Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Maize · Maize

I am working on learning to meditate. I can do it when I am in therapy, no problem, my therapist can take me down into a trance state and that is great. I am working on being able to do it on my own. I found a CD that has meditations on it that work on panic attacks (something I suffer with). So I am working on...

LIGHTBULB · LIGHTBULB

My husband is a dry drunk - he used to be such a happy man - now he went thru depression which I didnt know was a sympthom of alcoholism - learning so much here - but I feel he just blames so much on me - gets so angry at me when I questioned it and told me to leave him alone that he is sick of me - Oh boy so much fun here L...

maresie · maresie

Somedays I can manage to get through all the next right things I need to do in order to move my life to another level. I'm discovering the issue isn't the next right thing (which I can of course attend to) the issue is that I really don't want to do that. I want someone else to take responsibility for my lif...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

AH has been off of prescription clonazepam and Effexor for over a month. I have written before to describe his paranoid behaviours. Much of the time, things go reasonably well (although he still doesn't help out around the house even though he is on sick leave). However, I can usually count on somethi...

susie56543 · susie56543

I'm a newbie to the program, I just started going to meetings 3 weeks ago. My boyfriend was in a treatment center this past winter/spring and "planted the seed" that it may be good for me. I'm not exactly sure how to begin here so I'll just jump in..He and I got engaged in February and I found out...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((((Dear Friends)))))))))), Today is 3 years since the death of my soul mate my dear husband Chuck. Tomorrow he would have been 53. I find as the time goes by I don't look so much on the bad anymore and I can see how and why I loved this man so very much. The anger had control of me for a very long time...

rockernapstar · rockernapstar

I am really new to all of this, so please forgive me if I jabber on...where does one start...ok, if there is a God, do you think he/she decides who gets what kind of life? What I mean is, why are some people blessed and others not? If it's original sin then it stands to reason that all women suffer, so I don't b...

youmeandthesethree · youmeandthesethree

Hi there. Last night my husband and I had a long discussion about his soberity, and Al-anon was mentioned in the mists of it. He suggested that I look into finding my own support group. So, here I am. Now what? Will someone please direct me in where to start?

okwitt · okwitt

I am sick. My son has called twice this morning from the recovery house. He was mad and told me to come get him. I told him I couldn't. He wasn't suppose to be able to make phone calls until Monday. He was very mad. Tell me what you think... Please..... When he entered the program this week they told him in f...

myself · myself

Please explain how you can not get crazy in a crazy situation. I mean tonight my A son who is 25 and my AH are both intoxicated and they take turns tearing me down and trying to blame me. I sit here typing to you and trying to tune them out. They want me to drive them to the liquor store and that got an absolutel...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I go to a therapist who is a female, younger than me so there is no "mother figure" involved here. What I found was that, aside from my mother (who despite her faults has been pretty loving and accepting of me my whole life), my therapist is the closest female in my life. And certainly I share...

tlcate · tlcate

Posting the night before so you see it first thing in the morning!!! You are such a wonderful person, have been there for so many here at MIP, and your recovery is rock solid. Thank you so much for being a part of this family. You inspire me. I hope you have a wonderful day. Tricia

disneygirl71 · disneygirl71

Yesterday was definitely not a happy day at our house.My AH of 17 years went on a binge and came home to spread his mood around.I normally would pack the kids up and take off.I don't like to hang around and argue...because I can't get a point across to the drunk guy. Anyway...the van wouldn't start due to a...

buick23 · buick23

They are such liars. He tried to cover up for himself by getting mad at me and making assumptions. I was minding my own business. Such a liar. Enough Seriously Guess it's a duck. Had to get this out before I go on with my day. buick

neshema2 · neshema2

Hello everyone! I have been away for a while (not recovery, but the board) and I just wanted to share about my dry drunk sister Growing up in an alcoholic family and marrying problem drinkers, and also becoming problem drinkers ourselves- I do believe that mine was symptomatic of my pain- Possibly her...

Ash · Ash

I feel trapped. I thought I had a good morning. went running, prayed and meditated. then thought I set a boundary. it backfired and he again threatens the end of the relationship. this is so messed up. I am told that I shouldn't talk to him. that he hasn't got recovery and will take everything as a threat....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Please take none of this seriously cause it is light fare with a smidgen of the disease sprinkled around it. It was emailed to me by a cousin I use to partake in the disease with. I feel glad to have been throughly cracked up this joke without taking any one little piece of it seriously unlike before when...

Maize · Maize

My friend in recovery is coming home in 2 weeks. The codependent person in me is worried about how he will do when he does get back. The person in me that is changing and working on things through my learnings in Alanon is saying "live for today, you can do this, don't worry about when he gets here a...

Ness · Ness

Hi All.....Im on a right downer at the mo and not much good to man nor beast.... A damn big black cloud is surrounding me and isnt shifting. It was my birthday yesterday...yay.... and for the 1st time in 3 yrs I got a lovely card from Ason....who is currently two weeks into a 16 week rehab, ..... but I just f...

never going back · never going back

Hi ((((friends))))!! It seems I live my life with songs constantly playing in my head (usually James Taylor-love that man!!!). Maybe because I almost always have the radio or CD playing? Anyway, it occurred to me that the messages from songs are a very powerful influence in my life and always had been...

Gailey · Gailey

My son finally moved out with his girlfriend. After about 2 weeks at her house he announces that they are getting married. WTH!!!!! I truly do not believe it is love but more convenience. I know I must stay out of his business. They are having a small wedding. I have been told to just embrace their decis...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I was washing my supper dishes when the doorbell rang. He was standing at my back door, I went out to talk to him and of course I alreading knew what he was going to say before he even said it. He blamed everyone for his drug problem, his school mates taunting him, he wasn't taught about the real world by us...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM VERY HAPPY TO REPORT THAT I AM ATTENDING A MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR A FORMER HIGHLY-DECORATED WWII VETERAN. IT WILL BE A VERY HUGE CELEBRATION OF LIFE IN MY HOMETOWN TOMORROW. I FEEL HONORED TO ATTEND THIS. HE GOT THE CONGRESSIONAL MEDAL OF HONOR FROM A FORMER PRESIDENT IN THE 90'S & I JUST WANTED T...

Maize · Maize

Hi there, I am Maize. I am 35 and new to all of this. I have spent a year and a half in intense therapy, with 5 days in the hospital for feeling suicidal. I was trapped in an awful and abusive marriage. I felt alone and didn't want to go on. On to bigger and brighter things, and I am divorced and free now! I...

Aloha · Aloha

Yesterday I finally got to the court and filed for divorce. It's the beginning of the paperwork, but it was a step I finally needed to get under way. I took the day off to make sure I got down to the courthouse instead of trying to squeeze in an extra hour or two off from work. I called AH and let him know and tol...

Jerry F · Jerry F

how the arrival and presence of a child can calm rough waters and chronic negativity. Avery Leipua (flower lei) arrived at 3:20PM, 11 days early and a little light at 6lbs 11ozs and angel pink. She caused the whole family to focus for a while and smile for no other reason than she was calming. Grandso...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been venting alot of negative stuff lately and I thank all of you for your patience with me. I feel I have legitimate reasons to be unhappy and despite things I can do to "distract myself" (because that's all they really are, there's nothing that's truly going to bring lasting happine...

okwitt · okwitt

My A adult son got into the recovery house for 30 intense training days. I want to be hopeful..but reading on here seems they usually start back drinking. I have felt such a weight lifted off me while he is there. I could really get used to this...then reality sets in with him back with no job and on and on an...

Maize · Maize

I didn't sleep well last night. I had to fight my depression this morning alone, as when I was feeling it, I didn't feel I could call anyone that early in the morning. I fought through and I am working on staying positive now. I know that for me, when I don't sleep well, my depression and panic attacks ha...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Went to an open AA/Alanon meeting tonight. We had a video on the 12 step program. After the video, was open discussion. It just made me think to myself how grateful I was to be in attendance there and to be able to come here and share/read/vent/respond to different posts. So, I just wanted to tell you a...

tlcate · tlcate

I am in the process of trying to buy my first house. I am doing it 100% on my own with nothing but a lot of advice from others . Fear can be so destructive!!! My fear translates to procrastination. Do something other than what you are afraid of and deal with it when it gets here. Go have fun, bury myself in w...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey Guys... Wow... I Just went & Looked at my last Post and somehow it has been a MONTH since you have last heard from me ;( Just wanted to let all know that I am Doing OK... The Trip to meet my New Found Friend was Wonderful, I only got to see her for about 5 hours, because they had to work the next morning, ...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((Friends))))), Ok, today is another day.....have taken my son's car from him..he is 18 and what else can I do...I can only do this because it is in my name and I know his car means everything to him.... Now I don't know what this will accomplish or even if it will accomplish anything however it's wort...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi all. I am currently finding this program very hard. I know that it is the only way and that I need to keep working it, but its getting harder. I think Im experiencing some sort of a withdrawal from my alcoholic ex-girlfriend. I havent heard from her in a month. She was doing her step work in AA and was ad...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Had a little a ha moment this morning and want to share it. I was doing some talking with my HP. I was asking my hp to help me love him as I was having a bit of an acceptance problem. An acceptance problem I have practiced over and over again. The answer Why don't you trust I love you. Oh my goodness, I want t...

Jerry F · Jerry F

"As We Understood" a great piece of CAL literature thats been around since the 80ies and came out of the Quebec International? Wednesday Night Turning Point (our home group) did the meeting from it on prayer and meditation. I don't think a meeting could have been better that what we had....

miss_carol · miss_carol

Today I am wondering why I didn't leave the first time he used any mind altering substance, but I didn't. ( Because I hoped it was just once). So here I am, I married him 3 years ago and now I only get a glimpse of who sober hubby is. Somedays I can remember he is sick, others I wonder why I would pick a "los...

Katy · Katy

Jerry you floor me, lol, I was an avid alcoholic pet collector, pet defect owner was me, my friend pointed this out not so long backlol, Why she said do you always go for the sickly ones, why not choose the happy healthy ones with smiley faces and waggly tails? Well I always felt sorry for the sickly ones,...

ziggymiller · ziggymiller

I am new to Alanon. I tried going to meetings before and things kinda got better and I stopped going, plus three young kids and full time job made it difficult. I know I need to get back to being me! Things have recently, built up and are about to come crashing down. I can know longer trust my AH to take car...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I wish I could be constant positivity.......I wish I could be a jolly little trooper all the time......and I wish I had it together.......... Ok, So about two hours ago my cell phone fell in a university public toilet as I swung my purse around in the stall...........And for this insignificant litt...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Last night my AH came home drunk BUT with a cellphone I've been telling him I want. I took it, told him thanks and did not speak to him for the rest of the night cause I only had mean things to say to him. He of course was acting like an idiot and even had the nerve to tell me that I was ungrateful for not gushing ov...

myself · myself

Thank you for your support and advice. I dont know what I will do but I pray for the strength to do as I need for myself and the children I am raising. I hear that I'm not responsible for my son being an alcoholic but I find that hard to swallow as in the literature I have read I know that environment can help con...

kablisnow · kablisnow

For six weeks I supported him and brought the kids every weekend to visit and now hes home and already drinking and lyeing. He went to treatment on his own b/c he said he finally realized what his life had become. I havent gotten mad or yelled, Ive been sympathetic and let him know I was here if he needed to t...

Bella333 · Bella333

I am hurting a lot right now. On July 1st my exAbf told me he is seeing someone. We have been broken up for 3 years but have remained best friends and neither of us has seen anyone seriously. We have hung out once in the past three weeks. I told him I needed to be distant to have time to adjust to this new turn of e...

tlcate · tlcate

Please come share your ES&H -- Edited by tlcate on Wednesday 28th of July 2010 05:29:07 PM

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

I finally separated from my husband. I've come to the conclusion where I'm OK with a divorce. He does not want to. In the past I asked him so many times for couples counseling which he often would avoid and not make time for.....The children are OK, yet I understand change is difficult for them as well and...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Its been such a long time since I've visited here. I've learned so many tools of the trade from all of you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Just wanted to let everyone know that I am now a believer that life with an A is possible. It takes work everyday, but it is possible. It's no...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I've been told many times, as I've lamented about the lack of love in my life, that I had to learn to love myself. I have to admit to being skeptical about this. Can I do it, yes, have I loved myself in the past, absolutely. Now? Maybe not as much, but I dont' loathe myself. But it has never felt like enoug...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

My wife is for the most part a non drinking, alcoholic behaving person who creates tension, unease, financial hardship and insecurity in our household. Bad enough it gets to me but I worry about my daughter as well. I realize this isn't new to anyone else here, but I am so resentful and bitter toward he...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Funny my first time through alanon, about 10 years ago (was involved for 5 years or so), my higher power felt real, was a source of comfort and I believed in him. This time, I'm not feeling it. I feel abandoned by my HP, or that he's ineffectual. It's such a part of recovery that I dont' know how to move on w...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...I've got another opportunity to talk with a local representative regarding a legislative proposal I've mentioned before that seeks fairness, honesty and justice on the issues regarding alcohol in my small community. I've been at this for a while and like I've been taught in Al-Ano...

lyndebi · lyndebi

yuck. This is tough. I am emotionally fine. But I tell ya, this is a drag. I got to none but was not feeling right. Doc told me to do it more gradual. Woke up feeling icky so took some. Will get over it yet! (c: All is great here, animals are all fat, Peaches horse looks like a yellow cow....Pony Pete had a bad cu...

Greenvalleygal · Greenvalleygal

My adult sons live next to me and Son 1 is an alcoholic while Son 2 who is a Type I diabetic is addicted to prescribed pain meds and abuses them by snorting. By the end of the month, he runs out of pills and does whatever he can to purchase street drugs. Yesterday Son 2took money from Son 1 without asking ......

freespiritedbird83 · freespiritedbird83

Hey all, My name is Maryann. I am a 27 year old female currently residing and living in Wisconsin. I am a semi-new member of Al-Anon in my town, and I am looking for a sponsor online or offline, as long as I can find one in the coming future. Although my group is very lovely and very nice, I just dont know, can...

Samsgram · Samsgram

This would not be the first time I have given her a loan. I changed the subject today when she asked in her indirect way of asking me. I keep reminding myself of her awful she treated me for the last year BUT I feel terrible she says she`ll pay whoever gives the loan back $100 a week. I know she`ll moan and groa...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

A big thing that changed for me in recovery was my sense of humor. I mean, it was in there and would come out sometimes before the program, but I had no ability to laugh at myself and took everything soooo seriously. It's been a really amazing experience to find humor in things - even in recovery. Last n...

ollie · ollie

hi family. i dont post often,but im with you everday. well AH has just come out of hospital,he now has hernia,ulcer on the oesophagus,plus a bleed in the stomach. im not counting on this being his bottom,who knows. plus it was our ruby wedding anniversary yesterday. it went unoticed,not one card . ho...

Katy · Katy

For me everything lol, Jeez it has took me an age to get this wow, I have been wondering how to I get the trust back? And suddenly it hit me, did I really ever have any? Nope not really, so no wonder I can't get it back I am looking for something I only imagined I had, I am so lucky that I can start from scratch now...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), July 22 is never a good day for me. On that day 9 years ago I lost my father. What a hero he was to me. On that day 2 years ago I lost my beloved Tim. The two men I loved most in the world, lost on the same day 9 years apart. They are both in a better place, but God do I miss them terribly. I have bee...

myself · myself

I am so lost at the moment..I sit here and know that in the other room two of the most important people in my life are killing themselves and I can't do a thing to save either of them at all. I raised one and promised to always keep him safe and today he is 25 and has only been sober for 18 hrs in the last 30 days. I...

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	Changing the things I can... (Preview) I am working on learning to meditate. I can do it when I am in therapy, no problem, my therapist can take me down into a trance state and that is great. I am working on being able to do it on my own. I found a CD that has meditations on it that work on panic attacks (something I suffer with). So I am working on...	Maize	6	777	Aug 2, 2010 by maire rua
	DRY DRUNK!!!! HELP (Preview) My husband is a dry drunk - he used to be such a happy man - now he went thru depression which I didnt know was a sympthom of alcoholism - learning so much here - but I feel he just blames so much on me - gets so angry at me when I questioned it and told me to leave him alone that he is sick of me - Oh boy so much fun here L...	LIGHTBULB	9	1975	Aug 1, 2010 by LIGHTBULB
	the next right thing (Preview) Somedays I can manage to get through all the next right things I need to do in order to move my life to another level. I'm discovering the issue isn't the next right thing (which I can of course attend to) the issue is that I really don't want to do that. I want someone else to take responsibility for my lif...	maresie	7	1270	Aug 1, 2010 by Maize
	Should I do what he asks? (Preview) AH has been off of prescription clonazepam and Effexor for over a month. I have written before to describe his paranoid behaviours. Much of the time, things go reasonably well (although he still doesn't help out around the house even though he is on sick leave). However, I can usually count on somethi...	looking_for_peace	11	870	Aug 1, 2010 by maresie
	Fear, Loneliness and Confusion... (Preview) I'm a newbie to the program, I just started going to meetings 3 weeks ago. My boyfriend was in a treatment center this past winter/spring and "planted the seed" that it may be good for me. I'm not exactly sure how to begin here so I'll just jump in..He and I got engaged in February and I found out...	susie56543	7	913	Jul 31, 2010 by susie56543
	3 Years Today Since I lost my Husband and Children lost thier Father (Preview) ((((((((((((Dear Friends)))))))))), Today is 3 years since the death of my soul mate my dear husband Chuck. Tomorrow he would have been 53. I find as the time goes by I don't look so much on the bad anymore and I can see how and why I loved this man so very much. The anger had control of me for a very long time...	Andrea12	11	1077	Jul 31, 2010 by RLC
	Questions (Preview) I am really new to all of this, so please forgive me if I jabber on...where does one start...ok, if there is a God, do you think he/she decides who gets what kind of life? What I mean is, why are some people blessed and others not? If it's original sin then it stands to reason that all women suffer, so I don't b...	rockernapstar	7	775	Jul 31, 2010 by maresie
	Looking for direction. (Preview) Hi there. Last night my husband and I had a long discussion about his soberity, and Al-anon was mentioned in the mists of it. He suggested that I look into finding my own support group. So, here I am. Now what? Will someone please direct me in where to start?	youmeandthesethree	8	653	Jul 31, 2010 by ythannah
	Need to talk (Preview) I am sick. My son has called twice this morning from the recovery house. He was mad and told me to come get him. I told him I couldn't. He wasn't suppose to be able to make phone calls until Monday. He was very mad. Tell me what you think... Please..... When he entered the program this week they told him in f...	okwitt	12	658	Jul 31, 2010 by Jennifer
	PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW TO ME (Preview) Please explain how you can not get crazy in a crazy situation. I mean tonight my A son who is 25 and my AH are both intoxicated and they take turns tearing me down and trying to blame me. I sit here typing to you and trying to tune them out. They want me to drive them to the liquor store and that got an absolutel...	myself	7	880	Jul 31, 2010 by hotrod
	Anyone else find this strange or sad??? (Preview) I go to a therapist who is a female, younger than me so there is no "mother figure" involved here. What I found was that, aside from my mother (who despite her faults has been pretty loving and accepting of me my whole life), my therapist is the closest female in my life. And certainly I share...	mjhyankees	10	922	Jul 31, 2010 by mjhyankees
	Happy Birthday Hotrod!!!!! (Tomorrow) (Preview) Posting the night before so you see it first thing in the morning!!! You are such a wonderful person, have been there for so many here at MIP, and your recovery is rock solid. Thank you so much for being a part of this family. You inspire me. I hope you have a wonderful day. Tricia	tlcate	12	702	Jul 31, 2010 by hotrod
	New to al anon...but not new to living with an alcoholic. (Preview) Yesterday was definitely not a happy day at our house.My AH of 17 years went on a binge and came home to spread his mood around.I normally would pack the kids up and take off.I don't like to hang around and argue...because I can't get a point across to the drunk guy. Anyway...the van wouldn't start due to a...	disneygirl71	13	1223	Jul 31, 2010 by disneygirl71
	liars (Preview) They are such liars. He tried to cover up for himself by getting mad at me and making assumptions. I was minding my own business. Such a liar. Enough Seriously Guess it's a duck. Had to get this out before I go on with my day. buick	buick23	6	839	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	I don't know what is worse---Dry or wet drunks (Preview) Hello everyone! I have been away for a while (not recovery, but the board) and I just wanted to share about my dry drunk sister Growing up in an alcoholic family and marrying problem drinkers, and also becoming problem drinkers ourselves- I do believe that mine was symptomatic of my pain- Possibly her...	neshema2	10	1342	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Help - what do you do with the pain? (Preview) I feel trapped. I thought I had a good morning. went running, prayed and meditated. then thought I set a boundary. it backfired and he again threatens the end of the relationship. this is so messed up. I am told that I shouldn't talk to him. that he hasn't got recovery and will take everything as a threat....	Ash	7	711	Jul 31, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Sharing a JOKE.... (Preview) Please take none of this seriously cause it is light fare with a smidgen of the disease sprinkled around it. It was emailed to me by a cousin I use to partake in the disease with. I feel glad to have been throughly cracked up this joke without taking any one little piece of it seriously unlike before when...	Jerry F	8	768	Jul 31, 2010 by lyndebi
	Working hard on EVERYTHING (Preview) My friend in recovery is coming home in 2 weeks. The codependent person in me is worried about how he will do when he does get back. The person in me that is changing and working on things through my learnings in Alanon is saying "live for today, you can do this, don't worry about when he gets here a...	Maize	4	605	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	Severe kick up the butt needed......thanks in advance! (Preview) Hi All.....Im on a right downer at the mo and not much good to man nor beast.... A damn big black cloud is surrounding me and isnt shifting. It was my birthday yesterday...yay.... and for the 1st time in 3 yrs I got a lovely card from Ason....who is currently two weeks into a 16 week rehab, ..... but I just f...	Ness	13	1435	Jul 30, 2010 by Jennifer
	Changed for good (Preview) Hi ((((friends))))!! It seems I live my life with songs constantly playing in my head (usually James Taylor-love that man!!!). Maybe because I almost always have the radio or CD playing? Anyway, it occurred to me that the messages from songs are a very powerful influence in my life and always had been...	never going back	4	793	Jul 30, 2010 by abbyal
	so...he moved out and now he is getting married!!!!! (Preview) My son finally moved out with his girlfriend. After about 2 weeks at her house he announces that they are getting married. WTH!!!!! I truly do not believe it is love but more convenience. I know I must stay out of his business. They are having a small wedding. I have been told to just embrace their decis...	Gailey	8	828	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	I Saw My AS Today.... (Preview) I was washing my supper dishes when the doorbell rang. He was standing at my back door, I went out to talk to him and of course I alreading knew what he was going to say before he even said it. He blamed everyone for his drug problem, his school mates taunting him, he wasn't taught about the real world by us...	DreamsOver	7	871	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	PATRIOTISM (Preview) I AM VERY HAPPY TO REPORT THAT I AM ATTENDING A MEMORIAL SERVICE FOR A FORMER HIGHLY-DECORATED WWII VETERAN. IT WILL BE A VERY HUGE CELEBRATION OF LIFE IN MY HOMETOWN TOMORROW. I FEEL HONORED TO ATTEND THIS. HE GOT THE CONGRESSIONAL MEDAL OF HONOR FROM A FORMER PRESIDENT IN THE 90'S & I JUST WANTED T...	Hoot Nanny	3	646	Jul 30, 2010 by Jerry F
	Brand new to this... (Preview) Hi there, I am Maize. I am 35 and new to all of this. I have spent a year and a half in intense therapy, with 5 days in the hospital for feeling suicidal. I was trapped in an awful and abusive marriage. I felt alone and didn't want to go on. On to bigger and brighter things, and I am divorced and free now! I...	Maize	16	861	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	Really amazing the powerful emotions I have where ex-AH is concerned. (Preview) Yesterday I finally got to the court and filed for divorce. It's the beginning of the paperwork, but it was a step I finally needed to get under way. I took the day off to make sure I got down to the courthouse instead of trying to squeeze in an extra hour or two off from work. I called AH and let him know and tol...	Aloha	2	671	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	It's Amazing (Preview) how the arrival and presence of a child can calm rough waters and chronic negativity. Avery Leipua (flower lei) arrived at 3:20PM, 11 days early and a little light at 6lbs 11ozs and angel pink. She caused the whole family to focus for a while and smile for no other reason than she was calming. Grandso...	Jerry F	16	998	Jul 30, 2010 by Ness
	Ok...gratitude time..... (Preview) I've been venting alot of negative stuff lately and I thank all of you for your patience with me. I feel I have legitimate reasons to be unhappy and despite things I can do to "distract myself" (because that's all they really are, there's nothing that's truly going to bring lasting happine...	mjhyankees	4	738	Jul 30, 2010 by xeno59
	What else? It's my son. (Preview) My A adult son got into the recovery house for 30 intense training days. I want to be hopeful..but reading on here seems they usually start back drinking. I have felt such a weight lifted off me while he is there. I could really get used to this...then reality sets in with him back with no job and on and on an...	okwitt	4	726	Jul 30, 2010 by xeno59
	Staying positive? (Preview) I didn't sleep well last night. I had to fight my depression this morning alone, as when I was feeling it, I didn't feel I could call anyone that early in the morning. I fought through and I am working on staying positive now. I know that for me, when I don't sleep well, my depression and panic attacks ha...	Maize	8	803	Jul 30, 2010 by Maize
	So Grateful (Preview) Went to an open AA/Alanon meeting tonight. We had a video on the 12 step program. After the video, was open discussion. It just made me think to myself how grateful I was to be in attendance there and to be able to come here and share/read/vent/respond to different posts. So, I just wanted to tell you a...	Sweet Stanley	5	533	Jul 30, 2010 by never going back
	Fear (Preview) I am in the process of trying to buy my first house. I am doing it 100% on my own with nothing but a lot of advice from others . Fear can be so destructive!!! My fear translates to procrastination. Do something other than what you are afraid of and deal with it when it gets here. Go have fun, bury myself in w...	tlcate	6	808	Jul 30, 2010 by Karilynn
	Found my way back... :) (Preview) Hey Guys... Wow... I Just went & Looked at my last Post and somehow it has been a MONTH since you have last heard from me ;( Just wanted to let all know that I am Doing OK... The Trip to meet my New Found Friend was Wonderful, I only got to see her for about 5 hours, because they had to work the next morning, ...	Jozie	6	799	Jul 30, 2010 by Karilynn
	Trying to Get Thru to my Son (Preview) (((((Friends))))), Ok, today is another day.....have taken my son's car from him..he is 18 and what else can I do...I can only do this because it is in my name and I know his car means everything to him.... Now I don't know what this will accomplish or even if it will accomplish anything however it's wort...	Andrea12	6	772	Jul 30, 2010 by Karilynn
	I fear I'm loosing it. This is getting worse day by day... (Preview) Hi all. I am currently finding this program very hard. I know that it is the only way and that I need to keep working it, but its getting harder. I think Im experiencing some sort of a withdrawal from my alcoholic ex-girlfriend. I havent heard from her in a month. She was doing her step work in AA and was ad...	Cosmos	7	1235	Jul 30, 2010 by Cosmos
	What a thought (Preview) Had a little a ha moment this morning and want to share it. I was doing some talking with my HP. I was asking my hp to help me love him as I was having a bit of an acceptance problem. An acceptance problem I have practiced over and over again. The answer Why don't you trust I love you. Oh my goodness, I want t...	fishinmama	4	835	Jul 29, 2010 by Rocky38
	Anyone else reading and using (Preview) "As We Understood" a great piece of CAL literature thats been around since the 80ies and came out of the Quebec International? Wednesday Night Turning Point (our home group) did the meeting from it on prayer and meditation. I don't think a meeting could have been better that what we had....	Jerry F	6	848	Jul 29, 2010 by Aloha
	Trying not to be mad at myself (Preview) Today I am wondering why I didn't leave the first time he used any mind altering substance, but I didn't. ( Because I hoped it was just once). So here I am, I married him 3 years ago and now I only get a glimpse of who sober hubby is. Somedays I can remember he is sick, others I wonder why I would pick a "los...	miss_carol	4	888	Jul 29, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Alcoholic pets! (Preview) Jerry you floor me, lol, I was an avid alcoholic pet collector, pet defect owner was me, my friend pointed this out not so long backlol, Why she said do you always go for the sickly ones, why not choose the happy healthy ones with smiley faces and waggly tails? Well I always felt sorry for the sickly ones,...	Katy	2	771	Jul 29, 2010 by Jozie
	Today...I am takin control over my life. (Preview) I am new to Alanon. I tried going to meetings before and things kinda got better and I stopped going, plus three young kids and full time job made it difficult. I know I need to get back to being me! Things have recently, built up and are about to come crashing down. I can know longer trust my AH to take car...	ziggymiller	4	850	Jul 29, 2010 by Maize
	Control & Higher Power (Preview) I wish I could be constant positivity.......I wish I could be a jolly little trooper all the time......and I wish I had it together.......... Ok, So about two hours ago my cell phone fell in a university public toilet as I swung my purse around in the stall...........And for this insignificant litt...	RoseODAT	4	838	Jul 29, 2010 by Maize
	Presents and booze (Preview) Last night my AH came home drunk BUT with a cellphone I've been telling him I want. I took it, told him thanks and did not speak to him for the rest of the night cause I only had mean things to say to him. He of course was acting like an idiot and even had the nerve to tell me that I was ungrateful for not gushing ov...	Priscilla83	2	720	Jul 29, 2010 by never going back
	I do hold part of the blame for who he has become today....I am his mother!!!! (Preview) Thank you for your support and advice. I dont know what I will do but I pray for the strength to do as I need for myself and the children I am raising. I hear that I'm not responsible for my son being an alcoholic but I find that hard to swallow as in the literature I have read I know that environment can help con...	myself	10	876	Jul 28, 2010 by fob888
	home a week from rehab and already drank twice.... (Preview) For six weeks I supported him and brought the kids every weekend to visit and now hes home and already drinking and lyeing. He went to treatment on his own b/c he said he finally realized what his life had become. I havent gotten mad or yelled, Ive been sympathetic and let him know I was here if he needed to t...	kablisnow	8	1061	Jul 28, 2010 by abbyal
	struggling to survive my exAbf moving on (Preview) I am hurting a lot right now. On July 1st my exAbf told me he is seeing someone. We have been broken up for 3 years but have remained best friends and neither of us has seen anyone seriously. We have hung out once in the past three weeks. I told him I needed to be distant to have time to adjust to this new turn of e...	Bella333	4	850	Jul 28, 2010 by Bella333
	Step 5 is up on the step work board (Preview) Please come share your ES&H -- Edited by tlcate on Wednesday 28th of July 2010 05:29:07 PM	tlcate	0	550	Jul 28, 2010 by tlcate
	Patience..... asking for patience (Preview) I finally separated from my husband. I've come to the conclusion where I'm OK with a divorce. He does not want to. In the past I asked him so many times for couples counseling which he often would avoid and not make time for.....The children are OK, yet I understand change is difficult for them as well and...	RoseODAT	6	1254	Jul 28, 2010 by kitty
	It's not always easy, but for me it's worth it! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Its been such a long time since I've visited here. I've learned so many tools of the trade from all of you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. Just wanted to let everyone know that I am now a believer that life with an A is possible. It takes work everyday, but it is possible. It's no...	Sincerely	4	700	Jul 28, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Love myself???? Is that enough?????? (Preview) I've been told many times, as I've lamented about the lack of love in my life, that I had to learn to love myself. I have to admit to being skeptical about this. Can I do it, yes, have I loved myself in the past, absolutely. Now? Maybe not as much, but I dont' loathe myself. But it has never felt like enoug...	mjhyankees	8	1159	Jul 28, 2010 by ythannah
	struggling with resentment.... (Preview) My wife is for the most part a non drinking, alcoholic behaving person who creates tension, unease, financial hardship and insecurity in our household. Bad enough it gets to me but I worry about my daughter as well. I realize this isn't new to anyone else here, but I am so resentful and bitter toward he...	mjhyankees	3	1361	Jul 28, 2010 by kitty
	No higher power..... (Preview) Funny my first time through alanon, about 10 years ago (was involved for 5 years or so), my higher power felt real, was a source of comfort and I believed in him. This time, I'm not feeling it. I feel abandoned by my HP, or that he's ineffectual. It's such a part of recovery that I dont' know how to move on w...	mjhyankees	12	1018	Jul 28, 2010 by kitty
	MIP Support... (Preview) Aloha Family...I've got another opportunity to talk with a local representative regarding a legislative proposal I've mentioned before that seeks fairness, honesty and justice on the issues regarding alcohol in my small community. I've been at this for a while and like I've been taught in Al-Ano...	Jerry F	6	967	Jul 28, 2010 by Katy
	weaning off effexor/Eden update (Preview) yuck. This is tough. I am emotionally fine. But I tell ya, this is a drag. I got to none but was not feeling right. Doc told me to do it more gradual. Woke up feeling icky so took some. Will get over it yet! (c: All is great here, animals are all fat, Peaches horse looks like a yellow cow....Pony Pete had a bad cu...	lyndebi	8	1078	Jul 28, 2010 by Katy
	Two sons (Preview) My adult sons live next to me and Son 1 is an alcoholic while Son 2 who is a Type I diabetic is addicted to prescribed pain meds and abuses them by snorting. By the end of the month, he runs out of pills and does whatever he can to purchase street drugs. Yesterday Son 2took money from Son 1 without asking ......	Greenvalleygal	11	871	Jul 27, 2010 by buick23
	RE: SPONSORSHIP (Preview) Hey all, My name is Maryann. I am a 27 year old female currently residing and living in Wisconsin. I am a semi-new member of Al-Anon in my town, and I am looking for a sponsor online or offline, as long as I can find one in the coming future. Although my group is very lovely and very nice, I just dont know, can...	freespiritedbird83	1	617	Jul 27, 2010 by buick23
	Help, I Need Some Advice, Daughter, is Asking Me for a Loan! She`s now changed her tune! (Preview) This would not be the first time I have given her a loan. I changed the subject today when she asked in her indirect way of asking me. I keep reminding myself of her awful she treated me for the last year BUT I feel terrible she says she`ll pay whoever gives the loan back $100 a week. I know she`ll moan and groa...	Samsgram	7	1556	Jul 27, 2010 by Samsgram
	Laughter in recovery (Preview) A big thing that changed for me in recovery was my sense of humor. I mean, it was in there and would come out sometimes before the program, but I had no ability to laugh at myself and took everything soooo seriously. It's been a really amazing experience to find humor in things - even in recovery. Last n...	White Rabbit	9	1884	Jul 27, 2010 by Maize
	TRYING TO STAY STRONG ,AMONG THE CRAP. (Preview) hi family. i dont post often,but im with you everday. well AH has just come out of hospital,he now has hernia,ulcer on the oesophagus,plus a bleed in the stomach. im not counting on this being his bottom,who knows. plus it was our ruby wedding anniversary yesterday. it went unoticed,not one card . ho...	ollie	9	882	Jul 27, 2010 by ollie
	Todays reading in Courage to Change! To identify the illusion of? What ? (Preview) For me everything lol, Jeez it has took me an age to get this wow, I have been wondering how to I get the trust back? And suddenly it hit me, did I really ever have any? Nope not really, so no wonder I can't get it back I am looking for something I only imagined I had, I am so lucky that I can start from scratch now...	Katy	3	2991	Jul 27, 2010 by Maize
	Feeling the loss & feeling guilty (Preview) (((Family))), July 22 is never a good day for me. On that day 9 years ago I lost my father. What a hero he was to me. On that day 2 years ago I lost my beloved Tim. The two men I loved most in the world, lost on the same day 9 years apart. They are both in a better place, but God do I miss them terribly. I have bee...	Karilynn	18	1280	Jul 27, 2010 by Gailey
	PLEASE HELP ME AS I AM DROWNING IN THEIR LIQUID WORLD (Preview) I am so lost at the moment..I sit here and know that in the other room two of the most important people in my life are killing themselves and I can't do a thing to save either of them at all. I raised one and promised to always keep him safe and today he is 25 and has only been sober for 18 hrs in the last 30 days. I...	myself	8	1190	Jul 27, 2010 by myself
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