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youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Ok please...????

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

I love how this was serious, yet I feel a lightness and humor in it. PROGRESS!!

yep his life is his own. My first thought was, well hopefully he will learn and it might give him a lightbulb moment or two.

I am excited for you! His drinking starting to not bug you is soooo great. Shared I was not bothered one bit after awhile. I felt so much love for him.

For me though,the disease didn't like it.NO one to argue with,manipulate,lie to, and more. Made him mad I neer got mad.

Ya think you know how things will turnout, but ya don't! hugs kiddo,debilyn

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes, trying for a little humor...maybe part of my coping mechanism is humor...learned behavior from parents...SIGH! Thanks Debi :) Thats just it, I know that if I can detach and be in my spiritual program, his drinking can't bother me... thanks :)

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

YFM,

You know, if your boyfriend decides to make the AA program work for him, this could be one heck of a great story when he picks up his first birthday chip from the podium.

For me, I try to see the humor in all things. I think laughter is the best medicine. I feel that the seriousness of life from being exposed to this disease can be suffocating at times. When I find opportunities to light up just a little bit more, I am able to flow with the current of life. Acceptance plays a big part in the equasion as well.

I agree with you, if he tries to get into the study, have at it buddy. This life is like one great big experiment. If he wants to be the guinea pig, so be it. If you don't want to bring him should he be accepted, that is o.k. too. Life is about choices. You can honor his, and he'll learn to honor yours.

Keep up the good work. You are already showing newbies how to detach and depersonalize the disease. Awesome job!

{{{{{hugs}}}}} TC

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Well, he is going to do what he is going to do...

Could get something out of the study, you never know. Might be good for him to look at it from a scientific point of view and what
it does to your body.

We must detach ourselves from everything alcoholic, sounds like thats what your trying to do, even though it can be frustrating at times.

Keep on practicing!!!

Luv, Bettina

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

TC: Thanks for that! I like that perspective :) And right, maybe he wants to learn something about this whole crazy thing...huh...thanks for helping me see the lighter side :)

Bettina: Thanks for your thoughts too, maybe he will get something out of the study...maybe that is why he was grinning? I don't know...he is going to do what he wants, because I am not him and can't control him :) Thanks!

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

Keeping the focus on myself is such a huge challenge!

Lately, I've been visualizing a street- "his" side and mine. It starts as a beautiful newly paved road with two yellow lines dividing it down the center- the lines extend on either side to infinity. When I become aware of something that is on "his" side, I focus on the yellow dividing lines and then try and focus only on my side of the street and what I want it to look like... I can now make things the way I want on my side, plant flowers, etc. no matter what is going on on the other side of the street.

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you Bud for that perspective :) I love to imagine a clean and happy side of the street for me...SIGH

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