worried about my brother. - Al-Anon Family Group

Jenny29 · Member

worried about my brother.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello. Welcome. Many of us have experienced what you are sharing in relationship to our family members or friends. We, too, can feel depressed and hopeless at times. We generally recommend attended Al-Anon meetings in your area for at least 6 sessions. There you will find the support and education that can help you live your life with less stress and strain due to a loved one's drinking over which we are powerless. In Al-Anon, we've learned the 3cs. We didn't cause the disease. We can't cure the disease. We can't control the disease. We can, however, learn to live one day at a time on life's terms and let go of our loved ones and their responsibility to get help for their issues or not. Keep coming back. We understand. We've been there. We're working through it together.

cloudyskies · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Jenny. Welcome to MIP. I agree with Grateful, you need to find Al-Anon meetings near you. Alcoholism is a progressive disease that affects everyone it touches. We all understand what you are feeling.

Take care of you and keep coming back.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear one he is sick and is the only one who can help himself. So there is nothing you can do anyway. Allow him the dignity to live his own life.

I would not engage in his calling or texting or any communication. It is not even him talking. It is a sick addict brain. Means zero. Almost every A uses the suicide card for attention. Part of the disease.

Al Anon invites us to think of ourselves, our kids, pets whatever. Take care of you and your own. His disease is making you sick,not him.

He probably feels guilty and does not want to talk.Plus they are never themselves when they are using or not.They have destroyed lots of their body, including their brain.

When we listen and worry we only hurt us and help their disease. It's called manipulation. The disease makes them not want to go down alone, so they try to pull others down with them.

We are making them worse by any attention or babying them.

Better for you to say hey don't call me when you drink or I will hang up. That is a boundary with a consequence.

So please take care of you and drop that rock you carry around in you.

please keep coming!!! We welcome you so heartfully!

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