Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

roxymom · roxymom

Hi all. I am so grateful to have found this forum. I've recently come to the realization that my husband is a functioning alcoholic. In recent years, i have told myself, "he drinks too much" but because he never became abusive, never missed work, etc, I didn't think that could classify hi...

sdoody00 · sdoody00

I have a concern about balancing my need for distance from my AH and my 3 years olds need to see his father. I have mandated that he can only see our son at my house and he must be clean and sober when he does come. And he did conform for a while, but arrived at my house this last time *high* Guess my son will be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hmm... I feel pretty good today. I am struggling now with my mom. She just got home on Tuesday(4/1/) I really don't want her around me right now but she is my mom and I love her. She is also a member of Alanon as I have mentioned before. I just need to spend less time with her because when I am around her I alm...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Ok here's my situation... I've known this man, not my A (actually he's not an A at all), I've known him for about 17 years...over half of my life...he and I've been in and out of relationships with each other the entire time we've known each other. He IS my best friend and I'm his. My problem is this: he want...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So now my niece is a 21 year old orphan! :( My MIL behaved very inappropriately to her and she had no adult support at all, sux to be 21 and the only adult in a room of much older people. But I digress, I was upset about something she had said to her and she said no, it's ok, when I had to work on that crew that pi...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

You will never comprehend this mystical being Life isn't always a fairy tale Life isn't all about fame There are those that cry out in pain There are things that are difficult to explain She seemed to be free,yet her heart told a different story that you can't see She is trapped within,suffocating hers...

glad · glad

Last night I went to a sporting event (mortor cycle race) with the A father of my A Bf of 5 years (spouse, we are more committed than some marreid couples I know) anyway, I am very sad about the neglectful, shameful, horrible things that the father continues to justify with crazy stories. Like feeding m...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Dear (((((((((((family)))))))))))))))))). Today I am grateful for the sunshine and immediately thought about all the beautiful things that have been happening to me since I started on this journey. Today I looked at my little home and I am grateful that I can come and go in safety. Today I am g...

DeadOrAlive · DeadOrAlive

Why I hate weekends now: My son (I realized with a shock) is now closer to 17 than 16! I have always done things with him on the weekends and now, well, he wants to be with his friends or on the computor talking to them. I can't stand being around my AH and used to also distract myself with work from my job, w...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Finally after many years of raising two daughters by myself, getting college classes in here and there where I could, today I took a campus tour of Hutchinson Community College and visited with the director of the Registered Health Information Technologist program. I start classes June 2, and ever...

grizmom · grizmom

My husband, who is a ward of the DOC in a special program for DUI offenders, was due to come home 4/24 and the DOC has decided to keep him another month. (that is actually good news to me!) Saturday morning I woke up with a fever of 104.6 and had to be treated for dehydration. Tested positive for the influ...

wishing13 · wishing13

Hello, this is my first experience with Al-anon. I have been urged to go by several people, but to be honest my first thought was, I dont have anymore time to spend on the topic of "drinking". I have been so frusterated, hurt, angry, and most of all resentfull towards my Husband. We have been t...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))))) I have a friend who has a lump on his side. He is awaiting test results, and is feeling very anxious and fragile. Could you all please keep him in your thoughts and prayers.. Thank You His name is Jon.... Your crazy Allygirl xx

Prayforme · Prayforme

Hey all, My life is constantly changing. Long story husb addicted in and out of rehabs now told he cant come home. Drove him to rescue mission and 6 days out now calls and says hes not being fed "like a concentration camp" wanted me to pick him up. I know he has reached bottom, still love him (25 y...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Why is it that all the big and nasties come out in verbal argument when you really don't mean for it to? Something like out of a novel, where you turn the page and the evil 'deed' pops out in the book. My AH has a severe control issue...and has throughout our entire relationship. And I am not placing the co...

Suzannah · Suzannah

The disease claims another. So tragic. He has gone. Thank you everyone for your support and prayers. So my daughter has lost her Grandpa "Welly"; he died peacefully. Giving thanks for the wonderful nursing staff who made his passing as comfortable as they could. Sad, f...

Lisa444 · Lisa444

I'm so discouraged. I've been in Alanon 2 years. I do everything I'm supposed to - regular meetings (3 times/week), have a sponsor, work the steps (I'm on #8 - my sponsor said I don't have to have an HP to keep going, only willingness to believe), make calls, take service positions, read every book rec...

tea2 · tea2

Happy Anniversary Karilynn & Hubby and Happy Birthday Piper's Kitty!

Karilynn · Karilynn

For some reason when I replied to GG's post they said it was too long! But of course I wanted to reply as I'm mouthy! ((((((((GG)))))), The list is too long but here are my favorites: 1. None of this is my fault. Goes back to the 3Cs. 2. Detaching from the A doesn't mean that you stop loving the person. 3. An a...

ESH · ESH

I need a 12-step program for dealing with some of the cruel people that I work with. It is so stressful to feel "under attack" by some of these people. My first reaction is a counter-attack (I lose my cool) and fight back. Then I feel horrible for stooping to their level. I need so badly to a...

ally · ally

(((((((((((Guys)))))))))) A few days ago i took a huge gamble in putting my life story on show for everyone to see. I had considered this very carefully, i would be putting my family in the light, should i do that, did i have the right to do that. As usual i followed my gut instinct and went along wi...

ally · ally

I was born in Glasgow, Scotland in April 1971. I was raised with my parents and one older sister, I am four years younger. We were like any other family in Glasgow at that time, we all had our own troubles, behind closed doors. I like to use the phrase Dysfunctional families. Life was normal for me I think,...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I had something come up and I think I will be 30-40 minutes late for tonight's meeting. Just wanted to get the word out. See you all later tonight. Yours in recovery, Mandy

ddub · ddub

I had forgot and piggy backed this question onto Norwood's post about resentments are a choice too - how true the more I think about it. However, showing lower levels today of confidence, assertiveness and not worrying... (other days I do better & I am working on this) how do you deal with the &qu...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((Family)))))))), A very good morning to you all. Just wanted to update you all. I am feeling much better today. I decided to stay home yesterday for me, not for hubby. I called work and told them that I was feeling under the weather. So I vegged, watched my favorite West Wing Series (hey...

debilyn · debilyn

ver are you ma dear friend? How are you and whatcha thinken bout? hoping you are on your path,love,debilyn

Aloha · Aloha

Jeez this day has been full of hard knocks. Didn't sleep well last night, so woke up on the tired side as it was, but didn't feel bad about myself. Called my sponsor and that's when I think it all started. That dang reminder "so, when are you going to get to an open AA meeting this week?" Do...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Hard to believe but almost a year is upon us since the horrific tragedy at VTech. As I was scanning the message boards, I was recalling the reassurance you all gave me as I tried to comfort my friend. I haven't heard from her, I can't recall if she graduated, but God knows that the campus is probably geari...

norwood · norwood

I found the secret (the one that works for me) to letting go of resentments. It is in truly owning my choices. When I have resented others it always came with a "but", or "I was forced to......", or "they did.......", etc. When I own my choices, there are no "bu...

HopeinVA · HopeinVA

I have a few questions. Please forgive me as I am still new to all of this. First, I am a little confused about the program. I have read about the 12 steps and the "family" disease. I have to be honest though, when I first read that we go through the 12 steps I was sort of confused because as I re...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

There's this absolutely gorgeous drug rep that comes to my work every Wednesday and all the girls here are gaga over him. I have gotten little tidbits of information about him and heard everyone going on about him and kept saying call me when he comes next, introduce me, set me up!!! He's tall, same...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I have mentioned before that I believe my ah's relationship with his g/f is an addiction, particularly now that he is not drinking/using. I came across a cell phone bill with 10 solid pages of text messaging. He has messages going back and forth all day long. According to our office manager, (or should...

glad · glad

you wrote: How can anyone love and accept others until they can truely love and accept themselves? hmmm is that why he can say certain things and then just appear to sweep them under the rug? High expectations with no room for failure/ not seeing alot of love and acceptance growing up/ seeing lots and...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Ok ok some advertising for Sunday's evening meeting. And lol made ya look. Sunday's topics are: facing reality, fantasy/illusion, and owning our choices. Your hosts Paul aka norwood and myself aka to some as nutjob. Also please remember that the Sunday evening meeting begins a bit e...

omajoy · omajoy

Two weeks ago today my mom's funeral was just ending. Since that time I have been on the roller coaster. Flew home, saw spouse through unsuccessful surgery and now we have TWO more invasive surgeries on the calendar during next six weeks. I have moments flashing back on Mom's life....ho...

roxygirl · roxygirl

My son is an alcoholic! Why is he so mean and rotten to the core? He treats me like a piece of shit! He talks to me with no respect! Anything I say he has to argue with me, I am never right about anything in his opinion. I don't like being around him, he is very toxic. Has anyone experienced this behavior...

Aloha · Aloha

Feeling kind of blah today. I don't like being reminded to do things that I kind of don't want to do. Talking with my sponsor this morning she was inquiring about when I'm going to get to the next open AA meeting. Erm... shoot. Wasn't really planning on it this week was the thing. In any case, told her I...

maresie · maresie

Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something. I was able to practice murphy's law w...

debilyn · debilyn

My eyes were kicked open. Had to sorta sit back and think about what I am doing. With the disabilities I have it makes it almost impossible to leave home. Can either stand and work, keep moving, or lay down and be here. In that I believe I may have been over bearing with out meaning to. If anyone has felt I was...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Family, I know I know progress not perfection, but when will I stop letting my big mouth, red haired temper, and my pain getting the better of me? My normal child care provider is on vaction today and tomorrow. I asked hub, since he works nights, if her could help me out and parent our children while I am at...

Christy · Christy

(((Fellow Alanuts))) I've mentioned Eckhart Tolle's book "A New Earth" several times recently,. He has such insight and brings to light awareness of things I have struggled with in the past. This one was a forehead smacker for me..lol A simple concept So true, but something my thoug...

Gailey · Gailey

I have not posted in a long time about what is going on in my life....which is a lot right now. First, my A son has not had a drink in 2 months...praise HP!!! In October I had gastric bypass surgery and have so far lost 75lbs. Today is my 6 month surgiversary. I feel great and would still like to lose about 25 mo...

cinmgrier · cinmgrier

I have been living with an alcoholic husband for 12 years. His mom passed away four years ago and since that time he has been very angry and violent. When he goes to AA, it only lasts for two or three months and then it starts all over again. We have a nine year together and I have a 15 year from previous mar...

glad · glad

I am learning that if I stay with my "A" I will have to accept that I get only little bits of him at a time-and the pieces don't always connect. Unable to have the desired flow of thoughts ideas, dreams or plans. - It's like each day stands alone for him. He even sometimes says-this was a good day o...

Aloha · Aloha

Well, I ensnared myself in a disappointment trap yesterday. Just shoulda known, ya know? But I'm okay with it now... doing better. Just taking it as yet another lesson learned. I told my AH a couple days ago that I was going to attend a hot yoga class on Wednesday evening. He sounded mildly interest...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Lots of "junk" under the bridge here. So much junk that it seems to be blocking the trust in my Marriage. I have owned up to alot that I have done with my mistakes and wrong doings. And make it a point to continue to do so--regardless of the anger and pain that comes up in remembrance. I think d...

Maria123 · Maria123

I've been in my head alot lately. Sometimes depending on which way I choose I can find myself in an old neighborhood. I can go round and round Denial Circle, Sabatoge Hill,Sex Drive, Pity Pot Springs and wouldnt ya know it right past Serenity Park. I think I need to bring a few things with me when I go insid...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I have a problem guys. When I get stressed and worked up I binge. I have always had problems with food and I know that its a life time battle I face. I dont know how to stop doing this. I use sweet stuff to cheer me up. To a point where I can eat several chocolate bars, bag and bags of sweets then a packed of busicu...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Where to begin? With the few hours I spent with Michael last night/this morning? or with the fact that I realized last night that my mother does not support my recovery....I think I'll start with mother.... I realized last night while he was in his meeting and I was sitting in a different room reading &q...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...

david62 · david62

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...

Aloha · Aloha

I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...

kes · kes

I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...

Suzannah · Suzannah

This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...

Christy · Christy

I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...

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	New here - had a bit of an epiphany today (Preview) Hi all. I am so grateful to have found this forum. I've recently come to the realization that my husband is a functioning alcoholic. In recent years, i have told myself, "he drinks too much" but because he never became abusive, never missed work, etc, I didn't think that could classify hi...	roxymom	4	555	Apr 7, 2008 by maresie
	Son Missing AH - What to do (Preview) I have a concern about balancing my need for distance from my AH and my 3 years olds need to see his father. I have mandated that he can only see our son at my house and he must be clean and sober when he does come. And he did conform for a while, but arrived at my house this last time high Guess my son will be...	sdoody00	9	672	Apr 7, 2008 by lin0606
	What can I say? (Preview) Hmm... I feel pretty good today. I am struggling now with my mom. She just got home on Tuesday(4/1/) I really don't want her around me right now but she is my mom and I love her. She is also a member of Alanon as I have mentioned before. I just need to spend less time with her because when I am around her I alm...	Hoot Nanny	2	333	Apr 7, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Relationship ESH needed please (Preview) Ok here's my situation... I've known this man, not my A (actually he's not an A at all), I've known him for about 17 years...over half of my life...he and I've been in and out of relationships with each other the entire time we've known each other. He IS my best friend and I'm his. My problem is this: he want...	JenniferN	9	551	Apr 7, 2008 by maresie
	Sister in law died last night at 50 (Preview) So now my niece is a 21 year old orphan! :( My MIL behaved very inappropriately to her and she had no adult support at all, sux to be 21 and the only adult in a room of much older people. But I digress, I was upset about something she had said to her and she said no, it's ok, when I had to work on that crew that pi...	carolinagirl	12	614	Apr 7, 2008 by Gailey
	You will never comprehend this mystical being(my poem) (Preview) You will never comprehend this mystical being Life isn't always a fairy tale Life isn't all about fame There are those that cry out in pain There are things that are difficult to explain She seemed to be free,yet her heart told a different story that you can't see She is trapped within,suffocating hers...	Lauren ashley	3	488	Apr 7, 2008 by sadako
	Generational drunkeness!! Wow! (Preview) Last night I went to a sporting event (mortor cycle race) with the A father of my A Bf of 5 years (spouse, we are more committed than some marreid couples I know) anyway, I am very sad about the neglectful, shameful, horrible things that the father continues to justify with crazy stories. Like feeding m...	glad	4	509	Apr 7, 2008 by Jerry F
	A NEW DAY, A NEW SONG... (Preview) Dear (((((((((((family)))))))))))))))))). Today I am grateful for the sunshine and immediately thought about all the beautiful things that have been happening to me since I started on this journey. Today I looked at my little home and I am grateful that I can come and go in safety. Today I am g...	Suzannah	4	585	Apr 7, 2008 by Mandy123
	Figured something out (Preview) Why I hate weekends now: My son (I realized with a shock) is now closer to 17 than 16! I have always done things with him on the weekends and now, well, he wants to be with his friends or on the computor talking to them. I can't stand being around my AH and used to also distract myself with work from my job, w...	DeadOrAlive	7	359	Apr 7, 2008 by Mandy123
	What a day! (Preview) Finally after many years of raising two daughters by myself, getting college classes in here and there where I could, today I took a campus tour of Hutchinson Community College and visited with the director of the Registered Health Information Technologist program. I start classes June 2, and ever...	Tenderheartsks	6	461	Apr 6, 2008 by Suzannah
	I'm a wreck! (Preview) My husband, who is a ward of the DOC in a special program for DUI offenders, was due to come home 4/24 and the DOC has decided to keep him another month. (that is actually good news to me!) Saturday morning I woke up with a fever of 104.6 and had to be treated for dehydration. Tested positive for the influ...	grizmom	11	472	Apr 6, 2008 by Suzannah
	Feeling so defeated.... (Preview) Hello, this is my first experience with Al-anon. I have been urged to go by several people, but to be honest my first thought was, I dont have anymore time to spend on the topic of "drinking". I have been so frusterated, hurt, angry, and most of all resentfull towards my Husband. We have been t...	wishing13	11	499	Apr 6, 2008 by Karilynn
	PRAYERS NEEDED GUYS.....PLEASE (Preview) ((((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))))) I have a friend who has a lump on his side. He is awaiting test results, and is feeling very anxious and fragile. Could you all please keep him in your thoughts and prayers.. Thank You His name is Jon.... Your crazy Allygirl xx	ally	7	396	Apr 6, 2008 by cookie1971
	Need your wisdom (Preview) Hey all, My life is constantly changing. Long story husb addicted in and out of rehabs now told he cant come home. Drove him to rescue mission and 6 days out now calls and says hes not being fed "like a concentration camp" wanted me to pick him up. I know he has reached bottom, still love him (25 y...	Prayforme	5	315	Apr 6, 2008 by cookie1971
	Big and Nasties (Preview) Why is it that all the big and nasties come out in verbal argument when you really don't mean for it to? Something like out of a novel, where you turn the page and the evil 'deed' pops out in the book. My AH has a severe control issue...and has throughout our entire relationship. And I am not placing the co...	Just For Now	5	515	Apr 5, 2008 by Loupiness
	ANOTHER ONE PASSES ON - (Preview) The disease claims another. So tragic. He has gone. Thank you everyone for your support and prayers. So my daughter has lost her Grandpa "Welly"; he died peacefully. Giving thanks for the wonderful nursing staff who made his passing as comfortable as they could. Sad, f...	Suzannah	9	558	Apr 5, 2008 by Just For Now
	Two Years of Alanon and still no HP (Preview) I'm so discouraged. I've been in Alanon 2 years. I do everything I'm supposed to - regular meetings (3 times/week), have a sponsor, work the steps (I'm on #8 - my sponsor said I don't have to have an HP to keep going, only willingness to believe), make calls, take service positions, read every book rec...	Lisa444	14	809	Apr 5, 2008 by Just For Now
	((( Karilynn and Piper's Kitty ))) (Preview) Happy Anniversary Karilynn & Hubby and Happy Birthday Piper's Kitty!	tea2	12	715	Apr 5, 2008 by Karilynn
	Reply to GG's post. (Preview) For some reason when I replied to GG's post they said it was too long! But of course I wanted to reply as I'm mouthy! ((((((((GG)))))), The list is too long but here are my favorites: 1. None of this is my fault. Goes back to the 3Cs. 2. Detaching from the A doesn't mean that you stop loving the person. 3. An a...	Karilynn	5	518	Apr 5, 2008 by tea2
	Cruel people (Preview) I need a 12-step program for dealing with some of the cruel people that I work with. It is so stressful to feel "under attack" by some of these people. My first reaction is a counter-attack (I lose my cool) and fight back. Then I feel horrible for stooping to their level. I need so badly to a...	ESH	7	534	Apr 5, 2008 by Jean4444
	WHAT A FEELING.. (Preview) (((((((((((Guys)))))))))) A few days ago i took a huge gamble in putting my life story on show for everyone to see. I had considered this very carefully, i would be putting my family in the light, should i do that, did i have the right to do that. As usual i followed my gut instinct and went along wi...	ally	1	295	Apr 5, 2008 by Suzannah
	MY STORY........ALLYGIRL... (Preview) I was born in Glasgow, Scotland in April 1971. I was raised with my parents and one older sister, I am four years younger. We were like any other family in Glasgow at that time, we all had our own troubles, behind closed doors. I like to use the phrase Dysfunctional families. Life was normal for me I think,...	ally	5	426	Apr 5, 2008 by Jen
	Tonight's meeting (Preview) Hi all, I had something come up and I think I will be 30-40 minutes late for tonight's meeting. Just wanted to get the word out. See you all later tonight. Yours in recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	0	255	Apr 5, 2008 by Mandy123
	resentments are a choice but.... (Preview) I had forgot and piggy backed this question onto Norwood's post about resentments are a choice too - how true the more I think about it. However, showing lower levels today of confidence, assertiveness and not worrying... (other days I do better & I am working on this) how do you deal with the &qu...	ddub	4	556	Apr 5, 2008 by ddub
	A new day. (Preview) (((((((((((Family)))))))), A very good morning to you all. Just wanted to update you all. I am feeling much better today. I decided to stay home yesterday for me, not for hubby. I called work and told them that I was feeling under the weather. So I vegged, watched my favorite West Wing Series (hey...	Karilynn	10	353	Apr 5, 2008 by Andrea12
	Suzannah dahling (Preview) ver are you ma dear friend? How are you and whatcha thinken bout? hoping you are on your path,love,debilyn	debilyn	1	290	Apr 5, 2008 by Suzannah
	Resentful at having to see my defaults! (Preview) Jeez this day has been full of hard knocks. Didn't sleep well last night, so woke up on the tired side as it was, but didn't feel bad about myself. Called my sponsor and that's when I think it all started. That dang reminder "so, when are you going to get to an open AA meeting this week?" Do...	Aloha	2	729	Apr 5, 2008 by Jen
	anniversary of VTech shootings (Preview) Hard to believe but almost a year is upon us since the horrific tragedy at VTech. As I was scanning the message boards, I was recalling the reassurance you all gave me as I tried to comfort my friend. I haven't heard from her, I can't recall if she graduated, but God knows that the campus is probably geari...	Tiger2006	3	504	Apr 4, 2008 by cookie1971
	letting go of resentments (Preview) I found the secret (the one that works for me) to letting go of resentments. It is in truly owning my choices. When I have resented others it always came with a "but", or "I was forced to......", or "they did.......", etc. When I own my choices, there are no "bu...	norwood	3	573	Apr 4, 2008 by cookie1971
	Confusion, blame, excuses, help!! (Preview) I have a few questions. Please forgive me as I am still new to all of this. First, I am a little confused about the program. I have read about the 12 steps and the "family" disease. I have to be honest though, when I first read that we go through the 12 steps I was sort of confused because as I re...	HopeinVA	1	587	Apr 4, 2008 by Jen
	On a positive note! (Preview) There's this absolutely gorgeous drug rep that comes to my work every Wednesday and all the girls here are gaga over him. I have gotten little tidbits of information about him and heard everyone going on about him and kept saying call me when he comes next, introduce me, set me up!!! He's tall, same...	carolinagirl	11	513	Apr 4, 2008 by Jen
	Would this be bad? (Preview) I have mentioned before that I believe my ah's relationship with his g/f is an addiction, particularly now that he is not drinking/using. I came across a cell phone bill with 10 solid pages of text messaging. He has messages going back and forth all day long. According to our office manager, (or should...	Loupiness	10	642	Apr 4, 2008 by ddub
	Thanks ddub! Re:why is he so mean? (Preview) you wrote: How can anyone love and accept others until they can truely love and accept themselves? hmmm is that why he can say certain things and then just appear to sweep them under the rug? High expectations with no room for failure/ not seeing alot of love and acceptance growing up/ seeing lots and...	glad	2	368	Apr 4, 2008 by ddub
	You will never guess what! (Preview) Hi family, Ok ok some advertising for Sunday's evening meeting. And lol made ya look. Sunday's topics are: facing reality, fantasy/illusion, and owning our choices. Your hosts Paul aka norwood and myself aka to some as nutjob. Also please remember that the Sunday evening meeting begins a bit e...	Mandy123	1	300	Apr 4, 2008 by norwood
	anger/grief/failure? (Preview) Two weeks ago today my mom's funeral was just ending. Since that time I have been on the roller coaster. Flew home, saw spouse through unsuccessful surgery and now we have TWO more invasive surgeries on the calendar during next six weeks. I have moments flashing back on Mom's life....ho...	omajoy	9	447	Apr 4, 2008 by Jen
	WHY IS HE SOOO MEAN? (Preview) My son is an alcoholic! Why is he so mean and rotten to the core? He treats me like a piece of shit! He talks to me with no respect! Anything I say he has to argue with me, I am never right about anything in his opinion. I don't like being around him, he is very toxic. Has anyone experienced this behavior...	roxygirl	5	716	Apr 4, 2008 by debilyn
	Just... blah today. (Preview) Feeling kind of blah today. I don't like being reminded to do things that I kind of don't want to do. Talking with my sponsor this morning she was inquiring about when I'm going to get to the next open AA meeting. Erm... shoot. Wasn't really planning on it this week was the thing. In any case, told her I...	Aloha	1	350	Apr 4, 2008 by serendipity
	detaching from others (Preview) Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something. I was able to practice murphy's law w...	maresie	5	281	Apr 4, 2008 by java
	Taking my own inventory (Preview) My eyes were kicked open. Had to sorta sit back and think about what I am doing. With the disabilities I have it makes it almost impossible to leave home. Can either stand and work, keep moving, or lay down and be here. In that I believe I may have been over bearing with out meaning to. If anyone has felt I was...	debilyn	4	743	Apr 4, 2008 by Suzannah
	will I ever learn to keep the mouth shut? (Preview) Family, I know I know progress not perfection, but when will I stop letting my big mouth, red haired temper, and my pain getting the better of me? My normal child care provider is on vaction today and tomorrow. I asked hub, since he works nights, if her could help me out and parent our children while I am at...	Mandy123	9	640	Apr 4, 2008 by Karilynn
	All I want is peace.. (Preview) (((Fellow Alanuts))) I've mentioned Eckhart Tolle's book "A New Earth" several times recently,. He has such insight and brings to light awareness of things I have struggled with in the past. This one was a forehead smacker for me..lol A simple concept So true, but something my thoug...	Christy	10	558	Apr 4, 2008 by ddub
	Things have been going good (Preview) I have not posted in a long time about what is going on in my life....which is a lot right now. First, my A son has not had a drink in 2 months...praise HP!!! In October I had gastric bypass surgery and have so far lost 75lbs. Today is my 6 month surgiversary. I feel great and would still like to lose about 25 mo...	Gailey	9	709	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	Help (Preview) I have been living with an alcoholic husband for 12 years. His mom passed away four years ago and since that time he has been very angry and violent. When he goes to AA, it only lasts for two or three months and then it starts all over again. We have a nine year together and I have a 15 year from previous mar...	cinmgrier	8	432	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	ugh!! Gotta let my thoughts out! (Preview) I am learning that if I stay with my "A" I will have to accept that I get only little bits of him at a time-and the pieces don't always connect. Unable to have the desired flow of thoughts ideas, dreams or plans. - It's like each day stands alone for him. He even sometimes says-this was a good day o...	glad	2	496	Apr 3, 2008 by Maria123
	Setting ourselves up to be disappointed (Preview) Well, I ensnared myself in a disappointment trap yesterday. Just shoulda known, ya know? But I'm okay with it now... doing better. Just taking it as yet another lesson learned. I told my AH a couple days ago that I was going to attend a hot yoga class on Wednesday evening. He sounded mildly interest...	Aloha	5	445	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	Trust (Preview) Lots of "junk" under the bridge here. So much junk that it seems to be blocking the trust in my Marriage. I have owned up to alot that I have done with my mistakes and wrong doings. And make it a point to continue to do so--regardless of the anger and pain that comes up in remembrance. I think d...	Just For Now	4	393	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	So Funny but true (Preview) I've been in my head alot lately. Sometimes depending on which way I choose I can find myself in an old neighborhood. I can go round and round Denial Circle, Sabatoge Hill,Sex Drive, Pity Pot Springs and wouldnt ya know it right past Serenity Park. I think I need to bring a few things with me when I go insid...	Maria123	8	386	Apr 3, 2008 by Suzannah
	My problem (Preview) I have a problem guys. When I get stressed and worked up I binge. I have always had problems with food and I know that its a life time battle I face. I dont know how to stop doing this. I use sweet stuff to cheer me up. To a point where I can eat several chocolate bars, bag and bags of sweets then a packed of busicu...	mum2leahnjosh	6	376	Apr 3, 2008 by Aloha
	Too Many Things To Say...Too Many Thoughts (Preview) Where to begin? With the few hours I spent with Michael last night/this morning? or with the fact that I realized last night that my mother does not support my recovery....I think I'll start with mother.... I realized last night while he was in his meeting and I was sitting in a different room reading &q...	JenniferN	2	524	Apr 3, 2008 by glad
	RE love and loneliness (Preview) I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...	carolinagirl	6	436	Apr 3, 2008 by drucilla06
	April Business Mtg Sunday....be there!!!!!! :-) (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...	david62	0	350	Apr 3, 2008 by david62
	I love this place - not thinking about the A (Preview) I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing. This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful. I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...	Aloha	2	519	Apr 3, 2008 by maresie
	Prayer Request (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...	david62	11	529	Apr 3, 2008 by aunitedway
	Help, I'm new & desperate for advice, re sister & her kid (Preview) I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...	kes	9	538	Apr 2, 2008 by kes
	tired of being alone but scared to be together. (Preview) I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...	carolinagirl	11	554	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	I sometimes wonder.... (Preview) ((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...	Karilynn	11	346	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	The real me... (Preview) This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...	Suzannah	9	399	Apr 2, 2008 by chris52
	Mother Teresa's Wisdom (Preview) I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...	Christy	6	540	Apr 2, 2008 by maresie
	Avoidance or detachment (Preview) After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...	Denoraphy	4	619	Apr 2, 2008 by Jean4444
	Aims For The Week (Preview) Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...	mum2leahnjosh	6	291	Apr 2, 2008 by BooBoo313
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