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Thanks again Al-anon
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Hi ((((Family))))
I just felt like letting you guys know how my day was today.
Actually started last nite. My ex wife called me and asked me to try to find something for her she thought she might have left here at my house when she left. To make a long story short...I didnt have it. And I called her b...
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Once they are drinking, count yourself out
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I have bent over backwards all my life to prove care and love to a family of A's. After 40 yrs of it I left. For 12 years they never noticed I was missing and if i tryed to contact for any reason, it was my fault it was like that. When Hurricane Katrina came and a friend ,supposedly, dropped me at my A daug...
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Over reaction
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One of the things the A does pretty regularly is let certain things be cut off. One of them is the internet. today it happened again. For once I said nothing. I normally go into total over reaction mode and feel martyred by his actions. I know now it is nothing personal to me. I also kno...
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obsessions
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i haven't been here in a while. my ex has been hanging around here with the kids and my old patterns have come back full force. he's sober working his program but i have let my boundries slide. and i am mad at myself. very mad. i really want to re-direct my anger towards him but that would accomplish nothing...
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Update from Kabbie
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i have not posted in awhile, and i wanted to wish everyone a peaceful holiday.
my daughter has completed her rehab stay, and is now at a halfway house closer to home. she's attending meetings daily, finding a new sponsor since her move to help her with 4th step, job hunting, making new friends, ...
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enabling
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A had 2/3 bottle of vodca yesterday. now is very sick today. I think I'm enablling him by worrying about his health. he doesn't want to worry about health until we are at emergency situation. been in detox 2x. the second time almost killed him. We had a plane to c...
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Did he hit bottom?
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This is my first post, but I have been reading posts on this board for awhile now and I've learned a lot, so thank you for that. I know I have no control and I have become a lot more calm about his drinking knowing that nothing that I do or say would make any real difference. I have also been pract...
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Scout
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For those who know the story, here is a picture of my lil' guy. He will be missed
(((((Christy)))))
Ty for adding the pics and inc a bit of the story. -- Edited by tea2 at 13:43, 2006-12-19
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just me & 100 loads of laundry
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Good morning Everyone,
Thanks for the replies to my previous post. The feeling of the doom cloud is passing, and I have a thought that maybe this fire was the reason I was placed in my house with my A for so long. Mom's house will survive and hopefully be redone before I need to move, we all are actually lo...
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Powerless... literally
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Electrical power has been out for a week... my email consisted of chiseling stone tablets and shipping them through Bedrock Postal Service.
Funny how my serenity was at its greatest when I needed to make sure there was wood chopped, candles on hand, food to keep, cooking in the fireplace, making ba...
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I'm confused...
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I was reading a post and it said there is hope, people do get better and get everything back. I am confused as to how anyone can live like that. Before I moved out I had been living on hope for a long time. Hope he would get better, hope this time it wouldn't happen again, hope I wasn't mak...
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Blowing in the winds still
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Hi All,
Been a long time since I posted. I still feel like I'm blowing in the winds Of Hurricane Katrina. All is lost of what life I did have . I have moved twice and 1 more to go. And hopefully this time I will be settled for awhile.
As some of you know I hadn't seen my family in 10 yrs before Hurr Katrina and...
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How do you overcome the Fear?
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Hi There -
First I just wanted to wish everyone a very Merry Christmas. I know for some the holidays is very difficult and a sad reminder of the state of affairs in their life, but I pray for blessings and hope for every person on this board during this season.
My way of coping and trying t...
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hurricane at Eden
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Light now, omg I have to get dressed and go out.
Last night was awful and scarey and my guts are like jello.
A huge branch came down Sissy and Walters house and went thru the roof. I am praying it did not go in very far.
I see the WHOLE ROOF is off the addition on th...
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debilyn
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Why doesn't mom want us to stay with her?
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(((((Everyone)))))
We had a nice time saturday and sunday. AW, 11 year old son and I, went to see some great light displays all over town on Satuday, Sunday we fished for a while and then went bowling. Son and I had planned on staying at the apartment with my AW on Saturday if she wanted us t...
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a reason for drinking...
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Hi everyone,
I was just thinking.....
Whilst going through the breakup with my Abf he told me that he absolutely loves to drink and will do so till he dies. He says he thinks about it at work, and looks forward to the evening when he can drink. He feels he deserves it after a hard day. He says he love...
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MISSING TONIGHT'S MEETING
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Hello all. I have been laying down for a lot of the afternoon and do not have enough energy to stay on during the meeting. Pray for me. I am really struggling.
I will be back.
God Bless
Stacie
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hippietrippiechick
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it's tough to break up with someone you love
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Hi everyone,
I recently broke up from my Abf and have a nice place to live by myself. I know I am very lucky, and I do count my blessings. I miss him a lot though.
He's still drinking whenever he has money, and seems to be happy with this.
He says he wants to stay friends, and if I'm honest I would like t...
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annmarie
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meeting
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hi,
i have tried unsuccessfully for half an hour to get into the alanon meeting.
i have no idea what a mirc or ir.chat4all is.
can anyone enlighten me?
sadly disappointed,
jewely
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jewely
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How do you pick a sponser?
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I know this question is elementary but I've only been back to Al-Anon a few months. I've been going to a particular meeting where there are about 13 regular people and it's a nice group. I have done a reading or two but I haven't shared yet. I'm getting familiar w...
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jaja
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I am so tired of my alchoholic husband
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How do you guys deal with it? I am so tired of being miserable in this marriage. He drinks every single night. He gets drunk every single night. I caught him sneaking vodka in the garage. I was mortified. He told me today that he wil not quit drinking no matter wha...
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new to this online alanon site
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hi,
my name is jewely and i am a grateful member of alanon.
looking for correspondence,
and,
meetings on line.
i love the logo of this site.
"MIRACLES IN PROGRESS"
Jewely
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Northwest Storm in the US
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I am praying for those affected by the storm that went through the Northwest. I understand it was devastating. Many without power. I haven't seen a couple of our MIP's in a couple of days. Hope to see them back in real soon!
Ziggy
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Alanon meeting in candlelight
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Just wanted to share and perhaps you can incorporate this into your Alanon meetings. Each year at this time we have one alanon meeting where each one of the members bring a candle and some goodies. We each light our candles and dim the lights and have our meeting in difused lighting. It is a nice touch......
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The Deamon
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The demon in me has come out. My A has been detoxing from h for the past 2 weeks and he has been drunk the whole time drinking at least a 1/5th a day he has been screaming flopping around the house just complete agony and I should feel sorry for him and try to help more but we went through this last January and it...
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kingston
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Merry Xmas
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Hi everyone just wanted to wish you all a safe and Merry Xmas. I am flying out tomorrow to the city to surprise my Mum and Nanna. My Nan is 94 and quite frail and my heart tells me she will not be with us next year. I will be back on the 28th of December. For all of you who are doi...
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leo
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I can't wait for Christmas (to make amends)
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I can't wait for Christmas morning!!! I have a six year old daughter who is so excited for Christmas that she has been counting down since Dec. 1. This is such a great age! I can't wait to see her face when she comes down the stairs.
I am even more excited to make amends to her for ruining her 6th birt...
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Revelation from interesting weekend
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I forgot to mention that I talked to my sponsor yesterday and told her I felt a little bad because I told my daughter that I didn't want any of the drunk woman's kids coming over. Nothing against them, I just didn't want her drama in my life. Then I realized OH $#!+ Is this why none of us have any...
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Interesting weekend..
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I went over to my new one and only friend's house Sat. nite for margaritas. I brought all the stuff to make this great soup and she was supplying margaritas and all the kids came too. She also has 3 kids. both she and I are recently separated. Everything was great until the neig...
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Happy Holidays
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((((((((((((Family)))))))))),
Just wanted to send my love and blessings for a beautiful holiday season. Whatever holiday you choose to celebrate my wish for you is that it may be surrounded by peace and love. I am incredibly blessed to call you family. I will be thinking of you and se...
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sad Christmas
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Hi MIP family,
I have needed to post but latekly the pain has been so much that I couldn't.
Many of you know the story of my grandaughters living with me now.
My oldest grandaughter, who i have had since a baby, she's 17 now; decided week b4 last to just not come home at night, showing up in the m...
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Peace/Quiet Ends Today :-(
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another day of uncertainty
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thurs he got home at midnight drunk, fri. bailed out, i enabled w/his money, sat. slept most of the day, sunday got up and cleaned garage....said he was sorry, can't drink anymore, feels stupid, won't drink anymore, going to church, going to change. all i can do is listen, if i get my hopes up or be...
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Smart kid refuses to ride with drunk driver
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olice: Child Refuses Ride With Drunk Mom
POSTED: 5:14 am MST December 16, 2006
UPDATED: 4:35 pm MST December 16, 2006
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MESA, Ariz. -- A 12-year-old boy refused to g...
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Christmas blessings...
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Just wanted to wish all my wonderful family here a blessed Christmas, and a very prosperous New Year! I do love you all, and I am thankful that I found this site almost two years ago.
I hope Santa brings every single one of you every good thing that you need and desire!
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It was so delightful...
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to see Gardengal's lighter post asking us to talk a bit of our favorite Christmas carols. I am sure her post brought a smile to quite a few faces, and we could use that. While I realize that the purpose of MIP is to help the loved ones of abusers deal with their lives, I think an occasional light post is refre...
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My Story
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Since I've been poking around in all of your lives and you have all graciously allowed me to reply to your posts, I thought it was time to share my story. First of all, I am not new to the concept of alanon, I have though, only attended one "physical" meeting. I may return ... who knows. ...
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Keep coming back!
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Keep on pondering, and suddenly the flower of mind will bloom with enlightenment, illuminating the whole universe. This can be called getting it in the mind, responding to it in action. Thereupon you can turn the earth into gold and churn the rivers into cream. Wouldn't that make life exhilarating?...
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how my day going
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I have this friend who when i write her a email does not write me one back,
The way i handle it is i get mad and say what i think and then i get a email
I feel i dont deserve this type of treat ment do you think i am wrong to say so or should i stop dealing with this person
What do you feel
marty
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sorry to bother....
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i have to write...in 97 my a started drnking/na ...for 6 yrs it went on...i was in church and surrounded by support...i finally stood up and put him out after restraining orders, fights and such..he tried suicide which put him in a hospital..he blamed me...he then came out and it started again....
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a wonderful opportunity for service work
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((((((((((Friends))))))))))),
I have found that I am unable to continue my service work on the Family Teens Room.
They meet on Thursdays and Sundays at 8 PM EST. Not only has my schedule changed and the next month is going to be hairy, it's very important for me and others to rotate service wor...
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Well I guess I hadn't counted on this...
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(((((Everyone))))))
My AW, who is living on her own right now... is trying to detox herself. It is very confussing to talk to her right now. One minute she is raging at me over forcing her to do things this way, the next she is crying and wanting me to "entertain her" because she is being go...
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needed a bit of a favor or direction
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is there anyone out there who has an extra alanon book or can lead me in the right online direction to find a way to get some donated program literature because I need something to read when I am away from the puter. I have not idea when I can get to a f2f meeting. Is anyone willing to help me? Does...
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apology, plus a small request
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I am sorry I confused everyone with some posts. I think I screwed up and what I thought was posted wasn't. Anyway, the post that said "old donated alanon literature" was the one I am speaking of.
I need ESH on the book or books I need to start out with in alanon. I do not get out much due to my health, and I am d...
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sorry or all the posts, but...
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I know I hae only been here a while, and I may not have senority to be sending so many posts, but this is my haven, my outlet, and you all have so many wonderul suggestions, thoughts, and you truly care.
Like I said, I have my A with me under false pretenses. This is MY HUD apartment. But he uses the fact that...
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sister living with her mom.... long post again
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Okay, first you should know the basic information so confusion doesn't set in. Okay my mom lives with her 2nd cousin, which also has the same name as her and was married to my dad first (no, they are not "together" if you know what I mean). Her and my dad had my sister and brother, they divorce...
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the past month and half
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My world has been twisted turned and flipped in the past month and half. First the murder of my friend's sister, that was a total and complete shock and it was rough watching my friend go through that. Okay, Dec. 1st, my best friend of 21 years, calls me to tell me her mom died last night.&nbs...
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Mom's Birthday surprise... long, sorry!
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OK, so I went to get my mom on her birthday 5 days ago and told her we were going to take her somewhere. I had already decided to take her to bath and body works (I had a great coupon too LOL) to get her some smelly goodies. I let her smell all the stuff and decided I'd pick up a few things (not...
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Minding my own biznazz....
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Restraint with the eye is good, good is restraint with the ear. Restraint with the nose is good, good is restraint with the tongue. Restraint with the body is good, good is restraint with speech. Restraint with the heart is good, good is restraint everywhere. A monk everywhere restrained is released...
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forgot
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If anyone wants pictures email me.
I have a few
edensheart@centurytel.net.
I also got the nerve to ask my animal list people of 12 years to help me fix my pickup. My friends are donated some, I have fifty. my son and his mechanic friend are going to do it. Hopefully it will be done soon. Being up here...
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Party for a family member and alcohol
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Hi I am new here but not new to al-anon. My sibblings and I are/were planning a birthday party for our mom. I wanted only a moderate amount of alcohol, as there will be children invited. I would prefer no alcohol but it is not up to me. My siste...
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his disease is trying to pull me in again...
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This is tough...his disease and his weapons of trying to get me angry and anxious are in full throttle. He is not calling as he says he will - all week long and for the past few - he doesn't do what he promises he will do. I know it is futile for me to get angry - I am not dealing with a sane man and his diseas...
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optimism versus truth
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I swear I am (used to be?) an upbeat optimistic person who always had high hopes. Sometimes too high I guess. Now, how did I get to be the doomsday prophet. When the bingedrinking A gets sober and swears that all is well with the world I can only listen to a certain amount of what I perceive as bullshit. It is...
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2 more weeks
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I have to remind myself when I get slumped down with yet another holiday with the A that there is only two more weeks to go. I know there is a lot of light for me in the nwe year. For one my financial obligation to the A is less. I will finally have paid for the truck that h...
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hurricane aftermath thoughts
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It was very awful being here alone without my AH. No phones no power, no vehicle.
Had candles and my headlamp. Was afraid to sleep in my room becuz it has a slider to the south and a window to my tree. Did anyway as all my feather bedding was in there.
I feel so bad I did not bring the horses in. But everyone...
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Silent Treatment
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My "A" likes to give me the silent treatment when things in his mind are not going the way he wants them to or I may have said something to him that offended him. I struggle with this and it hurts. I do not know how to approach him or the issue at hand. I find myself beating myself up as to "What did I say" o...
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Debilyn, check in...???
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Hi Debilyn:
Just wanted to check on you and your farm and family and make sure you are okay. I hear things are really stormy up your way. I hope you are warm and cozy and have power to hook up with us. My brother lives on an island off of Seattle and haven't heard from him but it sounds re...
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eden update
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ok got everyone including suesue fannie and Boo in a nice warm dry place. (farm pig and pot)
came in and psyched myself up and prayed to do Glaes.
I cannot believe my Glaes. Got him into the bunkroom tied him. Told him all i was doing, would show him the scissors,cut the hair away,fl...
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more
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Glaes has a bad gash to the front of his left shoulder. I pray I have enough suture and needles.
dang it is not good.
(Glaesir is my beautiful dun Quarter horse, over 16 hands, black stripe down his back black mane and tail and stockings...
Got the llamas shelter done...
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debilyn
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Issues with Men
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I have noticed lately that I have a seriously low opinion of men in general (no offense guys). I find myself thinking that men don't have any feelings and that they only want one thing. I think I have felt this way for a long time, but when I think about men I think in terms of they don't care abo...
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