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I have to share this with everyone! Need a little background first. I married for the first time very young (19) and had two beautiful boys from that marriage. They are currently 14 and 11. I met my current AH married him and he adopted my boys and than we had a baby girl and life went on. Well, as you all know my current AH is going to AA and has been sober for almost 2 months. He goes to his meetings and I go alanon. I have always obsessed about the child support my boys never recieved from their biological dad. (my 11 yr old has never even met him, he left me high and dry and preg, found out he was using cocaine behind my back) After going to all my meetings and hearing over and over again, "give it to you higher power" one day last month it suck in with me. One morning I was debating on calling child support to make sure they were doing all they could to get my kids the money (22,048.17, all back support before I remarried) and had a moment of clarity. Will calling them really make me happy? This is just a situation I can give to my higher power and I can be happy in knowing that he will take care of it for me. So thats what I did...gave it up. Going to work that morning I pass a church that always has silly sayings on their sign, that days saying was, "Get Rich quick, Count your blessing not your money." I knew at that point my higher power had heard what I have given up to him and was willing to let it be. Fast foward to today. I was checking my bank acct info online and noticed it was 323.00 more than I expected...one click on it and sure enough, it was from child support. Who would have thunk it??? Crazy right...and let it be known I rarely get any payments drips and drabs here and there but never anything consistant. Last payment I recieved was in June 2012 and that was an income tax check that was intercepted. What a great feeling today, It's me and my higher power, a sign that all my grievances and hopes and concerns for the future and today are being heard....what an awesome feeling right now!
I needed to see your post today! First of all, very happy that things are moving in the correct direction w child support! I have been struggling, as I guess a lot of us do, w giving up control and turning it over. My AH is active, so I am working hard to take care of me and not try to fix him...but as you know, very difficult!
Anyway, I love that you received a msg from HP...and some dough!
Wow! What a happy post. I think it's funny that you passed that sign too. It shows that God has a sense of humor. He kind of tickles are brains occasionally. God is good. All of the time!
