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I am new to Alanon. I tried going to meetings before and things kinda got better and I stopped going, plus three young kids and full time job made it difficult. I know I need to get back to being me! Things have recently, built up and are about to come crashing down. I can know longer trust my AH to take care of my kids when I am not here. I can't trust him to pick the kids up from the sitters and watch them by himself. My parents are so supportive and help me out, but we are all so exhausted. Any suggestions, words of wisdom, personal experience are all very welcomed =)
You said that you went to a few Alanon meetings and felt better. Herein lies the success of feeling better and your life becoming more manageable.
With the disease of Alcoholism, it most certainly can overwhelm us and make us feel crazy.
First thing we must learn "We are powerless over the drinking", so we have to do for ourselves and take care of ourself first and foremost.
It would be very helpful for you to make Alanon a priority in your busy life , because it will save your sanity. This is a powerful disease and if the drinking is not arrested, it gets progressively worse.
Keep coming back to the boards for experiences, strength and hope!!
Aloha Ziggy...One of the suggestions you have already done...keep coming back to MIP. The other is get back into the rooms of Al-Anon. There is nothing like having constant support and fellowship along with a Power Greater than yourself to ward off the contant disease of alcoholism. If you don't have help and support then what?
Welcome ! Please take to heart the suggestions already given and get yourself back into alanon. If you can't make face to face meetings please join us online for meetings. I think you will hear your story told over again. Listen to how others have dealt with your situation, I think you will learn invaluble lessons here that will allow you to make better choices for yourself and your children. I am so glad you have the support of your parents. If you can't trust your husband with your children try and think of ways to get your children taken take of. In other words a Plan B. One of the most important things I learned was to always have a plan B. Maybe a friend who can tend to the children, asking the sitter if she can extend her hours etc. You and the children must come first Blessings to you and please keep coming back
I just got divorced and left a terrible marriage. I know exactly how you feel, I work, have two kids and I am going back to school this fall to finally finish my degree. I know the Alanon meeting I went to Tuesday had two kids at it that someone brought with them, probably because she had no one to watch them. Not one person had a problem with that and we all giggled here and there when they got too silly. For the most part I think every one in a face to face group will be more than glad to have you there, kids and all. I have found a daily meditation with Courage to Change very helpful and I look at the Thought for the day on Hazelden. Take care!
