The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
so in round #8722 of discussions with my AH the other night, he blurted out that obviously Al Anon and the people there have brainwashed me - why else would i be leaving him?
although the conversation was quite intense, when he said this...it struck me as so funny, i just busted out laughing.
My bf said that too, when I said I was going back to alanon, that "those people are just going to tell you to leave me" ....wouldn't that make a person want to change so they didn't get left? He hasn't stopped drinking yet.
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Let go and let God...Let it be... let it begin with me...
Humor can be my saving grace at times. Sounds like you are working a good program! A's need someone or something to blame generally other than themselves. Keep up the good work!
-- Edited by flopadopilus on Thursday 19th of May 2011 09:51:45 AM
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Dear Georgia. Hear this: About a week and 1/2 ago, my son dropped by the house. I met him at the door and told him to leave because I could tell by his body language as he walked across the yard that he had been drinking some. I've told him that I never want to see him or speak to him if he has been drinking. He tried to deny/argue the point. I simply closed the door and locked it.
I could hear him out on the porch yelling: Oh, I guess you have been listening to those people on your stupid al-anon website! Then he left.
Yup. When I first started counselling, ABF said to me with alarm, "But the counsellor will just tell you to dump me!"
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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could... Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
We have a young lady who has been attending our group for two years. Her husband gave her grief for over a year each night she left for a meeting. "Going to another one of your dumb Al-Anon meeting", "I hope you make up a bunch lies to tell your group tonight", "Forget about me and the kids, your meetings always come first". Every week it was something different. She continued to come inspite of his comments.
Fast forward to about six months ago. She missed two weeks in a row due to her work schedule. When she came into the room several members got up and hugged her, me included......never miss a chance to give a hug !! As she was sitting down she told us her husband called earlier in the day at work and reminded her she had a meeting tonight.......and then said....."You really need a meeting".
I think over time our A's see the changes in us, and like who we are, rather than who we were.
HUGS, RLC
-- Edited by RLC on Thursday 19th of May 2011 08:11:35 PM
RLC reminded me of how hard it was for me to go to meetings at first. I really got the cold shoulder at first. Then came the snide remarks.
Fast forward a few years and I hear this recently from my seven year old "Mom, I sure wish you had one of those meetings tonight" On a separate occassion from my husband...... "Don't you have one of those meetings to go to?"
HA.....It works IF you work it........sucks when you don't.
