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new to board
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I am new to this board and am feeling very overwhelmed and hope someone can help. My mother and I have not spoken in about 18 months due to her alcoholism. I have been covering for her my whole life and finally had enough. I told her i would always be there for her but she needed to stop dr...
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in need of information
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hello everyone
i'm looking for information on al anon group meetings in california........i'm in a relationship with an A (for 5yrs).... he has only been going to his meeting since about a month ago......he has been sober/clean since then.........now he spends most of his time on the phone with h...
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rolieselene
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Mom, Me and the Jigsaw Puzzle :)
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Hello friends,
I have been so patient and loving with my mom who has alzheimers. She has been working on a jigsaw puzzle which she cannot do. She seems to enjoy her time figuring out how to fit the pieces together that really don't go together afterall :) I don't say too much...
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cdb
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Need Chair Tonight - Step 7 Meeting
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Sorry for the short notice, but just found out I need to go pick hubby up and won't be back on time to chair tonight's meeting. It is a Step meeting, we are on Step Seven. My apologies...and my thanks to whoever is able to chair.
Kis
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kismetstrand
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Still can't get to on-line meeting HELP!
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I have gone to the e-mail address that was given to me, I've have downloaded mIRC to try to get to it and still can't get through
I need help PLEASE, really need a meeting I will do anything which I am right now reaching out for help.
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mandy_loves_GOD
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Things are still good
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Hello all!
It has been awhile since I have had the time to post and even this morning I don't have a whole lot of time. I have been working more and then with the 4 kids I find I have very little time for myself. I am however taking this weekend off. Hubby is still doing good with his sobriety. Things are slow...
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For Diva
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Hey there
everytime i read one of your posts, i feel better and like the way you explain things, You are very wise and i appreciate you being here....
i also replyed to you in my "crisis" post if you have time to go back and read i would appreciate it. i hope i am not being tooo self...
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browneyes
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Just Checking in
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Hi Everyone...no big drama today...just wanted to post and let everybody know how it's going for me.
First, thanks to all for your posts and replies. It's like getting an answer before I even ask a question. And, I have a hard time verbalizing any problem, so I really appreciate all the...
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Belongtome
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Relationship with recovering A.
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I have been dating a recovering a. for about a month or so. She has been sober for just over a year and regulary attends AA meetings. I care very deeply for this person and value her well-being and continued sobriety. I understand that this is something she needs to deal with on her own (with the hel...
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Aaron212
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twelve steps workbook??
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Thanks to all that replied to my "slipping again" post.
I am working on a lot of what was said, you all just reminded me of what I already know. I really feel bad when I go off the deep end because I know my a is trying and I think that my foolish reactions are pushing him away.&nb...
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holly123
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slipping again
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I am so very frustrated right now both with myself and my a. I can't seem to stop reacting to him or setting myself up for rejection. It's mostly because sometimes he suprises me and does something I'm sure he won't but most of the time he doesn't so why do I keep expecting him to want to be a par...
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holly123
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Keeping the Focus on Me
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Hiya eveyone,
I am not sure what has been going on with me of late. However, in the last couple of weeks I have been on my husband about the possibility of him drinking again. For whatever reason the fear is kicking up big time. I know he has dropped off his meeting schedule and isnt r...
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AlaMom
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Awakening
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Hi everyone,
I am new here. I called AA last week and they recommended I seek help from Al-Anon. Through my searching I found this board as well as other websites that seem helpful. It's amazing reading some of your posts how similar my story is to some of yours. I would love to hear any input on my situat...
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Strong4myboys
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Traits of an alcoholic
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My husband found this old book in a thrift shop, "The Trouble With Alcohol". I liked this section, does it sound like anybody you know?
Most alcoholics have four character traits that keep them frustrated, in pain, moody, and desocialized. It is a good idea to take a hard look at these traits.
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lin0606
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New Babies update , 1 happy, 1 sad
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Hi You guys
Well....last night was like a movie. Dan's family is very blessed, his new nephew Connor made a perfect healthy entrance into the world at 10 PM ...his parents Jim & Michelle and the grandparents all thrilled and grateful
A few doors down the hall , the opposite scenario was...
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fiona123
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how do I get to on-line al-anon meeting
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Help I can't get to on -line meeting's anymore I need your help to get there PLEASE.....
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mandy_loves_GOD
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What is this?
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I don't know what this uneasiness is about. There is nothing really pressing on my mind. Last night was my holiday and maybe I am dreading going to work later tonight. Maybe it is feeling overwhelmed with chores. First things firs...
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need more info
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hi everyone,
I really do love this site but I'm looking for a chat room other than the one here. If anyone knows of a good one please let me know. I have trouble fitting in to this one. What I really need is a sponser but have not found one yet. I don't go to many face to face meetin...
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nikkilou
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What exactly do I want
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Friends,
I come to the board very unsure of myself at this point. Some of you may know me many may not however my qualifier is my wife who has been affected by alcohol and gambling and has been to rehab 3 times, third time for both addictions. My source of confusion lately is not her drinking gambling, it...
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Mark S
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new to this
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Hello I am Cam
I have just came back from the lodge where my wife is in treatment. This place has what they call family week where the family can participate for a week. The family learns about the disease and how it effects the alcoholic and the rest of the people that are around the alcoholi...
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Cam
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Need help explaining to children
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I need help explaining addiction and father's abandonment to my children. They don't understand, I don't understand. The kids have only recently begun asking more questions (8 months after thier father and I split up). I know I need to start going to meetings. I'v...
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Michelle2
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New Member
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Hi,
I am hoping that there will be great ideas and support for me here. I don't even know where to start, the story is long and I get tired of my own story.
I will say that my husband of almost 7 years is an alcoholic and cocaine user. We met when I was his bartender. He cleaned up his li...
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marmare
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Home Coming
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Hello Friends,
I don't know why, but I le tmyself sink into the ugliness again. I have been sitting on the pitty-pot for who knows how long (long enough to let my nick expire). Feeling sorry for myself, for my kids, and for my addict. I went into the insanity of my disease, and feeling hateful to him for h...
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Dolphin123
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Itsmetc????
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Hello tc,
I am not sure if you are checking the message board out but if you are, I have been thinking of you and saying prayers for you. (((((((((((((((tc,son)))))))))))) Hope to catch up with you soon when I am back to my computer. I still have your email address at home but not here. Hang in there and t...
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cdb
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ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE !!
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Good morning all~ Glad to be back after a short hiatus ! I am so grateful for this forum and the message boards that I found some 3 yrs ago. I spent the morning here trying to get grounded and found such peace being here. Today I am grateful for all of you and this program that has shown me a bette...
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carla035
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Cjo/Christy
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Hello Cjo,
This morning my mom saw a doe outside the cabin on the road here! I told her about your interpretation of the sightings like that. What would it mean now that she saw a doe? She asked the neighbors if they saw it and none of them did. One neighbor told her there have been bears around here before...
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cdb
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a beginner
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Hi Everyone
I'm new to the online AL Anon but I've been to many face to face meetings. I feel it's really helped me. I've been educating myself and learning how to take care of myself. My husband is a closet alcoholic. Just three months ago, a little less than a year, being married, it was confirmed, he h...
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jmot
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Nature's beauty/serenity
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Hello friends,
I am finding that when I see the beautiful things in nature such as today that it brings serenity to me. Right outside the front yard here at the cabin are squirrels, a chipmunk, woodpeckers, finches, hummingbirds, chickadees, etc. I wish you all could be here with me to...
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cdb
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world conference toronto
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just back from the World AA conference in Toronto, Ontario Canada!
Awesome! Met people from all over the world.
Any of you here?
going to the last meeting tomorrow morning.
jo
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jo4
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just when I made my decison....
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Hello all, again,
Long story short, I filed for divorce on Monday. My husband was still in California, partying night and day and ignoring his family and responsibilities. He has spent soooo much money---you would not believe how much.
So, now he came back. He's been...
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mom to 2
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say it out loud
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Good morning folks,
They say say it outloud so it doesnt have the same amount of power.I came here this morning have no where to go to say it.I am still out of a job both kids are working i feel like scum of the earth.
Last night we dug for change trying to get gas in the cars and corn dogs for d...
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dori
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Anxiety (for the July 4 Holidays)
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I am leaving this post for the weekend. Any reading on anxiety from Courage to Change may help. This one particularly looked inviting to me from Courage to Change. p. 290 Sometimes, there is just too much going on, or too many folks around...
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wallsal55
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Relapse Again
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Well he has relapsed again. Can't go more than 2 or 3 months. Was going to AA meetings almost daily but it did no good. He even called whole bunch of counsellors in the phone book yesterday but few took medicaid and those that did were not taking new patients. Really starting t...
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lebe27
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I am ok!!!!! (c:
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I went to the surgeon today. He has done a lot of breast reductions. He also has felt a lot of breast tissue that has problems there.
He said mine felt fine.That what he thinks she felt was scare tissue from a lump I had removed before. He also said that may be what is getting sore.
Of course It was no...
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debilyn
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Shasta(Idaho), meth, daughter
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Hello friends,
Wow, this story with the girl Shasta Groene has hit close to home with me. My daughter's old boyfriend that I have called her druggy boyfriend who lives in Fargo, ND where that Joseph Duncan is from sells meth there! My daughter went to High School with her ex-boyfriend w...
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cdb
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Where is josey? anybody know?
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Hello friends,
Josey was suppose to email me from the message board. If you see her would you tell her I sent her some email from the message board here and I am waiting for a reply. Please give her lots of hugs too as she is going through some new stressful things now. cdb
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cdb
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BUSINESS MEETING POSTPONED
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The Business Meeting scheduled for Wednesday, July 6 is postponed to the following Wednesday, July 13, at 7:00 PM EST.
Yours in recovery - Shimo (Jeri) -- Edited by shimo at 13:29, 2005-07-03
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shimo
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TUESDAY A.M. MEETING - JULY 5
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I am unable to chair the meeting for Tuesday morning. Hope someone will be able to step up in my place and I thank you in advance.
Yours in recovery - Shimo (Jeri)
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shimo
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forced retirement
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Well Friday was a down day for hubby and me he was forced to retire from his stressful
job he will be 67 in Sept and really I feel it is a blessing in disguise he was getting so
tired he kind of wanted to go another year but I dont think in my heart he would have
made it without getting sick or something. I d...
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Busbe
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AMBER ALERT
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Hey (((((((roomies)))))) a child has gone missing in my home town of Gardner Mass. Many news People and the community are on the look out she is twelve her name is Raven Randall, she was last seen being abducted into a green Mini van with a colored man, Please pray for her saftey. Massachusetts has had nu...
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cloud
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A filed for divorce
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Two nights ago I got served with divorce .....which I do not want. He told me he did it because I scared him. I am without a job and told him I was considering going to my parents for six weeks to work....I will make a minimum of 3000.00 during that time... making enough to pay the bills at home and not eat up al...
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swolves
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Doing well :)
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Hello friends,
I made it to my destination and things are going well. I am just very tired and so is my mom. I hope all is going well with all of you. I am saying prayers for those on my prayer list and also all of you here. My daughter still does not have a job and that boyfriend of hers is still visitin...
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cdb
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Surrender
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Surrender means saying, "Okay, God. I'll do whatever You want." Faith in the God of our recovery means we trust that, eventually, we'll like doing that.
Today, I will surrender to my Higher Power. I'll tust that God's plan for me will be go...
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wallsal55
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Thanks to HP
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I want to say a thank you to my HP for the small miracles in my life and the lives of others. Yesterday was my son's high school graduation. The ceremony was at 10:00 in the morning, on a work day for my a hubby, so he was actually sober and not reeking of alcohol at the event. Thank you HP.
Also yester...
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bcanuck
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Questions
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Hey all, glad to be here, hope you guys are doing well.
Just when i think i have all the answers(ha ha) something new pops up in my mind. i am going to go back to school in the fall so i can get a better paying job to support myself and two children so i can leave my a. but then i think if i k...
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browneyes
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How do I stop the worry?
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My son had been thru rehab numerous times and has always relapsed. He was living with us for a while but it didn't work out. Now I haven't heard from him in 6 weeks. I've learned to detach from his problem but I cant detach from him-I worry a lot about his well-being and where he is. We have been attending wee...
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neeinil
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July 4, Independence Day
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Celebrate your freedom....July 4th ( More Language of Letting Go )
Today in the United States, we celebrate our nation's independence. Why not take a moment to celebrate your independence as well? Whether you've found freed...
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wallsal55
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old feelings and old patterns
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Well, here I am again... I am faced with a $1,600 medical bill, partially because I didn't check to make sure I was with an "in-network" doctor. And I am sitting here and wondering how I get myself into these messes financially... It's not uncommon for me to get my finances in order and then basicall...
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jessi
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I filed for divorce
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For those who have been following my sordid tale---I went to the lawyer and filed for divorce today. I feel really good about the decision. I feel some peace knowing I'll never have to hope for help from my A, never have to count on him for anything again. I've completely given up all...
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mom to 2
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Prayers pls for struggling newborn
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Hi You guys
Me again...asking for more prayers.
A baby girl was born a few hours ago to a young coulpe ( family friends) with "severe downs- syndrome" and there is a possibility the little girl may not make it
This news came as a total shock to the family, as prenatal testing had never reveal...
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fiona123
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Chime in for the 4th Wkend.
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I hope everyone has a safe and somewhat calm 4th weekend. Just chiming in to say that it has been for me one of the toughest holidays in the past to get through. Without this board, I've had a couple of 4th of July's--well I made it ! Alive and well. I know one...
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wallsal55
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Bein an Op
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It is really hard to be an op. But it is very well worth it to give service to the group. I remember the days deblyin were talking about with lulu and mell1000 and bd. I miss those days very much. I do find the room has changed and its hard to take because of my expectations. and what it once was. I am not saying t...
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kerry5
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help on friday please?
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hi all, i have court scheduled for child support issues on friday 7/1...... although it promises to be a action packed fun filled morning, i will have to ask someone to fill in for me chairing cause it will prevent me from being here.
thank you in advance you wonderful person that steps up!!!!!...
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mastiff
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My A comes back Friday
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I wish I had more time to heal.
Alot of emotions right now.
30 days is not enough.
I wish I could be positive about this.
Let the shit hit the fan. I have to move on.
Taking one minute at a time.
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tullemars
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The Ant
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Hello (((((((Recovery Buddies))))))))
I heard a story this morning that I liked and thought I would share it with yall. Some of you may have heard it, but it was a new one to me.
There was this ant, a very hardworking, loyal member of the colony. He was always there toiling away carryin...
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david62
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Jest fer Eden Lovers!!
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Everything is normal here. Slept with 3 Bassets last night. Rufus just climbed
> on Lusterpig, who sleeps next to my bed on a pile of blankets, and got on my
> bed.
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> Of course my huge Winnie cat was up there too. She kept me quiet. Everytime I
> would say,"geez, YOU GUYS MOVE OVER!!" She would jump up,... >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
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debilyn
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New to al anon
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Hi I am new to al anon having attended my first meeting last week. I am in need of some support and guidance if possible. I live in Utah and the meetings here are very small. I have been reading the book how al anon works and am enjoying it, but am not sure how to put the steps in motion or into my life. Can anyone...
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loulou
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kids, respect and ADD
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Okay, now that I have introduced myself...this is my primary parenting problem. We are a blended home. Because my partner (I notice you call them your "A" here, so...) my A drinks only in the evening, during the day and early evening she is a great co-parent. She loves the ki...
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Stephanie
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Introduction
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I just wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of two, a girl 14 and a boy 12. My partner of 2 and 1/2 years is a "functional" alcoholic. She is a professional woman and maintains her work but drinks each night.
I look forward to having somewhere to ask questions particularly ab...
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Stephanie
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Feeling the guilt
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hey guys
well it is late and i just had a talk with my kids. they are 8 and almost 5. we were going to bed and my daughter (8) just bursts out with "i wanna move away from dad, i hate him, and i don't care if i have to switch schools again and i don't care if you have to work and i have to go to daycare&...
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browneyes
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