Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jewely · jewely

it's all about me. i hear that in alanon many times. and, yes, it sure is. but not in the way i think. for sure i need to take care of myself, for sure i need to pay bills, be responsible, and, enjoy the good things in life. but, it's pretty darn hard to live in "just for today", when i conti...

hudsond · hudsond

Anyone watch this last night? I thought it was really interesting. It lasted about 1 and 1/2 hours. I thought it was very informational, don't know if I agree with all of it---I wish they had focused some more on the need to use support groups (especially AA), but I thought all in all it was good. ...

Gotta_Vent · Gotta_Vent

I need to know if this is "normal" for an alcoholic. My sister has done some pretty crazy stuff before, and now she's into cutting. Being depressed myself, I can understand that part, but what I don't understand is what she did after that. She used the blood from her cuts to writ...

davidssibling · davidssibling

Hiya all I am having trouble finding a higher power, a god. I have been to two churches, to a pow wow, and went to the Berkshire mountains looking for a god, HP, something to grasp on to. This may sound silly, but I am truthful and am searching. I hear everyone talking of thier HP, but I am still looking for mi...

serendipity · serendipity

I've been in this program for the past 4 years. I have worked the steps, I have had a sponser, I make calls, I go to meetings, I have a home group and I come here. I see the replies already "get another sponcer, work the steps again!" I hear you and I will. But right this minute I have lost my min...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish. I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling. If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I'm changing, i...

wp · wp

I thoroughly enjoyed the mip-athon events that I was able to attend. It was inspiring to hear many heartfelt shares, people's real stories, things they have overcome and moved beyond with happiness. What a program :) wp aka ms you know who

Maria123 · Maria123

If memory serves me correctly (95% of the time), I do recall today is Becky1 Birthday

Happy Birthday Becky,

I hope you have an awesome day. your friend in recovery, Maria

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all, It is amost 4:30 am, eastern time. I was sound asleep and who comes rapping at my bedroom window--my A! See, I had been seriously planning to come see him at his little hole in the wall. This afternoon he told me not to call and if I came I came and if not o well. I never really called much of anyone. S...

maresie2 · maresie2

The A and I are separating shortly. In a week or so I will be living in a different place. In theory we will still see quite a bit of each other while he works out how to transition. The irony for me is that now he is asking me to marry him! Of course I have said no citing his debt. At the same time its no coincide...

Fifi · Fifi

I try so hard each day.....to be aware,to take care of me,to be carefull not to control others with my reactions, to know that I am ok just the way I am and that I am working towards healing. But each day is so hard....and just with the people I love/am closest to. Sometimes I really think I would be better of...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))))), This Russian-Filipino gal wants to wish her MIP family a HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY for tomorrow. I know it can be tough on us with active As. But allow me to take this point to count my blessings for all of you. I will be wearing green tomorrow (I have to, it's part...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I cancelled my date with the felon/alcoholic. I was really excited about our date tomorrow but know that it's not going to go anywhere so I cancelled and said I couldn't talk to him anymore. What a bummer! It sucks doing the right thing sometimes!

theprofessor · theprofessor

I dropped the letter to my friend in the mail today, the one that I have been having such a horrible time with. Today has been very bizarre since then. I went to lunch, and I didn't think we would run into eachother, but my friend was there with someone else. About halfway through my lunch, my serve...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been emailing back and forth with my husband and he sounds pretty certain that he doesn't want me anymore which is making me sad and I'm not sure why. I have been seeing this guy who I know is completely BAD for me! I'm supposed to see him tomorrow night and I know he really likes me a lo...

Maria123 · Maria123

Thanks to our new friend Leetle, I was reminded that today is ((((((((((((Tea's birthday))))))))))))))))

A special thank you for all you do for us here at MIP Tea. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Teatime

love ya, Maria

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello everybodee! If anyone remembers Grover from sesame street long long ago, I just loved that being his opening line. anyway, I wanted to tell you I called an Al-anon hotline and then got to talk to some one who lives in my town. Although she does not drive much either, they are going to try to find a way...

jewely · jewely

i don't know what to say. my brothers brief visit has triggered something in me. i called my daughter today. i wanted to maintain some semblence of control, but......., i lost it. " i feel this way'', i said, ''i feel that way'', i said, ''i feel concern fo...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello friends! I am feeling very sad, confused, and very emotional right now and I am not sure who to turn to at the moment, so I thought I would put my feelings here. My A and I are in marriage counseling and things do not seem to be getting better. My A stopped drinking since Sept and was doing very well. He w...

Leetle · Leetle

I just hate the feeling of being one straw away from a melt down. That is where I sadly still am. This morning, my daughter would not cooperate while I was getting ready to leave for daycare and then work. I spanked her...she peed all over herself and her St. Patrick's day outfit and...I lost it. ...

Lucid · Lucid

Everytime Ive gone to write this I end up not posting it so Im sorry if I ramble on and just dont make to much sense.. On tuesday I said goodbye to my father at his funeral for the last time after many years of him being an A, I didnt really get to know him, there was alot of violence, mental and physical, until h...

minnie · minnie

Okay, the other night I came into our room and it absolutely reeked of beer, like it does most nights. But that night it was worse for some reason. I said "Wow what stinks in here?" and he said "i don't know, what's it smell like?" I said it reeks like beer. and he said, w...

shadow1 · shadow1

((((((((((Roomies))))))))))) As some of you know I’m going through a really rough time in my life right now. I know I have been withdrawn and not offering much support and for this I am sorry. I am the one in need of support right now and I feel very let down by certain people in my life. I have thought I h...

jewely · jewely

my brother was here, now he is gone, i come from a very abusive, dysfunctional family. years ago i moved far away from my family, to try to live a healthier life. last week my brother showed up at my home. he is not comfortable in my house so he stayed at my daughters home. she is only 21, all the easier to func...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I just wanted to check in when things were fine for a change, I tend to post when times are troubled. The weather is great here, that probably helps.

The class I'm taking is almost over.

I'm doing good at my new job, at least that's what people are saying.

Got my ey...

Feather · Feather

Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, This seemed most appropriate for our program. Not CAL, but good for me. Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jeal...

Susan6655 · Susan6655

My 25 yr old son was recently jailed for failure to pay his first DUI ticket. I had been paying his rent, having been assured that he was concentrating on paying off the ticket. The pain and shock that he has been lying is so unwelcome, yet so necessary for my recovery. I have lost three of my nine siblin...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex ah was here last night. He watches the kids while i work. So when i got here he was receiveing and sending all these text messages. But being very sneaky about it and then he always stays to watch Lost with me but he made some lame excuse about having to call his sponser and being tired and he left. Why...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband and I have always have an extremely active sex life. During the last 4 weeks when he hasn't been drunking it has all come to a screaching halt. Any ideas?

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, since my surgery I have just been so exhausted and after a while it gets painful to sit up at the computer. I am planning to try to quit smoking soon again. I have an 800 number I am going to call for Al-anon and maybe someone will come visit and maybe help me out. Doe...

QOD · QOD

I am FREAKIN' out here. My AH called me 2 days ago after 3 weeks of no word from him. He wanted to get into our storage unit for his gun safe so he could sell it. His credit cards are all max'd out now. I told him that I'd meet him there. He called later than afternoon and said he wouldn't...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I couldn't tell you how many times my active AH husband and I have seperated in the five years we have been together. I lost count a long time ago. I do know that with each time it get's easier. It seems to me that it doesn't matter how much alanon I have under my belt, I just can't seem to...

MIP Members Wedding Invitation! · John

Our Wedding Reception Will be held at Pearsall Memorial Church 3902 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Saturday, July 7th, 2007 Dinner at 7 PM Dancing Starts at 8 PM Map To Wedding - Hugh MacRae ParkMap To Reception - Pearsall Memorial Church

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...

Rita G · Rita G

Last night, one of my AH sponsees (R) relapsed. His family had taken him to the ER with a blood alcohol level of .365 (I don't know much about levels but I think I'm saying that right - he was just under the alcohol poisoning level). As God works, my AH's co-sponsor was working at the hosp...

tuneboon · tuneboon

Hi everyone - I went to my first meeting last nite - there were about 7 other than me and a couple of them spoke about their A husbands and how they are still with them and some of the husbands are even sober now - I just left my A husband because i'm so fustrated and physcially and emoitionaly hurt and exh...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...

canadianguy · canadianguy

A couple of members had asked me to look at some recent (inappropriate) posts from a new person, and it looks like they have now been taken care of... A question re: searching.... When I want to find posts by a specific person, I go to Search, Advanced Search, and then enter the person's name?? Is th...

Diva · Diva

Just a word to tell you all you are in my thoughts and heart as always, and I wish you a good day. Here's a morning smile... http://dailypuppy.com/index.php?itemid=953 Diva

Rose · Rose

Hi all. I haven't written in awhile but I am finding myself so angry and sad at AH. I don't know what to do. I just want to scream! He was doing so well. Just before xmas he went on a drinking bindge for a week because he failed his breathilizer in his car. He thought he was going to jail again (he was ar...

QOD · QOD

My AH is sitting in jail and still can't tell me the truth. He told me he was arrested for parafinalia.......well, as it turns out, he was arrested for possession of narcotics. DUH!! I knew it. I just knew it. His step dad told me it was not my place to worry about how to handle him any more. It is...

Chetch · Chetch

I am a 57 your old woman who has never drank alcohol, sinmply because it makes me nauseaus. Long story short, I remet my high school sweetheart in 2000 and moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I am a paralegal. He was always been a dr...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))))) We have a new meeting that has started on a Saturday night at 7pm est...... It is especially designed for new members to Al-Anon.....It will help you to find out what Al-Anon is all about.....Also you will find out if it is for you or not...... I would r...

Diva · Diva

There are many of us who are living with active As and who struggle each day just to get through it. There are those of us whose As are sober...for which we are thankful...but who complain still, wondering whether "sober" is better. We have one life kiddies. It is important that we spend that...

tea2 · tea2

Dear Members ~ For those of you that were unfortunate enough to read the sickness of a member who had joined today, I assure you that they have been banned. Such deliberate bitterness and purposeful angst towards our Al-Anon members will not be welcomed here. Should there be any indication that thi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

By Janet Woititz.... I picked this book up last night again. I discovered that I had not read it all in its entirety. Best book I could have picked up for myself last night. I just identified with so much in it. Melodie Beatie makes reference to this author several times in Codependent No More. One...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Ok so yesterday I finally broke down and allowed a conversation to take place with my husband (despite restraining order) over yahoo chat. I told him exactly how I REALLY felt and have felt all along since we split up. He has been going to meetings every day and just got a new totally FAT job as usual (w...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) Just wanted to say thanks to those who responded to my post yesterday. I was feeling a little emotionally needy and your posts gave me some good ESH. The active addiction is back and I guess it has taken me a couple of weeks to accept that. Yesterday I was driving back to office from my...

tuneboon · tuneboon

I'm having a bad couple of hours and just want to finsish work and go find my AH and beg him to have me back and just hold him forever and never let go..... But instead I'm sitting here writing this - man this sucks - I know he's toxic and all that other stuff but I just can't stop wishing we we...

Jen · Jen

My AH has to go to see his family for his Grandmothers funeral. They are all A’s, and he has to stay with them. I’m not really so much worried about him using again. It’s the constant lieing. They lie to each other and treat each other terribly. He is finally learning to treat us like a h and father should tre...

barisax · barisax

I posted about this on Feb 22... it has now been 25 days since our first date, and I think we've now had 7 dates. Or 7 get-togethers, date might not be the right word. There are not many -ism issues coming up. Other than my self-deprecating humor, which to me is as much a part of recovery as it is the dis...

Feather · Feather

Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...

kicky · kicky

My old need to please and control others is starting to diminish. I have a business, and got a new quote for our weekly cleaning that was a savings of 1200 per month. Unfortunately, my collegue and friend is the one who currently cleans...for 525 per week or 2100 per month. The new quote is only 900 per...

debilyn · debilyn

For me my anti stressor is my animal sanctuary. I can feel very sad and lay in new hay and have a five hundred pound and twelve hundred pound farm pig on either side of me. Like who would want to? haha Fannie and Estersue can feel my hurting and will nuzzle me. I lay my head on their massive bodies and cry and t...

theprofessor · theprofessor

I wrote to my friend today, the one who won't talk to me. I haven't sent it yet, as I would like to wait at least 24 hours to make sure I've said everything I need to. I told my friend that I am an alcoholic and I apologized for my behavior while drinking. I said that wasn't really me, and I...

Fifi · Fifi

It is a beautiful spring day. My 3 yr old and I spent the afternoon in the yard...I said "Let's look for signs of spring".....before I knew it she was sayong" Mommy, let's look for things that are alive!" A wonderful thing to do. Look for things that are alive....in my yard, in my heart, in my spirit. I then...

jewely · jewely

tonight i got angry. i bounced off the bed in the family room where i was watching tv, told him i recognized his part as the family martyer, and, as quick as a wink i had my coat on and the dog leashed , and , out the door i went for a brisk walk. but not before i heard him mumble......, ''well no, i did...

hudsond · hudsond

I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...

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	it's all about me..... (Preview) it's all about me. i hear that in alanon many times. and, yes, it sure is. but not in the way i think. for sure i need to take care of myself, for sure i need to pay bills, be responsible, and, enjoy the good things in life. but, it's pretty darn hard to live in "just for today", when i conti...	jewely	3	568	Mar 19, 2007 by drucilla06
	HBO documentary- Addiction (Preview) Anyone watch this last night? I thought it was really interesting. It lasted about 1 and 1/2 hours. I thought it was very informational, don't know if I agree with all of it---I wish they had focused some more on the need to use support groups (especially AA), but I thought all in all it was good. ...	hudsond	6	3179	Mar 19, 2007 by hudsond
	Psychotic Episode or Alcohol? (Preview) I need to know if this is "normal" for an alcoholic. My sister has done some pretty crazy stuff before, and now she's into cutting. Being depressed myself, I can understand that part, but what I don't understand is what she did after that. She used the blood from her cuts to writ...	Gotta_Vent	7	1488	Mar 19, 2007 by Gotta_Vent
	HP, god as we understand it (Preview) Hiya all I am having trouble finding a higher power, a god. I have been to two churches, to a pow wow, and went to the Berkshire mountains looking for a god, HP, something to grasp on to. This may sound silly, but I am truthful and am searching. I hear everyone talking of thier HP, but I am still looking for mi...	davidssibling	13	946	Mar 19, 2007 by davidssibling
	i'm not sure what happened to me (Preview) I've been in this program for the past 4 years. I have worked the steps, I have had a sponser, I make calls, I go to meetings, I have a home group and I come here. I see the replies already "get another sponcer, work the steps again!" I hear you and I will. But right this minute I have lost my min...	serendipity	6	633	Mar 19, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Boundries meditation (Preview) Once I have learned to set my boundaries, others may try to ignore them or accuse me of being selfish. I know my boundaries have been crossed when I begin to feel uncomfortable inside, and I need to pay attention to this feeling. If others are used to relating to me in a certain way, and I'm changing, i...	Tiger2006	3	559	Mar 19, 2007 by Jerry F
	mip-athon 2007 (Preview) I thoroughly enjoyed the mip-athon events that I was able to attend. It was inspiring to hear many heartfelt shares, people's real stories, things they have overcome and moved beyond with happiness. What a program :) wp aka ms you know who	wp	0	468	Mar 18, 2007 by wp
	Becky1 - Don't ya all just love birthdays!!!!! (Preview) If memory serves me correctly (95% of the time), I do recall today is Becky1 Birthday Happy Birthday Becky, I hope you have an awesome day. your friend in recovery, Maria	Maria123	10	658	Mar 18, 2007 by tea2
	I hate the stupid things the A can do (Preview) Hello all, It is amost 4:30 am, eastern time. I was sound asleep and who comes rapping at my bedroom window--my A! See, I had been seriously planning to come see him at his little hole in the wall. This afternoon he told me not to call and if I came I came and if not o well. I never really called much of anyone. S...	hippietrippiechick	3	643	Mar 18, 2007 by Feather
	now he asks me. (Preview) The A and I are separating shortly. In a week or so I will be living in a different place. In theory we will still see quite a bit of each other while he works out how to transition. The irony for me is that now he is asking me to marry him! Of course I have said no citing his debt. At the same time its no coincide...	maresie2	8	692	Mar 18, 2007 by maresie2
	recovering (Preview) I try so hard each day.....to be aware,to take care of me,to be carefull not to control others with my reactions, to know that I am ok just the way I am and that I am working towards healing. But each day is so hard....and just with the people I love/am closest to. Sometimes I really think I would be better of...	Fifi	3	478	Mar 18, 2007 by debilyn
	Irish Blessings (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))))), This Russian-Filipino gal wants to wish her MIP family a HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY for tomorrow. I know it can be tough on us with active As. But allow me to take this point to count my blessings for all of you. I will be wearing green tomorrow (I have to, it's part...	Karilynn	3	450	Mar 17, 2007 by aunitedway
	I did the right thing and it sucks! (Preview) I cancelled my date with the felon/alcoholic. I was really excited about our date tomorrow but know that it's not going to go anywhere so I cancelled and said I couldn't talk to him anymore. What a bummer! It sucks doing the right thing sometimes!	carolinagirl	11	681	Mar 17, 2007 by tuneboon
	Why would he do this? More on the friend saga... (Preview) I dropped the letter to my friend in the mail today, the one that I have been having such a horrible time with. Today has been very bizarre since then. I went to lunch, and I didn't think we would run into eachother, but my friend was there with someone else. About halfway through my lunch, my serve...	theprofessor	4	499	Mar 17, 2007 by Christy
	Feeling SAD today! (Preview) I have been emailing back and forth with my husband and he sounds pretty certain that he doesn't want me anymore which is making me sad and I'm not sure why. I have been seeing this guy who I know is completely BAD for me! I'm supposed to see him tomorrow night and I know he really likes me a lo...	carolinagirl	9	622	Mar 17, 2007 by TLC2
	Happy Birthday Tea (Preview) Thanks to our new friend Leetle, I was reminded that today is ((((((((((((Tea's birthday)))))))))))))))) A special thank you for all you do for us here at MIP Tea. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Teatime love ya, Maria	Maria123	19	618	Mar 17, 2007 by bobump
	I made a big step (Preview) Hello everybodee! If anyone remembers Grover from sesame street long long ago, I just loved that being his opening line. anyway, I wanted to tell you I called an Al-anon hotline and then got to talk to some one who lives in my town. Although she does not drive much either, they are going to try to find a way...	hippietrippiechick	5	490	Mar 17, 2007 by david62
	i lost it today........or maybe i gained it ??? (Preview) i don't know what to say. my brothers brief visit has triggered something in me. i called my daughter today. i wanted to maintain some semblence of control, but......., i lost it. " i feel this way'', i said, ''i feel that way'', i said, ''i feel concern fo...	jewely	1	518	Mar 17, 2007 by leo
	Blaming (Preview) Hello friends! I am feeling very sad, confused, and very emotional right now and I am not sure who to turn to at the moment, so I thought I would put my feelings here. My A and I are in marriage counseling and things do not seem to be getting better. My A stopped drinking since Sept and was doing very well. He w...	albertarose	10	430	Mar 17, 2007 by albertarose
	Making amends to a 3 yo (Preview) I just hate the feeling of being one straw away from a melt down. That is where I sadly still am. This morning, my daughter would not cooperate while I was getting ready to leave for daycare and then work. I spanked her...she peed all over herself and her St. Patrick's day outfit and...I lost it. ...	Leetle	8	734	Mar 17, 2007 by Kim65
	Im really hurting. (Preview) Everytime Ive gone to write this I end up not posting it so Im sorry if I ramble on and just dont make to much sense.. On tuesday I said goodbye to my father at his funeral for the last time after many years of him being an A, I didnt really get to know him, there was alot of violence, mental and physical, until h...	Lucid	7	697	Mar 16, 2007 by jewely
	trying to set boundaries-what do think about this one? (Preview) Okay, the other night I came into our room and it absolutely reeked of beer, like it does most nights. But that night it was worse for some reason. I said "Wow what stinks in here?" and he said "i don't know, what's it smell like?" I said it reeks like beer. and he said, w...	minnie	15	764	Mar 16, 2007 by minnie
	Loosing trust (Preview) ((((((((((Roomies))))))))))) As some of you know I’m going through a really rough time in my life right now. I know I have been withdrawn and not offering much support and for this I am sorry. I am the one in need of support right now and I feel very let down by certain people in my life. I have thought I h...	shadow1	16	863	Mar 16, 2007 by Raven
	my brother was here (Preview) my brother was here, now he is gone, i come from a very abusive, dysfunctional family. years ago i moved far away from my family, to try to live a healthier life. last week my brother showed up at my home. he is not comfortable in my house so he stayed at my daughters home. she is only 21, all the easier to func...	jewely	4	547	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	when things are good (Preview) I just wanted to check in when things were fine for a change, I tend to post when times are troubled. The weather is great here, that probably helps. The class I'm taking is almost over. I'm doing good at my new job, at least that's what people are saying. Got my ey...	RainyJamie	3	429	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	So nervous about starting a new relationship (Preview) Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...	Feather	8	2870	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	2 Wolves (Preview) Hi Family, This seemed most appropriate for our program. Not CAL, but good for me. *Two Wolves* *One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jeal...*	irish54	5	2002	Mar 16, 2007 by carolena
	I Think I am finally getting it! (Preview) My 25 yr old son was recently jailed for failure to pay his first DUI ticket. I had been paying his rent, having been assured that he was concentrating on paying off the ticket. The pain and shock that he has been lying is so unwelcome, yet so necessary for my recovery. I have lost three of my nine siblin...	Susan6655	6	560	Mar 16, 2007 by carolena
	so nice to know i am not alone (Preview) My ex ah was here last night. He watches the kids while i work. So when i got here he was receiveing and sending all these text messages. But being very sneaky about it and then he always stays to watch Lost with me but he made some lame excuse about having to call his sponser and being tired and he left. Why...	serendipity	7	629	Mar 16, 2007 by mel123
	A question (Preview) My husband and I have always have an extremely active sex life. During the last 4 weeks when he hasn't been drunking it has all come to a screaching halt. Any ideas?	Chetch	6	485	Mar 16, 2007 by Chetch
	Please all of you keep me in your prayers (Preview) Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, since my surgery I have just been so exhausted and after a while it gets painful to sit up at the computer. I am planning to try to quit smoking soon again. I have an 800 number I am going to call for Al-anon and maybe someone will come visit and maybe help me out. Doe...	hippietrippiechick	9	598	Mar 16, 2007 by carosie
	AH just got arrested - he's in jail!!! (Preview) I am FREAKIN' out here. My AH called me 2 days ago after 3 weeks of no word from him. He wanted to get into our storage unit for his gun safe so he could sell it. His credit cards are all max'd out now. I told him that I'd meet him there. He called later than afternoon and said he wouldn't...	QOD	9	486	Mar 16, 2007 by QOD
	My AH and I have split up again (Preview) I couldn't tell you how many times my active AH husband and I have seperated in the five years we have been together. I lost count a long time ago. I do know that with each time it get's easier. It seems to me that it doesn't matter how much alanon I have under my belt, I just can't seem to...	JulieLynn	6	836	Mar 16, 2007 by lin0606
	MIP Members Wedding Invitation! (Preview) Our Wedding Reception Will be held at Pearsall Memorial Church 3902 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Saturday, July 7th, 2007 Dinner at 7 PM Dancing Starts at 8 PM Map To Wedding - Hugh MacRae ParkMap To Reception - Pearsall Memorial Church	John	15	703	Mar 16, 2007 by leo
	DISCOVERED A MIRACLE WITHIN ME (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...	ally	6	646	Mar 16, 2007 by annmarie
	12th Step Call (Preview) Last night, one of my AH sponsees (R) relapsed. His family had taken him to the ER with a blood alcohol level of .365 (I don't know much about levels but I think I'm saying that right - he was just under the alcohol poisoning level). As God works, my AH's co-sponsor was working at the hosp...	Rita G	10	690	Mar 16, 2007 by jewely
	Went to a meeting - now kinda confused (Preview) Hi everyone - I went to my first meeting last nite - there were about 7 other than me and a couple of them spoke about their A husbands and how they are still with them and some of the husbands are even sober now - I just left my A husband because i'm so fustrated and physcially and emoitionaly hurt and exh...	tuneboon	11	740	Mar 15, 2007 by AndiLynn
	DISCOVERING A MIRACLE WITHIN ME (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...	ally	2	517	Mar 15, 2007 by aunitedway
	Search Question - finding specific posts (Preview) A couple of members had asked me to look at some recent (inappropriate) posts from a new person, and it looks like they have now been taken care of... A question re: searching.... When I want to find posts by a specific person, I go to Search, Advanced Search, and then enter the person's name?? Is th...	canadianguy	4	567	Mar 15, 2007 by Maria123
	Good morning! (Preview) Just a word to tell you all you are in my thoughts and heart as always, and I wish you a good day. Here's a morning smile... http://dailypuppy.com/index.php?itemid=953 Diva	Diva	3	525	Mar 15, 2007 by Diva
	Help! I am so angry and sad! (Preview) Hi all. I haven't written in awhile but I am finding myself so angry and sad at AH. I don't know what to do. I just want to scream! He was doing so well. Just before xmas he went on a drinking bindge for a week because he failed his breathilizer in his car. He thought he was going to jail again (he was ar...	Rose	12	673	Mar 15, 2007 by Feather
	AH and Jail Update. (Preview) My AH is sitting in jail and still can't tell me the truth. He told me he was arrested for parafinalia.......well, as it turns out, he was arrested for possession of narcotics. DUH!! I knew it. I just knew it. His step dad told me it was not my place to worry about how to handle him any more. It is...	QOD	9	646	Mar 15, 2007 by carolinagirl
	New to this board and desperately need help (Preview) I am a 57 your old woman who has never drank alcohol, sinmply because it makes me nauseaus. Long story short, I remet my high school sweetheart in 2000 and moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I am a paralegal. He was always been a dr...	Chetch	9	736	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	MEETING FOR NEWCOMERS (Preview) (((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))))) We have a new meeting that has started on a Saturday night at 7pm est...... It is especially designed for new members to Al-Anon.....It will help you to find out what Al-Anon is all about.....Also you will find out if it is for you or not...... I would r...	ally	4	481	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Concentrating on my happy life (Preview) There are many of us who are living with active As and who struggle each day just to get through it. There are those of us whose As are sober...for which we are thankful...but who complain still, wondering whether "sober" is better. We have one life kiddies. It is important that we spend that...	Diva	5	879	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Banned (Preview) Dear Members ~ For those of you that were unfortunate enough to read the sickness of a member who had joined today, I assure you that they have been banned. Such deliberate bitterness and purposeful angst towards our Al-Anon members will not be welcomed here. Should there be any indication that thi...	tea2	5	744	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Marriage on the Rocks (Preview) By Janet Woititz.... I picked this book up last night again. I discovered that I had not read it all in its entirety. Best book I could have picked up for myself last night. I just identified with so much in it. Melodie Beatie makes reference to this author several times in Codependent No More. One...	twinmom2	3	643	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Chatted with my husband - SABBOTAGE!!!! (Preview) Ok so yesterday I finally broke down and allowed a conversation to take place with my husband (despite restraining order) over yahoo chat. I told him exactly how I REALLY felt and have felt all along since we split up. He has been going to meetings every day and just got a new totally FAT job as usual (w...	carolinagirl	5	572	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Putting some emotional distance between the A and his addiction (Preview) (((MIP Family))) Just wanted to say thanks to those who responded to my post yesterday. I was feeling a little emotionally needy and your posts gave me some good ESH. The active addiction is back and I guess it has taken me a couple of weeks to accept that. Yesterday I was driving back to office from my...	twinmom2	3	710	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Want to go back soooo bad - (Preview) I'm having a bad couple of hours and just want to finsish work and go find my AH and beg him to have me back and just hold him forever and never let go..... But instead I'm sitting here writing this - man this sucks - I know he's toxic and all that other stuff but I just can't stop wishing we we...	tuneboon	12	740	Mar 15, 2007 by tuneboon
	why do I feel abandoned again? (Preview) My AH has to go to see his family for his Grandmothers funeral. They are all A’s, and he has to stay with them. I’m not really so much worried about him using again. It’s the constant lieing. They lie to each other and treat each other terribly. He is finally learning to treat us like a h and father should tre...	Jen	5	1156	Mar 15, 2007 by Jen
	More Unknown Territory (Preview) I posted about this on Feb 22... it has now been 25 days since our first date, and I think we've now had 7 dates. Or 7 get-togethers, date might not be the right word. There are not many -ism issues coming up. Other than my self-deprecating humor, which to me is as much a part of recovery as it is the dis...	barisax	7	611	Mar 14, 2007 by banned
	So nervous about starting a new relationship (Preview) Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...	Feather	0	571	Mar 14, 2007 by banned
	Recovering from co-dependant situations in other aspects of life (Preview) My old need to please and control others is starting to diminish. I have a business, and got a new quote for our weekly cleaning that was a savings of 1200 per month. Unfortunately, my collegue and friend is the one who currently cleans...for 525 per week or 2100 per month. The new quote is only 900 per...	kicky	6	476	Mar 14, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	my anti stressor (Preview) For me my anti stressor is my animal sanctuary. I can feel very sad and lay in new hay and have a five hundred pound and twelve hundred pound farm pig on either side of me. Like who would want to? haha Fannie and Estersue can feel my hurting and will nuzzle me. I lay my head on their massive bodies and cry and t...	debilyn	3	543	Mar 14, 2007 by hersh
	Wrote a letter today (Preview) I wrote to my friend today, the one who won't talk to me. I haven't sent it yet, as I would like to wait at least 24 hours to make sure I've said everything I need to. I told my friend that I am an alcoholic and I apologized for my behavior while drinking. I said that wasn't really me, and I...	theprofessor	4	477	Mar 14, 2007 by Diva
	beautiful day (Preview) It is a beautiful spring day. My 3 yr old and I spent the afternoon in the yard...I said "Let's look for signs of spring".....before I knew it she was sayong" Mommy, let's look for things that are alive!" A wonderful thing to do. Look for things that are alive....in my yard, in my heart, in my spirit. I then...	Fifi	2	357	Mar 14, 2007 by jewely
	tonight i go angry (Preview) tonight i got angry. i bounced off the bed in the family room where i was watching tv, told him i recognized his part as the family martyer, and, as quick as a wink i had my coat on and the dog leashed , and , out the door i went for a brisk walk. but not before i heard him mumble......, ''well no, i did...	jewely	5	477	Mar 14, 2007 by jewely
	Al-anon Friends (Preview) I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...	hudsond	3	350	Mar 14, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	This is me not reacting (Preview) Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...	RainyJamie	8	773	Mar 13, 2007 by RainyJamie
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