Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

leeno · leeno

I was active in Alanon for 13 years and then all of a sudden left the program. I need to get back to it and learn once again how to treat myself well. I need all the help I can get. Glad to be back on board.

oldergal · oldergal

I would like to respectfully ask "how are we Al-Anoner's doing" in your opinion. Do we seem like we are "getting it" when it comes to the recovery of our A-loved ones? Do we seem determined, whimpy, still to Co-Dependent,...maybe a little more of this or that .....would love to h...

tortuga · tortuga

it has been said that recovery is never progressing in a straight line up, it is more like 2steps forward, 3 steps backward and so on...slowly. Today I'm sad. I let myself go back yesterday, to my ex ABF. He wanted to contact me again, and I let him, yes, because I miss him, or the idea of him. That's why I cal...

1976love · 1976love

So the kids are in rare form today. I work with kdg kids all day, and they are acting better than mine right now. Finaly come home start the laundry, start dinner, break up a fight with my middle son and baby girl...all in the mean while anticipating my AH phone call to see how things are going and feeling...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Opened up a fortune cookie for lunch: Quote: Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you...... I don't know but it makes sense to me in the fact I was always looking for trouble you might say. Things like: Finding out if my son was OK Tracking him down Calling messaging emails.......endless ema...

Minaret · Minaret

I don't know if this will ever end...the surprises, the blows mentally to my peace of mind...my AH had a friend recommended him for a really good job with good pay. He works in summer but is usually on unemployment in winter and drinks more heavily. The co-worker from the other job that recommended him d...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

A son started on another binge 3 days ago - heard the (my) truck leave the driveway around 11:30 last nite after I had gone to bed - just enough time to make it to the liquor store before it closes, probably. Got up around 6am this morning and he hadn't come back yet - figured he was at a friends or in jail...t...

oldergal · oldergal

When now you are aware that you have been asleep, caught-up, un-aware, drinking, stuffing, now in recovery from drinking, enabling.... Now how do you find out who you really really are....methods, readings, ESH....Id like to here it all. Thank You....Oldergal

Ojwoman · Ojwoman

My daughter in law will be getting out of treatment this Friday. Through my son I have learned that she views me as a threat and as over-involved with her 5 month old daughter. My husband and I have been taking care of our granddaughter quite a bit as our son has sorted out his new reality. My question is How...

dponlyme · dponlyme

I've been living with my wife's alcoholism for so long that I must have registered at some point in the past and forgot. I found it again thanks to an email that was sent to me by the administraters. maybe they should send out these more frequently. anyway I have been through hell and back over the course o...

sis333 · sis333

I have been recently looking over chat rooms and postings looking for people in a similar position as me? My brother has been an addict for 25 years now. In and out of jail....getting jobs.....doing well for several years....then spriralling into the same old life. I have taken a stand over the yea...

Jayda · Jayda

What my family has been dealing with is my 31 year old brother who has been a drug addict for about 11-12 years. He started of smoking pot, which led to cocaine, and now he's a full blown crack addict and we suspect possibly meth too. The last 6 months have been the worst by far. He has lost everything. His...

davidssibling · davidssibling

I have so much to get of my chest, so I will write it here, maybe this will help. David, if I could only see you one more time, what would I do. Hug you, hold you cry. Yell scream, slap, beat your chest. Would I recognize you, would you me. Would you walk forward, or turn your head. I would tell you all you have m...

Afraidparent · Afraidparent

I am ready to hand over my situation with AD to my HP. I am ready to have no contact. How do I go about this? I am unsure. Do I block emails, her phone number, and her ability to Instant Message me? Everything else is already hers. Her own life, her own home, car, legal issues, bills, etc. She has it all....

sarjint · sarjint

My ex-wife (she divorced me 5 months ago but we are dating/reconciling) has been in and out of recovery for years. A little over a month ago she hit her rock bottom (again?) and is back in AA but also seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. The difference is that she is actually working the steps this time...

willowtree · willowtree

I have been in the program a while and I am really enjoying it and growing a lot. I have noticed that some long timers seem a little cold-ish. I am one to believe that we should not totally shut off out emotions/feelings and let ourselved feel...I have come across people (including my sponor) who I feel...

el-cee · el-cee

feeling sorry for myself again tonight. teenage son has breached his probation and it looks likely he will go to jail. im angry because he was at the final part and now he has messed it up. his name will be in the local papers again and im really ashamed and embarrassed. im a teacher and i feel like such a hyp...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm obsessing this morning and I can't seem to stop it. Is he OK Is he drinking Does he have a job Should I call because I feel like a bad mom and I think I should to be nice....No I don't want to because I.m fearful JEEZ God please help me this morning I pray. Please renew my strength to overcome this.

Annie1234 · Annie1234

Thanks to my HP, and some good friends, I made it through the weekend. My AH went to DUI hotel for four days. I was concerned because it was a very busy weekend that we were supposed to work a project together. I feel empowered and hopeful. He came out of the weekend very humbled. He was astonished at t...

Number30 · Number30

I wasn't going to post today, but I felt led to share my new mantra. It's been a long 2 weeks. My grandmother passed away Friday night and my chaotic house became a vortex. Last night was hell as my AH went through withdrawal and kept waking me up to "help" with the paranoia and hallucination...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

My son came by my work today to see if I could print out something for him. He's selling his car. :( He looked really good except for the anxiety and worry he has. Can't seem to find a job. SOBER....and for a time too because he wasn't even shaking. I in turn had a tough time not wanting to help him. WOW...

oldergal · oldergal

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today, I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Long story short: AH is making an attempt at normalcy around here. His mother just passed away and he put on the show for his family but I think he was quite grateful that I flew across the country to be there with him. He has been reaching out and I've been feeling quite confused. Just a few weeks ago he w...

newwoman · newwoman

Thank you EVERYONE yet again for saving my a@!.... In response to PinkChip and the "session question"... that is next month and costs 600.00. (a shotgun shell is a lot cheaper! I AM KIDDING) But really, how about you yucko's pay me 600.00 for the trip and my time. How about that? I like that id...

bsketlady · bsketlady

hi all - i've been on the AA page and it was very helpful and they referred me to over here :) what great posts to read here, and they are so helpful! i am really struggling with trusting my husband again...i see things aren't right i can verify he has lied beyond a shadow of a doubt about stupid stuff like no...

1976love · 1976love

I have to share this with everyone! Need a little background first. I married for the first time very young (19) and had two beautiful boys from that marriage. They are currently 14 and 11. I met my current AH married him and he adopted my boys and than we had a baby girl and life went on. Well, as you al...

BethMc · BethMc

Hi all. Sorry, this is going to be kinda long. I feel like I don't have many I can talk to about this who would understand. My sister is the alcoholic in this case. She lives just caddy-corner from me, a block away. Her son is 6, my son is 7, so go to school together, I see them every day, etc. Sometimes latel...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I want them to move out. I want them to stop drinking. I want my space back. I'm so angry. I just recently found out that I can't say anything to her without flipping out. She asked me if I were in her shoes would I get a job. I said yes. Normally I just nod and give her the answer she wants. That's what I should ha...

healing_rain2001 · healing_rain2001

Hi everyone, I am new to this board. But I am not new to the ravages of addiction. I am going through a particularly hard time right now so I guess I need to get some things off my chest and get some feedback. My mother has struggled with addictive issues for close to 30 years. She has never admitte...

newwoman · newwoman

29 January 2013 Dear Ms. XXXXX ,Regarding the request for family to complete the client questionnaire, first of all client #202 and myself arent family, we "xxxx". Second, whatever insight I have to offer in the overall scheme of his treatment isnt worth a pinch of monkey "xxxx&qu...

Picksims · Picksims

My husband and I have been together off and on for the last ten years. I was 14 when we met, he was 18. I have a four year old daughter and I am currently almost six months pregnant with our second little girl. During the beginning stages of our relationship, he was a drinker from the start, but me being so you...

imom · imom

My kids convinced my AH to seek treatment. He is telling all of us that he will do it but only for the kids because mommy won't like me anyway. Why am I letting this bother me? I told him I loved him and that maybe if he can't get help we could call off the divorce. He just keeps saying forget it because you won't...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I was flipping through the TV in an effort to pass the time. I came across a show that profiled aboriginal canadians and some of their struggles. They profiled a comedian by the name of Howie Miller. I had heard of him be...

resilientsparks · resilientsparks

Hi I am the wife of an alcoholic who is not drinking yet very abusive. Its one of those days, got yelled at at the end of a long tiring day at work. Angry hurting and manipulating husband. Somehow I ahve loved him. Somehow I still do. Yet this is one of thsoe days. Trying to meet my demands at work. Keep my hea...

Pushka · Pushka

First off the whole family is sick, I have the flu and the kids have bacterial ear infections. My son is the worst out of the two of them. He is also running a fever. They are on antibotics. I'm sucking it up. I was informed over this past weekend that SBTAX went to church and he's compelled to tell me he...

atheos · atheos

I have a cat who sometimes decides to pee in places other than the litterbox. I have put up with it for over a year, and done all sorts of things vets and cat people recommended, but nothing stopped it (so please don't turn this into a thread of cat behavior tips... the situation is past that point). I am abs...

newwoman · newwoman

Today i feel better while my love is away in rehab and have had such loving support from this board. (thank you) Because I feel better I find myself glossing over the reality of what happened leading him into rehab and the emotional mess I found myself left to address alone. Now, he and his counselor have...

cinders · cinders

I stood up for myself yesterday and am so at peace because of the growth I have found while working the Alanon steps. My AH called and said that he wanted to continue to have a relationship but put many conditions on it. First, we will get divorced. Secondly, we will never live together again. Thir...

wyndwhsthlr · wyndwhsthlr

I never thought my life would end up here. My big plans for the year included 6 half-marathons, starting a business and possibly getting engaged. I knew my BF had a problem with alcohol. He had said he had stopped drinking. A trip to the ER a week ago crashed my world entirely. He's admitting now that he h...

RobinKSC · RobinKSC

I won't be able to chair the Wednesday morning meeting. -- Edited by RobinKSC on Tuesday 29th of January 2013 11:35:46 AM

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Does anyone kniw if there are any electronic versions of c2c and or other great al anon family support books&if so from where can I download...id like an android version og c2c or similar...any suggestions...thanks

stephaniej · stephaniej

Thank you thank you thank you! Thank you for all your support, and prayers, and kind words. I received a call today, and I have been offered a job with the county; a job that I know I will be great at. A job that I need, and that I am terribly excited about.

NewMember · NewMember

I am so angry with my husband. I came to terms with the fact that he's a functioning alcoholic a few months ago. I've always struggled to really pin down whether or not he was an alcoholic before I found that definition online. Then it all became so clear! But this week was a whole new low. He has this pa...

rehprof · rehprof

I honestly am sitting here in tears. I truly feel like the universe is trying to break me. I can't sell my house because I owe more on it than it's worth, and there are so many things wrong with it...because I trusted my exA to hire competent people to do "upgrades" -- what a joke. I have $100 to m...

pinkchip · pinkchip

Do I have the definitive answer to this. No. Do I have ESH and thoughts...always and I often share them (maybe too much lol). I don't think this ESH is so special or so unique but I do think it's probably generic in terms of what is to be gained through alanon and other 12 step programs too. I responded t...

scaredandconfused · scaredandconfused

I shouldn't be suprised anymore by anything my husband says. We are separated and I've been doing a good job the past several days of avoiding communication and focusing on myself. Now he has sucked me back into his sick world and he has me angry and crying over his cruel comments. After he continued to r...

Email sent to all members... · John

Hello Everyone! You are receiving this email as a registered member on the MIP Al-Anon Message Board at http://alanon.activeboard.com. I try to truly minimize the number of emails I send out to the members each year. Usually it does not exceed 3 per year, so please take a few moments of your time to r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I fell today on ice & snow. But I am a trooper; I got up & trudged on. I don't think I am hurt that bad but I think that I have prayers going out for me just in case. I am so glad that I didn't feel like crying. I laughed it off w/ my husband on the phone. Another day in the small town. I have to admit that I lov...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I still sometimes think it is all about me but after 27 years in the program, it is getting to be more about YOU! I have been able to get out of my world into helping others more. What a concept? I am so grateful for the years I have been on here. I have shared all kinds of emotions & experiences that I proba...

Katy · Katy

It's been of some comfort to know my sister inlaw has allowed him to use her sofa to sleep on this last two weeks, but things have been getting worse she can't afford to keep him for free and had asked him for some board money, he has complained he doesn't get fed well and she treats her cats better, I have sta...

tortuga · tortuga

I need your help or advise. it has now become clear to me that I have been massively emotionally abused. one thing now is to forgive myself for not having removed myself from this situation earlier. But i still think i did best with what i knew at the time. the other thing is to not obsess anymore about the p...

tnmom · tnmom

How to you deal with an AH who comes in so intoxicated that he starts frying something , passes out and doesn't even hear the fire alarm? Passes out with food in his mouth. Lets the dogs outside and passes out and forgets them in the freesing cold. If I didn't have to work I could stay up, but I do have to work...

PP · PP

I am angry tonight and don't want to admit it to anyone, which is why I am admitting it here. It is a clue that I want to hide out. When I want to hide, it is best to get myself to an al anon meeting asap. I am angry at 3 of my 4 adult children...all have addictions to substances. Two owe us money and 1 exposes...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Well. The may be the last straw. My ah of 15yrs came home having had a few....early though I was just getting 8yo to bed. It was clear he was agitated and I tried to stay low ....nothing worked. First he went off on ploitics...rage. Then it turned on me...i didnt react right so..."youre s***, and fu....

Fool4You · Fool4You

My A is soon to be 53 years old, a smoker and recovered heroin addict from before I knew him. He's been drinking since he was a child (abstinence for years because of a prison stint) and the past three years I just found out he's been smoking crack. I thought he stopped the crack 2 years ago, but he didn't....

imom · imom

So lately I found myself really not paying much attention to my AH. I cannot figure out if its my way of detaching or if I just cannot stand him anymore. I really try not to be rude because I don't want to be that way, but sometimes I just cannot help but be disgusted by him.

likemyheart · likemyheart

We were watching Lord of the Rings, Part Two, Extended Version (highly recommended to those who like LOTR) and I saw the scene that birthed my MIP Nickname. Arwen is giving Aragorn this silver jewelry thing, he tries to get her to take it back, not give it, and she tells him it is hers to give, like my heart...

newwoman · newwoman

The request has been made by my love (who is in rehab) and the counselor to come for an hour visit in two weeks. HELP!!!! My feelings about this are running amuck. Yes, I want to see him. But I am JUST now starting to get myself pulled somewhat together after the mess I found myself in when he left for rehab....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi EveryoneIn the 3 short months I have been on MIP with all the support and encouragement I have received, I have come a long way. I have learned to detach more and more every day. What I might or might not have done in my past cant be changed, but Im learning to except it, forgive, and move on to have a bet...

abbyalana · abbyalana

Well, I've been in therapy for almost 3 years now. I know I'm co-dependent and working on that. I'm working on myself and self-esteem as a result of the abuse, chaos and trauma too. I am divorced and have been dating - here and there. So, I finally catch a break and meet a nice guy. I mean nice guy. Par...

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	Need to surrender (Preview) I was active in Alanon for 13 years and then all of a sudden left the program. I need to get back to it and learn once again how to treat myself well. I need all the help I can get. Glad to be back on board.	leeno	1	160	Feb 1, 2013 by f2fmember
	TO RECOVERING AA'S (Preview) I would like to respectfully ask "how are we Al-Anoner's doing" in your opinion. Do we seem like we are "getting it" when it comes to the recovery of our A-loved ones? Do we seem determined, whimpy, still to Co-Dependent,...maybe a little more of this or that .....would love to h...	oldergal	5	430	Feb 1, 2013 by f2fmember
	letting go my drug of choice! (Preview) it has been said that recovery is never progressing in a straight line up, it is more like 2steps forward, 3 steps backward and so on...slowly. Today I'm sad. I let myself go back yesterday, to my ex ABF. He wanted to contact me again, and I let him, yes, because I miss him, or the idea of him. That's why I cal...	tortuga	6	500	Feb 1, 2013 by el-cee
	just a quick vent (Preview) So the kids are in rare form today. I work with kdg kids all day, and they are acting better than mine right now. Finaly come home start the laundry, start dinner, break up a fight with my middle son and baby girl...all in the mean while anticipating my AH phone call to see how things are going and feeling...	1976love	2	206	Feb 1, 2013 by hotrod
	Fortune Cookie (Preview) Opened up a fortune cookie for lunch: Quote: Never trouble trouble till trouble troubles you...... I don't know but it makes sense to me in the fact I was always looking for trouble you might say. Things like: Finding out if my son was OK Tracking him down Calling messaging emails.......endless ema...	Cathyinaz	4	284	Jan 31, 2013 by AStrongerMe
	Jobs for your A? (Preview) I don't know if this will ever end...the surprises, the blows mentally to my peace of mind...my AH had a friend recommended him for a really good job with good pay. He works in summer but is usually on unemployment in winter and drinks more heavily. The co-worker from the other job that recommended him d...	Minaret	2	243	Jan 31, 2013 by AStrongerMe
	The insanity never stops!! (Preview) A son started on another binge 3 days ago - heard the (my) truck leave the driveway around 11:30 last nite after I had gone to bed - just enough time to make it to the liquor store before it closes, probably. Got up around 6am this morning and he hadn't come back yet - figured he was at a friends or in jail...t...	Path to Serenity	7	395	Jan 31, 2013 by abbyalana
	HOW DO YOU BECOME YOURSELF AGAIN... (Preview) When now you are aware that you have been asleep, caught-up, un-aware, drinking, stuffing, now in recovery from drinking, enabling.... Now how do you find out who you really really are....methods, readings, ESH....Id like to here it all. Thank You....Oldergal	oldergal	3	783	Jan 31, 2013 by abbyalana
	New to this (Preview) My daughter in law will be getting out of treatment this Friday. Through my son I have learned that she views me as a threat and as over-involved with her 5 month old daughter. My husband and I have been taking care of our granddaughter quite a bit as our son has sorted out his new reality. My question is How...	Ojwoman	3	268	Jan 31, 2013 by Ojwoman
	forgot i registered here (Preview) I've been living with my wife's alcoholism for so long that I must have registered at some point in the past and forgot. I found it again thanks to an email that was sent to me by the administraters. maybe they should send out these more frequently. anyway I have been through hell and back over the course o...	dponlyme	3	185	Jan 31, 2013 by dponlyme
	sisterly love (Preview) I have been recently looking over chat rooms and postings looking for people in a similar position as me? My brother has been an addict for 25 years now. In and out of jail....getting jobs.....doing well for several years....then spriralling into the same old life. I have taken a stand over the yea...	sis333	4	201	Jan 31, 2013 by Jill
	Crack addict brother (Preview) What my family has been dealing with is my 31 year old brother who has been a drug addict for about 11-12 years. He started of smoking pot, which led to cocaine, and now he's a full blown crack addict and we suspect possibly meth too. The last 6 months have been the worst by far. He has lost everything. His...	Jayda	9	508	Jan 31, 2013 by sis333
	To my brother (Preview) I have so much to get of my chest, so I will write it here, maybe this will help. David, if I could only see you one more time, what would I do. Hug you, hold you cry. Yell scream, slap, beat your chest. Would I recognize you, would you me. Would you walk forward, or turn your head. I would tell you all you have m...	davidssibling	7	531	Jan 31, 2013 by sis333
	Do I block her calls? Emails? IM's? (Preview) I am ready to hand over my situation with AD to my HP. I am ready to have no contact. How do I go about this? I am unsure. Do I block emails, her phone number, and her ability to Instant Message me? Everything else is already hers. Her own life, her own home, car, legal issues, bills, etc. She has it all....	Afraidparent	4	250	Jan 31, 2013 by f2fmember
	Feeling guilty because I miss some of her alcoholic behaviors (Preview) My ex-wife (she divorced me 5 months ago but we are dating/reconciling) has been in and out of recovery for years. A little over a month ago she hit her rock bottom (again?) and is back in AA but also seeing a therapist and a psychiatrist. The difference is that she is actually working the steps this time...	sarjint	9	364	Jan 31, 2013 by sarjint
	An observation about alanon (Preview) I have been in the program a while and I am really enjoying it and growing a lot. I have noticed that some long timers seem a little cold-ish. I am one to believe that we should not totally shut off out emotions/feelings and let ourselved feel...I have come across people (including my sponor) who I feel...	willowtree	9	371	Jan 31, 2013 by willowtree
	poor me (Preview) feeling sorry for myself again tonight. teenage son has breached his probation and it looks likely he will go to jail. im angry because he was at the final part and now he has messed it up. his name will be in the local papers again and im really ashamed and embarrassed. im a teacher and i feel like such a hyp...	el-cee	4	224	Jan 31, 2013 by maryjane
	Obsessing (Preview) I'm obsessing this morning and I can't seem to stop it. Is he OK Is he drinking Does he have a job Should I call because I feel like a bad mom and I think I should to be nice....No I don't want to because I.m fearful JEEZ God please help me this morning I pray. Please renew my strength to overcome this.	Cathyinaz	4	236	Jan 31, 2013 by el-cee
	Got through the weekend (Preview) Thanks to my HP, and some good friends, I made it through the weekend. My AH went to DUI hotel for four days. I was concerned because it was a very busy weekend that we were supposed to work a project together. I feel empowered and hopeful. He came out of the weekend very humbled. He was astonished at t...	Annie1234	3	308	Jan 31, 2013 by el-cee
	My new mantra (Preview) I wasn't going to post today, but I felt led to share my new mantra. It's been a long 2 weeks. My grandmother passed away Friday night and my chaotic house became a vortex. Last night was hell as my AH went through withdrawal and kept waking me up to "help" with the paranoia and hallucination...	Number30	5	207	Jan 31, 2013 by el-cee
	I had a visit this morning (Preview) My son came by my work today to see if I could print out something for him. He's selling his car. :( He looked really good except for the anxiety and worry he has. Can't seem to find a job. SOBER....and for a time too because he wasn't even shaking. I in turn had a tough time not wanting to help him. WOW...	Cathyinaz	4	335	Jan 31, 2013 by Auntyaya
	"JUST FOR TODAY" (Preview) Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today, I will be happy. This assumes to be true what Abraham Lincoln s...	oldergal	3	278	Jan 31, 2013 by el-cee
	AH is trying to reconnect with me (Preview) Long story short: AH is making an attempt at normalcy around here. His mother just passed away and he put on the show for his family but I think he was quite grateful that I flew across the country to be there with him. He has been reaching out and I've been feeling quite confused. Just a few weeks ago he w...	ilovedogs	3	370	Jan 31, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Follow Up to REALITY CHECK NEEDED Posting Regarding Visit to A in Rehab (Preview) Thank you EVERYONE yet again for saving my a@!.... In response to PinkChip and the "session question"... that is next month and costs 600.00. (a shotgun shell is a lot cheaper! I AM KIDDING) But really, how about you yucko's pay me 600.00 for the trip and my time. How about that? I like that id...	newwoman	4	246	Jan 31, 2013 by Afraidparent
	just dpn't get it! (Preview) hi all - i've been on the AA page and it was very helpful and they referred me to over here :) what great posts to read here, and they are so helpful! i am really struggling with trusting my husband again...i see things aren't right i can verify he has lied beyond a shadow of a doubt about stupid stuff like no...	bsketlady	5	439	Jan 30, 2013 by Afraidparent
	The rewards are off the charts (Preview) I have to share this with everyone! Need a little background first. I married for the first time very young (19) and had two beautiful boys from that marriage. They are currently 14 and 11. I met my current AH married him and he adopted my boys and than we had a baby girl and life went on. Well, as you al...	1976love	3	241	Jan 30, 2013 by Annie1234
	Worried about my nephew (Preview) Hi all. Sorry, this is going to be kinda long. I feel like I don't have many I can talk to about this who would understand. My sister is the alcoholic in this case. She lives just caddy-corner from me, a block away. Her son is 6, my son is 7, so go to school together, I see them every day, etc. Sometimes latel...	BethMc	5	313	Jan 30, 2013 by BethMc
	Not taking care of me.... (Preview) I want them to move out. I want them to stop drinking. I want my space back. I'm so angry. I just recently found out that I can't say anything to her without flipping out. She asked me if I were in her shoes would I get a job. I said yes. Normally I just nod and give her the answer she wants. That's what I should ha...	StargazerLily	2	182	Jan 30, 2013 by abbyalana
	So confused if I am doing the right thing... (Preview) Hi everyone, I am new to this board. But I am not new to the ravages of addiction. I am going through a particularly hard time right now so I guess I need to get some things off my chest and get some feedback. My mother has struggled with addictive issues for close to 30 years. She has never admitte...	healing_rain2001	1	240	Jan 30, 2013 by pinkchip
	Copy of Letter Composed to A's Rehab Facility.... (Preview) 29 January 2013 Dear Ms. XXXXX ,Regarding the request for family to complete the client questionnaire, first of all client #202 and myself arent family, we "xxxx". Second, whatever insight I have to offer in the overall scheme of his treatment isnt worth a pinch of monkey "xxxx&qu...	newwoman	2	310	Jan 30, 2013 by Temple
	Worried about my husband... advice? alocholic odouls relapse advice (Preview) My husband and I have been together off and on for the last ten years. I was 14 when we met, he was 18. I have a four year old daughter and I am currently almost six months pregnant with our second little girl. During the beginning stages of our relationship, he was a drinker from the start, but me being so you...	Picksims	8	6576	Jan 30, 2013 by Mattie
	Getting treatment? (Preview) My kids convinced my AH to seek treatment. He is telling all of us that he will do it but only for the kids because mommy won't like me anyway. Why am I letting this bother me? I told him I loved him and that maybe if he can't get help we could call off the divorce. He just keeps saying forget it because you won't...	imom	1	238	Jan 30, 2013 by Too hard
	Getting over it (share) (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. This weekend I was flipping through the TV in an effort to pass the time. I came across a show that profiled aboriginal canadians and some of their struggles. They profiled a comedian by the name of Howie Miller. I had heard of him be...	slogan_jim	3	271	Jan 30, 2013 by Jerry F
	New here (Preview) Hi I am the wife of an alcoholic who is not drinking yet very abusive. Its one of those days, got yelled at at the end of a long tiring day at work. Angry hurting and manipulating husband. Somehow I ahve loved him. Somehow I still do. Yet this is one of thsoe days. Trying to meet my demands at work. Keep my hea...	resilientsparks	2	199	Jan 30, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Frustrated .. Vent (Preview) First off the whole family is sick, I have the flu and the kids have bacterial ear infections. My son is the worst out of the two of them. He is also running a fever. They are on antibotics. I'm sucking it up. I was informed over this past weekend that SBTAX went to church and he's compelled to tell me he...	Pushka	1	207	Jan 30, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Selfishness and pets (Preview) I have a cat who sometimes decides to pee in places other than the litterbox. I have put up with it for over a year, and done all sorts of things vets and cat people recommended, but nothing stopped it (so please don't turn this into a thread of cat behavior tips... the situation is past that point). I am abs...	atheos	4	437	Jan 30, 2013 by atheos
	Reality Check Needed (Preview) Today i feel better while my love is away in rehab and have had such loving support from this board. (thank you) Because I feel better I find myself glossing over the reality of what happened leading him into rehab and the emotional mess I found myself left to address alone. Now, he and his counselor have...	newwoman	7	420	Jan 30, 2013 by newwoman
	A new start (Preview) I stood up for myself yesterday and am so at peace because of the growth I have found while working the Alanon steps. My AH called and said that he wanted to continue to have a relationship but put many conditions on it. First, we will get divorced. Secondly, we will never live together again. Thir...	cinders	7	311	Jan 29, 2013 by Afraidparent
	New and Overwhelmed (Preview) I never thought my life would end up here. My big plans for the year included 6 half-marathons, starting a business and possibly getting engaged. I knew my BF had a problem with alcohol. He had said he had stopped drinking. A trip to the ER a week ago crashed my world entirely. He's admitting now that he h...	wyndwhsthlr	4	378	Jan 29, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Wednesday morning meeting - tomorrow (Preview) I won't be able to chair the Wednesday morning meeting. -- Edited by RobinKSC on Tuesday 29th of January 2013 11:35:46 AM	RobinKSC	0	86	Jan 29, 2013 by RobinKSC
	??Books and daily rdgs Resource ?? (Preview) Does anyone kniw if there are any electronic versions of c2c and or other great al anon family support books&if so from where can I download...id like an android version og c2c or similar...any suggestions...thanks	Theoceancalls	4	285	Jan 29, 2013 by Overcome
	I got the job! (Preview) Thank you thank you thank you! Thank you for all your support, and prayers, and kind words. I received a call today, and I have been offered a job with the county; a job that I know I will be great at. A job that I need, and that I am terribly excited about.	stephaniej	16	264	Jan 29, 2013 by pinkchip
	So Angry (Preview) I am so angry with my husband. I came to terms with the fact that he's a functioning alcoholic a few months ago. I've always struggled to really pin down whether or not he was an alcoholic before I found that definition online. Then it all became so clear! But this week was a whole new low. He has this pa...	NewMember	6	369	Jan 29, 2013 by Pushka
	UNCLE! (Preview) I honestly am sitting here in tears. I truly feel like the universe is trying to break me. I can't sell my house because I owe more on it than it's worth, and there are so many things wrong with it...because I trusted my exA to hire competent people to do "upgrades" -- what a joke. I have $100 to m...	rehprof	11	284	Jan 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Sweeping my feelings under the rug. Why? (Preview) Do I have the definitive answer to this. No. Do I have ESH and thoughts...always and I often share them (maybe too much lol). I don't think this ESH is so special or so unique but I do think it's probably generic in terms of what is to be gained through alanon and other 12 step programs too. I responded t...	pinkchip	7	326	Jan 29, 2013 by Breakingfree
	A new low (Preview) I shouldn't be suprised anymore by anything my husband says. We are separated and I've been doing a good job the past several days of avoiding communication and focusing on myself. Now he has sucked me back into his sick world and he has me angry and crying over his cruel comments. After he continued to r...	scaredandconfused	9	361	Jan 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	Email sent to all members... (Preview) Hello Everyone! You are receiving this email as a registered member on the MIP Al-Anon Message Board at http://alanon.activeboard.com. I try to truly minimize the number of emails I send out to the members each year. Usually it does not exceed 3 per year, so please take a few moments of your time to r...	John	2	392	Jan 29, 2013 by f2fmember
	winter fall but I am OK (Preview) I fell today on ice & snow. But I am a trooper; I got up & trudged on. I don't think I am hurt that bad but I think that I have prayers going out for me just in case. I am so glad that I didn't feel like crying. I laughed it off w/ my husband on the phone. Another day in the small town. I have to admit that I lov...	Hoot Nanny	2	159	Jan 29, 2013 by Annie1234
	it isn't all about me anymore (Preview) I still sometimes think it is all about me but after 27 years in the program, it is getting to be more about YOU! I have been able to get out of my world into helping others more. What a concept? I am so grateful for the years I have been on here. I have shared all kinds of emotions & experiences that I proba...	Hoot Nanny	3	213	Jan 28, 2013 by Annie1234
	Son update! (Preview) It's been of some comfort to know my sister inlaw has allowed him to use her sofa to sleep on this last two weeks, but things have been getting worse she can't afford to keep him for free and had asked him for some board money, he has complained he doesn't get fed well and she treats her cats better, I have sta...	Katy	7	277	Jan 28, 2013 by Katy
	emotional abuse and recovery: HELP! (Preview) I need your help or advise. it has now become clear to me that I have been massively emotionally abused. one thing now is to forgive myself for not having removed myself from this situation earlier. But i still think i did best with what i knew at the time. the other thing is to not obsess anymore about the p...	tortuga	10	344	Jan 28, 2013 by milkwood
	alchol poisoning risk (Preview) How to you deal with an AH who comes in so intoxicated that he starts frying something , passes out and doesn't even hear the fire alarm? Passes out with food in his mouth. Lets the dogs outside and passes out and forgets them in the freesing cold. If I didn't have to work I could stay up, but I do have to work...	tnmom	6	471	Jan 28, 2013 by maryjane
	I want to hide; a clue I need a meeting (Preview) I am angry tonight and don't want to admit it to anyone, which is why I am admitting it here. It is a clue that I want to hide out. When I want to hide, it is best to get myself to an al anon meeting asap. I am angry at 3 of my 4 adult children...all have addictions to substances. Two owe us money and 1 exposes...	PP	3	243	Jan 28, 2013 by PP
	This might be it.what now pls respond Help. Overwhelmed.done (Preview) Well. The may be the last straw. My ah of 15yrs came home having had a few....early though I was just getting 8yo to bed. It was clear he was agitated and I tried to stay low ....nothing worked. First he went off on ploitics...rage. Then it turned on me...i didnt react right so..."youre s***, and fu....	Theoceancalls	22	601	Jan 28, 2013 by newwoman
	Confused (Preview) My A is soon to be 53 years old, a smoker and recovered heroin addict from before I knew him. He's been drinking since he was a child (abstinence for years because of a prison stint) and the past three years I just found out he's been smoking crack. I thought he stopped the crack 2 years ago, but he didn't....	Fool4You	5	220	Jan 28, 2013 by Fool4You
	Am I detached or disgusted? (Preview) So lately I found myself really not paying much attention to my AH. I cannot figure out if its my way of detaching or if I just cannot stand him anymore. I really try not to be rude because I don't want to be that way, but sometimes I just cannot help but be disgusted by him.	imom	12	577	Jan 28, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Birth of a Moniker (Preview) We were watching Lord of the Rings, Part Two, Extended Version (highly recommended to those who like LOTR) and I saw the scene that birthed my MIP Nickname. Arwen is giving Aragorn this silver jewelry thing, he tries to get her to take it back, not give it, and she tells him it is hers to give, like my heart...	likemyheart	7	243	Jan 28, 2013 by pinkchip
	Request Made to Visit Him in Rehab (Preview) The request has been made by my love (who is in rehab) and the counselor to come for an hour visit in two weeks. HELP!!!! My feelings about this are running amuck. Yes, I want to see him. But I am JUST now starting to get myself pulled somewhat together after the mess I found myself in when he left for rehab....	newwoman	6	231	Jan 27, 2013 by hopeful4ever
	Did I think this would ever happen ( No ) (Preview) Hi EveryoneIn the 3 short months I have been on MIP with all the support and encouragement I have received, I have come a long way. I have learned to detach more and more every day. What I might or might not have done in my past cant be changed, but Im learning to except it, forgive, and move on to have a bet...	Cathyinaz	5	314	Jan 27, 2013 by Pushka
	Lessons to be learned (Preview) Well, I've been in therapy for almost 3 years now. I know I'm co-dependent and working on that. I'm working on myself and self-esteem as a result of the abuse, chaos and trauma too. I am divorced and have been dating - here and there. So, I finally catch a break and meet a nice guy. I mean nice guy. Par...	abbyalana	2	206	Jan 27, 2013 by el-cee
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