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maresie · maresie

Since I left the ex A the only men I have met have (a) active addictions (b) no boundaries and (c) both issues. There are many days when I can buckle up and say that I dont' mind being alone. Really I have not known what it is like to have an active partnership that is someone who helps out rather than deman...

Codependent · Codependent

I called the A tonight to see how he was doing. Was feeling bad about a friendship that had fallen apart. I was deceptive and hinted that it was a male friend- it wasn't. Anyway, the A ends up telling me that his mom visited this weekend in Florida and that he thinks she is bothered by the fact that he drin...

Maria123 · Maria123

A day late and a dollar short . . . but in Alanon I learned it's never too late So . . . . A BIG SPECIAL HAPPY to Grammie yesterday. I love attending meetings with you, your ESH is so full of experience, strength and hope. I hope your birthday was the best! Maria

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I talked to my ex MIL on the phone last night and she has said she is finally done rescuing the A. She has been there to bail him out every time for YEARS and I have been saying over and over that she is not helping him. She is in AA herself and said yesterday that all of her AA friends said she is not helping him...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family, I guess it has been just 5 short weeks since my AH passed away, although it seems so much longer than that. In that time, my family and I have been able to say goodbye, both here in the USA and my home country. I returned from my home country last week and have become very aware of an empty plac...

hailiestar · hailiestar

Hello, my name is Hailie and I am currently in a four year relationship with an alcoholic. I've been thinking of attending the meetings, I feel quite alone. His addiction is beginning to affect me and I'm frightened, unsure of what to do next.

speck31 · speck31

I have been reading all of your posts for the past two weeks - I can't even tell you what a blessing it has been to read all of your stories and know that I am not alone! My exAbf broke up with me two weeks ago - out of the blue. He and I have dated off and on for a year...He had been clean this time for a little over...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Good morning alanon family, fishinmama here. I have figured out I have an expectation problem. So much has happened in the last couple of weeks, geez months, for the first time I think I see a bit of the lesson here. Daughter went to court this last week, her dad took her. She got some pretty stiff fine...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

First I want to thank everyone who responded to my earlier post a few days ago. I am so very, very grateful for this forum and for those who encourage me to "get back on the horse" and welcome me back into the recovery community with open arms. I feel far from my program. I recently sought help fo...

HOPE79 · HOPE79

I just found this forum and I know it was a blessing that I did. I grew up with an alcoholic mom and I have been with and I am married to a mean alcoholic for 12 years now. We have a 12 year old son and I'm really seeing the horrible effects that it has on him. He is a good kid but I see his frusteration/anger when it...

liljeannie · liljeannie

Hello all, It has been so very, very long since I have posted. As we all are doing, I have been working so hard on my recovery, and can honestly say, I finally feel like I am in a pretty good place. I can remember the woman who used to waste all her time, watching, waiting, seeking out the lies, the deceit,...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been in Al-Anon for almost a year now and still don't have a sponsor. I know I need one to successfully work the program and to make much-needed changes in my life. I've got 3 people that I would like to ask, but I'm not sure which one would be best. I've been praying about it and asking God to help me...

roxygirl · roxygirl

In my earlier post I said my 26. yr old son is on a 72 hour hold for depression and suicide. He is going to be released Monday morning and has no where to go! In order for him to go to rehab he needs to find a place with an available bed. He said he called a few places and he is on a waiting list, he didn't say how l...

maresie · maresie

I had a phone interview on Friday that the interviewer didn't show up for. Getting the time off for that interview was like standing on my head and the company never seem to be able to make it at a time that is convenient for me. That sent me into a tailspin of "poor me's" suddenly I was fed up if...

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Hi- I need to know if anyone knows some options I have... Afiance-4 dwi's, on probation, no license and was drinking(of course at home in secret-while i was going in to the liquor store getting his stuff) well a week ago I told him I am done going to the store and he needs to get help or the kids and I will lea...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

What do I care if my ex-husband & I would've celebrated twenty years of marriage on Tuesday! I am so over him but I can't seem to forget that date. It is not that I love him anymore. I don't even have a desire to see him or even talk to him at all! But my memory had me at a place as usual. I am so sorry that I eve...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Because I've been to "busy" latley, I've isolated myself from everyone, even my Al-anon friends. In the last year I've been to about 5 meetings, not including this second posting that I've put online. That is not enough.........I miss being part of a fellowship which I was when I had more t...

nmike · nmike

My AHsober called last night. He is coming to town for meetings (we work for the same company). He asked if he could stay over night and then we both attend meetings on Friday. I said yes. Our son has moved back in with me after graduating from college. So he could see his son. His sister lives 10 miles down t...

phil a · phil a

Hi everyone, my name is Phil and I'm a recovering alcoholic. Although my girlfriend has never experienced me in active addiction, she is the child of an alcoholic, and has shown interest in attending Al-Anon meetings. Any suggested reading I should tell her about? We've had many conversations abo...

Tracy · Tracy

I have been going to two alanon meetings a week, I know they are good meetings that follow the principles of al anon. There are a couple of old timers that talk to us about the traditions etc dont give advice, no cross talking things like that. I went to a different meeting last week and people were givi...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I haven't posted for a while, but I have been lurking and replying to posts. :) I am never cease to be amazed by how much my life has changed since I decided to take it back and truly focus on me. My divorce from my "A" will be final on 03/02/10. I am anxious, nervous and a little sad. Even th...

roxygirl · roxygirl

Hi everyone, I have a question. My son is 26 yrs. old and he is the alcoholic. He voluntarily went to the hospital last night and had himself admitted because he is depressed and felt suicidal. He finally admitted he needed help. I thank God for that! He said he had no choice, that he lost everything...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I would like to share some lyrics to a song that has really touched me and has kind of been my song for a while now. You've got your reasons Reasons just to walk away No one would blame you if you didn't want to face the pain You find yourself Up against the wall You're scared to push cause it might fal...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Grrrrrr I am so angry at myself. I had a mega slip the past month and a half. STILL living with exbf. We were still acting as though we were together. He took a turn this week and turned into this horrific individual - not wanting to be near me, saying nasty things. The worst part is that I convinced myself...

miss lucy · miss lucy

just taking time out from studying to catch up with you all..... my there has been some real progress since the last time i was here for a lot of you! "taking care of you" is beginning to work and it fills me with hope. while i was reading through the posts i had missed i was struck by a common thr...

jasobel · jasobel

I read someone post somewhere that its OK to post here everyday. I am going through a tough time, a trial of faith and a trial of someone I love getting close to hitting bottom. My ex boyfriend whom I write about is in a terrible cycle downward. He was sober 9 months with me - left for another alcoholic woman...

jasobel · jasobel

Has anyone faced this confusion? I friend of mine recently told me I don't have faith. I said what - of course I have faith I have a strong belief in my higher power. Then I realized he a is right. I have a strong belief that a HP exists - that is is all loving, all knowing and wonderful. I belief in the after lif...

Ness · Ness

Sorry in advance for this vent but my head is about to burst.My Ason (33) is due in court (maybe even been there already, I dont know) for criminal damage....and has another similar charge pending......all in the pursuit of drink. I never thought, as a mother, I would utter these words....... but I h...

SheWolf · SheWolf

My A has been home from treatment, about 1month, and I am very unhappy. He was gone 4 months (we thought the issue was depression, he had a breakdown, where he pushed me through the laundry room doors and threatened me (he has never done anything like this before), he was arrested, with his parents for 1...

glad lee · glad lee

Laughter is the sound of recovery... have a great day (((everyone))) Blonde in a BlizzardIt was snowing heavily and blowing to the point that visibility was almost zero when the little blonde got off work. She made her way to her car and wondered how she was going to make it home. She sat in her car w...

abbyal · abbyal

I talked to mbub this morning - she is doing well sounded positive . Docs felt the procedure went well did what it was intended to do , she has new meds and will go back to docs in two weeks by then they will know how they will continue to treat the tumor. She may go home tomorrow if all goes well . she says t...

pineapple · pineapple

This is an update to my post a few days ago, ¨I have to do this¨. Anyway, since getting AH to the Dr. he found nothing obviously wrong with him except his drinking. AH said he wanted to quit and it's been three days so far. He looks so much better already. Had some withdrawal symptoms the first two days, but...

Ness · Ness

All last week it was one stress on top of another......my serenity had crumbled and Tuesday night I was planning going to my f2f next day to try and find some healing in the room.Wednesday I woke to a silent snow-world, there had been a huge dump of snow overnight. I thought I wont impose on husb to drive me...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello All... ;) My Winter Slump is still in full swing, the snow outside is still at over a foot, the sun did try to come out a couple times thru out the week, but there was to much to melt... I started my Week off "Wonderfully", went to the Movies with some Girly's from our Home Group... BIG HELP....

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, My soon to be ex "A" has been emailing me lately as this is our only form of communication at this time. Today I had two emails in my inbox and they were nothing but bait. The "I am sorrys" and the "I wish I wasn't such a failure" and the "I wish I was the man that y...

RLC · RLC

HP keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 11:58:07 AM -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 12:05:26 PM

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((Friends)))))))))), My two teenagers are driving me literally insane....I am at the end of my rope with them......I want to tell them get the hell out.....I have endured more than I can handle....all they do is argue and argue over the most stupid stuff....and it's not small arguing it's h...

maresie · maresie

After a year of putting back together my physical health (and I"m not finished yet) I have come to see my denial at the ex A's drinking, using and general insanity crossed the line into my own life. I certainly had enormous denial about the issues with my health, my financial picture (totally rui...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

For those of you who have alcoholic spouses who have done some really disgusting, embarassing things when they are drunk, how do you get past that. I mean really? Peeing in the fridge? Peeing on the tv? My AH has done a lot of things while he's drunk and I just don't see him as the same person anymore - I...

Katy · Katy

Some things just jump right out and bite ya bum, I'm not too good with words some people can just write very few and get it right out there, me I have to write essays, but the the thing is, it all takes time to process what it is, I read to understand it fully and then struggle to try and apply it to my life, even...

ElizabethP65 · ElizabethP65

On Sunday, February 6, I posted a question asking for ESH from those of you who have dealt, successfully, with infidelity by a dry alcoholic. I was very grateful for the 3 very helpful replies. There is one reply, which I wanted to read again because it was so powerful to me. Now it's gone. You know who you...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I told a friend of mine I gave him 90 days before he would be in jail. He called me from somewhere Thurs and Fri. and he was sleeping w/ ppl for a place to stay. Fun, fun, fun. I got a strange call late Sat. night and sure enough he was in jail. I looked it up online and see he is in til the 22nd. So I thought,...

LeesesPieces · LeesesPieces

So here's my story. Where I came from, what happened, and where I am today. I am 27 years old and have been married to my husband 5 months, we've been together 5 years. He is a recovering alcoholic. He was drinking and using for the first 2 years of our relationship, and thankfully has 3 years sober and cont...

Jerry F · Jerry F

HOPE!! Just found out that the state legislature is considering a proposal that all the liquor licensenees in the state have their employees that handle alcohol from the establishment to the drinker be educated on alcohol and the effects it has on drinkers plus a few other twists. I have no idea if t...

grammie · grammie

Good morning fellow members Because I believe so strongly in the power of prayer, I am asking as many who care to to join me in prayer today for mbub. Some of you may know her and others not, she is having treatment today for a tumor in her head. I believe that the more prayers go up the better able HP is able to...

wdiagw · wdiagw

I have to get this off my chest. My husband is an alcoholic. He accepts that he is an alcoholic; he embraces the fact that he is an alcoholic; he brags to buddies about how much he drinks. He doesn't think he is doing anything wrong because he still gets up in the morning and goes to work every day. His ac...

freeagain · freeagain

I had a great weekend full of recovery. It was our annual round up here. I hadn't been in a couple of years. This year it was gently suggested that I go. For me. I have missed it so. The speakers, the fellowship. Seeing friends who I haven't seen in years in some cases. Just the love. So, I went. The speakers w...

tlcate · tlcate

Hello Family, So I have had this idea rolling around in my head for quite some time. I am getting ready to do my second round of the steps with my sponsor. I have always had this urge to really get into some deep discussions here with my MIP family regarding the steps and learn what the people I spend so muc...

pineapple · pineapple

Since I found this site I've learned so much. Mostly to take care of me first which includes learning to detach from my AH. I've quit nagging him about his drinking, I don't yell at him or argue about the help I don't get from him. I don't try to make him eat, shower or do anything else. I've let him be even whe...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

This has been talked about on this board before but it is now imminent and I am feeling increaslingly sad. AH and I met on Valentine's day 40 years ago. He gatecrashed a party I held with fellow flatmates. I got talking to him at the end of the evening, he asked me out and the rest, as they say, is history. We h...

Ness · Ness

Hi folks.....a friend sent this to me, I like it......... thought you might too. Don't know the original source.........maybe you will. 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I am the mother of an addicted adult son. I love my son very much and someday I hope he will love himself also. I cringe when I hear people giving their opinion on addicts and what should be done about them. "They (addicts) should be put into prison with the key thrown away", I would never put up...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Where do I begin? It has been hectic past couple of weeks and not being able to get here hasn't helped. The first trauma/drama was husband having chest pains and being admitted to the hospital and getting a 2nd stint put in his heart. He had a blockage of over 93% in his artery. They said it was so close that...

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Okay, so I confronted my A Fiance, who has been drinking off and on since I met him. The only reason he stopped in the past was his DUI..SO-little background- He's got 4 DUI's went to treatment, 6 times I think. He at first said, no way I am not going to quit blah blah...then the next day(which was yesterd...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Family, I came across the following, which I wrote back in July 2008 [how time flies] and thought it worth posting again as I have kept it safe to happen upon it again someday. That someday is today: "Gratitude leads to humility - so I am told, and if that is the case then I need to make sure that my humi...

miss lucy · miss lucy

am back! been at AH's side for the past two days, nursing him back to health. oh yes! despite him wrecking the former marital home and destroying a lot of my possessions, and despite my being resolute that i could see no future for us, when he text me in the middle of the night saying he was really ill...

RLC · RLC

Family, It doesn't snow in Alabama very often, but it is as I post. For those of you who are not aware, just the mention of snow in our forecast causes a stampede of grocery shoppers that wipe out every loaf of bread and every gallon of milk available while the rest of the world laughs at us. We treat 2&q...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((Hello my Friends)))))). First of all Happy Valentines Day to all of you young at heart out there...and for those of you are still couples may you treasure these simple things in life....a card...a hug or even a happy valentines day wish from the one you love....... I have been having some sad mome...

Katy · Katy

We do what it is that we think we not ought to hoping that we will get what it is that isn't possible! Curtesy of our very own Jerry F, ya just gotta love him to bit's, I do mwah x Katyx

vlc · vlc

One of the three C's, anyway. Hi. I'm new, sponsorless, and hoping for a little guidance. I think I've got the "can't control it" and "can't cure it." It's just a matter of making it habitual in my day-to-day life. I'm having trouble, however, with the "didn't cause it.&qu...

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	Being lonely (Preview) Since I left the ex A the only men I have met have (a) active addictions (b) no boundaries and (c) both issues. There are many days when I can buckle up and say that I dont' mind being alone. Really I have not known what it is like to have an active partnership that is someone who helps out rather than deman...	maresie	7	903	Feb 24, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Feedback Please (Preview) I called the A tonight to see how he was doing. Was feeling bad about a friendship that had fallen apart. I was deceptive and hinted that it was a male friend- it wasn't. Anyway, the A ends up telling me that his mom visited this weekend in Florida and that he thinks she is bothered by the fact that he drin...	Codependent	11	1031	Feb 24, 2010 by carolinagirl
	Grammie's Birthday (Preview) A day late and a dollar short . . . but in Alanon I learned it's never too late So . . . . A BIG SPECIAL HAPPY to Grammie yesterday. I love attending meetings with you, your ESH is so full of experience, strength and hope. I hope your birthday was the best! Maria	Maria123	14	1396	Feb 23, 2010 by Peggy7
	A little hope (Preview) I talked to my ex MIL on the phone last night and she has said she is finally done rescuing the A. She has been there to bail him out every time for YEARS and I have been saying over and over that she is not helping him. She is in AA herself and said yesterday that all of her AA friends said she is not helping him...	carolinagirl	3	771	Feb 23, 2010 by maire rua
	The empty place (Preview) Hi MIP family, I guess it has been just 5 short weeks since my AH passed away, although it seems so much longer than that. In that time, my family and I have been able to say goodbye, both here in the USA and my home country. I returned from my home country last week and have become very aware of an empty plac...	Rocky38	11	851	Feb 22, 2010 by Andrea12
	I'm new and frustrated. (Preview) Hello, my name is Hailie and I am currently in a four year relationship with an alcoholic. I've been thinking of attending the meetings, I feel quite alone. His addiction is beginning to affect me and I'm frightened, unsure of what to do next.	hailiestar	8	983	Feb 22, 2010 by Festfan
	Going to my first meeting tonight... (Preview) I have been reading all of your posts for the past two weeks - I can't even tell you what a blessing it has been to read all of your stories and know that I am not alone! My exAbf broke up with me two weeks ago - out of the blue. He and I have dated off and on for a year...He had been clean this time for a little over...	speck31	7	1049	Feb 22, 2010 by Iamhere
	Lessons all over the place, Patience, expectations, gratitude WOW! (Preview) Good morning alanon family, fishinmama here. I have figured out I have an expectation problem. So much has happened in the last couple of weeks, geez months, for the first time I think I see a bit of the lesson here. Daughter went to court this last week, her dad took her. She got some pretty stiff fine...	fishinmama	5	958	Feb 22, 2010 by Iamhere
	Packing and Sad (Preview) First I want to thank everyone who responded to my earlier post a few days ago. I am so very, very grateful for this forum and for those who encourage me to "get back on the horse" and welcome me back into the recovery community with open arms. I feel far from my program. I recently sought help fo...	RunnerChick	8	891	Feb 22, 2010 by Iamhere
	I'm ready to make a change but I'm scarred of loosing everything! (Preview) I just found this forum and I know it was a blessing that I did. I grew up with an alcoholic mom and I have been with and I am married to a mean alcoholic for 12 years now. We have a 12 year old son and I'm really seeing the horrible effects that it has on him. He is a good kid but I see his frusteration/anger when it...	HOPE79	10	981	Feb 22, 2010 by abbyal
	Ghosts of behaviors past (Preview) Hello all, It has been so very, very long since I have posted. As we all are doing, I have been working so hard on my recovery, and can honestly say, I finally feel like I am in a pretty good place. I can remember the woman who used to waste all her time, watching, waiting, seeking out the lies, the deceit,...	liljeannie	5	912	Feb 21, 2010 by blender_girl
	Another Sponsor Question (Preview) I've been in Al-Anon for almost a year now and still don't have a sponsor. I know I need one to successfully work the program and to make much-needed changes in my life. I've got 3 people that I would like to ask, but I'm not sure which one would be best. I've been praying about it and asking God to help me...	N8SMOM	6	885	Feb 21, 2010 by tlcate
	AM I ENABLING IF I...... (Preview) In my earlier post I said my 26. yr old son is on a 72 hour hold for depression and suicide. He is going to be released Monday morning and has no where to go! In order for him to go to rehab he needs to find a place with an available bed. He said he called a few places and he is on a waiting list, he didn't say how l...	roxygirl	6	915	Feb 21, 2010 by abbyal
	Taking things personally. (Preview) I had a phone interview on Friday that the interviewer didn't show up for. Getting the time off for that interview was like standing on my head and the company never seem to be able to make it at a time that is convenient for me. That sent me into a tailspin of "poor me's" suddenly I was fed up if...	maresie	3	1141	Feb 20, 2010 by hotrod
	list me some options please! (Preview) Hi- I need to know if anyone knows some options I have... Afiance-4 dwi's, on probation, no license and was drinking(of course at home in secret-while i was going in to the liquor store getting his stuff) well a week ago I told him I am done going to the store and he needs to get help or the kids and I will lea...	lindseymommyof2	7	1091	Feb 20, 2010 by Jerry F
	I feel stupid...we are not together anymore! (Preview) What do I care if my ex-husband & I would've celebrated twenty years of marriage on Tuesday! I am so over him but I can't seem to forget that date. It is not that I love him anymore. I don't even have a desire to see him or even talk to him at all! But my memory had me at a place as usual. I am so sorry that I eve...	Hoot Nanny	6	836	Feb 20, 2010 by Iamhere
	Busyness and Isolation (Preview) Because I've been to "busy" latley, I've isolated myself from everyone, even my Al-anon friends. In the last year I've been to about 5 meetings, not including this second posting that I've put online. That is not enough.........I miss being part of a fellowship which I was when I had more t...	RoseODAT	6	1027	Feb 20, 2010 by Iamhere
	Need your perspective (Preview) My AHsober called last night. He is coming to town for meetings (we work for the same company). He asked if he could stay over night and then we both attend meetings on Friday. I said yes. Our son has moved back in with me after graduating from college. So he could see his son. His sister lives 10 miles down t...	nmike	6	865	Feb 20, 2010 by Andrea12
	Literature for the newcomer (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is Phil and I'm a recovering alcoholic. Although my girlfriend has never experienced me in active addiction, she is the child of an alcoholic, and has shown interest in attending Al-Anon meetings. Any suggested reading I should tell her about? We've had many conversations abo...	phil a	8	1302	Feb 20, 2010 by phil a
	different meetings (Preview) I have been going to two alanon meetings a week, I know they are good meetings that follow the principles of al anon. There are a couple of old timers that talk to us about the traditions etc dont give advice, no cross talking things like that. I went to a different meeting last week and people were givi...	Tracy	3	766	Feb 20, 2010 by RoseODAT
	update (Preview) Hi all, I haven't posted for a while, but I have been lurking and replying to posts. :) I am never cease to be amazed by how much my life has changed since I decided to take it back and truly focus on me. My divorce from my "A" will be final on 03/02/10. I am anxious, nervous and a little sad. Even th...	Mandy123	7	718	Feb 20, 2010 by Maria123
	HELP, I NEED ADVICE! (Preview) Hi everyone, I have a question. My son is 26 yrs. old and he is the alcoholic. He voluntarily went to the hospital last night and had himself admitted because he is depressed and felt suicidal. He finally admitted he needed help. I thank God for that! He said he had no choice, that he lost everything...	roxygirl	6	645	Feb 20, 2010 by Karilynn
	Life changing stuff (Preview) Hi all, I would like to share some lyrics to a song that has really touched me and has kind of been my song for a while now. You've got your reasons Reasons just to walk away No one would blame you if you didn't want to face the pain You find yourself Up against the wall You're scared to push cause it might fal...	Mandy123	2	715	Feb 20, 2010 by glad
	Haven't been here for awhile --- MEGA RELAPSE FOR ME (Preview) Grrrrrr I am so angry at myself. I had a mega slip the past month and a half. STILL living with exbf. We were still acting as though we were together. He took a turn this week and turned into this horrific individual - not wanting to be near me, saying nasty things. The worst part is that I convinced myself...	RunnerChick	8	1014	Feb 20, 2010 by Festfan
	why me? (Preview) just taking time out from studying to catch up with you all..... my there has been some real progress since the last time i was here for a lot of you! "taking care of you" is beginning to work and it fills me with hope. while i was reading through the posts i had missed i was struck by a common thr...	miss lucy	3	767	Feb 19, 2010 by nmike
	What to do about an active alcoholic? (Preview) I read someone post somewhere that its OK to post here everyday. I am going through a tough time, a trial of faith and a trial of someone I love getting close to hitting bottom. My ex boyfriend whom I write about is in a terrible cycle downward. He was sober 9 months with me - left for another alcoholic woman...	jasobel	6	1369	Feb 19, 2010 by RLC
	Have alot of belief in HP but don't have faith :( (Preview) Has anyone faced this confusion? I friend of mine recently told me I don't have faith. I said what - of course I have faith I have a strong belief in my higher power. Then I realized he a is right. I have a strong belief that a HP exists - that is is all loving, all knowing and wonderful. I belief in the after lif...	jasobel	3	728	Feb 19, 2010 by kitty
	I know it’s no use railing against life.........but sometimes...... (long...sorry). (Preview) Sorry in advance for this vent but my head is about to burst.My Ason (33) is due in court (maybe even been there already, I dont know) for criminal damage....and has another similar charge pending......all in the pursuit of drink. I never thought, as a mother, I would utter these words....... but I h...	Ness	4	850	Feb 19, 2010 by maresie
	Unhappy and discouraged...long, please read...help! (Preview) My A has been home from treatment, about 1month, and I am very unhappy. He was gone 4 months (we thought the issue was depression, he had a breakdown, where he pushed me through the laundry room doors and threatened me (he has never done anything like this before), he was arrested, with his parents for 1...	SheWolf	8	940	Feb 19, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Blonde in a Blizzard (Preview) Laughter is the sound of recovery... have a great day (((everyone))) Blonde in a BlizzardIt was snowing heavily and blowing to the point that visibility was almost zero when the little blonde got off work. She made her way to her car and wondered how she was going to make it home. She sat in her car w...	glad lee	3	824	Feb 19, 2010 by Mandy123
	About Bub (Preview) I talked to mbub this morning - she is doing well sounded positive . Docs felt the procedure went well did what it was intended to do , she has new meds and will go back to docs in two weeks by then they will know how they will continue to treat the tumor. She may go home tomorrow if all goes well . she says t...	abbyal	3	664	Feb 19, 2010 by Mandy123
	so far so good (Preview) This is an update to my post a few days ago, ¨I have to do this¨. Anyway, since getting AH to the Dr. he found nothing obviously wrong with him except his drinking. AH said he wanted to quit and it's been three days so far. He looks so much better already. Had some withdrawal symptoms the first two days, but...	pineapple	4	581	Feb 19, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Right where I needed to be. (Preview) All last week it was one stress on top of another......my serenity had crumbled and Tuesday night I was planning going to my f2f next day to try and find some healing in the room.Wednesday I woke to a silent snow-world, there had been a huge dump of snow overnight. I thought I wont impose on husb to drive me...	Ness	6	1018	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	HP N Awareness... What a Week... (Preview) Hello All... ;) My Winter Slump is still in full swing, the snow outside is still at over a foot, the sun did try to come out a couple times thru out the week, but there was to much to melt... I started my Week off "Wonderfully", went to the Movies with some Girly's from our Home Group... BIG HELP....	Jozie	4	867	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	I can see the worm and I am not biting (Preview) Hi all, My soon to be ex "A" has been emailing me lately as this is our only form of communication at this time. Today I had two emails in my inbox and they were nothing but bait. The "I am sorrys" and the "I wish I wasn't such a failure" and the "I wish I was the man that y...	Mandy123	5	831	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	A Short Prayer That will Help Us To "Not React" To Our Alcoholic !!! (Preview) HP keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 11:58:07 AM -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 12:05:26 PM	RLC	12	1802	Feb 18, 2010 by Hunny
	When is enough enough??? (Preview) ((((((((((Friends)))))))))), My two teenagers are driving me literally insane....I am at the end of my rope with them......I want to tell them get the hell out.....I have endured more than I can handle....all they do is argue and argue over the most stupid stuff....and it's not small arguing it's h...	Andrea12	9	971	Feb 18, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Denial (Preview) After a year of putting back together my physical health (and I"m not finished yet) I have come to see my denial at the ex A's drinking, using and general insanity crossed the line into my own life. I certainly had enormous denial about the issues with my health, my financial picture (totally rui...	maresie	4	1164	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	wdiagw's post got me to thinking (Preview) For those of you who have alcoholic spouses who have done some really disgusting, embarassing things when they are drunk, how do you get past that. I mean really? Peeing in the fridge? Peeing on the tv? My AH has done a lot of things while he's drunk and I just don't see him as the same person anymore - I...	N8SMOM	9	986	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	The significant problems we have created cannot be solved at the same level of thinking at when we created them! (Preview) Some things just jump right out and bite ya bum, I'm not too good with words some people can just write very few and get it right out there, me I have to write essays, but the the thing is, it all takes time to process what it is, I read to understand it fully and then struggle to try and apply it to my life, even...	Katy	8	1149	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Dry Drunk Infidelity...help. (Preview) On Sunday, February 6, I posted a question asking for ESH from those of you who have dealt, successfully, with infidelity by a dry alcoholic. I was very grateful for the 3 very helpful replies. There is one reply, which I wanted to read again because it was so powerful to me. Now it's gone. You know who you...	ElizabethP65	8	4066	Feb 17, 2010 by RoseODAT
	Update (Preview) So I told a friend of mine I gave him 90 days before he would be in jail. He called me from somewhere Thurs and Fri. and he was sleeping w/ ppl for a place to stay. Fun, fun, fun. I got a strange call late Sat. night and sure enough he was in jail. I looked it up online and see he is in til the 22nd. So I thought,...	carolinagirl	3	509	Feb 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Been gone awhile and desperate for help. (Preview) So here's my story. Where I came from, what happened, and where I am today. I am 27 years old and have been married to my husband 5 months, we've been together 5 years. He is a recovering alcoholic. He was drinking and using for the first 2 years of our relationship, and thankfully has 3 years sober and cont...	LeesesPieces	6	1324	Feb 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Here is a little something to pray for. (Preview) HOPE!! Just found out that the state legislature is considering a proposal that all the liquor licensenees in the state have their employees that handle alcohol from the establishment to the drinker be educated on alcohol and the effects it has on drinkers plus a few other twists. I have no idea if t...	Jerry F	14	1390	Feb 17, 2010 by Mandy123
	Prayer Request for mbub (Preview) Good morning fellow members Because I believe so strongly in the power of prayer, I am asking as many who care to to join me in prayer today for mbub. Some of you may know her and others not, she is having treatment today for a tumor in her head. I believe that the more prayers go up the better able HP is able to...	grammie	7	987	Feb 17, 2010 by Andrea12
	I have to talk to someone; I can't handle this anymore (sorry-long) (Preview) I have to get this off my chest. My husband is an alcoholic. He accepts that he is an alcoholic; he embraces the fact that he is an alcoholic; he brags to buddies about how much he drinks. He doesn't think he is doing anything wrong because he still gets up in the morning and goes to work every day. His ac...	wdiagw	12	1273	Feb 17, 2010 by Andrea12
	What a good weekend (Preview) I had a great weekend full of recovery. It was our annual round up here. I hadn't been in a couple of years. This year it was gently suggested that I go. For me. I have missed it so. The speakers, the fellowship. Seeing friends who I haven't seen in years in some cases. Just the love. So, I went. The speakers w...	freeagain	6	846	Feb 17, 2010 by supermom
	Step Work on MIP??? (Preview) Hello Family, So I have had this idea rolling around in my head for quite some time. I am getting ready to do my second round of the steps with my sponsor. I have always had this urge to really get into some deep discussions here with my MIP family regarding the steps and learn what the people I spend so muc...	tlcate	12	843	Feb 17, 2010 by Iamhere
	I have to do this (Preview) Since I found this site I've learned so much. Mostly to take care of me first which includes learning to detach from my AH. I've quit nagging him about his drinking, I don't yell at him or argue about the help I don't get from him. I don't try to make him eat, shower or do anything else. I've let him be even whe...	pineapple	13	1048	Feb 16, 2010 by Iamhere
	Valentines Day (Preview) This has been talked about on this board before but it is now imminent and I am feeling increaslingly sad. AH and I met on Valentine's day 40 years ago. He gatecrashed a party I held with fellow flatmates. I got talking to him at the end of the evening, he asked me out and the rest, as they say, is history. We h...	Tattyhead	12	630	Feb 16, 2010 by carolinagirl
	12 Steps of Pre-Program (Preview) Hi folks.....a friend sent this to me, I like it......... thought you might too. Don't know the original source.........maybe you will. 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was...	Ness	5	827	Feb 16, 2010 by Festfan
	Why Do People Think They Are All Above It? (Preview) I am the mother of an addicted adult son. I love my son very much and someday I hope he will love himself also. I cringe when I hear people giving their opinion on addicts and what should be done about them. "They (addicts) should be put into prison with the key thrown away", I would never put up...	DreamsOver	13	1043	Feb 15, 2010 by barisax
	NEW * Addiction to oxycontin, what do I do? (Preview) Where do I begin? It has been hectic past couple of weeks and not being able to get here hasn't helped. The first trauma/drama was husband having chest pains and being admitted to the hospital and getting a 2nd stint put in his heart. He had a blockage of over 93% in his artery. They said it was so close that...	wildthang86	7	2782	Feb 15, 2010 by barisax
	is this to good to be true? (Preview) Okay, so I confronted my A Fiance, who has been drinking off and on since I met him. The only reason he stopped in the past was his DUI..SO-little background- He's got 4 DUI's went to treatment, 6 times I think. He at first said, no way I am not going to quit blah blah...then the next day(which was yesterd...	lindseymommyof2	9	879	Feb 15, 2010 by abbyal
	The changing tide in my recovery (Preview) Family, I came across the following, which I wrote back in July 2008 [how time flies] and thought it worth posting again as I have kept it safe to happen upon it again someday. That someday is today: "Gratitude leads to humility - so I am told, and if that is the case then I need to make sure that my humi...	Suzannah	2	860	Feb 15, 2010 by hotrod
	had an awful fright! (Preview) am back! been at AH's side for the past two days, nursing him back to health. oh yes! despite him wrecking the former marital home and destroying a lot of my possessions, and despite my being resolute that i could see no future for us, when he text me in the middle of the night saying he was really ill...	miss lucy	8	986	Feb 15, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Snow In Alabama ??? (Preview) Family, It doesn't snow in Alabama very often, but it is as I post. For those of you who are not aware, just the mention of snow in our forecast causes a stampede of grocery shoppers that wipe out every loaf of bread and every gallon of milk available while the rest of the world laughs at us. We treat 2&q...	RLC	8	982	Feb 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	Have A Wonderful Valentines Day (Preview) (((((Hello my Friends)))))). First of all Happy Valentines Day to all of you young at heart out there...and for those of you are still couples may you treasure these simple things in life....a card...a hug or even a happy valentines day wish from the one you love....... I have been having some sad mome...	Andrea12	5	780	Feb 14, 2010 by hotrod
	Another little Gem that spoke right to my heart! (Preview) We do what it is that we think we not ought to hoping that we will get what it is that isn't possible! Curtesy of our very own Jerry F, ya just gotta love him to bit's, I do mwah x Katyx	Katy	2	769	Feb 14, 2010 by hotrod
	Help with 3 C's (Preview) One of the three C's, anyway. Hi. I'm new, sponsorless, and hoping for a little guidance. I think I've got the "can't control it" and "can't cure it." It's just a matter of making it habitual in my day-to-day life. I'm having trouble, however, with the "didn't cause it.&qu...	vlc	11	3492	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
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