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need lots of help · need lots of help

so I made it very clear to AH that if he has another drink, then i take the kids and leave. we have been seeing a therapist and made my point clear to him in front of her. He hasn't drank since last week. It's only a matter of time. I don't want to live that life anymore. I have given it YEARS!!! I am DONE w...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I'm struggling with the issue of confronting my wife, especially about things not related to drinking. My attitude lately has been her issues are her issues, and I'm not going to confront her on the things she does that I don't like. However, my appointment with my therapist this week has me a bit confu...

Gailey · Gailey

why am I allowing myself to feel such anxiety about knowing my A son is out in a bar tonight and will be driving when he leaves? Tonight I am feeling envious of all moms who know their grown child is at home with their family...where they should be. HP...help me to be able to relax a little tonight

RLC · RLC

My local Tuesday night group is starting a step study tomorrow morning (Sat.). We thought it was something that would be beneficial to old and new member alike. Our plans are to have one meeting each month until the study is complete. We decided we would have no time table on how many meetings we would al...

ms621 · ms621

My AH hasn't had a drink in about a week and a half, and that part has been a blessing. Over the last few days though, he has come clean about a few things that he was previously lying about (I've been lied to A LOT), one big thing being a hefty credit card bill that I had no idea about. Well, he didn't exactly...

NCSUgeology · NCSUgeology

My brother is getting out of jail this coming Wednesday. Before he was sentenced, he was begging the judge, DA, and his lawyer to help him get the help he needed for depression and alcoholism that he just couldn't in jail. He could've gotten 5 years since this was his second parole violation. Instead...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Kakahiaka Ohana (good morning family...just exercising the language)!! I've done some reading here this morning and some of it keyed a lesson I got early in recovery part of which came from inside of the ODAAT daily reader which said something like "I say I would do anything to help my alc...

flinn66 · flinn66

I always knew my HP would help me understand when I had enough. This has been building for weeks and his drinking has got worse but this morning after receiving a load of verbal abuse I called the Police (its not the first time). I could have had him arrested and will do if he 'breaches the peace"agai...

ms621 · ms621

There is a meeting tonight. I really want to go to it, but am so nervous... I'm typically OK with doing new things, but for some reason I'm nervous about attending my first meeting... I don't want to have to talk, or even identify myself. If I could attend while being invisible that would be perfect....

babygirl71 · babygirl71

I got a phone call tonight from my A. He wanted me to come pick him up from treatment on Saturday morning. (He went in Tues night voluntarily- his idea). I told him that I did not think that was a good idea and told him I thought he wasn't even supposed to be contacting me in the first 72 hours. I asked him why he...

parfait624 · parfait624

I am so frustrated with my ABF! First I would like to say that in the past couple of weeks since we started having issues I have started seeing my shrink again, gone to my first alanon meeting, and joined a gym. I am working on finding things to do besides thinking about and dealing with him. Rescently h...

liam · liam

Hello everyone. I joined this board a few weeks ago, and I been kinda in the back ground reading and taking things in, trying to learn new ways to combat this disease I suffer from. Its alcoholism. I been comming to alanon for around a year, just using it as a place of refuge looking to be validated on how h...

liam · liam

Lord, I may not be the person you would like me to be I may not be the person I could be, but Lord thank you I;m not the person I used to be.

supermom · supermom

I heard someone say once at a meeting if an alcoholic is talking, he is probably telling a lie. Everyone chuckled. So I guess I forgot that a dry drunk often lies also. My husband took a job in the fall where he works all weekend long. I take care of our 2 very small children all by myself. When we were dis...

bud · bud

Tonight I learned that my biological Dad had another mini stroke and is in the hospital for treatment of a blood clot in the left ventricle of his heart. My Dad has lived many years on borrowed time due to heart disease. The blood clot is not in the best place, as it can break off, travel to the brain and ca...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I'm sure that every single parent on this board can relate to this: I am constantly told "I don't know how you do it." Technically, I am not a single parent, because I am married. But my AH works 600 miles away right now, so in essence I am single parenting my three kids. My family does not li...

posusta · posusta

hello, well my Brother Justin who is 20, is a recoving alcoholic, and a drug addict. He has been sober for almost two years. it will be two years in april. Me and justin are very close, but recentily (tuesday the 3rd) i was told by his very good friend who dose my hair that justin told her he had drank a beer on...

Evian · Evian

Hello Everyone, It's been a couple of weeks since I was last on here. Christmas and New Years went surprisingly well. That quickly changed though. One night while talking, he said something about us not having relations (it's been a month and a half). I said I was sorry, that I have issues to deal wi...

BlazeB · BlazeB

My A (best friend) has been actively drinking for over a week. Yesterday morning I went to her place to check on her as she was not answering her phone. I found her in an unspeakable situation. It is very painful to be exposed to this and have no ability to change it. I couldn't leave her in a mess so did what I...

babygirl71 · babygirl71

Hello everyone. This is a big step for me. I've lived with an alcoholic for 4 and a half years. He went into treatment a couple days ago and I have no idea how to deal with it. I'm happy, mad, scared, relieved, all of it. I have been enabling for years. In the beginning I would go to the liquor store and buy it fo...

JrsMommy215 · JrsMommy215

My son's father is a recovering addict of nearly 6 months. I had gone through hell with that man and I think I am still harboring a lot of resentment and anger towards him for the things we had gone through. He suggested I go to Al-Anon meetings to try and get help for my anger and hatred for him. But from what...

member922 · member922

So in my once again talk session with the on again off again Abf, some nice words were actually said. Finally a calm discussion. He told me that one of the reason that he likes being around me is because I have turned my life around. He said that I have gone from a substance abuser to someone who has settl...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

Page 13 January 13th: at the very bottom: "In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus.... Wow. I am beginning to see this and realize that its so very true. any e s and h you can share on it? Thanks ;)

drucilla06 · drucilla06

Watched 'when a man loves a woman' today.I have seen it more than once over the years but I decided to watch it and see if I saw anything new or got any new insights.I did.I saw myself as my AH saw me.A person who projects that she is perfect,so good,so much better than you.If you would just listen to me your l...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

I don't know whether to be excited or scared. I'm a little bit of both, I think. My ABF has been in inpatient treatment since September. We've had family counseling, and got to go out on passes together on weekends after we'd had a few counseling sessions. I have seen him steadily become healthier and ha...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife & I had a huge blow-out argument last night. I will admit to "starting" it, but I do feel I was justified in my criticism. Long story short, I had been home for 10 days because of the holidays and had found myself becoming more and more frustrated by my wife's complete lack of intera...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

My story is not new. We have all been wrought with some of the same things through our childhoods and lives. Some worse, some not so bad, still causing us to grow a disease... Last night I had an attitude problem about something that I couldn't change. I was cranky, and I could feel my vibes affectin...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It has been a long time since I posted--I guess it was meant to be that I couldn't get on here for quite a while. I have been busy getting it back together & putting the focus back on me after spending the holidays trying to "run the show"! I did have a lot of people around me to bring in the new y...

Aloha · Aloha

... working the program in all my affairs. I just about nearly ripped into a supplier at my job because of an unhappy client. I was getting frustrated because everyone else in the office has been in reactionary-mode with the client because he's unhappy. I nearly joined in on the knee-jerk thing... typ...

suave75 · suave75

He called asking to come home. He only gave detox 2 days. He left and has since drank again. I don't know if he used any other drugs. He said it will be 29 degrees tonight. I think he ran out of money. What should I do? Should I take him to a shelter. He can't come back to my home. I just don't feel safe or comfort...

kath · kath

Thanks to Al Anon I have been able to step back and really see what is best for my children and me. I left my AH a year ago to live with my dad who is an functioning alcoholic, nonetheless alcoholic. I have begun to take steps toward freeing myself from familiar uncomfortable known to unfamiliar free. It w...

hmeshow · hmeshow

I am going to my first meeting tonight and my anxiety level is HIGH. I am the daughter of an alcoholic (deceased) and daughter of a mother who is doesn't drink but has all the behaviors. I also have a brother who is an alcoholic. I have been seeing a therapist who has encouraged me to attend a meeting. Toni...

Bettina · Bettina

I never thought I would see this day and it all happened in about 24 hours. The XAH's room mate ran out on the last months rent, naturally XAH cant afford apartment on his own. Well, the landlord gave him his eviction 3 days ago. XAH is not computer literate and does not own one. He asked me to just look and...

js399964 · js399964

My AH has been sober (again) for 5 months now, during which he's been off work, around the house, talking a lot about all the great changes he is going to make to his life. It's like a record that keeps skipping - he talks about himself, about all the things he wants, what's wrong with his life (and what I'm d...

Christy · Christy

Nothing has any meaning save the meaning you give it. This can change your entire experience of life. Repeat this quietly in your mind at any moment of stress or upset: Nothing has any meaning save the meaning I give it. ~Neale Donald Walsch~

sarebaer · sarebaer

I guess the new year starting tomorrow and a rough week with AH has me asking myself do I really want to do this another year. Through al anon i have found a peace that I havent had for years in my life. What I'm struggling with is not having a real relationship with my AH. It leaves me feeling very, empty and a...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I came to the realization that after 10 years of my husband trying to recover from alcoholism and I am truly powerless. Sorry, but I always thought I could change things. After reading posts of we didn't cause, we can't control and we can't cure, I finally get it. The good news is that my husband is in me...

quadlog · quadlog

A bit about myself and the situation. My wife and I have been married for 8 years. I sobered up before we met so she never saw me drink and I've been sober that entire time BUT a couple of years ago I stopped going to AA meetings and went into a dry drunk. Moody, angry at everything and I never told her I was goin...

casa · casa

I am not going to be able to chair tomorrow night's meeting. I really hope that someone will be kind enough to cover for me. Thanks in advance! Happy New Year! Sara aka casa

Angeliki · Angeliki

Hi- I have a specific situation I am wondering about. I haven't gone to any meetings yet or completed any reading but I haven't found the time to do either so I was hoping I could just ask a question and get some opinions. I understand the concept of "stopping enabling" I guess.. just not sure h...

maresie · maresie

For most of my life holidays were a very difficult time for me. All I could count on was that I would feel deprived, angry and sad. This year one of my neighbors is an alcoholic (in early recovery) who feels deprived, angry and sad 24/7. After my exposure to her somehow I was able to give up the life long tr...

kristiekansas · kristiekansas

Hello everyone! I'm going through a tough time. I kicked my husband out (again, I do it occassionally) but I've held my ground even when he tries to tell me hes hungry or he has no where to go (although when he wants to leave and drink for two days he always finds a place) I feel like I have to option but to tel...

Cross610 · Cross610

Hi all, Before I introduce myself, I just want to say how helpful it has been to browse through the forum and read the posts. It has really helped me to feel less alone in all of this.I am entirely new to al-anon, and have not even attended a meeting in my area yet. I have been reading a lot though. I hope this i...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I just want to let anyone who doesn't know, that itunes has free alanon podcasts that include different subject matters about alchoholics/alanon, as well as speakers. I downloaded the speakers, and i have been using them to help me go to sleep at night. Just passing it on.... Blesings, Lou

Cross610 · Cross610

I am going on vacation with my Addict BF on Thursday, to a place where he will not be able to get his drug. He will not go in to serious physical withdrawals, but may be quite miserable to be around. Regardless, I have told him that when we come home from our vacation, and he has one week drug-free under his be...

Aloha · Aloha

So tonight I'm being offered and interesting experience. My sponsor and a couple other Al-Anon / double-winner friends are planning on going to a New Years celebration tonight. It's at a bar... I have no doubts whatsoever about how my double-winner friends will handle being at a bar around all the dr...

Tracy · Tracy

Today I can feel my sickness when it is starting to attack. I got up this morning and first thing I thought of was my A (he is in rehab). My brain started going into the past then the future. I used to lye there and go with these thoughts. today I decided it is my responsibility to take care of me I prayed to Hp...

ditto · ditto

I haven't been here in forever. I divorced my AH in 2006 and since then I have been living a very calm life. In truth I cannot even say I have missed him. He was very abusive to me and I was frightened of him much of the time. Today through a fluke of luck I discovered that he passed away this past September....

suave75 · suave75

I had to kick my fiance out in the middle of the night 3 days ago. He was doing drugs in my house. He started drinking month ago. It wasn't enough and he over stepped my boundaries. I am sad and confused. I am hurt and feel defeated. It been very tough thed past few days. My daughter asks where he's at and I don'...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Oldest son who has been home for the holidays for two weeks has to leave today.....It was so nice and peaceful to have him home, the kids and I have missed him a lot. His dad (ex-A) did not see him during this entire visit. Granted our son didn't want to see him...but really...the ex sure didn't try very h...

member922 · member922

I will learn from them. Starting now. Back to healthy focus where tripping is allowed, but not encouraged.

Holly09 · Holly09

I haven't been on for a while things have been crazy with the holidays. I wanted to say I hope everyone had a wonderful Chirstmas and Happy New Year!! Here things have been good and I am enjoying it!! Holly

Shelly · Shelly

Hi there, I am married with four children, two from previous father and my two youngest to their alcoholic father (still in denial), 4 yrs and the youngest 2mths. My eldest is 15 and then 11. The older children are fully aware of their step fathers drinking and the 4yr old is becoming more aware. I had att...

parfait624 · parfait624

My ABF and I have been having problems lately. He has been pushing me away. I found this board and decided to attend a meeting. I went last night. I am still a little unsure but it was comforting to see and know that so many people feel like I do. I planned on going back to a second meeting. As I was leavi...

member922 · member922

So I spent yesterday in a funk about this whole stupid "lost relationship" crap. I start today with another email from ABF. I have done well so far over a week with one simple response telling him that he should be proud of his progress and keep up the good work. Now, I don't even know what is h...

glad lee · glad lee

Happy New Year ((everyone)) I thought I'd post a beautiful reminder of what we're working for in Al-anon... Brightest blessings! Al-anon Promises/From Survival to Recovery p. 269 "If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, o...

Mattie · Mattie

My relationship with my addict has been over for quite some time (years). We communicate infrequently but pretty well about family and necessary things. I know he's still sunk in his addictions, but in the casual contact we have, I don't see signs of him. If I didn't know him from times gone by, I'd n...

liam · liam

Over Serious Anonymous 12 Step Program 1. We admitted that we were powerless over seriousness -- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of non-seriousness. 3. Made a decision to turn our constant self-criticism over to our sen...

Tracy · Tracy

A new year Tody I am thinking what am I going to do with this year? What do I need to focus on? I want to really focus on my programme, I want to get fit and healthy, I plan to train to deliver dance exercise classess one or two nights a week to get fit and hopefully earn more money. My job is a little vulnerable la...

Brookiebabe222 · Brookiebabe222

Today was hard. I have been thinking about my ex a a ton lately. I went to a movie with a couple of my guy friends and it was really fun. But then the end came and of course there was a perfect kiss. And of course I was lonely. It sucked. Luckily I have good friends who were there to cheer me up. But I slipped. I cal...

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	One more drink and he's out? (Preview) so I made it very clear to AH that if he has another drink, then i take the kids and leave. we have been seeing a therapist and made my point clear to him in front of her. He hasn't drank since last week. It's only a matter of time. I don't want to live that life anymore. I have given it YEARS!!! I am DONE w...	need lots of help	16	1157	Jan 8, 2011 by f2fmember
	Confronting, but not about drinking (Preview) I'm struggling with the issue of confronting my wife, especially about things not related to drinking. My attitude lately has been her issues are her issues, and I'm not going to confront her on the things she does that I don't like. However, my appointment with my therapist this week has me a bit confu...	usedtobeanyer	16	1499	Jan 8, 2011 by usedtobeanyer
	not again!!!!! (Preview) why am I allowing myself to feel such anxiety about knowing my A son is out in a bar tonight and will be driving when he leaves? Tonight I am feeling envious of all moms who know their grown child is at home with their family...where they should be. HP...help me to be able to relax a little tonight	Gailey	3	1251	Jan 8, 2011 by Jerry F
	Starting A Saturday Morning Step Study (Preview) My local Tuesday night group is starting a step study tomorrow morning (Sat.). We thought it was something that would be beneficial to old and new member alike. Our plans are to have one meeting each month until the study is complete. We decided we would have no time table on how many meetings we would al...	RLC	3	998	Jan 8, 2011 by Jerry F
	Struggling with being kind to AH (Preview) My AH hasn't had a drink in about a week and a half, and that part has been a blessing. Over the last few days though, he has come clean about a few things that he was previously lying about (I've been lied to A LOT), one big thing being a hefty credit card bill that I had no idea about. Well, he didn't exactly...	ms621	8	747	Jan 8, 2011 by marcia
	More of the same? (Preview) My brother is getting out of jail this coming Wednesday. Before he was sentenced, he was begging the judge, DA, and his lawyer to help him get the help he needed for depression and alcoholism that he just couldn't in jail. He could've gotten 5 years since this was his second parole violation. Instead...	NCSUgeology	5	612	Jan 8, 2011 by 2nice4_2long
	Getting off of my "but" (Preview) Aloha Kakahiaka Ohana (good morning family...just exercising the language)!! I've done some reading here this morning and some of it keyed a lesson I got early in recovery part of which came from inside of the ODAAT daily reader which said something like "I say I would do anything to help my alc...	Jerry F	12	444	Jan 8, 2011 by Andrea12
	Enough! (Preview) I always knew my HP would help me understand when I had enough. This has been building for weeks and his drinking has got worse but this morning after receiving a load of verbal abuse I called the Police (its not the first time). I could have had him arrested and will do if he 'breaches the peace"agai...	flinn66	11	933	Jan 8, 2011 by glad lee
	Nervous to attend first meeting... (Preview) There is a meeting tonight. I really want to go to it, but am so nervous... I'm typically OK with doing new things, but for some reason I'm nervous about attending my first meeting... I don't want to have to talk, or even identify myself. If I could attend while being invisible that would be perfect....	ms621	10	1324	Jan 7, 2011 by Phoe
	My first phone call to come get him out of treatment- that was hard (Preview) I got a phone call tonight from my A. He wanted me to come pick him up from treatment on Saturday morning. (He went in Tues night voluntarily- his idea). I told him that I did not think that was a good idea and told him I thought he wasn't even supposed to be contacting me in the first 72 hours. I asked him why he...	babygirl71	10	924	Jan 7, 2011 by Sangyaa
	Dr. Jekyal and Mr. Hyde (Preview) I am so frustrated with my ABF! First I would like to say that in the past couple of weeks since we started having issues I have started seeing my shrink again, gone to my first alanon meeting, and joined a gym. I am working on finding things to do besides thinking about and dealing with him. Rescently h...	parfait624	7	893	Jan 7, 2011 by parfait624
	twisted relations with family, friends, that many of us have suffered the most (Preview) Hello everyone. I joined this board a few weeks ago, and I been kinda in the back ground reading and taking things in, trying to learn new ways to combat this disease I suffer from. Its alcoholism. I been comming to alanon for around a year, just using it as a place of refuge looking to be validated on how h...	liam	2	1111	Jan 7, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	I'm not who I was (Preview) *Lord, I may not be the person you would like me to be I may not be the person I could be, but Lord thank you I;m not the person I used to be.*	liam	1	599	Jan 7, 2011 by hotrod
	sick of the lies (Preview) I heard someone say once at a meeting if an alcoholic is talking, he is probably telling a lie. Everyone chuckled. So I guess I forgot that a dry drunk often lies also. My husband took a job in the fall where he works all weekend long. I take care of our 2 very small children all by myself. When we were dis...	supermom	5	978	Jan 7, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	Gifts of practice (Preview) Tonight I learned that my biological Dad had another mini stroke and is in the hospital for treatment of a blood clot in the left ventricle of his heart. My Dad has lived many years on borrowed time due to heart disease. The blood clot is not in the best place, as it can break off, travel to the brain and ca...	bud	6	389	Jan 6, 2011 by bud
	I have hit the wall (Preview) I'm sure that every single parent on this board can relate to this: I am constantly told "I don't know how you do it." Technically, I am not a single parent, because I am married. But my AH works 600 miles away right now, so in essence I am single parenting my three kids. My family does not li...	stephaniej	14	778	Jan 6, 2011 by xeno59
	In need of ADVISE!!! please help... (Preview) hello, well my Brother Justin who is 20, is a recoving alcoholic, and a drug addict. He has been sober for almost two years. it will be two years in april. Me and justin are very close, but recentily (tuesday the 3rd) i was told by his very good friend who dose my hair that justin told her he had drank a beer on...	posusta	5	1249	Jan 6, 2011 by xeno59
	sigh (Preview) Hello Everyone, It's been a couple of weeks since I was last on here. Christmas and New Years went surprisingly well. That quickly changed though. One night while talking, he said something about us not having relations (it's been a month and a half). I said I was sorry, that I have issues to deal wi...	Evian	11	999	Jan 6, 2011 by Evian
	Worried sick, frustrated, and unhappy . . . (Preview) My A (best friend) has been actively drinking for over a week. Yesterday morning I went to her place to check on her as she was not answering her phone. I found her in an unspeakable situation. It is very painful to be exposed to this and have no ability to change it. I couldn't leave her in a mess so did what I...	BlazeB	5	1198	Jan 6, 2011 by xeno59
	New at this so bear with me (Preview) Hello everyone. This is a big step for me. I've lived with an alcoholic for 4 and a half years. He went into treatment a couple days ago and I have no idea how to deal with it. I'm happy, mad, scared, relieved, all of it. I have been enabling for years. In the beginning I would go to the liquor store and buy it fo...	babygirl71	10	975	Jan 6, 2011 by babygirl71
	is it right for me? (Preview) My son's father is a recovering addict of nearly 6 months. I had gone through hell with that man and I think I am still harboring a lot of resentment and anger towards him for the things we had gone through. He suggested I go to Al-Anon meetings to try and get help for my anger and hatred for him. But from what...	JrsMommy215	8	908	Jan 6, 2011 by abbyal
	Nice words to hear (Preview) So in my once again talk session with the on again off again Abf, some nice words were actually said. Finally a calm discussion. He told me that one of the reason that he likes being around me is because I have turned my life around. He said that I have gone from a substance abuser to someone who has settl...	member922	3	935	Jan 6, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	Something powerful I just read in Courage to change.... (Preview) Page 13 January 13th: at the very bottom: "In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer." -Albert Camus.... Wow. I am beginning to see this and realize that its so very true. any e s and h you can share on it? Thanks ;)	sunflowergirl	5	810	Jan 6, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	"When a man loves a woman" (Preview) Watched 'when a man loves a woman' today.I have seen it more than once over the years but I decided to watch it and see if I saw anything new or got any new insights.I did.I saw myself as my AH saw me.A person who projects that she is perfect,so good,so much better than you.If you would just listen to me your l...	drucilla06	8	1500	Jan 5, 2011 by Tracy
	Boyfriend is coming home from treatment tomorrow (Preview) I don't know whether to be excited or scared. I'm a little bit of both, I think. My ABF has been in inpatient treatment since September. We've had family counseling, and got to go out on passes together on weekends after we'd had a few counseling sessions. I have seen him steadily become healthier and ha...	Sangyaa	9	667	Jan 5, 2011 by clep
	Are fights/arguments ever productive? (Preview) My wife & I had a huge blow-out argument last night. I will admit to "starting" it, but I do feel I was justified in my criticism. Long story short, I had been home for 10 days because of the holidays and had found myself becoming more and more frustrated by my wife's complete lack of intera...	usedtobeanyer	18	843	Jan 5, 2011 by Shelly
	Changing my attitude... one moment at a time (Preview) My story is not new. We have all been wrought with some of the same things through our childhoods and lives. Some worse, some not so bad, still causing us to grow a disease... Last night I had an attitude problem about something that I couldn't change. I was cranky, and I could feel my vibes affectin...	sunflowergirl	3	994	Jan 4, 2011 by member922
	it has been a loooong time! (Preview) It has been a long time since I posted--I guess it was meant to be that I couldn't get on here for quite a while. I have been busy getting it back together & putting the focus back on me after spending the holidays trying to "run the show"! I did have a lot of people around me to bring in the new y...	Hoot Nanny	3	684	Jan 4, 2011 by Jerry F
	Thank God for PAUSE. (Preview) ... working the program in all my affairs. I just about nearly ripped into a supplier at my job because of an unhappy client. I was getting frustrated because everyone else in the office has been in reactionary-mode with the client because he's unhappy. I nearly joined in on the knee-jerk thing... typ...	Aloha	6	1125	Jan 4, 2011 by tiredtonite
	What do you do or say when they beg and are still in denial? (Preview) He called asking to come home. He only gave detox 2 days. He left and has since drank again. I don't know if he used any other drugs. He said it will be 29 degrees tonight. I think he ran out of money. What should I do? Should I take him to a shelter. He can't come back to my home. I just don't feel safe or comfort...	suave75	5	813	Jan 4, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	requesting prayers be sent our way (Preview) Thanks to Al Anon I have been able to step back and really see what is best for my children and me. I left my AH a year ago to live with my dad who is an functioning alcoholic, nonetheless alcoholic. I have begun to take steps toward freeing myself from familiar uncomfortable known to unfamiliar free. It w...	kath	7	757	Jan 4, 2011 by stephaniej
	SOOO nervous! (Preview) I am going to my first meeting tonight and my anxiety level is HIGH. I am the daughter of an alcoholic (deceased) and daughter of a mother who is doesn't drink but has all the behaviors. I also have a brother who is an alcoholic. I have been seeing a therapist who has encouraged me to attend a meeting. Toni...	hmeshow	9	759	Jan 4, 2011 by xeno59
	Above all , HP in control. (Preview) I never thought I would see this day and it all happened in about 24 hours. The XAH's room mate ran out on the last months rent, naturally XAH cant afford apartment on his own. Well, the landlord gave him his eviction 3 days ago. XAH is not computer literate and does not own one. He asked me to just look and...	Bettina	5	722	Jan 4, 2011 by xeno59
	Tired of it all being about the alcoholic! (Preview) My AH has been sober (again) for 5 months now, during which he's been off work, around the house, talking a lot about all the great changes he is going to make to his life. It's like a record that keeps skipping - he talks about himself, about all the things he wants, what's wrong with his life (and what I'm d...	js399964	7	810	Jan 4, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	The meaning you give it.. (Preview) Nothing has any meaning save the meaning you give it. This can change your entire experience of life. Repeat this quietly in your mind at any moment of stress or upset: Nothing has any meaning save the meaning I give it. ~Neale Donald Walsch~	Christy	8	810	Jan 4, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	Can I do this another year? (Preview) I guess the new year starting tomorrow and a rough week with AH has me asking myself do I really want to do this another year. Through al anon i have found a peace that I havent had for years in my life. What I'm struggling with is not having a real relationship with my AH. It leaves me feeling very, empty and a...	sarebaer	5	509	Jan 4, 2011 by peacewithin
	How do I continue to live w/my A husband? (Preview) I came to the realization that after 10 years of my husband trying to recover from alcoholism and I am truly powerless. Sorry, but I always thought I could change things. After reading posts of we didn't cause, we can't control and we can't cure, I finally get it. The good news is that my husband is in me...	wifeofalcoholic	9	991	Jan 3, 2011 by SunnyDays
	Not entirely sure how to deal with my wife (she's co-depending and I'm the recovering alcoholic) (Preview) A bit about myself and the situation. My wife and I have been married for 8 years. I sobered up before we met so she never saw me drink and I've been sober that entire time BUT a couple of years ago I stopped going to AA meetings and went into a dry drunk. Moody, angry at everything and I never told her I was goin...	quadlog	10	1359	Jan 3, 2011 by glad lee
	Chair needed for PM meeting - Tuesday, January 4th (Preview) I am not going to be able to chair tomorrow night's meeting. I really hope that someone will be kind enough to cover for me. Thanks in advance! Happy New Year! Sara aka casa	casa	0	335	Jan 3, 2011 by casa
	Newbie question about enabling (Preview) Hi- I have a specific situation I am wondering about. I haven't gone to any meetings yet or completed any reading but I haven't found the time to do either so I was hoping I could just ask a question and get some opinions. I understand the concept of "stopping enabling" I guess.. just not sure h...	Angeliki	7	721	Jan 3, 2011 by supermom
	Holidays (Preview) For most of my life holidays were a very difficult time for me. All I could count on was that I would feel deprived, angry and sad. This year one of my neighbors is an alcoholic (in early recovery) who feels deprived, angry and sad 24/7. After my exposure to her somehow I was able to give up the life long tr...	maresie	6	478	Jan 3, 2011 by hotrod
	Im more than sick and tired and fed up. BTW Im new! (Preview) Hello everyone! I'm going through a tough time. I kicked my husband out (again, I do it occassionally) but I've held my ground even when he tries to tell me hes hungry or he has no where to go (although when he wants to leave and drink for two days he always finds a place) I feel like I have to option but to tel...	kristiekansas	4	778	Jan 3, 2011 by maresie
	New to this forum...so sad, scared and confused... (Preview) Hi all, Before I introduce myself, I just want to say how helpful it has been to browse through the forum and read the posts. It has really helped me to feel less alone in all of this.I am entirely new to al-anon, and have not even attended a meeting in my area yet. I have been reading a lot though. I hope this i...	Cross610	9	761	Jan 3, 2011 by maresie
	alanon podcasts (Preview) I just want to let anyone who doesn't know, that itunes has free alanon podcasts that include different subject matters about alchoholics/alanon, as well as speakers. I downloaded the speakers, and i have been using them to help me go to sleep at night. Just passing it on.... Blesings, Lou	Loupiness	5	6607	Jan 3, 2011 by ythannah
	Ultimatums...are they ever ok? (Preview) I am going on vacation with my Addict BF on Thursday, to a place where he will not be able to get his drug. He will not go in to serious physical withdrawals, but may be quite miserable to be around. Regardless, I have told him that when we come home from our vacation, and he has one week drug-free under his be...	Cross610	12	2177	Jan 3, 2011 by Aloha
	Facing fears, perhaps? (Preview) So tonight I'm being offered and interesting experience. My sponsor and a couple other Al-Anon / double-winner friends are planning on going to a New Years celebration tonight. It's at a bar... I have no doubts whatsoever about how my double-winner friends will handle being at a bar around all the dr...	Aloha	3	687	Jan 3, 2011 by Aloha
	my sickness (Preview) Today I can feel my sickness when it is starting to attack. I got up this morning and first thing I thought of was my A (he is in rehab). My brain started going into the past then the future. I used to lye there and go with these thoughts. today I decided it is my responsibility to take care of me I prayed to Hp...	Tracy	2	705	Jan 3, 2011 by Debilyn
	He Died (Preview) I haven't been here in forever. I divorced my AH in 2006 and since then I have been living a very calm life. In truth I cannot even say I have missed him. He was very abusive to me and I was frightened of him much of the time. Today through a fluke of luck I discovered that he passed away this past September....	ditto	7	876	Jan 3, 2011 by suave75
	New... I sad and hurt... UPDATE (Preview) I had to kick my fiance out in the middle of the night 3 days ago. He was doing drugs in my house. He started drinking month ago. It wasn't enough and he over stepped my boundaries. I am sad and confused. I am hurt and feel defeated. It been very tough thed past few days. My daughter asks where he's at and I don'...	suave75	7	796	Jan 3, 2011 by Tracy
	Peacefullness comes to an end..... (Preview) Oldest son who has been home for the holidays for two weeks has to leave today.....It was so nice and peaceful to have him home, the kids and I have missed him a lot. His dad (ex-A) did not see him during this entire visit. Granted our son didn't want to see him...but really...the ex sure didn't try very h...	sdisnie	6	794	Jan 3, 2011 by sdisnie
	Big Mistakes Today! (Preview) I will learn from them. Starting now. Back to healthy focus where tripping is allowed, but not encouraged.	member922	5	650	Jan 3, 2011 by member922
	Wishing everyone well! (Preview) I haven't been on for a while things have been crazy with the holidays. I wanted to say I hope everyone had a wonderful Chirstmas and Happy New Year!! Here things have been good and I am enjoying it!! Holly	Holly09	1	426	Jan 3, 2011 by js399964
	Helping children deal with the alcoholic parent (Preview) Hi there, I am married with four children, two from previous father and my two youngest to their alcoholic father (still in denial), 4 yrs and the youngest 2mths. My eldest is 15 and then 11. The older children are fully aware of their step fathers drinking and the 4yr old is becoming more aware. I had att...	Shelly	7	2114	Jan 3, 2011 by Shelly
	Went to my first meeting and my ABF made me feel stupid for it. (Preview) My ABF and I have been having problems lately. He has been pushing me away. I found this board and decided to attend a meeting. I went last night. I am still a little unsure but it was comforting to see and know that so many people feel like I do. I planned on going back to a second meeting. As I was leavi...	parfait624	10	794	Jan 2, 2011 by widow
	Craziness!! (Preview) So I spent yesterday in a funk about this whole stupid "lost relationship" crap. I start today with another email from ABF. I have done well so far over a week with one simple response telling him that he should be proud of his progress and keep up the good work. Now, I don't even know what is h...	member922	4	716	Jan 2, 2011 by xeno59
	The Al-anon Promises (Preview) Happy New Year ((everyone)) I thought I'd post a beautiful reminder of what we're working for in Al-anon... Brightest blessings! Al-anon Promises/From Survival to Recovery p. 269 "If we willingly surrender ourselves to the spiritual discipline of The Twelve Steps and work the program, o...	glad lee	3	1092	Jan 2, 2011 by shellyj123
	Stopping the obsessing -- ? (Preview) My relationship with my addict has been over for quite some time (years). We communicate infrequently but pretty well about family and necessary things. I know he's still sunk in his addictions, but in the casual contact we have, I don't see signs of him. If I didn't know him from times gone by, I'd n...	Mattie	5	850	Jan 2, 2011 by bud
	seriousness: Sign of spiritual sickness? (Preview) Over Serious Anonymous 12 Step Program 1. We admitted that we were powerless over seriousness -- that our lives had become unmanageable. 2. Came to believe that only by lightening up could we achieve a state of non-seriousness. 3. Made a decision to turn our constant self-criticism over to our sen...	liam	6	1194	Jan 2, 2011 by hotrod
	my life. (Preview) A new year Tody I am thinking what am I going to do with this year? What do I need to focus on? I want to really focus on my programme, I want to get fit and healthy, I plan to train to deliver dance exercise classess one or two nights a week to get fit and hopefully earn more money. My job is a little vulnerable la...	Tracy	1	503	Jan 2, 2011 by member922
	Crap. (Preview) Today was hard. I have been thinking about my ex a a ton lately. I went to a movie with a couple of my guy friends and it was really fun. But then the end came and of course there was a perfect kiss. And of course I was lonely. It sucked. Luckily I have good friends who were there to cheer me up. But I slipped. I cal...	Brookiebabe222	2	634	Jan 2, 2011 by member922
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