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I haven't been on line for quite some time. Just letting you all know, I'm still here. Things are going really well for me. Still attending my F2F weekly meetings to help keep me on track. I live in Minnesota, so this time of the year is really busy. Winterizing, cutting/hauling wood for winter, yard clean up and full time job are keeping us really hopping. Things should slow down in another month or so.
I just wanted to say that this and the AA program really do work. My AH is now over 15 months sober and I have been attending the F2F about the same amount of time. I have come to conclusion that if everybody lived by the AA 12 step program, this would be a much nicer world to live in.
I have just lived through the best summer of my life. Didn't do anything really exciting or extravagent. Just lived in peace and serenity. Wow! What a difference that makes. We just passed the 34 year mark (of marriage) and I feel like I am just now getting to truly know my spouse. We talk and share more now than we ever have. If somebody had told me this 2 years ago, I would have thought that they were nuts! My life was total turmoil and I have fallen into the depths of severe depression. But thanks to everyone here and my comrades at my weekly meetings, I have come a long way. I still have things that I need to work on, the control thing was a real problem, but I am much better at "letting go, and letting God." I do realize that it truly is "one day at a time" and that every day of sobriety I get to enjoy is a gift. I am stronger now and realize that his sobriety is "his" thing. Not mine. I mind my own business and life is a lot easier when I only manage me.
So, to all of you struggling out there.... there is hope. One of my favorite sayings is; "Where there is breath, there is hope." Hang in there. Work the program. It works, if you work it.
Wow! What a strong, positive testament. Congratulations, I'm so glad to hear how well things are going with you. Congrats to your husband too. Thanks for the update and the message of hope. Please come back when you have the time.
Aww .. love the post!!! Hugs P :) Keep coming back you are so worth it!! :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I'ver very glad to learn that you & your husband are doing so well. Keep up the great work! We need more hope on here.
My exAH and I had been married for 36 years. After 1 year of divorce, he went into rehab for the third time. He is now back home with me and has close to 4 months of recovery.
It's been unbelievable. The man that I married has resurfaced. I hadn't seen that man in decades. I, too, take it one day at a time and revel in the good times we are now having.
My ex had to come close to the edge before backing away. He realizes how close he came and that his body can't take another relapse. Will that realization carry him through? I don't know. I realize there are no guarantees. Whatever happens, I can now get through it without going insane.
Thank you for your post. It's encouraging for me and for others.
Take good care, Gail
-- Edited by GailMichelle on Saturday 17th of September 2011 09:35:55 AM
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You have to go through the darkness to truly know the light. Lama Surya Das
Resentment is like taking poison & waiting for the other person to die. Malachy McCourt
Aloha Sweet...What a great gift of Hope along with Jozie's post and the others who are receiving the blessings of working this program. Yes it does work when I work it and now I am encouraged to pay closer attention to how I am working it.
You and your alcoholic husband are being blessed as a consequence of working your programs and I'd also like to see that message posted on national television channels. Indeed that world outside of ours will be a much much better place to live if these spiritual principles were being practiced.
My sincerest best wishes and prayers for you and your recovering husband. And thanks so much for the message of hope.
yes this was what i was thinking, that we needed more hope- which is why i wrote how my mum drove off to an AA meeting drunk and in severe sickness and came back sober and remained so ever since. before that AA meeting we thought she was totally gone and would never get better.
i think she said- the cnstant sickness in the mornings, the black outs- it all gets horrid and too much, the guilt . sh could not have done it without meeting others who have done it and who had been there too.
yep- there is hope,,,,,, as long as people know about AA, it can happen at any time.
First of all, I am so glad you came back to visit. I do so agree with your post. The Alanon program has changed my marriage as you described. I will be celebrating 10 years next month with my AH who is not in recovery.
The program works if you work it. The miracles can still happen should one person in the relationship begin the journey. My favorite slogan is: Let It Begin With Me. Because if if were not for Alcoholism earning me a seat in the rooms of Alanon, working the steps with a sponsor, I would not have the peace, serenity, joy in my life today.
