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WHAT A FEELING..
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(((((((((((Guys)))))))))) A few days ago i took a huge gamble in putting my life story on show for everyone to see. I had considered this very carefully, i would be putting my family in the light, should i do that, did i have the right to do that. As usual i followed my gut instinct and went along wi...
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MY STORY........ALLYGIRL...
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I was born in Glasgow, Scotland in April 1971. I was raised with my parents and one older sister, I am four years younger. We were like any other family in Glasgow at that time, we all had our own troubles, behind closed doors. I like to use the phrase Dysfunctional families. Life was normal for me I think,...
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Tonight's meeting
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Hi all, I had something come up and I think I will be 30-40 minutes late for tonight's meeting. Just wanted to get the word out. See you all later tonight. Yours in recovery, Mandy
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Mandy123
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resentments are a choice but....
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I had forgot and piggy backed this question onto Norwood's post about resentments are a choice too - how true the more I think about it. However, showing lower levels today of confidence, assertiveness and not worrying... (other days I do better & I am working on this) how do you deal with the &qu...
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ddub
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A new day.
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(((((((((((Family)))))))), A very good morning to you all. Just wanted to update you all. I am feeling much better today. I decided to stay home yesterday for me, not for hubby. I called work and told them that I was feeling under the weather. So I vegged, watched my favorite West Wing Series (hey...
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Karilynn
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Suzannah dahling
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ver are you ma dear friend? How are you and whatcha thinken bout? hoping you are on your path,love,debilyn
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Resentful at having to see my defaults!
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Jeez this day has been full of hard knocks.
Didn't sleep well last night, so woke up on the tired side as it was, but didn't feel bad about myself.
Called my sponsor and that's when I think it all started. That dang reminder "so, when are you going to get to an open AA meeting this week?"
Do...
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Aloha
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anniversary of VTech shootings
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Hard to believe but almost a year is upon us since the horrific tragedy at VTech. As I was scanning the message boards, I was recalling the reassurance you all gave me as I tried to comfort my friend. I haven't heard from her, I can't recall if she graduated, but God knows that the campus is probably geari...
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letting go of resentments
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I found the secret (the one that works for me) to letting go of resentments. It is in truly owning my choices. When I have resented others it always came with a "but", or "I was forced to......", or "they did.......", etc. When I own my choices, there are no "bu...
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Confusion, blame, excuses, help!!
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I have a few questions. Please forgive me as I am still new to all of this. First, I am a little confused about the program. I have read about the 12 steps and the "family" disease. I have to be honest though, when I first read that we go through the 12 steps I was sort of confused because as I re...
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HopeinVA
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On a positive note!
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There's this absolutely gorgeous drug rep that comes to my work every Wednesday and all the girls here are gaga over him. I have gotten little tidbits of information about him and heard everyone going on about him and kept saying call me when he comes next, introduce me, set me up!!! He's tall, same...
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carolinagirl
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Would this be bad?
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I have mentioned before that I believe my ah's relationship with his g/f is an addiction, particularly now that he is not drinking/using. I came across a cell phone bill with 10 solid pages of text messaging. He has messages going back and forth all day long. According to our office manager, (or should...
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Thanks ddub! Re:why is he so mean?
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you wrote: How can anyone love and accept others until they can truely love and accept themselves? hmmm is that why he can say certain things and then just appear to sweep them under the rug? High expectations with no room for failure/ not seeing alot of love and acceptance growing up/ seeing lots and...
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You will never guess what!
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Hi family, Ok ok some advertising for Sunday's evening meeting. And lol made ya look. Sunday's topics are: facing reality, fantasy/illusion, and owning our choices. Your hosts Paul aka norwood and myself aka to some as nutjob. Also please remember that the Sunday evening meeting begins a bit e...
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anger/grief/failure?
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Two weeks ago today my mom's funeral was just ending. Since that time I have been on the roller coaster. Flew home, saw spouse through unsuccessful surgery and now we have TWO more invasive surgeries on the calendar during next six weeks. I have moments flashing back on Mom's life....ho...
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omajoy
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WHY IS HE SOOO MEAN?
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My son is an alcoholic! Why is he so mean and rotten to the core? He treats me like a piece of shit! He talks to me with no respect! Anything I say he has to argue with me, I am never right about anything in his opinion. I don't like being around him, he is very toxic. Has anyone experienced this behavior...
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roxygirl
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Just... blah today.
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Feeling kind of blah today.
I don't like being reminded to do things that I kind of don't want to do. Talking with my sponsor this morning she was inquiring about when I'm going to get to the next open AA meeting.
Erm... shoot. Wasn't really planning on it this week was the thing. In any case, told her I...
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Aloha
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detaching from others
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Detachment is huge for me because of the way I live and will have to continue to live for some time. This morning I was met at the back door (I live in the back of the house which means I am cut off from the others most of the time) by a roommmate who was irate about something. I was able to practice murphy's law w...
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maresie
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Taking my own inventory
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My eyes were kicked open. Had to sorta sit back and think about what I am doing. With the disabilities I have it makes it almost impossible to leave home. Can either stand and work, keep moving, or lay down and be here. In that I believe I may have been over bearing with out meaning to. If anyone has felt I was...
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debilyn
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will I ever learn to keep the mouth shut?
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Family, I know I know progress not perfection, but when will I stop letting my big mouth, red haired temper, and my pain getting the better of me? My normal child care provider is on vaction today and tomorrow. I asked hub, since he works nights, if her could help me out and parent our children while I am at...
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Mandy123
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All I want is peace..
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(((Fellow Alanuts))) I've mentioned Eckhart Tolle's book "A New Earth" several times recently,. He has such insight and brings to light awareness of things I have struggled with in the past. This one was a forehead smacker for me..lol A simple concept So true, but something my thoug...
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Christy
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Things have been going good
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I have not posted in a long time about what is going on in my life....which is a lot right now. First, my A son has not had a drink in 2 months...praise HP!!! In October I had gastric bypass surgery and have so far lost 75lbs. Today is my 6 month surgiversary. I feel great and would still like to lose about 25 mo...
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Gailey
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Help
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I have been living with an alcoholic husband for 12 years. His mom passed away four years ago and since that time he has been very angry and violent. When he goes to AA, it only lasts for two or three months and then it starts all over again. We have a nine year together and I have a 15 year from previous mar...
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cinmgrier
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ugh!! Gotta let my thoughts out!
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I am learning that if I stay with my "A" I will have to accept that I get only little bits of him at a time-and the pieces don't always connect. Unable to have the desired flow of thoughts ideas, dreams or plans. - It's like each day stands alone for him. He even sometimes says-this was a good day o...
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Setting ourselves up to be disappointed
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Well, I ensnared myself in a disappointment trap yesterday.
Just shoulda known, ya know? But I'm okay with it now... doing better. Just taking it as yet another lesson learned.
I told my AH a couple days ago that I was going to attend a hot yoga class on Wednesday evening. He sounded mildly interest...
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Aloha
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Trust
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Lots of "junk" under the bridge here. So much junk that it seems to be blocking the trust in my Marriage. I have owned up to alot that I have done with my mistakes and wrong doings. And make it a point to continue to do so--regardless of the anger and pain that comes up in remembrance. I think d...
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Just For Now
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So Funny but true
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I've been in my head alot lately. Sometimes depending on which way I choose I can find myself in an old neighborhood. I can go round and round Denial Circle, Sabatoge Hill,Sex Drive, Pity Pot Springs and wouldnt ya know it right past Serenity Park. I think I need to bring a few things with me when I go insid...
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Maria123
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My problem
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I have a problem guys. When I get stressed and worked up I binge. I have always had problems with food and I know that its a life time battle I face. I dont know how to stop doing this. I use sweet stuff to cheer me up. To a point where I can eat several chocolate bars, bag and bags of sweets then a packed of busicu...
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mum2leahnjosh
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Too Many Things To Say...Too Many Thoughts
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Where to begin? With the few hours I spent with Michael last night/this morning? or with the fact that I realized last night that my mother does not support my recovery....I think I'll start with mother.... I realized last night while he was in his meeting and I was sitting in a different room reading &q...
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JenniferN
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RE love and loneliness
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I know that I have serious trust issues, I have been trying to deal with my feelings that they are heartless machines... Not capable of love, etc. I don't recall feeling this way when I was younger, I felt loved even tho I had been betrayed I believed they were capable of love. Now I'm jaded... I think my...
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carolinagirl
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April Business Mtg Sunday....be there!!!!!! :-)
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Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! We will be having a full meeting, and the election of new officers (Chairperson, Secretary and Treasurer). Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business...
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I love this place - not thinking about the A
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I love when I find myself in that lovely realm of Serenity. Where my daily focus is not upon the A or what A's done or doing or might be doing.
This is such a great, happy place. I feel so calm, collected, open-minded, even joyful.
I love this program. It has been my saving grace. If I'd not joine...
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Aloha
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Prayer Request
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Hi ((((Family)))) For those of you who know our treasurer/member DOT I have an update on her. She had neck surgery recently and suffered some complications from the surgery. She is currently in rehab and will be under care for some time to come. She is in good spirits but will be away from us for a whil...
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david62
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Help, I'm new & desperate for advice, re sister & her kid
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I have been searching for a forum for advice & thank heavens foun this place. My sister is an alcoholic, yet to admit it, she drinks for breakfast - and then allday/night, lost her job, lost her license, lost everything. I have shared a house with her for many years, and care of her son. He is now 13 goi...
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kes
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tired of being alone but scared to be together.
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I remember in the beginning I was so desperate to fill the hole in my life with a man. I guess I still want to find that but now I find myself to be much more wary. I have a hard time getting up the motivation to go meet people, I start thinking in terms of forever rather than it's just a date... I used to have l...
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carolinagirl
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I sometimes wonder....
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((((((((Family))))))), As most of you know, hubby is a chronic relapser. He has had long bout of sobriety and then BAM, back it again. I am greatful that they are not as severe relapses as they use to be. But I am also keenly aware of how this is a disease of progression. I sometimes wonder if it is almo...
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Karilynn
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The real me...
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This is the real me. I have left HEARTBROKEN behind. After thinking about ' what a name does and says about someone...' I realised that I could never obtain complete recovery if I continued to be identified with HEARTBROKEN. That is who I was, how I was, and where I was when I first joined th...
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Suzannah
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Mother Teresa's Wisdom
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I do, because I must do something. People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered. Love them anyway. The good you do will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and frankness will make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway. What you spent years building may be destroyed overnig...
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Christy
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Avoidance or detachment
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After remaining pretty silent the past year and trying hard not to get into any unnessecary conflict with my AH I wound up blowing it a little while ago. He has been trying to engage in conversation the past few days, asking me to put aside some time in my day where we can talk. I have been avoiding him. ...
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Denoraphy
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Aims For The Week
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Whilst been here I have learned to take little steps to change things. But Im going to work on 2 things this week. Looking after myself and and change my opinion of my self. Maybe if I can change my opinion of myself I might feel like going out. I understand I have to take it one day at a time. But this is my goal...
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mum2leahnjosh
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An interesting take on the brain
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My sponsor sent me this link. It's a woman who's a neuro-surgeon or something who actually experienced a stroke and she speaks about her experience and what happened to her when there became a certain separation between her right brain and her left.
It's long - have about 19 minutes to sit and listen...
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Aloha
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update
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My sister in law is in a coma, she had several more massive heart attacks throughout the day. I got a call earlier that she had died but apparently they revived her and she's on machines now. I am just so thankful that my niece got there before she was totally gone because I was told she died while niece wa...
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carolinagirl
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passing drug tests
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I have heard on more than one occasion, that there is something one can take to pass a drug test. Does anyone here know what that is? Just wondering... Lou
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Loupiness
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For us "veterans" of alanon, perhaps we can share to this question "What we have learned in this program called alanon?"
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Although I have learned many things which not only I apply to dealing with this disease, I also can change the way I think in all situations ie: work, friends, family etc. The real biggie for me was learning that I did NOT cause this , I CANNOT control this and I CANNOT cure this. The 3 C's held a major impac...
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gardengal
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Yet another bump...
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Amoungst all the nastiness and fog of alcohol....and stress...and finances... just when the stuggles and juggles seem somewhat 'steady'...the road of life get more bumps and holes for travel. Without dragging my thoughts through the grimey muck of this deep sink hole, I am remembering steps 1, 2 a...
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Just For Now
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I told my dad he needs to go to drug rehab
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So, I know I haven't been posting in a while. And that's because of alot of things, mostly ego based. I want to show new people that the program works, so I don't want to post bad news and lots of drama, and especially as the quarter was winding up all my life was drama drama drama. And now that I'm an OFFICIA...
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Tiger2006
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Prayers and Good Energy Please!!!
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I just got an email that my A's sister just had a massive heart attack and is in the hospital. She is in her early 50's. I immediately called my neice who is in the Air Force in Montana and she was crying and packing getting ready to fly out. Nobody really knows what her condition is right now. She has men...
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carolinagirl
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"You'll Be in My Heart" Alanon-style
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Hi all, Yesterday while getting ready for work this song came on. And it has always made me think of him in the past. So of course I started to cry. I then asked myself why does this song have to be about him? It didn't. So I restarted the song and listened to it again. And this time I thought of you all, and how I...
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Mandy123
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Thank You for the Love
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Dear Friends, Thank you so very much for the warm welcome back. It took me awhile to get the courage up to come home, wow am I glad I did. I know how many of you have suffered thru this awful disease. I love you all, thank you so very much, wow I have missed you all. Love, Andrea
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Andrea12
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MY Addiction
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This was blabbering on and on in my brain last night as I attempted to try to go to sleep.
I was reflecting on MY addiction.
My addiction is obsession, the illusion of control over others, worry.
My addiction isn't triggered by drinking, inhaling or injecting a poisonous substance into my body....
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Aloha
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Turning a corner (dare I say?!??!?!?)
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I've received a new peace this week. Have to assume it has something to do with spending HOURS begging for mercy and strength and guidance from HP. And working hard at following the al-anon program. And venting to all of you with my endless "stuff". But for the past few days, I've gotte...
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round3
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Timing
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Why does my AHsober do what he does? Why do I keep asking why? Because he is sick, sick, sick. My son in the military came this weekend. We had a family gathering for his baby girl; my four month old grandbaby. It was the first time our family and his girlfriend's family had met formally. He had told us on the...
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nmike
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Breathing....In...Out...In....Out
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Such a wonderful way to calm yourself....breathing. Alot of anxiety and stress can alter your breathing...causing more anxiety or stress. So for now....just for now...I'm remembering to breath in...then out. Hard to remember that at times when you think at any moment you are for certain your wor...
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Just For Now
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Ending the week. Thanks for being here ya'll.
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Hi all, This has been a long week and quite frankly I am glad to see it come to a close. But this week has been one of not just pain, but also one of learning. I returned to a place of worship. Oh how my soul missed that. I reached out in a time of need, which is not something I find easy to do. But it is so rewarding....
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Mandy123
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1 week in
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I am now 1 week in to the program. Things are still very confusing BUT I am now sort of seeing things a little different. Like this is a deasese and its not his fault. I have learnt that I do love my partner very very very much I just hate his deasese. Soooo I guess this a thank you for all your help and those of yo...
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mum2leahnjosh
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Responiblity.....let go and Let God
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My heart is full, Having 3 grandchildren over, yesterday really touched my heart. The love and the Joy, I receive from them is so tender. My youngest grandchild Ayden he is 2. His facial expressions alone have you smile, even when I try to teach something like no no to touching something that could hurt...
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angel123
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I should write a book..........Am I insane, or are they?
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Im in the middle of a divorce from my active AH. And I told my Mom, (who lives w me) tht I didnt want any kids over this week , incl my nephew.Who by the way wears me out.Hes extremely disrespectfull.He makes me bite my tongue,, alot...I wanted to spend spring break w my kids, and to pack my ex's things.So wha...
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MIDGET
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I feel better!
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I am taking it easier these days and remembering Easy Does It! Life isn't kicking me in the butt lately. I guess I am starting to really see that I have no control over life's challenges except to do what is in front of me. I am still very leary of making major changes in my life. I am planning a lot ahead ab...
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Hoot Nanny
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Had a pity party this morning, but feeling better now...
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It was cold and raining and I was feeling sorry for myself this morning (I think someone else had similar thought in a previous thread). I gave into it for a few minutes because I can't help but feel that I've been robbed of my "happily ever after" by the monster that has taken my AH. (sigh) Bu...
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BooBoo313
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Been to the Doctors about my parents......
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Morning All! Well, I had an appointment with my GP yesterday. The appointment was about my health but the conversation quickly turned to my parents health (we have the same GP). How the conversation developed onto them and the alcohol i am not sure. The GP is aware of my father's drinking and has been fo...
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CalamityJane
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