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John · John

*****************************Q. What does a codependent have in common with God? >A. They both have a plan for your life.************ -- Edited by John on Monday 4th of February 2013 08:07:53 PM

imom · imom

When I first started alanon, I was very skeptical of a higher power. I wanted to believe but I was sure I had to help control the situation. I have been praying and hoping and praying some more...even talking out loud to my HP to intervene before my A kills himself or someone else. Last night it happene...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son is on a binge again. I was watching a program called Drugged about a young 29 yo man that was addicted to Alcohol. He agreed to go into rehab but only lasted 17 days before his young life was taken. I couldn't stop crying. I can't help but think this is what's next for my son. I feel because I can't...

cinders · cinders

I keep telling myself that I am doing ok with everything, the move, divorce and being alone, but in part I think I am lying to myself. I don't know that I am as ok as I say that I am. I see my family and friends happy in their lives, things going well for them and they are moving forward doing new things for the...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just need a moment to reflect. I have been in & out of sanity a lot in my life but have managed to survive all of it thanks to my Higher Power. These days I have been hanging by a string w/ my mind. I feel so bad about not being strong-minded. I won't beat myself up though. I don't know when I am going to get b...

livestrong · livestrong

Hello this is my first time here and looking for comfort and to get the courage I need. Well, alcoholisim is no stranger to me. My dad was an alcoholic and as I read in some of the other forums here as kids we always knew how good or bad our night was going to be depending on my fathers mood. So I grew up living i...

starryeyed · starryeyed

I've been with my husband for a year and a half. We've been married for the past six months now. There have been so many red flags the whole time we've been together and I turned a blind eye and just went along with it, for reasons I don't quite understand. I was in recovery when we met and started dating, the...

newwoman · newwoman

This program is tricky because you never know for sure if you are accepting things you can't change or if you need to have courage and move on. The wisdom to know the difference will creep up on you and then sock you in the face. The statement above was posted in another post. However, it hit me right betw...

Pushka · Pushka

Well it has been a week to say the least. I have been flat on my back sick and that hasn't helped things. I felt like a mack truck hit me rolled backwards and hit me again. This is def a HALTS issues going on. Frustrated doesn't cover it. For the first time my STBAX has threatened me with physical harm. ...

newwoman · newwoman

In a moment of clarity, (HA ! HA! HA!....that is a LIE) I decided in lieu of the rehab "questionnaire" I would take it upon myself to again OVER ACHIEVE and overnighted a 143 page manifesto (my own Jerry McGuire if you will) recounting the last year with my love. That landed at the rehab facili...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

The Step 4 inventory is not just resentments, there are two other sections...Fear and Sex Conduct. Hopefully your sponsor knows this and if not you might look for one who uses AA's Big Book, I mean it's not about alcohol anyway, it's about being human... The directions are clear on how to write a sex c...

abbyalana · abbyalana

Telling me to get over it. I just came out of a 23 year abusive, chaotic and traumatic relationship and marriage - physical, mental, alcohol and drugs...I asked for the divorce a year ago, he moved out 6 months ago, divorce final 2 months ago, visitation yanked 1 month ago. Really? Just get over it? How...

bsketlady · bsketlady

This probably seems like a no brainer, but if my DH has the problem, WHY do I need ALANON? He tells me it will help me to understand...i just don't get it...he's got the problem he needs to fix it...i'm trying to be patient and kind understanding and loving (and it's NOT EASY)...and now i have a problem to...

newwoman · newwoman

I posted the statement below earlier HOWEVER, I FAILED TO MENTION, the end of the call (which is one for my "highlight" reel....) HE SAID HE NEEDED ME TO MAIL HIM HAIR GEL!!!!!!!!!! REALLY? You have got to be kidding me... HOW ABOUT MAILING ME MY HEART BACK that you broke!!!!!!!! Wow! WOW!...

newwoman · newwoman

Well...Well..Well.... My Jerry McGuire manifesto was received by my love (client #202) @ his current alcohol free living zone. Based on his 10 minute scheduled call this morning, I don't believe my 143 pages recounting the past year watching him channel "OTIS" from the Andy Griffith Sh...

gemmas · gemmas

Hi, i am new to this forum but not completely new to Al-anon. I have attended a few meetings when I was feeling at my lowest but then I convinced myself I didn't need it and stopped going. My boyfriend is two years sober. I love him so much but have really struggled with accepting him lately. About 6 months...

Amski · Amski

I am new to this site as of about 10 minutes ago. In fact, this is the first time I have ever reached out this way. I did attend live meetings a few years back but didn't feel very welcomed so didn't go back. Last night, I came home from work and found my husband passed out in the recliner. A cereal bowl was tipp...

newwoman · newwoman

I would like to thank those of you who have taken the time to respond to my postings. If it weren't for that I would have lost all faith in me, for this entire scenario with my love in rehab has been embarrassing, isolating, maddening, and very very scary. Your words give me hope to keep on going forward eac...

midas · midas

a long-ish share... you guys are the only folks I have to confide in... My AH called me at work- he seemed "weird"- we had an ok conversation but there were red flags... Lesson number one: ask direct questions- alcoholism is sneaky- in the past I'd say "tell me you're not drinking!&quo...

maragal · maragal

Hi I am in a year long relationship with a nearly 2 year sober AA member, but its been a roller coaster ride. He is job hunting for the third time in one year. He has gotten fired twice and my AA sponser is saying end the relationship. I have many yrs of recovery myself and feel I am burdened with a teenager. I h...

Tennin · Tennin

Hey All! Dusting my Al-Anon hat off and finding I'm just a bit rusty! Making a long story short, my husband has been in recovery seven years in - three years out - eight years in - one night out - more than a year in and as of January 2nd - "Almost" out. By the time I realized he was back to all his usi...

rehprof · rehprof

Last monday I called my exA to see if he could take my 16 yo to an important counseling appointment on the following monday (tomorrow). He is SO sick with pneumonia...he made sure to let me know he cannot walk, he cannot breathe...OH POOR HIM! I said, okay, the appointment isnt until next week though. W...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I cannot stress enough that we in 12-step recovery do not allow each other to be victims. If I sought out a marriage with an alcoholic or other sick person then I have to look at why. If I have family members who manipulate me I have to find out why. If I am constantly being manipulated and taken advantage o...

Mattie · Mattie

I'm always thinking, "How have I managed to end up in such a series of dysfunctional relationships?" Addictions and dysfunctions of every stripe. What happened along the way where I didn't look out for the red flags and protect myself? So a few weeks ago I met an interesting man. In fact...

1976love · 1976love

This morning I woke up and started to think how good everything is going, how I have so much to be thankful for, how even though my husband is an alcoholic it has never been that much a horrific battle that we couldn't pull out of it. He got the DWI's before we met, so that wasn't so bad. He never had to be in r...

Serenity16 · Serenity16

I dont really know where to begin.. In fact its still hard for me to admit some days that this is where my life has taken me. Four years ago i started dating a guy i went to high school with . At the time i was 25 and he was 28. There had always been something there when we were younger but it was always wrong tim...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I learned yesterday my a/a daughter's 28y.o. son with his own a/a issues is homeless because she asked him to leave her house. I've been feeling anxious and fearful he would call me for help. Sure enough he did this morning, I told him "no" when he asked what I was doing and if he couldn't co...

imom · imom

Any thoughts or experience with bankruptcy. I am sinking in debt. I have an appointment with bankruptcy lawyer next week but I want as much information as possible. do would love some personal experiences if people don't mind personal such personal experiences.

imom · imom

Harassment is the only way I can describe it. My AH had me as a captive audience in the car to day. I couldn't escape. He just kept telling me how his LPN who prescribes his mental health meds said she could write me a referral for a psychiatric evaluation. Then he said that she was not happy that I calle...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I always imagined and prayed to my HP that my AH would recover and we would live happily ever after. Somewhat of a fairytale I guess. My AH attends 3 meetings a week and has formed some excellent relationships that only recovering alcoholics can form. They understand, they grow, they work their step...

Aloha · Aloha

My grandmother passed away last week from a massive stroke. It was kind of sudden, but she was 87 - at an age where I just knew that eventually some time she'd go. While her death is unfortunate, what is more unfortunate right now is that my family is fighting. This is all hurt feelings extending out from w...

ofservice · ofservice

I am coming to terms with a marriage cycle of emotional manipulation, compulsive lying and codependency. In accepting what I cannot change, I have always stood my ground when it comes to honesty, and therefore trust. Dishonesty I will always find to be unacceptable behavior, though I have learne...

Katy · Katy

Our 21 year old son has managed to stay in employment, and tomorow moves into his own flat, today I saw him for the first time in two weeks to speak to, how quickly things can change for the better, this time last week his job hung in the balance and he had no permanent place to stay, I have felt so bad for turni...

newwoman · newwoman

I feel like now is not the time for me to even think about practicing detachment. Hindsight is 20/20 and had I known the detach rule during lets say the Christmas escapade with him passed out on the landing of the staircase AFTER he had made such as 'xxx' of both of us at a neighbors house. Yes! Detaching...

Cam0612 · Cam0612

Hello. I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband of ten years (he's 41) recently admitted he is an alcoholic. I've suspected if for about a year but he finally said he words - on his own that is. In two months he has been to a total of four AA meetings. In two months of so called "sobriety" I have caught h...

letlive27 · letlive27

My intelligent, loving, wonderful boyfriend of over a year is an opiate addict. When we first starting dating, I knew he was in recovery and had spend some time in rehab in college. At the time, recovery was something I really respected and admired about him. I thought that it was something he had dealt...

Ontario · Ontario

It seems that the best and worse has happened....my STBXA has become the calm rational loving person I remember from 15 yrs ago...but with someone else. Appears to be sober, but as we no longer see much of each other i do not know. He says he hardly drinks at all. I asked for the divorce. I knew I could no lon...

newwoman · newwoman

Out of irritation which fuels my less than banner behavior of late... I think I am going to shoe polish my car for the drive to the rehab visit with: HEY HONK FOR CLIENT #202. THE S.O.B. HAS BEHAVED FOR 30 DAYS IN A ROW! GO VARSITY!!!!! And of course, tie mylar balloons to every mirror.

cinders · cinders

I have tried so many many times to get into the meeting room here and never been able to. Is there something I am missing? I follow the link and get to the page but don't see the chat box load. Thoughts?

charli · charli

Hi I am new here, and thought i'd pop by to say hi. I was thinking about going to an al-anon group but they are too far away for me to go so I thought I'd see if there was some thing online. Does this forum act like discussions had in the group sessions? x -- Edited by charli on Thursday 31st of January 2013 08:32...

tortuga · tortuga

Dear MIP I was lately much focusing on me and my relationship with the A. I was scared to break up (and still am), also because I know that some kind of loneliness creeps up on me. But today I am ready to use this 'silence' and use it more in my favour. I started my recovery 9 years ago. at that time I was overwh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I have been feeling a little down but am seeming to get back up! Financial situations have brought me down because my AH has been worrying again... I just try to let it go & let God one day at a time. I also have been feeling a little stupid lately. I am just saying that I feel that way...I am not depressed...

lissa34 · lissa34

I was wondering if anyone could answer a question. I have heard a lot of talk about "bearing all" whether it be to a therapist or even on these boards. I have heard of instances where someone has said something that was then used to report them to child protective services or the police. In...

lissa34 · lissa34

I have been "looking in" on this site for about 2 years now. It has taken this long to understand that I can't do this alone. I still have not been to f2f meetings because I can barely make myself leave the house to take my kids to school and then pick them up. I have 3 wonderful children- girl 1...

Tigger · Tigger

Meeting scheduled in the al-anon chat room...TOPICS are: amends; laughter; take what you like and leave the rest

cRaZyJaDe · cRaZyJaDe

Last night my ABF got a call from a drinking buddy of his (he would say friend, but I know better) asking if he'd help him fix his car. - At 9pm. He asked if I minded if he went (not that it would matter either way) but I calmly told him that he was an adult, and that was his decision. Normally I would have...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

6 years of hell just ended. Just like that. 1 hour, one person who took the time to really look at everything and really listen and... its over. The CPS lady (child protective services) left at 8pm. Was here a little over an hour. Talked to my oldest and youngest, then me. I could tell she read everyt...

imom · imom

I would love to hear from others who have divorced their A. I am really struggling with my decision. I did not make the decision in haste. I had finally reached my breaking point and to be quite honest I mostly did it because I thought it would convince him to go into treatment. Now I am left with an extra ang...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Reading todays message in ODAAT let me reflect on myself and think about what I have done for so long not really knowing what I was doing only hurt me. I'm so grateful for what I have learned in Al-anon and to find my HP to help me see. I pray for the wisdom to realize that progress begins only when I am ready to...

SaRw · SaRw

I know I am supposed to work on my recovery and my AH is supposed to work on his but I can't fight the urge to jump in. After 28 days of rehab and 2 weeks of intensive out patient he has relapsed. He is in worse shape now then the day I dropped him off. He lays in bed all day, he hasn't eaten or showered in three d...

Jeslr · Jeslr

I was with a recovering alcoholic for 1 year. He is 37 and I am 21 we moved into an apartment together and within two days he was drinking. not a functioning alcoholic, lost his job, was mean to me ( calling me names) this lasted for two weeks him drinking everyday. I stayed with him that time. He sobered up g...

imom · imom

My AH is so furious about the divorce that he is employing bullying tactics. I try very hard not to engage in the conversations he starts, but I feel the need to defend myself. I was just reading last night in Getting Them Sober that you should not defend yourself because it makes you look as though you did...

Dsouth379 · Dsouth379

I've been with my husband for 10 years. We've been through it all, good times and extremely bad times. He's been to five rehabs since we got together. The last time was march last year, went away for three months out of state. So his one year mark would be coming up soon. We have two kids, son is 7 daughter is...

Missy123 · Missy123

Hi there peole I wish to join in and be a part of a group who knows what its like being me to some degree and would appreciate any support and willing to offer mine where needed. Look forward to hearing from anyone.

oldergal · oldergal

they CAN get through things without self-sabotaging? Do you know? Or have ideas? ...oldergal

hope4ever · hope4ever

Do you ever feel like you are holding yourself back? I grew up in such fear and was always afraid to try new things. It just wasn't safe to explore things I liked ect...Well, this has affected me my whole life. I seem to not be living my life to the fullest and I hold myself back. Not to sound egotistical...

leeno · leeno

I was active in Alanon for 13 years and then all of a sudden left the program. I need to get back to it and learn once again how to treat myself well. I need all the help I can get. Glad to be back on board.

oldergal · oldergal

I would like to respectfully ask "how are we Al-Anoner's doing" in your opinion. Do we seem like we are "getting it" when it comes to the recovery of our A-loved ones? Do we seem determined, whimpy, still to Co-Dependent,...maybe a little more of this or that .....would love to h...

tortuga · tortuga

it has been said that recovery is never progressing in a straight line up, it is more like 2steps forward, 3 steps backward and so on...slowly. Today I'm sad. I let myself go back yesterday, to my ex ABF. He wanted to contact me again, and I let him, yes, because I miss him, or the idea of him. That's why I cal...

1976love · 1976love

So the kids are in rare form today. I work with kdg kids all day, and they are acting better than mine right now. Finaly come home start the laundry, start dinner, break up a fight with my middle son and baby girl...all in the mean while anticipating my AH phone call to see how things are going and feeling...

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	Co-dependency Humor (Preview) ***************************Q. What does a codependent have in common with God? >A. They both have a plan for your life.********** -- Edited by John on Monday 4th of February 2013 08:07:53 PM	John	11	1484	Feb 5, 2013 by Annie1234
	Work of my HP (Preview) When I first started alanon, I was very skeptical of a higher power. I wanted to believe but I was sure I had to help control the situation. I have been praying and hoping and praying some more...even talking out loud to my HP to intervene before my A kills himself or someone else. Last night it happene...	imom	4	282	Feb 5, 2013 by Pushka
	Sad again (Preview) My son is on a binge again. I was watching a program called Drugged about a young 29 yo man that was addicted to Alcohol. He agreed to go into rehab but only lasted 17 days before his young life was taken. I couldn't stop crying. I can't help but think this is what's next for my son. I feel because I can't...	Cathyinaz	9	446	Feb 5, 2013 by Pushka
	On the outside looking in.... (Preview) I keep telling myself that I am doing ok with everything, the move, divorce and being alone, but in part I think I am lying to myself. I don't know that I am as ok as I say that I am. I see my family and friends happy in their lives, things going well for them and they are moving forward doing new things for the...	cinders	2	304	Feb 5, 2013 by Pushka
	just a moment to reflect (Preview) I just need a moment to reflect. I have been in & out of sanity a lot in my life but have managed to survive all of it thanks to my Higher Power. These days I have been hanging by a string w/ my mind. I feel so bad about not being strong-minded. I won't beat myself up though. I don't know when I am going to get b...	Hoot Nanny	0	226	Feb 4, 2013 by Hoot Nanny
	Looking help and advice on the alcoholic in my life (Preview) Hello this is my first time here and looking for comfort and to get the courage I need. Well, alcoholisim is no stranger to me. My dad was an alcoholic and as I read in some of the other forums here as kids we always knew how good or bad our night was going to be depending on my fathers mood. So I grew up living i...	livestrong	5	296	Feb 5, 2013 by Mattie
	Need help, sick and tired (Preview) I've been with my husband for a year and a half. We've been married for the past six months now. There have been so many red flags the whole time we've been together and I turned a blind eye and just went along with it, for reasons I don't quite understand. I was in recovery when we met and started dating, the...	starryeyed	4	459	Feb 5, 2013 by hotrod
	Courage (Preview) This program is tricky because you never know for sure if you are accepting things you can't change or if you need to have courage and move on. The wisdom to know the difference will creep up on you and then sock you in the face. The statement above was posted in another post. However, it hit me right betw...	newwoman	4	393	Feb 4, 2013 by maryjane
	What a week .. (Preview) Well it has been a week to say the least. I have been flat on my back sick and that hasn't helped things. I felt like a mack truck hit me rolled backwards and hit me again. This is def a HALTS issues going on. Frustrated doesn't cover it. For the first time my STBAX has threatened me with physical harm. ...	Pushka	6	447	Feb 4, 2013 by Jackie11
	Rehab Counselor Questionnaire (Preview) In a moment of clarity, (HA ! HA! HA!....that is a LIE) I decided in lieu of the rehab "questionnaire" I would take it upon myself to again OVER ACHIEVE and overnighted a 143 page manifesto (my own Jerry McGuire if you will) recounting the last year with my love. That landed at the rehab facili...	newwoman	3	401	Feb 4, 2013 by newwoman
	Sex Conduct (Preview) The Step 4 inventory is not just resentments, there are two other sections...Fear and Sex Conduct. Hopefully your sponsor knows this and if not you might look for one who uses AA's Big Book, I mean it's not about alcohol anyway, it's about being human... The directions are clear on how to write a sex c...	WorkingThroughIt	1	531	Feb 4, 2013 by Jerry F
	So sick of people (Preview) Telling me to get over it. I just came out of a 23 year abusive, chaotic and traumatic relationship and marriage - physical, mental, alcohol and drugs...I asked for the divorce a year ago, he moved out 6 months ago, divorce final 2 months ago, visitation yanked 1 month ago. Really? Just get over it? How...	abbyalana	7	374	Feb 4, 2013 by Annie1234
	WHY do I need AlAnon help? (Preview) This probably seems like a no brainer, but if my DH has the problem, WHY do I need ALANON? He tells me it will help me to understand...i just don't get it...he's got the problem he needs to fix it...i'm trying to be patient and kind understanding and loving (and it's NOT EASY)...and now i have a problem to...	bsketlady	21	1643	Feb 4, 2013 by f2fmember
	I left out the BEST part of the call from rehab this morning! Whoopsie (Preview) I posted the statement below earlier HOWEVER, I FAILED TO MENTION, the end of the call (which is one for my "highlight" reel....) HE SAID HE NEEDED ME TO MAIL HIM HAIR GEL!!!!!!!!!! REALLY? You have got to be kidding me... HOW ABOUT MAILING ME MY HEART BACK that you broke!!!!!!!! Wow! WOW!...	newwoman	2	343	Feb 4, 2013 by PP
	Well...Well..Well.... (Preview) Well...Well..Well.... My Jerry McGuire manifesto was received by my love (client #202) @ his current alcohol free living zone. Based on his 10 minute scheduled call this morning, I don't believe my 143 pages recounting the past year watching him channel "OTIS" from the Andy Griffith Sh...	newwoman	3	304	Feb 4, 2013 by Annie1234
	I have lost myself (Preview) Hi, i am new to this forum but not completely new to Al-anon. I have attended a few meetings when I was feeling at my lowest but then I convinced myself I didn't need it and stopped going. My boyfriend is two years sober. I love him so much but have really struggled with accepting him lately. About 6 months...	gemmas	4	372	Feb 4, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	New to you and know I'm going to have to do something eventually. (Preview) I am new to this site as of about 10 minutes ago. In fact, this is the first time I have ever reached out this way. I did attend live meetings a few years back but didn't feel very welcomed so didn't go back. Last night, I came home from work and found my husband passed out in the recliner. A cereal bowl was tipp...	Amski	6	430	Feb 4, 2013 by hdftby100
	Have a Little Faith (Preview) I would like to thank those of you who have taken the time to respond to my postings. If it weren't for that I would have lost all faith in me, for this entire scenario with my love in rehab has been embarrassing, isolating, maddening, and very very scary. Your words give me hope to keep on going forward eac...	newwoman	6	305	Feb 4, 2013 by newwoman
	Emergency room yesterday, back to work today... (Preview) a long-ish share... you guys are the only folks I have to confide in... My AH called me at work- he seemed "weird"- we had an ok conversation but there were red flags... Lesson number one: ask direct questions- alcoholism is sneaky- in the past I'd say "tell me you're not drinking!&quo...	midas	8	455	Feb 4, 2013 by midas
	when is it caretaking? (Preview) Hi I am in a year long relationship with a nearly 2 year sober AA member, but its been a roller coaster ride. He is job hunting for the third time in one year. He has gotten fired twice and my AA sponser is saying end the relationship. I have many yrs of recovery myself and feel I am burdened with a teenager. I h...	maragal	9	362	Feb 4, 2013 by midas
	Sharing about setting boundaries? (Preview) Hey All! Dusting my Al-Anon hat off and finding I'm just a bit rusty! Making a long story short, my husband has been in recovery seven years in - three years out - eight years in - one night out - more than a year in and as of January 2nd - "Almost" out. By the time I realized he was back to all his usi...	Tennin	11	549	Feb 4, 2013 by midas
	Poor me, poor me, pour me a drink... (Preview) Last monday I called my exA to see if he could take my 16 yo to an important counseling appointment on the following monday (tomorrow). He is SO sick with pneumonia...he made sure to let me know he cannot walk, he cannot breathe...OH POOR HIM! I said, okay, the appointment isnt until next week though. W...	rehprof	5	2450	Feb 4, 2013 by f2fmember
	Victim (Preview) I cannot stress enough that we in 12-step recovery do not allow each other to be victims. If I sought out a marriage with an alcoholic or other sick person then I have to look at why. If I have family members who manipulate me I have to find out why. If I am constantly being manipulated and taken advantage o...	WorkingThroughIt	5	448	Feb 3, 2013 by el-cee
	Watching how it starts (Preview) I'm always thinking, "How have I managed to end up in such a series of dysfunctional relationships?" Addictions and dysfunctions of every stripe. What happened along the way where I didn't look out for the red flags and protect myself? So a few weeks ago I met an interesting man. In fact...	Mattie	4	319	Feb 3, 2013 by maragal
	What happened to me? (Preview) This morning I woke up and started to think how good everything is going, how I have so much to be thankful for, how even though my husband is an alcoholic it has never been that much a horrific battle that we couldn't pull out of it. He got the DWI's before we met, so that wasn't so bad. He never had to be in r...	1976love	7	433	Feb 3, 2013 by John
	Looking for Advice. First time here. Lost g/f of an addict.. (Preview) I dont really know where to begin.. In fact its still hard for me to admit some days that this is where my life has taken me. Four years ago i started dating a guy i went to high school with . At the time i was 25 and he was 28. There had always been something there when we were younger but it was always wrong tim...	Serenity16	3	350	Feb 3, 2013 by abbyalana
	Fear and anxiety (Preview) I learned yesterday my a/a daughter's 28y.o. son with his own a/a issues is homeless because she asked him to leave her house. I've been feeling anxious and fearful he would call me for help. Sure enough he did this morning, I told him "no" when he asked what I was doing and if he couldn't co...	Highlyfavored	2	391	Feb 2, 2013 by Jerry F
	Bankruptcy (Preview) Any thoughts or experience with bankruptcy. I am sinking in debt. I have an appointment with bankruptcy lawyer next week but I want as much information as possible. do would love some personal experiences if people don't mind personal such personal experiences.	imom	5	403	Feb 2, 2013 by Fool4You
	Harrassment (Preview) Harassment is the only way I can describe it. My AH had me as a captive audience in the car to day. I couldn't escape. He just kept telling me how his LPN who prescribes his mental health meds said she could write me a referral for a psychiatric evaluation. Then he said that she was not happy that I calle...	imom	4	368	Feb 2, 2013 by el-cee
	Recovering Husband - Lonely Wife (Preview) I always imagined and prayed to my HP that my AH would recover and we would live happily ever after. Somewhat of a fairytale I guess. My AH attends 3 meetings a week and has formed some excellent relationships that only recovering alcoholics can form. They understand, they grow, they work their step...	wifeofalcoholic	7	2765	Feb 2, 2013 by el-cee
	Detach, detach, detach (Preview) My grandmother passed away last week from a massive stroke. It was kind of sudden, but she was 87 - at an age where I just knew that eventually some time she'd go. While her death is unfortunate, what is more unfortunate right now is that my family is fighting. This is all hurt feelings extending out from w...	Aloha	3	539	Feb 2, 2013 by el-cee
	Emotional manipulation (Preview) I am coming to terms with a marriage cycle of emotional manipulation, compulsive lying and codependency. In accepting what I cannot change, I have always stood my ground when it comes to honesty, and therefore trust. Dishonesty I will always find to be unacceptable behavior, though I have learne...	ofservice	1	643	Feb 2, 2013 by hotrod
	where there is life there is hope (Preview) Our 21 year old son has managed to stay in employment, and tomorow moves into his own flat, today I saw him for the first time in two weeks to speak to, how quickly things can change for the better, this time last week his job hung in the balance and he had no permanent place to stay, I have felt so bad for turni...	Katy	5	321	Feb 2, 2013 by el-cee
	Detach not a chance…engage full tilt…you betcha! (Preview) I feel like now is not the time for me to even think about practicing detachment. Hindsight is 20/20 and had I known the detach rule during lets say the Christmas escapade with him passed out on the landing of the staircase AFTER he had made such as 'xxx' of both of us at a neighbors house. Yes! Detaching...	newwoman	2	419	Feb 2, 2013 by hopeful4ever
	Desperately seeking sanity..... (Preview) Hello. I'm new to Al-Anon. My husband of ten years (he's 41) recently admitted he is an alcoholic. I've suspected if for about a year but he finally said he words - on his own that is. In two months he has been to a total of four AA meetings. In two months of so called "sobriety" I have caught h...	Cam0612	4	340	Feb 2, 2013 by Cam0612
	Live-in bf oxy addict (Preview) My intelligent, loving, wonderful boyfriend of over a year is an opiate addict. When we first starting dating, I knew he was in recovery and had spend some time in rehab in college. At the time, recovery was something I really respected and admired about him. I thought that it was something he had dealt...	letlive27	2	398	Feb 2, 2013 by Mattie
	He is a new man for someone else... (Preview) It seems that the best and worse has happened....my STBXA has become the calm rational loving person I remember from 15 yrs ago...but with someone else. Appears to be sober, but as we no longer see much of each other i do not know. He says he hardly drinks at all. I asked for the divorce. I knew I could no lon...	Ontario	9	425	Feb 2, 2013 by Ontario
	On a Roll with Visit to Rehab (Preview) Out of irritation which fuels my less than banner behavior of late... I think I am going to shoe polish my car for the drive to the rehab visit with: HEY HONK FOR CLIENT #202. THE S.O.B. HAS BEHAVED FOR 30 DAYS IN A ROW! GO VARSITY!!!!! And of course, tie mylar balloons to every mirror.	newwoman	0	247	Feb 2, 2013 by newwoman
	Meeting room (Preview) I have tried so many many times to get into the meeting room here and never been able to. Is there something I am missing? I follow the link and get to the page but don't see the chat box load. Thoughts?	cinders	9	289	Feb 2, 2013 by cinders
	Newbie (Preview) Hi I am new here, and thought i'd pop by to say hi. I was thinking about going to an al-anon group but they are too far away for me to go so I thought I'd see if there was some thing online. Does this forum act like discussions had in the group sessions? x -- Edited by charli on Thursday 31st of January 2013 08:32...	charli	3	309	Feb 2, 2013 by f2fmember
	recovery and our family of origin: taking care of the INNER CHILD (Preview) Dear MIP I was lately much focusing on me and my relationship with the A. I was scared to break up (and still am), also because I know that some kind of loneliness creeps up on me. But today I am ready to use this 'silence' and use it more in my favour. I started my recovery 9 years ago. at that time I was overwh...	tortuga	3	2379	Feb 2, 2013 by f2fmember
	feeling a litttle down; but getting back up! (Preview) I have been feeling a little down but am seeming to get back up! Financial situations have brought me down because my AH has been worrying again... I just try to let it go & let God one day at a time. I also have been feeling a little stupid lately. I am just saying that I feel that way...I am not depressed...	Hoot Nanny	1	398	Feb 2, 2013 by f2fmember
	Face to Face meetings and trust (Preview) I was wondering if anyone could answer a question. I have heard a lot of talk about "bearing all" whether it be to a therapist or even on these boards. I have heard of instances where someone has said something that was then used to report them to child protective services or the police. In...	lissa34	5	434	Feb 2, 2013 by hotrod
	Help!!! (Preview) I have been "looking in" on this site for about 2 years now. It has taken this long to understand that I can't do this alone. I still have not been to f2f meetings because I can barely make myself leave the house to take my kids to school and then pick them up. I have 3 wonderful children- girl 1...	lissa34	7	621	Feb 2, 2013 by hotrod
	FRIDAY MORNING MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS are: amends; laughter; take what you like and leave the rest (Preview) Meeting scheduled in the al-anon chat room...TOPICS are: amends; laughter; take what you like and leave the rest	Tigger	0	323	Feb 1, 2013 by Tigger
	I've figured it out - I think. (Preview) Last night my ABF got a call from a drinking buddy of his (he would say friend, but I know better) asking if he'd help him fix his car. - At 9pm. He asked if I minded if he went (not that it would matter either way) but I calmly told him that he was an adult, and that was his decision. Normally I would have...	cRaZyJaDe	7	462	Feb 1, 2013 by cRaZyJaDe
	Afraid to trust this but (Preview) 6 years of hell just ended. Just like that. 1 hour, one person who took the time to really look at everything and really listen and... its over. The CPS lady (child protective services) left at 8pm. Was here a little over an hour. Talked to my oldest and youngest, then me. I could tell she read everyt...	AStrongerMe	10	390	Feb 1, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Doubt (Preview) I would love to hear from others who have divorced their A. I am really struggling with my decision. I did not make the decision in haste. I had finally reached my breaking point and to be quite honest I mostly did it because I thought it would convince him to go into treatment. Now I am left with an extra ang...	imom	11	341	Feb 1, 2013 by Temple
	ODAAT (Preview) Reading todays message in ODAAT let me reflect on myself and think about what I have done for so long not really knowing what I was doing only hurt me. I'm so grateful for what I have learned in Al-anon and to find my HP to help me see. I pray for the wisdom to realize that progress begins only when I am ready to...	Cathyinaz	1	354	Feb 1, 2013 by hotrod
	Relapse after rehab (Preview) I know I am supposed to work on my recovery and my AH is supposed to work on his but I can't fight the urge to jump in. After 28 days of rehab and 2 weeks of intensive out patient he has relapsed. He is in worse shape now then the day I dropped him off. He lays in bed all day, he hasn't eaten or showered in three d...	SaRw	6	398	Feb 1, 2013 by midas
	Leaving an Alcoholic (Preview) I was with a recovering alcoholic for 1 year. He is 37 and I am 21 we moved into an apartment together and within two days he was drinking. not a functioning alcoholic, lost his job, was mean to me ( calling me names) this lasted for two weeks him drinking everyday. I stayed with him that time. He sobered up g...	Jeslr	3	458	Feb 1, 2013 by jenmc2013
	When will the bullying stop (Preview) My AH is so furious about the divorce that he is employing bullying tactics. I try very hard not to engage in the conversations he starts, but I feel the need to defend myself. I was just reading last night in Getting Them Sober that you should not defend yourself because it makes you look as though you did...	imom	4	1492	Feb 1, 2013 by Ebunny59
	New here- suspect alcoholic/addict husband stole sons medication. Need advice. (Preview) I've been with my husband for 10 years. We've been through it all, good times and extremely bad times. He's been to five rehabs since we got together. The last time was march last year, went away for three months out of state. So his one year mark would be coming up soon. We have two kids, son is 7 daughter is...	Dsouth379	6	375	Feb 1, 2013 by jenmc2013
	New comer needing support (Preview) Hi there peole I wish to join in and be a part of a group who knows what its like being me to some degree and would appreciate any support and willing to offer mine where needed. Look forward to hearing from anyone.	Missy123	10	304	Feb 1, 2013 by Missy123
	WHY IS IT THAT ALCOHOLICS DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT... (Preview) they CAN get through things without self-sabotaging? Do you know? Or have ideas? ...oldergal	oldergal	7	470	Feb 1, 2013 by hotrod
	I hold myself back from more good in my life! (Preview) Do you ever feel like you are holding yourself back? I grew up in such fear and was always afraid to try new things. It just wasn't safe to explore things I liked ect...Well, this has affected me my whole life. I seem to not be living my life to the fullest and I hold myself back. Not to sound egotistical...	hope4ever	2	485	Jan 31, 2013 by f2fmember
	Need to surrender (Preview) I was active in Alanon for 13 years and then all of a sudden left the program. I need to get back to it and learn once again how to treat myself well. I need all the help I can get. Glad to be back on board.	leeno	1	246	Feb 1, 2013 by f2fmember
	TO RECOVERING AA'S (Preview) I would like to respectfully ask "how are we Al-Anoner's doing" in your opinion. Do we seem like we are "getting it" when it comes to the recovery of our A-loved ones? Do we seem determined, whimpy, still to Co-Dependent,...maybe a little more of this or that .....would love to h...	oldergal	5	531	Feb 1, 2013 by f2fmember
	letting go my drug of choice! (Preview) it has been said that recovery is never progressing in a straight line up, it is more like 2steps forward, 3 steps backward and so on...slowly. Today I'm sad. I let myself go back yesterday, to my ex ABF. He wanted to contact me again, and I let him, yes, because I miss him, or the idea of him. That's why I cal...	tortuga	6	591	Feb 1, 2013 by el-cee
	just a quick vent (Preview) So the kids are in rare form today. I work with kdg kids all day, and they are acting better than mine right now. Finaly come home start the laundry, start dinner, break up a fight with my middle son and baby girl...all in the mean while anticipating my AH phone call to see how things are going and feeling...	1976love	2	292	Feb 1, 2013 by hotrod
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