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GailMichelle


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This weekend has been one of the hardest in a long time.  As some of  you may know by reading my post from yesterday that my ex-AH is suffering from hallucinations again.  This time he thinks that I had sex with one of his brothers the night of our eldest son's wedding.  The ex lives on the same property as this particular brother, so it's been a dangerous situation.

The ex's guns have all been taken away after he shot up the ceiling in the living room and put a few bullets through the front door of his small country home.  Fortunately, no one was injured.

Our youngest son, who is a RN and happens to work at a mental health hospital, is looking into getting him into either a rehab facility or the hospital that he works for.  I'm waiting for a call anytime to see if he has succeeded.  My ex is a danger to others and himself.  (I HATE this disease.)  I'm not involved because he is very angry with me for doing something that I did not do.

Yesterday, I allowed my thoughts to take over and I was pretty wiped out physically, emotionally and mentally.  However, today I grabbed the Al-Anon books Courage to Change  and One Day at a Time in Al-Anon and read until I could get a grip on reality.  How to handle just about any situation is found in these 2 books. 

Through reading these books, I have a deeper understanding and greater acceptance of the harsh facts of alcoholism:

1.  I am powerless over alcohol.

2.  I cannot control the alcoholic

3.  Guilt is futile; it prevents me from being my best today

4.  I have to focus on myself (I feel less selfish doing so than ever before)

5.  I can only change me - (how I view things and how I behave)

6.  I deserve happiness even if my ex is going through hell (all self-created)

These are just a few truths that I have revisited over the past two days.  I'm in a situation where "let go and let God" is absolutely necessary for my sanity.

To all who responded to my post requesting prayers:  THANK YOU for your support!

Addendum:  just got the call from our son.  He is taking his dad to rehab right now.  Since he is not violent, our son doesn't think the mental hospital is appropriate placement at this time.

-- Edited by GailMichelle on Monday 30th of May 2011 07:16:51 PM



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-- Edited by GailMichelle on Monday 30th of May 2011 07:34:43 PM

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Dear Gail,

  Thanks for the update.  You did  a fantatic job in taking care of you.

 I agree, the solution to living with this deadly disease can be found by reading the Courage to Chande and the ODAT.  Any time I felt lost and frightened I usedd these powerful tools and reached a place of serenity. 

So glad that you took care of yourself and that hubby is on the way to rehab as we speak.  Letting Go and letting God is difficult but it works!!

Try to rest and keep on sharing.



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Still with ya honey. I am glad your wonderful son is part of helping. So glad the guns are taken away.

It is sad that someone has to be hurt for anyone to do anything isn't it? I mean mental health, police, child protection etc.

Hope you can take a breath and rest now. I am so sad he is in such a horrible place in the disease. He is fortunate he has so many that care.

Hugs and prayers,debilyn



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