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cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family)))) Many of you who know me have heard me say that my AH was 20 years sober, and started drinking again just last year. Until just today, I believed that to be true. I never knew how much my AH was drinking all along. He has never been sober at all, I just was totally unaware that he had been drink...

david62 · david62

Hi (((Family))) I got home yesterday from celebrating my 4 yr al-anon birthday. I did this with just over 100 of recovery brothers and sisters..and mom's and dads at the conference that my home group sponsors every April. We were at a new location this year for the first time. At a beautiful facility in...

angel123 · angel123

Thank you for your love and prayers,healing time.Love Sharon/angel -- Edited by angel123 at 14:37, 2008-04-21

JenniferN · JenniferN

It shouldn't get to me that my mother is the way she is, but it does sometimes. Just as A'ism is cunning and baffeling, so is the person who has lived with it in their lives their whole life and doesn't think there is anything wrong with them. I, of course, am speaking of my mother. Her ability to manipulat...

mon123 · mon123

Hi I hope you don't mind my asking this here. I go on this and other 12 step forums. I recently, through step 4, found out I have some codependant issues especially around my sibling family. I read Melody Beattie and go on a coda site. Its interesting to go through the early steps with them. My main focus is...

marmare · marmare

It's taken nearly a year but the other shoe dropped, it was a long drop, must have fell from a high shelf. My A, who has been in a controlled drinking state for I don't know how long has slowly slipped back into full drinking binge. I am working hard at not being the victim. Funny how different I see thing...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone thanks for your brilliant posts. I think it is about time I get myself off this merry go round my partner makes me promisies only to break them nothing ever changes for long. All his needs are getting met and none of mine. I feel quite ashamed for not taking better care of myself For looking to a...

grizmom · grizmom

My husband called last night. We haven't been good at communicating lately. Maybe I am the one unable to communicate...anyway, I told him I need more time. I need for us to live apart when he is released from DOC. He reponded with "I understand you're going through things, I am trying to under...

thaiexpat · thaiexpat

As mentioned in an earlier post, my Thai wife got into a small motorcycle accident with 8 yr old daughter while drunk [two days after i let go of control] and luckily it was just a few bruises and stawberries and hopefully a 'wake-up call'. She felt like xx for a few days and I'm sure felt even worse ever...

intothewoods · intothewoods

OK so the situation in a nutshell: My A fiance's A friends invited him and I to a party where there will be drinking. They tried to rope me into it by insisting that I "make him go if he doesn't want to." We talked it over and both decided that our recovery would be threatened by going to this party...

Aloha · Aloha

I was realizing today that I live an oxymoron. I'm constantly wanting to control the world around me, but when the world asks "okay, what do you want to do?" I'm standing there shuffling my feet, looking down murmuring "I dunno... what do YOU want to do?" Discovered that today...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Tonight's topics for the meeting where, "Principles Above Personalities and Attitude is a Choice". Here is my share, wanted to share it all again. These topics came to me last night after a very good friend of mine called me on B.S.He did it with love and he wasn't mean about it, but he...

laurab · laurab

Hello All, After all this time, I still can't figure out detachment. I haven't spoken to my A son in almost a week, since he called to tell me he had a 4 day binge after 5 months sober. No job. Lost his place to live. I didn't offer any help. Now I want to call him but I am scared. Scared of how miserable I will fe...

spirit · spirit

hi everyone. its been a while since i have been here. good day and not so good days. dont want to seem like i complain alot. but i have no one to go to. i hate saturdays when i am home. i work extra every other saturday. let me quote what i found on this bb "Guilt: family members begin to believe the alcoho...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I'm in the process of filling out a very short application for scholarships to college, and at the end of the application it asks for a personal statement where I am allowed to state any educational goals, accomplishments in my life, civic/social activities, etc. Talk about self doubt creeping in! W...

Tracy · Tracy

my stomache is churning my partner has disapeared again I try as hard as I can to keep myself busy and the focus on myself But he slept with someone else in Novemeber on one of his benders everytime he goes missing I am in turmoil I have probs with his drinking and how he lives his life but I can get past most of...

acjmom · acjmom

Hello All, I have not posted in a long time but have often been back to read others posts and to try to figure out this crazy mess. I asked my A to leave last week, we were apart before and got back together to try to work things out, it lasted awhile, things were good....then it all started AGAIN, the lie...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I read tomorrow's entry today because I thought it was today But, I liked it. It related to my life right now. I've been back home with Michael for just over a week now, and although it hasn't been "perfect", it has been rather enjoyable. We have had a couple of disagreements. Stupid things, b...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Seems the longer I go on this path, the more time I spend pondering things. This morning (day 2 of early wake up and exercise) I found myself asking myself why I had let myself get this way. Why am I so out of shape? Why am I fat? What is it that has allowed me to just "let myself go" ? I was alway...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I'm doing it again. Whenever things are getting good I sabatage it. I start wanting to isolate. I start wanting to withdrawl into a little cacoon because I am afraid. Afraid of what you may ask? The only thing I can think of is being vulnerable. Afraid because I am not hiding under guilt and shame I have ca...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

How important is it to have a sponsor only I get alot of support off you guys. If it is very importent then maybe I will look into an online sponor for the time being. I cant really get to face to face meetings as they dont alow kids. What do you think guys

grizmom · grizmom

I posted in the past about my A being in DOC (special program for felonly DUI - DOC Rehab). I mentioned that he had asked what he could do to improve our relationship and I said to "obey the parameters of probation"...he was supposed to come home April 24, but they petitioned to keep him longe...

Christy · Christy

I'm up before dawn because we had a 5.4 eathquake!!! I live in Missouri!!! Not Califormia!! The epicenter was near the Indiana line so it was a pretty hefty shake. Thats two states away! It lasted about 15 seconds. According to the news there are roads closed because of debris. I got up right after it hap...

shadow1 · shadow1

Hi ((((everyone)))) Well I was on that darn pity pot with everything going on. I was thinking "why me"???? I had a very good friend say to me to remember that there are always people that are worse off than I am. Boy I wanted to kick him but he lives 3500 miles away . I got to thinking about what he h...

Aloha · Aloha

I think my HP must have felt I was ready for this... Left my Al-anon meeting tonight, wanted to stop at the store to pick up some more soy milk. Tried calling AH twice to see if he wanted anything from the store but never got through. Came home, and there he is, passed out on the couch with an empty beer bo...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Alcohol has really made a presence in my family over the past couple of years, namely with my AH and my oldest brother. Well, this past weekend another family member was hit. My younger brother's partner had returned home from a night out. He then got a call from a friend asking for a ride home. So, sin...

nmike · nmike

Just checking in. Work sucks. Too dysfunctional. I keep giving, giving, giving and the dysfunciton just kills my spirit. Everyone out for themselves and the power is in the hands of idiots (my opinion). So I come home. I told myself that I would look at the divorce papers that my AHSober gave to me a coup...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

Its been 5 days since my A has had a drink. He is craving beer and eating and drinking as much suger as possible. He is a little cranky and has woken up feeling like he is "hung over". He has said he can go without beer but as soon as he has a taste he cant stop and yet still insists he doesnt have a prob...

aBirdyToldMe · aBirdyToldMe

Hello, Well I am really surprised to be here =) But I am going to be "coachable" in life and try this out... I have never thought AlAnon would have anything to do with me- as I date a man with time in AA. He has 10+ years and is very very active in AA, very recovered, a speaker, sponsors men, who spon...

kitty · kitty

I was urged to share acronyms, al-anon slogans & other sayings... some old, some new ~ food for thought. ~ Easy Does It ~ Keep It Simple ~ How Important Is It? ~ First Things First ~ Live And Let Live ~ ~ One Day At A Time ~ Let Go And Let God ~ But For The Grace Of God, there go I ~ Think! Listen And Learn ~ ~ Ke...

Aloha · Aloha

I know recently I've been posting a lot about how impatient my AH has been lately. Even yesterday, his impatience was just so huge. We went for a walk when I got home from work, and I had to change my clothing for the walk. Of course, AH was home all day yesterday, so he's in appropriate casual clothing to...

tea2 · tea2

Hello everyone, One of our long time Al-Anon MIP family members, Angel123 (Sharon) will be having surgery tomorrow, and she will be away from the computer for a little while. I was wondering if we could please send some extra prayers and support for her recovery during this time....

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

As many of you know I am FAT... not just a little fat but really fat. So I have decided to go back on the atkins diet and this time have decided to add in some exercising. So I am getting up an hour earlier (I love to sleep) and going down to the work out room in the morning and doing cardio on the treadmill for...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Where I live, it's a really tough place to be an alcoholic (ok, not like any place is easy). The area I live in is world-famous for it's wine. Grape-growing is our agriculture and wine-producing is the staple of our economy. Wine is everywhere, and that is not an exaggeration. Parties, fund-raise...

maresie · maresie

I am still on step one two three after one year of leaving the A. My living situation is not good, my finances are bad, my health isn't the greatest - I had an awful asthma attack on the weekend. I am isolated and alone a lot. I am disorganized. I have few resources. In so many ways my life is not right but o...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I remember in the beginning when I first escaped the chaos of living with an addict/alcoholic I had to be out all the time, stirring things up, looking for a new man, I THRIVED on the chaos and now it was gone!!! I didn't know what to do with myself. If you have ever quit smoking, it was a lot like that. A po...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I've already done a lot of crying this morning, and I have no doubt I will do more. I don't know of any mother who doesn't have dreams for her children. I am no exception. In order to maintain any semblance of sanity, I finally let go and let God have my oldest daughter. This morning, I did the same...

shadow1 · shadow1

As some of you know my A and I have split and I have filed for divorce. He and his sister bought a house together and they moved in the first part of Jan/08. Well by the end of march he had kicked her out. (I'm not sure how you kick someone out of their own house) so that left the A and our youngest son (13) livin...

zodiac · zodiac

hello, I've come to this site because I am having trouble getting to f2f meetings and I need a place where others understand and listen. I know from the f2f meetings that we rarely offer advice, but rather share our experiences and allow our AA family to pick what is useful from our sharing I come from a w...

Gailey · Gailey

Is your trust in your HP today? Trusting in your HP is a decision we make just like we choose anything else in life. You chose what to wear today, you probably chose what you would have for breakfast, and you can choose to trust HP today, too! When you choose to trust YOUR HP, there is a peace that settles on t...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

My HP has brought something to my attention. This is something I've known all my life but not something that I've ever really thought about in terms of looking for answers as to how to change this. Probably because of fear. Fear of rejection and failure but quite frankly that's all I've ever known beca...

Gailey · Gailey

It is so great to see you back again. I have thought about you often. Gail

omajoy · omajoy

Thanks for all the wise responses I got to my "anger spin" post yesterday. Luckily, I am still sane enough to get it!! Logically and intellectually I do know that only I can take charge and clean up my act. I am trying. A huge TO DO list I made yesterday will keep me busy for several days or maybe...

intothewoods · intothewoods

A mutual friend invited me and my A to a party where there will be drinking (maybe even drug use), and I really don't know what to do. I think it's insensitive for her, but I'm not really surprised. I said 'mutual friend,' but she's also one of his old drinking buddies. She's in denial of his problem (and he...

lmw · lmw

I just got a message from my A. He's been renting a room in the next town and I let him see the kids when he's sober; I've been giving him rides to work, taking him to the laundromat occassionally, the grocery store, etc. He called Saturday afternoon and I missed his call - I was actually busy making cook...

thaiexpat · thaiexpat

Well, it finally happened.....With her newly given freedom to drink with no control from me, she drank herself stupid enough to have a small accident on the motorcycle with our 8 yr old daughter. I think [hope] it is a blessing in disguise as no broken bones...just a few gravel strawberries and bruis...

help4wife · help4wife

Hi all! I am new to this and would love any support. My husband (now of almost 16 years) I believe is an alcoholic and here is my story: We have been married almost 16 years. We have 3 children. I was 18 when we married and he was 22. We have had a fairly good marriage for the most part and I always say it would be t...

omajoy · omajoy

I have been angry so long it somehow feels normal; my son and my spouse have been admonishing me all week about how I am just plain mad all the time and it shows in everything I do. I know it, I acknowledge it, I can't control it (yet). I have just tried thinking this all through to the point where it is making...

Lanchas · Lanchas

My mom just said that she hasn't been drinking for 2 weeks! AHHHH I.....I ....I need someone to talk to! Lanchas

ddub · ddub

This is hard, I don't like it and kind of bummed out about it all. I probably worked too hard to make this my 2nd marriage work for the past 20+ years and all along my AH was unavailable as a workaholic & now an A or he just refused to participate in our relationship the way I hoped for. I can see this in h...

Just For Now · Just For Now

I thought that on this board, venting was an "OK" thing to do. That was one of the pros to this board--being able to vent any feelings....anger, sadness, joy, peace, etc. without any repercussions from our A or other persons in Alanon or here with MIP. Instead, one of my posts was altered a...

Aloha · Aloha

I'll preface this by saying it's definitely apparent my AH is going through some major issues right now with his disease. Lately he's just been defensive, and in particular, impatient! I left an example of his wanting to fix things "NOW" in another post. Here I am tonight with yet an...

Aloha · Aloha

Whew. After attending another AA speaker meeting tonight and talking with a fellow Al-anon member who attended the AA meeting, too, I found myself back in that conversation of "gee - I have NO idea what my AH is doing in regards to drinking. Is he working on staying sober, or is he drinking, just...

Suzannah · Suzannah

It's Monday night here and I am off to the hospital again in the morning for my ALL day PMP session. I am going to be having an early night i.e. off to after this. However, I thought I would just check in before hand to say: I have been resting and reading a lot of Al-anon in between my exercise sessions, and ca...

thaiexpat · thaiexpat

When you [we] let go of controlling the A and the A comes home drunk and does stupid [&dangerous] things....what should we do?/ I know that talking normally is out of the question when they are drunk, so I just ignore the A wife and go on with my own life. Then the day after...she is hungover and in p...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I was sitting here typing this morning and I saw a movement to my left. I looked over and it was a nice big ol' hairy spider. Ok so my initial reaction was to scream lol (I have seen a spider shudder from a scream of mine before), but I didn't. Something told me to just watch it. So I sat here watching the...

thaiexpat · thaiexpat

I'm an American expat living [for 6 yrs now] in a remote village in Thailand and [mostly happily] married with children [8&10yrs]to a Thai woman and she is what i call a 'binge drinker' in that she will occasionally [3 or 4 x a year] go off on a drinking binge and drink til stupid or drops or pukes. No...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, What a day, what a week. Yesterday a co-worker of mine was fired. This was rather unexpected. Not the fact that she was, but the timing. There were reasons. I turned 30 today, and that is messing with my head. I don't know why really. Ok let's be honest. I am lonley. I miss my husband, but I miss the il...

Codependent · Codependent

Haven't posted in a while, but have been reading some books. One is When You Love Them More Than They Love You- Overcoming Codependency in Relationships. A Great Read. Well, the A is out of solitary and has resumed calling. I try not to answer every call, but for whatever reason feel stressed watching...

java · java

After two years, almost, of marriage, and one year of not working, I finally asked the A to leave. This was not easy as I had asked before and he refused. He had even physically made me stay in the house when I wanted to leave, I had been able to file an ex-parte on him last year but the responsibliliteis of th...

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	I realized something just today (Preview) ((((Family)))) Many of you who know me have heard me say that my AH was 20 years sober, and started drinking again just last year. Until just today, I believed that to be true. I never knew how much my AH was drinking all along. He has never been sober at all, I just was totally unaware that he had been drink...	cookie1971	10	679	Apr 22, 2008 by maresie
	Home again (Preview) Hi (((Family))) I got home yesterday from celebrating my 4 yr al-anon birthday. I did this with just over 100 of recovery brothers and sisters..and mom's and dads at the conference that my home group sponsors every April. We were at a new location this year for the first time. At a beautiful facility in...	david62	6	363	Apr 22, 2008 by maresie
	Thank You (Preview) Thank you for your love and prayers,healing time.Love Sharon/angel -- Edited by angel123 at 14:37, 2008-04-21	angel123	3	335	Apr 22, 2008 by Karilynn
	My Mother (Preview) It shouldn't get to me that my mother is the way she is, but it does sometimes. Just as A'ism is cunning and baffeling, so is the person who has lived with it in their lives their whole life and doesn't think there is anything wrong with them. I, of course, am speaking of my mother. Her ability to manipulat...	JenniferN	4	505	Apr 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Question for long timers (Preview) Hi I hope you don't mind my asking this here. I go on this and other 12 step forums. I recently, through step 4, found out I have some codependant issues especially around my sibling family. I read Melody Beattie and go on a coda site. Its interesting to go through the early steps with them. My main focus is...	mon123	6	718	Apr 21, 2008 by mon123
	The other shoe dropped! (Preview) It's taken nearly a year but the other shoe dropped, it was a long drop, must have fell from a high shelf. My A, who has been in a controlled drinking state for I don't know how long has slowly slipped back into full drinking binge. I am working hard at not being the victim. Funny how different I see thing...	marmare	3	734	Apr 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	getting off (Preview) Hi everyone thanks for your brilliant posts. I think it is about time I get myself off this merry go round my partner makes me promisies only to break them nothing ever changes for long. All his needs are getting met and none of mine. I feel quite ashamed for not taking better care of myself For looking to a...	Tracy	5	596	Apr 21, 2008 by glad
	Jedi Mind Tricks! (Preview) My husband called last night. We haven't been good at communicating lately. Maybe I am the one unable to communicate...anyway, I told him I need more time. I need for us to live apart when he is released from DOC. He reponded with "I understand you're going through things, I am trying to under...	grizmom	4	463	Apr 20, 2008 by debilyn
	ghosts of accident excorcised (Preview) As mentioned in an earlier post, my Thai wife got into a small motorcycle accident with 8 yr old daughter while drunk [two days after i let go of control] and luckily it was just a few bruises and stawberries and hopefully a 'wake-up call'. She felt like xx for a few days and I'm sure felt even worse ever...	thaiexpat	3	583	Apr 20, 2008 by debilyn
	Party panic, Part 2: mostly venting (Preview) OK so the situation in a nutshell: My A fiance's A friends invited him and I to a party where there will be drinking. They tried to rope me into it by insisting that I "make him go if he doesn't want to." We talked it over and both decided that our recovery would be threatened by going to this party...	intothewoods	7	409	Apr 20, 2008 by Jen
	For a "control freak", I sure don't like to make decisions (Preview) I was realizing today that I live an oxymoron. I'm constantly wanting to control the world around me, but when the world asks "okay, what do you want to do?" I'm standing there shuffling my feet, looking down murmuring "I dunno... what do YOU want to do?" Discovered that today...	Aloha	4	470	Apr 20, 2008 by lin0606
	Personalities above Principles? Nah! (Preview) Hi all, Tonight's topics for the meeting where, "Principles Above Personalities and Attitude is a Choice". Here is my share, wanted to share it all again. These topics came to me last night after a very good friend of mine called me on B.S.He did it with love and he wasn't mean about it, but he...	Mandy123	4	737	Apr 20, 2008 by Jen
	Detaching (Preview) Hello All, After all this time, I still can't figure out detachment. I haven't spoken to my A son in almost a week, since he called to tell me he had a 4 day binge after 5 months sober. No job. Lost his place to live. I didn't offer any help. Now I want to call him but I am scared. Scared of how miserable I will fe...	laurab	9	666	Apr 20, 2008 by Mobirdie
	I hate saturdays (Preview) hi everyone. its been a while since i have been here. good day and not so good days. dont want to seem like i complain alot. but i have no one to go to. i hate saturdays when i am home. i work extra every other saturday. let me quote what i found on this bb "Guilt: family members begin to believe the alcoho...	spirit	11	533	Apr 20, 2008 by spirit
	I could use some feedback (Preview) I'm in the process of filling out a very short application for scholarships to college, and at the end of the application it asks for a personal statement where I am allowed to state any educational goals, accomplishments in my life, civic/social activities, etc. Talk about self doubt creeping in! W...	Tenderheartsks	8	710	Apr 19, 2008 by nmike
	unacceptable behaviour (Preview) my stomache is churning my partner has disapeared again I try as hard as I can to keep myself busy and the focus on myself But he slept with someone else in Novemeber on one of his benders everytime he goes missing I am in turmoil I have probs with his drinking and how he lives his life but I can get past most of...	Tracy	3	514	Apr 19, 2008 by debilyn
	Back again (Preview) Hello All, I have not posted in a long time but have often been back to read others posts and to try to figure out this crazy mess. I asked my A to leave last week, we were apart before and got back together to try to work things out, it lasted awhile, things were good....then it all started AGAIN, the lie...	acjmom	8	518	Apr 19, 2008 by acjmom
	Tomorrow's Courage To Change Entry (Preview) I read tomorrow's entry today because I thought it was today But, I liked it. It related to my life right now. I've been back home with Michael for just over a week now, and although it hasn't been "perfect", it has been rather enjoyable. We have had a couple of disagreements. Stupid things, b...	JenniferN	3	675	Apr 19, 2008 by Jen
	Pondering (Preview) Seems the longer I go on this path, the more time I spend pondering things. This morning (day 2 of early wake up and exercise) I found myself asking myself why I had let myself get this way. Why am I so out of shape? Why am I fat? What is it that has allowed me to just "let myself go" ? I was alway...	carolinagirl	11	607	Apr 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Feelings Aren't Facts (Preview) I'm doing it again. Whenever things are getting good I sabatage it. I start wanting to isolate. I start wanting to withdrawl into a little cacoon because I am afraid. Afraid of what you may ask? The only thing I can think of is being vulnerable. Afraid because I am not hiding under guilt and shame I have ca...	seekingserenity	3	1031	Apr 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Sponsor (Preview) How important is it to have a sponsor only I get alot of support off you guys. If it is very importent then maybe I will look into an online sponor for the time being. I cant really get to face to face meetings as they dont alow kids. What do you think guys	mum2leahnjosh	5	435	Apr 19, 2008 by Jen
	My Best Interest (Preview) I posted in the past about my A being in DOC (special program for felonly DUI - DOC Rehab). I mentioned that he had asked what he could do to improve our relationship and I said to "obey the parameters of probation"...he was supposed to come home April 24, but they petitioned to keep him longe...	grizmom	11	696	Apr 19, 2008 by kismetstrand
	OK, THAT was scary!!!! (Preview) I'm up before dawn because we had a 5.4 eathquake!!! I live in Missouri!!! Not Califormia!! The epicenter was near the Indiana line so it was a pretty hefty shake. Thats two states away! It lasted about 15 seconds. According to the news there are roads closed because of debris. I got up right after it hap...	Christy	15	703	Apr 19, 2008 by kismetstrand
	glad the pot was fir lined (Preview) Hi ((((everyone)))) Well I was on that darn pity pot with everything going on. I was thinking "why me"???? I had a very good friend say to me to remember that there are always people that are worse off than I am. Boy I wanted to kick him but he lives 3500 miles away . I got to thinking about what he h...	shadow1	6	621	Apr 19, 2008 by carosie
	The testing begins... (Preview) I think my HP must have felt I was ready for this... Left my Al-anon meeting tonight, wanted to stop at the store to pick up some more soy milk. Tried calling AH twice to see if he wanted anything from the store but never got through. Came home, and there he is, passed out on the couch with an empty beer bo...	Aloha	5	514	Apr 18, 2008 by lin0606
	Glad I can still laugh (Preview) Alcohol has really made a presence in my family over the past couple of years, namely with my AH and my oldest brother. Well, this past weekend another family member was hit. My younger brother's partner had returned home from a night out. He then got a call from a friend asking for a ride home. So, sin...	Loupiness	4	629	Apr 18, 2008 by maresie
	Nothing went well today (Preview) Just checking in. Work sucks. Too dysfunctional. I keep giving, giving, giving and the dysfunciton just kills my spirit. Everyone out for themselves and the power is in the hands of idiots (my opinion). So I come home. I told myself that I would look at the divorce papers that my AHSober gave to me a coup...	nmike	5	634	Apr 18, 2008 by maresie
	5 Days Sobor (Preview) Its been 5 days since my A has had a drink. He is craving beer and eating and drinking as much suger as possible. He is a little cranky and has woken up feeling like he is "hung over". He has said he can go without beer but as soon as he has a taste he cant stop and yet still insists he doesnt have a prob...	mum2leahnjosh	7	426	Apr 18, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	surprised to be here =) (Preview) Hello, Well I am really surprised to be here =) But I am going to be "coachable" in life and try this out... I have never thought AlAnon would have anything to do with me- as I date a man with time in AA. He has 10+ years and is very very active in AA, very recovered, a speaker, sponsors men, who spon...	aBirdyToldMe	5	644	Apr 17, 2008 by aBirdyToldMe
	SLOGANS & other quotes/acronyms (Preview) I was urged to share acronyms, al-anon slogans & other sayings... some old, some new ~ food for thought. ~ Easy Does It ~ Keep It Simple ~ How Important Is It? ~ First Things First ~ Live And Let Live ~ ~ One Day At A Time ~ Let Go And Let God ~ But For The Grace Of God, there go I ~ Think! Listen And Learn ~ ~ Ke...	kitty	11	1939	Apr 17, 2008 by paulaque
	Another one of those "AHA!" moments (Preview) I know recently I've been posting a lot about how impatient my AH has been lately. Even yesterday, his impatience was just so huge. We went for a walk when I got home from work, and I had to change my clothing for the walk. Of course, AH was home all day yesterday, so he's in appropriate casual clothing to...	Aloha	4	660	Apr 17, 2008 by Aloha
	For a Friend (Preview) Hello everyone, One of our long time Al-Anon MIP family members, Angel123 (Sharon) will be having surgery tomorrow, and she will be away from the computer for a little while. I was wondering if we could please send some extra prayers and support for her recovery during this time....	tea2	10	464	Apr 17, 2008 by bob6502
	Working on me... (Preview) As many of you know I am FAT... not just a little fat but really fat. So I have decided to go back on the atkins diet and this time have decided to add in some exercising. So I am getting up an hour earlier (I love to sleep) and going down to the work out room in the morning and doing cardio on the treadmill for...	carolinagirl	9	493	Apr 17, 2008 by carolinagirl
	the "other side" (Preview) Where I live, it's a really tough place to be an alcoholic (ok, not like any place is easy). The area I live in is world-famous for it's wine. Grape-growing is our agriculture and wine-producing is the staple of our economy. Wine is everywhere, and that is not an exaggeration. Parties, fund-raise...	Loupiness	3	368	Apr 17, 2008 by maresie
	life is unmanageable (Preview) I am still on step one two three after one year of leaving the A. My living situation is not good, my finances are bad, my health isn't the greatest - I had an awful asthma attack on the weekend. I am isolated and alone a lot. I am disorganized. I have few resources. In so many ways my life is not right but o...	maresie	4	480	Apr 17, 2008 by mum2leahnjosh
	Time heals all... (Preview) I remember in the beginning when I first escaped the chaos of living with an addict/alcoholic I had to be out all the time, stirring things up, looking for a new man, I THRIVED on the chaos and now it was gone!!! I didn't know what to do with myself. If you have ever quit smoking, it was a lot like that. A po...	carolinagirl	5	442	Apr 16, 2008 by Jean4444
	Emotional pain in recovery... (Preview) I've already done a lot of crying this morning, and I have no doubt I will do more. I don't know of any mother who doesn't have dreams for her children. I am no exception. In order to maintain any semblance of sanity, I finally let go and let God have my oldest daughter. This morning, I did the same...	Tenderheartsks	6	619	Apr 16, 2008 by Jean4444
	Fire :-( (Preview) As some of you know my A and I have split and I have filed for divorce. He and his sister bought a house together and they moved in the first part of Jan/08. Well by the end of march he had kicked her out. (I'm not sure how you kick someone out of their own house) so that left the A and our youngest son (13) livin...	shadow1	12	557	Apr 16, 2008 by cookie1971
	Newbie--hi (Preview) hello, I've come to this site because I am having trouble getting to f2f meetings and I need a place where others understand and listen. I know from the f2f meetings that we rarely offer advice, but rather share our experiences and allow our AA family to pick what is useful from our sharing I come from a w...	zodiac	4	474	Apr 16, 2008 by cookie1971
	Trusting HP (Preview) Is your trust in your HP today? Trusting in your HP is a decision we make just like we choose anything else in life. You chose what to wear today, you probably chose what you would have for breakfast, and you can choose to trust HP today, too! When you choose to trust YOUR HP, there is a peace that settles on t...	Gailey	8	540	Apr 16, 2008 by cookie1971
	doubt.... (Preview) My HP has brought something to my attention. This is something I've known all my life but not something that I've ever really thought about in terms of looking for answers as to how to change this. Probably because of fear. Fear of rejection and failure but quite frankly that's all I've ever known beca...	seekingserenity	5	441	Apr 16, 2008 by cookie1971
	laurab (Preview) It is so great to see you back again. I have thought about you often. Gail	Gailey	1	358	Apr 16, 2008 by laurab
	confusing emotion (Preview) Thanks for all the wise responses I got to my "anger spin" post yesterday. Luckily, I am still sane enough to get it!! Logically and intellectually I do know that only I can take charge and clean up my act. I am trying. A huge TO DO list I made yesterday will keep me busy for several days or maybe...	omajoy	3	461	Apr 16, 2008 by Jen
	Party panic! (Preview) A mutual friend invited me and my A to a party where there will be drinking (maybe even drug use), and I really don't know what to do. I think it's insensitive for her, but I'm not really surprised. I said 'mutual friend,' but she's also one of his old drinking buddies. She's in denial of his problem (and he...	intothewoods	6	347	Apr 16, 2008 by intothewoods
	I don't want to want to help him! (Preview) I just got a message from my A. He's been renting a room in the next town and I let him see the kids when he's sober; I've been giving him rides to work, taking him to the laundromat occassionally, the grocery store, etc. He called Saturday afternoon and I missed his call - I was actually busy making cook...	lmw	10	692	Apr 16, 2008 by aBirdyToldMe
	accident with child=blessing?? (Preview) Well, it finally happened.....With her newly given freedom to drink with no control from me, she drank herself stupid enough to have a small accident on the motorcycle with our 8 yr old daughter. I think [hope] it is a blessing in disguise as no broken bones...just a few gravel strawberries and bruis...	thaiexpat	7	398	Apr 15, 2008 by MIDGET
	Where do I start? (Preview) Hi all! I am new to this and would love any support. My husband (now of almost 16 years) I believe is an alcoholic and here is my story: We have been married almost 16 years. We have 3 children. I was 18 when we married and he was 22. We have had a fairly good marriage for the most part and I always say it would be t...	help4wife	18	777	Apr 15, 2008 by teapot
	the anger spin (Preview) I have been angry so long it somehow feels normal; my son and my spouse have been admonishing me all week about how I am just plain mad all the time and it shows in everything I do. I know it, I acknowledge it, I can't control it (yet). I have just tried thinking this all through to the point where it is making...	omajoy	9	600	Apr 15, 2008 by Christy
	AHHHHHH i need to talk to someone! (Preview) My mom just said that she hasn't been drinking for 2 weeks! AHHHH I.....I ....I need someone to talk to! Lanchas	Lanchas	7	2067	Apr 15, 2008 by maresie
	illusion of relationship (Preview) This is hard, I don't like it and kind of bummed out about it all. I probably worked too hard to make this my 2nd marriage work for the past 20+ years and all along my AH was unavailable as a workaholic & now an A or he just refused to participate in our relationship the way I hoped for. I can see this in h...	ddub	12	630	Apr 15, 2008 by Karilynn
	Apology to all (Preview) I thought that on this board, venting was an "OK" thing to do. That was one of the pros to this board--being able to vent any feelings....anger, sadness, joy, peace, etc. without any repercussions from our A or other persons in Alanon or here with MIP. Instead, one of my posts was altered a...	Just For Now	9	441	Apr 15, 2008 by maresie
	The impatient alcoholic (Preview) I'll preface this by saying it's definitely apparent my AH is going through some major issues right now with his disease. Lately he's just been defensive, and in particular, impatient! I left an example of his wanting to fix things "NOW" in another post. Here I am tonight with yet an...	Aloha	5	461	Apr 15, 2008 by Aloha
	Be careful what you ask - and be ready for the answers. (Preview) Whew. After attending another AA speaker meeting tonight and talking with a fellow Al-anon member who attended the AA meeting, too, I found myself back in that conversation of "gee - I have NO idea what my AH is doing in regards to drinking. Is he working on staying sober, or is he drinking, just...	Aloha	5	761	Apr 15, 2008 by intothewoods
	Before sunlight can shine through a window, the blinds must be raised! (Preview) It's Monday night here and I am off to the hospital again in the morning for my ALL day PMP session. I am going to be having an early night i.e. off to after this. However, I thought I would just check in before hand to say: I have been resting and reading a lot of Al-anon in between my exercise sessions, and ca...	Suzannah	6	1316	Apr 15, 2008 by Jen
	what to do with the ANGER/SILENCE??? (Preview) When you [we] let go of controlling the A and the A comes home drunk and does stupid [&dangerous] things....what should we do?/ I know that talking normally is out of the question when they are drunk, so I just ignore the A wife and go on with my own life. Then the day after...she is hungover and in p...	thaiexpat	10	874	Apr 15, 2008 by maresie
	What do Spiders and Alanon have in common? (Preview) Hi all, I was sitting here typing this morning and I saw a movement to my left. I looked over and it was a nice big ol' hairy spider. Ok so my initial reaction was to scream lol (I have seen a spider shudder from a scream of mine before), but I didn't. Something told me to just watch it. So I sat here watching the...	Mandy123	10	725	Apr 15, 2008 by carolinagirl
	a stranger in a strange land (Preview) I'm an American expat living [for 6 yrs now] in a remote village in Thailand and [mostly happily] married with children [8&10yrs]to a Thai woman and she is what i call a 'binge drinker' in that she will occasionally [3 or 4 x a year] go off on a drinking binge and drink til stupid or drops or pukes. No...	thaiexpat	5	616	Apr 15, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Need a kick in the butt (Preview) Hi all, What a day, what a week. Yesterday a co-worker of mine was fired. This was rather unexpected. Not the fact that she was, but the timing. There were reasons. I turned 30 today, and that is messing with my head. I don't know why really. Ok let's be honest. I am lonley. I miss my husband, but I miss the il...	Mandy123	12	605	Apr 15, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Hi All (Preview) Haven't posted in a while, but have been reading some books. One is When You Love Them More Than They Love You- Overcoming Codependency in Relationships. A Great Read. Well, the A is out of solitary and has resumed calling. I try not to answer every call, but for whatever reason feel stressed watching...	Codependent	11	463	Apr 15, 2008 by carolinagirl
	Finally A is leaving (Preview) After two years, almost, of marriage, and one year of not working, I finally asked the A to leave. This was not easy as I had asked before and he refused. He had even physically made me stay in the house when I wanted to leave, I had been able to file an ex-parte on him last year but the responsibliliteis of th...	java	8	581	Apr 15, 2008 by carolinagirl
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