, I told in another post how a friend of my AH called and said he was talking weird and I freaked out. Well yesterday AH came over and told me that YES, he was sick for 4 hours, not being able to talk, drink water, eyes rolled back, purple lips, seizure, bad bad bad. He was smoking heroin! This is new inform...	Priscilla83	5	510	Apr 2, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Anyone Ever Live in Fear of their Own Teenager? (Preview) I have not been on here in a really long time. I initially became a member b/c my husband was abusing drugs and alcohol. It took some time but I was finally able to get a divorce from him. He got his life straightened out and now we are dating again. Not living together but dating. My current situation i...	QOD	6	743	Apr 2, 2009 by Gailey
	Worrying (Preview) I met my boyfriend's mom last night. I got the oh my god my son has lost his mind vibe from her. I talked to him on the phone a few minutes ago and he said she said I was nice and there was a pause... and so I said and? and some other things that are between me and her... I'm pretty good at reading people and I'm u...	carolinagirl	6	980	Apr 2, 2009 by Jerry F
	I need some ideas! (Preview) Okay so I posted on here last week my A is having an affair and openly tells me like there is nothing wrong with it. I have let go and let god. I do my best to only worry about me and just for today. We have gotten along pretty well surprisingly since this has happened, but he sits and acts like I am still his gir...	Melissa21	14	1276	Apr 1, 2009 by Christy
	Insane Sober Living dry drunk sober (Preview) I am new to this site, but not to Al-Anon. It saved my life about ten years ago while my AH was actively doing drugs and drinking. I have been with my AH for 15 years, the last 7 ½ he has been sober. I have just recently become aware that not much has changed. I stopped going to Al-Anon shortly after my hus...	Nettie Spaghetti	5	3782	Apr 1, 2009 by farmgirlmay
	Difficult Decision (Preview) We are scheduled to leave for Hawaii (the Big Island) one week from today. We go every year and we consider it our second home. Last year's trip was ruined a bit by my husband's drinking. Since I still have bad feelings/memories from last year, I decided that this year we'd make some changes - we're s...	N8SMOM	8	810	Apr 1, 2009 by Priscilla83
	His latest one-day binge is a thing of the past...yawn (Preview) It was a one-day drunk with all the trimmings. Next day, he straightened himself up, and made all the promises..sounds like a broken record... How would he ever get along without me, the love of his like? Really? Actually it took three days for him to get over the effects of the alcohol. He drinks i...	Diva	5	554	Apr 1, 2009 by Priscilla83
	...keeping my mind open and my mouth shut.... (Preview) Hi All! This week I am devoting it to keeping my mouth shut. I am practicing the anonymity part of the program. I am so used to being an open book. You ask, I tell. You don't ask, I share. So far, so good. I feel like people at work and my friends know too much of my business. But that is my own fault. I wa...	Sincerely	5	851	Apr 1, 2009 by Jozie
	So mad, I could spit nails!!! (Preview) Earlier post I mentioned that I had not heard from AD for over a week, since I told her she could not crash at our house, because I knew she would be drinking here. Well, guess what? You are right. She called to let me know she did not "drop from the face of the earth". She told me that she had &quo...	clara	9	1235	Apr 1, 2009 by maresie
	My topic of the day is...One day at a time. (Preview) With my husband newly sober and now, once again, living at home, I am learning how to live one day at a time. SO often I sit and start to worry and panic over what can happen tomorrow. The "what if's" come to mind. What if he drinks again? What if he doesn't come home from work again? What if I star...	Canary	3	673	Apr 1, 2009 by AnnieM
	Getting out of chaos! (Preview) One of the tasks I have been putting off for a while now is organizing my storage unit. I think its a symbol of all that I've lost. I had a home with the ex A a nice home with a garden I tended, room to move and space. Now I have a temporary home and a storage unit. I don't want to look at the stuff I accumulated w...	maresie	7	835	Apr 1, 2009 by maresie
	The Blonde Drama Goddess at Fifteen (Preview) Not quite fifteen. But close enough. There's something about that number. It runs through my life and when I look back, there are an awful lot of red, yellow, green, blue, orange, white, and black flags sticking through the number 15. Not just on the calendar, although there are plenty of those. ...	barisax	5	957	Apr 1, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Anyone married to a recovering A and dealing with the "post war?" (Preview) I have posted in the recent past how my husband, after 8 years of sobriety, started drinking again. After a year of hell, a stint in rehab and being suspended from his job, I removed him from the house. Having 2 babies at home and working full time made it very difficult. I was a mess. My AH is now living back...	Canary	3	882	Apr 1, 2009 by QOD
	making things happen? (Preview) I have kicked my AH out again and he has found caretakers next door! It's crazy. But perhaps they will have some time to realise what a user he is. (he used to go over there to get away from me now he is living there.) All he wants to do is come back home so he can have a free ride and spend all his leisure time doin...	silver brumby	3	845	Apr 1, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Good morning All!!!!! (Preview) Hi My name is Dale and I am a gratiful member of Alanon, and AA I have been a member of this site for approximatly one yr. Before that I lived aa for almost 21 yrs, Spent some time in ACOA, All the while growing. Today I need to share something. I woke up crying, part of it was tears of joy and part tears of sadne...	Dale	9	525	Apr 1, 2009 by Peggy7
	hurt and anger (Preview) any suggestions on how to move forward past the hurt and anger of past event? I am having a difficult time letting go and not reacting. Also, I think I am just forgetting instead of forgiving. Still hurting today brightmommy -- Edited by brightmommy on Tuesday 31st of March 2009 08:41:56 PM	brightmommy	3	986	Apr 1, 2009 by Jerry F
	Know I should take one day at a time (Preview) hank you everyone for your tips and support. After I wrote the first post I felt better just releasing my irritation and frustration and seeing people do care and understand what i am going thru helps a lot. Once again I arrived home AH drunk again but this time i just walked away and went about my evening...	Aquastrm	1	582	Mar 31, 2009 by hotrod
	What a Day :) (Preview) Welp... Today Me and My Husband desided to take a day and play hookie from work since it has been sooo slow.. I was so excited... We went down to our property by the river, and spent the day... It was invigerating... I mowed, I weeded, I raked, I walked, I put fenses up, cleaned up trash the wind blows aroun...	Jozie	3	794	Mar 31, 2009 by Christy
	Everyone has a "program"... (Preview) I am seeing that we all have programs. Programs are provisional sets of belief systems in which we live our lives- we all have a program! The issue then is WHAT KIND of program am I going to use in my life today (just for today)? I have had terrible programs- ones that were toxic and very self destructive...	Jean4444	8	599	Mar 31, 2009 by Jean4444
	One day at a time-more like one hour at a time (Preview) Well my son left for camp yesterday and EXABF walked away again on Saturday, and I am feeling more alone that I have ever, but in a way I am ok with it. I realized, through the help of many of you, that EXABF just can't offer what I want-for whatever reason's he is just not capable. I can no longer allow my...	shellyj123	3	860	Mar 31, 2009 by Jerry F
	Please help me (Preview) I have been lurking on this site since last summer, I kept thinking I didn't belong here and that my situation was different. Seven months later I no longer think that, and I'm very scared for my family. Three years ago I had what I would have described as a great life. I was married to a great guy, we hav...	Tired Mom	7	940	Mar 31, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	daughter not in rehab as promised (Preview) Daughter did not go into rehab as she promised last week. Not surprised. Anyway, since I would not let her come to live with us, she is not speaking to me. I am counting my blessings. So, i have no idea on what is going on with her. Last week, we had a horrible lightning storm. Lightning struck our phone...	clara	4	696	Mar 31, 2009 by maire rua
	Sorry but I'm sick of everyone "feeling sorry for him"... (Preview) I have ten years with a very functional alcoholic who finally was forced by an ultimatum to enter rehab on 3/19. As background, he decided to get loaded and blow off picking his 6 year old daughter up at the bus. Oh BTW...he decided to pull this stunt on my 3rd day of work at a new job. I am trying to detach f...	HangingOn	7	1202	Mar 31, 2009 by kitty
	Why doesn't he just stop coming back and hurting me?? (Preview) A lot of responses to my post this weekend pretty much said the same thing......he isn't treating me right, walk away. If I cared about him I would want what is best for him and let go and let God. And that is all understandable and fine, but I did do all that before......I severed all contact in January a...	shellyj123	10	8423	Mar 31, 2009 by Karilynn
	UGHHHHHH (Preview) My husband had an appointment with a rheumatologist this morning for his chronic back pain. My son and I were on our way out of the house for an activity when he came home. He didn't look good and said the appointment didn't go well. I apologized for having to leave (we were running late). I asked him n...	N8SMOM	4	862	Mar 31, 2009 by N8SMOM
	why is it so painful? (Preview) Hi all, So I left my ex ABF 2 and a half months ago. He went back to AA got a new sponsor and was very gung ho about everything. He had 2 months 2 weeks ago and we were starting to talk on the phone every now and then as "friends". Last Friday I started getting really horrible hurtful texts from hi...	reef999	9	903	Mar 30, 2009 by glad lee
	A is angry at me (Preview) So, my AH's dealer called me like every day to try and get a hold of him, cause he owned him money. One day I just got tires of having to talk to that dumb*** so I gave him the A's office number. I guess the dealer has been calling nonstop, cause my AH called and he was furious!! He asked me if I gave the dealer his...	Priscilla83	4	840	Mar 30, 2009 by brightmommy
	Family Program at Rehab (Preview) Has anyone here been through it and want to share a little about it with me?	TLM	5	880	Mar 30, 2009 by brightmommy
	Listen and learn (Preview) I went to my f2f tonight I have been to al anon meetings for the past 4 days because of the covention then tonight. I feel I am walking on air. However last night and early today acceptance had me in the pits this journey is tough but I know I am heading in the right direction. Subject tonight was listen an...	Tracy	3	709	Mar 30, 2009 by Sincerely
	online step study? (Preview) I would be interested in having an online step study meeting to go over my thoughts and feelings of the steps. I can not attend the night time step meeting...and would like to suggest we have a daytime step meeting as well. Would anyone else be interested in having a meeting? I know it would have to be a...	brightmommy	5	1307	Mar 30, 2009 by brightmommy
	If I could quit crying I'd laugh~ (Preview) EXABF just sent me an email advising that "considering our conversation and the weirdness in my head I think we should take a break". He said he knows it is all him and he needs to figure some things out (again), and that he hoped I know how much he cares for me and my son (actions speak so much l...	shellyj123	5	812	Mar 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Just having a Low Start.... (Preview) I just got 2 thinking about somethings tho.. When I was growing up, we didn't get to do alot of anything AT ALL, Only place I went other then school, was my mom would put us all in swimming lessons in the summer, we were gone most of the day, because of were the bus had to take us, and I think that helped her...	Jozie	3	814	Mar 30, 2009 by Priscilla83
	chats with sponsor (Preview) I had a chat with my sponsor today she said that if I focused on my recovery and told AB that we couldnt be together until he is in recovery that he may promise again that he will enter recovery. we discussed recovery mine and an A's. I carnt be with anyone at moment need to really focus on me. I dont want hi...	Tracy	3	639	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
	growing pains (Preview) I spent this weekend at an AA convention with al anon participation. WOW I met some of the most amazing people and recieved lots of gudance from HP. One AA member shared he was in a relationship with a nother AA member and how in an argument he had told her he she needed a meeting, he laughed and said he was f...	Tracy	3	841	Mar 30, 2009 by Rora
	Anxiety? (Preview) I've been suffering from panic attacks and anxiety for a few months now. I saw a therapist for the first time yesterday and after explaining all the things that have been going on in my life the past few years, she is convinced that my anxiety is because of my husband's drinking. We're dealing with a lot...	N8SMOM	8	891	Mar 30, 2009 by N8SMOM
	Thank GOD for SUNSHINE! & a pressure washer! (Preview) The sun came up and dried up all the water! I got dressed and went to lunch with 2 girlfriends. Hubby went to a meeting. I came home and hubby was pressure washing everything. Tomorrow morning, church with my A. And face to face for me at 6pm. ***and all of my appliances in the utility room are fine and dand...	Sincerely	3	607	Mar 30, 2009 by Jozie
	One-sided love relationships (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8 HI ((All)) I just wanted to share this with you. I was looking at old posts here last night, and found a link to Eckhart Tolle on youtube. Maybe some of you will know of him already. I found what he had to say very profound. If I havent managed to do the link th...	Mariner	2	3419	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
	New Here Just tired of this disease (Preview) Hi everyone. I been reading the post for quite a while. Boy has it helped me alot. Yes I also go to F-F meeting too. I been married to my AH for 30 years. I'm still young yet too 47 Yes I got married young to get out of my alcoholic home. Hummm ! And here I am. Living it. I have 4 boys they are gettin tired too. They d...	peacewithin	3	900	Mar 30, 2009 by maresie
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