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slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of al-anonId like to share something to anyone willing to listen. I have been doing some thinking about living vs. surviving. Most of my life has been about surviving. People who grow up in healthy, stable households grow...

shannah · shannah

Hi, I have just split up with my boyfriend ans am very upset. In seven weeks he has dropped me 5 times. He is a darling in his normal state but when he turns to the second personality he turns in a violent, cruel and ugly being. He is racist, insulting, paranoid, jealeous, possessive,makes up stories such...

canadianguy · canadianguy

One of the great old sayings in Al-Anon is that "Some of us are strong enough to stay, some of us are strong enough to leave", and I couldn't agree more.... I get nervous/anxious on here whenever I see people encourage those who have left their A that "wow, they are so strong", as i...

UK Jane · UK Jane

Due to my job I haven't been able to make a meeting for the last 2 weeks. My sponsor rang me the other day to ask me if I'd like to go to a convention with her today. I wanted to go but had a lot of chores to do today, so I said I'd let her know then yesterday I had a really bad day so called her up and said yes please....

JAMIE74 · JAMIE74

A little background, AH admitted to using Meth again this week. This is the second time since rehab. He chose to quit again. I didn't ask him to, but he knows I don't choose to live in that situation. So he's detoxing at home, quitting by himself. Choosing not to get any help, no rehab, no counseling or a...

ladysingstheblues · ladysingstheblues

Hi All. I'm new to these boards, but not new to this... I started to write a little backstory about myself, and the last ten years with my partner (engaged for the last 3)... but I just don't have the energy to relive it right now. I've been up all night. Things are bad. Really bad. And it would not be unreas...

Icie · Icie

My alcoholic son, who has a twin brother finally hit his bottom .. the twin brother was enabling his alcoholic brother big time & for over a year whenever he would phone to tell me the horrid stories about how his alcoholic brother hurt him used him, manipulated him, conned him, broke dates, commi...

teachmath · teachmath

I have a question about the one year milestone of sobriety. My bf and I have dated nearly 10 months and he is less than a month away from being sober for an entire year. However, instead of our relationship and his behavior improving and growing, he has relapsed into his former self, treating me with di...

Tigger · Tigger

Hi everyone. I'm on a mission to improve support for our online meetings here on the MIP website alanon chat room. They are often a first port of call for newcomers (and those with disabilities) and it is vital they be kept going. I realise that Summer is a time when people have been on vacation but now the...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

My name is slogan_jim. Over the years growing up in an alcoholic home, around a father who sometimes never loved himself, putting up with his abusive and alcoholic partners, and a mother that was never around, I find I have gathered a very distorted view on what love is. I don't know what it is anymo...

Aloha · Aloha

I caught myself at the grocery store this morning planning to "nice it up" with a store cashier when I was picking up a few items. The cashier and I recognize each other and are, for the most part, on friendly terms. She's been working there for years and I've been swinging by during her usual h...

denro · denro

Yesterday afternoon I started feeling resentful at my compulsively lying investment partner. As a result I started doing the "Dont's" by sending texts calling him on his broken promises, etc. I was pointing the finger and being accusatory to him. He retaliated, yet promised to send me a...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi everyone I'm a grateful member of al-anon, the A in my life, my partner, she drinks every night. There is a lot of strain - I'm looking for work, my partners mum has been in hospital a bit recently. She's had a couple of bladder infections, last one requiring IV antibiotics. She is 80 and not in great hea...

gracealone · gracealone

I went to my first face to face Alanon meeting today. I am glad that I went. It was really a God thing. I was in the part of town where the meeting was, at a friend's and happened to be driving by just minutes before it started, so I pulled in and went! So glad I did. I think I'll keep coming back. Having su...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So even as is wrote that subj line, the other part of my brain was saying, "who cares". Buuutttt...Heres what I wonder....my ah is out ..at bar, at friends...2_3 and sometimes more, times per week....me, im home taking care of the home and our child. Hes rarely home for dinner, sometimes ba...

Icie · Icie

For years I have always asked my Grandchildren to make a list for me for Christmas of things they would like as a gift. Out of the list I always bought them one gift for a $100.00 & another one for about $10.00 & a few stocking stuffers. This year I have done the same asked for a list & for them to g...

DavidG · DavidG

...it came out in the paper today... an inquest over my nephew. He died over 18 months ago, the same night our mum died. I recall coming home and then getting told. I went round and was able to comfort his daughter aged 12. The poor kid had lost her dad to a drug overdose, and had lived through a rape an...

Jozie · Jozie

Howdy MIP Family :0) This Past Week I got to spend some Really Nice Quality Time with My 88 Year old AGrandma! As Some Know I Lost My Afather to this Disease at 58yrs old in 2008. Well this is His Momma! She calls me on the Phone out of the blue one day & states my Aunt is Leaving town for a couple day (She st...

Yvette · Yvette

Hi my name is Yvette I've been married to an alcoholic for 2 years. I'm currently pregnant and at the early stage of pregnancy. In the early part of this year around January, I wanted to leave my husband because of his abuse while being intoxicated. He would verbally, mentally and emotionally abuse...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Dang. I have known this was a problem for me for a LONG time. I do not say no when the boss heaps more work on me. I don't say NO when clients are unreasonably demanding. I let myself get taxed to the breaking point. Aside from coming to these boards in the morning, I haven't had time to do much of anythin...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

After yet another argument that I Participated in ,he came home threw some things in MY car and said he would bring it back tomarrow as he WAS working on the brakes and the part he needed wouldn't be in until today! I don't believe him, because it sure looked like he had brakes when he went out the driveway....

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I say this laughing, but am quite miffed with my chemistry instructor. He is a first year teacher and well can't teach us worth a darn. So our first 3 hour 150 question exam that he swore would be so simple was brutal. Most the class flubbed it and he wrote something about throwing out the last 2 pages of the...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Does anyone know where to find the Alanon literature: Alcoholism the 3-fold illness which includes the statements that alcoholism is a physical allergy, a mental obsession & a spiritual malady? I have been wondering about this for years. Early on in my recovery our Alanon group used to read thi...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I just wanted to share with you how proud I am of my mom. She took care of herself today. I live far away in another state and at the end of last week she had chest pain and pain in her arm. She likely waited longer than she should have before calling an ambulance. The paramedics came and took care of her and...

proudmommy47 · proudmommy47

Hi all! I am new to this board. I am a32 year old adult child of an alcoholic mom, a very co-dependent stepdad, and addict little brother. Becoming a mother has strengthened my resolve to set boundaries against situations that are not healthy. My mom has been on the relapse rollercoaster for 14 y...

Lola77 · Lola77

I am at a complete loss. I feel so alone - more than usual because now I am responsible for a second little person. I just found out I am pregnant and while my husband claims to be thrilled and promises to "be a great dad" he is drinking more than ever. I watch him stumble around the house, slurrin...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I know my AH is on very thin ice at the bank where he works and I have just been waiting for him to tell me that he is fired (or in his mind I'm sure he will believe that he quit). I knew he didn't go to work yesterday and I just found out from my son that he didn't go in today either. I am so mad and upset right now but t...

JAMIE74 · JAMIE74

For those who deal with both...how do you do it? Dealing with the alcohol is one thing. The drugs are a totally different issue. Yes they are both addictions but the consequences can be so much worse. If he were to get busted and I just happen to be with him not knowing he had anything on him, I can get in ju...

abbyal · abbyal

Are you thinking of attending our International Convention ?? Here is a link to all the info you need . If you have never attended an International convention this is the one , (of course I am prejudice as its in my beautiful province of British Columbia Canada) this will be my 6th International my thi...

Icie · Icie

My grandson & granddaughter Have both signed up & gone to both chat & the message board & there is never anyone there. We Are going to lose them unless I can find them a active message board & group ????? I would really appreciate some directions. They said they would start on the ne...

xter · xter

I haven't had an active alcoholic in my life in a few years. My family and I have broken ties with my addict, thief brother until he goes to rehab and comes out working a program... I am in a healthy relationship, in a successful place in my career... And yet. I'm sick right now. Physically sick frOm stre...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

""Got my dander up"" is the expression my Granny used when someone ticked her off. A coworker emailed me that he was making an unusual deposit & that I should make a temp posting for the funds until we have a chance to discuss with the boss. Well, I email him back and give him th...

Jackie11 · Jackie11

Patience has never been a strong trait that I possess. In my meeting Tuesday night the topic was on change, and I related to another share, always jumping from one job to the next, jumping from one boyfriend to the next, and yet I look back and I see how all those moves brought me to where I am today. Last sum...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

Hey hey, I have a wonderful loving partner, but lately I keep finding myself taking things personally and reacting in bitter resentful ways towards her. I take almost everything she says personally and before I know it I'm reacting in this grumpy negative way thats no fun! We we were a really good frie...

dragonflys · dragonflys

Why do I feel I need validation that what I am doing is the right thing for my kids and myself? I need to start trusting myself a little more!! My son invited a friend over!!! I know, I know, this doesnt sound like much to others, but for me, for HIM, it was HUGE! My son has not invited friends over to our hou...

Compromise22 · Compromise22

Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...

gracealone · gracealone

Hi all, My title is meant to grab attention, beacause I really do think I need to move all the way out of denial. It seems like once I admitted that my husband was an alcoholic, the ball has kept rolliing and now I am seeing that our marriage has been a shell that I have constructed to make me feel like I had a n...

likemyheart · likemyheart

I got in an accident tonight. Well, incident really since there aren't really accidents, they are incidents - things that could have been avoided if someone had been paying closer attention. But, I digress (ha, digress tickles me for some reason, it means to stray from the point), Let me assure you th...

bud · bud

Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...

Aloha · Aloha

Folks, I've got to turn myself in. You know what I love about this program? It's that it's taught me to walk through life and question things when I'm starting to behave in weird ways. It's also taught me where some of those behaviors are coming from, what they look like, what their cause usually is. I rec...

lynna50 · lynna50

I am desperate for some help and perspective. I have been dating a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober, who seemed to work a good program. He had been an alcoholic for 30 years, was drinking a gallon of gin a day when he finally hit bottom. His father was an alcoholic (now deceased) and his mother control...

pikelpak · pikelpak

Hi, When I got together with my A I started to loose confidence and I ended up neglecting and somewhat abandoning my career. I so can't wait to get up early again, driving to work and do something productive. Things are so chaotic right now. I thought God sent me the perfect job opportunity. I found it whe...

ejohnson55 · ejohnson55

My husband is in in-patient treatment :/ I am happy that he is getting help but I am so scared. I visited him yesterday, he seemed happy and relieved to finally deal with his issues. However I have heard it all before, I just want this to work so bad. I am tired of feeling like I am getting the life sucked out o...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim. Today I woke up feeling great and in a good mood. Sharp contrast to yesterday. I had soccer last night and it felt good interacting with others and getting my heart rate going. I havn't been able to get to many face to face meetings because I have chosen to take on some OT...

Dazzy · Dazzy

I have been with my husband for 4 years. He has been drinking since he was very young... mostly beer. He has had drug problems alot in the past but now only drinks. We have talked about his drinking and he knows that he is an alcoholic. We have argued alot and he will drink less for a while then goes back to dri...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. Al-Anon Meeting (Sept 24) as I have a Dr.'s appointment. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks Shimo aka Jeri

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Ah is in Las Vegas for a work related trip. I called him last night to say goodnight but he didn't answer. He called me back about 20 minutes later and I could tell he was drunk. I got off the phone within a few minutes and decided at that point that I do NOT want to talk to him when he's drunk ever again. He t...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Did you know there are now studies on happiness? There are even classes on it in colleges. I learned that compassion brings me happiness. Lately I forgot. Even though it was hard, doing the animal rescue and rehab was hard, I was happy when I was doing it. Being so involved and centered in that ONE situat...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Want to view a short but very touching video? Click below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYd4UPF6qWo

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Went for a job interview today, won't hear anything till the end of the week, also called my daughter since I was down near her work, we went to lunch. And after I left her something popped in my head about a meeting, I had the pamplet in my purse and sure enough I was in the right place and the right time, I Mad...

Wanttohelp · Wanttohelp

wow...when the "Author's Foreward" describes and talkes about you completely...you know this has to be the right book for you!! Starting it now..thanks for the suggestion!!

Jerry F · Jerry F

Kuleana is a cultural behavior for me. Koo lee ah nah is that part of my life where and when I am participating in my life and the lives of others. Okay this is not a Hawaiian language or cultural lesson; it is only a mention of how I arrived and the lessons given to me as a child thru my adult years and impo...

denro · denro

After a full week as an all in member of Al-Anon in dealing with my compulsive liar investment partner from the old economy, I have been able to email that I am not interested in ANY promises, calendar dates of promises, forthcomings etc, but it makes me mad that I know it is the same as dealing with a lying...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

Just a quick update and check-in to say hi! I will have more time later this week to dig into the board and read what I missed the past few months. Can't wait! Missed the Al Anon wisdom and peace. I got back from basic training. It was tough. At 34, my body needed a bit more recovery time than was offered...

Pushka · Pushka

While I know I need to keep the focus on me and the kids, is it wrong for me to pray for him to find his bottom? I'm just curious, I've decided I'm prepared for the God of my understanding to fully answer that question. Whatever that bottom is I'm prepared to watch as he hits and steer clear of the urge to fix...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I am so filled with understanding, love and compassion for my AH when we don't associate with each other. I so want to get through to him that I haven't given up on him and can still forgive everything and stand by him every step of the way if he were truly trying to fight his alcoholism but I can't wait forev...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH apologized for his comments about the rapist thing. He has been very nice this week since I caught him in the middle of a relapse this weekend. I have withdrawn physically from him, not to punish him but basically because I just don't feel anything for him right now. I am being pleasant and we eve...

uscgmomma1028 · uscgmomma1028

I have been reading post on this website for a month or so. And want to thank everyone for the stories, because they do help. Hmmm, how do I start, it is not crazy to me how I have ended up in the situation I am in. I am the child of an alcoholic, abuse as a child, married an alcoholic, was proud of my self after...

Jsjjkelly · Jsjjkelly

Hi all! I've been lurking and reading for awhile. It has greatly helped me after my AH and his episodes. He's been going to AA meetings and seems to be wanting to work on his sobriety. Like everything else, there are good days and then horrible days. The question I have is how to deal with this situati...

Amemadchen · Amemadchen

I have been in this relationship for 7 years. We were friends first so I know how he was with his past girlfriends but never thought he would end up treating me the same way. How wrong I was! Our biggest arguement is I just want to spend time together but any time he has free he goes to the bar lately. Even...

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	Surviving vs. Living (Preview) Hi, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of al-anonId like to share something to anyone willing to listen. I have been doing some thinking about living vs. surviving. Most of my life has been about surviving. People who grow up in healthy, stable households grow...	slogan_jim	4	458	Sep 30, 2012 by slogan_jim
	Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde (Preview) Hi, I have just split up with my boyfriend ans am very upset. In seven weeks he has dropped me 5 times. He is a darling in his normal state but when he turns to the second personality he turns in a violent, cruel and ugly being. He is racist, insulting, paranoid, jealeous, possessive,makes up stories such...	shannah	14	732	Sep 30, 2012 by shannah
	Strong enough to stay, Strong enough to leave.... (Preview) One of the great old sayings in Al-Anon is that "Some of us are strong enough to stay, some of us are strong enough to leave", and I couldn't agree more.... I get nervous/anxious on here whenever I see people encourage those who have left their A that "wow, they are so strong", as i...	canadianguy	17	930	Sep 30, 2012 by tortuga
	Lovely day with my sponsor (Preview) Due to my job I haven't been able to make a meeting for the last 2 weeks. My sponsor rang me the other day to ask me if I'd like to go to a convention with her today. I wanted to go but had a lot of chores to do today, so I said I'd let her know then yesterday I had a really bad day so called her up and said yes please....	UK Jane	2	403	Sep 30, 2012 by hotrod
	Dexoting (Preview) A little background, AH admitted to using Meth again this week. This is the second time since rehab. He chose to quit again. I didn't ask him to, but he knows I don't choose to live in that situation. So he's detoxing at home, quitting by himself. Choosing not to get any help, no rehab, no counseling or a...	JAMIE74	18	681	Sep 30, 2012 by JAMIE74
	where love used to live (Preview) Hi All. I'm new to these boards, but not new to this... I started to write a little backstory about myself, and the last ten years with my partner (engaged for the last 3)... but I just don't have the energy to relive it right now. I've been up all night. Things are bad. Really bad. And it would not be unreas...	ladysingstheblues	7	734	Sep 30, 2012 by Diva
	Small miracles (Preview) My alcoholic son, who has a twin brother finally hit his bottom .. the twin brother was enabling his alcoholic brother big time & for over a year whenever he would phone to tell me the horrid stories about how his alcoholic brother hurt him used him, manipulated him, conned him, broke dates, commi...	Icie	6	333	Sep 29, 2012 by UK Jane
	He is approaching the one year anniversary of sobriety (Preview) I have a question about the one year milestone of sobriety. My bf and I have dated nearly 10 months and he is less than a month away from being sober for an entire year. However, instead of our relationship and his behavior improving and growing, he has relapsed into his former self, treating me with di...	teachmath	11	704	Sep 29, 2012 by teachmath
	Support for online meetings (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm on a mission to improve support for our online meetings here on the MIP website alanon chat room. They are often a first port of call for newcomers (and those with disabilities) and it is vital they be kept going. I realise that Summer is a time when people have been on vacation but now the...	Tigger	5	306	Sep 29, 2012 by Tigger
	Love (Preview) My name is slogan_jim. Over the years growing up in an alcoholic home, around a father who sometimes never loved himself, putting up with his abusive and alcoholic partners, and a mother that was never around, I find I have gathered a very distorted view on what love is. I don't know what it is anymo...	slogan_jim	11	735	Sep 29, 2012 by tiredtonite
	Not altering my mood to "mesh" with another's (Preview) I caught myself at the grocery store this morning planning to "nice it up" with a store cashier when I was picking up a few items. The cashier and I recognize each other and are, for the most part, on friendly terms. She's been working there for years and I've been swinging by during her usual h...	Aloha	5	552	Sep 29, 2012 by tiredtonite
	My Meltdown Yesterday (Preview) Yesterday afternoon I started feeling resentful at my compulsively lying investment partner. As a result I started doing the "Dont's" by sending texts calling him on his broken promises, etc. I was pointing the finger and being accusatory to him. He retaliated, yet promised to send me a...	denro	6	403	Sep 29, 2012 by pinkchip
	Need some emotion prayers. (Preview) Hi everyone I'm a grateful member of al-anon, the A in my life, my partner, she drinks every night. There is a lot of strain - I'm looking for work, my partners mum has been in hospital a bit recently. She's had a couple of bladder infections, last one requiring IV antibiotics. She is 80 and not in great hea...	jitsuka	5	362	Sep 29, 2012 by jitsuka
	face to face (Preview) I went to my first face to face Alanon meeting today. I am glad that I went. It was really a God thing. I was in the part of town where the meeting was, at a friend's and happened to be driving by just minutes before it started, so I pulled in and went! So glad I did. I think I'll keep coming back. Having su...	gracealone	11	492	Sep 29, 2012 by Overcome
	Wondering what "other"people think Worry (Preview) So even as is wrote that subj line, the other part of my brain was saying, "who cares". Buuutttt...Heres what I wonder....my ah is out ..at bar, at friends...2_3 and sometimes more, times per week....me, im home taking care of the home and our child. Hes rarely home for dinner, sometimes ba...	Theoceancalls	9	12120	Sep 29, 2012 by gracealone
	Please your opinion (Preview) For years I have always asked my Grandchildren to make a list for me for Christmas of things they would like as a gift. Out of the list I always bought them one gift for a $100.00 & another one for about $10.00 & a few stocking stuffers. This year I have done the same asked for a list & for them to g...	Icie	14	569	Sep 29, 2012 by Jerry F
	Closure over something bad... (Preview) ...it came out in the paper today... an inquest over my nephew. He died over 18 months ago, the same night our mum died. I recall coming home and then getting told. I went round and was able to comfort his daughter aged 12. The poor kid had lost her dad to a drug overdose, and had lived through a rape an...	DavidG	5	417	Sep 28, 2012 by Icie
	This Disease has No Age Limit! :( (Preview) Howdy MIP Family :0) This Past Week I got to spend some Really Nice Quality Time with My 88 Year old AGrandma! As Some Know I Lost My Afather to this Disease at 58yrs old in 2008. Well this is His Momma! She calls me on the Phone out of the blue one day & states my Aunt is Leaving town for a couple day (She st...	Jozie	4	609	Sep 29, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Pregnant and married to an alcoholic husband (Preview) Hi my name is Yvette I've been married to an alcoholic for 2 years. I'm currently pregnant and at the early stage of pregnancy. In the early part of this year around January, I wanted to leave my husband because of his abuse while being intoxicated. He would verbally, mentally and emotionally abuse...	Yvette	5	624	Sep 29, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Must work on saying NO (Preview) Dang. I have known this was a problem for me for a LONG time. I do not say no when the boss heaps more work on me. I don't say NO when clients are unreasonably demanding. I let myself get taxed to the breaking point. Aside from coming to these boards in the morning, I haven't had time to do much of anythin...	pinkchip	8	541	Sep 28, 2012 by Pushka
	He Left Yesterday! (Preview) After yet another argument that I Participated in ,he came home threw some things in MY car and said he would bring it back tomarrow as he WAS working on the brakes and the part he needed wouldn't be in until today! I don't believe him, because it sure looked like he had brakes when he went out the driveway....	sisdragonfly1957	5	476	Sep 28, 2012 by Diva
	Stupid !@#$% chemistry (Preview) I say this laughing, but am quite miffed with my chemistry instructor. He is a first year teacher and well can't teach us worth a darn. So our first 3 hour 150 question exam that he swore would be so simple was brutal. Most the class flubbed it and he wrote something about throwing out the last 2 pages of the...	Breakingfree	8	518	Sep 28, 2012 by GailMichelle
	question: where do I find? (Preview) Does anyone know where to find the Alanon literature: Alcoholism the 3-fold illness which includes the statements that alcoholism is a physical allergy, a mental obsession & a spiritual malady? I have been wondering about this for years. Early on in my recovery our Alanon group used to read thi...	Hoot Nanny	1	392	Sep 28, 2012 by Debilyn
	Never too old to practice self care (Preview) I just wanted to share with you how proud I am of my mom. She took care of herself today. I live far away in another state and at the end of last week she had chest pain and pain in her arm. She likely waited longer than she should have before calling an ambulance. The paramedics came and took care of her and...	tiredtonite	5	649	Sep 28, 2012 by stillkickin
	Boundaries and Birthday Parties (Preview) Hi all! I am new to this board. I am a32 year old adult child of an alcoholic mom, a very co-dependent stepdad, and addict little brother. Becoming a mother has strengthened my resolve to set boundaries against situations that are not healthy. My mom has been on the relapse rollercoaster for 14 y...	proudmommy47	2	508	Sep 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Newly pregnant - husband is an active alcoholic. (Preview) I am at a complete loss. I feel so alone - more than usual because now I am responsible for a second little person. I just found out I am pregnant and while my husband claims to be thrilled and promises to "be a great dad" he is drinking more than ever. I watch him stumble around the house, slurrin...	Lola77	9	7832	Sep 28, 2012 by Yvette
	So Unfair (Preview) I know my AH is on very thin ice at the bank where he works and I have just been waiting for him to tell me that he is fired (or in his mind I'm sure he will believe that he quit). I knew he didn't go to work yesterday and I just found out from my son that he didn't go in today either. I am so mad and upset right now but t...	WornOutMrsFixIt	7	723	Sep 28, 2012 by holivex
	Drugs vs Alcohol (Preview) For those who deal with both...how do you do it? Dealing with the alcohol is one thing. The drugs are a totally different issue. Yes they are both addictions but the consequences can be so much worse. If he were to get busted and I just happen to be with him not knowing he had anything on him, I can get in ju...	JAMIE74	5	547	Sep 27, 2012 by JAMIE74
	Al-Anon International Convention info (Preview) Are you thinking of attending our International Convention ?? Here is a link to all the info you need . If you have never attended an International convention this is the one , (of course I am prejudice as its in my beautiful province of British Columbia Canada) this will be my 6th International my thi...	abbyal	3	435	Sep 27, 2012 by abbyal
	Alateen ...Message board & chat room ????? (Preview) My grandson & granddaughter Have both signed up & gone to both chat & the message board & there is never anyone there. We Are going to lose them unless I can find them a active message board & group ????? I would really appreciate some directions. They said they would start on the ne...	Icie	2	4240	Sep 27, 2012 by Icie
	Forgot about this... (Preview) I haven't had an active alcoholic in my life in a few years. My family and I have broken ties with my addict, thief brother until he goes to rehab and comes out working a program... I am in a healthy relationship, in a successful place in my career... And yet. I'm sick right now. Physically sick frOm stre...	xter	4	324	Sep 27, 2012 by Icie
	Got my dander up today (Preview) ""Got my dander up"" is the expression my Granny used when someone ticked her off. A coworker emailed me that he was making an unusual deposit & that I should make a temp posting for the funds until we have a chance to discuss with the boss. Well, I email him back and give him th...	Path to Serenity	3	428	Sep 27, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	Patience is a work in progress (Preview) Patience has never been a strong trait that I possess. In my meeting Tuesday night the topic was on change, and I related to another share, always jumping from one job to the next, jumping from one boyfriend to the next, and yet I look back and I see how all those moves brought me to where I am today. Last sum...	Jackie11	2	761	Sep 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	I wanna be grateful not resentful!! (Preview) Hey hey, I have a wonderful loving partner, but lately I keep finding myself taking things personally and reacting in bitter resentful ways towards her. I take almost everything she says personally and before I know it I'm reacting in this grumpy negative way thats no fun! We we were a really good frie...	jorjorjor	3	500	Sep 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Validation (Preview) Why do I feel I need validation that what I am doing is the right thing for my kids and myself? I need to start trusting myself a little more!! My son invited a friend over!!! I know, I know, this doesnt sound like much to others, but for me, for HIM, it was HUGE! My son has not invited friends over to our hou...	dragonflys	6	424	Sep 27, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Dating a Newly Recovering Alcoholic dating recovered alcoholic boyfriend al-anon help sober recovery relationship PTSD alcoholism rehab (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site, and new to Al-Anon, but I thought that it might be helpful for me to share my story and get some opinions from people who have been in a similar situations themselves. So here it goes: About a year and a half ago, I started dating who I didn't realize then was a fucitoning alcohol...	Compromise22	12	9835	Sep 27, 2012 by Jackie11
	Denial was bliss compared to this! (Preview) Hi all, My title is meant to grab attention, beacause I really do think I need to move all the way out of denial. It seems like once I admitted that my husband was an alcoholic, the ball has kept rolliing and now I am seeing that our marriage has been a shell that I have constructed to make me feel like I had a n...	gracealone	11	679	Sep 27, 2012 by gracealone
	Embracing Acceptance (Preview) I got in an accident tonight. Well, incident really since there aren't really accidents, they are incidents - things that could have been avoided if someone had been paying closer attention. But, I digress (ha, digress tickles me for some reason, it means to stray from the point), Let me assure you th...	likemyheart	3	376	Sep 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Forgiveness & feelings and my side of the street forgiveness feelings finding new perspectives anger (Preview) Ive been feeling very angry lately and building skyscraper-style resentments. Its making me feel horrible and fatigued to the point where Im wondering how Im going to make it to the end of the week. Ive been beating myself up asking how can I forgive when the insanity (my A's and mine) is escalating,...	bud	5	7671	Sep 26, 2012 by bud
	Validate MEEEEE!! (Preview) Folks, I've got to turn myself in. You know what I love about this program? It's that it's taught me to walk through life and question things when I'm starting to behave in weird ways. It's also taught me where some of those behaviors are coming from, what they look like, what their cause usually is. I rec...	Aloha	5	738	Sep 26, 2012 by glad lee
	Conflict Avoider (Preview) I am desperate for some help and perspective. I have been dating a recovering alcoholic, 2 years sober, who seemed to work a good program. He had been an alcoholic for 30 years, was drinking a gallon of gin a day when he finally hit bottom. His father was an alcoholic (now deceased) and his mother control...	lynna50	15	4671	Sep 26, 2012 by lynna50
	Where in the world is my HP? (Preview) Hi, When I got together with my A I started to loose confidence and I ended up neglecting and somewhat abandoning my career. I so can't wait to get up early again, driving to work and do something productive. Things are so chaotic right now. I thought God sent me the perfect job opportunity. I found it whe...	pikelpak	6	746	Sep 26, 2012 by Jerry F
	Rehab (Preview) My husband is in in-patient treatment :/ I am happy that he is getting help but I am so scared. I visited him yesterday, he seemed happy and relieved to finally deal with his issues. However I have heard it all before, I just want this to work so bad. I am tired of feeling like I am getting the life sucked out o...	ejohnson55	8	725	Sep 26, 2012 by ejohnson55
	I feel great today :) (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim. Today I woke up feeling great and in a good mood. Sharp contrast to yesterday. I had soccer last night and it felt good interacting with others and getting my heart rate going. I havn't been able to get to many face to face meetings because I have chosen to take on some OT...	slogan_jim	2	309	Sep 25, 2012 by UK Jane
	just need to vent i think... (Preview) I have been with my husband for 4 years. He has been drinking since he was very young... mostly beer. He has had drug problems alot in the past but now only drinks. We have talked about his drinking and he knows that he is an alcoholic. We have argued alot and he will drink less for a while then goes back to dri...	Dazzy	4	481	Sep 25, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Monday a.m. Al-Anon Mtg (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. Al-Anon Meeting (Sept 24) as I have a Dr.'s appointment. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	1	309	Sep 25, 2012 by RobinKSC
	I get to test a boundary today! (Preview) Ah is in Las Vegas for a work related trip. I called him last night to say goodnight but he didn't answer. He called me back about 20 minutes later and I could tell he was drunk. I got off the phone within a few minutes and decided at that point that I do NOT want to talk to him when he's drunk ever again. He t...	ilovedogs	5	562	Sep 25, 2012 by pinkchip
	Finding Happiness (Preview) Did you know there are now studies on happiness? There are even classes on it in colleges. I learned that compassion brings me happiness. Lately I forgot. Even though it was hard, doing the animal rescue and rehab was hard, I was happy when I was doing it. Being so involved and centered in that ONE situat...	Debilyn	7	730	Sep 25, 2012 by glad lee
	The Power of Words (Preview) Want to view a short but very touching video? Click below http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zYd4UPF6qWo	GailMichelle	1	551	Sep 25, 2012 by Jill
	Starting over again! (Preview) Went for a job interview today, won't hear anything till the end of the week, also called my daughter since I was down near her work, we went to lunch. And after I left her something popped in my head about a meeting, I had the pamplet in my purse and sure enough I was in the right place and the right time, I Mad...	sisdragonfly1957	3	465	Sep 25, 2012 by Jerry F
	Getting Them Sober... vol. 1 (Preview) wow...when the "Author's Foreward" describes and talkes about you completely...you know this has to be the right book for you!! Starting it now..thanks for the suggestion!!	Wanttohelp	2	476	Sep 24, 2012 by Icie
	My Kuleana - My Responsibility... (Preview) Kuleana is a cultural behavior for me. Koo lee ah nah is that part of my life where and when I am participating in my life and the lives of others. Okay this is not a Hawaiian language or cultural lesson; it is only a mention of how I arrived and the lessons given to me as a child thru my adult years and impo...	Jerry F	5	559	Sep 24, 2012 by tortuga
	It makes me mad! (Preview) After a full week as an all in member of Al-Anon in dealing with my compulsive liar investment partner from the old economy, I have been able to email that I am not interested in ANY promises, calendar dates of promises, forthcomings etc, but it makes me mad that I know it is the same as dealing with a lying...	denro	3	606	Sep 24, 2012 by denro
	Howdy Al Anon fam! (Preview) Just a quick update and check-in to say hi! I will have more time later this week to dig into the board and read what I missed the past few months. Can't wait! Missed the Al Anon wisdom and peace. I got back from basic training. It was tough. At 34, my body needed a bit more recovery time than was offered...	Dolly Llama	7	471	Sep 24, 2012 by Jerry F
	Praying for his bottom .. (Preview) While I know I need to keep the focus on me and the kids, is it wrong for me to pray for him to find his bottom? I'm just curious, I've decided I'm prepared for the God of my understanding to fully answer that question. Whatever that bottom is I'm prepared to watch as he hits and steer clear of the urge to fix...	Pushka	11	588	Sep 24, 2012 by Theoceancalls
	My Good Intentions Blown to Bits (Preview) I am so filled with understanding, love and compassion for my AH when we don't associate with each other. I so want to get through to him that I haven't given up on him and can still forgive everything and stand by him every step of the way if he were truly trying to fight his alcoholism but I can't wait forev...	WornOutMrsFixIt	6	989	Sep 24, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Handling apologies/why was I angry (Preview) My AH apologized for his comments about the rapist thing. He has been very nice this week since I caught him in the middle of a relapse this weekend. I have withdrawn physically from him, not to punish him but basically because I just don't feel anything for him right now. I am being pleasant and we eve...	ilovedogs	7	542	Sep 24, 2012 by Icie
	new comer, lol (Preview) I have been reading post on this website for a month or so. And want to thank everyone for the stories, because they do help. Hmmm, how do I start, it is not crazy to me how I have ended up in the situation I am in. I am the child of an alcoholic, abuse as a child, married an alcoholic, was proud of my self after...	uscgmomma1028	11	686	Sep 23, 2012 by pinkchip
	How to deal with his family embarassing (Preview) Hi all! I've been lurking and reading for awhile. It has greatly helped me after my AH and his episodes. He's been going to AA meetings and seems to be wanting to work on his sobriety. Like everything else, there are good days and then horrible days. The question I have is how to deal with this situati...	Jsjjkelly	12	576	Sep 23, 2012 by Icie
	Don't understand how they can be so selfish! (Preview) I have been in this relationship for 7 years. We were friends first so I know how he was with his past girlfriends but never thought he would end up treating me the same way. How wrong I was! Our biggest arguement is I just want to spend time together but any time he has free he goes to the bar lately. Even...	Amemadchen	6	587	Sep 23, 2012 by nmike
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