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John · John

Please add the two additional people below, who have just entered the MIP recovery houses to your holiday card list. The houses are now full so there will be no other new names coming out after this. New Residents; Bobby S. 413 Strada St. Wilmington, NC 28409 and Adam M. 2704 Oleander Dr. Wilmingto...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

Ok, I'm confused. Since we have gone to mediation twice, and since having "a talk", my X is behaving very strangely, as in, he's actually behaving "nicely". I really don't know what to make of it. We had 1 visit with him last week-end that went well. My stepson wasn't there (I have...

maresie · maresie

I seem to be on a new level of grief about the ex A and my relationship with him. The more I look at it the more I see all his crises, health problems ( of course his trumped mine no matter what), work problems, car issues, family issues were power and control mechanisms. There is no question he always had t...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I started 2 post over the past week. I got a lot of support, understanding, and hopefully, it helped some. Considering my situation (divorce is pending) I feel as though that I'm doing okay. That is, my foundation is pretty solid, even though my life situation is pretty bleak at the moment. But I sti...

fishinmama · fishinmama

ok I know my focus should be elsewhere, but I have just been reading past posts and notice how many a's hook up with another woman/man right after separating from the somene they have been in a relationship with. How can they move on so quickly. Is it because they follow the path of least resistance? W...

lacewing · lacewing

Hello all, I am asking my fellow Al-Anoners to please consider offering up some much needed prayers for another al-anoner, who is having quadruple bypass tomorrow afternoon. He and I have been conversing by way of Yahoo Messenger for the past 4 days. I am doing my best to keep him occupied as well as k...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying very hard to hang in there! It has been a rough road but I am still here. I have struggled with my sanity for almost 24 years & that happens to be how long since I went to my first meeting--one month to go. For all of you who haven't been with us long: there is hope! If I can make it this long &...

Misshopeful · Misshopeful

Hi! I have a question...although I realize it may be different from person to person I can't help wondering: what has worked best for most people with A spouses, is it better to be supportive and kind toward them, or is it better to "detach" yourself and express the pain and anger we feel? I'm...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((My Dear Friends)), Thank you for all the wonderful responses to my post....it helped me so very much.....I found the strength to pick myself up and get those decorations up....and It made me feel much better.......and my g=daughter can look out the window and see Santa now..lol.... For...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

As some of you here and others have reminded me "Why are you taking on this search and not him". I knew full well I needed to keep backing off and let him be responsible for what comes next. You know when that mom thing kicks in your heart takes over your brain. LOL So I backed off and lo and beh...

Debilyn · Debilyn

It is my esh that we don't. What I have felt and see on our mip board is, we come to a place where we are comfortable with having love for that sick person and knowing it is the disease we hate and blame all the hurt on. This does not mean we will keep that "in love" type feeling. For me it was I was han...

Leelee · Leelee

Hi there everyone. I am new to this outlet - have participated in Alanon in the past but stopped going when I thought my hubby stopped drinking "too much" - isn't that a hoot? I have been wondering why in the world I would want to stay with my husband. I am going to seek spiritual direction fr...

angel66 · angel66

Hi Everyone, I'm back after being off of the board for about a year. I guess things calmed down w/ my AH but recently my life has been pure CHAOS ! Today I'm taking my 13 yr old daughter to see a psychologist b/c she is so stressed due to his increased drinking and the family dynamics. I feel sick that I hav...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey All... As most of you know, the month of Nov is a tough one for me, My AFather died that month, has a birthday that month, and pasted on Thanksgiving..So Yeah.. Rough Month, and THIS Year was the first whole year since he pasted...1st birthday in Heaven... However... i think Oct. was harder, only be...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

AFiance called me while I was at work and he was walking 2.5 mi to the emergency room to check himself into the psych ward. We talked when he got there just to check in. I called the hospital last night to make sure he was there and was safe. I'm just full of sadness. I love him so much and I just keep hoping t...

Dale · Dale

Hey all, kim is out of surgery, I haven't spoken to her yet but she is doing ok, more to follow Dale

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

AFiance had court today and didn't want me to go with him because he was ashamed. Last night was terrible! He was panicking and rambling and seemed like he was still drunk from the day before. Who knows? I woke up at 3 AM and he wasn't in bed. I called him (lazy me) and he was sleeping on the couch. I get...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((hello friends)))))))), I don't know when it gets easier, the holidays are an espically hard time for me...I haven't decorated the outside of my home since husband died....yesterday i decided it was time to move forward.....i do have a 17 month old g-daughter and I Know she would enjoy the de...

fishinmama · fishinmama

As I mentioned before, I was an alanon member in the past. I guess I thought I was cured and walked away from alanon and hooked up with a man who is an alcoholic. I am attracted to them like a magnet. Things had it's usual meltdown and now we are done. I hurt and know that alanon is there for the taking but I...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I find myself today in a place that I can not seem to get myself out of, and Im not sure why. I am schedule for surgery on December the 18th and it has me feeling completely off in every direction. Now I have had 3 prior surgeries on different things and have always made it out ok. Other than the last time, t...

Rora · Rora

I've been lurking a lot lately. Not posting much. I've felt I've needed to take a back seat and try to listen and learn. My life is changing. After 13 months of physical separation I've come to understand that my marriage to my ex-aH is over. There are many reasons why, that would be too lengthy and to...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm going to be brief... Well I'm going to try.... :) Had another altercation with oldest daughter yesterday morning and police were called. I am going to work to get her into a group home or wilderness camp before it's too late (sorry Debilyn). I am at the end of the line with her and all the counseling...

cassidy2010 · cassidy2010

Well we made it through Thanksgiving without any problems.My A was really easy to get along with this year.I could almost faint. He still drinking but slowed down some and I noticed a change .I guess I'm always in fear of the calm before the storm.Kinda like ,okay this is going great but for how long ? I...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Did I miss an update or anything??? thank you. love,debilyn

edmond · edmond

http://reverbnation.com/tunepak/2042171

fishinmama · fishinmama

well I got to the box at the bottom of the closet only to find that they were not my alanon books but aa books of my sons. I decided to go ahead and read step one from the aa 12 X 12. Not much difference from alanon. Then I got out a piece of paper and wrote down the actions I had taken in the last few months to co...

Peace101 · Peace101

Hi Folks, I have been lurking on this website off and on for a couple of years and finally decided I better start posting! First, I would like to thank everyone both past and present who post and share and just have helped me relate to what I have been going thru. It was here that I learned how to detach fr...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

Many of you know me by my story in the Forum. Well the son in program went back out and is now in Detox at the Veteran's Hospital. They recommended Celebrate Recovery for him but I contacted them and they want $40,000 for 90 days. Can someone tell me what drug addict or alcoholic has that kind of money? T...

John · John

Hello and Happy Holiday Season, Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

We have these friends who are married, I'll call them J and K. My husband and J have known each other since they were kids. When J and K got married, K and I became instant friends. J and K live in another state and are coming to visit next weekend. There will be an art fetival in town while they're here an...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

I believe that I have destroyed my life as I know it. My boyfriend is a wonderful man. We have been living together for 2 years now. I know that I cannot control the alcoholic but still feel very responsible for the events of yesterday. I travel frequently for work so I he tends to drink when I am travel...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

Hi all, This is my first post on this board, though I frequent the chat room often. I've come to ask for your advice about my XH who happens to be a very clever, verbally/emotionally abusive, chronic liar, excon, highly functioning alcoholic. He has changed his life around since I met him (he was drinki...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Okay so things have been going good for the most part. Im doing GREAT in school, work is going good, bills are getting paid on time..im having money leftover to shop for ME!! I got sick and tired of the lies, manipulation, blaming me, him playing the victim. It seems only to get worse. I set a schedule for h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am making progress in my getting to stop hoarding & getting more organized! I spent a lot of my weekend going through & sorting stuff. I still haven't really gotten rid of anything except I threw away some things. I have so many things that are fairly new--like clothes for instance that I am...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I was absolutely dreading the Thanksgiving holiday for fear of spending it with the Dysfunctional's. I prayed for days before for strength, talked to my sponsor, spoke to several people in my f2f and prayed some more. I was determined that for my mother's sake, I would not participate in anything b...

Tracy · Tracy

I decided that I need to stop contact with my ABF. It hurts to much when we chat and I am left feeling variuos emotions, hurt, pain , frusration. I sent him a txt saying I carnt do this anymore. He had put his dole money into one of my bank accounts told him my bro would drop it off. He has rang about 5 times t...

maresie · maresie

The good news is that I have found another counselor to help me through the holidays. I had to be very assertive to make that transition but I am looking forward to the chance to work on some of my "holiday issues". One of my aims this year is just to have a calm, uneventful, peaceful event. I...

jewelsmama · jewelsmama

Hello, I am new to this board and just have a quesiton to ask. My husband is a recovering A and active drug addict. He switched from alcohol about 5 years ago to prescrition pain killers. I have been told my his current therapist that I need to find some Al-anon meetings. However, is this something I c...

kerry5 · kerry5

There are quite a few guests who have been idle for over an hour. Can an op enter the room please. There is a meeting now. Thank you Kerry

jitsuka · jitsuka

http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30711757

Diva · Diva

As Thanksgiving approaches, my thankfulness is renewed, and I review the long list of reasons why I give thanks. At the top of that list are: My daughter who is beautiful in every sense of the word.My son-in-law who loves her unconditionally.My two sons who are loving, respectful, successful, and b...

Galactica · Galactica

Hello Everyone. This is my first post here. I found this board while looking around the net for Al Anon meetings in my area. I figured this would be a good place to start before I start going. I warn you...this is a very long post and I am sorry. I'm 24 years old, and my Father has been an A for as long as I can r...

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been a while since my last post - yikes a month already! - but I have been reading and responding as I can every day. This is going to be a long one - so be forewarned! It's been a month filled with grief. Thank goodness for this program. I don't believe I would have been able to cope nearly as well as I h...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish my Alanon family, a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. I am so grateful for all you have done for me. The strength you have given me in my darkest hours, the laughter, the gift of your wisdom is priceless. I can't imagine my life without you and this program. I...

Dale · Dale

Hello all..... Just a quick note to let all my friends know my a is impersonating me in the room, so I registered my nick.....Hope she didn't cause any problems. I dont get it, why she cant let go, but she is still up to no good

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband has been court-ordered to not drink and has to go in for random monitoring. Of course it's not all that random. He has to call in the morning and if his assigned color is called, he goes in for testing, if not, he's clear for the day. Usually on his way home from testing, he will pick up some bee...

Tracy · Tracy

Focusing on myself, relying on myself is something I have always found hard. I am a very relaible person and believe that I have made good choices in most areas of my life except relationships. I have learnt on my journey with Al non that I choose people who need me I like to feel needed then I try and hel...

maresie · maresie

Last thanksgiving I spent weeks preparing to cook a meal for people who could have cared less. Of course they expected it since I have always worn my heart on my sleeve. None of them thanked me, praised any specific part of the meal or even took into account what effort it was. This year I have been freed...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just feeling wretched. I have had a long, stressful day at work. I have been in a meeting with managers who need to save money and "lose" some staff (I am a Workplace Trade Union Rep which means I do a full time job as well as all the Union work) The meeting was all doom and gloom - no money - need to s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding that more & more I have symptoms of hoarding! I think I mentioned this before a while back. I was going through my disorganized back room this morning looking for my address book & finally found it. But..in the meantime I made matters a lot worse by going through almost everythi...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I'm so tired of being sad, I try with all my might to let go and let God...but it's soooo hard. I've been with my AH for 20 years!!! and I can't just let it go...I just can't. I want to stop focusing on him and move forward, but its so hard for me..... He left me during a drinking binge in August and moved in wit...

Jerry F · Jerry F

LOL...of course once I started practicing the principles of the program the number of affairs I was envolved in dropped to zero. I kept the one I started with HP and the one I started with myself. So what the heck has Mr. Crazy been up to for a week or so? I really missed you brothers and sisters!!!! ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Was looking at a Christmas catalogue today and saw that quote "Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me" It really stuck with me throughout the day. I realized after the AlAnon convention that my life and my recovery was not what I had thought it was. I had thought that my "qualifer" for...

maresie · maresie

I do indeed have serious issues with the holidays in general. I had a counselor for a while this year who was pushing my boundaries. Out of the blue she said she was leaving to go to a new assignment just before the holidays. My best laid plans being scattered. I really tried to get another one to get me...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

Hello, all, I'm new here but not new to Al Anon. Have read lots of your posts, and my story is just like everyone else's in so many ways. 17 years married to AH, second marriage for me, third for him. He has two adult children, I have none. We're older -- in our early 60's now, and I am financially depende...

sdisnie · sdisnie

I really need to try to detach from my 'estranged' AH....I have to for my sanity and to give myself 100% to my kids. I'm tired of every inch of my mind being consumed with the AH. I need my power back, but I don't know how to get it back. I know people who have been divorced from a relationship for years, and...

sdisnie · sdisnie

Today I dont feel like I'm going to make it through the holidays..... Last night I started to get really depressed, thinking about how I never would have thought last Thanksgiving/Christmas that this year my AH would be living with another woman and her kids..... Today the kids have all the Christmas...

xeno59 · xeno59

Thanks to all who responded and/or prayed for my son in my previous post !!!! I took one suggestion and contacted the Salvation Army Rehab Program. Gave them a quick history of my son's addiction and legal troubles. And they are willing to consider him for treatment. Got the application this week and s...

smokey28 · smokey28

Hi everyone, I knew to this board and the program. I am hoping someone can give me some guidance. My brother has been struggling with addiction for about 3 yrs now. Last year after losing his job and being in deeply in debt he agreed to go into rehab again (2nd time that my parents paid for). He went to a grea...

LearningTheRopes · LearningTheRopes

Hello and thanks for reading my post. By way of introduction, I wanted to say that my situation is probably not unique, but isn't that common. My loved one is someone who is an odd mix of family, friend and lover. We met three years ago and became friends while I had a romantic partner. We became involved r...

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	Final Holiday Card Request (New Info) (Preview) Please add the two additional people below, who have just entered the MIP recovery houses to your holiday card list. The houses are now full so there will be no other new names coming out after this. New Residents; Bobby S. 413 Strada St. Wilmington, NC 28409 and Adam M. 2704 Oleander Dr. Wilmingto...	John	0	570	Dec 5, 2009 by John
	Why is he behaving so well??! (Preview) Ok, I'm confused. Since we have gone to mediation twice, and since having "a talk", my X is behaving very strangely, as in, he's actually behaving "nicely". I really don't know what to make of it. We had 1 visit with him last week-end that went well. My stepson wasn't there (I have...	Nodaybut2day	4	910	Dec 5, 2009 by glad
	Power and control (Preview) I seem to be on a new level of grief about the ex A and my relationship with him. The more I look at it the more I see all his crises, health problems ( of course his trumped mine no matter what), work problems, car issues, family issues were power and control mechanisms. There is no question he always had t...	maresie	4	748	Dec 5, 2009 by nmike
	Dashboard evoked a temporary meltdown (Preview) I started 2 post over the past week. I got a lot of support, understanding, and hopefully, it helped some. Considering my situation (divorce is pending) I feel as though that I'm doing okay. That is, my foundation is pretty solid, even though my life situation is pretty bleak at the moment. But I sti...	GailMichelle	5	1154	Dec 4, 2009 by GailMichelle
	I wonder why? (Preview) ok I know my focus should be elsewhere, but I have just been reading past posts and notice how many a's hook up with another woman/man right after separating from the somene they have been in a relationship with. How can they move on so quickly. Is it because they follow the path of least resistance? W...	fishinmama	6	769	Dec 4, 2009 by belle1
	Prayer Chain Request, Please - Power in Prayer (Preview) Hello all, I am asking my fellow Al-Anoners to please consider offering up some much needed prayers for another al-anoner, who is having quadruple bypass tomorrow afternoon. He and I have been conversing by way of Yahoo Messenger for the past 4 days. I am doing my best to keep him occupied as well as k...	lacewing	11	1055	Dec 4, 2009 by belle1
	Hangin' in there! (Preview) I am trying very hard to hang in there! It has been a rough road but I am still here. I have struggled with my sanity for almost 24 years & that happens to be how long since I went to my first meeting--one month to go. For all of you who haven't been with us long: there is hope! If I can make it this long &...	Hoot Nanny	2	796	Dec 4, 2009 by Jerry F
	A different approach? (Preview) Hi! I have a question...although I realize it may be different from person to person I can't help wondering: what has worked best for most people with A spouses, is it better to be supportive and kind toward them, or is it better to "detach" yourself and express the pain and anger we feel? I'm...	Misshopeful	2	556	Dec 4, 2009 by canadianguy
	Thanks for the help!!!! (Preview) (((((((((((My Dear Friends)), Thank you for all the wonderful responses to my post....it helped me so very much.....I found the strength to pick myself up and get those decorations up....and It made me feel much better.......and my g=daughter can look out the window and see Santa now..lol.... For...	Andrea12	3	420	Dec 4, 2009 by blender_girl
	How do I find an affordable rehab? UPDATE (Preview) As some of you here and others have reminded me "Why are you taking on this search and not him". I knew full well I needed to keep backing off and let him be responsible for what comes next. You know when that mom thing kicks in your heart takes over your brain. LOL So I backed off and lo and beh...	Mobirdie	3	630	Dec 4, 2009 by maresie
	When do you stop loving them (Preview) It is my esh that we don't. What I have felt and see on our mip board is, we come to a place where we are comfortable with having love for that sick person and knowing it is the disease we hate and blame all the hurt on. This does not mean we will keep that "in love" type feeling. For me it was I was han...	Debilyn	6	889	Dec 4, 2009 by maresie
	Why do so many spouses stay with their alcoholics? (Preview) Hi there everyone. I am new to this outlet - have participated in Alanon in the past but stopped going when I thought my hubby stopped drinking "too much" - isn't that a hoot? I have been wondering why in the world I would want to stay with my husband. I am going to seek spiritual direction fr...	Leelee	6	2956	Dec 4, 2009 by glad
	I'm back (Preview) Hi Everyone, I'm back after being off of the board for about a year. I guess things calmed down w/ my AH but recently my life has been pure CHAOS ! Today I'm taking my 13 yr old daughter to see a psychologist b/c she is so stressed due to his increased drinking and the family dynamics. I feel sick that I hav...	angel66	4	748	Dec 4, 2009 by Debilyn
	My 1st Year .... (Preview) Hey All... As most of you know, the month of Nov is a tough one for me, My AFather died that month, has a birthday that month, and pasted on Thanksgiving..So Yeah.. Rough Month, and THIS Year was the first whole year since he pasted...1st birthday in Heaven... However... i think Oct. was harder, only be...	Jozie	2	719	Dec 3, 2009 by hotrod
	Update from Yesterday (Preview) AFiance called me while I was at work and he was walking 2.5 mi to the emergency room to check himself into the psych ward. We talked when he got there just to check in. I called the hospital last night to make sure he was there and was safe. I'm just full of sadness. I love him so much and I just keep hoping t...	Ragdolls	4	836	Dec 3, 2009 by maresie
	Shadow is out of surgery (Preview) Hey all, kim is out of surgery, I haven't spoken to her yet but she is doing ok, more to follow Dale	Dale	8	933	Dec 3, 2009 by Dale
	I feel like I need to do something but don't know (Preview) AFiance had court today and didn't want me to go with him because he was ashamed. Last night was terrible! He was panicking and rambling and seemed like he was still drunk from the day before. Who knows? I woke up at 3 AM and he wasn't in bed. I called him (lazy me) and he was sleeping on the couch. I get...	Ragdolls	12	1094	Dec 3, 2009 by maresie
	When does it get easier?????? (Preview) ((((((((hello friends)))))))), I don't know when it gets easier, the holidays are an espically hard time for me...I haven't decorated the outside of my home since husband died....yesterday i decided it was time to move forward.....i do have a 17 month old g-daughter and I Know she would enjoy the de...	Andrea12	10	1075	Dec 3, 2009 by maresie
	have you experienced? (Preview) As I mentioned before, I was an alanon member in the past. I guess I thought I was cured and walked away from alanon and hooked up with a man who is an alcoholic. I am attracted to them like a magnet. Things had it's usual meltdown and now we are done. I hurt and know that alanon is there for the taking but I...	fishinmama	5	927	Dec 3, 2009 by diamond
	Intuition, instinct, or just anxiety? In desperate need of some ESH... (Preview) I find myself today in a place that I can not seem to get myself out of, and Im not sure why. I am schedule for surgery on December the 18th and it has me feeling completely off in every direction. Now I have had 3 prior surgeries on different things and have always made it out ok. Other than the last time, t...	shellyj123	5	1387	Dec 3, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	It's a family DIS-EASE (Preview) I've been lurking a lot lately. Not posting much. I've felt I've needed to take a back seat and try to listen and learn. My life is changing. After 13 months of physical separation I've come to understand that my marriage to my ex-aH is over. There are many reasons why, that would be too lengthy and to...	Rora	7	912	Dec 2, 2009 by Debilyn
	Update on me (Preview) I'm going to be brief... Well I'm going to try.... :) Had another altercation with oldest daughter yesterday morning and police were called. I am going to work to get her into a group home or wilderness camp before it's too late (sorry Debilyn). I am at the end of the line with her and all the counseling...	carolinagirl	4	734	Dec 2, 2009 by maresie
	Calm before the storm ??? (Preview) Well we made it through Thanksgiving without any problems.My A was really easy to get along with this year.I could almost faint. He still drinking but slowed down some and I noticed a change .I guess I'm always in fear of the calm before the storm.Kinda like ,okay this is going great but for how long ? I...	cassidy2010	4	813	Dec 2, 2009 by cassidy2010
	Our Shadow? (Preview) Did I miss an update or anything??? thank you. love,debilyn	Debilyn	5	811	Dec 2, 2009 by Dale
	"One day at a Time" A gift of inspiration and hope to all in recovery (Preview) http://reverbnation.com/tunepak/2042171	edmond	1	487	Dec 1, 2009 by Christy
	a new look at powerlessness (Preview) well I got to the box at the bottom of the closet only to find that they were not my alanon books but aa books of my sons. I decided to go ahead and read step one from the aa 12 X 12. Not much difference from alanon. Then I got out a piece of paper and wrote down the actions I had taken in the last few months to co...	fishinmama	1	740	Dec 1, 2009 by Jerry F
	Child of an Alcoholic (Preview) Hi Folks, I have been lurking on this website off and on for a couple of years and finally decided I better start posting! First, I would like to thank everyone both past and present who post and share and just have helped me relate to what I have been going thru. It was here that I learned how to detach fr...	Peace101	3	876	Dec 1, 2009 by glad
	How do I find an affordable rehab? (Preview) Many of you know me by my story in the Forum. Well the son in program went back out and is now in Detox at the Veteran's Hospital. They recommended Celebrate Recovery for him but I contacted them and they want $40,000 for 90 days. Can someone tell me what drug addict or alcoholic has that kind of money? T...	Mobirdie	6	1398	Dec 1, 2009 by John
	Holiday Card Request (Preview) Hello and Happy Holiday Season, Every December I ask everyone who is listed on the Miracles In Progress message boards to help me bring a awesomely memoriable Holiday to the many newcomers in the Miracles In Progress Recovery Houses by simply sending each house member a Holiday Card, and signing it w...	John	4	768	Dec 1, 2009 by hotrod
	What would you do? (Preview) We have these friends who are married, I'll call them J and K. My husband and J have known each other since they were kids. When J and K got married, K and I became instant friends. J and K live in another state and are coming to visit next weekend. There will be an art fetival in town while they're here an...	N8SMOM	11	624	Dec 1, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Insanity (Preview) I believe that I have destroyed my life as I know it. My boyfriend is a wonderful man. We have been living together for 2 years now. I know that I cannot control the alcoholic but still feel very responsible for the events of yesterday. I travel frequently for work so I he tends to drink when I am travel...	Sheila46	6	1048	Dec 1, 2009 by Diva
	Custody battle with a very smart highly functioning A (Preview) Hi all, This is my first post on this board, though I frequent the chat room often. I've come to ask for your advice about my XH who happens to be a very clever, verbally/emotionally abusive, chronic liar, excon, highly functioning alcoholic. He has changed his life around since I met him (he was drinki...	Nodaybut2day	12	1513	Dec 1, 2009 by Nodaybut2day
	I need some esh!! (Preview) Okay so things have been going good for the most part. Im doing GREAT in school, work is going good, bills are getting paid on time..im having money leftover to shop for ME!! I got sick and tired of the lies, manipulation, blaming me, him playing the victim. It seems only to get worse. I set a schedule for h...	Melissa21	5	846	Dec 1, 2009 by serendipity
	progress not perfection (Preview) I am making progress in my getting to stop hoarding & getting more organized! I spent a lot of my weekend going through & sorting stuff. I still haven't really gotten rid of anything except I threw away some things. I have so many things that are fairly new--like clothes for instance that I am...	Hoot Nanny	2	788	Nov 30, 2009 by Christy
	A Blessing Filled Weekend, full of love, letting go and blessings from HP:) (Preview) I was absolutely dreading the Thanksgiving holiday for fear of spending it with the Dysfunctional's. I prayed for days before for strength, talked to my sponsor, spoke to several people in my f2f and prayed some more. I was determined that for my mother's sake, I would not participate in anything b...	shellyj123	2	929	Nov 30, 2009 by Jen
	Trying (Preview) I decided that I need to stop contact with my ABF. It hurts to much when we chat and I am left feeling variuos emotions, hurt, pain , frusration. I sent him a txt saying I carnt do this anymore. He had put his dole money into one of my bank accounts told him my bro would drop it off. He has rang about 5 times t...	Tracy	2	617	Nov 30, 2009 by Jen
	Christmas (Preview) The good news is that I have found another counselor to help me through the holidays. I had to be very assertive to make that transition but I am looking forward to the chance to work on some of my "holiday issues". One of my aims this year is just to have a calm, uneventful, peaceful event. I...	maresie	3	1439	Nov 30, 2009 by Overcome
	New here and have a question (Preview) Hello, I am new to this board and just have a quesiton to ask. My husband is a recovering A and active drug addict. He switched from alcohol about 5 years ago to prescrition pain killers. I have been told my his current therapist that I need to find some Al-anon meetings. However, is this something I c...	jewelsmama	6	1305	Nov 29, 2009 by Jen
	Need an op in chat please (Preview) There are quite a few guests who have been idle for over an hour. Can an op enter the room please. There is a meeting now. Thank you Kerry	kerry5	0	498	Nov 29, 2009 by kerry5
	Hi there. Newbie, but an update. Had massive fallout last night (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=30711757	jitsuka	25	1299	Nov 29, 2009 by jitsuka
	What are we thankful for? (Preview) As Thanksgiving approaches, my thankfulness is renewed, and I review the long list of reasons why I give thanks. At the top of that list are: My daughter who is beautiful in every sense of the word.My son-in-law who loves her unconditionally.My two sons who are loving, respectful, successful, and b...	Diva	9	998	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	In Need of Strength (Preview) Hello Everyone. This is my first post here. I found this board while looking around the net for Al Anon meetings in my area. I figured this would be a good place to start before I start going. I warn you...this is a very long post and I am sorry. I'm 24 years old, and my Father has been an A for as long as I can r...	Galactica	3	690	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	Feeling a little foolish and crazy (Preview) It's been a while since my last post - yikes a month already! - but I have been reading and responding as I can every day. This is going to be a long one - so be forewarned! It's been a month filled with grief. Thank goodness for this program. I don't believe I would have been able to cope nearly as well as I h...	blender_girl	6	849	Nov 29, 2009 by Rocky38
	Happy Thanksgiving! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish my Alanon family, a VERY HAPPY THANKSGIVING. I am so grateful for all you have done for me. The strength you have given me in my darkest hours, the laughter, the gift of your wisdom is priceless. I can't imagine my life without you and this program. I...	Karilynn	3	585	Nov 29, 2009 by maresie
	My a is up to no good (Preview) Hello all..... Just a quick note to let all my friends know my a is impersonating me in the room, so I registered my nick.....Hope she didn't cause any problems. I dont get it, why she cant let go, but she is still up to no good	Dale	1	513	Nov 29, 2009 by shadow1
	Is it Our Responsibility? (Preview) My husband has been court-ordered to not drink and has to go in for random monitoring. Of course it's not all that random. He has to call in the morning and if his assigned color is called, he goes in for testing, if not, he's clear for the day. Usually on his way home from testing, he will pick up some bee...	N8SMOM	10	907	Nov 29, 2009 by Diva
	Focus on myself (Preview) Focusing on myself, relying on myself is something I have always found hard. I am a very relaible person and believe that I have made good choices in most areas of my life except relationships. I have learnt on my journey with Al non that I choose people who need me I like to feel needed then I try and hel...	Tracy	2	902	Nov 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	Freedom (Preview) Last thanksgiving I spent weeks preparing to cook a meal for people who could have cared less. Of course they expected it since I have always worn my heart on my sleeve. None of them thanked me, praised any specific part of the meal or even took into account what effort it was. This year I have been freed...	maresie	3	628	Nov 28, 2009 by Loupiness
	Just need to vent (Preview) Just feeling wretched. I have had a long, stressful day at work. I have been in a meeting with managers who need to save money and "lose" some staff (I am a Workplace Trade Union Rep which means I do a full time job as well as all the Union work) The meeting was all doom and gloom - no money - need to s...	Tattyhead	5	1007	Nov 28, 2009 by Tattyhead
	HOARDING! (Preview) I am finding that more & more I have symptoms of hoarding! I think I mentioned this before a while back. I was going through my disorganized back room this morning looking for my address book & finally found it. But..in the meantime I made matters a lot worse by going through almost everythi...	Hoot Nanny	2	1739	Nov 28, 2009 by Mattie
	Tired of the rollercoaster of emotions (Preview) I'm so tired of being sad, I try with all my might to let go and let God...but it's soooo hard. I've been with my AH for 20 years!!! and I can't just let it go...I just can't. I want to stop focusing on him and move forward, but its so hard for me..... He left me during a drinking binge in August and moved in wit...	sdisnie	7	966	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Practice these principles in all my affairs... (Preview) LOL...of course once I started practicing the principles of the program the number of affairs I was envolved in dropped to zero. I kept the one I started with HP and the one I started with myself. So what the heck has Mr. Crazy been up to for a week or so? I really missed you brothers and sisters!!!! ...	Jerry F	11	997	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me..............My story........ (Preview) Was looking at a Christmas catalogue today and saw that quote "Lead me, Guide me, Walk beside me" It really stuck with me throughout the day. I realized after the AlAnon convention that my life and my recovery was not what I had thought it was. I had thought that my "qualifer" for...	shellyj123	5	1445	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Holiday issues (Preview) I do indeed have serious issues with the holidays in general. I had a counselor for a while this year who was pushing my boundaries. Out of the blue she said she was leaving to go to a new assignment just before the holidays. My best laid plans being scattered. I really tried to get another one to get me...	maresie	5	779	Nov 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	Help in Choosing a Counselor (Preview) Hello, all, I'm new here but not new to Al Anon. Have read lots of your posts, and my story is just like everyone else's in so many ways. 17 years married to AH, second marriage for me, third for him. He has two adult children, I have none. We're older -- in our early 60's now, and I am financially depende...	essgee1952	10	1051	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Need to detach (Preview) I really need to try to detach from my 'estranged' AH....I have to for my sanity and to give myself 100% to my kids. I'm tired of every inch of my mind being consumed with the AH. I need my power back, but I don't know how to get it back. I know people who have been divorced from a relationship for years, and...	sdisnie	5	1289	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Bad thoughts.... (Preview) Today I dont feel like I'm going to make it through the holidays..... Last night I started to get really depressed, thinking about how I never would have thought last Thanksgiving/Christmas that this year my AH would be living with another woman and her kids..... Today the kids have all the Christmas...	sdisnie	12	1312	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	Thanks for your prayers and suggestions Keep praying please (Preview) Thanks to all who responded and/or prayed for my son in my previous post !!!! I took one suggestion and contacted the Salvation Army Rehab Program. Gave them a quick history of my son's addiction and legal troubles. And they are willing to consider him for treatment. Got the application this week and s...	xeno59	10	816	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	guidance (Preview) Hi everyone, I knew to this board and the program. I am hoping someone can give me some guidance. My brother has been struggling with addiction for about 3 yrs now. Last year after losing his job and being in deeply in debt he agreed to go into rehab again (2nd time that my parents paid for). He went to a grea...	smokey28	4	742	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
	By way of introduction... (Preview) Hello and thanks for reading my post. By way of introduction, I wanted to say that my situation is probably not unique, but isn't that common. My loved one is someone who is an odd mix of family, friend and lover. We met three years ago and became friends while I had a romantic partner. We became involved r...	LearningTheRopes	12	979	Nov 28, 2009 by maresie
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