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ilovedogs · ilovedogs

So, things with my AH are awful right now. Neither one of us is filing but I think one of us should just jump in and do it. We hate each other, there is no communication and he blames me because I don't like having conversations with him. He knows why, it's been made clear. He's been told how to find recov...

Mattie · Mattie

I thought I had a handle on who were the alcoholics in my life. But I just had an experience that shook me up. I got a call from an old friend. He said he was coming through town tomorrow and he thought of me. I said, "Hey, let's get together!" This is a person I don't have any romantic history w...

grateful2be · grateful2be

One of the things I appreciate on this board has to do with the lack of one up-man-ship that can often happen and does happen in some relationships and groups. Although I do see it on occasion - it is not the norm. Perhaps sharing our experience, strength and hope without correcting others or trying to...

Truth · Truth

I just read these words and thought what a great thing to share. "Remember that hope is not a strategy," she said. "Problems don't go away when you ignore them -- they get bigger." It reminded me of the "elephant in the room"

abell · abell

4 months pregnant now. I got pregnant because doctors told me i could never have a child so this was unexpected, esp. now i'm in my late 30's. During a relapse at Christmas with the exAH. He couldn't stay sober for a whole month, even after he knew about the pregnancy. A few weeks ago I had to leave for a...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone My day started about 4am this morning. Got up got dressed got coffee and out the door by 5am. Took the trek up the hill to my x's house. Picked up him and his wife and we headed north to Flagstaff, AZ. Found the facility that had my son's personal items, laptop, computers etc etc etc. Next I...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Well, my AH is now a RAH. He did 30 days inpatient and another 45 in an Intensive outpatient while living in a 1/2 way house. He has learned all about his illness and what it did to our family. He was far from home so all our communication was by phone for the last 2 months, he sounds good and I am thankful...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well now .. been an interesting turn of events today .. first thing first I got my headlight taken care of to the tune of 18$ thank goodness it's done! Got a few other things done I'm having to apply for aide for my power bill .. however .. it is what it is and if it's available .. I'm taking it. The other news...

texasgal · texasgal

I got the job!! :) I'm so excited and everything happened with such little effort and worry on my part. I know it was all my HP I am so very grateful. I move in a couple of months so I have time to look for apt and pack. I look at my life very differently today. My soon to be exAH is not in a good place and one of the la...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I will be back on later tonight. it's been a busy tiring day. I wanted to share this with you all as a warm virtual hug, because I know we can all use a hug. I read your posts and sometimes I just don't have the words to express how deeply I empathize with you. So anyway, here is the hugs I promised! [video=h...

yankshirerose · yankshirerose

Someone told me a story about As and how they bend the situation that I thought was too good to not share. She told me about a friend who was heavily pregnant, with an AH, who'd recently moved house. The house needed work, and with a new baby coming as well, they needed to paint and decorate. The pregnan...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Hello my beautiful MIP family, I haven't been on for a while. I have been happily busy with my business so I have had a little/lot less free time to read and post. I want thank you all for you ongoing support through the hardest time of my life. I feel like I came to these boards a hopeless incoherent mess, w...

el-cee · el-cee

My son got justice today. Im happy for him but the what ifs are alive and kicking. What if he gets back on the drink now? What if it all starts again and something else happens to him? Ive been praying all week for the right outcome and it happened so I think i will keep on praying for my son. It seems to work.x

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Spent part of my morning at a funeral today. The lady we honored was a co-birthday person of mine. We were born on the same day many years apart. I was surprise because I didn't read her obituary fully. I read it on the program. Anyhow, she was a friend of my mom's as well. And as you know, my mom is in a mental f...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

My mind was quieter today and I was feeling more accepting of the situation in general. I mean what am I going to do, battle the windmills in my brain? Then the A just went and made things so much easier today. He had started ramping up his cycling again and it looks like he burned his last bridge with the lit...

bud · bud

Hi MIP family. I'm sorry I've been absent for a while- juggling so many things and trying not to drop anything... but pretty much just feeling super vulnerable and trying to throw a root down somewhere. I'm up late tonight, bothered by a trigger. Actually, it's a continuation of a trigger from las...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I can not help but feel resposible for my husband arrest . I was not feeling safe I left my house to go to a hotel no one new about. I was only going for the day to get my head cleared pray to my higher power for help . I was feeling unsure weather to bite the bullet and take my AH back home. Until he followed me to an...

Megan_E · Megan_E

My fiance' is 3 months sober after 5 years of binge drinking practically every day. While he was drinking, he was a compulsive liar. I was constantly catching him in lies that he told while drinking or about his drinking. Whether it was a big lie or a small lie, I couldn't trust a single thing he said. He wa...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Keeping My Mouth Shut .. Ohhhhhh myyyy is about all I can say at the moment. I need to take a BIG breath. Apparently my STBAX must have heard from his atty and must have been raked over the coals about more than a few things. Probably about paying the bills he just doesn't need to pay .. LOL .. I'm sure his a...

Jujubean · Jujubean

I have been dealing with this disease for 12 years now. Lots of pain the mistrust. Now I am retired and my husbanc is retiring in 2 days and I am wondering if I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I have no faith in him. My trust is shattered and I dont know if I can be happy living like this. He says he...

Jen61 · Jen61

Even though it is a small book I have taken my time in reading it. I see myself in almost every page. I do think, for me, that this will be a book I can read again and again when I "slip" and say more than I should. I want to get healthy for me. I don't want to have that horrible feeling in the pit of...

Truth · Truth

I am so happy today. I love the days when the sun is shining. I get one task done and my son has an excellent day at daycare.

Sending all the new found Al-anon Family love and support today ......

Debilyn · Debilyn

Just had knee surgery. Its been hurting a year or more. Then the darn DVT started up again. (blood clots blocking veins) so that means meds injections done by me and oral meds. its NO stress. I say no even more now. am ok no energy or very little. do one thing at a time. allow me to do some work outside for jus...

Truth · Truth

So today at about 11am. Jekyll was gone and Hyde was back. Normal emails and communication. I like Hyde much easier to deal with. One more week and then freedom for a month.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Being productive is usually more along the lines of how to procrastinate and other not so healthy behaviors .. it's definitely something I'm working on because honestly .. I have used this on going legal battle to not face some of what I need to deal with .. kind of like dealing with the qualifier in my li...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

The past two days... Talk about a roller coaster. I'm posting from my phone so I hope this is semi coherent lol. So I had a great couple of days with experiencing some more breakthroughs in some difficult areas. I know I've received some potent blessings lately too:) but yesterday I sort of experienced...

el-cee · el-cee

A new difficulty has arisen. I have been waiting on it and its here. My son was at court to testify against the man who assaulted him last year. So, ive been supporting him. Hes been up to high dough, really anxious and has been kept waiting for 2 days to testify. Today he did and he was so relieved. That, all...

Truth · Truth

He is denying the abuse and pretending he is the agreeable one. I did react however, I set boundaries. I restated my boundary to him "if he continues to deny the abuse and harassment, I will have to report him to the police. " He tried to say the stories are made up again. He is pretending he is ag...

ann margaret · ann margaret

I don't think that it would be a struggle for me to accept that I am venturing into a new form of me. I have always wanted to have a nice life and to feel freedom from all of the aches. I felt that I belong in my al-Anon family because its a nice feeling to have that opportunity to finally see how a family should...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57392387/alanon-step-5/

Hot Chicka · Hot Chicka

So I haven't been here in a very long time. Something about typing my thoughts and feelings out makes them feel more real. AH was sober for about 3-4 months a couple years ago. It was a pretty nice time. But naturally, it slipped. Now, the drinking isn't as often as he used to, but more prolonged when...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Since my son was released a year ago from prison due to a technical violation of his parole, I have known that it was only a matter of time without his willingness to enter a recovery program in earnest that the disease would drag him back down. Instead of worrying about when the next shoe would drop, I ch...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Good morning all, I had a very long talk with two people last night my STBAX's s/mom who I used to be very close to and my sponsor. S/mom has been avoiding me as I wanted to talk to her before the kids started seeing her again .. she needed to be aware of why the parenting agreement is the way it is ... I had tal...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

feels like awhile since i have connected. . its been a strange and emotional couple of weeks. as you know about about a month ago i was planning my divorce. . and then i stayed. now after that must admitt i think my ah was shook up a bit. he adjusted his ways. made some effort and has been actuallt trying. hes...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I really think I hit the jackpot here. It is still very new and I am taking my time, but this guy seems so healthy. He has a great job and is a hard worker, great dad to his kids, is a softball coach for one of their teams and just seems so well rounded. We have been hanging out and talking and I am just amazed. He h...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

After my nice little outburst today, I left the house to get the emissions checked on the little car I bought in February. It hadn't passed the initial smog check and for lack of funds I had to get an extension so that I could do the repairs. My extension had expired a few days ago and I'd been so afraid that I...

PP · PP

As I was washing the dishes a few moments ago asking, "what do I do", I hear the words of a song "just breathe". To me that means attend to me and stay in this moment. The event that pushed me into this place was the news that my 11 year old granddaughter is displaying increased sig...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Apparently, A hit someone at work today. I actually sympathised for a while as he told me how this guy had "provoked him" until I realised..hang on...isn't that what he's always says about me? It's amazing that I bought into it at first. It's amazing that I always have bought into his tales o...

MDK · MDK

I've been thinking about Rodney a lot lately. I miss him every day and I think he is with me. I have divorced my husband moved to Birmingham and started my life over again. I have met a great man who is the opposite of an addict and loves and respects me. I left my alcoholic husband over a year ago when he waved...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I really feel the love on MIP. I am so grateful for all of you. I just recently read a reply from my post that started me to cry a little. I appreciate all the comments & times when I need them the most, you faithful members always come through for me. Even w/ all the struggles w/ my mom over the long haul &a...

milkwood · milkwood

I made the mistake of asking that my feelings be given the same rating as a visitor might get this morning. What was I thinking! Well I wasn't (thinking) really was I!! Anyway, it unleashed a load of stuff and hurtful words from me as well as from AH. Why, oh why, did I think it was worth saying any of it? ...

texasgal · texasgal

The trip was great. I was nervous at the interview but I did my best and they will let me know if I am hired. She asked me why I was moving so far from home. I told the truth I said I was getting divorced and I was looking for a fresh start and that I had always wanted to live in a big city. I told her I did the applicat...

Truth · Truth

Discovery... I use smoking to stuff emotions. Hmmm now the processing will begin.

Jerry F · Jerry F

Amazing that I got the distinct feeling and impression that both his HP and mine were sitting there. My sponsor works hard at listening and filtering what he hears thru his own experiences. I love and appreciate that...he is not flash answers, not one shoe, mine fits all and I could see him listeni...

yankshirerose · yankshirerose

Hi everyone I'm new here. Really glad to have found this forum. I need a bit of sanity at the moment. I know there's no magic bullet and no instant answer to my question, but I'm hoping you can offer some advice. How did you have The Talk? (the one about your A's drinking and how it impacted you) and ho...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well, here's the bottom line .. it is important legally for me to document these things and DO need legal proof of things that are occurring I can document that is not as strong as the police being involved. I did ask my atty to ask my STBAX's atty if he knew where he was? Was he in jail? Was he in the hospit...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Ok, so I was sitting at the front table and people kept filing in, I mean like more and more and more people and they had to borrow chairs from AA's room, etc. It was the most packed I've seen our room EVER! Yep, no pressure, just 60 sets(Ok, maybe 55) of eyes on me. One of my friends looks at all the people c...

pkm · pkm

I dont even know where to start. He has been drinking heavily for 10 years. He is now 35. Still lives with my mother who is on disability. She pays all of the bills with the little bit of money she gets & he doesnt give her much to live there. His paycheck goes to alcohol. He walks all over her & she let...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a blow up with the person I live with. He told me to get the F out now. I not going right this minute but I'm leaving as soon as possible. My anxiety is because now I have to find a place to live and get my stuff moved and it is giving me anxiety and fear. I know this is best. I have to get some money togeth...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Because I'm not sure how to handle the whole no show .. I totally understood it after he was arrested for violating the OP (yes and no .. it would have been simple NOT to contact me and still see the kids). He ducked out on the kids for almost 8 months I didn't have to have contact closer to about 9 I think. An...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I could feel it rising up in me. My addiction was rearing its ugly head. After a mostly quiet patch, his using in all forms has been ramping up and along with it, my stress, in the physical and mental forms. I tend to get cold sores under stress and it's funny how I've been feeling the tingling pain of a blist...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today I feel compelled to post. I haven't in a few days. My mom is back in the hospital. I am OK w/ it. My family is coming up to take her back home. I am actually OK w/ it & look forward to her leaving. I have already spent nearly 20 years basically keeping her occupied. Now it is time for her to be taken care...

Lyne · Lyne

My A has two sides: a grotesque, huge, monster-like personna that puts addiction first and is willing to destroy herself and our marriage. Then there is a caring, helpful, and can-count-on-person who always comes through in an emergency. At times in the past, the monster was as big as godzilla, a...

DavidG · DavidG

Lois and Bill did not have any kids of their own, but they had all of us!

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I love this! Thanks so much Debilyn, what a FANTASTIC new slogan for me this week! YIPEEEE, I got another tool! Hugs, J.

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, as I mentioned in the past I am temporarily back with my dad to save some money for buying a home. So far, so good. Yesterday, he helped me move and he was fine. Sober. Last night he went out, this morning he seemed fine. Didn't ap...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Sorry I was in the meeting this morning and I was heading out and my ride showed up and I forgot to log off so if anyone was talking to me, the reason I didn't answer is because I wasn't there. Ooops. My bad.

Sallygcoe · Sallygcoe

Has anyone ever heard of someone being totally addicted to another person. My AS seems to be addicted to a girl. He met her about 3 1/2 yrs ago and that is when his troubles started. I think she is an A too. But he just does not seen to be abel to stay away from her anymore than he can stay sober. At least the bott...

ct1203 · ct1203

Okay so I wanted to share my progress. I have been trying to work this program and reading up on self-help books to help me detach with love and not be codependent. Yesterday my A decided that he wanted to go to visit some friends and drink all night. I did not argue and he stated that he had a ride. I was not gi...

Jerry F · Jerry F

even with a sign out front on my driveway saying "No trespassing", "No Turn Arounds"...lots of people do that; drive off the main drag down our private drive, into my driveway to turn around so they won't have to back out where they came in. None leave any sort of funds to repair...

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	Need your ESH (Preview) So, things with my AH are awful right now. Neither one of us is filing but I think one of us should just jump in and do it. We hate each other, there is no communication and he blames me because I don't like having conversations with him. He knows why, it's been made clear. He's been told how to find recov...	ilovedogs	17	639	May 4, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Shaken up (Preview) I thought I had a handle on who were the alcoholics in my life. But I just had an experience that shook me up. I got a call from an old friend. He said he was coming through town tomorrow and he thought of me. I said, "Hey, let's get together!" This is a person I don't have any romantic history w...	Mattie	14	680	May 4, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	One up-man-ship - subtle violence (Preview) One of the things I appreciate on this board has to do with the lack of one up-man-ship that can often happen and does happen in some relationships and groups. Although I do see it on occasion - it is not the norm. Perhaps sharing our experience, strength and hope without correcting others or trying to...	grateful2be	14	648	May 4, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Hope is not a strategy... (Preview) I just read these words and thought what a great thing to share. "Remember that hope is not a strategy," she said. "Problems don't go away when you ignore them -- they get bigger." It reminded me of the "elephant in the room"	Truth	7	499	May 4, 2014 by milkwood
	Pregnant Scared & Running Away (Preview) 4 months pregnant now. I got pregnant because doctors told me i could never have a child so this was unexpected, esp. now i'm in my late 30's. During a relapse at Christmas with the exAH. He couldn't stay sober for a whole month, even after he knew about the pregnancy. A few weeks ago I had to leave for a...	abell	8	481	May 3, 2014 by Debilyn
	400 Miles Today (Preview) Hi Everyone My day started about 4am this morning. Got up got dressed got coffee and out the door by 5am. Took the trek up the hill to my x's house. Picked up him and his wife and we headed north to Flagstaff, AZ. Found the facility that had my son's personal items, laptop, computers etc etc etc. Next I...	Cathyinaz	10	500	May 3, 2014 by Beatrice
	He's coming home and I'm okay..... (Preview) Well, my AH is now a RAH. He did 30 days inpatient and another 45 in an Intensive outpatient while living in a 1/2 way house. He has learned all about his illness and what it did to our family. He was far from home so all our communication was by phone for the last 2 months, he sounds good and I am thankful...	jillybean1	8	521	May 3, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Turn of events and some explanation .. (Preview) Well now .. been an interesting turn of events today .. first thing first I got my headlight taken care of to the tune of 18$ thank goodness it's done! Got a few other things done I'm having to apply for aide for my power bill .. however .. it is what it is and if it's available .. I'm taking it. The other news...	SerenityRUS	6	572	May 3, 2014 by Truth
	job (Preview) I got the job!! :) I'm so excited and everything happened with such little effort and worry on my part. I know it was all my HP I am so very grateful. I move in a couple of months so I have time to look for apt and pack. I look at my life very differently today. My soon to be exAH is not in a good place and one of the la...	texasgal	12	515	May 3, 2014 by grateful2be
	More free hugs and warm fuzziness (Preview) I will be back on later tonight. it's been a busy tiring day. I wanted to share this with you all as a warm virtual hug, because I know we can all use a hug. I read your posts and sometimes I just don't have the words to express how deeply I empathize with you. So anyway, here is the hugs I promised! [video=h...	Raven Juniper	4	355	May 3, 2014 by Jerry F
	Story to share (Preview) Someone told me a story about As and how they bend the situation that I thought was too good to not share. She told me about a friend who was heavily pregnant, with an AH, who'd recently moved house. The house needed work, and with a new baby coming as well, they needed to paint and decorate. The pregnan...	yankshirerose	7	608	May 2, 2014 by Beatrice
	Just checkin in.. (Preview) Hello my beautiful MIP family, I haven't been on for a while. I have been happily busy with my business so I have had a little/lot less free time to read and post. I want thank you all for you ongoing support through the hardest time of my life. I feel like I came to these boards a hopeless incoherent mess, w...	sadsusie	3	486	May 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	praying (Preview) My son got justice today. Im happy for him but the what ifs are alive and kicking. What if he gets back on the drink now? What if it all starts again and something else happens to him? Ive been praying all week for the right outcome and it happened so I think i will keep on praying for my son. It seems to work.x	el-cee	5	356	May 2, 2014 by grateful2be
	so tired but I still get a lot done! (Preview) Spent part of my morning at a funeral today. The lady we honored was a co-birthday person of mine. We were born on the same day many years apart. I was surprise because I didn't read her obituary fully. I read it on the program. Anyhow, she was a friend of my mom's as well. And as you know, my mom is in a mental f...	Hoot Nanny	1	369	May 2, 2014 by el-cee
	Keeping it simple (Preview) My mind was quieter today and I was feeling more accepting of the situation in general. I mean what am I going to do, battle the windmills in my brain? Then the A just went and made things so much easier today. He had started ramping up his cycling again and it looks like he burned his last bridge with the lit...	Raven Juniper	3	422	May 2, 2014 by milkwood
	need help with trigger management (Preview) Hi MIP family. I'm sorry I've been absent for a while- juggling so many things and trying not to drop anything... but pretty much just feeling super vulnerable and trying to throw a root down somewhere. I'm up late tonight, bothered by a trigger. Actually, it's a continuation of a trigger from las...	bud	9	474	May 2, 2014 by bud
	Today is A very hard day (Preview) I can not help but feel resposible for my husband arrest . I was not feeling safe I left my house to go to a hotel no one new about. I was only going for the day to get my head cleared pray to my higher power for help . I was feeling unsure weather to bite the bullet and take my AH back home. Until he followed me to an...	Wisdom67	19	1188	May 2, 2014 by hotrod
	Lying while in recovery....How should I react? (Preview) My fiance' is 3 months sober after 5 years of binge drinking practically every day. While he was drinking, he was a compulsive liar. I was constantly catching him in lies that he told while drinking or about his drinking. Whether it was a big lie or a small lie, I couldn't trust a single thing he said. He wa...	Megan_E	23	1277	May 2, 2014 by Wisdom67
	KMMS .. Oi! (Preview) Keeping My Mouth Shut .. Ohhhhhh myyyy is about all I can say at the moment. I need to take a BIG breath. Apparently my STBAX must have heard from his atty and must have been raked over the coals about more than a few things. Probably about paying the bills he just doesn't need to pay .. LOL .. I'm sure his a...	SerenityRUS	12	475	May 2, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Wondering how to cope. (Preview) I have been dealing with this disease for 12 years now. Lots of pain the mistrust. Now I am retired and my husbanc is retiring in 2 days and I am wondering if I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I have no faith in him. My trust is shattered and I dont know if I can be happy living like this. He says he...	Jujubean	5	645	May 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Just finished reading Getting Them Sober (Preview) Even though it is a small book I have taken my time in reading it. I see myself in almost every page. I do think, for me, that this will be a book I can read again and again when I "slip" and say more than I should. I want to get healthy for me. I don't want to have that horrible feeling in the pit of...	Jen61	9	813	May 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Love These Days (Preview) I am so happy today. I love the days when the sun is shining. I get one task done and my son has an excellent day at daycare. Sending all the new found Al-anon Family love and support today ......	Truth	2	362	May 1, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Need to be brave and get info.... (Preview) Just had knee surgery. Its been hurting a year or more. Then the darn DVT started up again. (blood clots blocking veins) so that means meds injections done by me and oral meds. its NO stress. I say no even more now. am ok no energy or very little. do one thing at a time. allow me to do some work outside for jus...	Debilyn	6	551	May 1, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Back to the other behavior. (Preview) So today at about 11am. Jekyll was gone and Hyde was back. Normal emails and communication. I like Hyde much easier to deal with. One more week and then freedom for a month.	Truth	4	368	May 1, 2014 by Truth
	Being productive .. (Preview) Being productive is usually more along the lines of how to procrastinate and other not so healthy behaviors .. it's definitely something I'm working on because honestly .. I have used this on going legal battle to not face some of what I need to deal with .. kind of like dealing with the qualifier in my li...	SerenityRUS	5	495	May 1, 2014 by Truth
	The waiting is the hardest part (Preview) The past two days... Talk about a roller coaster. I'm posting from my phone so I hope this is semi coherent lol. So I had a great couple of days with experiencing some more breakthroughs in some difficult areas. I know I've received some potent blessings lately too:) but yesterday I sort of experienced...	Raven Juniper	7	629	May 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	another reason to be grateful (Preview) A new difficulty has arisen. I have been waiting on it and its here. My son was at court to testify against the man who assaulted him last year. So, ive been supporting him. Hes been up to high dough, really anxious and has been kept waiting for 2 days to testify. Today he did and he was so relieved. That, all...	el-cee	7	488	May 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	He has started it again.... (Preview) He is denying the abuse and pretending he is the agreeable one. I did react however, I set boundaries. I restated my boundary to him "if he continues to deny the abuse and harassment, I will have to report him to the police. " He tried to say the stories are made up again. He is pretending he is ag...	Truth	23	708	May 1, 2014 by yankshirerose
	on being brave in facing my new life..new beginning. (Preview) I don't think that it would be a struggle for me to accept that I am venturing into a new form of me. I have always wanted to have a nice life and to feel freedom from all of the aches. I felt that I belong in my al-Anon family because its a nice feeling to have that opportunity to finally see how a family should...	ann margaret	6	478	May 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	STEP 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t57392387/alanon-step-5/	hotrod	2	818	May 1, 2014 by hotrod
	I don't want to talk about it (Preview) So I haven't been here in a very long time. Something about typing my thoughts and feelings out makes them feel more real. AH was sober for about 3-4 months a couple years ago. It was a pretty nice time. But naturally, it slipped. Now, the drinking isn't as often as he used to, but more prolonged when...	Hot Chicka	12	589	Apr 30, 2014 by Theoceancalls
	My son (Preview) Since my son was released a year ago from prison due to a technical violation of his parole, I have known that it was only a matter of time without his willingness to enter a recovery program in earnest that the disease would drag him back down. Instead of worrying about when the next shoe would drop, I ch...	grateful2be	16	602	Apr 30, 2014 by Rose50
	Denial and other things .. (Preview) Good morning all, I had a very long talk with two people last night my STBAX's s/mom who I used to be very close to and my sponsor. S/mom has been avoiding me as I wanted to talk to her before the kids started seeing her again .. she needed to be aware of why the parenting agreement is the way it is ... I had tal...	SerenityRUS	8	562	Apr 30, 2014 by grateful2be
	doing ok (Preview) feels like awhile since i have connected. . its been a strange and emotional couple of weeks. as you know about about a month ago i was planning my divorce. . and then i stayed. now after that must admitt i think my ah was shook up a bit. he adjusted his ways. made some effort and has been actuallt trying. hes...	Theoceancalls	5	519	Apr 30, 2014 by Jen61
	Okay getting excited about the new man in my life..... (Preview) I really think I hit the jackpot here. It is still very new and I am taking my time, but this guy seems so healthy. He has a great job and is a hard worker, great dad to his kids, is a softball coach for one of their teams and just seems so well rounded. We have been hanging out and talking and I am just amazed. He h...	Breakingfree	11	484	Apr 30, 2014 by PP
	Mysterious ways (Preview) After my nice little outburst today, I left the house to get the emissions checked on the little car I bought in February. It hadn't passed the initial smog check and for lack of funds I had to get an extension so that I could do the repairs. My extension had expired a few days ago and I'd been so afraid that I...	Raven Juniper	7	525	Apr 30, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Just Breathe (Preview) As I was washing the dishes a few moments ago asking, "what do I do", I hear the words of a song "just breathe". To me that means attend to me and stay in this moment. The event that pushed me into this place was the news that my 11 year old granddaughter is displaying increased sig...	PP	15	655	Apr 29, 2014 by PP
	Oh Well. What am I going to do? (Preview) Apparently, A hit someone at work today. I actually sympathised for a while as he told me how this guy had "provoked him" until I realised..hang on...isn't that what he's always says about me? It's amazing that I bought into it at first. It's amazing that I always have bought into his tales o...	Melly1248	10	689	Apr 29, 2014 by hotrod
	My life after RLC (Preview) I've been thinking about Rodney a lot lately. I miss him every day and I think he is with me. I have divorced my husband moved to Birmingham and started my life over again. I have met a great man who is the opposite of an addict and loves and respects me. I left my alcoholic husband over a year ago when he waved...	MDK	5	490	Apr 29, 2014 by MDK
	tears of love & support (Preview) I really feel the love on MIP. I am so grateful for all of you. I just recently read a reply from my post that started me to cry a little. I appreciate all the comments & times when I need them the most, you faithful members always come through for me. Even w/ all the struggles w/ my mom over the long haul &a...	Hoot Nanny	3	353	Apr 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	Foot in mouth alert! (Preview) I made the mistake of asking that my feelings be given the same rating as a visitor might get this morning. What was I thinking! Well I wasn't (thinking) really was I!! Anyway, it unleashed a load of stuff and hurtful words from me as well as from AH. Why, oh why, did I think it was worth saying any of it? ...	milkwood	6	504	Apr 29, 2014 by grateful2be
	The interview (Preview) The trip was great. I was nervous at the interview but I did my best and they will let me know if I am hired. She asked me why I was moving so far from home. I told the truth I said I was getting divorced and I was looking for a fresh start and that I had always wanted to live in a big city. I told her I did the applicat...	texasgal	7	354	Apr 29, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Smoking and stuffing emotions (Preview) Discovery... I use smoking to stuff emotions. Hmmm now the processing will begin.	Truth	14	686	Apr 29, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Sat and confered with my Sponsor. (Preview) Amazing that I got the distinct feeling and impression that both his HP and mine were sitting there. My sponsor works hard at listening and filtering what he hears thru his own experiences. I love and appreciate that...he is not flash answers, not one shoe, mine fits all and I could see him listeni...	Jerry F	5	473	Apr 29, 2014 by Beatrice
	How did you have The Talk? (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new here. Really glad to have found this forum. I need a bit of sanity at the moment. I know there's no magic bullet and no instant answer to my question, but I'm hoping you can offer some advice. How did you have The Talk? (the one about your A's drinking and how it impacted you) and ho...	yankshirerose	14	647	Apr 29, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Court stuff .. (Preview) Well, here's the bottom line .. it is important legally for me to document these things and DO need legal proof of things that are occurring I can document that is not as strong as the police being involved. I did ask my atty to ask my STBAX's atty if he knew where he was? Was he in jail? Was he in the hospit...	SerenityRUS	7	551	Apr 29, 2014 by Truth
	Update on 'my story' at meeting (Preview) Ok, so I was sitting at the front table and people kept filing in, I mean like more and more and more people and they had to borrow chairs from AA's room, etc. It was the most packed I've seen our room EVER! Yep, no pressure, just 60 sets(Ok, maybe 55) of eyes on me. One of my friends looks at all the people c...	ilovedogs	9	608	Apr 28, 2014 by Jerry F
	My alcoholic brother (Preview) I dont even know where to start. He has been drinking heavily for 10 years. He is now 35. Still lives with my mother who is on disability. She pays all of the bills with the little bit of money she gets & he doesnt give her much to live there. His paycheck goes to alcohol. He walks all over her & she let...	pkm	9	663	Apr 28, 2014 by pkm
	I'm scared and anxiety all at once (Preview) I had a blow up with the person I live with. He told me to get the F out now. I not going right this minute but I'm leaving as soon as possible. My anxiety is because now I have to find a place to live and get my stuff moved and it is giving me anxiety and fear. I know this is best. I have to get some money togeth...	Cathyinaz	20	828	Apr 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Wellness Check .. (Preview) Because I'm not sure how to handle the whole no show .. I totally understood it after he was arrested for violating the OP (yes and no .. it would have been simple NOT to contact me and still see the kids). He ducked out on the kids for almost 8 months I didn't have to have contact closer to about 9 I think. An...	SerenityRUS	7	815	Apr 28, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Should've known better (Preview) I could feel it rising up in me. My addiction was rearing its ugly head. After a mostly quiet patch, his using in all forms has been ramping up and along with it, my stress, in the physical and mental forms. I tend to get cold sores under stress and it's funny how I've been feeling the tingling pain of a blist...	Raven Juniper	6	519	Apr 28, 2014 by grateful2be
	I am so anxious that I want to post every time I get a chance... (Preview) Today I feel compelled to post. I haven't in a few days. My mom is back in the hospital. I am OK w/ it. My family is coming up to take her back home. I am actually OK w/ it & look forward to her leaving. I have already spent nearly 20 years basically keeping her occupied. Now it is time for her to be taken care...	Hoot Nanny	4	397	Apr 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	evil alcoholic (Preview) My A has two sides: a grotesque, huge, monster-like personna that puts addiction first and is willing to destroy herself and our marriage. Then there is a caring, helpful, and can-count-on-person who always comes through in an emergency. At times in the past, the monster was as big as godzilla, a...	Lyne	23	771	Apr 28, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	The greatest thing... (Preview) Lois and Bill did not have any kids of their own, but they had all of us!	DavidG	8	518	Apr 28, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	Debilyn says: DROP THE ROCK! (Preview) I love this! Thanks so much Debilyn, what a FANTASTIC new slogan for me this week! YIPEEEE, I got another tool! Hugs, J.	Jean4444	4	663	Apr 28, 2014 by likemyheart
	Back home with dad....Different vibe. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Well, as I mentioned in the past I am temporarily back with my dad to save some money for buying a home. So far, so good. Yesterday, he helped me move and he was fine. Sober. Last night he went out, this morning he seemed fine. Didn't ap...	slogan_jim	4	395	Apr 28, 2014 by PP
	Little apology (Preview) Sorry I was in the meeting this morning and I was heading out and my ride showed up and I forgot to log off so if anyone was talking to me, the reason I didn't answer is because I wasn't there. Ooops. My bad.	Wolfie55	0	278	Apr 28, 2014 by Wolfie55
	Addiction to a person? (Preview) Has anyone ever heard of someone being totally addicted to another person. My AS seems to be addicted to a girl. He met her about 3 1/2 yrs ago and that is when his troubles started. I think she is an A too. But he just does not seen to be abel to stay away from her anymore than he can stay sober. At least the bott...	Sallygcoe	6	386	Apr 28, 2014 by Sallygcoe
	Proud of Myself (Preview) Okay so I wanted to share my progress. I have been trying to work this program and reading up on self-help books to help me detach with love and not be codependent. Yesterday my A decided that he wanted to go to visit some friends and drink all night. I did not argue and he stated that he had a ride. I was not gi...	ct1203	7	345	Apr 28, 2014 by milkwood
	Got my boundaries crossed (Preview) even with a sign out front on my driveway saying "No trespassing", "No Turn Arounds"...lots of people do that; drive off the main drag down our private drive, into my driveway to turn around so they won't have to back out where they came in. None leave any sort of funds to repair...	Jerry F	16	669	Apr 28, 2014 by milkwood
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