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John · John

Hello and Happy Holiday Season, Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

We have these friends who are married, I'll call them J and K. My husband and J have known each other since they were kids. When J and K got married, K and I became instant friends. J and K live in another state and are coming to visit next weekend. There will be an art fetival in town while they're here an...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

I believe that I have destroyed my life as I know it. My boyfriend is a wonderful man. We have been living together for 2 years now. I know that I cannot control the alcoholic but still feel very responsible for the events of yesterday. I travel frequently for work so I he tends to drink when I am travel...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

Hi all, This is my first post on this board, though I frequent the chat room often. I've come to ask for your advice about my XH who happens to be a very clever, verbally/emotionally abusive, chronic liar, excon, highly functioning alcoholic. He has changed his life around since I met him (he was drinki...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Okay so things have been going good for the most part. Im doing GREAT in school, work is going good, bills are getting paid on time..im having money leftover to shop for ME!! I got sick and tired of the lies, manipulation, blaming me, him playing the victim. It seems only to get worse. I set a schedule for h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am making progress in my getting to stop hoarding & getting more organized! I spent a lot of my weekend going through & sorting stuff. I still haven't really gotten rid of anything except I threw away some things. I have so many things that are fairly new--like clothes for instance that I am...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I was absolutely dreading the Thanksgiving holiday for fear of spending it with the Dysfunctional's. I prayed for days before for strength, talked to my sponsor, spoke to several people in my f2f and prayed some more. I was determined that for my mother's sake, I would not participate in anything b...

Tracy · Tracy

I decided that I need to stop contact with my ABF. It hurts to much when we chat and I am left feeling variuos emotions, hurt, pain , frusration. I sent him a txt saying I carnt do this anymore. He had put his dole money into one of my bank accounts told him my bro would drop it off. He has rang about 5 times t...

maresie · maresie

The good news is that I have found another counselor to help me through the holidays. I had to be very assertive to make that transition but I am looking forward to the chance to work on some of my "holiday issues". One of my aims this year is just to have a calm, uneventful, peaceful event. I...

jewelsmama · jewelsmama

Hello, I am new to this board and just have a quesiton to ask. My husband is a recovering A and active drug addict. He switched from alcohol about 5 years ago to prescrition pain killers. I have been told my his current therapist that I need to find some Al-anon meetings. However, is this something I c...

kerry5 · kerry5

There are quite a few guests who have been idle for over an hour. Can an op enter the room please. There is a meeting now. Thank you Kerry

jitsuka · jitsuka

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30711757

Diva · Diva

As Thanksgiving approaches, my thankfulness is renewed, and I review the long list of reasons why I give thanks. At the top of that list are: My daughter who is beautiful in every sense of the word.My son-in-law who loves her unconditionally.My two sons who are loving, respectful, successful, and b...

Galactica · Galactica

Hello Everyone. This is my first post here. I found this board while looking around the net for Al Anon meetings in my area. I figured this would be a good place to start before I start going. I warn you...this is a very long post and I am sorry. I'm 24 years old, and my Father has been an A for as long as I can r...

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been a while since my last post - yikes a month already! - but I have been reading and responding as I can every day. This is going to be a long one - so be forewarned! It's been a month filled with grief. Thank goodness for this program. I don't believe I would have been able to cope nearly as well as I h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish my Alanon family, a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. I am so grateful for all you have done for me. The strength you have given me in my darkest hours, the laughter, the gift of your wisdom is priceless. I can't imagine my life without you and this program. I...

Dale · Dale

Hello all..... Just a quick note to let all my friends know my a is impersonating me in the room, so I registered my nick.....Hope she didn't cause any problems. I dont get it, why she cant let go, but she is still up to no good

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband has been court-ordered to not drink and has to go in for random monitoring. Of course it's not all that random. He has to call in the morning and if his assigned color is called, he goes in for testing, if not, he's clear for the day. Usually on his way home from testing, he will pick up some bee...

Tracy · Tracy

Focusing on myself, relying on myself is something I have always found hard. I am a very relaible person and believe that I have made good choices in most areas of my life except relationships. I have learnt on my journey with Al non that I choose people who need me I like to feel needed then I try and hel...

maresie · maresie

Last thanksgiving I spent weeks preparing to cook a meal for people who could have cared less. Of course they expected it since I have always worn my heart on my sleeve. None of them thanked me, praised any specific part of the meal or even took into account what effort it was. This year I have been freed...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just feeling wretched. I have had a long, stressful day at work. I have been in a meeting with managers who need to save money and "lose" some staff (I am a Workplace Trade Union Rep which means I do a full time job as well as all the Union work) The meeting was all doom and gloom - no money - need to s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding that more & more I have symptoms of hoarding! I think I mentioned this before a while back. I was going through my disorganized back room this morning looking for my address book & finally found it. But..in the meantime I made matters a lot worse by going through almost everythi...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I'm so tired of being sad, I try with all my might to let go and let God...but it's soooo hard. I've been with my AH for 20 years!!! and I can't just let it go...I just can't. I want to stop focusing on him and move forward, but its so hard for me..... He left me during a drinking binge in August and moved in wit...

Jerry F · Jerry F

LOL...of course once I started practicing the principles of the program the number of affairs I was envolved in dropped to zero. I kept the one I started with HP and the one I started with myself. So what the heck has Mr. Crazy been up to for a week or so? I really missed you brothers and sisters!!!! ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Was looking at a Christmas catalogue today and saw that quote "Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me" It really stuck with me throughout the day. I realized after the AlAnon convention that my life and my recovery was not what I had thought it was. I had thought that my "qualifer" for...

maresie · maresie

I do indeed have serious issues with the holidays in general. I had a counselor for a while this year who was pushing my boundaries. Out of the blue she said she was leaving to go to a new assignment just before the holidays. My best laid plans being scattered. I really tried to get another one to get me...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

Hello, all, I'm new here but not new to Al Anon. Have read lots of your posts, and my story is just like everyone else's in so many ways. 17 years married to AH, second marriage for me, third for him. He has two adult children, I have none. We're older -- in our early 60's now, and I am financially depende...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I really need to try to detach from my 'estranged' AH....I have to for my sanity and to give myself 100% to my kids. I'm tired of every inch of my mind being consumed with the AH. I need my power back, but I don't know how to get it back. I know people who have been divorced from a relationship for years, and...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Today I dont feel like I'm going to make it through the holidays..... Last night I started to get really depressed, thinking about how I never would have thought last Thanksgiving/Christmas that this year my AH would be living with another woman and her kids..... Today the kids have all the Christmas...

xeno59 · xeno59

Thanks to all who responded and/or prayed for my son in my previous post !!!! I took one suggestion and contacted the Salvation Army Rehab Program. Gave them a quick history of my son's addiction and legal troubles. And they are willing to consider him for treatment. Got the application this week and s...

smokey28 · smokey28

Hi everyone, I knew to this board and the program. I am hoping someone can give me some guidance. My brother has been struggling with addiction for about 3 yrs now. Last year after losing his job and being in deeply in debt he agreed to go into rehab again (2nd time that my parents paid for). He went to a grea...

LearningTheRopes · LearningTheRopes

Hello and thanks for reading my post. By way of introduction, I wanted to say that my situation is probably not unique, but isn't that common. My loved one is someone who is an odd mix of family, friend and lover. We met three years ago and became friends while I had a romantic partner. We became involved r...

Tracy · Tracy

I sent my ABF a text today saying ring me, I wanted the money he said he would drop off and never. Turned his phone off this weekend again we all know what this means. Yesterday I felt better thought I carnt change him, he is ill, I dont want this in my life. He rand me on my way home from work today I was not p...

luvinmom · luvinmom

My AS hit rock bottom this time last year (of course we thought he hit rock bottom many times before). Oct, Nov, Dec of 2008 horrible awful for son and our family. Ashamed that I was wishing that he would die just so his terribile pain would end. He did embrace recovery in Feb and has been working at earn...

Holly09 · Holly09

I posted here this weekend, my ABF's brother was diagnosed with lung cancer and things have been going down hill for my abf since. I just found a 24oz beer in a brown bag in his truck tool box, I was actually in there looking for a small screwdriver. This means he is not only drinking on the weekend but dri...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi all... this is a posting from Toby Rice Drews (author of the Getting Them Sober books), reprinted with her permission, regarding the potential for sending the wrong messages when we say well meaning phrases like "stay strong", particularly with respect to the major "stay vs. l...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I had an almost stress-free thanksgiving yesterday! My mom was there: we all got along & the food was good--what more could I ask for? This year has been rough at times but I have so much to be grateful for! I know that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel when it gets really bad. I know that the ba...

LearningTheRopes · LearningTheRopes

My fully story is on another post, but I wanted to seek targeted assistance with this question: What to do after confronting someone incorrectly? I've been reading and starting to understand that I should not try to change my a-ex but rather set clear boundaries for myself. However, a few days ago, I b...

ally · ally

Hiya Guys To cut a long story short, one of the A's that used to be in my life {ten years sober}, after no contact in the last eighteen months and the end of a relationship almost three years ago. Is confusing me {ok you are allowed to laugh at that comment lol}. I've been growing in many things in my life and o...

tea2 · tea2

11/1/09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes Courage opened the Meeting 9PM (EST) with The Serenity Prayer Motion was held, accepted and passed for Octobers Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board. Old Business A.Current Chair Schedule is as follows: AMMon. - Shimo/No altT...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Hi everyone I haven't been here in a while mostly because I have had trouble getting into chat can anyone help me ??????

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This post is regarding the legal consequences of drinking and driving. My AH got his first DUI in 2004. He hired a skilled laywer and got off on a "wet reckless" because his BAC was .08. So in essence, his charge was reduced. But this reduced charge remains on his current record, despi...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((friends)))))), I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving today....here's hoping we can all focus on the positive in our lives and remember what we have to be thankful for... Love ya, Andrea

Courage · Courage

Business meeting Sunday, December 5 Agenda: Review of November minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Voting on new OP Laison Committee member New Business Closing with the Lord's Prayer Listing MIP with WSO Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please pm me if you have any additional items...

john boy · john boy

Just wanted to say happy thanksgiving to everyone , and I hope my x is haveing a good thanksgiving also , this is the first year I will be alone for thanksgiving in several years , just depressed , but I guess I'll get over it , I always have , but it bits being alone , I wish I could take back my x but , I can't go th...

Holly09 · Holly09

Wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! I hope everyone eats too much and laughs a lot! Holly

Diva · Diva

on the 6000th member of MIP. That's amazing! And it speaks volumes of the value of this site. Happy holidays all! Diva

cdngirl · cdngirl

"Will you be my sponsor? And she said yes! I am so glad, and proud of myself for just doing it, as I have been agonizing over it for a while. It is someone who has inspired me and encouraged me since my very first meetings. I find that she is the one I always look for at a meeting and she is so sincere and g...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

Dear Karilyn, I want to thank you dear friend for all of your loving reminders (and those of others also!) to "take care of us" by getting regular mammograms, pap smears, and dental exams. When caught up in all of the drama of the A, years ago, all I could do in Alanon was vent, it was all about ge...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I'm posting to possibly help others or at least perhaps one person. I'm not seeking anything else at this point. I began coming to this board in the summer of 2007, under the name "Stormie." At the time, I had filed a dissolution of marriage and moved out of our home. 8 months later, I re...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), Giving a cat a bath any time is not a happy fun time. However when you have a Pipers Kitty who trots through the door and her back is full of grease.....well let's just say the Serenity Prayers over and over again. I gave her a bath yesterday along with a Fancy Feast to say "I'm sorry...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((Hello Friends)))))))), As Thanksgiving nears it is a time to be grateful for what we have...sometimes that can be hard. It can be hard to get past the pain of remembering the one's we lost. One of my best friends lost her son a year ago on Thanksgiving Day he was just 25 yrs young he had cystic fibro...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I'm not sure if anyone has posted this or not, but I heard about it at my meeting yesterday and then my Dad e-mailed me the following information: Winona Ryder 'Enough' for Hallmark Barry Pepper to co-star in 'Lois Wilson Story' By MICHAEL SCHNEIDER Winona Ryder and Barry Pepper have been cast to star i...

maresie · maresie

One of my neighbors is reaching a bottom of sorts. She is behaving much like the ex A did when he reached a sort of bottom, I thnk there were many more after that. She blames everyone else in the world for her issues, projects all her issues over others and feels like a victim. When the ex A was doing that a...

FuzzyLogic · FuzzyLogic

I am new here. I came here because I need help. My heart is slowly breaking and I find myself putting up walls that I do not want erected. The more my ABF throws bricks at me the larger the wall becomes. This is not the life I want. I am the daughter of an alcoholic. He created havoc in our lives as children and m...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Well he came and got his stuff went ok until the end when he took a shot at me and I gave him a slam back. Oh well, it's over. Still a lot left of today and I think I will sweep my patio it's covered with leaves and stuff from a storm yesterday. Hope it will make me feel like I moved forward. Amen, fishinmama

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, As many of you know I am at the beginning of divorcing my husband. This is something I feel is right for me and as much as it hurts, I want this. Well he told me last night that he is leaving the state Wednesday and isn't planning on coming back. I am so mad at him for this. In order for the divorce to be...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

I haven't been as active as I'd like on here, and thank you to people who have been supportive to me so far. I thought I'd share some ESH on Asking for Help: Q. Unfortunately, Al Anon where I live is going through some tough times - politics, control, fighting, not following traditions...*I asked for hel...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

My wife just got a DUI about half an hour ago. She managed to call me, so I went to the scene. Convinced them to just leave her car there since it was legally parked. Guess I'll probably be picking her up at the station in about an hour. I hope she doesn't refuse the breathalyzer. I had really hoped she w...

supermom · supermom

My recovering alcoholic husband is very down in the dumps today. I am wondering if he is taking his medication. Haven't asked because I am afraid that he might react in an angry way. Either he is taking it and it isn't really helping him or he isn't taking it. I can't make him take the medicine. He is a...

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	Holiday Card Request (Preview) Hello and Happy Holiday Season, Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...	John	4	844	Dec 1, 2009 by hotrod
	What would you do? (Preview) We have these friends who are married, I'll call them J and K. My husband and J have known each other since they were kids. When J and K got married, K and I became instant friends. J and K live in another state and are coming to visit next weekend. There will be an art fetival in town while they're here an...	N8SMOM	11	700	Dec 1, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Insanity (Preview) I believe that I have destroyed my life as I know it. My boyfriend is a wonderful man. We have been living together for 2 years now. I know that I cannot control the alcoholic but still feel very responsible for the events of yesterday. I travel frequently for work so I he tends to drink when I am travel...	Sheila46	6	1124	Dec 1, 2009 by Diva
	Custody battle with a very smart highly functioning A (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post on this board, though I frequent the chat room often. I've come to ask for your advice about my XH who happens to be a very clever, verbally/emotionally abusive, chronic liar, excon, highly functioning alcoholic. He has changed his life around since I met him (he was drinki...	Nodaybut2day	12	1671	Dec 1, 2009 by Nodaybut2day
	I need some esh!! (Preview) Okay so things have been going good for the most part. Im doing GREAT in school, work is going good, bills are getting paid on time..im having money leftover to shop for ME!! I got sick and tired of the lies, manipulation, blaming me, him playing the victim. It seems only to get worse. I set a schedule for h...	Melissa21	5	930	Dec 1, 2009 by serendipity
	progress not perfection (Preview) I am making progress in my getting to stop hoarding & getting more organized! I spent a lot of my weekend going through & sorting stuff. I still haven't really gotten rid of anything except I threw away some things. I have so many things that are fairly new--like clothes for instance that I am...	Hoot Nanny	2	866	Nov 30, 2009 by Christy
	A Blessing Filled Weekend, full of love, letting go and blessings from HP:) (Preview) I was absolutely dreading the Thanksgiving holiday for fear of spending it with the Dysfunctional's. I prayed for days before for strength, talked to my sponsor, spoke to several people in my f2f and prayed some more. I was determined that for my mother's sake, I would not participate in anything b...	shellyj123	2	1020	Nov 30, 2009 by Jen
	Trying (Preview) I decided that I need to stop contact with my ABF. It hurts to much when we chat and I am left feeling variuos emotions, hurt, pain , frusration. I sent him a txt saying I carnt do this anymore. He had put his dole money into one of my bank accounts told him my bro would drop it off. He has rang about 5 times t...	Tracy	2	691	Nov 30, 2009 by Jen
	Christmas (Preview) The good news is that I have found another counselor to help me through the holidays. I had to be very assertive to make that transition but I am looking forward to the chance to work on some of my "holiday issues". One of my aims this year is just to have a calm, uneventful, peaceful event. I...	maresie	3	1518	Nov 30, 2009 by Overcome
	New here and have a question (Preview) Hello, I am new to this board and just have a quesiton to ask. My husband is a recovering A and active drug addict. He switched from alcohol about 5 years ago to prescrition pain killers. I have been told my his current therapist that I need to find some Al-anon meetings. However, is this something I c...	jewelsmama	6	1390	Nov 29, 2009 by Jen
	Need an op in chat please (Preview) There are quite a few guests who have been idle for over an hour. Can an op enter the room please. There is a meeting now. Thank you Kerry	kerry5	0	575	Nov 29, 2009 by kerry5
	Hi there. Newbie, but an update. Had massive fallout last night (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30711757	jitsuka	25	1374	Nov 29, 2009 by jitsuka
	What are we thankful for? (Preview) As Thanksgiving approaches, my thankfulness is renewed, and I review the long list of reasons why I give thanks. At the top of that list are: My daughter who is beautiful in every sense of the word.My son-in-law who loves her unconditionally.My two sons who are loving, respectful, successful, and b...	Diva	9	1073	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	In Need of Strength (Preview) Hello Everyone. This is my first post here. I found this board while looking around the net for Al Anon meetings in my area. I figured this would be a good place to start before I start going. I warn you...this is a very long post and I am sorry. I'm 24 years old, and my Father has been an A for as long as I can r...	Galactica	3	763	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	Feeling a little foolish and crazy (Preview) It's been a while since my last post - yikes a month already! - but I have been reading and responding as I can every day. This is going to be a long one - so be forewarned! It's been a month filled with grief. Thank goodness for this program. I don't believe I would have been able to cope nearly as well as I h...	blender_girl	6	922	Nov 29, 2009 by Rocky38
	Happy Thanksgiving! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish my Alanon family, a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. I am so grateful for all you have done for me. The strength you have given me in my darkest hours, the laughter, the gift of your wisdom is priceless. I can't imagine my life without you and this program. I...	Karilynn	3	647	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	My a is up to no good (Preview) Hello all..... Just a quick note to let all my friends know my a is impersonating me in the room, so I registered my nick.....Hope she didn't cause any problems. I dont get it, why she cant let go, but she is still up to no good	Dale	1	593	Nov 29, 2009 by shadow1
	Is it Our Responsibility? (Preview) My husband has been court-ordered to not drink and has to go in for random monitoring. Of course it's not all that random. He has to call in the morning and if his assigned color is called, he goes in for testing, if not, he's clear for the day. Usually on his way home from testing, he will pick up some bee...	N8SMOM	10	978	Nov 29, 2009 by Diva
	Focus on myself (Preview) Focusing on myself, relying on myself is something I have always found hard. I am a very relaible person and believe that I have made good choices in most areas of my life except relationships. I have learnt on my journey with Al non that I choose people who need me I like to feel needed then I try and hel...	Tracy	2	977	Nov 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	Freedom (Preview) Last thanksgiving I spent weeks preparing to cook a meal for people who could have cared less. Of course they expected it since I have always worn my heart on my sleeve. None of them thanked me, praised any specific part of the meal or even took into account what effort it was. This year I have been freed...	maresie	3	709	Nov 28, 2009 by Loupiness
	Just need to vent (Preview) Just feeling wretched. I have had a long, stressful day at work. I have been in a meeting with managers who need to save money and "lose" some staff (I am a Workplace Trade Union Rep which means I do a full time job as well as all the Union work) The meeting was all doom and gloom - no money - need to s...	Tattyhead	5	1074	Nov 28, 2009 by Tattyhead
	HOARDING! (Preview) I am finding that more & more I have symptoms of hoarding! I think I mentioned this before a while back. I was going through my disorganized back room this morning looking for my address book & finally found it. But..in the meantime I made matters a lot worse by going through almost everythi...	Hoot Nanny	2	1901	Nov 28, 2009 by Mattie
	Tired of the rollercoaster of emotions (Preview) I'm so tired of being sad, I try with all my might to let go and let God...but it's soooo hard. I've been with my AH for 20 years!!! and I can't just let it go...I just can't. I want to stop focusing on him and move forward, but its so hard for me..... He left me during a drinking binge in August and moved in wit...	sdisnie	7	1046	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Practice these principles in all my affairs... (Preview) LOL...of course once I started practicing the principles of the program the number of affairs I was envolved in dropped to zero. I kept the one I started with HP and the one I started with myself. So what the heck has Mr. Crazy been up to for a week or so? I really missed you brothers and sisters!!!! ...	Jerry F	11	1075	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me..............My story........ (Preview) Was looking at a Christmas catalogue today and saw that quote "Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me" It really stuck with me throughout the day. I realized after the AlAnon convention that my life and my recovery was not what I had thought it was. I had thought that my "qualifer" for...	shellyj123	5	1520	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Holiday issues (Preview) I do indeed have serious issues with the holidays in general. I had a counselor for a while this year who was pushing my boundaries. Out of the blue she said she was leaving to go to a new assignment just before the holidays. My best laid plans being scattered. I really tried to get another one to get me...	maresie	5	910	Nov 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	Help in Choosing a Counselor (Preview) Hello, all, I'm new here but not new to Al Anon. Have read lots of your posts, and my story is just like everyone else's in so many ways. 17 years married to AH, second marriage for me, third for him. He has two adult children, I have none. We're older -- in our early 60's now, and I am financially depende...	essgee1952	10	1122	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Need to detach (Preview) I really need to try to detach from my 'estranged' AH....I have to for my sanity and to give myself 100% to my kids. I'm tired of every inch of my mind being consumed with the AH. I need my power back, but I don't know how to get it back. I know people who have been divorced from a relationship for years, and...	sdisnie	5	1377	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Bad thoughts.... (Preview) Today I dont feel like I'm going to make it through the holidays..... Last night I started to get really depressed, thinking about how I never would have thought last Thanksgiving/Christmas that this year my AH would be living with another woman and her kids..... Today the kids have all the Christmas...	sdisnie	12	1380	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Thanks for your prayers and suggestions Keep praying please (Preview) Thanks to all who responded and/or prayed for my son in my previous post !!!! I took one suggestion and contacted the Salvation Army Rehab Program. Gave them a quick history of my son's addiction and legal troubles. And they are willing to consider him for treatment. Got the application this week and s...	xeno59	10	888	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	guidance (Preview) Hi everyone, I knew to this board and the program. I am hoping someone can give me some guidance. My brother has been struggling with addiction for about 3 yrs now. Last year after losing his job and being in deeply in debt he agreed to go into rehab again (2nd time that my parents paid for). He went to a grea...	smokey28	4	811	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	By way of introduction... (Preview) Hello and thanks for reading my post. By way of introduction, I wanted to say that my situation is probably not unique, but isn't that common. My loved one is someone who is an odd mix of family, friend and lover. We met three years ago and became friends while I had a romantic partner. We became involved r...	LearningTheRopes	12	1052	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	scared (Preview) I sent my ABF a text today saying ring me, I wanted the money he said he would drop off and never. Turned his phone off this weekend again we all know what this means. Yesterday I felt better thought I carnt change him, he is ill, I dont want this in my life. He rand me on my way home from work today I was not p...	Tracy	2	859	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	1 Year Anniversary Good & Bad feelings (Preview) My AS hit rock bottom this time last year (of course we thought he hit rock bottom many times before). Oct, Nov, Dec of 2008 horrible awful for son and our family. Ashamed that I was wishing that he would die just so his terribile pain would end. He did embrace recovery in Feb and has been working at earn...	luvinmom	3	912	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Progression (Preview) I posted here this weekend, my ABF's brother was diagnosed with lung cancer and things have been going down hill for my abf since. I just found a 24oz beer in a brown bag in his truck tool box, I was actually in there looking for a small screwdriver. This means he is not only drinking on the weekend but dri...	Holly09	4	854	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Leave vs. Stay, Strong vs Weak, etc. (Preview) Hi all... this is a posting from Toby Rice Drews (author of the Getting Them Sober books), reprinted with her permission, regarding the potential for sending the wrong messages when we say well meaning phrases like "stay strong", particularly with respect to the major "stay vs. l...	canadianguy	8	1205	Nov 28, 2009 by ThisIsBlythe
	AN ALMOST STRESS-FREE THANKSGIVING! (Preview) I had an almost stress-free thanksgiving yesterday! My mom was there: we all got along & the food was good--what more could I ask for? This year has been rough at times but I have so much to be grateful for! I know that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel when it gets really bad. I know that the ba...	Hoot Nanny	1	568	Nov 28, 2009 by Christy
	What to do now? (Preview) My fully story is on another post, but I wanted to seek targeted assistance with this question: What to do after confronting someone incorrectly? I've been reading and starting to understand that I should not try to change my a-ex but rather set clear boundaries for myself. However, a few days ago, I b...	LearningTheRopes	9	991	Nov 27, 2009 by abbyal
	Help: Confused By A (Preview) Hiya Guys To cut a long story short, one of the A's that used to be in my life {ten years sober}, after no contact in the last eighteen months and the end of a relationship almost three years ago. Is confusing me {ok you are allowed to laugh at that comment lol}. I've been growing in many things in my life and o...	ally	7	951	Nov 27, 2009 by abbyal
	11/1/09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) 11/1/09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes Courage opened the Meeting 9PM (EST) with The Serenity Prayer Motion was held, accepted and passed for Octobers Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board. Old Business A.Current Chair Schedule is as follows: AMMon. - Shimo/No altT...	tea2	0	857	Nov 27, 2009 by tea2
	Chat (Preview) Hi everyone I haven't been here in a while mostly because I have had trouble getting into chat can anyone help me ??????	mum2leahnjosh	2	924	Nov 27, 2009 by Maria123
	The "Legal" Consequences of Living w/AH (Preview) This post is regarding the legal consequences of drinking and driving. My AH got his first DUI in 2004. He hired a skilled laywer and got off on a "wet reckless" because his BAC was .08. So in essence, his charge was reduced. But this reduced charge remains on his current record, despi...	GailMichelle	10	1188	Nov 27, 2009 by sdisnie
	WISHING ALL OF YOU A HAPPY THANKSGIVING (Preview) ((((((friends)))))), I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving today....here's hoping we can all focus on the positive in our lives and remember what we have to be thankful for... Love ya, Andrea	Andrea12	3	804	Nov 27, 2009 by blender_girl
	December Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) Business meeting Sunday, December 5 Agenda: Review of November minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Voting on new OP Laison Committee member New Business Closing with the Lord's Prayer Listing MIP with WSO Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please pm me if you have any additional items...	Courage	1	646	Nov 27, 2009 by shimo
	Thanksgiving (Preview) Just wanted to say happy thanksgiving to everyone , and I hope my x is haveing a good thanksgiving also , this is the first year I will be alone for thanksgiving in several years , just depressed , but I guess I'll get over it , I always have , but it bits being alone , I wish I could take back my x but , I can't go th...	john boy	5	647	Nov 27, 2009 by Jerry F
	Happy Thanksgiving (Preview) Wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving! I hope everyone eats too much and laughs a lot! Holly	Holly09	1	663	Nov 26, 2009 by Jerry F
	We're sneaking up quickly.... (Preview) on the 6000th member of MIP. That's amazing! And it speaks volumes of the value of this site. Happy holidays all! Diva	Diva	1	604	Nov 26, 2009 by Debilyn
	I did it! Said those 5 little words (Preview) "Will you be my sponsor? And she said yes! I am so glad, and proud of myself for just doing it, as I have been agonizing over it for a while. It is someone who has inspired me and encouraged me since my very first meetings. I find that she is the one I always look for at a meeting and she is so sincere and g...	cdngirl	10	2951	Nov 26, 2009 by cdngirl
	Thanks karilyn and Pipers Kitty! (Preview) Dear Karilyn, I want to thank you dear friend for all of your loving reminders (and those of others also!) to "take care of us" by getting regular mammograms, pap smears, and dental exams. When caught up in all of the drama of the A, years ago, all I could do in Alanon was vent, it was all about ge...	ThisIsBlythe	2	497	Nov 25, 2009 by Christy
	Why I Am Making the Choice to Divorce (Preview) I'm posting to possibly help others or at least perhaps one person. I'm not seeking anything else at this point. I began coming to this board in the summer of 2007, under the name "Stormie." At the time, I had filed a dissolution of marriage and moved out of our home. 8 months later, I re...	GailMichelle	8	1415	Nov 25, 2009 by Diva
	Cat, motor oil & water don't mix! (Preview) (((((Family))), Giving a cat a bath any time is not a happy fun time. However when you have a Pipers Kitty who trots through the door and her back is full of grease.....well let's just say the Serenity Prayers over and over again. I gave her a bath yesterday along with a Fancy Feast to say "I'm sorry...	Karilynn	5	920	Nov 25, 2009 by Diva
	As Thanksgiving Nears (Preview) ((((Hello Friends)))))))), As Thanksgiving nears it is a time to be grateful for what we have...sometimes that can be hard. It can be hard to get past the pain of remembering the one's we lost. One of my best friends lost her son a year ago on Thanksgiving Day he was just 25 yrs young he had cystic fibro...	Andrea12	6	930	Nov 25, 2009 by Karilynn
	Lois W Movie (Preview) I'm not sure if anyone has posted this or not, but I heard about it at my meeting yesterday and then my Dad e-mailed me the following information: Winona Ryder 'Enough' for Hallmark Barry Pepper to co-star in 'Lois Wilson Story' By MICHAEL SCHNEIDER Winona Ryder and Barry Pepper have been cast to star i...	N8SMOM	5	1714	Nov 24, 2009 by barisax
	reliving the death of a relationship (Preview) One of my neighbors is reaching a bottom of sorts. She is behaving much like the ex A did when he reached a sort of bottom, I thnk there were many more after that. She blames everyone else in the world for her issues, projects all her issues over others and feels like a victim. When the ex A was doing that a...	maresie	8	1057	Nov 24, 2009 by maresie
	Brick by Brick the walls go up (Preview) I am new here. I came here because I need help. My heart is slowly breaking and I find myself putting up walls that I do not want erected. The more my ABF throws bricks at me the larger the wall becomes. This is not the life I want. I am the daughter of an alcoholic. He created havoc in our lives as children and m...	FuzzyLogic	7	1041	Nov 24, 2009 by hotrod
	One more step (Preview) Well he came and got his stuff went ok until the end when he took a shot at me and I gave him a slam back. Oh well, it's over. Still a lot left of today and I think I will sweep my patio it's covered with leaves and stuff from a storm yesterday. Hope it will make me feel like I moved forward. Amen, fishinmama	fishinmama	1	671	Nov 24, 2009 by Andrea12
	Prayers Please (Preview) Hi family, As many of you know I am at the beginning of divorcing my husband. This is something I feel is right for me and as much as it hurts, I want this. Well he told me last night that he is leaving the state Wednesday and isn't planning on coming back. I am so mad at him for this. In order for the divorce to be...	Mandy123	10	620	Nov 24, 2009 by Andrea12
	ESH - Good News, Asking for help (Preview) I haven't been as active as I'd like on here, and thank you to people who have been supportive to me so far. I thought I'd share some ESH on Asking for Help: Q. Unfortunately, Al Anon where I live is going through some tough times - politics, control, fighting, not following traditions...*I asked for hel...	alanonicScotland	3	943	Nov 24, 2009 by Mariner
	Well apparently I didn't have long to wait. (Preview) My wife just got a DUI about half an hour ago. She managed to call me, so I went to the scene. Convinced them to just leave her car there since it was legally parked. Guess I'll probably be picking her up at the station in about an hour. I hope she doesn't refuse the breathalyzer. I had really hoped she w...	FlyingSquirrel	6	626	Nov 23, 2009 by LearningTheRopes
	don't think alcoholic is taking his meds...need some serenity (Preview) My recovering alcoholic husband is very down in the dumps today. I am wondering if he is taking his medication. Haven't asked because I am afraid that he might react in an angry way. Either he is taking it and it isn't really helping him or he isn't taking it. I can't make him take the medicine. He is a...	supermom	3	779	Nov 23, 2009 by supermom
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