Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nyc018 · nyc018

I had posted before about the dilemma I have with my family as it affects my separation from my AH. I am getting a legal separation from AH which involves agreeing on financial arrangements. Unfortunately the law is not on my side since I was the primary wage earner for the 5 years of marriage. Should it g...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...just some thoughts on last night's home group the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Our lead put up the subject of "being Happy" and shared from some observations from her literature and he life. She works a good program and the subject was right on. We had an exhubera...

Devon · Devon

I've been dating a woman who has been in recovery (5 1/2 years A.A) for about 9 months. We live approximately 1 1/2 hours apart from each other. We both have 16 year old kids (she has a daughter and I a son...both 16). Our kids are healthy and they get along like a brother and sister. We have often done thin...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I feel like I am always letting go of something. Just somewhat trivial things like long-running TV programs. I just witnessed the last airing of All My Children--it ended very strangely. I guess I expected something else. I have been watching the show since I was a very little girl & rem...

NaomiMarie · NaomiMarie

this is my first time posting anything here. where I live they don't have meeting close by and I struggle greatly with what to do and how to help my husband. he has been an Alcoholic for close to ten years now and I knew coming into the relationship that he was but over the last year he has been going out and st...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Been doing some more reading about my co-dependency issues and came across this. I have been struggling with the idea of it being a learned behavior. Growing up I watched my Grandmother drop every bit of herself in order to please my Grandfather. She put him on a pedestal and put him first above anyt...

Saffron · Saffron

Hey Everyone, I don't know if my situation is the right one for this board. There are a number of alcoholics in my family. My Grandfather is an alcoholic My uncle died of cirrosis when I was in my mid 20's. One of my siblings is an active alcoholic with co occurring mental health issues and a physica...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I love music and sometimes a song just strikes me so much. The lyrics are great, the singing is awesome... This is by ColdPlay "Fix You" When you try your best, but you don't succeed When you get what you want, but not what you need When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep Stuck in reverse A...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Hi all. Just a quick note to say I'm still alive, and as far as I know ABF is still sober (almost 90 days now). YAY. We're trying to get out and do more things as a family, although he's still not working. Really hard to find a job in our area with no license. Still having a few episodes of dry drunk beh...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I love it when you guys post picture. It makes me feel better. Like the jokes ya post, or funny stories We all need a "calgon take me awaaaaay!" (c:

Woodenships · Woodenships

Newbie here,,,,,,Here I sit at work and it's 1:16 in the afternoon. I got up this morning, got ready for work like I always do and then on the way to work it hit me. What if he's not here this time next year. My AH has cirrhosis,,,,there are so many unsanswered questions and I feel like the time I spend at w...

youfoundme · youfoundme

Something I love to do is photography for me, not for anyone else... here's a few.... The blue herron is one of my favorite birds, this one was just standing there one day while I did some engagement photography...loved it! The gate is at a favorite park near the ocean here. The house is something righ...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi, I am new here - new to Alanon - just attended my first meeting last night. Starting to work Step 1. My ex left me for someone else and I can't stop wanting to email him and text him and call him. I am calling on my higher power constantly to give me strength to move forward with this program. I believe in God...

jmanning · jmanning

Hello, I am here looking for some support and guidance..and heres my story. My husband got his 4th DUI in March of this year. This past friday we had court and his lawyer said he won't go to jail that he would be on bond til a bed opened. He was given 4yrs but offered 9mos RPF. Which in arkansas is a rehab. A lot...

Debilyn · Debilyn

ok here is the story. I was so bored so I started having guinea pigs. I love it. I have two kinds that are hairless. Very rare, and my silly regular Americans someone rescued. I had one paid for and three more going to be next week then picking them up. I had spoke up about a hoarder on the g pig group, P. Peopl...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Delegating and giving responsibility to my children has thus far been a good experience over the last three days. They helped me prepare dinner last night. I broadly told them what I needed and to find their own way of doing it. Giving them the power to succeed or make a mistake is part of this experi...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I never received the message in my family of origin of is it in my best interest or to thine own self be true perhaps because I grew up in an alcoholic home. I was taught to make your outsides look great forget about the insides, everything is just Fine, Thank You. So, coming into the alanon program for me...

tommyecat · tommyecat

On Monday our group has a step/tradition study meeting. Yesterday we were on Step 10, Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. As the discussion made its way across the room, I started to take my own inventory. I had a light bulb moment that in the evenings I b...

kris10 · kris10

While reading this, please remember I'm new at this...lol Because I have some very strong feelings that NEED to go away... My A bf has this friend.. His "best friend" for years. I put that in quotes because I really think I hate this person... I know hate is a strong word and I shouldn't hate an...

lostchildhood · lostchildhood

Im new here but hopefully I can get some help. Ill start out with a little overview of my life. Right now I am 24 and have a 2 yr. old daughter. I have a future husband that has a 2 yr old daughter. We both have jobs and make good money. Live in a great house and life is all around good...except if you look on th...

newone87 · newone87

Hello All, I am new to this forum and seek some help from people who might be able to understand where I am coming from. Being a 24 year old who does not drink or do drugs with alcholic parents leaves me feeling pretty alone. It's typical for a 24 year old to drink with friends but its never been my norm. ...

Dharma · Dharma

So, my brother whom I cut ties with a few days ago (some of you know about this from my other post) just won't leave things alone. He keeps emailing me telling me everyone hates me...as if I care what a buncha drunk druggies on his street think of me. Then, he gets no response from me so he sends my husband a...

Debilyn · Debilyn

the gal who was climbing up my funky ladder I put down there and tied is who did the pics for me. She is a Godsend to me and her husband who is climbing up the stairs with their dog. They rented some of my property when they drove from Ca to here. She is like a daughter to me. True,loyal always helps, we help each...

abbyal · abbyal

I found this yrs ago in a old forum magazine . Yagottawanna - Go to that first meeting as a step out of despair. Yagottawanna- Go to meeting after meeting if you desire progress. Yagottawanna- Listen when you get there. Yagottawanna- Do what it says to do . Yagottawanna- Work the twelve steps , not merel...

pineapple · pineapple

Thanks to everyone who replied to my post ¨How Important Is It?¨ You gave me lots to think about and I've been thinking hard on it the last two days. My mind kept returning to a couple of things: ¨ "You have two choices. You can either leave the dirty dishes in the sink and let them rot for weeks O...

scholarlydragon · scholarlydragon

Lyrics from a song that have particular resonance for me today. "You cut me open, and I keep bleeding love..." I was woken up this morning by a call from my mother. First thing she says to me is "Don't be angry and yell at me. I've been drinking." I told her it had been fairly obvi...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

She follows me around and makes me think of the past. She makes me sit on the pitty pot in my present and she makes me sad about my future. I can't help what and where I come from. I work a diligent program to wipe away the dysfunction and yet there she is, this sad little girl follows me around. My sponsor and I...

maresie · maresie

A few years ago when I was so over involved with the ex A I saw a psychiatrist and he told me my priorities were all way off. I had no idea what he was talking about. Wasn't it the ex A who had all the problems. I was so much in denial about what it was doing to my mental health. These days living as I do, surround...

scholarlydragon · scholarlydragon

My mother is currently trying to recover from a breakup. The man she had been with for 16 years left after beating her. She is, understandably, very upset over this. There is a reason why Stockholm Syndrome is a thing, and she loved him in the first place, or thought that she did. She's wavering betwe...

glad · glad

When growing up or in life prior to alanon...Does anyone else here remember ever being taught to "take care of yourself" or love yourself or think about what is in your own best interest ( and then take action to achieve that FOR YOURSELF )growing up? Were you taught to be all that you can be bu...

rara avis · rara avis

Hey everybody, Update: I am staying with friends, the idea of which was to give my RA a little extra time to move out. Things had been arranged with his friends, truck, etc... I told him I was unable to talk until I felt more composed. Now I get a message from him saying he is refusing to move 'unless he has...

nyc018 · nyc018

Ive been trying to implement Alanon principles as best as I can going to f2f meetings, and reading Getting them Sober which describes so well irrational guilt. At the same time my AH is doing everything to destroy my serenity and my attempts to be free of guilt and the actions Ive taken as a response...

jmanning · jmanning

I am so excited my AH got his furlough today, he got 5hrs supervised furlough. But supervision was with his lawyer.Yeah!!! So he took care of his things at college, was able to put money in the bank. Then he came home to shower and the landlord stopped over and my AH was able to tell him what happened. I did...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm sure you all know how much I love you all. Thanks for the special birthday wishes and love. You all give me what you have learned in recovery so that I can give it away to others in need and you don't live in my head; you live in my heart. I hope for you all and for those fortunate enough to touch your r...

Ava2010 · Ava2010

Hi, My husband is in 37 yrs old and he has a very stressful career. For a few years now he has been drinking 70 proof Southern Comfort several night a week (usually Fri,Sat, and Sun night, not during the work week) He has 2 to 2.5 glasses each time. About 350ml . It ends up that the largest bottle you ca...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I don't have much drama in my life right now, thankfully. I'm so sooooo grateful for this, because I had so much drama for so long! My best friend is another story. She has drama day in and day out with her in-laws (her FIL is an A). Yesterday she and I were on instant message while we were each at work. Sh...

RLC · RLC

Happy Birthday Jerry F.....I hope you have a wonderful day!!! Memory Lane: In my first post on MIP I was very disappointed in you when I asked for advice.....and in your reply to my post all you gave me was Experience, Strenght, and Hope.....and you still do. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Monday 19th o...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some days are very manicky for me. Right now I feel a rush to my head. I am going to make this short as I don't know what to say. I hope this is not a rambling mess. I want to recognize when I am not feeling up to par. Sometimes I feel like I should get on here every chance I get--like right now. I only usually spend...

bud · bud

This song on the radio had this line and the line truly speaks to where I'm at... that juncture in the road I have tried to avoid, for so hard and for so long. It's not easy, but I know I need to find a way to let go and say goodbye to the world that I thought I lived in... that place where I thought my love for my e...

sandy70 · sandy70

Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...

Pushka · Pushka

I just really have a hard time wrapping my brain around some of my A's behavior. He says things that he means in the moment that he just doesn't mean long term. It's so interesting and frustrating to watch. I know this is sooo the 3 C's as far as not my issue. He has gone and made "plans" and I'm...

ardnas · ardnas

I need help because I don't want to feel the way I feel. I don't know where to begin in my introduction so I thought I'd share everything I was thinking while I was thinking of how to begin this post. Sorry so long. I dont know where to begin. Will my kids think that the smell of alcohol is normal?Will I be le...

amills4294 · amills4294

in the 3rd paragraph from this reading it says "We are powerless over the results of our actions. We can try to make wise choices today, but what will happen in the future is out of our hands. Since we can't know what to expect, why not trust that a Higher Power can use whatever happens to further ou...

harley · harley

can anyone tell me where an al-anon meeting is close to Wilson, or Greenville, nc. My family really needs to go and try to understand how I feel.

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all feeling really positive thing I have just experienced a little leap i my recovery. I bought a CD at the convention the other day regarding steps 45 and 6. I have just listened to it. I have been bobbing around these steps for a while but I know feel really ready to do a fearless search of my own char...

glad · glad

Felt better today than I have in almost a year. Seems like in part to being able to share and read here on this board. I enjoyed the day by myself and did not feel the least bit "alone" but rather peacefully by myself. Amazing... This week I have learned that I 1) was feeling sad over "spi...

jmanning · jmanning

I had so many mixed emotions today. My first class of the day in college first thing I was asked where is my other half is. Well I am type that always tells the truth. And all I could manage to say was he had an emergency and couldn't make it in. My teacher looked at me and asked if I was okay. I wondered could he r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I gotta tell ya we almost didn't make it to the cruise on Saturday! My mom's car had some very serious car trouble! We had to travel over 60 miles just to get there & then we had to go up a couple of steep hills. Our HP was w/ us as we made it there & back! We also have great program friends who followed us...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Most of us have had our ups and downs for years. I am no exception. Meetings, reading and therapy but I feel defeated. It is no easy task to live with an alcoholic or even a recovering alcoholic. I honestly don't know if my husband is totally free of alcohol; I sometimes think, which is what our ther...

Mattie · Mattie

Sometimes it feels like two steps forward, two steps back in this business. My son and I were away thousands of miles from our home for a year while I was working elsewhere. I had a renter who walked out on the property early. My ex-AH stepped up to the plate and pitched in to take care of the pets for us inst...

jmanning · jmanning

Good Morning. First thanks for letting me post here and share my feelings. From my last post, my AH went to jail friday and I was lost without him. Wow I said was.... This morning is the first morning I didn't cry. This is also the first morning of college without him. It will be ackward because the first 2 c...

rosielee · rosielee

its been so many years living with this disease now that i pretty much live by the steps- before i knew what they were i had come to them naturally anyway. but since ive been on here ive noticed that i needed to address my need to fix everything. dont laugh- i know i answer all the posts here- and am hungry to...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I tell ya if I had not been offered and learned all I have here, I would not have any hair left, or teeth either. Life is so frigging complicated, hectic. Bundling up in a corner sounds good sometimes. Nothing specific, just life. Have a certain amount of money. Needs to go to different places. I bought a n...

maresie · maresie

One of the things I have felt such shame about was how I both chose partners, married them, or became "attached" too quickly or got so triggered by what was going on I completely melted down. I have been really mean and judgmental to myself about that. Needless to say on some level I felt abso...

pineapple · pineapple

How Important Is It? This has been one of my mantras for months now. And it often has helped to defuse potential angry, resentful situations. But lately it hasn't helped. To those who don't know my situation, I cannot make him leave. We have a small guesthouse that we used to rent as a B&B. At my reque...

kris10 · kris10

NOT because I dont want to. I would love to! I would love to do soo many things that i just cant do. I have severe pannic attacks and agoraphobia that wont let me do alot. My A is the ONLY one who was here for me when noone else was. I was literally house bound. I am now going a few places with the help of my counsel...

concern for member · Debilyn

Ok I got very concerned about a new member. Sounds like some very serious stuff is going on. This person and I pm'ed. The situation is dire, she is alone in it. I shared all I could from my experience, keep them in my prayers. I felt pretty well geez what emotion? I needed to share what I could with out givin...

peggyjean · peggyjean

Married 20+ yrs and alcohol has been an on and off problem throughout. Had a wonderful 3 year period of abstaining but that ended 4 years ago. After one drink, he's cheerful and still connected. Any more than that and the words slightly slur or the eyelids bat more often - just enough that I notice. W...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I haven't been on line for quite some time. Just letting you all know, I'm still here. Things are going really well for me. Still attending my F2F weekly meetings to help keep me on track. I live in Minnesota, so this time of the year is really busy. Winterizing, cutting/hauling wood for winter, yard cl...

Katy · Katy

Two trees growing close together, but not in each other's shadow Nature is a great teacher. A walk in a forest can teach us about life and help us to experience something far greater than ourselves. Suppose you came upon a colony of mushrooms decorating the forest floor, what would you see? At first, w...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Abuse from all ends (Preview) I had posted before about the dilemma I have with my family as it affects my separation from my AH. I am getting a legal separation from AH which involves agreeing on financial arrangements. Unfortunately the law is not on my side since I was the primary wage earner for the 5 years of marriage. Should it g...	nyc018	6	505	Sep 24, 2011 by rosielee
	On Being Happy.... (Preview) Aloha Family...just some thoughts on last night's home group the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Our lead put up the subject of "being Happy" and shared from some observations from her literature and he life. She works a good program and the subject was right on. We had an exhubera...	Jerry F	5	433	Sep 23, 2011 by Jozie
	Dating a Woman in Recovery (Preview) I've been dating a woman who has been in recovery (5 1/2 years A.A) for about 9 months. We live approximately 1 1/2 hours apart from each other. We both have 16 year old kids (she has a daughter and I a son...both 16). Our kids are healthy and they get along like a brother and sister. We have often done thin...	Devon	14	1154	Sep 23, 2011 by Devon
	letting go... (Preview) Sometimes I feel like I am always letting go of something. Just somewhat trivial things like long-running TV programs. I just witnessed the last airing of All My Children--it ended very strangely. I guess I expected something else. I have been watching the show since I was a very little girl & rem...	Hoot Nanny	1	424	Sep 23, 2011 by Lindaoakford
	struggling on where my place is in helping him... (Preview) this is my first time posting anything here. where I live they don't have meeting close by and I struggle greatly with what to do and how to help my husband. he has been an Alcoholic for close to ten years now and I knew coming into the relationship that he was but over the last year he has been going out and st...	NaomiMarie	10	856	Sep 23, 2011 by Jerry F
	Codependency/Learned Behavior (Preview) Been doing some more reading about my co-dependency issues and came across this. I have been struggling with the idea of it being a learned behavior. Growing up I watched my Grandmother drop every bit of herself in order to please my Grandfather. She put him on a pedestal and put him first above anyt...	ELEKTRAWMN	6	802	Sep 23, 2011 by maresie
	My Story - first time poster (long). (Preview) Hey Everyone, I don't know if my situation is the right one for this board. There are a number of alcoholics in my family. My Grandfather is an alcoholic My uncle died of cirrosis when I was in my mid 20's. One of my siblings is an active alcoholic with co occurring mental health issues and a physica...	Saffron	9	574	Sep 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	Lights will guide you home (Preview) I love music and sometimes a song just strikes me so much. The lyrics are great, the singing is awesome... This is by ColdPlay "Fix You" When you try your best, but you don't succeed When you get what you want, but not what you need When you feel so tired, but you can't sleep Stuck in reverse A...	youfoundme	5	414	Sep 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	Checking in... (Preview) Hi all. Just a quick note to say I'm still alive, and as far as I know ABF is still sober (almost 90 days now). YAY. We're trying to get out and do more things as a family, although he's still not working. Really hard to find a job in our area with no license. Still having a few episodes of dry drunk beh...	ELEKTRAWMN	4	570	Sep 23, 2011 by tommyecat
	More pics to make ya smile (Preview) I love it when you guys post picture. It makes me feel better. Like the jokes ya post, or funny stories We all need a "calgon take me awaaaaay!" (c:	Debilyn	4	349	Sep 22, 2011 by Debilyn
	Sad today (Preview) Newbie here,,,,,,Here I sit at work and it's 1:16 in the afternoon. I got up this morning, got ready for work like I always do and then on the way to work it hit me. What if he's not here this time next year. My AH has cirrhosis,,,,there are so many unsanswered questions and I feel like the time I spend at w...	Woodenships	9	592	Sep 22, 2011 by ELEKTRAWMN
	A few photos... (Preview) Something I love to do is photography for me, not for anyone else... here's a few.... The blue herron is one of my favorite birds, this one was just standing there one day while I did some engagement photography...loved it! The gate is at a favorite park near the ocean here. The house is something righ...	youfoundme	9	819	Sep 22, 2011 by Debilyn
	What do you do when you can't stop obsessing over ex?? (Preview) Hi, I am new here - new to Alanon - just attended my first meeting last night. Starting to work Step 1. My ex left me for someone else and I can't stop wanting to email him and text him and call him. I am calling on my higher power constantly to give me strength to move forward with this program. I believe in God...	jasobel	11	6455	Sep 22, 2011 by tri and try
	New here....and sad..(kinda long) (Preview) Hello, I am here looking for some support and guidance..and heres my story. My husband got his 4th DUI in March of this year. This past friday we had court and his lawyer said he won't go to jail that he would be on bond til a bed opened. He was given 4yrs but offered 9mos RPF. Which in arkansas is a rehab. A lot...	jmanning	11	727	Sep 22, 2011 by ELEKTRAWMN
	Well was true to myself, still hurt some..... (Preview) ok here is the story. I was so bored so I started having guinea pigs. I love it. I have two kinds that are hairless. Very rare, and my silly regular Americans someone rescued. I had one paid for and three more going to be next week then picking them up. I had spoke up about a hoarder on the g pig group, P. Peopl...	Debilyn	7	623	Sep 22, 2011 by rara avis
	Asking For Help and a upside down expression of Tradition 7 versus concepts 3 & 4 (Preview) Delegating and giving responsibility to my children has thus far been a good experience over the last three days. They helped me prepare dinner last night. I broadly told them what I needed and to find their own way of doing it. Giving them the power to succeed or make a mistake is part of this experi...	tommyecat	2	782	Sep 22, 2011 by youfoundme
	Self Care (Preview) I never received the message in my family of origin of is it in my best interest or to thine own self be true perhaps because I grew up in an alcoholic home. I was taught to make your outsides look great forget about the insides, everything is just Fine, Thank You. So, coming into the alanon program for me...	tommyecat	12	1768	Sep 22, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Step 10 and Concept 4 (Preview) On Monday our group has a step/tradition study meeting. Yesterday we were on Step 10, Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. As the discussion made its way across the room, I started to take my own inventory. I had a light bulb moment that in the evenings I b...	tommyecat	8	1260	Sep 22, 2011 by tommyecat
	??? (Preview) While reading this, please remember I'm new at this...lol Because I have some very strong feelings that NEED to go away... My A bf has this friend.. His "best friend" for years. I put that in quotes because I really think I hate this person... I know hate is a strong word and I shouldn't hate an...	kris10	5	424	Sep 22, 2011 by rosielee
	New Girl Here (Preview) Im new here but hopefully I can get some help. Ill start out with a little overview of my life. Right now I am 24 and have a 2 yr. old daughter. I have a future husband that has a 2 yr old daughter. We both have jobs and make good money. Live in a great house and life is all around good...except if you look on th...	lostchildhood	13	471	Sep 21, 2011 by lasthope
	Boyfriend Showing Signs of Addiction (Preview) Hello All, I am new to this forum and seek some help from people who might be able to understand where I am coming from. Being a 24 year old who does not drink or do drugs with alcholic parents leaves me feeling pretty alone. It's typical for a 24 year old to drink with friends but its never been my norm. ...	newone87	15	695	Sep 21, 2011 by Pushka
	He just won't leave it alone (Preview) So, my brother whom I cut ties with a few days ago (some of you know about this from my other post) just won't leave things alone. He keeps emailing me telling me everyone hates me...as if I care what a buncha drunk druggies on his street think of me. Then, he gets no response from me so he sends my husband a...	Dharma	6	528	Sep 21, 2011 by Saffron
	last ones (Preview) the gal who was climbing up my funky ladder I put down there and tied is who did the pics for me. She is a Godsend to me and her husband who is climbing up the stairs with their dog. They rented some of my property when they drove from Ca to here. She is like a daughter to me. True,loyal always helps, we help each...	Debilyn	7	511	Sep 21, 2011 by Pushka
	Yagottawanna -- long one (Preview) *I found this yrs ago in a old forum magazine .* *Yagottawanna - Go to that first meeting as a step out of despair.* *Yagottawanna- Go to meeting after meeting if you desire progress.* *Yagottawanna- Listen when you get there.* *Yagottawanna- Do what it says to do .* *Yagottawanna- Work the twelve steps , not merel...*	abbyal	6	550	Sep 21, 2011 by Pushka
	Update (Preview) Thanks to everyone who replied to my post ¨How Important Is It?¨ You gave me lots to think about and I've been thinking hard on it the last two days. My mind kept returning to a couple of things: ¨ "You have two choices.* You can either leave the dirty dishes in the sink and let them rot for weeks O...*	pineapple	11	618	Sep 21, 2011 by GailMichelle
	you cut me open... (Preview) Lyrics from a song that have particular resonance for me today. "You cut me open, and I keep bleeding love..." I was woken up this morning by a call from my mother. First thing she says to me is "Don't be angry and yell at me. I've been drinking." I told her it had been fairly obvi...	scholarlydragon	4	545	Sep 21, 2011 by rosielee
	The old guilty vicitm (Preview) She follows me around and makes me think of the past. She makes me sit on the pitty pot in my present and she makes me sad about my future. I can't help what and where I come from. I work a diligent program to wipe away the dysfunction and yet there she is, this sad little girl follows me around. My sponsor and I...	Breakingfree	7	629	Sep 21, 2011 by rosielee
	Priorities (Preview) A few years ago when I was so over involved with the ex A I saw a psychiatrist and he told me my priorities were all way off. I had no idea what he was talking about. Wasn't it the ex A who had all the problems. I was so much in denial about what it was doing to my mental health. These days living as I do, surround...	maresie	5	659	Sep 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	anger and frustration (Preview) My mother is currently trying to recover from a breakup. The man she had been with for 16 years left after beating her. She is, understandably, very upset over this. There is a reason why Stockholm Syndrome is a thing, and she loved him in the first place, or thought that she did. She's wavering betwe...	scholarlydragon	5	980	Sep 21, 2011 by rosielee
	Does anyone else "get this" ? (Preview) When growing up or in life prior to alanon...Does anyone else here remember ever being taught to "take care of yourself" or love yourself or think about what is in your own best interest ( and then take action to achieve that FOR YOURSELF )growing up? Were you taught to be all that you can be bu...	glad	8	694	Sep 21, 2011 by pinkchip
	RA refusing to leave my house (Preview) Hey everybody, Update: I am staying with friends, the idea of which was to give my RA a little extra time to move out. Things had been arranged with his friends, truck, etc... I told him I was unable to talk until I felt more composed. Now I get a message from him saying he is refusing to move 'unless he has...	rara avis	20	638	Sep 21, 2011 by Pushka
	Feelings of Guilt (Preview) Ive been trying to implement Alanon principles as best as I can going to f2f meetings, and reading Getting them Sober which describes so well irrational guilt. At the same time my AH is doing everything to destroy my serenity and my attempts to be free of guilt and the actions Ive taken as a response...	nyc018	10	597	Sep 21, 2011 by rara avis
	He got his furlough today (Preview) I am so excited my AH got his furlough today, he got 5hrs supervised furlough. But supervision was with his lawyer.Yeah!!! So he took care of his things at college, was able to put money in the bank. Then he came home to shower and the landlord stopped over and my AH was able to tell him what happened. I did...	jmanning	9	418	Sep 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	((((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))) (Preview) I'm sure you all know how much I love you all. Thanks for the special birthday wishes and love. You all give me what you have learned in recovery so that I can give it away to others in need and you don't live in my head; you live in my heart. I hope for you all and for those fortunate enough to touch your r...	Jerry F	4	618	Sep 21, 2011 by Debilyn
	Is my husband an alcoholic? (Preview) Hi, My husband is in 37 yrs old and he has a very stressful career. For a few years now he has been drinking 70 proof Southern Comfort several night a week (usually Fri,Sat, and Sun night, not during the work week) He has 2 to 2.5 glasses each time. About 350ml . It ends up that the largest bottle you ca...	Ava2010	14	4248	Sep 20, 2011 by newlywed
	Drama (Preview) I don't have much drama in my life right now, thankfully. I'm so sooooo grateful for this, because I had so much drama for so long! My best friend is another story. She has drama day in and day out with her in-laws (her FIL is an A). Yesterday she and I were on instant message while we were each at work. Sh...	White Rabbit	8	1134	Sep 20, 2011 by pineapple
	Everyone Wish Jerry F A Happy Birthday !!! (Preview) Happy Birthday Jerry F.....I hope you have a wonderful day!!! Memory Lane: In my first post on MIP I was very disappointed in you when I asked for advice.....and in your reply to my post all you gave me was Experience, Strenght, and Hope.....and you still do. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Monday 19th o...	RLC	27	2889	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	another manic Tues. (Preview) Some days are very manicky for me. Right now I feel a rush to my head. I am going to make this short as I don't know what to say. I hope this is not a rambling mess. I want to recognize when I am not feeling up to par. Sometimes I feel like I should get on here every chance I get--like right now. I only usually spend...	Hoot Nanny	3	405	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	"Say good bye to the world you thought you lived in" (Preview) This song on the radio had this line and the line truly speaks to where I'm at... that juncture in the road I have tried to avoid, for so hard and for so long. It's not easy, but I know I need to find a way to let go and say goodbye to the world that I thought I lived in... that place where I thought my love for my e...	bud	8	874	Sep 20, 2011 by bud
	New 2 group & in a birthday conundrum! Bad birthday Birthday dillemma Alcoholic help with alcoholic Birthday trouble birthday decision (Preview) Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...	sandy70	25	8918	Sep 20, 2011 by sandy70
	Don't understand .. (Preview) I just really have a hard time wrapping my brain around some of my A's behavior. He says things that he means in the moment that he just doesn't mean long term. It's so interesting and frustrating to watch. I know this is sooo the 3 C's as far as not my issue. He has gone and made "plans" and I'm...	Pushka	7	687	Sep 20, 2011 by Pushka
	Where to begin? (Preview) I need help because I don't want to feel the way I feel. I don't know where to begin in my introduction so I thought I'd share everything I was thinking while I was thinking of how to begin this post. Sorry so long. I dont know where to begin. Will my kids think that the smell of alcohol is normal?Will I be le...	ardnas	10	703	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Today's Courage to Change Sept 16 - struggling a bit with this one (Preview) in the 3rd paragraph from this reading it says "We are powerless over the results of our actions. We can try to make wise choices today, but what will happen in the future is out of our hands. Since we can't know what to expect, why not trust that a Higher Power can use whatever happens to further ou...	amills4294	4	593	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Al-anon (Preview) can anyone tell me where an al-anon meeting is close to Wilson, or Greenville, nc. My family really needs to go and try to understand how I feel.	harley	5	4007	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Steps for five and 6 (Preview) Hi all feeling really positive thing I have just experienced a little leap i my recovery. I bought a CD at the convention the other day regarding steps 45 and 6. I have just listened to it. I have been bobbing around these steps for a while but I know feel really ready to do a fearless search of my own char...	Tracy	5	373	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Sept 18, 2011 (Preview) Felt better today than I have in almost a year. Seems like in part to being able to share and read here on this board. I enjoyed the day by myself and did not feel the least bit "alone" but rather peacefully by myself. Amazing... This week I have learned that I 1) was feeling sad over "spi...	glad	3	424	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Mixed emotions today (Preview) I had so many mixed emotions today. My first class of the day in college first thing I was asked where is my other half is. Well I am type that always tells the truth. And all I could manage to say was he had an emergency and couldn't make it in. My teacher looked at me and asked if I was okay. I wondered could he r...	jmanning	7	789	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	cruise went well...but car trouble! (Preview) I gotta tell ya we almost didn't make it to the cruise on Saturday! My mom's car had some very serious car trouble! We had to travel over 60 miles just to get there & then we had to go up a couple of steep hills. Our HP was w/ us as we made it there & back! We also have great program friends who followed us...	Hoot Nanny	5	394	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	I feel so defeated (Preview) Most of us have had our ups and downs for years. I am no exception. Meetings, reading and therapy but I feel defeated. It is no easy task to live with an alcoholic or even a recovering alcoholic. I honestly don't know if my husband is totally free of alcohol; I sometimes think, which is what our ther...	wifeofalcoholic	6	544	Sep 20, 2011 by lasthope
	Feeling discouraged (Preview) Sometimes it feels like two steps forward, two steps back in this business. My son and I were away thousands of miles from our home for a year while I was working elsewhere. I had a renter who walked out on the property early. My ex-AH stepped up to the plate and pitched in to take care of the pets for us inst...	Mattie	11	523	Sep 20, 2011 by lasthope
	Functioning better this morning (Preview) Good Morning. First thanks for letting me post here and share my feelings. From my last post, my AH went to jail friday and I was lost without him. Wow I said was.... This morning is the first morning I didn't cry. This is also the first morning of college without him. It will be ackward because the first 2 c...	jmanning	7	456	Sep 19, 2011 by jmanning
	made a decision (Preview) its been so many years living with this disease now that i pretty much live by the steps- before i knew what they were i had come to them naturally anyway. but since ive been on here ive noticed that i needed to address my need to fix everything. dont laugh- i know i answer all the posts here- and am hungry to...	rosielee	6	510	Sep 19, 2011 by maresie
	Al Anon has changed me (Preview) I tell ya if I had not been offered and learned all I have here, I would not have any hair left, or teeth either. Life is so frigging complicated, hectic. Bundling up in a corner sounds good sometimes. Nothing specific, just life. Have a certain amount of money. Needs to go to different places. I bought a n...	Debilyn	14	737	Sep 19, 2011 by barisax
	Forgiving ourselves (Preview) One of the things I have felt such shame about was how I both chose partners, married them, or became "attached" too quickly or got so triggered by what was going on I completely melted down. I have been really mean and judgmental to myself about that. Needless to say on some level I felt abso...	maresie	6	634	Sep 19, 2011 by glad lee
	How Important Is It? (Preview) How Important Is It? This has been one of my mantras for months now. And it often has helped to defuse potential angry, resentful situations. But lately it hasn't helped. To those who don't know my situation, I cannot make him leave. We have a small guesthouse that we used to rent as a B&B. At my reque...	pineapple	16	943	Sep 19, 2011 by glad lee
	I can not go to meetings (Preview) NOT because I dont want to. I would love to! I would love to do soo many things that i just cant do. I have severe pannic attacks and agoraphobia that wont let me do alot. My A is the ONLY one who was here for me when noone else was. I was literally house bound. I am now going a few places with the help of my counsel...	kris10	4	466	Sep 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	concern for member (Preview) Ok I got very concerned about a new member. Sounds like some very serious stuff is going on. This person and I pm'ed. The situation is dire, she is alone in it. I shared all I could from my experience, keep them in my prayers. I felt pretty well geez what emotion? I needed to share what I could with out givin...	Debilyn	6	525	Sep 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	Drinking limits socialization (Preview) Married 20+ yrs and alcohol has been an on and off problem throughout. Had a wonderful 3 year period of abstaining but that ended 4 years ago. After one drink, he's cheerful and still connected. Any more than that and the words slightly slur or the eyelids bat more often - just enough that I notice. W...	peggyjean	8	826	Sep 19, 2011 by glad
	Checking in (Preview) I haven't been on line for quite some time. Just letting you all know, I'm still here. Things are going really well for me. Still attending my F2F weekly meetings to help keep me on track. I live in Minnesota, so this time of the year is really busy. Winterizing, cutting/hauling wood for winter, yard cl...	Sweet Stanley	6	439	Sep 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	True Intimacy (Preview) Two trees growing close together, but not in each other's shadow Nature is a great teacher. A walk in a forest can teach us about life and help us to experience something far greater than ourselves. Suppose you came upon a colony of mushrooms decorating the forest floor, what would you see? At first, w...	Katy	6	767	Sep 19, 2011 by tommyecat
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