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John · John

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Anne01 · Anne01

Hello, can someone tell me what those little tag and thread things are on my posts and how do I get rid of them? Thank you. Anne

Anne01 · Anne01

Has anyone ever heard an alcoholic say they don't know who they are after they stop drinking? Anne

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI all, Now that I know what ESH means, that is what I am asking for. My husband smokes pot when he goes fishing. A fact I accepted a while ago. Previously he asked me to go fishing with him and I said, not if you intend to smoke, no. If you wont' have a smoke, I will go, if you want to smoke, pick someone else...

John · John

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seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I always have something rolling around in my head and what better place to give it a voice than this message board? Isn't it weird how ideas just hit you out of the blue? Well, I didn't get to go to the morning meeting and I am sitting here irritated as hell as the double standards people have. I KNOW I have n...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

[video=]Well, I'm a little frustrated this evening. Tuesdays are my Al-Anon meeting nights. I had to stay home because I *think* I have a cold - sneezing and runny nose. Meds are doing the trick, except make me feel a bit whacked. That is I feel I'm in fog in terms of my ability to think! So.............

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Bond hearing is tomorrow. Have no clue whatsoever how the judge will rule. Saw ABF tonight. REALLY excited for him to come home....but scared to death at the same time. The last few conversations we've had, HE has brought up his recovery quite a bit. He's asked me to print off a list of the local AA me...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

my kitty is doing so much better every day! she is responding to my husband--she still won't let me pet her but I am giving it some time! To all you cat lover's out there: keep loving them & giving them attention; like my hubby says they will love you back! He sure loves this cat & if anything happen...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

After the horrible weekend, wherein I fought with my AH and ended up feeling so down on myself, yesterday went really well. I went home to a happy AH, who was cooking dinner and even invited me to sit with him and watch a movie. I almost fell into the trap of thinking, he wants me to stay right here while he...

Brooke · Brooke

Hi, thankyou for being there for me, I hope that others who are seeking help find the support of Alanon too. I finally met and had coffee this week with my local Alanon lady who has supported me over the phone for a couple of months. Tomorrow I will meet another local lady who has also reached out to Al...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

When I got home from my Al Anon meeting last night, my wife was impaired. I didn't stick around for long to see just how bad it was--just went right to bed to read. This morning, there's no acknowledgement of what happened the night before from either of us. We just talk about the weather or the kids or abou...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I got to go to my home group meeting tonight. I was so glad to be there. When I got home this afternoon, something was really bothering me. I realized how controling I really am. I mean, I constantly check up on my A, and my kids, making sure they did the things I asked them to do. I really cried about it t...

kandikween · kandikween

My dad is doing better, talking more normally as far as i've heard. I won't be able to see him until saturday or sunday. My boyfriend's birthday is tomorrow he'll be 23! I feel bad because my focus has been primarily on this situation, I always like to go all out for birthdays. And then there is court on th...

rara avis · rara avis

Update: The past few days I didn't react to my RA bf acting....out? I just went about my business, went to the movies, etc...tried to have the best days possible and didn't show any aggravation. THANK YOU folks for talking about detachment and such, you've been such a help! I'm so happy that worked :) T...

Anne01 · Anne01

What does F2F mean? Anne

Anne01 · Anne01

I am totally new here. And I have a problem maybe someone can help me with. My brother is 44 years old, an alcoholic who is in rehab for the 3rd or 4th time, has 9 DUI's, also eluding police, driving without registration and license many times, I guess 9, and is due to get out of rehab. in a couple months. I lov...

kandikween · kandikween

Has anyone out there had to have a cehhrosis diet or knew someone that has? I've got the basics down, no salt so that means probably no meat. fruits and veggies high in vitamins. I've also been looking into herbs that can help with jaundice, "trailing eclipta' , Milk Thistle. I also read probiot...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

HI Right well... I have read and read and read.. posted and read responses. Bought books and read and read. I have sat with my thoughts and feelings and tried to 'feel'. Yesterday I made a few decisions, I don't know how long they will stay as commitments, I don't know if they will work, but I do know yest...

McHurting · McHurting

Greetings all, Today my thoughts are on change, acceptance and moving forward. I had to put my beloved Great Dane down last week, it hurts like crazy but it had to be done. More loss and grief - I can only accept it, with every loss there is pain. I also went to my first alanon F2F meeting yesterday. It was a...

Pushka · Pushka

Courage to Change Pg 180 June 28 I always felt that my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought. One day he told me he wanted to get sober. I was eladted for a day until his next binge. Then I was devestated. Some moths later, my loved one finally did go...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

Not sure if any of the old timers have heard this one, but someone told it at a meeting last night and I thought it was great and wanted to share. A father threw his 2 boys into a horse stall. The stall was full of horse manure. One boy was crying and crying, saying "get me out of here!". But the othe...

McHurting · McHurting

My RA/BFF sent me an amends, it was honest and from the heart. Today is a good day.

Jozie · Jozie

I Just got back from my F2F Meeting tonight, and Boy was I Glad that I Just sat & Listened... So Much Pain in the room tonight, So many bad choices, and bad days, and so many tears... It really for me allows me to see myself as Human when I can relate to those that are Trying so Hard, yet at times feel like th...

Samsgram · Samsgram

May I ask for prayers for my younger brother who is in ICU from the ravishes from the disease. He has been there for days now and my enabling mother by his side daily. I`am filled with so many emotions knowing that he may make it through or he may not. Its my anger that I struggle with for my mom that bothers me...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everybody, So glad you are here. Feeling very, very "off" this morning. So much happening that I feel I can hardly begin to sort through. I know I don't have to do my work all at once, that's not what I'm after - but something is blocking me in the immediate sense. Yes, I have a headache, I t...

MrsHennepope · MrsHennepope

Hi all.I'm new to the board and am here because my AH suggested it! I know that sounds strange,but he really has been trying to get better lately.He had an extremely difficult life before we were together( abusive father,failed relationships,drug addictions,death of his daughter etc).I believe h...

Jake831 · Jake831

Hello all. I'm new here, although my mom has been attending regular Al-Anon meetings for a while now. I'm here because my 18-year old sister (two years my junior) is a recovering alcoholic of two years. I'm currently home visiting my family in Chicago, as I live in New York City where I study and work. I'...

michellelong · michellelong

Good morning all, I'm still in a good place mentally at the moment and have been reading my little heart out to help stay this way. My AH has been sober for 8 days and counting (yes I still count) lol What I have previously shared about his upcoming incarceration has fallen apart, and boy I am so mad I could s...

Betterfuture · Betterfuture

I have been in and out of a very hostile, passionate, outrageous relationship w/ my AH for about five years. I guess It just took ME this long to accept he is an alcoholic. We have a 3 year old daughter and plenty of support from family members and friends which is why I still can't understand why he drinks s...

peace · peace

hi everyone, I have not posted in a LONG time probably yrs. However I read allot and can related to it ALL. my story, we would have been married 23 yrs this month. The ups and downs of living just got to be to much for me, the boys are grown and gone and it was just him and I, and every night with beer and other s...

Doozy · Doozy

Just a quick share... I've been away for a few days on vacation with my family. I just have to tell y'all that it was one of the best weekends I have spent with my parents! I have myself, Alanon, and this board to thank along with some counseling. Huge, wonderful changes! Since starting Alanon, my approac...

lovee · lovee

I have been split from my son's father for a year and half now, it was my choice. Now he's dating someone and it's serious. All my grieve and sense of loss is now flooding in. All I can think about is them, I even had dreams about them. I'm trying to stay with my breath and redirect my mind to be in the moment...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm so upset with myself and I'm really trying to be gentle. I'm going to be so gentle that I'm cleaning the house today .. LOL. I've been going to the meetings and it totally helps. I just got off the phone with a wonderful girlfriend of mine. I have to say I do well at surrounding myself with beautiful...

Jozie · Jozie

Boy I Tell Ya... THANK GOD ABove for this Program... Currently it isn't just helping me Deal with My Active A's Or Active Addicts, but also the Going on in the world today, which has triggered the Grouch in my Husband...lol... It Amazes me Daily the Benifit of Just Repeating the Serenity Prayer when He o...

NovSun · NovSun

Confused and hurt again. My Afiance and I had a wonderful weekend. He went to the first private substance abuse counselor appt last Thursday. He said it helped. He will be attending group therapy 2 nights a week for 5 weeks. The counselor recommended an open AA meeting for Friday night. Friday c...

oldgraduate · oldgraduate

Why do I allow myself to go down that ranting, raging road every time? I did everything wrong again this weekend. After the combination of negative eye rolling and ignoring by my AH on Saturday, I blew up again on Sunday morning. That just started the day of raging and arguing and us bringing up every wro...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I had a wonderful time at the week long mountain conference. It was the first time I have attended a conference that had programs for the entire family. AA, Alanon, Alateen, and pre alateen meetings each and every day. There were over 500 people that showed up for the conference with speakers from a...

Lindaoakford · Lindaoakford

Not sure if what I am doing is right or wrong. As I have mentioned in previous posts, my A is not an alcoholic, he is a pot smoker. He relapsed completely 3 days before our wedding. As of the last 4 months, he has reduced his smoking and I have asked that he not smoke if he and I are spending time together. Thi...

leaping lizard · leaping lizard

I have so much to say and ask I am not sure where to start without rambeling. I have been married for 26 years now and not sure if we will make it to 27. In the early years neither of us drank much but when friends came over DH would get beyond drunk. at that time in life I never considered him an alcoholic as i...

Ruby · Ruby

My 26 y.o. a/a grandson with anger management issues, and his 44 y.o. a/a mother also has anger management issues are both homeless, the place they had been using as a home (for the past 6 wks) is no longer available to them. I've already told them they can't stay with me in thier current disease stat...

Jadie · Jadie

........... I go to bed spiritually healthy, detached, calm......and then the disease attacks me in the night.I WILL NOT engage with the disease, the disease cannot give me healthy, TRUTHFUL responses. The disease will tell me what I want to hear if I ask......... I no longer askI won't be someone'...

clep · clep

My A and I went yesterday morning to our son's psychologist appt. We had a family exercise she wanted to do with us this session. It was a real eye opener. My A got to hear from her that the state of mom and dad individually and the state of our relationship will impact our son more than anything else will...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Come on already??? Why am I choosing to go through this?? I dont have children, I have a great career. Why do I stay??? If you would tell me not to touch a hot stove, I wouldn't. This keeps happening over and over!!! Enough already! I used my tools today. I got out, got active, even cooked for the jerk! Am I...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am trying to use my alanon tools in all my affairs. As I get healtier I see that a business I have with a friend doing photography for weddings is just not in my favor and she doesn't seem to want to listen to me when I talk. Things that bother me are just minimized and she has kind of become my boss even thou...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Just when I found joy again, hours after I thanked God for the blessings in life and when I was confident that life with my A hubby was possible, his 19 year old son was killed by an accidental gunshot. That was 90 days ago. It has been 90 days of hell on earth. In 8 years, I have been by my husbands side as he b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I ask why me? Why not me? I am sure a lot of us feel like we don't have many options on how to deal w/ the alcoholics in our lives. I personally feel that we have been blessed enough to find this program & some of us have been able to heal tremendously. I am one of them. I am grateful to say that I am a...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Here's the abandon kitty I just adopted recently (see avatar). I sure wasn't in the market for another kitty/cat! However, my HP had other things in mind. His name is Lucky because he was fortunate to have been saved that day by my ex-AH. I sure hope his mother and siblings are not suffering! He sur...

Pushka · Pushka

LOL .. yesterday was meeting day for me .. the morning meeting was just terrific I am really enjoying that group a LOT!! I did not get much else done it was a running day. Anyway, we had a thread going on about some great quotes I thought I would share what was said yesterday. "Man makes his plans an...

Danielleibelli · Danielleibelli

I am feeling uneasy and fearful, my boyfriend and childs father is an alcoholic and claims he wants to quit drinking but he is at a bar with friends, and to me that is a danger zone. He has lied about drinking recently and I am fearful he will tonight , and sad because i will have to end the relationship. I can...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, Hope you all are doing as well as possinle. I have been really good and of course I am questioning if really good is real or if I have taken detachment so far that nothing touches me. I have finished my summer classes. Sent a letter to the officials about a grade I am not happy with due to my...

rara avis · rara avis

Hey everybody, First off, so I can give something back, check my 'something for everyone' post if you haven't - it's REALLY worked for me! I am awkwardly asking for support and kindness, as the next few months are looking very tough. If you need backstory read on [ otherwise skip! ;) ]; Things are co...

sarah1979 · sarah1979

I am new to this site. My OH is a high functioning alcoholic. we have been together for the last 14 years and married for 6. I've known it's been a problem for about the last 8 years. he is a very good husband in lots of ways. he is thoughtful and kind and generous. he has a high powered job and to the outs...

KodakMoment · KodakMoment

I am a completely sober - never really have had much to drink - person. I started dating a guy I've known since grade school in early February. I knew right away he drank too much. His family even cautioned me about his drinking. I didn't like it and really didn't feel like the relationship would last...

sookie · sookie

I have been struggling since my AH left 3 days ago. Although I have been pushing for him to be on his own, so he can own his own recovery and get sober w/o using me as a crutch or excuse. This is HELL. I miss him and am scared for him. He has not even let me know where he is and we have 2 kids. The silence is tearing me...

KLotus · KLotus

Hi Everyone, Have any of you attended adult child of alcoholics meetings? There seems to be only one anywhere near my area, and it's a good 20-30 min drive away. I was hoping someone could recommend an online resource such as this one, or some reading material? In reading about adult child character...

rara avis · rara avis

Hey everybody, Being new I feel I haven't had much to contribute, but want to do something helpful. What I can and want to share is my favorite parable. Most of you may have heard it before. All I know is in my life, it has been a HUGE blessing! Here you go; A man walking across a field encounters a tiger....

michellelong · michellelong

Hi All, It's been close to a week since I had a mental breakdown and I am thankful to all of you who sent reply posts filled with encouragement and hope. Last weekend was one of the most brutal yet! My AH left 3PM Friday and drank along with obscene amounts of cocaine until coming home (walked 6 miles throug...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Let me start this by saying, that even with this "crisis" I am feeling at the moment, Alanon has been a lifesaver for without it I probably would have been in jail by now. i know this will pass, but going on the umpteenth night of no sleep, it is hard to believe it at this moment. It is 3:45 am, and w...

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	When I don't know what else to do... I wash my dogs! (Preview) [video=]	John	5	393	Aug 11, 2011 by GailMichelle
	tags (Preview) Hello, can someone tell me what those little tag and thread things are on my posts and how do I get rid of them? Thank you. Anne	Anne01	2	346	Aug 11, 2011 by Anne01
	who am I (Preview) Has anyone ever heard an alcoholic say they don't know who they are after they stop drinking? Anne	Anne01	8	363	Aug 11, 2011 by Anne01
	help for Sunday (Preview) HI all, Now that I know what ESH means, that is what I am asking for. My husband smokes pot when he goes fishing. A fact I accepted a while ago. Previously he asked me to go fishing with him and I said, not if you intend to smoke, no. If you wont' have a smoke, I will go, if you want to smoke, pick someone else...	Lindaoakford	5	465	Aug 11, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	One Day At A Time... (Preview) [video=]	John	0	252	Aug 11, 2011 by John
	it suddenly occured to me... (Preview) I always have something rolling around in my head and what better place to give it a voice than this message board? Isn't it weird how ideas just hit you out of the blue? Well, I didn't get to go to the morning meeting and I am sitting here irritated as hell as the double standards people have. I KNOW I have n...	seekingserenity	2	327	Aug 11, 2011 by youfoundme
	I Can't Go To a Meeting Tonight (Preview) [video=]Well, I'm a little frustrated this evening. Tuesdays are my Al-Anon meeting nights. I had to stay home because I think I have a cold - sneezing and runny nose. Meds are doing the trick, except make me feel a bit whacked. That is I feel I'm in fog in terms of my ability to think! So.............	GailMichelle	6	334	Aug 11, 2011 by Cloudsea
	Could use some positive vibes... (Preview) Bond hearing is tomorrow. Have no clue whatsoever how the judge will rule. Saw ABF tonight. REALLY excited for him to come home....but scared to death at the same time. The last few conversations we've had, HE has brought up his recovery quite a bit. He's asked me to print off a list of the local AA me...	ELEKTRAWMN	10	510	Aug 11, 2011 by Cloudsea
	kitty is still on the mend! (Preview) my kitty is doing so much better every day! she is responding to my husband--she still won't let me pet her but I am giving it some time! To all you cat lover's out there: keep loving them & giving them attention; like my hubby says they will love you back! He sure loves this cat & if anything happen...	Hoot Nanny	7	342	Aug 11, 2011 by Cloudsea
	Every day is new - who figured? (Preview) After the horrible weekend, wherein I fought with my AH and ended up feeling so down on myself, yesterday went really well. I went home to a happy AH, who was cooking dinner and even invited me to sit with him and watch a movie. I almost fell into the trap of thinking, he wants me to stay right here while he...	oldgraduate	7	476	Aug 11, 2011 by Cloudsea
	I'm so grateful for Alanon, went to my first meeting today, and met local lady too... (Preview) Hi, thankyou for being there for me, I hope that others who are seeking help find the support of Alanon too. I finally met and had coffee this week with my local Alanon lady who has supported me over the phone for a couple of months. Tomorrow I will meet another local lady who has also reached out to Al...	Brooke	6	293	Aug 11, 2011 by Ruby
	Saying nothing the next day just feels so wrong.... (Preview) When I got home from my Al Anon meeting last night, my wife was impaired. I didn't stick around for long to see just how bad it was--just went right to bed to read. This morning, there's no acknowledgement of what happened the night before from either of us. We just talk about the weather or the kids or abou...	usedtobeanyer	19	932	Aug 11, 2011 by ntxalanon
	The meeting tonight (Preview) I got to go to my home group meeting tonight. I was so glad to be there. When I got home this afternoon, something was really bothering me. I realized how controling I really am. I mean, I constantly check up on my A, and my kids, making sure they did the things I asked them to do. I really cried about it t...	youfoundme	4	321	Aug 11, 2011 by youfoundme
	day 6 in the hospital...... (Preview) My dad is doing better, talking more normally as far as i've heard. I won't be able to see him until saturday or sunday. My boyfriend's birthday is tomorrow he'll be 23! I feel bad because my focus has been primarily on this situation, I always like to go all out for birthdays. And then there is court on th...	kandikween	2	352	Aug 11, 2011 by tommyecat
	I didn't react! :) But...I'm so confused?! ESH? (Preview) Update: The past few days I didn't react to my RA bf acting....out? I just went about my business, went to the movies, etc...tried to have the best days possible and didn't show any aggravation. THANK YOU folks for talking about detachment and such, you've been such a help! I'm so happy that worked :) T...	rara avis	3	358	Aug 11, 2011 by Pushka
	F2F (Preview) What does F2F mean? Anne	Anne01	3	320	Aug 11, 2011 by tommyecat
	enabler or helper (Preview) I am totally new here. And I have a problem maybe someone can help me with. My brother is 44 years old, an alcoholic who is in rehab for the 3rd or 4th time, has 9 DUI's, also eluding police, driving without registration and license many times, I guess 9, and is due to get out of rehab. in a couple months. I lov...	Anne01	11	899	Aug 11, 2011 by lasthope
	cehhrosis diet *sp? (Preview) Has anyone out there had to have a cehhrosis diet or knew someone that has? I've got the basics down, no salt so that means probably no meat. fruits and veggies high in vitamins. I've also been looking into herbs that can help with jaundice, "trailing eclipta' , Milk Thistle. I also read probiot...	kandikween	9	491	Aug 11, 2011 by Anne01
	I got a lot out of this today...thought I'd share (Preview)	ELEKTRAWMN	8	312	Aug 10, 2011 by Anne01
	Day 2 (Preview) HI Right well... I have read and read and read.. posted and read responses. Bought books and read and read. I have sat with my thoughts and feelings and tried to 'feel'. Yesterday I made a few decisions, I don't know how long they will stay as commitments, I don't know if they will work, but I do know yest...	Lindaoakford	4	484	Aug 10, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Acceptance (Preview) Greetings all, Today my thoughts are on change, acceptance and moving forward. I had to put my beloved Great Dane down last week, it hurts like crazy but it had to be done. More loss and grief - I can only accept it, with every loss there is pain. I also went to my first alanon F2F meeting yesterday. It was a...	McHurting	9	697	Aug 10, 2011 by kandikween
	Read tonight at the meeting :) (Preview) Courage to Change Pg 180 June 28 I always felt that my loved one's drinking was a terrible reflection on me, and I worried about what people thought. One day he told me he wanted to get sober. I was eladted for a day until his next binge. Then I was devestated. Some moths later, my loved one finally did go...	Pushka	8	550	Aug 10, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Two boys in a horse stall (Preview) Not sure if any of the old timers have heard this one, but someone told it at a meeting last night and I thought it was great and wanted to share. A father threw his 2 boys into a horse stall. The stall was full of horse manure. One boy was crying and crying, saying "get me out of here!". But the othe...	usedtobeanyer	4	528	Aug 10, 2011 by rara avis
	Can I change my user name from McHurting to McHoping? (Preview) My RA/BFF sent me an amends, it was honest and from the heart. Today is a good day.	McHurting	4	308	Aug 10, 2011 by tommyecat
	Tough Meeting.... (Preview) I Just got back from my F2F Meeting tonight, and Boy was I Glad that I Just sat & Listened... So Much Pain in the room tonight, So many bad choices, and bad days, and so many tears... It really for me allows me to see myself as Human when I can relate to those that are Trying so Hard, yet at times feel like th...	Jozie	3	485	Aug 10, 2011 by youfoundme
	Brother dying from the disease, please say a prayer (Preview) May I ask for prayers for my younger brother who is in ICU from the ravishes from the disease. He has been there for days now and my enabling mother by his side daily. I`am filled with so many emotions knowing that he may make it through or he may not. Its my anger that I struggle with for my mom that bothers me...	Samsgram	14	639	Aug 9, 2011 by Pushka
	ACoA continued (Preview) Hi Everybody, So glad you are here. Feeling very, very "off" this morning. So much happening that I feel I can hardly begin to sort through. I know I don't have to do my work all at once, that's not what I'm after - but something is blocking me in the immediate sense. Yes, I have a headache, I t...	KLotus	9	610	Aug 9, 2011 by hiflying1
	New here (Preview) Hi all.I'm new to the board and am here because my AH suggested it! I know that sounds strange,but he really has been trying to get better lately.He had an extremely difficult life before we were together( abusive father,failed relationships,drug addictions,death of his daughter etc).I believe h...	MrsHennepope	10	428	Aug 9, 2011 by MrsHennepope
	Part of the disease? Really? Need advice. (Preview) Hello all. I'm new here, although my mom has been attending regular Al-Anon meetings for a while now. I'm here because my 18-year old sister (two years my junior) is a recovering alcoholic of two years. I'm currently home visiting my family in Chicago, as I live in New York City where I study and work. I'...	Jake831	10	552	Aug 9, 2011 by Kate1979
	a little disturbed (Preview) Good morning all, I'm still in a good place mentally at the moment and have been reading my little heart out to help stay this way. My AH has been sober for 8 days and counting (yes I still count) lol What I have previously shared about his upcoming incarceration has fallen apart, and boy I am so mad I could s...	michellelong	11	663	Aug 9, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	hope i made the right choice (Preview) I have been in and out of a very hostile, passionate, outrageous relationship w/ my AH for about five years. I guess It just took ME this long to accept he is an alcoholic. We have a 3 year old daughter and plenty of support from family members and friends which is why I still can't understand why he drinks s...	Betterfuture	5	490	Aug 9, 2011 by jbunny
	My Story (Preview) hi everyone, I have not posted in a LONG time probably yrs. However I read allot and can related to it ALL. my story, we would have been married 23 yrs this month. The ups and downs of living just got to be to much for me, the boys are grown and gone and it was just him and I, and every night with beer and other s...	peace	6	589	Aug 9, 2011 by GreenK
	Something hopeful :) (Preview) Just a quick share... I've been away for a few days on vacation with my family. I just have to tell y'all that it was one of the best weekends I have spent with my parents! I have myself, Alanon, and this board to thank along with some counseling. Huge, wonderful changes! Since starting Alanon, my approac...	Doozy	8	500	Aug 9, 2011 by GreenK
	Trying to stay in the moment (Preview) I have been split from my son's father for a year and half now, it was my choice. Now he's dating someone and it's serious. All my grieve and sense of loss is now flooding in. All I can think about is them, I even had dreams about them. I'm trying to stay with my breath and redirect my mind to be in the moment...	lovee	6	358	Aug 9, 2011 by tommyecat
	Struggling with detachment and disconnect (Preview) I'm so upset with myself and I'm really trying to be gentle. I'm going to be so gentle that I'm cleaning the house today .. LOL. I've been going to the meetings and it totally helps. I just got off the phone with a wonderful girlfriend of mine. I have to say I do well at surrounding myself with beautiful...	Pushka	10	987	Aug 9, 2011 by Pushka
	Practice Practice Practice ;) (Preview) Boy I Tell Ya... THANK GOD ABove for this Program... Currently it isn't just helping me Deal with My Active A's Or Active Addicts, but also the Going on in the world today, which has triggered the Grouch in my Husband...lol... It Amazes me Daily the Benifit of Just Repeating the Serenity Prayer when He o...	Jozie	6	358	Aug 9, 2011 by Ruby
	Confused and hurt again (Preview) Confused and hurt again. My Afiance and I had a wonderful weekend. He went to the first private substance abuse counselor appt last Thursday. He said it helped. He will be attending group therapy 2 nights a week for 5 weeks. The counselor recommended an open AA meeting for Friday night. Friday c...	NovSun	12	538	Aug 9, 2011 by youfoundme
	Why do I keep getting sucked in? (Preview) Why do I allow myself to go down that ranting, raging road every time? I did everything wrong again this weekend. After the combination of negative eye rolling and ignoring by my AH on Saturday, I blew up again on Sunday morning. That just started the day of raging and arguing and us bringing up every wro...	oldgraduate	16	753	Aug 9, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	Had a great time (Preview) I had a wonderful time at the week long mountain conference. It was the first time I have attended a conference that had programs for the entire family. AA, Alanon, Alateen, and pre alateen meetings each and every day. There were over 500 people that showed up for the conference with speakers from a...	tommyecat	9	442	Aug 8, 2011 by Doozy
	did I do this wrong (Preview) Not sure if what I am doing is right or wrong. As I have mentioned in previous posts, my A is not an alcoholic, he is a pot smoker. He relapsed completely 3 days before our wedding. As of the last 4 months, he has reduced his smoking and I have asked that he not smoke if he and I are spending time together. Thi...	Lindaoakford	20	652	Aug 8, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	sorry just another newbie here.... (Preview) I have so much to say and ask I am not sure where to start without rambeling. I have been married for 26 years now and not sure if we will make it to 27. In the early years neither of us drank much but when friends came over DH would get beyond drunk. at that time in life I never considered him an alcoholic as i...	leaping lizard	7	527	Aug 8, 2011 by Doozy
	Feeling pressured! (Preview) My 26 y.o. a/a grandson with anger management issues, and his 44 y.o. a/a mother also has anger management issues are both homeless, the place they had been using as a home (for the past 6 wks) is no longer available to them. I've already told them they can't stay with me in thier current disease stat...	Ruby	7	640	Aug 8, 2011 by Samsgram
	This morning I woke up trembling.........again. (Preview) ........... I go to bed spiritually healthy, detached, calm......and then the disease attacks me in the night.I WILL NOT engage with the disease, the disease cannot give me healthy, TRUTHFUL responses. The disease will tell me what I want to hear if I ask......... I no longer askI won't be someone'...	Jadie	8	600	Aug 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	AA, psychologist appt and maybe change. (Preview) My A and I went yesterday morning to our son's psychologist appt. We had a family exercise she wanted to do with us this session. It was a real eye opener. My A got to hear from her that the state of mom and dad individually and the state of our relationship will impact our son more than anything else will...	clep	5	443	Aug 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	Why am I still here??? (Preview) Come on already??? Why am I choosing to go through this?? I dont have children, I have a great career. Why do I stay??? If you would tell me not to touch a hot stove, I wouldn't. This keeps happening over and over!!! Enough already! I used my tools today. I got out, got active, even cooked for the jerk! Am I...	Sincerely	7	718	Aug 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	How do I dissolve a business in a good way? (Preview) I am trying to use my alanon tools in all my affairs. As I get healtier I see that a business I have with a friend doing photography for weddings is just not in my favor and she doesn't seem to want to listen to me when I talk. Things that bother me are just minimized and she has kind of become my boss even thou...	youfoundme	8	770	Aug 8, 2011 by youfoundme
	A Child's Death - a living hell (Preview) Just when I found joy again, hours after I thanked God for the blessings in life and when I was confident that life with my A hubby was possible, his 19 year old son was killed by an accidental gunshot. That was 90 days ago. It has been 90 days of hell on earth. In 8 years, I have been by my husbands side as he b...	Sincerely	14	721	Aug 8, 2011 by hiflying1
	Why not me? (Preview) Sometimes I ask why me? Why not me? I am sure a lot of us feel like we don't have many options on how to deal w/ the alcoholics in our lives. I personally feel that we have been blessed enough to find this program & some of us have been able to heal tremendously. I am one of them. I am grateful to say that I am a...	Hoot Nanny	7	654	Aug 8, 2011 by tommyecat
	Introducing my "ODAT" Reminder! (Preview) Here's the abandon kitty I just adopted recently (see avatar). I sure wasn't in the market for another kitty/cat! However, my HP had other things in mind. His name is Lucky because he was fortunate to have been saved that day by my ex-AH. I sure hope his mother and siblings are not suffering! He sur...	GailMichelle	6	646	Aug 8, 2011 by tommyecat
	Morning Meeting .. (Preview) LOL .. yesterday was meeting day for me .. the morning meeting was just terrific I am really enjoying that group a LOT!! I did not get much else done it was a running day. Anyway, we had a thread going on about some great quotes I thought I would share what was said yesterday. "Man makes his plans an...	Pushka	4	497	Aug 8, 2011 by tommyecat
	Feeling uneasy and fearful- need advice please. (Preview) I am feeling uneasy and fearful, my boyfriend and childs father is an alcoholic and claims he wants to quit drinking but he is at a bar with friends, and to me that is a danger zone. He has lied about drinking recently and I am fearful he will tonight , and sad because i will have to end the relationship. I can...	Danielleibelli	5	737	Aug 8, 2011 by tommyecat
	Can detachment go too far? (Preview) Hello everyone, Hope you all are doing as well as possinle. I have been really good and of course I am questioning if really good is real or if I have taken detachment so far that nothing touches me. I have finished my summer classes. Sent a letter to the officials about a grade I am not happy with due to my...	Jennifer	5	996	Aug 8, 2011 by Jennifer
	need support, rough seas ahead (Preview) Hey everybody, First off, so I can give something back, check my 'something for everyone' post if you haven't - it's REALLY worked for me! I am awkwardly asking for support and kindness, as the next few months are looking very tough. If you need backstory read on [ otherwise skip! ;) ]; Things are co...	rara avis	4	619	Aug 8, 2011 by Pushka
	Please help (Preview) I am new to this site. My OH is a high functioning alcoholic. we have been together for the last 14 years and married for 6. I've known it's been a problem for about the last 8 years. he is a very good husband in lots of ways. he is thoughtful and kind and generous. he has a high powered job and to the outs...	sarah1979	6	481	Aug 8, 2011 by sarah1979
	Trying to Figure the Whiplash out (Preview) I am a completely sober - never really have had much to drink - person. I started dating a guy I've known since grade school in early February. I knew right away he drank too much. His family even cautioned me about his drinking. I didn't like it and really didn't feel like the relationship would last...	KodakMoment	5	587	Aug 7, 2011 by KodakMoment
	Hope for today (Preview) I have been struggling since my AH left 3 days ago. Although I have been pushing for him to be on his own, so he can own his own recovery and get sober w/o using me as a crutch or excuse. This is HELL. I miss him and am scared for him. He has not even let me know where he is and we have 2 kids. The silence is tearing me...	sookie	6	1071	Aug 7, 2011 by youfoundme
	Adult children (Preview) Hi Everyone, Have any of you attended adult child of alcoholics meetings? There seems to be only one anywhere near my area, and it's a good 20-30 min drive away. I was hoping someone could recommend an online resource such as this one, or some reading material? In reading about adult child character...	KLotus	6	747	Aug 7, 2011 by Pushka
	Brief story for everyone (Preview) Hey everybody, Being new I feel I haven't had much to contribute, but want to do something helpful. What I can and want to share is my favorite parable. Most of you may have heard it before. All I know is in my life, it has been a HUGE blessing! Here you go; A man walking across a field encounters a tiger....	rara avis	5	455	Aug 7, 2011 by youfoundme
	It's been awhile! Still struggling with my AH! (Preview) Hi All, It's been close to a week since I had a mental breakdown and I am thankful to all of you who sent reply posts filled with encouragement and hope. Last weekend was one of the most brutal yet! My AH left 3PM Friday and drank along with obscene amounts of cocaine until coming home (walked 6 miles throug...	michellelong	6	407	Aug 7, 2011 by michellelong
	please talk me off the ledge (Preview) Let me start this by saying, that even with this "crisis" I am feeling at the moment, Alanon has been a lifesaver for without it I probably would have been in jail by now. i know this will pass, but going on the umpteenth night of no sleep, it is hard to believe it at this moment. It is 3:45 am, and w...	Loupiness	10	649	Aug 7, 2011 by GailMichelle
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