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jaysbaby · jaysbaby

Today, after allowing my alcoholic/drug abusing H back in, only a few days later, I have thrown him out. In the past couple of days, he has antogonized me, accused me of cheating on him, cornered me, threatened me... demand that I go to bed when he goes to bed (I enjoy watching tv late at nights alone by my...

mo14 · mo14

This is my first share and I am struggling. My husband has been out of rehab for 21 days and everyday I am feeling our saga is coming closer to the end. He is completely shutting me out and I am not handling it well. I married him for better or worse for sickness or health I believe that when you are married yo...

Bettina · Bettina

Tea and Kismet, found your messages, Thank you, Bettina -- Edited by Bettina at 20:19, 2008-06-28 -- Edited by Bettina at 20:26, 2008-06-28

nat2000 · nat2000

Hi has anyone ever had this problem?. I did a fourth step before ..but it wasn't really an honest one. I am now starting another five years later. I am trying to get a list of people I resent and can only come up with one person so far and that was just resent A month ago I was resenting all kinds of people and t...

annamae · annamae

hi. i don't know much about doing this but i really need help. i have hit a bottom with my fear and i cant take it anymore. i cannot turn my will over to God, I am so afraid of life. If i let go of what my partner is doing, he will hurt me, we will end and my life will be over. i have been living with this for so lo...

Barbs45 · Barbs45

Hi everyone, I haven't posted here in a while, tonight I just felt I wanted to be here are at MIP. I have recently had to detach from my son and daughter, it wasn't easy, although I know now it was the only other thing that I could do. I never thought I'd ever walk away from them both, but I have, I feel sad, but i...

Lexie · Lexie

(((((((friends)))))))))) My A, my son, has another court date set for July 1st. He is still doing very well, but this court date had to be set up because his probation is nearly over, but his fine is not paid in full due to his small income. He is representing himself, since he can't afford an attorney....

SuSUN · SuSUN

Hi Everyone, I am new here and I am jumping in with both feet as I am stuck with a drinking hubby that is only getting worse and worse. He hears me, but says nothing in return. I am getting very lonely and keep busy with my work and family. We just dont spend time together anymore. When I ask him to watch a show...

jackie S · jackie S

Hi to all, I've been to 5 alanon meetings and 4 forum chats here (which were awesome) so far. My husband is an active A. He has no wish to stop drinking. He had a DUI several yrs ago which didnt faze him. Now our daughter is 12 yo and is noticing his drinking , the amt , the time spent at the bar, etc, and this abso...

AJ · AJ

My AH has just called me and left 3 angry messages on my answering machine at the house and 2 angry voice mails on my cell phone. I've unplugged the house phone and turned off my cell. He's angry because he's been kicked out of the house for 5 weeks, 2 days because of his drinking. His messages said he's h...

Jen · Jen

Ok, I'm looking to pick the brains of all you oldtimers out there. I am now a sponsor for the first time. I have a sponsor of my own, but its always been a real loose relationship, no schedule for contact or anything. So I'm just looking for any pointers you all may have to help me get started off on the right f...

kbrixham · kbrixham

Hi all, I have a wonderful just turned four year old son. I adopted him from Guatemala as a single parent when he was 5 1/2 months old. He is effervescent, smart, sociable (with adults) and loves life...plus adorable! Yes I am bias but he really is a great kid. As I continue my journey to emotional hea...

Maria123 · Maria123

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.They have come to assist you through a d...

mslouise · mslouise

This is my first time posting although I have been reading for a while. A little background on me: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I want to marry someday. He has been clean off of meth for 2years and he will soon get his 90 day chip from AA. I am so proud of him! He is really working on th...

Gared · Gared

I can't sleep. The A in my life is sleeping in his bedroom (the guest bedroom) as he has for the past year and he's all excited about his upcoming move to Florida. All my friends are absolutely delighted that he is finally getting out of my life but I can't yet feel that way. This morning when he told me he...

deecee6565 · deecee6565

Ok, my A exH is in jail, will probably blame me when he gets out in the wee hours and I was really worried about it. I started reading these post and then went back to one of them that I had made. After rereading it I felt so much better. Thanks everyone for the support. Having somewhere to write how I am fe...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Just checking in to tell y'all I made it down to Louisville safe and sound. I can genuinely tell you I have never prayed so much in my entire life as I did today. I was so scared and so full of feelings and so on and so forth that I was just like "Oh dear and sweet and merciful God, whatever happens today,...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Dear Friends, Well, last time I had a meeting with my AH and my attorneys I imagined all of you sitting there with me, and it worked pretty well. Wanna come again? Today at 1:30 PST is the big one. If possible, with your own struggles, I'd appreciate if you could throw in a little prayer for me. We will be...

Suzannah · Suzannah

...just cannot get myself out of this stress mode. I am stressing at everything. No tears, just stress, stress, stress and not sleeping, feel like I am being a butterfly right now not settling to anything or anywhere long enough to make any progress with anything. Everything seems to be a really BIG ef...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

Hi All, recently my boyfriend (A) went out. He was out for two weeks that I know of. Now he has been back going to meetings and working with his sponsor. A new sponsor that is. My problem is I am having trouble trusting in anything he says and I just feel like he is up to something. I am obsessing about it. An...

paulaque · paulaque

Sorry to be posting so much negativity but I think I'm going to explode! My AH went into rehab about 11 weeks ago and is about 6 weeks home. The behaviour is almost exactly the same as before. He crossed the line yesterday when he assaulted our 18 yr old son, grabbed and shook him a couple of times. I really...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Do to the first Sunday of the month being over the 4th of July weekend, and the same weekend of an International Al-Anon convention I am going to reschedule the Business Meeting to the following Sunday. So the July BM will be held on 07/13/08. Agenda to Follow! Yours in Recovery, Mandy

Christy · Christy

This is pretty darn funny..The writer had a sense of humor From Anchorage Daily News: Lawn mower-driving man charged with DUI

be4yourii · be4yourii

I feel like my HP is speaking to me through my horoscope. scorpio October 23-November 21 Thursday, Jun 26, 2008 There could be some responsibilities or obligations you have to other people that might be holding you back a bit right now. Your desire to have a good time might be tempered a bit by your sense...

hopeful332 · hopeful332

Hi everyoneIm new to the website. Ill been checking out the site for the last two weeks, reading the comments and trying to understand this disease and how I can help my daughter. My daughter just turned 17 last week and has been sober for 2 months now. Our world came crashing down about a year ago when the...

laurab · laurab

Last night XDIL drove 100 miles to get my A Son from his "new home" with a coked up girl that he has known for 2 days. A son wouldn't go with her. DIL drove home. ASon called today and she went back to pick him up. They called me at work, both of them yelling. He screaming that he can't stay with her...

glad lee · glad lee

I am so grateful for this program, which has given me the tools to change my life. Since coming to Al-anon, I regularly find myself doing things differently, and now I know what serenity (and consciousness and presence) feel like. I am hooked! And, I never want to go back. That said, I have learne...

Tracy · Tracy

Have not been posting for a while having probs with my computer. been attending meeting twice a week and the programme is slowly starting to sink in. Went to a conference at the weekend closed al anon in the morning and open AA in the afternoon. WOW did HP send me guidance. My AB has been missing for tw...

maresie · maresie

The A called this weekend and one year later I do not even answer the phone. One year of patiently working al anon. He called to ask to see the dogs. Since he abused both of them I'm not about to do that. I have nothing left to say to him. When I last him he was at my storage. He got nasty and loud and I felt emb...

maresie · maresie

I'm having a really hard time in my life dealing with controlling people. This person in my house decided to take the hose I had in the back yard out and put a short one on. I can't even imagine the logic of that. They super weld the thing onto the fawcett then take off for a week. Now let me say this they ha...

jasmine6272 · jasmine6272

I want to introduce myself. I am new to the board and new to all of what is going on in my life right now. I am married to an addict. I have tried to leave him, but we all know how hard it is. I just found out that he was using in January, so this is all VERY new to me. I just need to find someone who understands what I a...

maresie · maresie

I am working on a fourth step not because I really want to but there are certain themes that keep coming up in my life that I have to explore. I can't just keep saying its circumstances. I've been working on this in counselling as well as with a sponsor (although my sponsor is very busy at the moment). I am s...

laurab · laurab

Today was stolen car, credit cards, coke and mirror on the table, outstanding warrent, police called maybe and total chaos. My A son took off Saturday with his X wife's car, disappeared for 2 days, reappeared in some coked out girl's apartment. X DIL kept calling me at work and then he called me to say he...

Christy · Christy

Hi peeps :) I haven't been around much due to MANY reasons. This week it has been because I (and son) have been helping make sandbags for the impending flood waters. My home isn't in danger (so far) but I have several friends that stand to lose their homes. I can't lift the 40 lb bags of sand becuase of my...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, I am feeling depressed lately. I have to get this out. Things were going well since my divorce...meaning, I had faith that my HP was taking care of me and "All is well." But lately, it's hard to come out from under the covers in the morning. I'm beginning to have doubts. I gu...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I am so sorry (((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))) my internet service provider severed my connection before I had the chance to let you all know that I would not be able to pop in for a while...and I was so miserable and lonely. As a result, I am quite low in spirits right now. My doctor is writing a let...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Anybody else having trouble getting into the room today? It says "SERVICE UNAVAILABLE". HELP! Need a meeting desperately! They recently switched to a new firewalll with road runner. I disabled it and lowered the security, but things are still wierd. AH not around to help. Thank...

be4yourii · be4yourii

this is more just a rant than anything . . . . on the 12th of this month my A crossed a line that I told him I would not tolerate by getting drunk and heading to the strip club alone. like magic $300 is gone (at a strip club that doesn't sell alcohol) and even though he is a blackout drinker he swears to me that not...

afglin · afglin

I've been in AlAnon for over 15 years, but at times this life I have chosen really gets me aggravated and frustrated. My spouse of nearly 40 years is an active alcoholic. He's been through 4 rehabs and several detox over the years. He attends AA every Friday night and meets with his sponsor on Saturday....

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

I feel so alone. I feel like there is no one to help or even care. Today Marks nan told me Marks mum has told her not to talk to me about marks drinking and abusive behaviour because she is encouraging me to kick him out. So now I have no-one. I know you guys are here for me but it was nice to have some one in real li...

Mabeleileen · Mabeleileen

I know that you all don't give advice but I have to share about my issues This may be long. AH and I have been together for a long time. We have been married for 5 years and have 2 wonderful children 5 and 2. AH and I have drank and had fun together for a long time but all of a sudden I grew up. I have a beer once in a wh...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yea, it is that time of year again! I am very happy after a long winter! Actually we had a very interesting spring, too! Anyway, I can't complain because I am not under water. I really feel for all of those who have really been hit hard! I know that our HP is handling our difficulties as He is in control. I ca...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

After kicking my A husband out for the first time, and having him endure being "homeless" for a week, I let him come back home...one reason - his family. Over the weekend, all of his sisters, mother and brother-n-laws did an "intervention" with him. They told him that if he didn...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

I feel I may need anti-depressants... it just hit me hard today, that i am really depressed... sometimes finding myself sad for no reason... i want to get back to the "happy" person i used to be... everything upsets me, and frustrates me... i was very upset at my daughter for disobeying me to...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

"abbyal has told me to post this for her...she says not to open ANYemail from her...hackers got into her computer and if you open it...you will have to change ur email etc..just don't open anything at all...from her email abbyal2003@yahoo.ca"Just delete her from your contacts pleaseee...

laurab · laurab

Hi All, I have been reading every day, but not responding because I don't feel too capable. My A Son wound up on the street for 2 weeks. We didn't know. He finally called his wife, (they have been separated for 2 years.) She picked him up. The next day she phoned to say they were moving in together in a rented...

be4yourii · be4yourii

it's been a long, long time since i've posted in here. i am still with my A and am wondering if anyone has been able to make it work living with an active A. the most recent incident has pushed me right up to the edge. part of me is so fed up and so done . . . . the other part just can't see living without him.

meagain · meagain

In my previous topic's I wrote about all the troubles between my son and daughter-in-law. this morning I called and almost "pleaded" for them to come for a bar-be-que---whenever it's "convient" for you...and could I please take the kids to a show.? Now this is about the 8t...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...

AJ · AJ

I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...

Diva · Diva

Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...

kimo · kimo

This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...

debilyn · debilyn

I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...

maresie · maresie

I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...

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	My family has gotten involved (Preview) Today, after allowing my alcoholic/drug abusing H back in, only a few days later, I have thrown him out. In the past couple of days, he has antogonized me, accused me of cheating on him, cornered me, threatened me... demand that I go to bed when he goes to bed (I enjoy watching tv late at nights alone by my...	jaysbaby	7	594	Jun 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	1st share need advice :blankstare: (Preview) This is my first share and I am struggling. My husband has been out of rehab for 21 days and everyday I am feeling our saga is coming closer to the end. He is completely shutting me out and I am not handling it well. I married him for better or worse for sickness or health I believe that when you are married yo...	mo14	5	491	Jun 28, 2008 by Jerry F
	Have a wonderful day. (Preview) Tea and Kismet, found your messages, Thank you, Bettina -- Edited by Bettina at 20:19, 2008-06-28 -- Edited by Bettina at 20:26, 2008-06-28	Bettina	4	485	Jun 28, 2008 by Bettina
	Doing 4th step (Preview) Hi has anyone ever had this problem?. I did a fourth step before ..but it wasn't really an honest one. I am now starting another five years later. I am trying to get a list of people I resent and can only come up with one person so far and that was just resent A month ago I was resenting all kinds of people and t...	nat2000	4	1276	Jun 28, 2008 by Tuggboat
	new and cant take it anymore (Preview) hi. i don't know much about doing this but i really need help. i have hit a bottom with my fear and i cant take it anymore. i cannot turn my will over to God, I am so afraid of life. If i let go of what my partner is doing, he will hurt me, we will end and my life will be over. i have been living with this for so lo...	annamae	5	425	Jun 28, 2008 by nmike
	Detaching From Family (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted here in a while, tonight I just felt I wanted to be here are at MIP. I have recently had to detach from my son and daughter, it wasn't easy, although I know now it was the only other thing that I could do. I never thought I'd ever walk away from them both, but I have, I feel sad, but i...	Barbs45	6	417	Jun 28, 2008 by SuSUN
	Prayer request for son (Preview) (((((((friends)))))))))) My A, my son, has another court date set for July 1st. He is still doing very well, but this court date had to be set up because his probation is nearly over, but his fine is not paid in full due to his small income. He is representing himself, since he can't afford an attorney....	Lexie	5	313	Jun 28, 2008 by Lexie
	Husbands drinking... (Preview) Hi Everyone, I am new here and I am jumping in with both feet as I am stuck with a drinking hubby that is only getting worse and worse. He hears me, but says nothing in return. I am getting very lonely and keep busy with my work and family. We just dont spend time together anymore. When I ask him to watch a show...	SuSUN	6	439	Jun 28, 2008 by SuSUN
	newbie w/ A husband could use a little help (Preview) Hi to all, I've been to 5 alanon meetings and 4 forum chats here (which were awesome) so far. My husband is an active A. He has no wish to stop drinking. He had a DUI several yrs ago which didnt faze him. Now our daughter is 12 yo and is noticing his drinking , the amt , the time spent at the bar, etc, and this abso...	jackie S	4	483	Jun 28, 2008 by stormie
	He's calling - and he's ANGRY! (Preview) My AH has just called me and left 3 angry messages on my answering machine at the house and 2 angry voice mails on my cell phone. I've unplugged the house phone and turned off my cell. He's angry because he's been kicked out of the house for 5 weeks, 2 days because of his drinking. His messages said he's h...	AJ	9	445	Jun 28, 2008 by AJ
	Sponsorship (Preview) Ok, I'm looking to pick the brains of all you oldtimers out there. I am now a sponsor for the first time. I have a sponsor of my own, but its always been a real loose relationship, no schedule for contact or anything. So I'm just looking for any pointers you all may have to help me get started off on the right f...	Jen	3	349	Jun 28, 2008 by Peggy7
	Struggling with fear (Preview) Hi all, I have a wonderful just turned four year old son. I adopted him from Guatemala as a single parent when he was 5 1/2 months old. He is effervescent, smart, sociable (with adults) and loves life...plus adorable! Yes I am bias but he really is a great kid. As I continue my journey to emotional hea...	kbrixham	4	408	Jun 28, 2008 by Peggy7
	on grief and gratitude - A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime (Preview) A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do. When someone is in your life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.They have come to assist you through a d...	Maria123	5	460	Jun 27, 2008 by Andrea12
	Need some encouragement - new here (Preview) This is my first time posting although I have been reading for a while. A little background on me: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man whom I want to marry someday. He has been clean off of meth for 2years and he will soon get his 90 day chip from AA. I am so proud of him! He is really working on th...	mslouise	6	415	Jun 27, 2008 by Diva
	Sailing with Captain Morgan (Preview) I can't sleep. The A in my life is sleeping in his bedroom (the guest bedroom) as he has for the past year and he's all excited about his upcoming move to Florida. All my friends are absolutely delighted that he is finally getting out of my life but I can't yet feel that way. This morning when he told me he...	Gared	10	449	Jun 27, 2008 by Bettina
	This place really works! (Preview) Ok, my A exH is in jail, will probably blame me when he gets out in the wee hours and I was really worried about it. I started reading these post and then went back to one of them that I had made. After rereading it I felt so much better. Thanks everyone for the support. Having somewhere to write how I am fe...	deecee6565	2	336	Jun 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	hey y'all (Preview) Just checking in to tell y'all I made it down to Louisville safe and sound. I can genuinely tell you I have never prayed so much in my entire life as I did today. I was so scared and so full of feelings and so on and so forth that I was just like "Oh dear and sweet and merciful God, whatever happens today,...	Tiger2006	5	403	Jun 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Today is THE day... (Preview) Dear Friends, Well, last time I had a meeting with my AH and my attorneys I imagined all of you sitting there with me, and it worked pretty well. Wanna come again? Today at 1:30 PST is the big one. If possible, with your own struggles, I'd appreciate if you could throw in a little prayer for me. We will be...	Loupiness	12	508	Jun 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Battling with stress... (Preview) ...just cannot get myself out of this stress mode. I am stressing at everything. No tears, just stress, stress, stress and not sleeping, feel like I am being a butterfly right now not settling to anything or anywhere long enough to make any progress with anything. Everything seems to be a really BIG ef...	Suzannah	9	423	Jun 26, 2008 by Maria123
	Regaining trust when the A slips (Preview) Hi All, recently my boyfriend (A) went out. He was out for two weeks that I know of. Now he has been back going to meetings and working with his sponsor. A new sponsor that is. My problem is I am having trouble trusting in anything he says and I just feel like he is up to something. I am obsessing about it. An...	serenity041807	6	1978	Jun 26, 2008 by maresie
	ANGRY, BETRAYED AND TRAPPED (Preview) Sorry to be posting so much negativity but I think I'm going to explode! My AH went into rehab about 11 weeks ago and is about 6 weeks home. The behaviour is almost exactly the same as before. He crossed the line yesterday when he assaulted our 18 yr old son, grabbed and shook him a couple of times. I really...	paulaque	8	517	Jun 26, 2008 by paulaque
	July Business Meeting (Preview) Hi all, Do to the first Sunday of the month being over the 4th of July weekend, and the same weekend of an International Al-Anon convention I am going to reschedule the Business Meeting to the following Sunday. So the July BM will be held on 07/13/08. Agenda to Follow! Yours in Recovery, Mandy	Mandy123	2	418	Jun 26, 2008 by norwood
	MOST of the time alcohol isn't humorous but.... (Preview) This is pretty darn funny..The writer had a sense of humor From Anchorage Daily News: Lawn mower-driving man charged with DUI	Christy	6	367	Jun 26, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	today's horoscope and a big thanks (Preview) I feel like my HP is speaking to me through my horoscope. scorpio October 23-November 21 Thursday, Jun 26, 2008 There could be some responsibilities or obligations you have to other people that might be holding you back a bit right now. Your desire to have a good time might be tempered a bit by your sense...	be4yourii	2	413	Jun 26, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	Fighting our way back (Preview) Hi everyoneIm new to the website. Ill been checking out the site for the last two weeks, reading the comments and trying to understand this disease and how I can help my daughter. My daughter just turned 17 last week and has been sober for 2 months now. Our world came crashing down about a year ago when the...	hopeful332	7	485	Jun 26, 2008 by Karilynn
	Continuous chaos and I can do nothing (Preview) Last night XDIL drove 100 miles to get my A Son from his "new home" with a coked up girl that he has known for 2 days. A son wouldn't go with her. DIL drove home. ASon called today and she went back to pick him up. They called me at work, both of them yelling. He screaming that he can't stay with her...	laurab	3	350	Jun 26, 2008 by joyoma
	Getting to meetings... (Preview) I am so grateful for this program, which has given me the tools to change my life. Since coming to Al-anon, I regularly find myself doing things differently, and now I know what serenity (and consciousness and presence) feel like. I am hooked! And, I never want to go back. That said, I have learne...	glad lee	3	338	Jun 25, 2008 by Peggy7
	the merry go round (Preview) Have not been posting for a while having probs with my computer. been attending meeting twice a week and the programme is slowly starting to sink in. Went to a conference at the weekend closed al anon in the morning and open AA in the afternoon. WOW did HP send me guidance. My AB has been missing for tw...	Tracy	4	703	Jun 25, 2008 by Karilynn
	one year later the A calls. (Preview) The A called this weekend and one year later I do not even answer the phone. One year of patiently working al anon. He called to ask to see the dogs. Since he abused both of them I'm not about to do that. I have nothing left to say to him. When I last him he was at my storage. He got nasty and loud and I felt emb...	maresie	6	488	Jun 25, 2008 by maire rua
	controlling (Preview) I'm having a really hard time in my life dealing with controlling people. This person in my house decided to take the hose I had in the back yard out and put a short one on. I can't even imagine the logic of that. They super weld the thing onto the fawcett then take off for a week. Now let me say this they ha...	maresie	3	319	Jun 25, 2008 by maire rua
	new to the board (Preview) I want to introduce myself. I am new to the board and new to all of what is going on in my life right now. I am married to an addict. I have tried to leave him, but we all know how hard it is. I just found out that he was using in January, so this is all VERY new to me. I just need to find someone who understands what I a...	jasmine6272	6	460	Jun 25, 2008 by afglin
	working on a fourth step hard going (Preview) I am working on a fourth step not because I really want to but there are certain themes that keep coming up in my life that I have to explore. I can't just keep saying its circumstances. I've been working on this in counselling as well as with a sponsor (although my sponsor is very busy at the moment). I am s...	maresie	5	679	Jun 25, 2008 by maresie
	What a Day! (Preview) Today was stolen car, credit cards, coke and mirror on the table, outstanding warrent, police called maybe and total chaos. My A son took off Saturday with his X wife's car, disappeared for 2 days, reappeared in some coked out girl's apartment. X DIL kept calling me at work and then he called me to say he...	laurab	6	308	Jun 25, 2008 by laurab
	Checking in (Preview) Hi peeps :) I haven't been around much due to MANY reasons. This week it has been because I (and son) have been helping make sandbags for the impending flood waters. My home isn't in danger (so far) but I have several friends that stand to lose their homes. I can't lift the 40 lb bags of sand becuase of my...	Christy	7	392	Jun 24, 2008 by Peggy7
	Powerless (Preview) Dear Family, I am feeling depressed lately. I have to get this out. Things were going well since my divorce...meaning, I had faith that my HP was taking care of me and "All is well." But lately, it's hard to come out from under the covers in the morning. I'm beginning to have doubts. I gu...	glad lee	5	385	Jun 24, 2008 by Peggy7
	Reconnected - it has been horrible not being connected... (Preview) I am so sorry (((((((((((((family))))))))))))))))) my internet service provider severed my connection before I had the chance to let you all know that I would not be able to pop in for a while...and I was so miserable and lonely. As a result, I am quite low in spirits right now. My doctor is writing a let...	Suzannah	7	653	Jun 24, 2008 by Peggy7
	Service Unavailable! (Preview) Anybody else having trouble getting into the room today? It says "SERVICE UNAVAILABLE". HELP! Need a meeting desperately! They recently switched to a new firewalll with road runner. I disabled it and lowered the security, but things are still wierd. AH not around to help. Thank...	Karilynn	2	329	Jun 24, 2008 by maresie
	another excuse (Preview) this is more just a rant than anything . . . . on the 12th of this month my A crossed a line that I told him I would not tolerate by getting drunk and heading to the strip club alone. like magic $300 is gone (at a strip club that doesn't sell alcohol) and even though he is a blackout drinker he swears to me that not...	be4yourii	6	472	Jun 24, 2008 by maresie
	aggravated and frustrated (Preview) I've been in AlAnon for over 15 years, but at times this life I have chosen really gets me aggravated and frustrated. My spouse of nearly 40 years is an active alcoholic. He's been through 4 rehabs and several detox over the years. He attends AA every Friday night and meets with his sponsor on Saturday....	afglin	7	369	Jun 24, 2008 by laurab
	Feel Totaly Alone (Preview) I feel so alone. I feel like there is no one to help or even care. Today Marks nan told me Marks mum has told her not to talk to me about marks drinking and abusive behaviour because she is encouraging me to kick him out. So now I have no-one. I know you guys are here for me but it was nice to have some one in real li...	mum2leahnjosh	4	394	Jun 24, 2008 by stariana
	I just don't know what to do. (Preview) I know that you all don't give advice but I have to share about my issues This may be long. AH and I have been together for a long time. We have been married for 5 years and have 2 wonderful children 5 and 2. AH and I have drank and had fun together for a long time but all of a sudden I grew up. I have a beer once in a wh...	Mabeleileen	10	424	Jun 24, 2008 by stariana
	Summer is Here! (Preview) Yea, it is that time of year again! I am very happy after a long winter! Actually we had a very interesting spring, too! Anyway, I can't complain because I am not under water. I really feel for all of those who have really been hit hard! I know that our HP is handling our difficulties as He is in control. I ca...	Hoot Nanny	2	407	Jun 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	Praying for a Miracle (I let him back in) (Preview) After kicking my A husband out for the first time, and having him endure being "homeless" for a week, I let him come back home...one reason - his family. Over the weekend, all of his sisters, mother and brother-n-laws did an "intervention" with him. They told him that if he didn...	jaysbaby	9	684	Jun 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	fighting depression (Preview) I feel I may need anti-depressants... it just hit me hard today, that i am really depressed... sometimes finding myself sad for no reason... i want to get back to the "happy" person i used to be... everything upsets me, and frustrates me... i was very upset at my daughter for disobeying me to...	jaysbaby	2	443	Jun 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	WARNING WARNING PLEASE READ (Preview) "abbyal has told me to post this for her...she says not to open ANYemail from her...hackers got into her computer and if you open it...you will have to change ur email etc..just don't open anything at all...from her email abbyal2003@yahoo.ca"Just delete her from your contacts pleaseee...	Lauren ashley	2	505	Jun 23, 2008 by John
	I am a coward (Preview) Hi All, I have been reading every day, but not responding because I don't feel too capable. My A Son wound up on the street for 2 weeks. We didn't know. He finally called his wife, (they have been separated for 2 years.) She picked him up. The next day she phoned to say they were moving in together in a rented...	laurab	6	404	Jun 23, 2008 by Gailey
	living with an active A (Preview) it's been a long, long time since i've posted in here. i am still with my A and am wondering if anyone has been able to make it work living with an active A. the most recent incident has pushed me right up to the edge. part of me is so fed up and so done . . . . the other part just can't see living without him.	be4yourii	6	562	Jun 23, 2008 by Gared
	Am I doing the right thing?? (Preview) In my previous topic's I wrote about all the troubles between my son and daughter-in-law. this morning I called and almost "pleaded" for them to come for a bar-be-que---whenever it's "convient" for you...and could I please take the kids to a show.? Now this is about the 8t...	meagain	2	515	Jun 23, 2008 by Jen
	what I needed to read today... (Melody) (Preview) Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...	Jean4444	3	512	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	One more chance (Preview) My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...	serenity041807	3	362	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	In a Nut Shell (Preview) I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...	AJ	4	445	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	New here... recovering from physical, verbal and emotional abuse (Preview) Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...	jaysbaby	18	628	Jun 22, 2008 by stormie
	A drinking, drunk liar! What more could anyone want??? (Preview) Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...	Diva	15	1646	Jun 21, 2008 by AJ
	binge drinker (Preview) This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...	kimo	7	790	Jun 21, 2008 by abbyal
	Learning Everyday (Preview) Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...	JenniferN	2	433	Jun 21, 2008 by Bettina
	New to postings (Preview) Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...	serenity041807	6	376	Jun 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	susannah is ok (Preview) I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...	debilyn	1	294	Jun 21, 2008 by david62
	Need reinforcement (Preview) For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...	jaysbaby	11	472	Jun 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	boundaries (Preview) Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...	annmarie	5	428	Jun 20, 2008 by jaysbaby
	leaving is such a hard thing to do (Preview) I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...	maresie	7	637	Jun 20, 2008 by maresie
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