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Just wanted to say happy thanksgiving to everyone , and I hope my x is haveing a good thanksgiving also , this is the first year I will be alone for thanksgiving in several years , just depressed , but I guess I'll get over it , I always have , but it bits being alone , I wish I could take back my x but , I can't go through the games , beacause I really did love her , and it hurts , I hope she has learned to tell the whole truth about thing because , she only likes to tell half of the story's , If people only really knew the truth but thats up to god and her , thank for listening
Hey John: Holidays makes it more challenging for those of us separated from loved ones who suffer from alcoholism. I am one those.
Feel your pain, but do remind yourself of your future possiblities. That is what I am doing so that I do not drown in sorrow. I remind myself that I can continue to love him; however. if I am to honor my feelings and believes, I cannot continue to live with him, nor be his wife.
I did have opportunities to go to gatherings today, but I chose to stay home and enjoy the aloneness. I am not ready to go out and mingle right now.
I saw my soon-to-be xAH last night to take care of some legal matters. I saw the pain and fear in his eyes. While my heart breaks for him, I know that I have to put my logic in the driver's seat for now.
John, were you ever "alone" when she was with you? I was often alone with my husband. I find that kind of aloneness is far worse than being by myself.
Remember, whatever you are feeling at this moment will pass.
Hope you find many things to be thankful for today and every day.
Gail Michelle
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
When I was separated from my AH, I found that the cure for lonliness wasn't being with someone, it was working on myself and my relationship with my HP. I worked the steps, talked to my Al-Anon friends and went to meetings, meditated a lot and did a lot of self care.
I really ended up being able to enjoy my time alone. It became my time to recharge. I hope you can find that too.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Happy Thanksgiving also John B...I am reminded by Jen of that period of time where I learned to be alone without being lonely. It was the "learning self love" period of recovery. The Al-Anon Family Groups and its' membership worldwide is a huge spiritual growth experience and today I am sooo grateful to have found the doors when I did and then became willing to sit down, listen, learn and practice. You can do it also and I wish you the best in recovery.
