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missmeliss · missmeliss

We went to a friends for lunch today, and when I arrived I realised, I didn't have my phone with me. Now I've known this friend for a year or so and when I started going over, I would check my phone constantly. It was usually a Sunday, I had usually been fighting with ABF and I was usually in a state of awful tur...

Kah27 · Kah27

I don't even know where to start. This year has been a roller coaster that never seems to end. ofcourse I never seem to get off of it. I had a chance to leave my ah a week ago. Lease was almost up he had gone to the strip club yet again this time drinking and driving home. I was staying with my parents prepared to...

Beulah · Beulah

Hi all, I have a 53 year old brother who retired early (because of a buy-out), has no wife/children, nor responsibilities. He retired to the mountains in an area where he is surrounded by a lot of extended family in a small town in Virginia. He went through rehab and was clean/sober from 1997 to 2010. I...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hello everyone! Sometimes I find myself really having great debates with myself, when I catch myself I say OOOPs and remember to turn it over, relax, etc. Lately my debate with myself comes about when every time I attend a house activity with my AH, I am bombarded with his housemates, counselors, croi...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

There are a few things that I have come to realize in terms of the divorce and how long that it's taken. That is a good thing. I could have done without the expense .. there is a reason it did take this long and I am feeling mentally and emotionally healthier than I have for a long time. Like since I left my f...

vm54 · vm54

Our daughter has been gone for days at a time for the last month saying she was working 80 - 90 hours a week. She has gambling and alcohol addictions, but she just recently admitted the alcohol problem. She gambled heavily in June and July with huge losses, but then turned almost exclusively to alcohol...

Tash2 · Tash2

Hi all would like some advice about when to tackle issues with AH. He's been really stressed at work & has a very high powered job. This was his excuse for binging this week which resulted in him having an awful hangover, clearly annoyed at himself for using drink to escape & him taking time off w...

Temple · Temple

I think recovery will perhaps mean being surprised at nothing. Not there yet. Here's the story: When DDH spent his 6 months or so in AA many, many years ago, he met a man who was apparently in pretty bad shape. And I guess husband was doing a 12 step exercise, because he gave him my bicycle--without aski...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Liam Neeson. On GMA. Now! Thank you, HP! And now, he's gone from the screen. Oh, well. All good things must come to an end. -- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 17th of September 2014 07:49:25 AM

andromeda · andromeda

Yep, it's all my fault, just ask him. AH approached me today to figure out when we're going to do this separation. Putting pressure on me to iron out details and find a job, etc. I told him that we had agreed that I would finish our son's sophomore year and that I needed time to get my resume together, etc...

Temple · Temple

Don't know how to cut and paste a link here. You can probably Google it. Kerry Washington is working to raise awareness of financial abuse. She says that is the reason so many women stay. Good for her! Temple

Temple · Temple

Is that a plaid dog, or is wearing a sweater? Hugs, Temple

grateful2be · grateful2be

I notice as I grow older, I lose all the various support persons I have had in my life. As I told my daughter this week, it feels like my whole life is falling apart. I've lost my Dad and 3 persons who were my main go to people at various times in my life and me for them in less than a year. Many of the plans I'd m...

Yazzymedo86 · Yazzymedo86

I need some advice. My husband has been in and out of the house and spending nights in I don't know where. I feel like its not even bothering him that I am not speaking ot hi or helping him in any way. I don't know if I should ask him to leave the house and file for divorce or just wait to see what would happen ... I...

BlueSky · BlueSky

My AH is 3 years and 10 months sober. I guess I thought things would be better by now, but they actually seem worse. In the first year he quit drinking, I was basically holding on with white knuckles, waiting to see how things would play out--would he even stay sober? He did. Second year, I decided to get my...

LynnH · LynnH

Not sure what the protocol is for new members,but here goes: Married to an incredible man for 25 years,he's been drinking for about 30,so it's not as though I went into this blind. He's always said he's not an alcoholic because he doesn't fit what he believes an alcoholic is. Our marriage is surpris...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi again-I was thinking this morning how much respect and admiration I had towards my (not yet) spouse when we met almost 23 yrs ago. I remember telling my mother I met "someone of quality." This person was (is) a gifted musician and taught children and loved it. I saw no signs of addictio...

texasgal · texasgal

My ah emailed me back and after several emails back and forth he said he would pay for divorce and hopefully he will file. Although I know what he says and what he does are two different things. If he doesn't follow through which is likely with his track record at least it is out their in the open. If he doesn...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

-- Edited by Tricia911 on Saturday 14th of December 2013 04:12:31 PM

missmeliss · missmeliss

Just got a call from the real estate agent. The landlord rejected my application because he absolutely won't have pets at the property. She said "I tried to talk him around and explained you have been a good tenant and your pets have done no damage in the 2 years you have rented from us but he wouldn'...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I don't know if it is permissible on this board to talk about another treatment program, but I sure do have some questions. I saw a commercial about a treatment facility (won't say the name) that does not do the 12 steps, but advocates a "cure" for addiction. The spokesperson says, " I k...

vm54 · vm54

Hi, I'm new here as well. My 25 year old daughter has been an admitted gambling addict for several years and went to a month long treatment two years ago, before she had a really bad relapse this July where she lost almost $30,000. How she could get this much in credit and loans I don't know, because...

JustBreathe · JustBreathe

Hi, I am new here. I haven't gone to any Al-anon meetings because I'm scared. I believe my husband has had a drinking problem for the better part of a decade, maybe longer. We have been married for 12 years, together for 14. We live near my family, his is quite a distance away. My family noticed a prob...

Cooper · Cooper

Today's the day, my troubled son is moving out, and I have mixed emotions. As much as I have tried to disconnect from his problems I think my being around him everyday has had a positive influence on him, at least in so that he regulates his partying knowing I am paying attention. But after today he will b...

Mirandac · Mirandac

My dry ah family is not being supportive or nice to me. Is this common? Ah served me papers and now lives with his gf and at his mothers. Ah mother is treating me with extreme coolness as is the rest of ah family. He is the adulter and has left his marriage of 29 yrs.It is a small town.

PP · PP

I had a rough weekend. I reluctantly accompanied my husband, his Celebrate Recovery Ministry leader and her husband to a cabin they have in Northern Michigan. My husband was very excited to get away with them, I was not. I agreed to go because he was excited and I can usually make the best of most situ...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Reading Jerry's post about going quiet from my tablet at my mom's and driving home yesterday , 90+ miles alone and listening to music - I thought about the value of going quiet for me. Mom's going through chemo, lives a hoarder's life with my oldest sister - how they don't see how awful it is in that house i...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Backstory: 14 years of Marriage to my AH. Verbally abusive. Controlling, manipulative. I worked 80 hours a week at our businesses while he told me what a loser I was. I am sure you now the drill. He never treated me well. I just made excuses. He made promises. Got into Doing drugs. Has spend over $100,000...

afglin · afglin

I have a question. I want to know what you used as a guide when you worked Step Four. I have been in Alanon 22 years. I worked step 4 about 5 different times and always used the small book Blueprint for Progress. I did alot of writing after each section and listed my strengths as well as growth areas I neede...

Yazzymedo86 · Yazzymedo86

So I finally was able to talk to my husband two days ago.. For the first time in my life ( thanks to all of you) I was very calm when I spoke to him. I told him I loved him, and I always would but I can no longer support him and watch him destroy himself. That he has to handle the decisions he has made on his own. I als...

texasgal · texasgal

I went on a few dates with a man I met, but I didn't feel comfortable anymore. I am still not divorced from my ah. I haven't seen or had any contact with him in 8 months. But I am still legally married and since I am I do not feel comfortable dating. I just sent my ah an email requesting divorce. The man I went on d...

milkwood · milkwood

I can not listen to AH complaining about me. My resentment and anger just grows. I'm back in the spare room again. So sad. Can't stand him.

hotrod · hotrod

How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! I am back from Bermuda where I did not have internet access . Missed you guys Please join in and share your thoughts htt...

el-cee · el-cee

Im feeling grateful because ... Im seeing some changes in my family members that show progress and some healthy thinking creeping in. Its not perfect but for today in this moment it is. Ive got this program to help me make the right choices, my country is at fever pitch and its exciting and scary. Im try...

sookie · sookie

I am struggling so much with letting go of that dream of a happy home/family. My AH and I are divorcing--the financial situation is horrifying. I am now having to be away from my kids for the first time ever. I'm a mess. Yet I finally look around my home and it is full of loving memories too--and I feel all I...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

My dark fantasies are evolving .. LOL .. now these are meant tongue and cheek. When I started my journey .. ohhh the whiskey truck getting set on fire in the country was a big go to one for me .. LOL .. I had one day that the STBAX had to go out and move the truck or I don't think I could have controlled myself. T...

el-cee · el-cee

I went to a meeting today, an out of town meeting and someone said something that I hadnt heard of and I wanted to share. The steps can be broken down into 4 parts, steps 1 to 3 are about facing up, 4 to 6 are owning up, 7 to 9 are making up, 10 to 12 are keeping up. I liked that, sounds simple enough to me.x

shosh18 · shosh18

Hi everyone. I am new to this and want to introduce myself. Reading some of your posts has given me a lot of comfort knowing I am not alone. I get very anxious too when I think of living with A, and leaving AH. Does anyone else get anxious and depressed about their situation. My story in brief... Don't live...

el-cee · el-cee

My name is lc and im a recovering perfectionist. What are you recovering from?

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

So...AH was nice to me for a few days. Even asked if he could start dating me. I told him he didn't have enough money to date anyone!! Lol. Still NO JOB!! I worked many hours today, so forgive me, but I am not happy to end my day this way. So, I go over to the house to give my daughter her clothes for the weekend....

Tossed Salad · Tossed Salad

Boy am I in a funk today. I feel like I got hit by a bus! I am emotionally and physically exhausted! Littlest one broke his arm on Wed, AH cancelled his dinner with kids last night, getting into swing of things with new job and meeting with lawyer on Tuesday. Lots going on. Unfortunately being sole care...

Luiza · Luiza

Since Sunday when my H realised there is no other way a part from separation, he has been spiteful, inconvenient, unpleasant and dreadful for the whole week. And also got drunk everyday. Well today his mum is coming for a sleep over. He came home early, sober, is acting nicely and treating me well. He is...

Luiza · Luiza

First let me explain. I have a love/hate relationship with Christmas. I had one bad Christmas in my early childhood because of my dad's alcoholism and this changed Christmas for me forever. I have had good fun Christmases with my FOO after that but Christmas for me is no big deal. At all. I can not get exc...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I can't believe this day. I woke up, made coffee, put the coffee on the bedside and proceeded to knock it over. I tried to catch it and I hit my bad foot and now it's black and blue. The coffee all over the carpet but didn't have time to clean it up so I just put a towel down to soak up some and would clean it whe...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Well, I guess today was the day. I've known for a long time that we have to move next month, I've known I have a lot of big things to do, and I've gone around in circles a lot, I can't do this until I do that, but I can't do that until U do this other thing...excuses excuses...or maybe not, I've made a lot of huge c...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It has been busy is putting it mildly .. I spoke at the Alanon function and had a lovely time. I can see how far I have come and see how far I have to go. That's a good thing and I like that it's not done nor will it ever be .. it's just learning something new each day and it's a journey. My mom has some kind of ey...

sookie · sookie

Has anyone wound up having to support their A after a divorce through ungodly amounts of alimony for a looooong period of time? I am petrified this is where my life is going. The fear is clouding my judgment I think and overtaking my serenity. As if divorce isn't emotional enough, the laws regarding ali...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Okay, So I am very frustrated. Bottom line, I do not trust my AH. (surprise lol). I know what I expect to see if he is in recovery and I know what I expect NOT to see. Well, lets just say that there is absolutely no good reason to take out $250 cash at 4am. I am tired of him not "getting" it. I get mad a...

Grammie Kathy · Grammie Kathy

Flower49 · Flower49

Interesting lunch phone call with my AH. He said in his pitiful voice that he only has 15 dollars till he gets paid next week. He had to pay his rent, pay guys for gas to drive him around and of course he paid me. Now, he is almost 1000 up on his rent at the house. He then indicated that although he had invited me...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I have been contemplating posting today. I am worried about my adult Son having to deal with my AH. He seems so sad and I know I cannot 'fix' his sadness. My AH did it again last night. He was suppose to go to grandson's football game. He was told several times of the time and place. He chose to do somet...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hey everyone! Talked with my AH this morning. He has been quite busy this week with completing his fourth and fifth step and then becoming an Alumni of his group home. What all the means to me is I don't know, however this morning he called as he usually does and told me that his "hazing" into th...

Lyne · Lyne

I was at my F2F meeting last night, and the topic of grief was mentioned in one of the readings. I shared about the loss of the marriage I thought I had, maybe did have, want to have, but do not. I also spoke about the damage that not only has been done to me, but the hurt I have watched happen to my son and dtr...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I have a piece of land I rent out. nice family put a new fifth wheel there. Now I have to put up a permanent structure to make it legal. It's not legal to have anyone live in an RV. Because A's disease devastated me financially I am going round and around how to do this. Just found out I have to pay a couple hundr...

missmeliss · missmeliss

So, I noticed something new about myself this morning. I mean, I still have a big long way to go but every so often I realise how differently I approach things these days and it just amazes me. I got up early and went for a march on the beach. I get up early quite often lately, even when I don't need to. It's my n...

phiphi · phiphi

Dear MIP members, How good it feels to find someone else too is going through what I m. I live in a remote place where there is no organized AA or al-anon meets. So finding you all is such help to me.I am a married with four lovely children , three of them in their teens. Fortunately, my teens do not give me a...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Today my husband asked if my daughter and I could come to the house and have dinner with him. He said he just wanted us all to be nice to each other and enjoy dinner and watch the dogs play. "normal" family stuff. And we weren't going to bring up anything controversial such as him not having a job...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Today, I spent some time in one of my favorite places in the City. A gal who I had been close to several years ago was in the same place. We'd had not so much a falling out but a parting of the ways when her behavior changed in ways towards me that I simply couldn't understand. We'd known each other for so lo...

lookingup · lookingup

What's in inventory and how do I go about or take inventory of myself need examples plz.....and how do I go from feeling hatred toward my exbf to feelings of ?????.we argue I have nothing good to say to him.except lots of accusations .i know I'm responsible for me what I think,feel,want and need.and I re...

singingnick377 · singingnick377

Hi Everyone, There is one person who really manages to push my buttons and that is my mother. It was my Father who was an alcoholic but of course the whole family is affected by it and we live in Dysfunctionville. I have always felt pretty neglected by my parents. My dad is dead now and I always feel that I ha...

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	Yay for Sunday. (Preview) We went to a friends for lunch today, and when I arrived I realised, I didn't have my phone with me. Now I've known this friend for a year or so and when I started going over, I would check my phone constantly. It was usually a Sunday, I had usually been fighting with ABF and I was usually in a state of awful tur...	missmeliss	6	549	Sep 17, 2014 by Newlife girl
	I don't know what to do (Preview) I don't even know where to start. This year has been a roller coaster that never seems to end. ofcourse I never seem to get off of it. I had a chance to leave my ah a week ago. Lease was almost up he had gone to the strip club yet again this time drinking and driving home. I was staying with my parents prepared to...	Kah27	4	808	Sep 17, 2014 by Kah27
	First Message on Board - Advice needed (Preview) Hi all, I have a 53 year old brother who retired early (because of a buy-out), has no wife/children, nor responsibilities. He retired to the mountains in an area where he is surrounded by a lot of extended family in a small town in Virginia. He went through rehab and was clean/sober from 1997 to 2010. I...	Beulah	4	983	Sep 17, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Debating myself (Preview) Hello everyone! Sometimes I find myself really having great debates with myself, when I catch myself I say OOOPs and remember to turn it over, relax, etc. Lately my debate with myself comes about when every time I attend a house activity with my AH, I am bombarded with his housemates, counselors, croi...	Flower49	9	807	Sep 17, 2014 by Newlife girl
	New Truths for me .. (Preview) There are a few things that I have come to realize in terms of the divorce and how long that it's taken. That is a good thing. I could have done without the expense .. there is a reason it did take this long and I am feeling mentally and emotionally healthier than I have for a long time. Like since I left my f...	SerenityRUS	11	774	Sep 17, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Advice For Alcoholic Daughter Wanting To Come Home (Preview) Our daughter has been gone for days at a time for the last month saying she was working 80 - 90 hours a week. She has gambling and alcohol addictions, but she just recently admitted the alcohol problem. She gambled heavily in June and July with huge losses, but then turned almost exclusively to alcohol...	vm54	4	637	Sep 17, 2014 by hotrod
	When to detach & when to speak? (Preview) Hi all would like some advice about when to tackle issues with AH. He's been really stressed at work & has a very high powered job. This was his excuse for binging this week which resulted in him having an awful hangover, clearly annoyed at himself for using drink to escape & him taking time off w...	Tash2	19	825	Sep 17, 2014 by Debilyn
	Want to hear a funny? (Preview) I think recovery will perhaps mean being surprised at nothing. Not there yet. Here's the story: When DDH spent his 6 months or so in AA many, many years ago, he met a man who was apparently in pretty bad shape. And I guess husband was doing a 12 step exercise, because he gave him my bicycle--without aski...	Temple	15	735	Sep 17, 2014 by grateful2be
	Gratitude List (Preview) Liam Neeson. On GMA. Now! Thank you, HP! And now, he's gone from the screen. Oh, well. All good things must come to an end. -- Edited by grateful2be on Wednesday 17th of September 2014 07:49:25 AM	grateful2be	13	551	Sep 17, 2014 by grateful2be
	It's all my fault (Preview) Yep, it's all my fault, just ask him. AH approached me today to figure out when we're going to do this separation. Putting pressure on me to iron out details and find a job, etc. I told him that we had agreed that I would finish our son's sophomore year and that I needed time to get my resume together, etc...	andromeda	23	1058	Sep 17, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Kerry Washington on Financial Abuse (Preview) Don't know how to cut and paste a link here. You can probably Google it. Kerry Washington is working to raise awareness of financial abuse. She says that is the reason so many women stay. Good for her! Temple	Temple	3	537	Sep 17, 2014 by Temple
	Debilyn, I just have to asK: (Preview) Is that a plaid dog, or is wearing a sweater? Hugs, Temple	Temple	14	881	Sep 16, 2014 by Flower49
	Aging and loss (Preview) I notice as I grow older, I lose all the various support persons I have had in my life. As I told my daughter this week, it feels like my whole life is falling apart. I've lost my Dad and 3 persons who were my main go to people at various times in my life and me for them in less than a year. Many of the plans I'd m...	grateful2be	33	861	Sep 16, 2014 by grateful2be
	Advice (Preview) I need some advice. My husband has been in and out of the house and spending nights in I don't know where. I feel like its not even bothering him that I am not speaking ot hi or helping him in any way. I don't know if I should ask him to leave the house and file for divorce or just wait to see what would happen ... I...	Yazzymedo86	5	650	Sep 16, 2014 by vm54
	Between a rock and a hard place (Preview) My AH is 3 years and 10 months sober. I guess I thought things would be better by now, but they actually seem worse. In the first year he quit drinking, I was basically holding on with white knuckles, waiting to see how things would play out--would he even stay sober? He did. Second year, I decided to get my...	BlueSky	3	731	Sep 16, 2014 by hotrod
	First post here-dipping my toe in the water. (Preview) Not sure what the protocol is for new members,but here goes: Married to an incredible man for 25 years,he's been drinking for about 30,so it's not as though I went into this blind. He's always said he's not an alcoholic because he doesn't fit what he believes an alcoholic is. Our marriage is surpris...	LynnH	5	659	Sep 16, 2014 by milkwood
	Respect for the A-GONE (Preview) Hi again-I was thinking this morning how much respect and admiration I had towards my (not yet) spouse when we met almost 23 yrs ago. I remember telling my mother I met "someone of quality." This person was (is) a gifted musician and taught children and loved it. I saw no signs of addictio...	Lyne	5	723	Sep 16, 2014 by Spur
	divorce (Preview) My ah emailed me back and after several emails back and forth he said he would pay for divorce and hopefully he will file. Although I know what he says and what he does are two different things. If he doesn't follow through which is likely with his track record at least it is out their in the open. If he doesn...	texasgal	1	358	Sep 15, 2014 by hotrod
	A study of the Serenity prayer. (Preview) -- Edited by Tricia911 on Saturday 14th of December 2013 04:12:31 PM	Tricia911	38	61680	Sep 15, 2014 by gunner
	Oh :-( (Preview) Just got a call from the real estate agent. The landlord rejected my application because he absolutely won't have pets at the property. She said "I tried to talk him around and explained you have been a good tenant and your pets have done no damage in the 2 years you have rented from us but he wouldn'...	missmeliss	21	787	Sep 15, 2014 by Tossed Salad
	A cure for addiction? (Preview) I don't know if it is permissible on this board to talk about another treatment program, but I sure do have some questions. I saw a commercial about a treatment facility (won't say the name) that does not do the 12 steps, but advocates a "cure" for addiction. The spokesperson says, " I k...	cloudyskies	17	704	Sep 15, 2014 by DavidG
	Confused About Dealing With Daughters Problems (Preview) Hi, I'm new here as well. My 25 year old daughter has been an admitted gambling addict for several years and went to a month long treatment two years ago, before she had a really bad relapse this July where she lost almost $30,000. How she could get this much in credit and loans I don't know, because...	vm54	3	546	Sep 15, 2014 by Debilyn
	New here-alone and confused. (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I haven't gone to any Al-anon meetings because I'm scared. I believe my husband has had a drinking problem for the better part of a decade, maybe longer. We have been married for 12 years, together for 14. We live near my family, his is quite a distance away. My family noticed a prob...	JustBreathe	6	554	Sep 15, 2014 by Luiza
	son moving out today (Preview) Today's the day, my troubled son is moving out, and I have mixed emotions. As much as I have tried to disconnect from his problems I think my being around him everyday has had a positive influence on him, at least in so that he regulates his partying knowing I am paying attention. But after today he will b...	Cooper	5	627	Sep 15, 2014 by vm54
	Divorcing ah family (Preview) My dry ah family is not being supportive or nice to me. Is this common? Ah served me papers and now lives with his gf and at his mothers. Ah mother is treating me with extreme coolness as is the rest of ah family. He is the adulter and has left his marriage of 29 yrs.It is a small town.	Mirandac	23	689	Sep 15, 2014 by PP
	Debriefing (Preview) I had a rough weekend. I reluctantly accompanied my husband, his Celebrate Recovery Ministry leader and her husband to a cabin they have in Northern Michigan. My husband was very excited to get away with them, I was not. I agreed to go because he was excited and I can usually make the best of most situ...	PP	22	695	Sep 15, 2014 by PP
	And the Beat Goes On (Preview) Reading Jerry's post about going quiet from my tablet at my mom's and driving home yesterday , 90+ miles alone and listening to music - I thought about the value of going quiet for me. Mom's going through chemo, lives a hoarder's life with my oldest sister - how they don't see how awful it is in that house i...	likemyheart	6	627	Sep 15, 2014 by PP
	Needing a mantra or two (Preview) Backstory: 14 years of Marriage to my AH. Verbally abusive. Controlling, manipulative. I worked 80 hours a week at our businesses while he told me what a loser I was. I am sure you now the drill. He never treated me well. I just made excuses. He made promises. Got into Doing drugs. Has spend over $100,000...	sadsusie	10	1640	Sep 15, 2014 by Temple
	Step Four (Preview) I have a question. I want to know what you used as a guide when you worked Step Four. I have been in Alanon 22 years. I worked step 4 about 5 different times and always used the small book Blueprint for Progress. I did alot of writing after each section and listed my strengths as well as growth areas I neede...	afglin	12	683	Sep 15, 2014 by afglin
	A little update.... (Preview) So I finally was able to talk to my husband two days ago.. For the first time in my life ( thanks to all of you) I was very calm when I spoke to him. I told him I loved him, and I always would but I can no longer support him and watch him destroy himself. That he has to handle the decisions he has made on his own. I als...	Yazzymedo86	5	643	Sep 15, 2014 by Yazzymedo86
	moving forward not so easy (Preview) I went on a few dates with a man I met, but I didn't feel comfortable anymore. I am still not divorced from my ah. I haven't seen or had any contact with him in 8 months. But I am still legally married and since I am I do not feel comfortable dating. I just sent my ah an email requesting divorce. The man I went on d...	texasgal	3	528	Sep 14, 2014 by Mirandac
	Resentments (Preview) I can not listen to AH complaining about me. My resentment and anger just grows. I'm back in the spare room again. So sad. Can't stand him.	milkwood	8	596	Sep 14, 2014 by hotrod
	STEP 3 HAS BEEN POSTED TO THE STEP BOARD (Preview) How The Twelve Steps Work.Participate in your own recovery as well as the recovery of others, by being active on this board as we go through the 12 Steps of recovery together! I am back from Bermuda where I did not have internet access . Missed you guys Please join in and share your thoughts htt...	hotrod	6	413	Sep 14, 2014 by hotrod
	im grateful (Preview) Im feeling grateful because ... Im seeing some changes in my family members that show progress and some healthy thinking creeping in. Its not perfect but for today in this moment it is. Ive got this program to help me make the right choices, my country is at fever pitch and its exciting and scary. Im try...	el-cee	13	684	Sep 14, 2014 by hotrod
	Grieving and giving up the dream (Preview) I am struggling so much with letting go of that dream of a happy home/family. My AH and I are divorcing--the financial situation is horrifying. I am now having to be away from my kids for the first time ever. I'm a mess. Yet I finally look around my home and it is full of loving memories too--and I feel all I...	sookie	9	681	Sep 14, 2014 by hotrod
	New Dark Fantasies .. (Preview) My dark fantasies are evolving .. LOL .. now these are meant tongue and cheek. When I started my journey .. ohhh the whiskey truck getting set on fire in the country was a big go to one for me .. LOL .. I had one day that the STBAX had to go out and move the truck or I don't think I could have controlled myself. T...	SerenityRUS	1	331	Sep 14, 2014 by Debilyn
	easy steps (Preview) I went to a meeting today, an out of town meeting and someone said something that I hadnt heard of and I wanted to share. The steps can be broken down into 4 parts, steps 1 to 3 are about facing up, 4 to 6 are owning up, 7 to 9 are making up, 10 to 12 are keeping up. I liked that, sounds simple enough to me.x	el-cee	3	361	Sep 14, 2014 by afglin
	Sad and anxious..my story (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new to this and want to introduce myself. Reading some of your posts has given me a lot of comfort knowing I am not alone. I get very anxious too when I think of living with A, and leaving AH. Does anyone else get anxious and depressed about their situation. My story in brief... Don't live...	shosh18	32	3003	Sep 14, 2014 by grateful2be
	perfectionism (Preview) My name is lc and im a recovering perfectionist. What are you recovering from?	el-cee	14	833	Sep 14, 2014 by grateful2be
	I will not be fooled again!! (Preview) So...AH was nice to me for a few days. Even asked if he could start dating me. I told him he didn't have enough money to date anyone!! Lol. Still NO JOB!! I worked many hours today, so forgive me, but I am not happy to end my day this way. So, I go over to the house to give my daughter her clothes for the weekend....	Newlife girl	18	721	Sep 14, 2014 by grateful2be
	Down (Preview) Boy am I in a funk today. I feel like I got hit by a bus! I am emotionally and physically exhausted! Littlest one broke his arm on Wed, AH cancelled his dinner with kids last night, getting into swing of things with new job and meeting with lawyer on Tuesday. Lots going on. Unfortunately being sole care...	Tossed Salad	4	509	Sep 14, 2014 by Tossed Salad
	Manipulation (Preview) Since Sunday when my H realised there is no other way a part from separation, he has been spiteful, inconvenient, unpleasant and dreadful for the whole week. And also got drunk everyday. Well today his mum is coming for a sleep over. He came home early, sober, is acting nicely and treating me well. He is...	Luiza	19	791	Sep 14, 2014 by Mirandac
	To torture or not to torture? (Preview) First let me explain. I have a love/hate relationship with Christmas. I had one bad Christmas in my early childhood because of my dad's alcoholism and this changed Christmas for me forever. I have had good fun Christmases with my FOO after that but Christmas for me is no big deal. At all. I can not get exc...	Luiza	3	584	Sep 13, 2014 by grateful2be
	Bad Day (Preview) I can't believe this day. I woke up, made coffee, put the coffee on the bedside and proceeded to knock it over. I tried to catch it and I hit my bad foot and now it's black and blue. The coffee all over the carpet but didn't have time to clean it up so I just put a towel down to soak up some and would clean it whe...	Cathyinaz	13	708	Sep 13, 2014 by Luiza
	And away we go... (Preview) Well, I guess today was the day. I've known for a long time that we have to move next month, I've known I have a lot of big things to do, and I've gone around in circles a lot, I can't do this until I do that, but I can't do that until U do this other thing...excuses excuses...or maybe not, I've made a lot of huge c...	missmeliss	7	610	Sep 13, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Don't know where to start .. LOL .. (Preview) It has been busy is putting it mildly .. I spoke at the Alanon function and had a lovely time. I can see how far I have come and see how far I have to go. That's a good thing and I like that it's not done nor will it ever be .. it's just learning something new each day and it's a journey. My mom has some kind of ey...	SerenityRUS	3	575	Sep 13, 2014 by grateful2be
	divorce/alimony (Preview) Has anyone wound up having to support their A after a divorce through ungodly amounts of alimony for a looooong period of time? I am petrified this is where my life is going. The fear is clouding my judgment I think and overtaking my serenity. As if divorce isn't emotional enough, the laws regarding ali...	sookie	6	592	Sep 13, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	It is NOT my responsibility to explain to my AH that he is a hot mess. (Preview) Okay, So I am very frustrated. Bottom line, I do not trust my AH. (surprise lol). I know what I expect to see if he is in recovery and I know what I expect NOT to see. Well, lets just say that there is absolutely no good reason to take out $250 cash at 4am. I am tired of him not "getting" it. I get mad a...	sadsusie	13	739	Sep 12, 2014 by Kay10
	Anyone care to share about your own phenomenon of craving as an Al-Anon? I'm trying to comprehend and understand my own (Preview)	Grammie Kathy	14	788	Sep 12, 2014 by grateful2be
	Bamboozled Update (Preview) Interesting lunch phone call with my AH. He said in his pitiful voice that he only has 15 dollars till he gets paid next week. He had to pay his rent, pay guys for gas to drive him around and of course he paid me. Now, he is almost 1000 up on his rent at the house. He then indicated that although he had invited me...	Flower49	2	419	Sep 12, 2014 by Debilyn
	Sadness for Son (Preview) I have been contemplating posting today. I am worried about my adult Son having to deal with my AH. He seems so sad and I know I cannot 'fix' his sadness. My AH did it again last night. He was suppose to go to grandson's football game. He was told several times of the time and place. He chose to do somet...	Hullibee	15	731	Sep 12, 2014 by grateful2be
	Feeling Bamboozled (Preview) Hey everyone! Talked with my AH this morning. He has been quite busy this week with completing his fourth and fifth step and then becoming an Alumni of his group home. What all the means to me is I don't know, however this morning he called as he usually does and told me that his "hazing" into th...	Flower49	17	738	Sep 12, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	woke up angry at my A (Preview) I was at my F2F meeting last night, and the topic of grief was mentioned in one of the readings. I shared about the loss of the marriage I thought I had, maybe did have, want to have, but do not. I also spoke about the damage that not only has been done to me, but the hurt I have watched happen to my son and dtr...	Lyne	11	701	Sep 12, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Leftovers from A's disease (Preview) I have a piece of land I rent out. nice family put a new fifth wheel there. Now I have to put up a permanent structure to make it legal. It's not legal to have anyone live in an RV. Because A's disease devastated me financially I am going round and around how to do this. Just found out I have to pay a couple hundr...	Debilyn	8	709	Sep 12, 2014 by bud
	Today doesn't have to be forever. (Preview) So, I noticed something new about myself this morning. I mean, I still have a big long way to go but every so often I realise how differently I approach things these days and it just amazes me. I got up early and went for a march on the beach. I get up early quite often lately, even when I don't need to. It's my n...	missmeliss	13	717	Sep 12, 2014 by Breakingfree
	my first post - story of my life and my mistakes (Preview) Dear MIP members, How good it feels to find someone else too is going through what I m. I live in a remote place where there is no organized AA or al-anon meets. So finding you all is such help to me.I am a married with four lovely children , three of them in their teens. Fortunately, my teens do not give me a...	phiphi	5	693	Sep 12, 2014 by phiphi
	Turned down his dinner invitation...feeling sad and confused (Preview) Today my husband asked if my daughter and I could come to the house and have dinner with him. He said he just wanted us all to be nice to each other and enjoy dinner and watch the dogs play. "normal" family stuff. And we weren't going to bring up anything controversial such as him not having a job...	Newlife girl	18	749	Sep 11, 2014 by el-cee
	Reading other people's minds (Preview) Today, I spent some time in one of my favorite places in the City. A gal who I had been close to several years ago was in the same place. We'd had not so much a falling out but a parting of the ways when her behavior changed in ways towards me that I simply couldn't understand. We'd known each other for so lo...	grateful2be	9	691	Sep 11, 2014 by el-cee
	Inventory (Preview) What's in inventory and how do I go about or take inventory of myself need examples plz.....and how do I go from feeling hatred toward my exbf to feelings of ?????.we argue I have nothing good to say to him.except lots of accusations .i know I'm responsible for me what I think,feel,want and need.and I re...	lookingup	7	685	Sep 11, 2014 by el-cee
	My buttons have been well and truly pushed. (Preview) Hi Everyone, There is one person who really manages to push my buttons and that is my mother. It was my Father who was an alcoholic but of course the whole family is affected by it and we live in Dysfunctionville. I have always felt pretty neglected by my parents. My dad is dead now and I always feel that I ha...	singingnick377	7	723	Sep 11, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
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