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My A checked himself into the hospital Friday after a week of not drinking, he was still detoxing and having halucinations and losing blocks of time, snapping to in the strangest places. At the hospital, they 302'd him because he has been actively suicidal (not actually doing anything but going places and contemplating jumping) the last few weeks and sent him to a clinic to detox and be put on meds.
He keeps saying how much he wants to jump the fence and just come home but he knows 1-he can't do that and 2-he needs this treatment.
Sometime this week he will be transferred to a rehab. He seems to be doing it 'right' this time. He's not holding anything back from the psychologist like he did the last time. We're all praying this will be his last time in rehab and that something will flip the switch.
My only concern throughout his rehab is that he becomes close with the wrong people again. Wrong people being ones that are there under court order (or family order...) and don't really care to get better yet... Keeping my fingers crossed!
Aloha MAR...This is a part of the first step. "Admitted we were powerless..." You are concerned as a normal person would be and what would help is to self focus and get around others in the face to face rooms of the Al-Anon Family Groups where there is solid awarenesses and experience that will really support you. He has his part...you have yours. We're in support. (((((hugs)))))
Rehab , perfect time for you to get back to taking care of yourself . I hope your attending Al-Anon for yourself as sobriety is not the answer to all of lifes problems your going to need support from people who have been where your at. Cant choose his friends in recovery either ,try not to worry give him to God and let him take care of him .And who knows this time the light at the end of the tunnel may not be attached to a train . Miracles happen every day . Louise
My only concern throughout his rehab is that he becomes close with the wrong people again. Wrong people being ones that are there under court order (or family order...) and don't really care to get better yet... Keeping my fingers crossed!
Good your AH is in rehab. He will recover if that is what he chooses.
When my AH went to rehab (the three times I pushed him to go and he was drunk enough that he relented), I thought my life was going to be suddenly perfect. He'd be sober, life would be great. I learned that sobriety didn't fix everything. Sober living came with its own set of challenges. The only way I could be equipped to deal with these challenges was to let go of what HE was doing and concentrate on myself instead. When I got a program of my own and stopped obsessing about the ins and outs of HIS recovery and realized that I needed help and support too, life got so much better. It was then that I was able to let go of the fear of "what if he drinks again" that plagued even before he got out of rehab.
Hope you are attending some meetings for yourself - your recovery is every bit as important as his, and deserves your attention and focus. You can't control his recovery, but you can control your own.
