Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Mercy · Mercy

Ok.. so I have been married to me AH for 13 years. We were high school sweethearts and have been together for 17 years all together. He has always drank. We drank together. Things got different when we had our daughter. I had severe post pardum depression and ended up in the hospital. Before she arrived h...

lyndebi · lyndebi

I think I forgot to share, after being here since was it 2000? The judge signed the papers on June 11,2010. When I took the papers in, I overheard someone telling another,"no you cannot file them with highlighted areas." oh noooooo! You bet I highlighted, poor dipstick, I say that in humor...

katfshh · katfshh

I posted about 6 weeks ago about my fiance's relapse. After three days of drinking he got in a fight with his roommate and was thrown in jail. He still has a court hearing about that July 16. He was so humbled by that, and so upset, begging everyone for forgiveness. I spent 5 days with him (he lives about 26...

maresie · maresie

My last long relationship with the ex a for 7 years is what brought me here. I first went to al anon more than 20 years ago and did not think I qualified. I was not ready then. I can see why. Doing this work is one of the most painful things I have ever approached. I am not talking about the damage, the chao...

fadedvintage · fadedvintage

Hi I'm new here and I really need some help and support. I see a counselor every week about dealing with my father's alcoholism and he thinks that I should go to an al-anon meeting in my area and I have never been. I really don't know what they are about or what it is like. My counselor also wants me to talk to m...

Ness · Ness

Well our home has remained calm, my son has stuck to the boundaries, and doctors orders re his alcohol intake....thats a first. Tomorrow his father is driving him the 100 miles to the detox unit. He wanted to get the bus but his consultant advised against it as he is to have minimal alcohol in the mornin...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I'm considering trying meetings. So I went to the website for my area and found many. However, I am hoping someone can clarify a few things for me. What exactly is a 'newcomers' meeting? Do only newcomers attend? How do they work. It seems that it would be an uptight meeting if only newbies attend....

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My AH recently weaned himself off clonazepam. He was prescribed this ten years ago and it was upped to 4 mg/day. We are finding out that this drug has a lot of negatives for those who are on it long term. I would like to hear from anyone who has experience in this area. Since weaning himself there have been p...

smartkat · smartkat

My SIL does not get along with my mother and I.Three weeks ago, my SIL behaved especially badly towards my mom so badly that the cops were called. So she now my SIL is mad at my mom for causing all these problems for her. NOW my nieces birthday is coming up. My brother wants to have two separate birthday...

TinaMJ · TinaMJ

My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 10 months... He used to drink A LOT and our relationship ended 2 times because of it. I got pregnant 4 months before we got married and I told him 20 days before the wedding that I would call it off if he didn't stop drinking. To my complete supri...

glad · glad

I have had a huge pitty party weekend which included trying to talk to my A about my "feelings". Didn't go well. He always implys I'm emotionally needy and I always end acting as if that is exactly what I am. Doctor wants to take out my "girl parts" and I feel way to young for all that....

Katy · Katy

This swan and it' s mate came to see us when we were fishing and wanted something to eat, we gave it bread, and it gave us this gorguss site, a baby signet on it's back. Katy P.s I hope it has worked I have never done an avatar before, but I have seen the film!

ditto · ditto

Saw a bumper sticker today that resonated. It said: "Encourage your hopes, not your fears" I've found that works.

Katy · Katy

I will try to explain how this is happening for me, I wear my heart on my sleave and usually by default thats how I respond to everything, a very strange thing happens though with my alchoholic husband, when we discuss the problems we face I feel chewed up inside, my gutt feeling is in turmoil, and I have al...

okwitt · okwitt

I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...

coffeegrounds · coffeegrounds

Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...

punkydoodah · punkydoodah

...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.

Simba · Simba

I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?

RLC · RLC

Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...

angelchar375 · angelchar375

I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...

Simba · Simba

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...

Jozie · Jozie

Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...

Katy · Katy

Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...

never going back · never going back

After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...

Simba · Simba

Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.

Bettina · Bettina

Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...

miss_carol · miss_carol

We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...

abbyal · abbyal

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xter · xter

i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...

never going back · never going back

My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober *special AH*........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...

miss_carol · miss_carol

I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...

never going back · never going back

Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...

RJMorgan · RJMorgan

I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...

jewel91 · jewel91

I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.

belle1 · belle1

wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx

Daisychain · Daisychain

I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...

moonunit · moonunit

This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...

Mynameismom · Mynameismom

I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...

kitty · kitty

So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...

maresie · maresie

This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...

smartkat · smartkat

I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...

never going back · never going back

It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...

CatherineR · CatherineR

I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...

malady · malady

What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...

shimo · shimo

I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

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	New and confused (Preview) Ok.. so I have been married to me AH for 13 years. We were high school sweethearts and have been together for 17 years all together. He has always drank. We drank together. Things got different when we had our daughter. I had severe post pardum depression and ended up in the hospital. Before she arrived h...	Mercy	7	957	Jun 28, 2010 by wildthang86
	That't that. (Preview) I think I forgot to share, after being here since was it 2000? The judge signed the papers on June 11,2010. When I took the papers in, I overheard someone telling another,"no you cannot file them with highlighted areas." oh noooooo! You bet I highlighted, poor dipstick, I say that in humor...	lyndebi	7	940	Jun 28, 2010 by maresie
	Another Relapse.. (Preview) I posted about 6 weeks ago about my fiance's relapse. After three days of drinking he got in a fight with his roommate and was thrown in jail. He still has a court hearing about that July 16. He was so humbled by that, and so upset, begging everyone for forgiveness. I spent 5 days with him (he lives about 26...	katfshh	11	1089	Jun 28, 2010 by katfshh
	A's don't just drop from the sky. (Preview) My last long relationship with the ex a for 7 years is what brought me here. I first went to al anon more than 20 years ago and did not think I qualified. I was not ready then. I can see why. Doing this work is one of the most painful things I have ever approached. I am not talking about the damage, the chao...	maresie	16	1187	Jun 28, 2010 by maresie
	Talking to my father (Preview) Hi I'm new here and I really need some help and support. I see a counselor every week about dealing with my father's alcoholism and he thinks that I should go to an al-anon meeting in my area and I have never been. I really don't know what they are about or what it is like. My counselor also wants me to talk to m...	fadedvintage	4	897	Jun 28, 2010 by tlcate
	D day tomorrow (Preview) Well our home has remained calm, my son has stuck to the boundaries, and doctors orders re his alcohol intake....thats a first. Tomorrow his father is driving him the 100 miles to the detox unit. He wanted to get the bus but his consultant advised against it as he is to have minimal alcohol in the mornin...	Ness	13	1096	Jun 28, 2010 by miss_carol
	A few questions about Al-Anon meetings (Preview) I'm considering trying meetings. So I went to the website for my area and found many. However, I am hoping someone can clarify a few things for me. What exactly is a 'newcomers' meeting? Do only newcomers attend? How do they work. It seems that it would be an uptight meeting if only newbies attend....	GailMichelle	3	887	Jun 28, 2010 by GailMichelle
	long term Benzodiazepine use... (Preview) My AH recently weaned himself off clonazepam. He was prescribed this ten years ago and it was upped to 4 mg/day. We are finding out that this drug has a lot of negatives for those who are on it long term. I would like to hear from anyone who has experience in this area. Since weaning himself there have been p...	looking_for_peace	4	639	Jun 28, 2010 by Simba
	My neice's Birthday Party and my SIL (Preview) My SIL does not get along with my mother and I.Three weeks ago, my SIL behaved especially badly towards my mom so badly that the cops were called. So she now my SIL is mad at my mom for causing all these problems for her. NOW my nieces birthday is coming up. My brother wants to have two separate birthday...	smartkat	8	761	Jun 27, 2010 by smartkat
	My Husband is smoking weed everyday and he thinks it's not a problem.... (Preview) My husband and I have been together for 6 years and married for 10 months... He used to drink A LOT and our relationship ended 2 times because of it. I got pregnant 4 months before we got married and I told him 20 days before the wedding that I would call it off if he didn't stop drinking. To my complete supri...	TinaMJ	5	4065	Jun 27, 2010 by TinaMJ
	miss this?? (Preview) I have had a huge pitty party weekend which included trying to talk to my A about my "feelings". Didn't go well. He always implys I'm emotionally needy and I always end acting as if that is exactly what I am. Doctor wants to take out my "girl parts" and I feel way to young for all that....	glad	3	821	Jun 27, 2010 by Bettina
	My new avatar! (Preview) This swan and it' s mate came to see us when we were fishing and wanted something to eat, we gave it bread, and it gave us this gorguss site, a baby signet on it's back. Katy P.s I hope it has worked I have never done an avatar before, but I have seen the film!	Katy	7	725	Jun 27, 2010 by hotrod
	Bumper Sticker (Preview) Saw a bumper sticker today that resonated. It said: "Encourage your hopes, not your fears" I've found that works.	ditto	1	600	Jun 27, 2010 by smartkat
	I am really starting to feel my own feelings! (Preview) I will try to explain how this is happening for me, I wear my heart on my sleave and usually by default thats how I respond to everything, a very strange thing happens though with my alchoholic husband, when we discuss the problems we face I feel chewed up inside, my gutt feeling is in turmoil, and I have al...	Katy	6	440	Jun 27, 2010 by okwitt
	Enabler to my 39 year old son (Preview) I need lot's of advice. I've been enabling my son for years. I thought I was protecting him. Do I keep this up and let him die? Do I stop and let him die? He has had two DWI's. One was given because of an auto accident that resulted in injuries. He had his hand remade which does not work well and needs more...	okwitt	21	1276	Jun 27, 2010 by okwitt
	Brand spanking new! (Preview) Hello all! I am so glad I found this site, I have been going crazy for the past week. My AH will be coming home from rehab soon and I am so afraid. I know I need to find a group in my home town but I thought I would jump on here while I find one. I went to family week at the rehab and spent a lot of time asking questi...	coffeegrounds	5	763	Jun 27, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Bright and perky makes most people feel good, yet... (Preview) ...I feel I'm being dishonest to people. Inside, I'm grieving, fearful, etc. People think I'm so "happy", but putting up a good front is getting exhausting. Is it okay to detach from the world as well as the AH? I am around many people every day. Thanks for listening.	punkydoodah	5	885	Jun 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Running as fast as I can... (Preview) I feel like Im running as fast as I can on a treadmill financially and emotionally because of the A one miss step and my house of cards will collapse. This is craziness; 10 years ago I had a great job and a fat bank account. When does it stop? When do I get to rest?	Simba	8	1073	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Humor and Credit Where Credit Is Due. (Preview) Three Men friends from an Al-Anon group decided to spend a Saturday hiking and enjoying nature. By mid afternoon they were tired, frustrated, and even though they all knew it.... none of the three would admit to being lost. They continued to walk until they stumbled across a raging river. They re...	RLC	13	1132	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	movies? (Preview) I like to watch movies or tv to wind down at night. I'm pretty busy during the weekdays and by the time I get home, eat dinner, put the kids to bed... I'm ready to unwind... have a hard time reading, so I was thinking instead of surfing my tv guide trying to find something I like, I'd rent some alanon/12 step...	angelchar375	6	4079	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	BEEEE Yourself (Preview) The following is the philosophy of Charles Schultz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip. You don't have to actually answer the questions.Just ponder on them. Just read the e-mail straight through, and you'll get the point. 1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world. 2. Name the last fiv...	Simba	3	683	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	Apologies for being MIA at the past 2 Friday morning meetings (Preview) Dear MIP family and friends - I am very sorry for not being available to chair the past 2 Friday morning meetings and for not making prior arrangements to ensure that the meeting was covered. For last week, I have no excuse other than just poor planning on my part. I was attending camp with my son that w...	blender_girl	3	529	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	can you believe it? (Preview) TO ALL OF THOSE WHO SAID TAKE A BATH:I cant do that even! crazy! I have 2 showers & only one bathtub & the bathtub is cracked & out of commision. We just got the one shower fixed but not the bathtub! As far as candles go: I will definitely use them if I have to just in a dark room! My life is so crazy t...	Hoot Nanny	7	862	Jun 27, 2010 by xeno59
	I've been asked to speak at a meeting next week (Preview) This will be my first time to tell my story and I have no clue where to start. Do I start off with the day I was born, events that shaped the woman I am today OR Start with when I was first introduced to the disease and the outcome of how I handled those situations and the emotions that were left behind?	Mobirdie	8	1158	Jun 27, 2010 by Mobirdie
	Blame it on Karilynn weekend is here! (Preview) (((Family)))), Good morning! The 3rd annual: BLAME IT ON KARILYNN DAY is here. Only this year I have decided to turn it into a weekend. This has become an annual tradition. I have upped the anty this time and turned into a weekend. For all of the newbies who think I have lost my mind... well I have. ...	Karilynn	14	804	Jun 27, 2010 by Karilynn
	His Anixity is Chokin me!!! (Preview) Fun how people react to things so much differantly, My Husband & I have been plannin a trip to go see a lady I Met on the net about 4 yrs ago I guess... I have never "Spoken" a word to this women, but we email/FB/Myspace that kinda stuff all the time.. Send Cards on Holidays & Birthdays...	Jozie	8	810	Jun 26, 2010 by Mynameismom
	To be an A magnet or not to be! (Preview) Well I have to watch I don't get too passive with all that I read, and that I take what I like and leave the rest, if I belive I am an A magnet I will possibly resemble that remark, however, at times I am guilty of picking only the bits I like and applying them to me, because I haven't yet learned to open my mind fu...	Katy	1	618	Jun 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	All you need is love... (Preview) Actually all I really need is love & understanding: is that too much to ask PMS! To those who haven't been with us long; there is hope! We are all in this together! I am hoping that someone who isn't so selfish will come my way actually! It seems like everyone is focusing on THEM sometimes & don't s...	Hoot Nanny	5	649	Jun 26, 2010 by Tattyhead
	My first F2F (Preview) After 2 weeks of procrastinating, I finally made it to my first F2F meeting last night. It was okay, the people were pretty nice, but I'm just not sure this is going to be for me. They meet once a week and suggest that you try to make at least 6 meetings before you decide for or against continuing, so that's w...	never going back	13	873	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	friends???? (Preview) Something has been bothering me for a long time and I am hoping that if I put this "out there" maybe I can get over it. Been married to AH for many years and had tons of "friends", our house was always full of people. I seldom ever shared a drink with any of them, but truly enjoyed their...	Sweet Stanley	12	925	Jun 26, 2010 by canadianguy
	Al-ANON in Sarajevo, Bosnia? (Preview) Can anyone help me find an AL-ANON meeting in Sarajevo? I have spent hours searching the web with no luck.... I did find an AA meeting here and asked a member about AL-ANON but no luck. I don't know If I could handle being in an AA meeting right now. I am stressed enough with one AH.	Simba	6	1520	Jun 26, 2010 by Andrea12
	The Universe is not done with the XAH (Preview) Friends, A week ago, I think I told you the XAH almost bled to death he had a bleeding ulcer and he ruptured his esophagus . He had 7 blood transfusions. Took two days to get him stable where he wasnt loosing blood. Well, he is being released tomorrow as good as new. Dr. told him he cannot have one more drink...	Bettina	10	815	Jun 26, 2010 by Ness
	What do I tell our creditors? (Preview) We are behind on everything and my A has now decided I should be the one talking to them. I really just want to tell them this: I am not working, my husband is not reliable and I don't know when or if you will ever get your money. Thank you and have a nice day. (or come and get the truck). We just moved but it is mo...	miss_carol	11	880	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	THIS IS JUST FOR ME = WELL MAYBE A FEW OTHERS TOO . (Preview) *------------------------------------------------------------*	abbyal	8	1140	Jun 25, 2010 by Andrea12
	CODA anyone? (Preview) i'm thinking of going to a CODA meeting tonight. i'm in a new-ish relationship with a man who doesn't need fixing (well, there are plenty of things i can find to fix if i start thinking that way) who doesn't need caretaking (except that i want to take care of his every imagined need and help him overcome s...	xter	4	1144	Jun 25, 2010 by kablisnow
	another day...it seems to be getting better! (Preview) I hope this finds everyone well & with some sense of serenity! I am struggling still but it seems to be a little better! I will make it brief: living ODAT & going to some meetings! Got some issues but they seem to always work out somehow! Sometimes even the worse problems I have aren't as bad as I ma...	Hoot Nanny	2	618	Jun 25, 2010 by never going back
	wow....no nagging today :) (Preview) So I'm finally learning to let go of the AH..........I love him enough to let him go, because my life has been unmanagable for the past 5 years..... I know I cannot be in control, but I know that I do want a managable, PRODUCTIVE life...I want to be healthy in mind for my children,....I know I'm not perfect...	RoseODAT	5	577	Jun 24, 2010 by White Rabbit
	He sure knows how to push my buttons (Preview) My AH and I finally talked a bit last night after a week of being civil but distant (mostly on my part). He says he has quit drinking again. ( I just found out Monday that he had been drinking again for about 4 months after a year and a half of sobriety. this following successful surgery for prostate cancer...	never going back	7	1400	Jun 24, 2010 by maresie
	need major STRENGTH to leave.....momentum please.... (Preview) I'm looking forward to leaving my supposedly sober special AH........only not too much...... this is the millionth time my heart hurts to leave...... He's more than an addict.....I'm beleiving strongly got an antisocial type personality disorder because even though they might be sober, they...	RoseODAT	12	1107	Jun 24, 2010 by Kiki52
	Went to my first alanon meeting today. (Preview) I don't know why it takes so much courage to help myself sometimes. I am so glad I went. They were all so wonderful. It felt good to know I am not crazy and I am not alone. I always hope for quick answers and easy fixes. I don't think this is one of those times. Thanks, this site helped me get the courage to go t...	miss_carol	6	875	Jun 24, 2010 by nmike
	MIP?? YES, they ARE!! (Preview) Just wanted to share a good experience, because since I've been on here, all I've related are the bad. Actually, since I've been on here, that's all I've HAD to relate! I just found out a week ago tha my AH of 30 years was drinking again after a year and a half of AA and sobriety (after a lifetime of being an al...	never going back	7	607	Jun 24, 2010 by kitty
	Tough Week.... (Preview) And I am feeling it not only mentally, but now very physically. I can't eat without stomach pains, my mouth is so dry I have to keep gum so that my mouth will not blister. I feel like I could throw up any minute. I want my life back, I can remember when I loved getting up in the morning, I kissed my children an...	DreamsOver	10	886	Jun 23, 2010 by GailMichelle
	Thrown a curve ball............... (Preview) I've been reduced to a ball of tears within the last few hours and can't seem to stop crying. The hurt of abandonment is so great and powerful it's so overcoming. My A went off to treatment about an hour away and after about 30 days we discussed it would be more beneficial if we moved to that area and to get a...	RJMorgan	5	796	Jun 23, 2010 by xeno59
	Pink Birrthday Wishes for our Rita (Preview) It's our Rita's birthday today! WOOHOO! So let's send out as many pink birthday wishes to her. HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET RITA! Hope it is extra pink and special just like you. Remember calories don't count on your birthday week. So go ahead, have your and eat it too! Pipers is out looking for a pink mous...	Karilynn	6	1125	Jun 23, 2010 by Rita G
	This is getting old (Preview) I feel sick, anxious, and depressed. I don't know why everytime we get into an arguement I feel this way. Is it because I know that the first thing he'll do is try to get a drink? Hopefully he doesn't still have any change left over after running to the store for me yesterday... but then again he probably we...	jewel91	5	818	Jun 23, 2010 by jewel91
	Meetings (Preview) I am really confused with the volume of meetings. Are they different kinds of meetings or simply chaired by different people? Can anybody point me towards one until I have navigated around this site for a while? Thanks in advance for your help.	Mynameismom	3	689	Jun 22, 2010 by lyndebi
	Happy Birthday Sweet Lady (Preview) wp =sweet lady celebrates a birthday this week xxxx	belle1	5	3585	Jun 22, 2010 by Karilynn
	Confused and despairing (Preview) I'm not sure why I am writing here. I know you cannot tell me what to do. My 43year old alcoholic sister has completed ruined her life. I thought, through al-anon I was making big steps in allowing her from ruining mine any further. But at the moment I feel worse by not going to her than I did when I was con...	Daisychain	9	897	Jun 22, 2010 by Daisychain
	My mother is an alcoholic. (Preview) This is the very first time I have ever reached out beyond arms reach for a little help if only to keep my sanity. Someone had suggested I go to a support meeting, and thought it was a good idea, but my hours I work could not support it. So hear I am on message board to start with and I have to say I almost feel be...	moonunit	9	815	Jun 22, 2010 by cuteamy7
	Hello, My Name is Mom and my daughter is an alcoholic (Preview) I am brand new to this Forum and wanted to introduce myself. I am the mother of 4 grown children and 6 grandchildren. My daughter has been a functional alcoholic for years. She is on Day 7 of sobriety and the journey scares the living hell out of me although not as bad as the last few years with her worseni...	Mynameismom	14	1557	Jun 21, 2010 by never going back
	words to live by (Preview) So, my mom emailed me this list of rules to live by and I thought it was fantastic and wanted to share with all of you. Words to Live By Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland,Ohio "To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the mos...	kitty	5	1618	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Update on me (Preview) Hi, MIP family ... I haven't been around the last couple of days. On Thursday morning, I had a seizure and my AH took me to the emergency room. This is the 4th seizure I've had in my life - have never been diagnosed with epilepsy or anything, and the tests that were run in the hospital showed nothing. I'm...	White Rabbit	7	602	Jun 21, 2010 by White Rabbit
	drunkeness (Preview) This weekend I had the opportuity to be around my roommates while they partied and got really seriously drunk. They were lurcing around sluring their words and slumping around. One of them had his children come over who were running through the house. I know I felt incredibly uncomfortable and ho...	maresie	5	762	Jun 21, 2010 by hotrod
	I need help in dealing with ANGER anger verbal abuse neglect (Preview) I am still fuming a weekl later. My SIL called my mother a 'xxxx' (Screaming it in public.) And just because my mother was not willing to watch her child all day Saturday after watching her over 40 hours that week. She then chased her in the car and rammed the back of her car (just enough to cause a small...	smartkat	10	7761	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	your compassion has rocked my world (Preview) It has only been 2 days since I found this site (is that possible??? seems like much longer!). I don"t know how I"ve made it this long without it. I have read through your posts, visited the chat room, attended 2 of the on-line meetings, written several posts of my own(I guess its normal to pos...	never going back	10	929	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	New Here (Preview) I am very worried about my son. He is 23 and drinks every day. He has been drunk four times this week already. He lives with me, he has a full time job. He is rude when he drinks. I don't want to enable him, but I don't really want to kick him out. He has lost his license for drinking and driving, and been charged...	CatherineR	11	539	Jun 21, 2010 by Mynameismom
	My fault ot is it? (Preview) Hi all, I'm Chauri. I haven't been posting message in a long time. Today, I'm in a fix. It's probably my fault. I need to make amends and don't know how. Well to make the story ahort, my A hasn't been drinking in a while. But instead of alcohol, he is into pain meds. which is the same thing ,as far as I'm concer...	chauri	6	795	Jun 21, 2010 by chauri
	The importance in "Keep coming back" (Preview) I haven't been on here in a long time....but thank my HP for this forrum for I needed to share and listen to others as well ASAP.... I have two little ones, quit my job to go to school full-time as I was doing both......and the last thing I want to worry about is AH. When the insanity comes and goes for almost s...	RoseODAT	4	1003	Jun 21, 2010 by barisax
	serenity and me (Preview) What is serenity? I don't think I ever =eally knew or experienced serenity. It wasn't part of my vocabulary and it =ertainly wasn't part of my daily life. Until I found al-anon =nd all it had to offer me. Before al-anon my idea of serenity was making sure =veryone was happy. A people pleaser who put ever...	malady	3	1050	Jun 21, 2010 by Bettina
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I regret that I am, once again, unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting. My 87 year old aunt is having medical issues relating to her pacemaker and I need to be at the hospital with her all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	372	Jun 20, 2010 by shimo
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