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Jerry F · Jerry F

Beyond frustrated and I'm tearing ready to cry and go throw a tantrum out in my back yard. Another death to alcohol...another innocent victim run over and dragged beneath the van of a drunk until dead; not a native sun a student at our local college from Texas. I want to storm the legislature and screa...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I am not sure if I am doing this right, but I am reading from One Day at a time and this Today's Reminder really sticks out for me: "I will clear out of my life and mind all the tools of destruction I have been using. I know they can do nothing to improve my situation. I will make myself learn to use a new s...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

Hello all....well today is my ABF's bday and I wanted to have a nice day. He hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months, but today he sent me a text message telling me that he is having a party on saturday and asked what I thought about him drinking. Everything went numb. I don't know what to do anymo...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

This past weekend, my wife and I took our kids to a bounce house. For those who are not familiar, bounce houses are basically large warehouses filled with giant inflatable bouncing things, slides, etc. Our kids love them, as do all kids. I only wish they had them when I was younger! Anyway, we love seein...

Jozie · Jozie

This past Weekend...My Husband & I were the only ones to go on the Kayaks, and I had never floated that area of River Before & the Veiws were Breathe Taking... I got to See 3 Bald Eagles, 1 Baby Bald Eagle, and Critters Gallore... You know when I am sitting out on a River by myself, & My Husband i...

devlynn · devlynn

Well I feel I need to share, get it off my chest or whatever we are going to call this...so here goes nothing :) I met my ABF just over a year ago. He actually worked for my husband. I was at a super low point in my life. A few months later I left my husband (this was in the works already for me) I ran into the arms...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I've been doing this for almost nine years, Left and went back, left and went back again and again. I feel as if I've burnt all my bridges with my family. I now am in my bedroom all the time except for work, which I am glad I have. No vechicle, my handicap brother is living us. requires assistant being fed, ge...

annemarieski · annemarieski

So I'm new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I have been in & out of Al-Anon meetings over the years. And about 4 years ago, we finally split (for many reasons, not just his alcoholism) He got better, I got better, and we got back together. I thought I'd never have to deal with this again, but it reared its ug...

devlynn · devlynn

I'll try to make this short.... When you all go to meetings what do you tell people? Simple question I am sure but not so simple for me. I've always been crazy open with my family and friends. However for many reasons I feel this however is none of thier business. When someone asks what I am doing or to d...

youfoundme · youfoundme

Today I feel good. I had a good last few days actually. Even though bf drank Saturday, I didn't react and I remained calm. We had a good relaxed day actually and I took a lot of time to just be in the moment. I can be happy or I can get upset. Its a lot nicer to be happy. So Sunday and Monday were extra nice be...

dealingwithit · dealingwithit

I have been what you can call a wallflower to this message board for sometime...when things got really rough, I'd read though and take comfort that I'm not alone. I was a member a few years back, but lost the sign on info...never forgot the site. Anyway... Things have just gotten horrendous...He got a D...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

If you believe in the power of prayer, please pray for my ex spouse. He was unable to attend our eldest son's wedding yesterday because he was ill. Whether he was actually sick or just to humiliated to attend, I do not know. I'm beyond the point to try to see the truth. I did attend the wedding; it was hel...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Since beginning meetings, I've pondered the definition of the word "selfish." I haven't looked in any dictionary, but I've thought a lot about my understanding of the word through my experiences. This past weekend, my ex has been going through hell with his delusions once again. It'...

oldergal · oldergal

The last day for my son (over 21) to be here was yesterday, he came by after a long weekend w/his girlfriend/buddy, to pick up the tent etc. I told him to leave the keys and that he could keep his belongings in my little cabin, until he found a place. He is not happy because I am "kicking" him out. H...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Hi. I am a very grateful member of Al-Anon. This evening my A tried to (it seemed to me) goad me into entering a discussion which would soon escalate into some form of verbal confrontation. She'd been drinking upstairs and I was waiting to actually see if she had been drinking, after she'd spoken a few s...

Nico22 · Nico22

Where to begin...first off I'm new to this website. I am reaching out for support from others. My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years but only lived with one another for a year now. I have two kids in past relationship so I never spent the night at his house when we were dating. I didn't know h...

chinup · chinup

just wanna say i love all of these posts,ive learned a gr8t deal,ty all and i love each and everyone of u.

chinup · chinup

thanks for yur help ann ,i still cant figure this one out ive tried everything,lol i just wonder if the emails r coming off of a old account cause ive deleted several accounts and started new ones and every time i did it was still there even with the new accounts,i need help plz....chinup

Chelle3 · Chelle3

I'm trying to let go of resentments today, but am so far highly unsuccessful. My husband is actively drinking, but trying to gain some better coping skills in hopes that he won't have to rely on alcohol as much. He's also getting therapy and we are in marriage counseling which I applaud him for. One posi...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

This weekend has been one of the hardest in a long time. As some of you may know by reading my post from yesterday that my ex-AH is suffering from hallucinations again. This time he thinks that I had sex with one of his brothers the night of our eldest son's wedding. The ex lives on the same property as t...

sdisnie · sdisnie

In taking care of myself, and only working on myself and being there for my children, I have been able to completely block out the ExA in my life, he tries everything he can to get my goat and I just ignore it all.....the emails, the texts, and I never let him know how I'm feeling deep inside. He must think I...

TheJeanGenie · TheJeanGenie

Hi all, I was just wondering if anyone had any ES&H to share on the topic of anxiety and depression in the morning? I have this peculiar feeling, particularly on Mondays, a feeling of impending doom and hopelessness. I hate to get up. I normally try at least to do my daily reading, in an attempt t...

chinup · chinup

its all still going into my email,,,,says noreply@activeboard....new post in?how do i get this to stop.ty muches for yur help....chinup

Jennifer · Jennifer

Since I can not throw a get together and make you wear a paper plate hat with the present bows on top like my family of origin is prone to do ... I offer my congratulations. And a prayer, may your child be blessed and never want for the simple things in life. Jen

youfoundme · youfoundme

Ok, I just wanted to see what you do when that hormonal thing happens to you *every* month...how you handle that crankiness? Those that have already gone through the change, maybe you have some wisdom? And those that have worked the steps, do the hormones still affect you? I am just wondering becau...

MAR2011 · MAR2011

My A checked himself into the hospital Friday after a week of not drinking, he was still detoxing and having halucinations and losing blocks of time, snapping to in the strangest places. At the hospital, they 302'd him because he has been actively suicidal (not actually doing anything but going pla...

Evian · Evian

Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good weekend. So.. just a bit of an update. CAS has allowed AH to come home for the weekends, although it still has to be supervised. I was okay with it, even a little happy about it at first. I really needed his help with things. The first weekend was last weekend, and he came a...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Danielle reminded me. Do you guys find it hard to listen to music as it brings back memor99ies when you and A were ok,or even great? I was/am a real music person. A was a great musician, and quite famous in his time. Sadly during a time when friends were dieing from being idiots drinking and doing heroin. A...

chinup · chinup

what setting in here (message board)do i go to to stop all the messageboard topics from going to my email.my email is bogged down i must have allowed a setting the other week and didnt know what i did,plz can anyone help me to reverse this mistake?

sdisnie · sdisnie

I felt attacked by a fellow al-anon member. I had a discussion earlier this week with a friend who told me his dad 'used' to be an alcoholic. I agrued with him that there is no 'used' to be, but he claims that his dad was but now in his late years can drink socially and control it. I've always heard that alc...

maresie · maresie

When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...

atheos · atheos

I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...

Katy · Katy

Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...

Otie · Otie

Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...

Rindaroo · Rindaroo

Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...

oldergal · oldergal

That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...

Excavator · Excavator

I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...

Bettina · Bettina

Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...

Debilyn · Debilyn

VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...

All I can be · All I can be

A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...

Gailey · Gailey

I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...

bud · bud

Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...

clep · clep

Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....

Debilyn · Debilyn

I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...

Otie · Otie

Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...

cmarie · cmarie

hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...

Katy · Katy

Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?

guitargirl · guitargirl

My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...

youfoundme · youfoundme

I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...

Georgia · Georgia

so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	I'm beyond sad, beyond angry (Preview) Beyond frustrated and I'm tearing ready to cry and go throw a tantrum out in my back yard. Another death to alcohol...another innocent victim run over and dragged beneath the van of a drunk until dead; not a native sun a student at our local college from Texas. I want to storm the legislature and screa...	Jerry F	18	724	Jun 2, 2011 by lacewing
	One Day at a time--January 17 page 17 (Preview) I am not sure if I am doing this right, but I am reading from One Day at a time and this Today's Reminder really sticks out for me: "I will clear out of my life and mind all the tools of destruction I have been using. I know they can do nothing to improve my situation. I will make myself learn to use a new s...	youfoundme	4	310	Jun 2, 2011 by youfoundme
	He asked permission to drink (Preview) Hello all....well today is my ABF's bday and I wanted to have a nice day. He hasn't been drinking for the past couple of months, but today he sent me a text message telling me that he is having a party on saturday and asked what I thought about him drinking. Everything went numb. I don't know what to do anymo...	Corgi2	10	448	Jun 2, 2011 by Corgi2
	Detachment (Preview) This past weekend, my wife and I took our kids to a bounce house. For those who are not familiar, bounce houses are basically large warehouses filled with giant inflatable bouncing things, slides, etc. Our kids love them, as do all kids. I only wish they had them when I was younger! Anyway, we love seein...	usedtobeanyer	8	811	Jun 2, 2011 by youfoundme
	Blessings Big & Small :) (Preview) This past Weekend...My Husband & I were the only ones to go on the Kayaks, and I had never floated that area of River Before & the Veiws were Breathe Taking... I got to See 3 Bald Eagles, 1 Baby Bald Eagle, and Critters Gallore... You know when I am sitting out on a River by myself, & My Husband i...	Jozie	3	827	Jun 2, 2011 by Hayes
	I feel the need to share- sorry this is really long (Preview) Well I feel I need to share, get it off my chest or whatever we are going to call this...so here goes nothing :) I met my ABF just over a year ago. He actually worked for my husband. I was at a super low point in my life. A few months later I left my husband (this was in the works already for me) I ran into the arms...	devlynn	11	583	Jun 1, 2011 by pinkchip
	I'm back, beaten down and lost!!! (LONG) (Preview) I've been doing this for almost nine years, Left and went back, left and went back again and again. I feel as if I've burnt all my bridges with my family. I now am in my bedroom all the time except for work, which I am glad I have. No vechicle, my handicap brother is living us. requires assistant being fed, ge...	sisdragonfly1957	4	464	Jun 1, 2011 by Jennifer
	What to do when you have a little one? (Preview) So I'm new here, but not new to Al-Anon. I have been in & out of Al-Anon meetings over the years. And about 4 years ago, we finally split (for many reasons, not just his alcoholism) He got better, I got better, and we got back together. I thought I'd never have to deal with this again, but it reared its ug...	annemarieski	10	603	Jun 1, 2011 by stephaniej
	What do to tell people (Preview) I'll try to make this short.... When you all go to meetings what do you tell people? Simple question I am sure but not so simple for me. I've always been crazy open with my family and friends. However for many reasons I feel this however is none of thier business. When someone asks what I am doing or to d...	devlynn	7	796	Jun 1, 2011 by Jennifer
	Good things happen :) and a spiritual message... (Preview) Today I feel good. I had a good last few days actually. Even though bf drank Saturday, I didn't react and I remained calm. We had a good relaxed day actually and I took a lot of time to just be in the moment. I can be happy or I can get upset. Its a lot nicer to be happy. So Sunday and Monday were extra nice be...	youfoundme	2	1107	Jun 1, 2011 by youfoundme
	Glad I'm not alone... (Preview) I have been what you can call a wallflower to this message board for sometime...when things got really rough, I'd read though and take comfort that I'm not alone. I was a member a few years back, but lost the sign on info...never forgot the site. Anyway... Things have just gotten horrendous...He got a D...	dealingwithit	3	278	Jun 1, 2011 by canadianguy
	Asking for Much-Needed Prayers (Preview) If you believe in the power of prayer, please pray for my ex spouse. He was unable to attend our eldest son's wedding yesterday because he was ill. Whether he was actually sick or just to humiliated to attend, I do not know. I'm beyond the point to try to see the truth. I did attend the wedding; it was hel...	GailMichelle	9	855	Jun 1, 2011 by White Rabbit
	How Do You Define the Word: Selfish? (Preview) Since beginning meetings, I've pondered the definition of the word "selfish." I haven't looked in any dictionary, but I've thought a lot about my understanding of the word through my experiences. This past weekend, my ex has been going through hell with his delusions once again. It'...	GailMichelle	7	3505	Jun 1, 2011 by kitty
	I AM FINISHED ENABLING (Preview) The last day for my son (over 21) to be here was yesterday, he came by after a long weekend w/his girlfriend/buddy, to pick up the tent etc. I told him to leave the keys and that he could keep his belongings in my little cabin, until he found a place. He is not happy because I am "kicking" him out. H...	oldergal	4	469	Jun 1, 2011 by Katy
	Maintaining my serenity (Preview) Hi. I am a very grateful member of Al-Anon. This evening my A tried to (it seemed to me) goad me into entering a discussion which would soon escalate into some form of verbal confrontation. She'd been drinking upstairs and I was waiting to actually see if she had been drinking, after she'd spoken a few s...	jitsuka	4	491	May 31, 2011 by chinup
	One day at a time.... (Preview) Where to begin...first off I'm new to this website. I am reaching out for support from others. My fiance and I have been together for 4 1/2 years but only lived with one another for a year now. I have two kids in past relationship so I never spent the night at his house when we were dating. I didn't know h...	Nico22	4	414	May 31, 2011 by Nico22
	wonderful posts (Preview) just wanna say i love all of these posts,ive learned a gr8t deal,ty all and i love each and everyone of u.	chinup	2	311	May 31, 2011 by GailMichelle
	still getting norply@activeboard new post in????its bogging my email down ,help (Preview) thanks for yur help ann ,i still cant figure this one out ive tried everything,lol i just wonder if the emails r coming off of a old account cause ive deleted several accounts and started new ones and every time i did it was still there even with the new accounts,i need help plz....chinup	chinup	5	764	May 31, 2011 by likemyheart
	Trying to let go of resentments... (Preview) I'm trying to let go of resentments today, but am so far highly unsuccessful. My husband is actively drinking, but trying to gain some better coping skills in hopes that he won't have to rely on alcohol as much. He's also getting therapy and we are in marriage counseling which I applaud him for. One posi...	Chelle3	15	496	May 31, 2011 by kitty
	How I've Preserved My Sanity This Weekend (Preview) This weekend has been one of the hardest in a long time. As some of you may know by reading my post from yesterday that my ex-AH is suffering from hallucinations again. This time he thinks that I had sex with one of his brothers the night of our eldest son's wedding. The ex lives on the same property as t...	GailMichelle	2	349	May 31, 2011 by Debilyn
	Where does one draw the line? (Preview) In taking care of myself, and only working on myself and being there for my children, I have been able to completely block out the ExA in my life, he tries everything he can to get my goat and I just ignore it all.....the emails, the texts, and I never let him know how I'm feeling deep inside. He must think I...	sdisnie	8	563	May 31, 2011 by maff52
	Impending doom - Anxiety in the morning, ES&H? (Preview) Hi all, I was just wondering if anyone had any ES&H to share on the topic of anxiety and depression in the morning? I have this peculiar feeling, particularly on Mondays, a feeling of impending doom and hopelessness. I hate to get up. I normally try at least to do my daily reading, in an attempt t...	TheJeanGenie	7	2625	May 30, 2011 by Jerry F
	still getting the same problem with my email being backed up (Preview) its all still going into my email,,,,says noreply@activeboard....new post in?how do i get this to stop.ty muches for yur help....chinup	chinup	1	276	May 30, 2011 by likemyheart
	Pssst White Rabbit (Preview) Since I can not throw a get together and make you wear a paper plate hat with the present bows on top like my family of origin is prone to do ... I offer my congratulations. And a prayer, may your child be blessed and never want for the simple things in life. Jen	Jennifer	3	407	May 30, 2011 by youfoundme
	Ladies...question.... (Preview) Ok, I just wanted to see what you do when that hormonal thing happens to you every month...how you handle that crankiness? Those that have already gone through the change, maybe you have some wisdom? And those that have worked the steps, do the hormones still affect you? I am just wondering becau...	youfoundme	16	574	May 30, 2011 by youfoundme
	Maybe some light at the end of the tunnel... (Preview) My A checked himself into the hospital Friday after a week of not drinking, he was still detoxing and having halucinations and losing blocks of time, snapping to in the strangest places. At the hospital, they 302'd him because he has been actively suicidal (not actually doing anything but going pla...	MAR2011	3	338	May 30, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Court again this week (Preview) Hi everyone. Hope you all had a good weekend. So.. just a bit of an update. CAS has allowed AH to come home for the weekends, although it still has to be supervised. I was okay with it, even a little happy about it at first. I really needed his help with things. The first weekend was last weekend, and he came a...	Evian	6	386	May 30, 2011 by Evian
	Does music.... (Preview) Danielle reminded me. Do you guys find it hard to listen to music as it brings back memor99ies when you and A were ok,or even great? I was/am a real music person. A was a great musician, and quite famous in his time. Sadly during a time when friends were dieing from being idiots drinking and doing heroin. A...	Debilyn	9	485	May 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	problems with my email getting bogged down with mess.board topics (Preview) what setting in here (message board)do i go to to stop all the messageboard topics from going to my email.my email is bogged down i must have allowed a setting the other week and didnt know what i did,plz can anyone help me to reverse this mistake?	chinup	1	323	May 30, 2011 by canadianguy
	Wrong to ask questions? (Preview) I felt attacked by a fellow al-anon member. I had a discussion earlier this week with a friend who told me his dad 'used' to be an alcoholic. I agrued with him that there is no 'used' to be, but he claims that his dad was but now in his late years can drink socially and control it. I've always heard that alc...	sdisnie	17	1084	May 30, 2011 by sdisnie
	geting to the place of surrender (Preview) When I met the ex A I had already been in therapy and in some kind of 12 step program for a long time. I really felt like I had a lot of insight and a great deal of recovery. Indeed I had come a long long way in looking at my childhood issues. I was no longer in denial about my childhood was one where I was abused...	maresie	4	1092	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	I love my new table! (Preview) I decided to try sitting at a different table this week -- wow am I ever glad I did! They're incredible... I don't even know how to describe it, except to say that the energy there is just amazing. And they've hit the right balance -- they're not afraid to share when they're struggling, and they also share...	atheos	5	294	May 30, 2011 by maryjane
	Learning to love the person! (Preview) Our son is twenty he lives here at home, he is a sensative lad with an heart of gold, he is always ready to help anyone, is sociable and gentle, he's gulable and daft, he likes getting drunk though and has been out of his head three times this week already, last night he came staggering home just after midn...	Katy	20	521	May 30, 2011 by Katy
	Could someone please give clarification? (Preview) Hi, everyone. As many of you already know I am struggling to learn as much as I can about addiction and recovery. I often see written here, on the board, that only the alcoholic can say that he/she is an alcoholic (addict). I sense that this is some kind of "sacred rule" in alanon. I confes...	Otie	17	1008	May 29, 2011 by sdisnie
	Here we go again (Preview) Hello, I went down this road many years ago with my husband and daughters father John. Alcohol and drugs ended up taking his life 7 years ago May 5th. I went to meetings and worked the steps and before and after his death. Al-anon was a blessing for me and in many ways still helps me today, but I haven't wor...	Rindaroo	6	451	May 29, 2011 by Jerry F
	Is it true or am I just imagining (Preview) That our drunks, our alcoholic's are these really great, intelligent, sensitive, talented people. As I read some of the topics and think about the people I know it seems that these type of people are really special, what is it, a mere coincidence or what? Is there any truth in this, can anyone shed some...	oldergal	7	405	May 29, 2011 by abbyal
	Wife is in jail tonight (Preview) I sure hope someone is around tonight. My wife just got out of ReHab 10 days ago ... 28 days in Seattle. She was so happy and positive when she got home! It was great to have her back!! Yesterday afternoon or evening she took a pill. I don't know how long she'd been taking them again or if this was the first tim...	Excavator	16	971	May 29, 2011 by Excavator
	Happy Memorial (Preview) Hope you all have a great weekend and no matter what your doing or where you are, enjoy yourself, let go and live in the moment. Fondly, Bettina	Bettina	4	281	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Happy Song for When You're Down (Preview) Silly Little song, but it can chear me up if I'm in the right mood. [video=]	GailMichelle	3	348	May 29, 2011 by tommyecat
	Can someone throw a bucket of serenity my way? (Preview) AH (actively drinking) was finally honest. That is the good part. I asked, "Is the affair over?" He said, "No, it isn't." It's not a good night for me tonight. He left. He said just for the night because he wants to calm down and he wants to think. He said we will talk tomorrow. ...	Very Very Tired	16	482	May 29, 2011 by Rora
	People, people who need people....... (Preview) VENT!!! I made it down the beautiful mountains to the store where I get meds. I have a service dog I shared about, Fezzik. He is a tiny party Pom, is so smart. I have a condition from one med I have to have. It seriously affects my heart. And also another darn problem. Fezz lets me know when my temp is dangerou...	Debilyn	8	790	May 28, 2011 by All I can be
	sun comen thru the green leaves (Preview) Well it was so cold up here I started a fire. Was nice till it went out. I was so covered by 4 dogs, one large cat and a kitten.Didn't want to get up and disturb anyone! Was warm under them Then a friend called I borrowed money from her till payday then she borrowed from me till payday. (c: It's nice to have fri...	Debilyn	6	455	May 28, 2011 by Debilyn
	How Al-Anon Works... (Preview) Aloha all...I was surprised when the UPS guy came and dropped off a box for my spouse who is the PI person for the district and the Literature person for our home group. The new paperback, large print (yay!!) version of the Al-Anon big book was there and guess what...what?...It's only 5 bucks. That i...	Jerry F	14	1500	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	A Smile (Preview) A smile I can not cause a smile as I try so hard each day. Its something that God gives us and bring it out I may. So many gifts he offers us and one of them is humor. The peace his presence gives inside has no base in rumor. So when I have some laughs or smiles that I give away.. They come right back to see me and mak...	All I can be	3	593	May 28, 2011 by tommyecat
	Finally...... (Preview) I got back to my f2f last night. I had to push myself because I have become very much in a rut and don't feel like getting back on the highway and going right where I came from just a few hours prior. It was a pretty good meeting and I did share some of what has been going on in my life. Just hope I keep it up this t...	Gailey	6	347	May 27, 2011 by abbyal
	repeat as needed ... sigh (Preview) I am feeling confused, mad and hurt again, in that order. I am smiling because I know this too shall pass. My exAH is back in prison. He explained to me that he drank and his SIL reported it. Of course there were plenty of circumstances and excuses as to why he drank blah blah blah. He is worried a partic...	Jennifer	4	339	May 27, 2011 by Jennifer
	Ok please...???? (Preview) I just had lunch with bf...he probably had a drink, I could smell it so...whatever, I can't control it. I am focusing on me more and more and its not bothering me as badly as before. I am learning from those who stayed in the relationship and worked their alanon program that its possible to find serenit...	youfoundme	7	507	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	trouble joining chat room - please help (Preview) Is anyone else having this problem? Can anyone help me figure out how to join the room, please?	bud	5	308	May 27, 2011 by bud
	some music (Preview) Hi everyone, I just wanted to share these videos and lyrics. I'm really into music and I think this band (The Gaslight Anthem) is absolutely brilliant and insanely talented. Their lyrics are so poetic and powerful (to me) and ya, before I blab about how in love with them I am forever, let me stop myself a...	danielle0516	2	315	May 27, 2011 by youfoundme
	What is rejection (Preview) Last night I was triggered by something and had to immediately concentrate on recovery and my Al-anon program. I was trying to determine my part in my feelings. When I am practicing this I find myself consumed with my thoughts. I am so consumed that it is hard to concentrate on what my A is saying to me....	clep	18	946	May 26, 2011 by Jerry F
	ugh (Preview) I do still relate. Been years now. Last night I dreamed I ran into this house and it was ex Ah's. Some icky people were hurting me physically, threatening me to pay them lots of money or else. My son was with me about 9yrs. old. I found myself standing and being in A's arms. I remember feeling safe and loved...	Debilyn	7	421	May 26, 2011 by pinkchip
	What is my part? (Preview) Reading another of today's posts entitled "Let it Begin With Me", got me to thinking.... Alcoholism/addiction isn't really a huge part of my daily life these days - I am divorced for over six years now, and separated for over eight.... my ex-AW has been sober for nine years... Still, I fi...	canadianguy	17	683	May 26, 2011 by likemyheart
	Opening Pandora's Box (Preview) Hi everybody. I have a question that I could use some feedback about. What is the difference about sitting in judgement and having an opinion about some one else---especially a strongly held negative opinion. I have more or less developed my own personal yardstick over the years, but it has a lot...	Otie	10	756	May 26, 2011 by Lyn0202
	Al-Anon newbie in a tough bind! (Preview) hello everyone, I am a newbie to Al-Anon but unfortunately, have been dealing with a Functioning Alcoholic mother for my entire life. I'm 30 and can remember as far back as I can that she's always drank. There has been a recent turn of events that has sky rocketed a need for recovery with her. Over th...	cmarie	8	380	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Find a face to face! and why, (Preview) Well, I know when my life becomes unmanagable it's a sure fire reminder to take myself off, into the rooms of alanon, well things have been tough around here lately, regarding our son, so I knew what I needed to do, sadly two of my old home groups have now closed, but I contacted old members who I haven't s...	Katy	6	272	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Faith (Preview) I went to my usual noon meeting today and the subject was faith. As the meeting commenced I realized how tired I was because I stayed up pretty late last night as there were multiple tornado warnings in my area. As people went around sharing I realized that I had quite a bit of fear when the baseball size...	tommyecat	3	509	May 26, 2011 by youfoundme
	subscription (Preview) Hi you guys. Just curious, what is a topic subscription? I see that you can unsubscribe. How does one subscribe?	tommyecat	4	308	May 26, 2011 by tommyecat
	Sponsor/relationship/friend triangle (Preview) My husband is a recovering alcoholic for 7 years. I am an al-anon for almost 3 years. One of our female friends, Sarah, recently discovered she is an alcoholic. She called my husband who took her to her first meeting. She is now about 6 weeks sober. Fairly quickly, he became her sponsor. I have a pro...	guitargirl	8	1846	May 25, 2011 by hotrod
	Let it begin with me (Preview) I have found that when I wake up cranky (like this morning) that I can turn it around and get happy. I have found that maknig a list of what I like and don't like makes me feel like I am gaining insight I didn't know I had. I have found that signing up for a class in karate is making me more excited and happy tha...	youfoundme	7	1247	May 25, 2011 by GailMichelle
	too funny (sad, really) not to share (Preview) so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him? although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.	Georgia	11	965	May 25, 2011 by tommyecat
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