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New here... in crisis.
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I just found this forum as I sat here trying to figure out what to do next. My A husband was sober for about 4 yrs and relapsed a month or so ago. He went into rehab and got out last week. He went right back to using/drinking. I confronted him today when I realized and now I'm at an impass. I want to leave, I want...
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Just starting out here
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My son 19 has been binge drinking for a month. Also on anti-depressants. The result is what you guys of course know all about. He is not violent to me or my son 15 but is putting himself at great risk, stealing, smashing things, blacking out, blames the medication, doesn't want to stop drinking. I am cons...
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What a Difference 6 Months Made!
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Hello Strangers!! <LOL> It has been 6 months since I've been able to log-in to post anything becuz this stupid computer wouldn't let me without "cookies en- abled"??? Whatever that is! <LOL> But...here it is almost 2:30am and I'm sooo awake and ex...
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denial
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my AB has been sober for a couple of weeks since I no longer have lots of drama alot of feelings are coming to the surface and I am turning in to a provocker He still has not drank as far as I am aware. You see when he drinks and goes missing I think he cheats i have caught him once and tried to get over it. But some...
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tomorrow
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Hi All Well I needed to vent and I hear this is a better place than the A in our lives to vent. As some of you know I moved out from my A last Wednesday and I dont know if I have mentioned it before but even high he always been an awesome father. He has always been an awesome father...well after saying that when...
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another good day
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Today was the first day I did not worry about what he was doing, what he was thinking, and I did not obsess over anything that was going on today. I was able to go through the day without being upset, worried, or sad. We had a nice dinner together, laughed together. He is starting to open up more and I know it a...
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Why Do I Always Do This?
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Why am I always attracted to men who are not available to me.....either physically or emotionally...... I talked to my soon to be ex AH one evening this past week. He gave me a copy of the dissolution papers to look over. I really did OK with it, I didn't cry or come home and have to take nerve pills. In fac...
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God works in mysterious ways
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Some of you may remember that I am going to start college this fall and finally complete my degree, two degrees actually. I will get an associate of arts, and an associate of applied science in medical information technology. That will allow me to work as a biller/coder, a transcriptionist, a variety...
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New and need help
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I just found this place from a search engine after having one of the worst days of my life. My live-in boyfriend of ten years is an alcoholic, and has gotten progressively more moody and unpredictable over the past year and a half. Today, he got so mad at me and his kids (13 and 19) that he scared us all by sm...
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alright gang, talk me off the ledge here
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I was just asked out! I am a nervous wreck. I said "just as friends, right?" He responds yes, I don't know where I am going in my life. This guy is my neighbor. We've been talking just in passing often. Every once in a while, we chat for a while about "life." I am pretty sure this g...
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Some days it's all too much...and I get overwhelmed...
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and then I feel I cannot cope with any of it even though I am conscious that I am leaning on my HP and letting go, letting God. I have spent the last two weeks taking phone call after phone call and reading text after text and hearing my daughter's sadness; it seems that she will never to happy, never be love...
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the smoking gun
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I never understood how people could go searching for the "smoking gun", and yet there I went on my search and found what I was looking for. I had all the pointers to my qualifier's drinking problems, but it wasn't enough. She ended it over a year aog and I am moving on and working my program. ...
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Change
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I guess I am looking for some hope here, but I just wondered- once again- if anyone ever sees thier A. I know I have asked this question before- forgive me. My As mom and I have been talking that he really seems to think that when he gets out of jail his life and himself are going to be different. But, it's li...
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lightbulb moment
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Once again, I've picked up the book "codependent no more". I'm in the middle of the part "feel your own feelings". As I started reading about "repressing feelings" and what that can do for people I saw a connection between those feelings and my Asober. "we lose...
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I finally did it (long and kinda rant-y, I guess)
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I finally stood up for myself to the A who has been treating me like crap for a few months (after weaseling back into my life even though he humiliated at the beginning of the year). I told him I wouldn't keep coming over when he called after hanging out with other people (lately a girl he swears he's not sle...
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sad news
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Dear MIP Family, A week ago today my hubby passed away. I lost my best friend...my soulmate. My heart is broken. I have been taken it an hour and sometimes a minute at a time. He was the kindest and gentlest man I have ever known. He passed peacefully which was how he lived his life. I find some comfo...
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carosie
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whirlwind!
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This week was a whirlwind and I am left breathless. My VATS surgery of 7/14 has not left me sick. I am doing OK. BUT this week a phone call from the cancer center saying: "We want you to come in on August 6 to discuss chemo."......I was totally undone as I had just prayed so hard never to have to...
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gratefully thankful
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...for all the kind words and suggestions..much appreciated i have little feed back for others at this point...guess i am so wrapped up and emeshed in my own world...i think this is a negative character trait but for now this is all i've got my heart and head seem to be getting more and more on the same pag...
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The Lawn Sale
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I had a lawn sale today. I did it all by myself. I hate selling my stuff, it is just so awkward. I had a hard time hanging up the signs because I feel like someone is going to yell at me. But I did it. And it went well, the neighbors came out and chatted, that was great. I made a bit of money (which I need so badly)....
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Update on move
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Hi All, Well I know in my last post I mentioned I was moving on Friday...well life changes sometimes and I moved Wednesday instead. The two days before I left my A called me everything in his vocabulary to make me feel bad about myself. I did something back that I would never have believed I would......
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Six (or Thirty?) Years Later and I Still...........
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Continue to have the best possible doctors ( more than one! ), counselors on board for my healthcare team. I cannot stress enough how stress has played a role in my life......... from a thyroid imbalance through living with an alcoholic, and hormonal changes (pms to menopause). Stress can...
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Why Does It ALWAYS Have to Begin with ME First??????
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Maria123
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Some advice needed
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Hi everyone. I am new member here and hopefully some of you can hand over some advice. My husband is an alcoholic. He has been sober for little over a year and things have been going great. Lately we have both been going through really tough and stressful times. We just bought a house so we are going throug...
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stinking thinking
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My AH has been attempting recovery for almost a year. We have had many bumps along the way....It was two weeks ago that I reached my bottom....enough is enough. He loving accepted the boundaries I established and vowed that he does not want this in his life and if he continues it will only lead to total...
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I've come a long way
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My first post here was in OCT. 2007 I had just gone to my 1st Al-anon meeting. 9 months later and a whole lot of work has brought me back. The crying, shaking and confusion began to fade as I made it to more meetings. I began making new friends, living a life, and not looking at my AH with hatred and resentm...
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Sober, but will he mature in time?
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Even though my AH has his sobriety, attends two meeting weekly, we are back together in our home, and I experience varying "degrees" of serenity and peace frequently, I sense something emerging in me that seems to be getting stronger ~ it's sort of nagging me. This something are my daily...
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fyi
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I am in the process of going to dang consultain app.s then preops, then surgery stuff for my torn knee and wrist. Then I have to do a sleep study, then start again for the torn ligament.... Have put all this off too long. Medicare does not pay for it all so my internet will probably disappear for awhile. Ot...
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In denial after getting sober?
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My almost 4 months sober A told me today that he doesn't believe he needs AA and rehab and since he's still sober he thinks that he can do it on his own. I believe the program is keeping him from drinking again. He quit for 2 months a year ago and started drinking again. I've read a lot of posts about stark rav...
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it hit the fan
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i had to dial 911 yesterday after my a came over in a rage..starting screaming and yelling then all broke loose with punches kicks spitting smacking and of course verbal abuse..i was the instigator of the physical when i pushed her...then it just steam roled...she began trashing my place..i dialed...
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charlescharles
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Little mouse feels some sadness...
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It helps to come back and read what I and others have previously posted. Perhaps I will get in a better frame of mind by doing so. Today I am "feeling" all this stuff about a disease is just a big fat excuse for people who don't care enough about themselves and those who love them to even try. Toda...
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Uncomfortable
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Sometimes I think I'm more comfortable living in denial. It is easier to live as if something isn't going on. However, events are forcing me to face things and to be honest i don't like it. My son is an A and well it is getting to were we can't just ignore his problem Well I probably could but my spouse an...
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I want to find things in my community to get involved in...
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I'm slowly trying to make some changes in my life, some of which involve detatching from some unhealthy situations for a while. I don't want to have too much free time left on my hands to fill with worry and overthinking. I'd rather spend that time doing something enjoy able for myself. I'm thinking it'...
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Applied for another job
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I put in an application for a job yesterday. Scarey. I was rejected last time. They reopened the position. I think that I am highly qualified. It would be for more money but I would have to move out of my house, etc. I am trying to stay positive and stay in the moment. What happens, happens. Let's see what ha...
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Hi Everyone. I'm New Here...
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Hello Everyone! This is my first time on an Al-anon forum - I haven't been to a meeting yet. But will be in the next few days. This is my first step towards changing my life. A little about me... I'm the girlfriend of an alcoholic (14yr relationship). I'm the daughter of an alcoholic and drug addict Father...
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conflicting emotions
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Here I was plodding along for almost a year in al anon with progress and slips when I feel like I was hit with an emotional storm that I hadn't really experienced. Now I can relate to others some more but yet so much to understand and always more to learn. The positive stress of good things to happen and d...
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Incarceration
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I haven't posted in a while. My A is in jail and has been for 6 months. However, he has the possibility of being released in the next month. While he has been incarcerated his "old" normal personality has reemerged from the fogged state it had become. We have had great funny conversation...
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Hi everyone, new member.
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Hello everyone. I am new member to this board. I didn't realize that there was a forum out there for this but I'm very happy that I found it. Here is my story: I'm 26 years old and I have a father that is an alcoholic. My whole life he has had a problem and as the years go on, the problem gets worse. He's been to re...
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2 parts - Having everything perfect & pms ?
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Good morning, In my al-anon meetings the topic of trying to make everything perfect or being perfect has come up once and while. This has really got me thinking. I know that when my Abf was active, I used to try to make things as perfect as possible, so as too not rock the boat to make his drinking wo...
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Cant handle my father anymore
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I dont even know where to start. My father has gotten to be such a horrible drunk and theres nothing I can do about it. I moved back home to be some what of a support system for my mother. My father yelled at me last night and told me I was going no where in life and that I was going to turn out just like him. I have a...
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Positive mental attitude
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Thanks to everyone who left me lovely replies to my post earlier on in the week, it really helps me to know my feelings of hate and resentment are natural and not to be ashamed of! In the last few days I've kept hold of the mantra one of you suggested to me: the 3 C's - I didn't cause my mother's addiction, I can...
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All alone with nobody to talk to :(
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Sorry in advance if my first post here is too long or confusing but I'm under alot of stress right now. I've been living with my girlfriend and her 3 kids for about 7 months now. I have a son I get on the weekends too. We've been in a relationship about 3 years. Her kids love me like a father and my son loves h...
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A Family Members Passing
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Dear Family, Our Karilynn has lost her hubby.He passed away sober this morning and she has asked for our prayers at this time..
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hard time with trust
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i am having a hard time trusting my a..an incident happened a while back that keeps popping up in my head...when i confronted her she got really upset...tried to flip it back on me and really just made the whole thing worse she has looked me in the eye before and denied and said it didn't happen but it just k...
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Birthing Lizard....(a little non al-anon funny for everyone)
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_______________________________________________________________________BIRTHING LIZARD If you have raised kids (or been one), and gone through the pet syndrome including toil...
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JUST A QUICK QUESTION???
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My son is the alcoholic and he's on his own struggling in life because he made it that way!! He is living with his friend and his friend's mother and he blew all his money! He called my younger son and told him he was hungry and he had no money to buy food. Well, my younger son is very strong when it comes to hi...
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July Business Meeting Minutes
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July Business Meeting Minutes: MIP Business meeting, held July 13, 2008. Chair opened meeting with the Serenity Prayer 1st thing on agenda was the Secretary's report: Secretary was absent from meeting.Minutes from June business meeting were presented by the chair and were accepted as written by...
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I'm Getting My Social Life Back!
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Friday, my daughter asked me to go to the fair with her and my grandbaby, Delilah, almost 8 months old. We three girls went and had a ball! We ate all kinds of junk, let the baby pat the deer, goats, a kangaroo. My daughter had the baby's and her pic made with a real life lemur. It bit my daughter on the fin...
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he says, she says
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pieces of a conversation today he (AH) says, she says What are you thinking about? Lots of things like, I don't think of you as shy do you? What? you said that once I know how to be outgoing but sometimes I don't want to be when I am. I see, that makes sense as you seem outgoing. you are random, deep and not fu...
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can't cope with my mum anymore :'(
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Hi all, I'm 18 and currently living at home with my alcoholic mother and younger brother. My mum's been through the hard work and pain of detox several times, has been admitted to hospital and been told by doctors that she has 2 years to live unless she sticks to being tee-total - which she never does. Thi...
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Still trying to control me....
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Now that I am living separately from my AH and over the grief and the ripping apart from the sickly familiar, I have really grown to enjoy not being in a relationship with an alcoholic and I am still amazed how blind I was to who he is. It's been almost a month and I am proud of myself and there is no feeling of...
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AH just started taking Seroquel
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Hi everyone...just to give you an update on my rollercoaster life with my alcoholic husband... as a last resort, he went on his own to see a new psychiatrist last week. My husband has a 10 year history of substance abuse (cocaine, beer)... In the last year, he has been diagnosed with bipolar and hypoma...
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Offer of a great book...
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Hi everyone... Like many others on here, I am a huge fan of the book series "Getting Them Sober" (particularly volume one), written by Toby Rice Drews. This book is said to be one of THE best resources for those living around active alcoholism. I recently purchased a large quantity of th...
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Changing a Bad Attitude
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My bff came over yesterday & his job is in jeopardy. For the last 3 months there has been this consultant at his work place observing. Now the hammer has come down. BFF got fired from his last job. His friend got him hired at this place. His friend sounds to me like if he's an addict/alcoholic. If he i...
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kitty
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I Moved, Now He Wants to Stop Drinking!
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I got an apartment, after years of living in an abusive A situation with my husband of almost 8 years. We've been together 11, and then some. He's been yelling he wanted a divorce for years. I withdrew $$$ from my 401K to get a new car after I totaled my other one. I got an apartment, I paid to have all my s...
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i completely have given up on AH!
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I think I have taken all I can take. I just honestly do not care anymore. He can drink as much as he wants. I no longer say anything, don't care. He's the one to act like the idiot. He's the one people hate being around. He's the one that looks like a fool. I am tired of covering up for him. I just don't c...
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Law of the Garbage Truck
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Howdy yall, Got this in an email today and thought I would share it with everyone. Law of the Garbage Truck One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his bra...
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Progress...if you don't think that you are making progress, please read my testimony to the truth.
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...this can sometimes appear to be very slow or even miniscule until one is further along the journey. On looking back to last October, when I first came here as Heartbroken and indeed was heartbroken, now I can see my progress. It is the one step at a time attitude that has brought me thus far; this famil...
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just needing to vent
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We just purchased a beach home in Bethany Beach, DE this year. I have really been trying to enjoy my summer there. My husband talked me into this particular house that needs cosmetic work. He has always been very handy around the house. I did not want this house because he has been showing signs of depres...
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Gailey
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Don't Tread On Me!
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In my detachment from my soon-to-be-ex sober AH, I have learned to just stay silent and walk away when he says something unpleasant. I have now decided that this doesn't always work for me, as it makes me feel resentful and inferior, just adds to my list of "things unsaid". I worked my tail of...
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Loupiness
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Today's Spirituality
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The present, the here, the now, that's all the life I get, I live each moment in full, in kindness, in peace, without regret. ~ Chade Meng. Now that's what I am talking about A simple reminder that all I have is now. What am I going to do with the now? So much ESH in this one little sentence makes me gratefu...
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Maria123
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