The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
so this was what happened when I got home... I can see how this program is working for both of us....
I got home and he was home and on the couch.
He has NEVER apologized to me without prompting. I have come to not expect an apology from him when he's over reacting or rude. I have also learned SOMEWHAT to practice detached loving in that I was mad but I let it go (NOT MY CIRCUS NOT MY MONKEYS) . I walked away. when I saw him next i did not hold a grudge... I did not ask for an apology or treat him with anger. I just forgot he was an a**** and moved on.
HE apologized out of the clear blue. OMG... very new behavior for both of us...
he also said "I know when you said "gotta go" that you didn't you just didn't want to talk to me. He GOT IT.
He also brought me a treat from his program (this is how he shows me love I learned that from the book The five languages of love) but he didn't bring me cookies like he normally does he brought me salad greens (which I love) and he said "I always bring cookies but you are always dieting so I brought salad"
THIS means he thought about what I WANTED not what HE wanted me to want.
I also got a sponsor last night.
fake it till you make it... I did and it's working.
and YOU guys really are helping
thanks so very very much.
-- Edited by hotrod on Wednesday 18th of March 2015 07:43:45 AM
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We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.
