Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

well, i hve posted thoughts on this topic before but find i need to revisit it again , bc although im getting off the roller coaster from last week there are always more rides to come. . this week its sex. something i dont talk about well and according to my ah, im lousy at and completly uninterested in. (ok...

hotrod · hotrod

Today's reading in the C2C talks about Step 7 and focuses on the word HUMBLE. It reminds us that many times we view this word as a negative, tearful, embarrassing experience but that being humble can actually be accomplished with humor and joy. It builds on the reading this week that spoke about...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I know AlAnon is for people whose lives are affected by Alcoholism...but I think this means the Alcoholic is still alive. What organization (online or other) is there for those whose relative succumbed to the disease? Grief support groups generally seem to be geared toward a different kind of death...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Spent yesterday afternoon partly in the ER. I've been having head aches for just over 3 months. Yesterday was severe and the VA wasn't open just the Hospital ER. They did the needles and tests and then CRT or what ever. My headaches yesterday were off the scale and I couldn't wait for the VA on the 1...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59808974/tradition-4-alanon/

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

My husband finally admitted that he is an alcholic. This was a big step for him but it was a long time coming. Over this past weekend he drank so much vodka that he was out of control. I took the kids and left and then he admitted it to me that night. He surprised me yesterday and went to an AA meeting where h...

Irish7 · Irish7

I was listening to a speaker on a tape AA or Al Anon-- I cannot recall which) who said that every time she has trouble accepting something it is because she is longing for a choice that isn't available. This really resonated with me!

Jazzie18 · Jazzie18

I was so excited when he went to his second meeting last night. Not too excited when he came home asking to have a beer. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea and he went ahead and had a beer with dinner. It was so hard for me to not be super pissed at him. I told him that I was really proud of him for going...

Cooper · Cooper

I won't rehash all the issues I have had with my son the last few years but his drinking and drug use is well known in our family and his moms family yet people still want to feed the animal. I just saw a FaceBook posting from my daughter, she and my son were at their moms house for a dinner. In the picture...

hotrod · hotrod

The Courage to Change reading for today presents the idea of detachment in a very simple format. It states that Detachment with love simply means that I stop depending on what others do, say or feel to determine my own well-being, or make my decisions.When faced with others destructive attitudes an...

Mirandac · Mirandac

i have been feeling pushed and i do not like the feeling. I have a tendency to push back. My ah is pushing my buttons for pre settlement money, selling the house immediately and he wants to move on. Ah is unwilling to split assets or pay spousal support. We have a high monthly mtg and payments. They are...

hotrod · hotrod

The reading in the C2C today is very applicable. It talks about MMOB and uses humor to address this difficult defect that I had so much trouble shedding.The reading suggests that laughter and humor are extremely important in facing ourselves and the mistakes we make because it makes frailties...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi everyone, Well, my day got more difficult, and I am having trouble processing. Again. I was at work, called my wife on my way to my second job. She was out walking our new-to-us dog. (She has been with us about 5 days now, came to us instead of being destroyed, and is the most mild-mannered, sweet dog y...

el-cee · el-cee

The little alanon pamphlet called detachment has been very important to me. It was one of the first things i read and one of the first things that gave me that moment of wow, this is it, this is what i need to do. At first, it went against every idea i was brought up to believe. The influences in my life, my mot...

Truth · Truth

Okay so I really did not expect anything different so I am not hurt or upset. I am wondering what is a healthy way to respond when you have discovered someone has mislead you by leaving out important information that would have changed your decision.

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

As I have mentioned before,my AH drove drunk and flipped our car with us in it. Since then, many members of my family have not wanted contact with him. Which I understand. I have a niece and nephew who are the light of my world. My sister told me she doesn't want my AH around the kids. I have regular sle...

Irish7 · Irish7

I've been going to f2f al anon meetings for 3 months and am working the program very intently. I've also been listening to speaker tapes daily, and it get so much from them. I attend an open AA meeting each week, which helps me develop compassion that I lacked here at home with AH and alcoholic stepson (I t...

mersi · mersi

Hallo I would like to ask you, other adult children of alcoholics how do u feel and how is your life like???do u also feel often sad and depressed?like u dont know where u going in life and what u want and who u really are?my life is full of ups and downs and i have mood swings and terrible feelings of isolatio...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

I have been finding that I am back to that bad habit of concentrating on others way too much. I have decided to go back to two hobbies I used to have. I am going to gardening programs, want to someday get my master gardener designation, I have been to two programs, a fruit tree sale and have two programs to go...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I've heard in meetings lately "My thinking can kill me." Please share what that means to you, and what you do about it. Thank you.

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: The focus of today's reading is the slogan "Live And Let Live". The writer admits not being completely comfortable with the phrase, until an Alanon speaker compared it to working his own plot of land (his 'emotional acre') and not trying to tend other people's. This me...

Skorpi · Skorpi

Hi Everyone, It has been close to a month since my wife wrecked her car, and I feel like my journey with Alanon has been extremely positive and productive so far. I have been working on detachment, and letting my wife make her own decisions and be responsible for those decisions. While I make my own dec...

likemyheart · likemyheart

And I didn't have to do anything to make it so - Its early March and our temp was in the mid-sixties; I spent a lot of time yesterday and today trimming that in my yard that needed trimming and then, this morning found me burning burning burning it to my heart's content. Nearing the end of the pyromaniac hou...

hotrod · hotrod

The ODA T reading for today is really powerful and thought provoking. It speaks about one of the symptoms of living with the disease of alcoholism.--- which is an attack of anger. It defines this attack as an "uncontrollable impulse to judge and condemn someone". In this explosion. I am re...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I always come back for guidance. My life has been going well last few months. Unbeleivably well actually. My ex AH has been tying his life up with legal probs, rehabs and jail for breaking probation requirements with more DWI's. BTW ... the abilility to buy out (have disposed) DWI's in Tx is unnerving!...

Smiley99 · Smiley99

Yesterday, my husband brought hard liquor in to our home, which is something I have told him many times is unacceptable to me. He tends to become verbally abusive after consuming hard liquor and it is very upsetting even though I try to detatch. It happens every time he touches the stuff. Anyway, he...

Debb · Debb

I had an epiphany and wanted to share, because when you have suffered for a long period of time and have emerged a better person, the need to share becomes very important and the part of the last step in the Al-Anon protocol. I am not a very verbose person so you may find this short and sweet, but very to the...

Beatrice · Beatrice

I'm doing good. Sorry I have been remiss . I've been attending school to get my certification to be an Alcohol and Drug counselor. That's where I have been. Loving it... We are all counselor's here on this board with much experience and knowledge. Hope this finds you all doing well and living it every da...

lgnutah · lgnutah

I know I am not supposed to be trying to fix my Alcoholic, nor do I think I am in any way responsible for my A's choices. But if I feel annoyed at their repetitious blaming, negativity, and bad decisions.....does that mean I have not let go? Does anyone ever get to the point where the A' blaming, negati...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

just came from a meeting and was listening to the opening read: changed attitudes can aid recovery .. I began to think about power .. there's never been a time in my life when I was powerless . either I had the power to crush me or effect another in a negative way or the balance was that once I got in recovery,...

Jme · Jme

My husband has 18 months sobriety and for the first time in an 8 year struggle is active in AA, has a sponsor, is working the steps and is make amends. This has been the best 18 months of our marriage and I am finally starting to trust him again and he has repaired so much damage done over the years. For the l...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had a lovely conversation last night with a lovely man and I actually think I was being hit on .. lol. Seriously speaking not something I'm usually aware of if and when it does happen. At least he's not married .. lol . well I haven't gotten that full story yet. I know he's in transition. The statemen...

LinSC · LinSC

I just want to say there are some good people on this board, people who are trying there best to recover in Al-Anon. And being careful not to hurt others in the process, people who think first before reacting to keep the peace. Gentle lovers as Jerry might agree. All in all making the earth where ever you a...

hotrod · hotrod

Daylight savings time, went into effect last night here in New York City. It is difficult to get used to, but I love the increased daylight in the mornings and evening. The C2 C reading for today is a great reminder of an important reason for attending meetings or even coming here to MIP. to post or s...

mjferg · mjferg

I received some bad news,I will be losing half of my income soon!I don't know how I am going to make it.I am going to have to move and I don't know if I am emotionally ready for the stress.I am really worried about keeping up with school during the process of moving.I am so tired it seems like I constantly str...

Truth · Truth

Today I have to surrender and let go ... It kind of sucks when your HP teaches you things and then you can see what is going on and want to force the lesson on others. All in due time or maybe never, my part is just to say no.

missmeliss · missmeliss

When last I posted here, A had been staying over and making himself indispensable. I mean he was, for a couple of weeks, really, really nice. Nicer and more helpful to me than he has been. quite literally, EVER. And I was thinking well, hey, maybe? Of course it deteriorated, he started trying to enforce...

a4l · a4l

well I'm back and hopefully still welcome. I was aqua mom: I took a break for reasons all my own. I return to think on making amends. Many thoughts. My f2f group is a true balm, yet I found a connection here via writing and reading that I really connect with. And I miss everyone, Hotrod,my hero, Jerry,who s...

el-cee · el-cee

Todays reading is about beauty and how living with alcoholism can mean we have a negative self defeating attitude and dont see the beauty in ourselves. It talks about how changing our negative attitude into a positive makes us more beautiful human beings. Living with love and gratitude brings out ou...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

IM WORKING HARD AT ALANON,FACE TO FACE MEETING,READING,WORKING ON THE PATHS BOOK,GO ON OUR GROUP OFTEN. I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT EVEN WITH THE BEHAVIOR AH SHOWED, WE CAN WORK IT OUT. HE IS IN REHAB NOW MY SPONSER IS A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC AND HER HUSBAND IS A RECOVERING LCOHOLIC AND HER SON IS A RECOVE...

Jen61 · Jen61

I have had the hardest time with detaching. I would have these conversations in my mind every day, being irritable - all with a pit in my stomach. About a month or so ago my husband went to visit his brothers and I opted to stay home. I said a lot of prayers and then felt that warm feeling inside that he und...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

In the 4.5 years I have been with my AH I have never seen him take a drink. Not. Once. And we are talking an alcoholic who drinks listerine and rubbing alcohol when hes desperate. He's hardcore. This means I have chronic anxiety about whether or not he's drunk. A month ago, he crashed our car and blew a...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello everyone I hope you all are well and working on getting better. I'm on and off again this emotional ride still even though the alcholic is not currently in my life but the remains of the disease still lives on in me and in my house. My health is not well I been in the hospital off and on due to my stress le...

el-cee · el-cee

This has been day 5 of not having a voice. Ive got laryngitis, cant make a sound. I usually dont shut up so this is a weird experiemce. Its like my higher power has pulled my brakes and said stop. The chattering inside my head is never ending thougn. So, no work, no phonecalls, nothing. Feeling so sorry for...

Truth · Truth

Well after repeating to myself ... Over and over again ... "I am capable of making healthy decisions". I am starting to feel like my old self. My old self was a person who had boundaries, liked making healthy choices, and was not fearful of others responses to my choices. I am also learning...

hotrod · hotrod

I can so identify with today's reading in the Courage to Change. It speaks about expecting others to know what we need and want, without having to ask for it. It points out that no one is a mind reader and no one can tell what is in my mind, heart and soul unless I reveal it. Before program I always felt as if my...

LedfootJenny · LedfootJenny

Hi Everyone, I'm Jenny and I'm new here - but have already felt so inspired and supported by your stories. Thank you. I've been at this recovery thing awhile. I'm married to an addict who has had a recent relapse after several years of being clean...however, I see now that he's what you might call a dry...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Hello all = I always feel better when I get ES&H from you guys. I have been struggling all week, when I start the stinking thinking, I say the serenity prayer, go to a meeting and think of slogans. One that is coming to mind is "It's non of my business what others think of me" Friday night at a...

marsaray · marsaray

Six years ago I met a girl and fell in love with her, she was on many prescription pills but I didn't think it was a big deal. We lived together for 3 years and at the end she turned into a full on alcoholic/drug abuser. I left her at the end because she refused to get help and she blamed me for help addiction. We...

losingit · losingit

Thanks everyone for alanon -- Edited by losingit on Friday 6th of March 2015 10:18:57 AM

hotrod · hotrod

The ODAT today suggests that just because we practice Al-Anon,it does not mean that life will always be completely joyful and happy. It points out that when we are strengthened by the Al-Anon philosophy, we find ourselves able to look at things in their proper perspective and that by starting...

Hopefull15 · Hopefull15

My husband who is active keeps harrasing me about my 'progress' He knows that I go to 'meetings' to help me 'be a better person and to help me deal with some childhood dysfunction that I grew up in but thats all Ive told him. Now he keeps asking me 'so what have u learned' and 'what exactly are the things ur tr...

TryingToMoveOn · TryingToMoveOn

My husband is an addict. To my knowledge, he has not been using for some time now. But things are just awful. His behavior is erratic and I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop and then his incredible anger will come crashing down. He refuses or 'forgets' to...

Tash2 · Tash2

Hi all not posted for a while. Been looking after myself & working my program. I've learned loads from alannon & on here & can't believe how much better I am! anyway, after 2 years of watching My AH suffer with the consequences of his drinking, hes finally made that step & gone to AA. Iv...

el-cee · el-cee

I think i may owe some mip folks an apology. I have come to realise that i dont always give esh away freely. It often comes with expectations that are unrealistic on my part, like, i know best kind of esh, so you better listen to me. Sometimes the suggestions i give have an underlying demand attached. I sti...

CoopsMom · CoopsMom

Hi Everyone, I have to admit that I have been anonymously reading your conversations for a few months now and it has helped me feel more and more comfortable about jumping into this recovery program. I have read 'how al-anon works', Getting them Sober, and a few other books you all have recommended a...

ladybugnessa · ladybugnessa

Hi Gang, Hope you all had a great weekend. Saturday something happened and I think I may be getting this whole detachment thing. We were going to play some board games and AH got frustrated with something I don't even remember what, and he yelled and called me his favorite B word. I just put my stuff...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The reason(I think) that I don't post much anymore is because I am no longer in a crisis. That should never be an excuse for me. I know that I have a lot to be of assistance to others. It isn't about me. I just hope in the future I am not apprehensive about being there for anyone. I used to feel like I had so much t...

Bloodshotbetty · Bloodshotbetty

Hi everyone, My name is Alycia and I have been lurking on these boards for a couple of weeks now. I plan to attend one of the online meetings soon! 1 month ago my AH decided to drive our car while intoxicated. He is very sneaky with his drinking and me nor our friends had any idea he was drunk. He hit a parke...

hotrod · hotrod

The C2C for today speaks about working the steps and being afraid of having our defects removed. Many of us feel that will be an empty shell if these defects are lifted. The reading points out that in no way nor in any step do we ever ask HP to add anything to us. We only request that our negative attitude...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Sex/intimacy and the alc marriage (Preview) well, i hve posted thoughts on this topic before but find i need to revisit it again , bc although im getting off the roller coaster from last week there are always more rides to come. . this week its sex. something i dont talk about well and according to my ah, im lousy at and completly uninterested in. (ok...	Theoceancalls	20	1192	Mar 14, 2015 by Mirandac
	C2C 3-13 (Preview) Today's reading in the C2C talks about Step 7 and focuses on the word HUMBLE. It reminds us that many times we view this word as a negative, tearful, embarrassing experience but that being humble can actually be accomplished with humor and joy. It builds on the reading this week that spoke about...	hotrod	3	378	Mar 13, 2015 by Skorpi
	Where can a person go for help when their loved one's Alcoholism/drug addiction results in lethal overdose? (Preview) I know AlAnon is for people whose lives are affected by Alcoholism...but I think this means the Alcoholic is still alive. What organization (online or other) is there for those whose relative succumbed to the disease? Grief support groups generally seem to be geared toward a different kind of death...	lgnutah	7	743	Mar 13, 2015 by lgnutah
	heads up (Preview) Spent yesterday afternoon partly in the ER. I've been having head aches for just over 3 months. Yesterday was severe and the VA wasn't open just the Hospital ER. They did the needles and tests and then CRT or what ever. My headaches yesterday were off the scale and I couldn't wait for the VA on the 1...	Jerry F	39	861	Mar 13, 2015 by Jerry F
	Tradition 4 posted (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t59808974/tradition-4-alanon/	hotrod	0	686	Mar 13, 2015 by hotrod
	Can my husband get clean without going to rehab (Preview) My husband finally admitted that he is an alcholic. This was a big step for him but it was a long time coming. Over this past weekend he drank so much vodka that he was out of control. I took the kids and left and then he admitted it to me that night. He surprised me yesterday and went to an AA meeting where h...	Jazzie18	10	678	Mar 13, 2015 by Cooper
	A definition of acceptance (Preview) I was listening to a speaker on a tape AA or Al Anon-- I cannot recall which) who said that every time she has trouble accepting something it is because she is longing for a choice that isn't available. This really resonated with me!	Irish7	7	3122	Mar 12, 2015 by andromeda
	Husband went to his second AA meeting (Preview) I was so excited when he went to his second meeting last night. Not too excited when he came home asking to have a beer. I told him I didn't think it was a good idea and he went ahead and had a beer with dinner. It was so hard for me to not be super pissed at him. I told him that I was really proud of him for going...	Jazzie18	7	531	Mar 12, 2015 by Mattie
	Things that make you sigh... (Preview) I won't rehash all the issues I have had with my son the last few years but his drinking and drug use is well known in our family and his moms family yet people still want to feed the animal. I just saw a FaceBook posting from my daughter, she and my son were at their moms house for a dinner. In the picture...	Cooper	6	656	Mar 12, 2015 by Cooper
	C2C 3-12 (Preview) The Courage to Change reading for today presents the idea of detachment in a very simple format. It states that Detachment with love simply means that I stop depending on what others do, say or feel to determine my own well-being, or make my decisions.When faced with others destructive attitudes an...	hotrod	3	426	Mar 12, 2015 by Jerry F
	Feeling Pushed (Preview) i have been feeling pushed and i do not like the feeling. I have a tendency to push back. My ah is pushing my buttons for pre settlement money, selling the house immediately and he wants to move on. Ah is unwilling to split assets or pay spousal support. We have a high monthly mtg and payments. They are...	Mirandac	11	594	Mar 11, 2015 by Mirandac
	C2C 3 11 (Preview) The reading in the C2C today is very applicable. It talks about MMOB and uses humor to address this difficult defect that I had so much trouble shedding.The reading suggests that laughter and humor are extremely important in facing ourselves and the mistakes we make because it makes frailties...	hotrod	4	427	Mar 11, 2015 by hotrod
	Boundaries and a line in the sand? (Preview) Hi everyone, Well, my day got more difficult, and I am having trouble processing. Again. I was at work, called my wife on my way to my second job. She was out walking our new-to-us dog. (She has been with us about 5 days now, came to us instead of being destroyed, and is the most mild-mannered, sweet dog y...	Skorpi	20	841	Mar 11, 2015 by Mattie
	the myths about detaching (Preview) The little alanon pamphlet called detachment has been very important to me. It was one of the first things i read and one of the first things that gave me that moment of wow, this is it, this is what i need to do. At first, it went against every idea i was brought up to believe. The influences in my life, my mot...	el-cee	6	833	Mar 11, 2015 by DavidG
	Dealing with someone misleading you... (Preview) Okay so I really did not expect anything different so I am not hurt or upset. I am wondering what is a healthy way to respond when you have discovered someone has mislead you by leaving out important information that would have changed your decision.	Truth	14	850	Mar 10, 2015 by Truth
	Feeling sad about reaction from sister. (Preview) As I have mentioned before,my AH drove drunk and flipped our car with us in it. Since then, many members of my family have not wanted contact with him. Which I understand. I have a niece and nephew who are the light of my world. My sister told me she doesn't want my AH around the kids. I have regular sle...	Bloodshotbetty	15	791	Mar 10, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Is loss of interest typical as you work the al anon program? (Preview) I've been going to f2f al anon meetings for 3 months and am working the program very intently. I've also been listening to speaker tapes daily, and it get so much from them. I attend an open AA meeting each week, which helps me develop compassion that I lacked here at home with AH and alcoholic stepson (I t...	Irish7	12	630	Mar 10, 2015 by Fairlee
	AC O A (Preview) Hallo I would like to ask you, other adult children of alcoholics how do u feel and how is your life like???do u also feel often sad and depressed?like u dont know where u going in life and what u want and who u really are?my life is full of ups and downs and i have mood swings and terrible feelings of isolatio...	mersi	6	724	Mar 10, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	This is what I did for me today. (Preview) I have been finding that I am back to that bad habit of concentrating on others way too much. I have decided to go back to two hobbies I used to have. I am going to gardening programs, want to someday get my master gardener designation, I have been to two programs, a fruit tree sale and have two programs to go...	mercedes1959	19	624	Mar 10, 2015 by mercedes1959
	Our Thinking (Preview) I've heard in meetings lately "My thinking can kill me." Please share what that means to you, and what you do about it. Thank you.	WorkingThroughIt	8	545	Mar 10, 2015 by WorkingThroughIt
	Hope For Today Mar 10 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: The focus of today's reading is the slogan "Live And Let Live". The writer admits not being completely comfortable with the phrase, until an Alanon speaker compared it to working his own plot of land (his 'emotional acre') and not trying to tend other people's. This me...	yanksfan51	2	558	Mar 10, 2015 by hotrod
	Trying to stay off the roller-coaster (Preview) Hi Everyone, It has been close to a month since my wife wrecked her car, and I feel like my journey with Alanon has been extremely positive and productive so far. I have been working on detachment, and letting my wife make her own decisions and be responsible for those decisions. While I make my own dec...	Skorpi	4	1258	Mar 9, 2015 by Skorpi
	Today was a beautiful day (Preview) And I didn't have to do anything to make it so - Its early March and our temp was in the mid-sixties; I spent a lot of time yesterday and today trimming that in my yard that needed trimming and then, this morning found me burning burning burning it to my heart's content. Nearing the end of the pyromaniac hou...	likemyheart	4	578	Mar 9, 2015 by Breakingfree
	3-9 ODAT (Preview) The ODA T reading for today is really powerful and thought provoking. It speaks about one of the symptoms of living with the disease of alcoholism.--- which is an attack of anger. It defines this attack as an "uncontrollable impulse to judge and condemn someone". In this explosion. I am re...	hotrod	3	499	Mar 9, 2015 by Debb
	nightmares and fear upon my exAH being released from jail in next couple days #fearful #reopened old wounds (Preview) I always come back for guidance. My life has been going well last few months. Unbeleivably well actually. My ex AH has been tying his life up with legal probs, rehabs and jail for breaking probation requirements with more DWI's. BTW ... the abilility to buy out (have disposed) DWI's in Tx is unnerving!...	sweeetr	19	907	Mar 9, 2015 by sweeetr
	Am I setting boundaries or being controlling? (Preview) Yesterday, my husband brought hard liquor in to our home, which is something I have told him many times is unacceptable to me. He tends to become verbally abusive after consuming hard liquor and it is very upsetting even though I try to detatch. It happens every time he touches the stuff. Anyway, he...	Smiley99	6	479	Mar 9, 2015 by Jerry F
	Sharing My Epiphany (Preview) I had an epiphany and wanted to share, because when you have suffered for a long period of time and have emerged a better person, the need to share becomes very important and the part of the last step in the Al-Anon protocol. I am not a very verbose person so you may find this short and sweet, but very to the...	Debb	7	557	Mar 9, 2015 by Debb
	Hi All!! (Preview) I'm doing good. Sorry I have been remiss . I've been attending school to get my certification to be an Alcohol and Drug counselor. That's where I have been. Loving it... We are all counselor's here on this board with much experience and knowledge. Hope this finds you all doing well and living it every da...	Beatrice	5	510	Mar 9, 2015 by Beatrice
	Is feeling fed up with an Alcoholic's behavior a sign of progress or my inability to "let go"? (Preview) I know I am not supposed to be trying to fix my Alcoholic, nor do I think I am in any way responsible for my A's choices. But if I feel annoyed at their repetitious blaming, negativity, and bad decisions.....does that mean I have not let go? Does anyone ever get to the point where the A' blaming, negati...	lgnutah	12	673	Mar 9, 2015 by SunshineGirl
	changed attitudes .. power & Power .. just sharing & reflecting with coffee . (Preview) just came from a meeting and was listening to the opening read: changed attitudes can aid recovery .. I began to think about power .. there's never been a time in my life when I was powerless . either I had the power to crush me or effect another in a negative way or the balance was that once I got in recovery,...	MeTwo2	3	620	Mar 8, 2015 by hotrod
	18 months sober- now drinking O'douls (Preview) My husband has 18 months sobriety and for the first time in an 8 year struggle is active in AA, has a sponsor, is working the steps and is make amends. This has been the best 18 months of our marriage and I am finally starting to trust him again and he has repaired so much damage done over the years. For the l...	Jme	22	13888	Mar 8, 2015 by Mattie
	Calculated loss (Preview) I had a lovely conversation last night with a lovely man and I actually think I was being hit on .. lol. Seriously speaking not something I'm usually aware of if and when it does happen. At least he's not married .. lol . well I haven't gotten that full story yet. I know he's in transition. The statemen...	SerenityRUS	23	695	Mar 8, 2015 by SerenityRUS
	Great People (Preview) I just want to say there are some good people on this board, people who are trying there best to recover in Al-Anon. And being careful not to hurt others in the process, people who think first before reacting to keep the peace. Gentle lovers as Jerry might agree. All in all making the earth where ever you a...	LinSC	10	490	Mar 8, 2015 by el-cee
	C2C and ODAT 3- 8 (Preview) Daylight savings time, went into effect last night here in New York City. It is difficult to get used to, but I love the increased daylight in the mornings and evening. The C2 C reading for today is a great reminder of an important reason for attending meetings or even coming here to MIP. to post or s...	hotrod	1	226	Mar 8, 2015 by KennyFenderjazz
	uphill battle (Preview) I received some bad news,I will be losing half of my income soon!I don't know how I am going to make it.I am going to have to move and I don't know if I am emotionally ready for the stress.I am really worried about keeping up with school during the process of moving.I am so tired it seems like I constantly str...	mjferg	4	384	Mar 8, 2015 by mjferg
	Surrender (Preview) Today I have to surrender and let go ... It kind of sucks when your HP teaches you things and then you can see what is going on and want to force the lesson on others. All in due time or maybe never, my part is just to say no.	Truth	5	530	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	Talk about wow! (Preview) When last I posted here, A had been staying over and making himself indispensable. I mean he was, for a couple of weeks, really, really nice. Nicer and more helpful to me than he has been. quite literally, EVER. And I was thinking well, hey, maybe? Of course it deteriorated, he started trying to enforce...	missmeliss	19	841	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	time to think (Preview) well I'm back and hopefully still welcome. I was aqua mom: I took a break for reasons all my own. I return to think on making amends. Many thoughts. My f2f group is a true balm, yet I found a connection here via writing and reading that I really connect with. And I miss everyone, Hotrod,my hero, Jerry,who s...	a4l	8	492	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	c2c 7th march-beauty (Preview) Todays reading is about beauty and how living with alcoholism can mean we have a negative self defeating attitude and dont see the beauty in ourselves. It talks about how changing our negative attitude into a positive makes us more beautiful human beings. Living with love and gratitude brings out ou...	el-cee	4	345	Mar 7, 2015 by Debb
	DONT ANY OF YOU STAY WITH YOUR LONG TIME HUSBAND? (Preview) IM WORKING HARD AT ALANON,FACE TO FACE MEETING,READING,WORKING ON THE PATHS BOOK,GO ON OUR GROUP OFTEN. I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT EVEN WITH THE BEHAVIOR AH SHOWED, WE CAN WORK IT OUT. HE IS IN REHAB NOW MY SPONSER IS A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC AND HER HUSBAND IS A RECOVERING LCOHOLIC AND HER SON IS A RECOVE...	YARNCRAZY	29	1113	Mar 7, 2015 by Beatrice
	Detaching (Preview) I have had the hardest time with detaching. I would have these conversations in my mind every day, being irritable - all with a pit in my stomach. About a month or so ago my husband went to visit his brothers and I opted to stay home. I said a lot of prayers and then felt that warm feeling inside that he und...	Jen61	4	495	Mar 7, 2015 by hotrod
	Tonight I am angry and struggling to detach. (Preview) In the 4.5 years I have been with my AH I have never seen him take a drink. Not. Once. And we are talking an alcoholic who drinks listerine and rubbing alcohol when hes desperate. He's hardcore. This means I have chronic anxiety about whether or not he's drunk. A month ago, he crashed our car and blew a...	Bloodshotbetty	5	676	Mar 7, 2015 by Mattie
	Hardship and health and support (Preview) Hello everyone I hope you all are well and working on getting better. I'm on and off again this emotional ride still even though the alcholic is not currently in my life but the remains of the disease still lives on in me and in my house. My health is not well I been in the hospital off and on due to my stress le...	Wisdom67	7	757	Mar 6, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	higher power telling me to be quiet?? (Preview) This has been day 5 of not having a voice. Ive got laryngitis, cant make a sound. I usually dont shut up so this is a weird experiemce. Its like my higher power has pulled my brakes and said stop. The chattering inside my head is never ending thougn. So, no work, no phonecalls, nothing. Feeling so sorry for...	el-cee	6	605	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Learning my Triggers and my Choices (Preview) Well after repeating to myself ... Over and over again ... "I am capable of making healthy decisions". I am starting to feel like my old self. My old self was a person who had boundaries, liked making healthy choices, and was not fearful of others responses to my choices. I am also learning...	Truth	5	475	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	C2C 3 6 (Preview) I can so identify with today's reading in the Courage to Change. It speaks about expecting others to know what we need and want, without having to ask for it. It points out that no one is a mind reader and no one can tell what is in my mind, heart and soul unless I reveal it. Before program I always felt as if my...	hotrod	3	352	Mar 6, 2015 by MeTwo2
	Help with an A who "J.A.D.E"s (Preview) Hi Everyone, I'm Jenny and I'm new here - but have already felt so inspired and supported by your stories. Thank you. I've been at this recovery thing awhile. I'm married to an addict who has had a recent relapse after several years of being clean...however, I see now that he's what you might call a dry...	LedfootJenny	25	1589	Mar 6, 2015 by LedfootJenny
	Working on detachment (Preview) Hello all = I always feel better when I get ES&H from you guys. I have been struggling all week, when I start the stinking thinking, I say the serenity prayer, go to a meeting and think of slogans. One that is coming to mind is "It's non of my business what others think of me" Friday night at a...	mercedes1959	19	733	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	Really need help and advice (Preview) Six years ago I met a girl and fell in love with her, she was on many prescription pills but I didn't think it was a big deal. We lived together for 3 years and at the end she turned into a full on alcoholic/drug abuser. I left her at the end because she refused to get help and she blamed me for help addiction. We...	marsaray	7	613	Mar 6, 2015 by Truth
	Thanks (Preview) Thanks everyone for alanon -- Edited by losingit on Friday 6th of March 2015 10:18:57 AM	losingit	4	970	Mar 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	ODAT reading March 4th (Preview) The ODAT today suggests that just because we practice Al-Anon,it does not mean that life will always be completely joyful and happy. It points out that when we are strengthened by the Al-Anon philosophy, we find ourselves able to look at things in their proper perspective and that by starting...	hotrod	3	299	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	My alcoholic keeps trying to take my inventory... (Preview) My husband who is active keeps harrasing me about my 'progress' He knows that I go to 'meetings' to help me 'be a better person and to help me deal with some childhood dysfunction that I grew up in but thats all Ive told him. Now he keeps asking me 'so what have u learned' and 'what exactly are the things ur tr...	Hopefull15	15	860	Mar 6, 2015 by Mirandac
	In a bad place, trying to get to a better one (Preview) My husband is an addict. To my knowledge, he has not been using for some time now. But things are just awful. His behavior is erratic and I feel like I am constantly walking on eggshells, waiting for the other shoe to drop and then his incredible anger will come crashing down. He refuses or 'forgets' to...	TryingToMoveOn	10	427	Mar 6, 2015 by hotrod
	Gone to AA so why do I feel so sad? (Preview) Hi all not posted for a while. Been looking after myself & working my program. I've learned loads from alannon & on here & can't believe how much better I am! anyway, after 2 years of watching My AH suffer with the consequences of his drinking, hes finally made that step & gone to AA. Iv...	Tash2	10	630	Mar 6, 2015 by Jerry F
	an amends (Preview) I think i may owe some mip folks an apology. I have come to realise that i dont always give esh away freely. It often comes with expectations that are unrealistic on my part, like, i know best kind of esh, so you better listen to me. Sometimes the suggestions i give have an underlying demand attached. I sti...	el-cee	14	564	Mar 5, 2015 by LinSC
	I am new here and would like to thank you all. (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have to admit that I have been anonymously reading your conversations for a few months now and it has helped me feel more and more comfortable about jumping into this recovery program. I have read 'how al-anon works', Getting them Sober, and a few other books you all have recommended a...	CoopsMom	6	611	Mar 5, 2015 by YARNCRAZY
	Would you define this as Loving Detachment... or what? (Preview) Hi Gang, Hope you all had a great weekend. Saturday something happened and I think I may be getting this whole detachment thing. We were going to play some board games and AH got frustrated with something I don't even remember what, and he yelled and called me his favorite B word. I just put my stuff...	ladybugnessa	12	722	Mar 5, 2015 by Hopefull15
	don't post much anymore (Preview) The reason(I think) that I don't post much anymore is because I am no longer in a crisis. That should never be an excuse for me. I know that I have a lot to be of assistance to others. It isn't about me. I just hope in the future I am not apprehensive about being there for anyone. I used to feel like I had so much t...	Hoot Nanny	1	417	Mar 5, 2015 by hotrod
	New here! (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is Alycia and I have been lurking on these boards for a couple of weeks now. I plan to attend one of the online meetings soon! 1 month ago my AH decided to drive our car while intoxicated. He is very sneaky with his drinking and me nor our friends had any idea he was drunk. He hit a parke...	Bloodshotbetty	7	449	Mar 5, 2015 by Bloodshotbetty
	C2C reading for 2-3 (Preview) The C2C for today speaks about working the steps and being afraid of having our defects removed. Many of us feel that will be an empty shell if these defects are lifted. The reading points out that in no way nor in any step do we ever ask HP to add anything to us. We only request that our negative attitude...	hotrod	4	388	Mar 5, 2015 by karma13
«First < 1 … 189 190 191 192 193 … 822 > Last» \| Page of 822 sorted by

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.