Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

jewely · jewely

my brother was here, now he is gone, i come from a very abusive, dysfunctional family. years ago i moved far away from my family, to try to live a healthier life. last week my brother showed up at my home. he is not comfortable in my house so he stayed at my daughters home. she is only 21, all the easier to func...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I just wanted to check in when things were fine for a change, I tend to post when times are troubled. The weather is great here, that probably helps.

The class I'm taking is almost over.

I'm doing good at my new job, at least that's what people are saying.

Got my ey...

Feather · Feather

Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...

irish54 · irish54

Hi Family, This seemed most appropriate for our program. Not CAL, but good for me. Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jeal...

Susan6655 · Susan6655

My 25 yr old son was recently jailed for failure to pay his first DUI ticket. I had been paying his rent, having been assured that he was concentrating on paying off the ticket. The pain and shock that he has been lying is so unwelcome, yet so necessary for my recovery. I have lost three of my nine siblin...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex ah was here last night. He watches the kids while i work. So when i got here he was receiveing and sending all these text messages. But being very sneaky about it and then he always stays to watch Lost with me but he made some lame excuse about having to call his sponser and being tired and he left. Why...

Chetch · Chetch

My husband and I have always have an extremely active sex life. During the last 4 weeks when he hasn't been drunking it has all come to a screaching halt. Any ideas?

hippietrippiechick · hippietrippiechick

Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, since my surgery I have just been so exhausted and after a while it gets painful to sit up at the computer. I am planning to try to quit smoking soon again. I have an 800 number I am going to call for Al-anon and maybe someone will come visit and maybe help me out. Doe...

QOD · QOD

I am FREAKIN' out here. My AH called me 2 days ago after 3 weeks of no word from him. He wanted to get into our storage unit for his gun safe so he could sell it. His credit cards are all max'd out now. I told him that I'd meet him there. He called later than afternoon and said he wouldn't...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I couldn't tell you how many times my active AH husband and I have seperated in the five years we have been together. I lost count a long time ago. I do know that with each time it get's easier. It seems to me that it doesn't matter how much alanon I have under my belt, I just can't seem to...

MIP Members Wedding Invitation! · John

Our Wedding Reception Will be held at Pearsall Memorial Church 3902 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Saturday, July 7th, 2007 Dinner at 7 PM Dancing Starts at 8 PM Map To Wedding - Hugh MacRae ParkMap To Reception - Pearsall Memorial Church

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...

Rita G · Rita G

Last night, one of my AH sponsees (R) relapsed. His family had taken him to the ER with a blood alcohol level of .365 (I don't know much about levels but I think I'm saying that right - he was just under the alcohol poisoning level). As God works, my AH's co-sponsor was working at the hosp...

tuneboon · tuneboon

Hi everyone - I went to my first meeting last nite - there were about 7 other than me and a couple of them spoke about their A husbands and how they are still with them and some of the husbands are even sober now - I just left my A husband because i'm so fustrated and physcially and emoitionaly hurt and exh...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...

canadianguy · canadianguy

A couple of members had asked me to look at some recent (inappropriate) posts from a new person, and it looks like they have now been taken care of... A question re: searching.... When I want to find posts by a specific person, I go to Search, Advanced Search, and then enter the person's name?? Is th...

Diva · Diva

Just a word to tell you all you are in my thoughts and heart as always, and I wish you a good day. Here's a morning smile... http://dailypuppy.com/index.php?itemid=953 Diva

Rose · Rose

Hi all. I haven't written in awhile but I am finding myself so angry and sad at AH. I don't know what to do. I just want to scream! He was doing so well. Just before xmas he went on a drinking bindge for a week because he failed his breathilizer in his car. He thought he was going to jail again (he was ar...

QOD · QOD

My AH is sitting in jail and still can't tell me the truth. He told me he was arrested for parafinalia.......well, as it turns out, he was arrested for possession of narcotics. DUH!! I knew it. I just knew it. His step dad told me it was not my place to worry about how to handle him any more. It is...

Chetch · Chetch

I am a 57 your old woman who has never drank alcohol, sinmply because it makes me nauseaus. Long story short, I remet my high school sweetheart in 2000 and moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I am a paralegal. He was always been a dr...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))))) We have a new meeting that has started on a Saturday night at 7pm est...... It is especially designed for new members to Al-Anon.....It will help you to find out what Al-Anon is all about.....Also you will find out if it is for you or not...... I would r...

Diva · Diva

There are many of us who are living with active As and who struggle each day just to get through it. There are those of us whose As are sober...for which we are thankful...but who complain still, wondering whether "sober" is better. We have one life kiddies. It is important that we spend that...

tea2 · tea2

Dear Members ~ For those of you that were unfortunate enough to read the sickness of a member who had joined today, I assure you that they have been banned. Such deliberate bitterness and purposeful angst towards our Al-Anon members will not be welcomed here. Should there be any indication that thi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

By Janet Woititz.... I picked this book up last night again. I discovered that I had not read it all in its entirety. Best book I could have picked up for myself last night. I just identified with so much in it. Melodie Beatie makes reference to this author several times in Codependent No More. One...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Ok so yesterday I finally broke down and allowed a conversation to take place with my husband (despite restraining order) over yahoo chat. I told him exactly how I REALLY felt and have felt all along since we split up. He has been going to meetings every day and just got a new totally FAT job as usual (w...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Family))) Just wanted to say thanks to those who responded to my post yesterday. I was feeling a little emotionally needy and your posts gave me some good ESH. The active addiction is back and I guess it has taken me a couple of weeks to accept that. Yesterday I was driving back to office from my...

tuneboon · tuneboon

I'm having a bad couple of hours and just want to finsish work and go find my AH and beg him to have me back and just hold him forever and never let go..... But instead I'm sitting here writing this - man this sucks - I know he's toxic and all that other stuff but I just can't stop wishing we we...

Jen · Jen

My AH has to go to see his family for his Grandmothers funeral. They are all A’s, and he has to stay with them. I’m not really so much worried about him using again. It’s the constant lieing. They lie to each other and treat each other terribly. He is finally learning to treat us like a h and father should tre...

barisax · barisax

I posted about this on Feb 22... it has now been 25 days since our first date, and I think we've now had 7 dates. Or 7 get-togethers, date might not be the right word. There are not many -ism issues coming up. Other than my self-deprecating humor, which to me is as much a part of recovery as it is the dis...

Feather · Feather

Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...

kicky · kicky

My old need to please and control others is starting to diminish. I have a business, and got a new quote for our weekly cleaning that was a savings of 1200 per month. Unfortunately, my collegue and friend is the one who currently cleans...for 525 per week or 2100 per month. The new quote is only 900 per...

debilyn · debilyn

For me my anti stressor is my animal sanctuary. I can feel very sad and lay in new hay and have a five hundred pound and twelve hundred pound farm pig on either side of me. Like who would want to? haha Fannie and Estersue can feel my hurting and will nuzzle me. I lay my head on their massive bodies and cry and t...

theprofessor · theprofessor

I wrote to my friend today, the one who won't talk to me. I haven't sent it yet, as I would like to wait at least 24 hours to make sure I've said everything I need to. I told my friend that I am an alcoholic and I apologized for my behavior while drinking. I said that wasn't really me, and I...

Fifi · Fifi

It is a beautiful spring day. My 3 yr old and I spent the afternoon in the yard...I said "Let's look for signs of spring".....before I knew it she was sayong" Mommy, let's look for things that are alive!" A wonderful thing to do. Look for things that are alive....in my yard, in my heart, in my spirit. I then...

jewely · jewely

tonight i got angry. i bounced off the bed in the family room where i was watching tv, told him i recognized his part as the family martyer, and, as quick as a wink i had my coat on and the dog leashed , and , out the door i went for a brisk walk. but not before i heard him mumble......, ''well no, i did...

hudsond · hudsond

I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...

tuneboon · tuneboon

Hi Everyone - thanks to you I have gotten through another day - I worked yesterday and am here again today (I will not let my A make me lose my job). I actually slept for 7 hours last nite and can actually drink my coffee this morning. I will be attending my first meeting tonite at 7:30 - 11.5 hrs and counting...

Kim65 · Kim65

Been reading on the forum, such caring words and support I immediately signed up. I've been involved with the 12 step programs since my teen years, after my father went into recovery. In some ways, the program is "part" of me, and in others, you'd think I wouldn't know an Al An...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) You all know I have had a tough few months... And I have shared all this with you......I have not yet done my step four.... But this week I can feel something chainging within myself......I don't know what I would call it.......Maybe a Spiritual Awaken...

Angel1 · Angel1

hi all. I am new here. Have posted a couple of times but mostly lurking. My h is an alcoholic and has been struggling with sobriety for about 8 months. (He was sober 7 years prior to this recent relapse but without a program) We have been seperated since August. He has done a 10 day stint in rehab followed by...

akristab · akristab

It is 3:00am and my A(DA)H just arrived home, ringing the bell because he was locked out (I changed the locks two weeks ago). As he handed me the keys to my car which he took without permission, he said "I relapsed." I couldn't let him in the door, I took the keys and said "goodbye&quo...

Chetch · Chetch

I am a 57 year old woman who has never drunk alcohol, simply because it makes me nauseaus. In 2000 I remet my high school boyfriend and to make a long story short I moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I work full time as a paralegal. H...

Lindy · Lindy

Every time I might feel a little sad about leaving my AH, he does something that reminds me of why I left him and I don't feel quite so bad anymore. I haven't started the divorce process yet, but I have been gone now for almost five months now. We have been in touch and he does want me to come back, but...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to say thank you for all the love and prayers. Hubby is doing better. We did not end up going to the ER (woohoo) because we have seen small improvements and his pain is lessening. His appetite is so so, and he's really weak. But he has not worsened and that certai...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

After being married 28 years my wife has me trained. I'm no longer allowed to pee like a man - standing up. I am required to sit down and pee. She has convinced me that this is a small price to pay. Otherwise if she had gone to the toilet one more time at night and either sat on a pee soaked toilet seat,...

QOD · QOD

Monday marked the 3 week since my AH left. I hadn't heard from him in all that time. Then yesterday morning he called and said he wanted his gun safe out of storage and asked if he could have the key. I told him I'd meet him there and he said he'd call me when he got to this side of town. I didn&...

Chetch · Chetch

Thank you all for your wonderful support. I'm so glad I found this board. I don't feel do alone now. Cheryl

tuneboon · tuneboon

Hi - I'm first time on here -but I have lived with an alcoholic man for 5 years and have not tried to get help for myself and he and I have recently had a huge falling out and I've gotten an apartment but he still wanted to be a couple and we were and then this weekend I was at his place and things were fin...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

It moves like a lightening bolt. I feel like I'm back where we started when my AH drinking got out of control. Looking back on our five year history, we have gone through periods of sobriety, him being in the program but only working it half-heartedly. Me controlling or attempting to control ev...

Becky1 · Becky1

I got an email titled "Your Dash Movie". Make sure your speakers are turned on for this! Have you guys seen this???? It is very moving. I have watched it several times and it always makes me cry. It will be under http://www.yourdashmovie.com/ Let me know if you find it. Love in Recovery, B...

theprofessor · theprofessor

Due to my own alcoholic behavior, I have lost the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately this person has me pegged for someone completely different, having seem me drunk out of my mind and behaving badly. I was so awful, and I fear there is just no repairing the relationship. We are in very close p...

debilyn · debilyn

Hi all, I wrote telling about seeing AH in the store with the not lady he is being kept by. The next day I had to move stuff to do a burn day at my main house I am renting out. I sobbed off and on all day. Well I know I should not be moving three huge sofas and four recliners, huge bags of stuff and more. But in my hea...

lin0606 · lin0606

In the last few weeks or so, there have been quite a few things going on in my life that are fairly stressful. I'm handling everything more or less OK, but I find I have a stronger than normal need to vent, to talk things out. So, I'm turning to my (sober) A to share what's going on in my life, an...

Cucamonga · Cucamonga

Hi all, I am just checking in. I haven't posted in a while. I thought I should check in, share a little bit, and give gratitude. First of all, I do recognize that I have come a long way from my first days here, I say that for 3 reasons, 1, To share my experience with new folks that come in here in chaos l...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hubby and I started the weekend out well. Went out to a very nice dinner Fri. evening. We actually sat and talked face to face. It was really the only time we had eaten together all week. He's been across the street at his friend's house drinking every.single.night. Sat. morning, he had to...

Moon · Moon

Hi guys, Just checking into this cute little forum we've got going. I hope everyone is doing well and finding your miracles, you all deserve. Here is what I had the opportunity to work on in the last few days. Not like I would have chosen to go through this experience, but I did learn alot from it. My...

Chetch · Chetch

I meant to say that my husband has been sober for over 3 weeks, not 3 days.

Diva · Diva

Lunching with Bad, Bad Bill today. He is back in SA for talks, and is seriously considering taking the job here. Has a week to make the final decision. Meantime... *Feminine wiles at work...work, work, work.* Talk about jumping from the proverbial frying pan!!! Ah, but life's a treasure, a...

theprofessor · theprofessor

I attended my first AA meeting yesterday, not as part of Al-Anon, but in admitting to myself that I also have a drinking problem. I feel like a total hypocrite, bashing my AH for his behavior while secretly drinking all of the time. I could really hang my head in shame :( It's odd; we're gett...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	my brother was here (Preview) my brother was here, now he is gone, i come from a very abusive, dysfunctional family. years ago i moved far away from my family, to try to live a healthier life. last week my brother showed up at my home. he is not comfortable in my house so he stayed at my daughters home. she is only 21, all the easier to func...	jewely	4	490	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	when things are good (Preview) I just wanted to check in when things were fine for a change, I tend to post when times are troubled. The weather is great here, that probably helps. The class I'm taking is almost over. I'm doing good at my new job, at least that's what people are saying. Got my ey...	RainyJamie	3	373	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	So nervous about starting a new relationship (Preview) Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...	Feather	8	2806	Mar 16, 2007 by Fifi
	2 Wolves (Preview) Hi Family, This seemed most appropriate for our program. Not CAL, but good for me. *Two Wolves* *One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jeal...*	irish54	5	1790	Mar 16, 2007 by carolena
	I Think I am finally getting it! (Preview) My 25 yr old son was recently jailed for failure to pay his first DUI ticket. I had been paying his rent, having been assured that he was concentrating on paying off the ticket. The pain and shock that he has been lying is so unwelcome, yet so necessary for my recovery. I have lost three of my nine siblin...	Susan6655	6	504	Mar 16, 2007 by carolena
	so nice to know i am not alone (Preview) My ex ah was here last night. He watches the kids while i work. So when i got here he was receiveing and sending all these text messages. But being very sneaky about it and then he always stays to watch Lost with me but he made some lame excuse about having to call his sponser and being tired and he left. Why...	serendipity	7	572	Mar 16, 2007 by mel123
	A question (Preview) My husband and I have always have an extremely active sex life. During the last 4 weeks when he hasn't been drunking it has all come to a screaching halt. Any ideas?	Chetch	6	429	Mar 16, 2007 by Chetch
	Please all of you keep me in your prayers (Preview) Hello all, I haven't posted in a while, since my surgery I have just been so exhausted and after a while it gets painful to sit up at the computer. I am planning to try to quit smoking soon again. I have an 800 number I am going to call for Al-anon and maybe someone will come visit and maybe help me out. Doe...	hippietrippiechick	9	543	Mar 16, 2007 by carosie
	AH just got arrested - he's in jail!!! (Preview) I am FREAKIN' out here. My AH called me 2 days ago after 3 weeks of no word from him. He wanted to get into our storage unit for his gun safe so he could sell it. His credit cards are all max'd out now. I told him that I'd meet him there. He called later than afternoon and said he wouldn't...	QOD	9	427	Mar 16, 2007 by QOD
	My AH and I have split up again (Preview) I couldn't tell you how many times my active AH husband and I have seperated in the five years we have been together. I lost count a long time ago. I do know that with each time it get's easier. It seems to me that it doesn't matter how much alanon I have under my belt, I just can't seem to...	JulieLynn	6	776	Mar 16, 2007 by lin0606
	MIP Members Wedding Invitation! (Preview) Our Wedding Reception Will be held at Pearsall Memorial Church 3902 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Saturday, July 7th, 2007 Dinner at 7 PM Dancing Starts at 8 PM Map To Wedding - Hugh MacRae ParkMap To Reception - Pearsall Memorial Church	John	15	644	Mar 16, 2007 by leo
	DISCOVERED A MIRACLE WITHIN ME (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...	ally	6	588	Mar 16, 2007 by annmarie
	12th Step Call (Preview) Last night, one of my AH sponsees (R) relapsed. His family had taken him to the ER with a blood alcohol level of .365 (I don't know much about levels but I think I'm saying that right - he was just under the alcohol poisoning level). As God works, my AH's co-sponsor was working at the hosp...	Rita G	10	613	Mar 16, 2007 by jewely
	Went to a meeting - now kinda confused (Preview) Hi everyone - I went to my first meeting last nite - there were about 7 other than me and a couple of them spoke about their A husbands and how they are still with them and some of the husbands are even sober now - I just left my A husband because i'm so fustrated and physcially and emoitionaly hurt and exh...	tuneboon	11	681	Mar 15, 2007 by AndiLynn
	DISCOVERING A MIRACLE WITHIN ME (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))) Okay, I have been an emotional nightmare the last few months...But in the last few days something has happened to me....I am feeling a whole new feeling regarding things in my life..... I saw my friend tonight through the window.. And he look...	ally	2	459	Mar 15, 2007 by aunitedway
	Search Question - finding specific posts (Preview) A couple of members had asked me to look at some recent (inappropriate) posts from a new person, and it looks like they have now been taken care of... A question re: searching.... When I want to find posts by a specific person, I go to Search, Advanced Search, and then enter the person's name?? Is th...	canadianguy	4	509	Mar 15, 2007 by Maria123
	Good morning! (Preview) Just a word to tell you all you are in my thoughts and heart as always, and I wish you a good day. Here's a morning smile... http://dailypuppy.com/index.php?itemid=953 Diva	Diva	3	469	Mar 15, 2007 by Diva
	Help! I am so angry and sad! (Preview) Hi all. I haven't written in awhile but I am finding myself so angry and sad at AH. I don't know what to do. I just want to scream! He was doing so well. Just before xmas he went on a drinking bindge for a week because he failed his breathilizer in his car. He thought he was going to jail again (he was ar...	Rose	12	612	Mar 15, 2007 by Feather
	AH and Jail Update. (Preview) My AH is sitting in jail and still can't tell me the truth. He told me he was arrested for parafinalia.......well, as it turns out, he was arrested for possession of narcotics. DUH!! I knew it. I just knew it. His step dad told me it was not my place to worry about how to handle him any more. It is...	QOD	9	590	Mar 15, 2007 by carolinagirl
	New to this board and desperately need help (Preview) I am a 57 your old woman who has never drank alcohol, sinmply because it makes me nauseaus. Long story short, I remet my high school sweetheart in 2000 and moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I am a paralegal. He was always been a dr...	Chetch	9	675	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	MEETING FOR NEWCOMERS (Preview) (((((((((((((((((GUYS))))))))))))))))))))))) We have a new meeting that has started on a Saturday night at 7pm est...... It is especially designed for new members to Al-Anon.....It will help you to find out what Al-Anon is all about.....Also you will find out if it is for you or not...... I would r...	ally	4	418	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Concentrating on my happy life (Preview) There are many of us who are living with active As and who struggle each day just to get through it. There are those of us whose As are sober...for which we are thankful...but who complain still, wondering whether "sober" is better. We have one life kiddies. It is important that we spend that...	Diva	5	823	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Banned (Preview) Dear Members ~ For those of you that were unfortunate enough to read the sickness of a member who had joined today, I assure you that they have been banned. Such deliberate bitterness and purposeful angst towards our Al-Anon members will not be welcomed here. Should there be any indication that thi...	tea2	5	683	Mar 15, 2007 by Karilynn
	Marriage on the Rocks (Preview) By Janet Woititz.... I picked this book up last night again. I discovered that I had not read it all in its entirety. Best book I could have picked up for myself last night. I just identified with so much in it. Melodie Beatie makes reference to this author several times in Codependent No More. One...	twinmom2	3	588	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Chatted with my husband - SABBOTAGE!!!! (Preview) Ok so yesterday I finally broke down and allowed a conversation to take place with my husband (despite restraining order) over yahoo chat. I told him exactly how I REALLY felt and have felt all along since we split up. He has been going to meetings every day and just got a new totally FAT job as usual (w...	carolinagirl	5	515	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Putting some emotional distance between the A and his addiction (Preview) (((MIP Family))) Just wanted to say thanks to those who responded to my post yesterday. I was feeling a little emotionally needy and your posts gave me some good ESH. The active addiction is back and I guess it has taken me a couple of weeks to accept that. Yesterday I was driving back to office from my...	twinmom2	3	657	Mar 15, 2007 by maresie2
	Want to go back soooo bad - (Preview) I'm having a bad couple of hours and just want to finsish work and go find my AH and beg him to have me back and just hold him forever and never let go..... But instead I'm sitting here writing this - man this sucks - I know he's toxic and all that other stuff but I just can't stop wishing we we...	tuneboon	12	682	Mar 15, 2007 by tuneboon
	why do I feel abandoned again? (Preview) My AH has to go to see his family for his Grandmothers funeral. They are all A’s, and he has to stay with them. I’m not really so much worried about him using again. It’s the constant lieing. They lie to each other and treat each other terribly. He is finally learning to treat us like a h and father should tre...	Jen	5	1002	Mar 15, 2007 by Jen
	More Unknown Territory (Preview) I posted about this on Feb 22... it has now been 25 days since our first date, and I think we've now had 7 dates. Or 7 get-togethers, date might not be the right word. There are not many -ism issues coming up. Other than my self-deprecating humor, which to me is as much a part of recovery as it is the dis...	barisax	7	551	Mar 14, 2007 by banned
	So nervous about starting a new relationship (Preview) Ok, I have in the past 4 weeks been asked out 3 times by a lovely new gentleman friend. We have been out for coffee once. And the thought of possibly starting a new relationship, is both tempting but at the same time making me feel like running! My very brief history.....married for 16 years to my AH, 3 c...	Feather	0	512	Mar 14, 2007 by banned
	Recovering from co-dependant situations in other aspects of life (Preview) My old need to please and control others is starting to diminish. I have a business, and got a new quote for our weekly cleaning that was a savings of 1200 per month. Unfortunately, my collegue and friend is the one who currently cleans...for 525 per week or 2100 per month. The new quote is only 900 per...	kicky	6	419	Mar 14, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	my anti stressor (Preview) For me my anti stressor is my animal sanctuary. I can feel very sad and lay in new hay and have a five hundred pound and twelve hundred pound farm pig on either side of me. Like who would want to? haha Fannie and Estersue can feel my hurting and will nuzzle me. I lay my head on their massive bodies and cry and t...	debilyn	3	481	Mar 14, 2007 by hersh
	Wrote a letter today (Preview) I wrote to my friend today, the one who won't talk to me. I haven't sent it yet, as I would like to wait at least 24 hours to make sure I've said everything I need to. I told my friend that I am an alcoholic and I apologized for my behavior while drinking. I said that wasn't really me, and I...	theprofessor	4	422	Mar 14, 2007 by Diva
	beautiful day (Preview) It is a beautiful spring day. My 3 yr old and I spent the afternoon in the yard...I said "Let's look for signs of spring".....before I knew it she was sayong" Mommy, let's look for things that are alive!" A wonderful thing to do. Look for things that are alive....in my yard, in my heart, in my spirit. I then...	Fifi	2	304	Mar 14, 2007 by jewely
	tonight i go angry (Preview) tonight i got angry. i bounced off the bed in the family room where i was watching tv, told him i recognized his part as the family martyer, and, as quick as a wink i had my coat on and the dog leashed , and , out the door i went for a brisk walk. but not before i heard him mumble......, ''well no, i did...	jewely	5	421	Mar 14, 2007 by jewely
	Al-anon Friends (Preview) I thought I'd share with you a story about how great an al-anon friend can be. Last week I had to go to the doctor b/c of back pain--my sober ah wanted me to go on Tues., but I didn't want to overreact, but by Thurs. I could stand it no more--he told me all week, just stay home don't go to work, I...	hudsond	3	293	Mar 14, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	This is me not reacting (Preview) Not alot of dramma tonight, at least not by my standards anyway. I am tired as all heck and A is doing the rummage through stuff and swear thing. I tell him he is making me nervous and he snaps SO WHAT!! So I start acting snappy and short too. And in my head I am ranting about him and doing dumb stuff like tossi...	RainyJamie	8	716	Mar 13, 2007 by RainyJamie
	Survived 3 days! Yipee!!! (Preview) Hi Everyone - thanks to you I have gotten through another day - I worked yesterday and am here again today (I will not let my A make me lose my job). I actually slept for 7 hours last nite and can actually drink my coffee this morning. I will be attending my first meeting tonite at 7:30 - 11.5 hrs and counting...	tuneboon	3	503	Mar 13, 2007 by Maria123
	Hello, all: old but new :) (Preview) Been reading on the forum, such caring words and support I immediately signed up. I've been involved with the 12 step programs since my teen years, after my father went into recovery. In some ways, the program is "part" of me, and in others, you'd think I wouldn't know an Al An...	Kim65	11	612	Mar 13, 2007 by Jen
	GROWING WITHIN AL-ANON (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) You all know I have had a tough few months... And I have shared all this with you......I have not yet done my step four.... But this week I can feel something chainging within myself......I don't know what I would call it.......Maybe a Spiritual Awaken...	ally	0	367	Mar 13, 2007 by ally
	which one is the real him? (Preview) hi all. I am new here. Have posted a couple of times but mostly lurking. My h is an alcoholic and has been struggling with sobriety for about 8 months. (He was sober 7 years prior to this recent relapse but without a program) We have been seperated since August. He has done a 10 day stint in rehab followed by...	Angel1	6	675	Mar 13, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Will I regret this? (Preview) It is 3:00am and my A(DA)H just arrived home, ringing the bell because he was locked out (I changed the locks two weeks ago). As he handed me the keys to my car which he took without permission, he said "I relapsed." I couldn't let him in the door, I took the keys and said "goodbye&quo...	akristab	5	467	Mar 13, 2007 by akristab
	New to this board & need help (Preview) I am a 57 year old woman who has never drunk alcohol, simply because it makes me nauseaus. In 2000 I remet my high school boyfriend and to make a long story short I moved back to Georgia from California where I had lived for 25 years and we got married. He is an attorney and I work full time as a paralegal. H...	Chetch	5	1129	Mar 13, 2007 by Chetch
	AH's weekend bender (Preview) Every time I might feel a little sad about leaving my AH, he does something that reminds me of why I left him and I don't feel quite so bad anymore. I haven't started the divorce process yet, but I have been gone now for almost five months now. We have been in touch and he does want me to come back, but...	Lindy	6	518	Mar 13, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Thank you! (Preview) ((((((Family)))))), Just wanted to say thank you for all the love and prayers. Hubby is doing better. We did not end up going to the ER (woohoo) because we have seen small improvements and his pain is lessening. His appetite is so so, and he's really weak. But he has not worsened and that certai...	Karilynn	8	463	Mar 13, 2007 by tea2
	Funny for the week (Some adult words!) (Preview) After being married 28 years my wife has me trained. I'm no longer allowed to pee like a man - standing up. I am required to sit down and pee. She has convinced me that this is a small price to pay. Otherwise if she had gone to the toilet one more time at night and either sat on a pee soaked toilet seat,...	Cucamonga	3	464	Mar 13, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Heard from my AH after 3 weeks. (Preview) Monday marked the 3 week since my AH left. I hadn't heard from him in all that time. Then yesterday morning he called and said he wanted his gun safe out of storage and asked if he could have the key. I told him I'd meet him there and he said he'd call me when he got to this side of town. I didn&...	QOD	5	512	Mar 13, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Thank you all (Preview) Thank you all for your wonderful support. I'm so glad I found this board. I don't feel do alone now. Cheryl	Chetch	1	288	Mar 13, 2007 by Diva
	Help and Suuport Please.......!!!!! (Preview) Hi - I'm first time on here -but I have lived with an alcoholic man for 5 years and have not tried to get help for myself and he and I have recently had a huge falling out and I've gotten an apartment but he still wanted to be a couple and we were and then this weekend I was at his place and things were fin...	tuneboon	14	635	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	When this disease progresses... (Preview) It moves like a lightening bolt. I feel like I'm back where we started when my AH drinking got out of control. Looking back on our five year history, we have gone through periods of sobriety, him being in the program but only working it half-heartedly. Me controlling or attempting to control ev...	twinmom2	5	563	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	The Dash--A Must see! Will Give You Something to Think About. (Preview) I got an email titled "Your Dash Movie". Make sure your speakers are turned on for this! Have you guys seen this???? It is very moving. I have watched it several times and it always makes me cry. It will be under http://www.yourdashmovie.com/ Let me know if you find it. Love in Recovery, B...	Becky1	3	462	Mar 13, 2007 by abbyal
	grappling with the loss of a friend :( (Preview) Due to my own alcoholic behavior, I have lost the best friend I have ever had. Unfortunately this person has me pegged for someone completely different, having seem me drunk out of my mind and behaving badly. I was so awful, and I fear there is just no repairing the relationship. We are in very close p...	theprofessor	6	528	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	Just how toxic is the AH? (Preview) Hi all, I wrote telling about seeing AH in the store with the not lady he is being kept by. The next day I had to move stuff to do a burn day at my main house I am renting out. I sobbed off and on all day. Well I know I should not be moving three huge sofas and four recliners, huge bags of stuff and more. But in my hea...	debilyn	8	561	Mar 13, 2007 by debilyn
	You wash my back..... (Preview) In the last few weeks or so, there have been quite a few things going on in my life that are fairly stressful. I'm handling everything more or less OK, but I find I have a stronger than normal need to vent, to talk things out. So, I'm turning to my (sober) A to share what's going on in my life, an...	lin0606	2	487	Mar 12, 2007 by jewely
	This is Cucamonga, Alive and Kicking thanks to HP (Preview) Hi all, I am just checking in. I haven't posted in a while. I thought I should check in, share a little bit, and give gratitude. First of all, I do recognize that I have come a long way from my first days here, I say that for 3 reasons, 1, To share my experience with new folks that come in here in chaos l...	Cucamonga	1	336	Mar 12, 2007 by ally
	Dealing with the A..My Depression and Hormones. ARRGGGHHH! (Preview) Hubby and I started the weekend out well. Went out to a very nice dinner Fri. evening. We actually sat and talked face to face. It was really the only time we had eaten together all week. He's been across the street at his friend's house drinking every.single.night. Sat. morning, he had to...	Becky1	6	496	Mar 12, 2007 by Friendofyours
	My experience with Mr. Hyde (Preview) Hi guys, Just checking into this cute little forum we've got going. I hope everyone is doing well and finding your miracles, you all deserve. Here is what I had the opportunity to work on in the last few days. Not like I would have chosen to go through this experience, but I did learn alot from it. My...	Moon	7	619	Mar 12, 2007 by HELPLESSMOM
	Error in my earlire post (Preview) I meant to say that my husband has been sober for over 3 weeks, not 3 days.	Chetch	0	369	Mar 12, 2007 by Chetch
	He's Baaaaaack!!! (Preview) Lunching with Bad, Bad Bill today. He is back in SA for talks, and is seriously considering taking the job here. Has a week to make the final decision. Meantime... Feminine wiles at work...work, work, work. Talk about jumping from the proverbial frying pan!!! Ah, but life's a treasure, a...	Diva	7	520	Mar 12, 2007 by TLC2
	powerless over alcohol... (Preview) I attended my first AA meeting yesterday, not as part of Al-Anon, but in admitting to myself that I also have a drinking problem. I feel like a total hypocrite, bashing my AH for his behavior while secretly drinking all of the time. I could really hang my head in shame :( It's odd; we're gett...	theprofessor	4	518	Mar 12, 2007 by theprofessor
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