Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...

AJ · AJ

I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...

Diva · Diva

Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...

kimo · kimo

This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...

serenity041807 · serenity041807

Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...

debilyn · debilyn

I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...

jaysbaby · jaysbaby

For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...

maresie · maresie

I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...

canadianguy · canadianguy

The question was raised recently of where the awesome quote came from: He is either gonna drink, or he won't, what are YOU gonna do?? I may have been the first to post it on MIP, but it came to me from my wise old (online) sponsor, who has since passed away..... He had many gems, and here are a few of my favouri...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My dad who lives 900 miles away from me, is very special, he is definitely one of a kind. A few years ago I went for a visit. I stayed about two weeks and one day he said, I need a hug! Boy, was that weird but special, actually unusual. I spent almost one whole day or so it seems crying because he misunderstoo...

charr · charr

I am having a hard time with what my ah has been doing and now after all the internet porn chapter (thats what put into a rage in the session) my pshycologist made an appt with my phsyciatrist, i just went to see and i told her the celexa and xanax is not working, she said she heard about the episode and she is p...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I think I have figured out something really cool- my life is going along well! I have for the most part eliminated all drama and trauma from my life. I am content and peaceful. I no longer need to beg God for mercy; I now know that he is merciful, I know God is with me and working with me in my life, guiding me an...

queenie105 · queenie105

My AH lost his job of over 20 years yesterday, fired for being drunk on the job. I knew it was coming down the pike, and for years (before Alanon) I used to beg, plead, threaten, cry to try and make him stop drinking before losing his job. Take the beers out of his truck, etc. Did it work? No. What worked...

norwood · norwood

Hi all, I am going to the upcoming International convention and I think it would be great to meet and say hi as a group for dinner or something. If you are interested, let's see if we can plan something. Best - always -- Edited by norwood at 19:32, 2008-06-16

Loupiness · Loupiness

My son is almost 15 . The other night we were talking and he told me that when he grows up, he either wants to live in Barcelona, Spain or Utah. Of course, I asked him why, to which he replied that Barcelona is the skateboarding capital of the world and its located near the ocean. Okay, that made sense. As f...

queenie105 · queenie105

I just want to let you all know that even though I joined MIP last week, I have been reading so many posts, and I'll tell you, I am learning so much from all of you. I'm learning new tools and also sayings that make so much sense and put things in a new perspective. I may be a little down right now, but coming...

glad · glad

When I detach and focus on my work, my life, my program. I feel great and things get better when I do spend time with my ABF. But then they get a little better- he almost shares something or seems to care about something a little and I "forget" and act "normal" meaning forget to const...

stormie · stormie

My AH loves to fish. He and his fishing buddies, some are family members, have always planned a few weekend fishing trips per year, throughout several decades. Of course, alcohol is "always" a part of the weekend package. Last year was my AH's first year to pass on the trip to a particula...

akristab · akristab

Although, I haven't been very active posting on this board, I frequently read the posts and want to thank everyone and tell you how grateful I have been to read your words of encouragement to other members. The unwaiving support that I have read regularly provided me the foundation that I needed to ge...

queenie105 · queenie105

Well, I went away for the weekend w/my son, his girlfriend and my grandson. We had such a nice time. I figured AH would call me, so I wasn't planning on answering the phone. My grandson answered it while we were outside though, and it was AH. Of course, he was drunk. (If any of you remember, he was susp...

CABBYJ · CABBYJ

Hello. I'm new here. My AH and I have been together 15 years & married just 1. I postponed the marriage for a long time because of the drinking. Then I accepted my fate and decided I wasn't going to leave and decided to marry him, under the impression that God blesses marriage & all my problem...

SOSAD · SOSAD

hi this is my first time posting here. im so tired, so drained, so disgusted i could spit. I married my husband almost 19 years ago im in my mid 40,s. he hid his drinking quite well. As i have never drank I really didnt notice any of the red flags. I have 4 beautiful children who have not really had a Dad emot...

joyoma · joyoma

Yesterday I had my 3-month post-cancer treatment checkup once more; it has been 15 months since my initial diagnosis of sarcoma in upper thigh with four months of chemo, and one year exactly since surgery to remove tumor, and then I had three months of radiation treatment. Well, bad news yesterday...

ESH · ESH

Recap: Haven't seen A-bf since early February. He had broken up with me. I went through the grief process of loss. He went to 90-day rehab (April - July) and is now calling and acting as if nothing ever happened; acting as if we are still a couple. In short I stated, "You broke up with me." H...

China · China

It has been very difficult to deal with the ups and downs of alcoholism, drug addiction, bipolar. It is like beeing in the middle of the storm and unable to do anything. Finally, the A has calmed-down for a couple of days. He does not remember anythings: Yelling, beings hurtful to me and his son, destruc...

beth38 · beth38

I'm kind of new to the program. I was in alanon when I was married to my first husband but stopped going when we got divorced. The problem is my fifteen year old daughter. She got into trouble and got a ticket for being a minor in posession of alcohol. She has been unable to earn my trust and calls me terr...

stormie · stormie

Hello Everyone: I found this board last year about this time when my AH was very active and in deep denial. Messages on this board, coupled with the research I had done all last year helped me to make the personal choice of separating from him. After 3 weeks of separation, he crashed and went into to deto...

sdisnie · sdisnie

http://www.healthmad.com/Addiction/Understanding-Addiction.139538

DT1221 · DT1221

Hello, everyone! I am so frustrated I want to scream. I can't get on the chat room my Java isn't working. sounds like a good line in a commercial ) but it's not. I just want to pull my hair out and scream retty much. I know I let my AH get to me and I shouldn't but with that said I am also tired of the nasty person I l...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Hi Friends, I'm numb and apalled, but relieved. My AH decided to take Father's Day as the opportunity to tell his children about his girlfriend. Yep, Father's Day, the day designed to celebrate the one who is the leader and protector of his family. What an idiot! As we were driving out of town tonight...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All. Happy Fathers Day to those of you who are qualified especially for the gals who are doing double duty. I kinda forgot it was Fathers Day even though the family started the celebration yesterday at the zoo. Three sons and a daughter doing double duty for now as her pilot husband just returne...

maresie · maresie

I am working on my 4th step which given I have been here 2/3 years is something. I am really finding it hard going as I'm now aware how much my people pleasing cost me and what a set up it was for me. I feel pretty raw about it. I also feel kind of stuck where I am. I am not making enough money and in theory would b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My kitties are doing well..except one who had an ingrown nail. She is doing well after a trip to the Vet and some antibiotics that we have to give her! She does like it but it smells like bubblegum or something like that! Anyway, I hope it is ok to send you a direct post. I wanted to make sure you got this mes...

JDel · JDel

Hi everyone! I am so happy to have found this board. I have been reading the posts and I don't feel alone anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the world going through this. My husband is an addict. Mainly alcohol and rx pain pills, but what I'm learning is that he will abuse anything he can...

worriedgirl · worriedgirl

Hi to the group! So, I'm worried. I'm worried about my boyfriend. We've been dating for 8 months and I thought I'd found the one. I still think he's for me. However, the last couple months have been a roller coaster. We moved in together in April and now summer has begun (I'm a school teacher) and I'm...

dlookeast · dlookeast

My boyfriend is an Ah. I love him dearly. I have recently informed him that I couldn't deal with it anymore. It refering to coming home every night and wondering weather or not at one point or another he'd be standing over me yelling, cursing, and screaming. Basically I gave him a choice. He made a doctor...

debilyn · debilyn

where are you???

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family))))) Hubby and I went for our annual physical this week. The doctor found that hubby's blood pressure was elevated. Hubby has had high blood pressure, but the doctor also found that mine was elevated too. I have never had high blood pressure before. The doctor has ordered some tests for bo...

david62 · david62

For my Dad....... I wanted to do something special today for my dad. I wanted to try to express what he means to me now and how I feel about him. The obvious starting place is that without him..with a little help from my mom too of course, I would not exist. And I also believe "The King" my HP, has e...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Tonight I took a journey back to the room where I have met some wonderful friends over these few years. It felt like coming home everyone was so very warm and welcoming. It was absolutely wonderful. Sometimes along the road of Life, we can get lost, confused and just down right depre...

joyoma · joyoma

My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...

junehouse · junehouse

Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...

meagain · meagain

As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...

China · China

Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...

deecee6565 · deecee6565

My A exhusband who I have been living with moved out a few weeks ago. He had been doing drugs instead of drinking because of an anklemonitor and really I think he left because he knew how bad he gets. I had noticed for the last few months he had been spending a sick amount of money and his cell rang at all hou...

belle1 · belle1

As many of you may already know my mom found a lump on her breast and it was cancerous well today was day of surgery and a long one for my family, many prayers well wishes from so many people and from this family of mines also id just like to send many many thanks Surgery went well at night visit she was sitting...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Well, I hope I was missed, HA! HA! Seriously I was forgetting to check in. I don't remember the last time I posted. I am doing pretty well.. I am enjoying the much needed sunshine. Lots of rain earlier. I am very sorry for all of you in areas of the country who have suffered from excessive heat, floodin...

kitty · kitty

and now for something completely different... I saw this elephant on Animal Planet and found it so moving & beautiful, I thought it would be nice to share with all of you. I have never seen such a happy elephant in captivity before, truly amazing! http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/06/am...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Was thinking about you all and i decided to drop by and say hi Hoping this finds everyone having the courage to change their lives into what they want it to be... Well the last three months i have had no Al-anon, i felt i needed some time to truely get to know myse...

joyoma · joyoma

I haven't posted in weeks due to technical problems I probably created all by myself. I haven't been able to log on at all. Finally, with John's e-mail of this week, I was able to make contact. Now it seems my screen name is "joyoma" rather than "omajoy"!!! Isn't that interes...

madonna · madonna

Hi, I really need a sponsor and I was wondering if I can get one online? Or do I have to go to a live meeting to get one. Please let me know. I do not have an alcoholic in my family but my father (who died in 1995) was a ragoholic. He is still haunting me. My biggest problem is my weight. He always made fun of m...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Hi! Today my daughter and I peeled and cut potatoes together and I enjoyed it! More importantly, I felt like an adult! I just thought I'd share. Later Danette

RLC · RLC

Happy Fathers Day to all MIP Fathers. A day to sit back and reflect not on mistakes we might have made, or things we wish we had done differently, but be proud of the opportunity we had to shape the lives of the ones we hold so dear. It is also a day to remember our own Fathers and all the things they did for...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Thank you for your love and prayers this past week. It has really meant alot to me. Hubby does not know that I posted asking for prayers, but if he did I know he'd appreciate it too. We were suppose to go to the doctor's yesterday, but he wasn't into it. I can understand that. Who want t...

Loupiness · Loupiness

As I have posted, I have kept my private life very private. Given my life as it is and where it appears to be headed, I know it has been a good decision for me thus far. In this small town I am in, the privacy really kept the chaos at bay and has allowed me to move forward at my own pace. Other than immediate fami...

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	what I needed to read today... (Melody) (Preview) Many of us have gone so numb and discounted our feelings so completely that we have gotten out of touch with our needs in relationships. We can learn to distinguish whose company we enjoy, whether we're talking about friends, business acquaintances, dates, or spouses. We all need to interact with...	Jean4444	3	477	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	One more chance (Preview) My A just replapsed. We have been together for 6 months and when we got together I new he was an A because I met him at an AA meeting. He had been clean for almost 9 months. I have been clean and sober for over a year with no intention of ever repeating what I did. Of course I can only take it one day at a time fo...	serenity041807	3	336	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	In a Nut Shell (Preview) I met my AH 20 yrs ago, went our separate ways, got reacquainted 5 yrs ago, married 4 yrs ago. I knew he had a drinking problem when I married him (he smokes weed too) I drank, but as a normal person would. I thought I could fix his addictions, it would only take time, because he's such a nice guy and worth savi...	AJ	4	422	Jun 22, 2008 by maresie
	New here... recovering from physical, verbal and emotional abuse (Preview) Hello all... Please help me... this is my last resource before I admit myself into the hospital for having a breakdown. History: I am married to an alcoholic who abuses cocaine, and he also has been diagnosed with Bipolar and Hypomania. I am a beautiful, self-sufficient, hardworking woman (govern...	jaysbaby	18	601	Jun 22, 2008 by stormie
	A drinking, drunk liar! What more could anyone want??? (Preview) Damn these alcoholics! Every one of them. I have been patient and loving; I have swallowed my pride; I have tried to keep mind and body together; I have tried to learn how to be happy and serene while he causes pain and havoc; I have tiptoed around the subject so as not to hurt him. What has HE done? DRINK!! I...	Diva	15	1603	Jun 21, 2008 by AJ
	binge drinker (Preview) This is my first posting. I have been in a relationship with d for 9 yrs who is lovely when sober, but once he has a drink cannot stop! I have a son from a previous relationship and we have a daughter together who is 8. D insists that he hasn't a problem, that it's "all me" but is verbally abusive wh...	kimo	7	761	Jun 21, 2008 by abbyal
	Learning Everyday (Preview) Hello "Family" I know it's been a while since I've posted. Things are going ok here. I almost "relapsed" but forced myself to talk to him about what was bothering me. Unfortunately, the conversation wound up being about HIM because he interuppted me when I was explaining what...	JenniferN	2	409	Jun 21, 2008 by Bettina
	New to postings (Preview) Hi, I am new to this posting site and was looking for some guidance. I have been to one Al-Anon meeting, but haven't been to another. My BF & I live together and he is an Alcoholic/Addict that had almost put together nine months. However two weeks ago he slipped and went out. He started drinking and...	serenity041807	6	353	Jun 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	susannah is ok (Preview) I finally decided to call her in England. She is changing servers.It was so cool hearing her beautiful English accent. Was such a relief that she is ok. She asked me to let you all know she misses everyone and sends her love. You know she could just say words that meant nothing but you would love to just hea...	debilyn	1	271	Jun 21, 2008 by david62
	Need reinforcement (Preview) For those following my story about my A, he keeps calling me crying. He told me he spent the last 3 days living in the streets. He has never been homeless before in his life. I am the first person to put him out and stand up to him (in all his past relationships, he gave his partners the boot). I need clarity...	jaysbaby	11	447	Jun 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	boundaries (Preview) Hi All, I haven't posted in a while but I have been reading your posts. I'm really struggling with personal boundaries at present. My sister comes over with her three small children and lets them run all over my house exploring. This makes me very uncomfortable. They break things and spill things etc...	annmarie	5	403	Jun 20, 2008 by jaysbaby
	leaving is such a hard thing to do (Preview) I just had to cancel my dental appointment again because I dont have the money to pay for it. This last year has been one of the hardest in my life financially. The first few months I was numb now I'm in the long long haul of getting through debilitating debt, health issues, isolation and more. I do what I...	maresie	7	614	Jun 20, 2008 by maresie
	"He is either gonna drink, or he won't......" (Preview) The question was raised recently of where the awesome quote came from: He is either gonna drink, or he won't, what are YOU gonna do?? I may have been the first to post it on MIP, but it came to me from my wise old (online) sponsor, who has since passed away..... He had many gems, and here are a few of my favouri...	canadianguy	6	929	Jun 19, 2008 by cookie1971
	MY DAD (Preview) My dad who lives 900 miles away from me, is very special, he is definitely one of a kind. A few years ago I went for a visit. I stayed about two weeks and one day he said, I need a hug! Boy, was that weird but special, actually unusual. I spent almost one whole day or so it seems crying because he misunderstoo...	Hoot Nanny	1	317	Jun 19, 2008 by Leetle
	i had an angry rage episode in MT and now what me to take Seroquel !!!!! (Preview) I am having a hard time with what my ah has been doing and now after all the internet porn chapter (thats what put into a rage in the session) my pshycologist made an appt with my phsyciatrist, i just went to see and i told her the celexa and xanax is not working, she said she heard about the episode and she is p...	charr	11	515	Jun 19, 2008 by serendipity
	I do not need to beg God anymore (Preview) I think I have figured out something really cool- my life is going along well! I have for the most part eliminated all drama and trauma from my life. I am content and peaceful. I no longer need to beg God for mercy; I now know that he is merciful, I know God is with me and working with me in my life, guiding me an...	Jean4444	5	645	Jun 19, 2008 by Jerry F
	Would you call this a moment of clarity? (Preview) My AH lost his job of over 20 years yesterday, fired for being drunk on the job. I knew it was coming down the pike, and for years (before Alanon) I used to beg, plead, threaten, cry to try and make him stop drinking before losing his job. Take the beers out of his truck, etc. Did it work? No. What worked...	queenie105	6	978	Jun 19, 2008 by Christy
	International convention Pittsburgh PA 7/3-7/7 (Preview) Hi all, I am going to the upcoming International convention and I think it would be great to meet and say hi as a group for dinner or something. If you are interested, let's see if we can plan something. Best - always -- Edited by norwood at 19:32, 2008-06-16	norwood	4	1969	Jun 19, 2008 by Rita G
	Barcelona or Utah? (Preview) My son is almost 15 . The other night we were talking and he told me that when he grows up, he either wants to live in Barcelona, Spain or Utah. Of course, I asked him why, to which he replied that Barcelona is the skateboarding capital of the world and its located near the ocean. Okay, that made sense. As f...	Loupiness	8	464	Jun 19, 2008 by nmike
	Glad I'm Here! (Preview) I just want to let you all know that even though I joined MIP last week, I have been reading so many posts, and I'll tell you, I am learning so much from all of you. I'm learning new tools and also sayings that make so much sense and put things in a new perspective. I may be a little down right now, but coming...	queenie105	4	348	Jun 19, 2008 by Mabeleileen
	yuky weekend! (Preview) When I detach and focus on my work, my life, my program. I feel great and things get better when I do spend time with my ABF. But then they get a little better- he almost shares something or seems to care about something a little and I "forget" and act "normal" meaning forget to const...	glad	5	548	Jun 19, 2008 by round3
	Is This Even Possible? (Preview) My AH loves to fish. He and his fishing buddies, some are family members, have always planned a few weekend fishing trips per year, throughout several decades. Of course, alcohol is "always" a part of the weekend package. Last year was my AH's first year to pass on the trip to a particula...	stormie	15	464	Jun 19, 2008 by stormie
	Slowly but surely (Preview) Although, I haven't been very active posting on this board, I frequently read the posts and want to thank everyone and tell you how grateful I have been to read your words of encouragement to other members. The unwaiving support that I have read regularly provided me the foundation that I needed to ge...	akristab	4	321	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	Any tools to remain calm? Also a vent! Sorry. (Preview) Well, I went away for the weekend w/my son, his girlfriend and my grandson. We had such a nice time. I figured AH would call me, so I wasn't planning on answering the phone. My grandson answered it while we were outside though, and it was AH. Of course, he was drunk. (If any of you remember, he was susp...	queenie105	9	597	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	NEW HERE (Preview) Hello. I'm new here. My AH and I have been together 15 years & married just 1. I postponed the marriage for a long time because of the drinking. Then I accepted my fate and decided I wasn't going to leave and decided to marry him, under the impression that God blesses marriage & all my problem...	CABBYJ	2	327	Jun 18, 2008 by stariana
	please help AH (Preview) hi this is my first time posting here. im so tired, so drained, so disgusted i could spit. I married my husband almost 19 years ago im in my mid 40,s. he hid his drinking quite well. As i have never drank I really didnt notice any of the red flags. I have 4 beautiful children who have not really had a Dad emot...	SOSAD	12	435	Jun 18, 2008 by SOSAD
	Prayers definitely needed (Preview) Yesterday I had my 3-month post-cancer treatment checkup once more; it has been 15 months since my initial diagnosis of sarcoma in upper thigh with four months of chemo, and one year exactly since surgery to remove tumor, and then I had three months of radiation treatment. Well, bad news yesterday...	joyoma	8	473	Jun 18, 2008 by carosie
	I'm at a loss for words... speechless. (Preview) Recap: Haven't seen A-bf since early February. He had broken up with me. I went through the grief process of loss. He went to 90-day rehab (April - July) and is now calling and acting as if nothing ever happened; acting as if we are still a couple. In short I stated, "You broke up with me." H...	ESH	9	744	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	The storm has passed! (Preview) It has been very difficult to deal with the ups and downs of alcoholism, drug addiction, bipolar. It is like beeing in the middle of the storm and unable to do anything. Finally, the A has calmed-down for a couple of days. He does not remember anythings: Yelling, beings hurtful to me and his son, destruc...	China	4	324	Jun 18, 2008 by Jean4444
	need help (Preview) I'm kind of new to the program. I was in alanon when I was married to my first husband but stopped going when we got divorced. The problem is my fifteen year old daughter. She got into trouble and got a ticket for being a minor in posession of alcohol. She has been unable to earn my trust and calls me terr...	beth38	1	327	Jun 18, 2008 by CJ
	He Had a Relapse (Preview) Hello Everyone: I found this board last year about this time when my AH was very active and in deep denial. Messages on this board, coupled with the research I had done all last year helped me to make the personal choice of separating from him. After 3 weeks of separation, he crashed and went into to deto...	stormie	6	421	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	Understanding Alcoholism (Preview) http://www.healthmad.com/Addiction/Understanding-Addiction.139538	sdisnie	4	1171	Jun 17, 2008 by canadianguy
	Pulling my hair out! (Preview) Hello, everyone! I am so frustrated I want to scream. I can't get on the chat room my Java isn't working. sounds like a good line in a commercial ) but it's not. I just want to pull my hair out and scream retty much. I know I let my AH get to me and I shouldn't but with that said I am also tired of the nasty person I l...	DT1221	5	426	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	the elephant left the room (Preview) Hi Friends, I'm numb and apalled, but relieved. My AH decided to take Father's Day as the opportunity to tell his children about his girlfriend. Yep, Father's Day, the day designed to celebrate the one who is the leader and protector of his family. What an idiot! As we were driving out of town tonight...	Loupiness	7	914	Jun 17, 2008 by junehouse
	Fathers Day experiences (Preview) Aloha All. Happy Fathers Day to those of you who are qualified especially for the gals who are doing double duty. I kinda forgot it was Fathers Day even though the family started the celebration yesterday at the zoo. Three sons and a daughter doing double duty for now as her pilot husband just returne...	Jerry F	6	487	Jun 17, 2008 by glad lee
	doing a 4th step (Preview) I am working on my 4th step which given I have been here 2/3 years is something. I am really finding it hard going as I'm now aware how much my people pleasing cost me and what a set up it was for me. I feel pretty raw about it. I also feel kind of stuck where I am. I am not making enough money and in theory would b...	maresie	4	475	Jun 17, 2008 by maresie
	Hey Karilyn! (Preview) My kitties are doing well..except one who had an ingrown nail. She is doing well after a trip to the Vet and some antibiotics that we have to give her! She does like it but it smells like bubblegum or something like that! Anyway, I hope it is ok to send you a direct post. I wanted to make sure you got this mes...	Hoot Nanny	1	314	Jun 17, 2008 by Karilynn
	Hi! New and glad to be here (Preview) Hi everyone! I am so happy to have found this board. I have been reading the posts and I don't feel alone anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one in the world going through this. My husband is an addict. Mainly alcohol and rx pain pills, but what I'm learning is that he will abuse anything he can...	JDel	7	643	Jun 17, 2008 by JDel
	wondering if I should even be here (Preview) Hi to the group! So, I'm worried. I'm worried about my boyfriend. We've been dating for 8 months and I thought I'd found the one. I still think he's for me. However, the last couple months have been a roller coaster. We moved in together in April and now summer has begun (I'm a school teacher) and I'm...	worriedgirl	5	553	Jun 17, 2008 by JDel
	Feels Like A Lost Cause (Preview) My boyfriend is an Ah. I love him dearly. I have recently informed him that I couldn't deal with it anymore. It refering to coming home every night and wondering weather or not at one point or another he'd be standing over me yelling, cursing, and screaming. Basically I gave him a choice. He made a doctor...	dlookeast	3	678	Jun 16, 2008 by dlookeast
	Suzannah (Preview) where are you???	debilyn	0	265	Jun 16, 2008 by debilyn
	HAVING TESTS AND NEED PRAYERS (Preview) ((((Family))))) Hubby and I went for our annual physical this week. The doctor found that hubby's blood pressure was elevated. Hubby has had high blood pressure, but the doctor also found that mine was elevated too. I have never had high blood pressure before. The doctor has ordered some tests for bo...	cookie1971	2	434	Jun 16, 2008 by Maria123
	For My Dad (Preview) For my Dad....... I wanted to do something special today for my dad. I wanted to try to express what he means to me now and how I feel about him. The obvious starting place is that without him..with a little help from my mom too of course, I would not exist. And I also believe "The King" my HP, has e...	david62	9	472	Jun 16, 2008 by abbyal
	Coming Home (Preview) Hello Friends, Tonight I took a journey back to the room where I have met some wonderful friends over these few years. It felt like coming home everyone was so very warm and welcoming. It was absolutely wonderful. Sometimes along the road of Life, we can get lost, confused and just down right depre...	Andrea12	6	363	Jun 16, 2008 by queenie105
	family weekend (Preview) My husband, our son and his child, and I spent Father's Day weekend in a condo on a lovely beach. It was an attempt at celebrating a family holiday in a different way. My son continues to grieve over his now two-year old divorce...something he did not want but couldn't stop. His grief and depression...	joyoma	1	320	Jun 16, 2008 by Diva
	I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me... (Preview) Hello All, I find Father's Day a thoughtful time for me because I am 'not' in contact with my father. I send photos of my son two times a year at Christmas and at his birthday. Since he is just two this year this is a fairly new idea I have had. I got the idea from someone in AA to send photos. Both my parents...	junehouse	2	378	Jun 16, 2008 by junehouse
	sons like fathers?? (Preview) As I was saying my son treats me like his A father did to me. I have told my some I am not afraid physcially-but mentainally an emotionally.I have not heard back from him in this regard---but no more playing tag on the internet with him. Enough already. I am really sticking to my boundaries....I am reall...	meagain	2	382	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	HAPPY FATHER'S DAY TO MIP DADS! (Preview) (((((MIP Dads))))), To my MIP Dads: HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! I thank you for all your love, strength and laughs you have given us. You are indeed a special bunch of men. I may tease you lots, but it comes from the . May your day be extra special filled with love and laughter. Do the things you and spend them...	Karilynn	2	538	Jun 16, 2008 by Jerry F
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, It is my first time posting. I am very concerned. I have been thinking of moving out of the house. But my A always changes my mind. Telling me that it is best for the family to stay together that it will hurt our 8 year old son, that it is best finanacially etc... However, I can't control my temper anymore...	China	7	390	Jun 16, 2008 by China
	The vultures fly (Preview) My A exhusband who I have been living with moved out a few weeks ago. He had been doing drugs instead of drinking because of an anklemonitor and really I think he left because he knew how bad he gets. I had noticed for the last few months he had been spending a sick amount of money and his cell rang at all hou...	deecee6565	1	369	Jun 15, 2008 by Jerry F
	Moms Surgery (Preview) As many of you may already know my mom found a lump on her breast and it was cancerous well today was day of surgery and a long one for my family, many prayers well wishes from so many people and from this family of mines also id just like to send many many thanks Surgery went well at night visit she was sitting...	belle1	5	272	Jun 15, 2008 by cookie1971
	I am back! (Preview) Well, I hope I was missed, HA! HA! Seriously I was forgetting to check in. I don't remember the last time I posted. I am doing pretty well.. I am enjoying the much needed sunshine. Lots of rain earlier. I am very sorry for all of you in areas of the country who have suffered from excessive heat, floodin...	Hoot Nanny	2	313	Jun 15, 2008 by cookie1971
	elephant paints portrait (Preview) and now for something completely different... I saw this elephant on Animal Planet and found it so moving & beautiful, I thought it would be nice to share with all of you. I have never seen such a happy elephant in captivity before, truly amazing! http://www.treehugger.com/files/2008/06/am...	kitty	0	293	Jun 15, 2008 by kitty
	HELLO GUYS.... (Preview) ((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))) Was thinking about you all and i decided to drop by and say hi Hoping this finds everyone having the courage to change their lives into what they want it to be... Well the last three months i have had no Al-anon, i felt i needed some time to truely get to know myse...	ally	3	305	Jun 15, 2008 by Jen
	technical problems (Preview) I haven't posted in weeks due to technical problems I probably created all by myself. I haven't been able to log on at all. Finally, with John's e-mail of this week, I was able to make contact. Now it seems my screen name is "joyoma" rather than "omajoy"!!! Isn't that interes...	joyoma	3	349	Jun 15, 2008 by Jen
	HELP!! Can I get a sponsor online? (Preview) Hi, I really need a sponsor and I was wondering if I can get one online? Or do I have to go to a live meeting to get one. Please let me know. I do not have an alcoholic in my family but my father (who died in 1995) was a ragoholic. He is still haunting me. My biggest problem is my weight. He always made fun of m...	madonna	9	1098	Jun 15, 2008 by kitty
	yay!! (Preview) Hi! Today my daughter and I peeled and cut potatoes together and I enjoyed it! More importantly, I felt like an adult! I just thought I'd share. Later Danette	seekingserenity	1	235	Jun 15, 2008 by belle1
	HAPPY FATHERS DAY AND A "THANK YOU" TO MY DAD (Preview) Happy Fathers Day to all MIP Fathers. A day to sit back and reflect not on mistakes we might have made, or things we wish we had done differently, but be proud of the opportunity we had to shape the lives of the ones we hold so dear. It is also a day to remember our own Fathers and all the things they did for...	RLC	1	473	Jun 15, 2008 by Karilynn
	Update (Preview) ((((Family))), Thank you for your love and prayers this past week. It has really meant alot to me. Hubby does not know that I posted asking for prayers, but if he did I know he'd appreciate it too. We were suppose to go to the doctor's yesterday, but he wasn't into it. I can understand that. Who want t...	Karilynn	9	428	Jun 14, 2008 by leo
	getting thrown under the bus (Preview) As I have posted, I have kept my private life very private. Given my life as it is and where it appears to be headed, I know it has been a good decision for me thus far. In this small town I am in, the privacy really kept the chaos at bay and has allowed me to move forward at my own pace. Other than immediate fami...	Loupiness	5	558	Jun 14, 2008 by Leetle
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