Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

sarebaer · sarebaer

Since school has been out I have really enjoyed seeing my grandkids more. But summer also means ah drinking almost daily. I have a boundary that if he picks up a drink I am done for the day. I refuse to be around him period. Start new the next day.(only way to protect myself from his verbal attacks) . Works 8...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

In al anon we talk about how our qualifiers often have a distorted sense of reality. I feel like my AH is in that distorted realm right now but I can't be sure and I'm having a hard time being objective. I also feel like the current situation is one I've been trying so hard to avoid, steer clear of and be mindf...

hawaiilover · hawaiilover

My A hubby has been in a binge for weeks and I have learned to live life on lifes terms. The things we once did together, I do them alone now. I moved on with my life and am happy about that. Yes, I miss hubby. It would be nice to have that normal life. However, as I see things and the direction they are going, it w...

ivanasinclair · ivanasinclair

Hello, My name is Ivana Sinclair and my husband is an alcoholic and a drug addict. He is in the United States Army, he is Airborne Infantry. He has a very hard job and he was deployed to Afghanistan in 2010, he has been back for 7 months. He started using cocaine just a few weeks after getting back from depl...

Mandagrl1 · Mandagrl1

Years ago, I went into a ridiculous pit of anxiety for a month or so. It was the worst Id ever experienced. At the time, my therapist thought it was delayed grief from my dad dying. I remember I started feeling agoraphobic. Didnt want to be inside or out, around people or alone. Thats creeping back i...

JLeigh · JLeigh

I've been here a few times to read, but have never posted. I guess I just need to feel like I am connecting with others that are dealing with similar issues :( I have a 25 year old son. He has had drug/alcohol problems since he was around the age of 16. He has never been to rehab, but did do outpatient couns...

tommyecat · tommyecat

I just signed up and made travel arrangements for an AA & Alanon mountain conference near the end of summer. I live in a large metropolitan city and have been so privileged to have attended many weekend local conferences for both programs that are just wonderful. This is my first time being away...

MDK · MDK

I feel like I take 2 steps forward and 3 steps back..........Last night my husband and I were arguing a little bit last night. I know I shouldn't react or think is it really that important but it is like he knew exactly how to push my buttons. Sometimes I find it difficult not to react to something I feel so s...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Now that my AH is back home after 8 months working out of state with once-monthly visits home, I'm having a harder time staying aware of my own needs/wants without it escalating into a huge pity party that ruins my whole day/week. For example, when he was away I definitely had an awareness that our roma...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

My higher power was listening. I've been reaching out, trying to find companionship and comfort. I went to one of my regular al anon meetings this evening. The speaker was a woman who I enjoy hearing very much. She is frequently the first to share after a qualification and never forgets to thank the spe...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

So we finally decided that we need some time off. Even though my ABF has been taking plenty of time off while he's been partying. Alanon has certainly helped because it has been a month of hell and before I would have wanted an answer immediately....with the help of the program, I was able to wait it out un...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Here is to passing it on. I don't know the writer, but thought you guys would like a little laughter in your day. THE MATURITY PRAYER God, Grant me the maturity to accept what I'm feeling and the courage to correct the actions that I took that made me feel this wayP.S., God is showing off today Hugs to...

Schmuck22 · Schmuck22

My husband entered rehab 2 weeks ago in a 90 day program. We rely on letters to talk. I don't have any family in the country and relied on him a lot...too much I am finding out. My anxiety is at an all time high, and while going to a group once a week is helpful, it doesn't cure the lonely nights and affection he...

Katy · Katy

Well, we set boundaries which son broke, we didn't have a plan B, for me I was stumped and chose to say nothing I just read loads and practiced what you all teach me, it hurts lots, lots of turmoil and heavy heart, seems son chooses to sleep outside with no home comforts rather than repsceting our wishes, o...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I have no fathers, gpas are gone,uncles are gone, husbands are gone. BUT all were GREAT fathers, I was blessed. Daddy always WOOPED! after he dove into our pool as it was cold! We held boards for him as he built something like a fort or teeter totter. Grampa sang to us Johny comes marching home again and I'...

mslouise · mslouise

Good morning, I have seen a lot of posts about A-sons or daughters recently. As a mom of a 10 year son, how can I not wonder??? I was raised by an A, but I did not get the addictive "gene" they talk about..my ex-hubby was a drinker at one time, but has not drank in many many years but has that gene,...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I have been taking the next right steps in dealing with reports and doctors, using a lockbox, changing the locks, thinking logically about who has ever had access to my keys, telling my moostiff how glad I am he did not bite whoever it was in the butt because I would rather wonder forever than have him get...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Every holiday gets a little better, but it is still difficult for me not to feel a bit sad, envious, resentful, as each one rolls around that now my ex AH is sober and sharing the life that was supposed to be ours with someone else. Ouch! I gave him 18 years of my life and got gypped. Seems most people I kno...

tommyecat · tommyecat

To all of the dads on this site. I hope you have a wonderful day!

surfingmaestro · surfingmaestro

I had an ok father's day and I really had to use my al-anon skills today. My wife is 13 months in recovery from alcohol and pills and is working a program. She is also PMSing right now, which I think stands for "Permission to Mistreat Spouse." It's very hard. Holidays of any sort are hard fo...

javagirl67 · javagirl67

Hi..... New to this forum, or any forum.. But recognizing I do need folks I can relate and talk to.. desperately.. First let me start by saying I am an adult child of an alcoholic who is engaged to a 1 yr recovering alcohlic. I grew up as the "peace maker/doer" and still seem to hold that ro...

mslouise · mslouise

So I have drama with my family....I try to avoid while still maintaining some kind of relationship with them....it's hard....I was told by my sponser that when I start saying "no" to things and sticking up for myself, my family wouldn't like it too much. Problem with that is, your then lab...

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

My husband is struggling with his recovery. He made it 8 days sober then drank today. His outpatient program requires full disclosure but he doesn't want to tell them about his slip. I don't know if I should tell them. My husband thinks he'll get kicked out of the program if he tells. I don't thi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Oh my...It has been awhile since I have been able to open up on MIP. I am so grateful that you all don't give up on me. I am recovering(still) from my trip to CA. I have so many regrets over what hap- pened while I was down there. I am sorry to say but the experience was not good & it is all my fault. I never ev...

Corgi2 · Corgi2

First I want to start off by thanking all of those who take the time to comment on my posts or send positive thoughts my way. It truly means the world to me. I read almost every single post on here...even if I don't respond to it; I still get something from each and every one of you. I was hoping for a little fee...

Kristi136188 · Kristi136188

My husband is recovering, which I've said before. I think alot of his drinking had to do more with his mental health problems....but then again it's like the question "which came first, the chicken or the egg?" Our relationship is ok. It's not all great and romantic like it used to be, but it...

Aimee · Aimee

How do you practice forgiveness? Do you pray for the person you want to forgive? Would it be wrong to actually tell the person that you forgive them as a way of letting go? I had this idea pop into my head (after an excellent reply from Clep regarding my last post) about possibly doing a kind of reverse amme...

Aloha · Aloha

Hi everyone - I'm passing this along. Our Area Delegate shared this with our groups: The second podcast on Sponsorship has been posted on the al-anon.alateen.org Members' Web site. To access the podcasts, click on the "For Members & Groups" logo on the home page. Members from across...

Jeff · Jeff

My wife, soon to be ex, just returned from Hazeldon. Prior to seeking treatment she stepped outside of our vows, lost her job, and was beyond verbally abusive in our relationship. I had high hopes that she would return with a new perspective and we would raise our children together apart, but yet as a...

Jozie · Jozie

First Let me say that I want to Send a VERY Happy Fathers Day Out to our Gentlemen Here :0) I Do hope that you all managed to enjoy your Day because you are WORTH IT... So Happy Belated Fathers Day to You All =) For me it was Tough I Suppose, but it always is... 3rd Year without My Daddy-0

... But My Husband Re...

chinup · chinup

after all that my a,b/f has done to me and after 4 yrs of being togethera and all ive put out on him and money lots of that and allowing him to live on me and not work and not pay nothing and stayed tanked up on everything selling my scipts scripts to but his stuff and seeling my stuff to it with and here at the end...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Hi. Sorry - again another long gap since I have been in here. Life still not good in the Tattyhead household. AH has been in hospital again, having been vomiting blood, bleeding the other end and having acquired pneumonia just as an add-on. The miracle of modern medicine and all its interventions save...

hawaiilover · hawaiilover

Hello to all: I am an Alanon member for the past 10 + years. I attend weekly meetings. However, I need all the help I can get from Alanon. I am married to an A husband for 36 years. He has been in and out of rehabs and still does not have recovery. Alanon is what keeps me together. I am unable to attend more than o...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Besides spilling marshmallows and brown sugar cooking it in the microwave, oh fun to clean up.Dog ran off with the towel and rags I was using cleaning it, spread sticky "everywhere." Was hot so I took a feather bed out to the bed glider on the deck, then it rained all night, The racoon is scrat...

Rora · Rora

I find for me that the acceptance of reality is a gradual process. Today, it is Fathers Day. My exaH now has restrictions put on him for supervised access of our son because of a recent police report indicating an attempted suicide. I made arrangments with exaH's grown daughter to pick up our son for F...

alexmaui · alexmaui

Someone from my meeting is also going to my church and my gym. We talk about general things when we are not in our meeting. But I have met her husband (her qualifier ) and she has met mine (ditto) I'm not sure how to act, but it feels like by NOT acknowledging each other we are behaving like we are ahsmed.......

Pushka · Pushka

I started going to Alanon in December of last year and attend meetings fairly regularly. I enjoy them a lot. This year has been a year of reflection and trying to figure myself out. Who am I, what do I want, how can I finally get my act together. This has been going on for about 6 years to long now for myse...

Betterfuture · Betterfuture

I tried to go to another f2f meeting earlier today but I saw some of the same people that were in the other f2f meeting I went to on tue. I know that everyone cries but I was completely overwhelmed with tears and emotions at the last meeting I was sort of embarassed. I really wanted to go today because I've be...

Mandagrl1 · Mandagrl1

Hello all. My husband was admitted to a 28 day program today for alcohol and pain pill abuse. It's been a sudden development that I'm still wrapping my head around and I feel like it will help to get it all out. Forgive my emotions, they're all over the map right now. A little background first- He and I...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I dream of ex AH as you know. It is back to when he was so nice. I know being surrounded by life,plants,animals,friends etc is what keeps me ok. For me it all left a huge scar. Once inawhile it can hurt out of nowhere. I am even thinking the last couple days, I should call and go see him. Oral cancer people from...

Lila Frost · Lila Frost

Hello. It has been a while since I have posted. My AM went to rehab finally and stayed for thirty days. While there she did get accused of hiding alcohol in the woods but it was never proven. Since she has been home the past four months she has gone to see her counselor who lives 2 hours away 2 or 3 times a month...

MichaelR · MichaelR

I dont know where to start. My fiance/ partner for the past, over 10 years, died from a Drug Overdose. I didnt know she was using drugs. Unfortunately she was a nurse and this is where her drug use started from. Years ago I sorta had an idea she might be doing something, I asked her but she denied it and...

devlynn · devlynn

Hi everyone. I'm not really sure where to start. First I guess I should forward everyone I can be long winded lol. I have found a local meeting and will be going to my first tomorrow night. I'm nervous and excited. I have no idea what to expect so I have my fingers crossed. I've heard a few bad rings about mee...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm very interested in continuing step work online here, when I click on the link it doesn't appear that anything really new or relavent has been posted upon for a long time? That was what I read at a glance and noticed I had to re-register. Is there a step work link that is relavent at this point?

Mlkiss75 · Mlkiss75

I live in NYC with my AH of 14 months. He is seeking treatment via IOP and by attending meetings. He works sporadically and I pay most of the bills. I am a lawyer and very very busy - small office, not a lot of people to talk to. I've started going back to church and attend al anon twice a week but I still feel iso...

Debilyn · Debilyn

There is some nut harrassing me online. I caught him pretending to be someone else and told him to go away. Now he is on another site, my JW meeting site doing it. So unbeknowest to me...He wrote that message I got and used pictures from a guy I thought was cool a long time ago. It was another lie. Now I know wh...

Samsgram · Samsgram

I am just so upset right now...My daughter informed me that my grandaughter is not staying at my house as often anymore and she is hiring a 15 yr old to watch her. She said my gd apparently does not respect her (my d) enough when she leaves my house. She feels I`am a bad influence on her. Or that she respects m...

Hermom · Hermom

I hope so because it's the only feeling I have left after rehabs, jails, psyche wards, kicking her out,3 years of sobriety out on her own, relapse, hospitals, anxiety, panic attacks, lose all she has, moving back home, AA, Relapse, AA, relapse, , kicking her back out, and now I'm back to square one deal...

Debilyn · Debilyn

My stomach is all twisted, I feel like crying. Over what? There is someone interested in me. He is my religion, sounds so much like me. He contacted me. For years I have prayed for this. Then when there is a chance,I freeze up. Feel unworthy. I don't know why I care, I don't usually, but I think, well what if...

Kristi136188 · Kristi136188

So this has been a hard thing for me, I know that in order to really be successful I need a sponsor. To hold me to attending meetings, hold me accountable for working the steps, and having someone that I can call when the A's in my life push me hard and I let them get the best of me. Maybe it's just easier for som...

purpleraven · purpleraven

i'm in a sticky situation involving my ex-A. not that i want to be involved with him, but i'm 12 weeks pregnant, conceived just a week before he left us without warning. i had to tell him via email, he'd cut off all contact. now i'm regretting telling him, since i expect nothing from him ... but, isn't it th...

Kristi136188 · Kristi136188

I am new to this webpage. I found out a year ago that my husband had a problem with alcohol. I also found out that he had lied to me about many other things besides the alcohol. When we first met he was still in a relationship with his wife, although he told me they were still married, but seperated and only li...

lifewontwait · lifewontwait

Hi everyone, I've been reading the board for about a month, and feel like it's time for me to join in on the conversations. I first want to say that I appreciate that this board and it's members are here any time day or night that I need some ESH. It's really been a great resource for me, and that's why I want t...

John · John

Hello everyone, As many of us already know, the economy is taking a toll on so many people, so hard that life as we once knew it has changed. So it is with me. As I write this post I am struggling to just keep my head above water, but the water is rising very fast. And I am reaching out for help. At one time, th...

hopeful411 · hopeful411

my ab and i have been off and on for many years we have a young child. I am currently in counseling and we are working on making our family work....well so i thought. 1 week he wants the help and admits the problems. Another week its hed rather be an alcoholic then have me nagging him. I'm stronlgy encou...

jamfu · jamfu

This morning I began to reflect on a passage I read in my how al-anon works book. In summary it read that the family holding the A out of the water to keep her head from getting wet only supports the disease further to enable her destructive behavior. This made me very angry at her family. They have been doi...

chinup · chinup

gues id thought she was gonna really abandone me completely,but she called me this am and was such a sweet conversation and i got to tell her what was really going on with me ,,,,female problems,im 48 y/0,hormones r really playing games with me lol,but any ways thought id give yall the update hm i typed t...

chinup · chinup

took my whole day in court with him back in forth i had to hunt down my witness ,all for nothing the law had the dates mixed up when he actually sliced my brand new tires it had been a yr ago and i couldnt remember took them that long to catch up with him on some other charges that his boss bailed him out of,but b...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My AS was lashing out last night when he can't get what he wants from me, telling me that I didn't raise him right and that is why his life is in the tank now. I know that he was loved, cared for, we were not perfect (he was our first child), we were young and viewed life in a very simple way. I know how they talk...

Red Hawk · Red Hawk

The last several days, the internal pressure's been building up again. I was aware of it, but thought I was controlling it pretty well and everything was fine. Then yesterday, I made a comment to a co-worker which apparently was far nastier than I realized. Not the comment itself (although I shouldn...

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	Am I being being over protective? (Preview) Since school has been out I have really enjoyed seeing my grandkids more. But summer also means ah drinking almost daily. I have a boundary that if he picks up a drink I am done for the day. I refuse to be around him period. Start new the next day.(only way to protect myself from his verbal attacks) . Works 8...	sarebaer	4	465	Jun 23, 2011 by youfoundme
	The roller coaster ride continues (Preview) In al anon we talk about how our qualifiers often have a distorted sense of reality. I feel like my AH is in that distorted realm right now but I can't be sure and I'm having a hard time being objective. I also feel like the current situation is one I've been trying so hard to avoid, steer clear of and be mindf...	Mlkiss75	8	605	Jun 22, 2011 by Mlkiss75
	Expectations (Preview) My A hubby has been in a binge for weeks and I have learned to live life on lifes terms. The things we once did together, I do them alone now. I moved on with my life and am happy about that. Yes, I miss hubby. It would be nice to have that normal life. However, as I see things and the direction they are going, it w...	hawaiilover	10	611	Jun 22, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Trying to help my husband with addiction (Preview) Hello, My name is Ivana Sinclair and my husband is an alcoholic and a drug addict. He is in the United States Army, he is Airborne Infantry. He has a very hard job and he was deployed to Afghanistan in 2010, he has been back for 7 months. He started using cocaine just a few weeks after getting back from depl...	ivanasinclair	9	851	Jun 22, 2011 by tommyecat
	Day 4 of Husband in rehab-Having a really, really bad day...Please help... (Preview) Years ago, I went into a ridiculous pit of anxiety for a month or so. It was the worst Id ever experienced. At the time, my therapist thought it was delayed grief from my dad dying. I remember I started feeling agoraphobic. Didnt want to be inside or out, around people or alone. Thats creeping back i...	Mandagrl1	9	647	Jun 22, 2011 by Red Hawk
	Hello.... (Preview) I've been here a few times to read, but have never posted. I guess I just need to feel like I am connecting with others that are dealing with similar issues :( I have a 25 year old son. He has had drug/alcohol problems since he was around the age of 16. He has never been to rehab, but did do outpatient couns...	JLeigh	7	604	Jun 22, 2011 by tommyecat
	Conference (Preview) I just signed up and made travel arrangements for an AA & Alanon mountain conference near the end of summer. I live in a large metropolitan city and have been so privileged to have attended many weekend local conferences for both programs that are just wonderful. This is my first time being away...	tommyecat	7	377	Jun 22, 2011 by tommyecat
	falling back into old ways (Preview) I feel like I take 2 steps forward and 3 steps back..........Last night my husband and I were arguing a little bit last night. I know I shouldn't react or think is it really that important but it is like he knew exactly how to push my buttons. Sometimes I find it difficult not to react to something I feel so s...	MDK	7	493	Jun 22, 2011 by MDK
	Walking the Line Between Self Awareness and Total Pity Party (Preview) Now that my AH is back home after 8 months working out of state with once-monthly visits home, I'm having a harder time staying aware of my own needs/wants without it escalating into a huge pity party that ruins my whole day/week. For example, when he was away I definitely had an awareness that our roma...	stephaniej	6	440	Jun 22, 2011 by kitty
	Chugging through one day at a time (Preview) My higher power was listening. I've been reaching out, trying to find companionship and comfort. I went to one of my regular al anon meetings this evening. The speaker was a woman who I enjoy hearing very much. She is frequently the first to share after a qualification and never forgets to thank the spe...	Mlkiss75	4	350	Jun 21, 2011 by Pushka
	Taking a break (Preview) So we finally decided that we need some time off. Even though my ABF has been taking plenty of time off while he's been partying. Alanon has certainly helped because it has been a month of hell and before I would have wanted an answer immediately....with the help of the program, I was able to wait it out un...	Corgi2	3	477	Jun 21, 2011 by parfait624
	Maturity Prayer (Preview) Here is to passing it on. I don't know the writer, but thought you guys would like a little laughter in your day. THE MATURITY PRAYER God, Grant me the maturity to accept what I'm feeling and the courage to correct the actions that I took that made me feel this wayP.S., God is showing off today Hugs to...	tommyecat	2	474	Jun 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	New to all of this... husband rehab anxiety depression (Preview) My husband entered rehab 2 weeks ago in a 90 day program. We rely on letters to talk. I don't have any family in the country and relied on him a lot...too much I am finding out. My anxiety is at an all time high, and while going to a group once a week is helpful, it doesn't cure the lonely nights and affection he...	Schmuck22	5	9173	Jun 21, 2011 by youfoundme
	Goodmorning mip, son update! (Preview) Well, we set boundaries which son broke, we didn't have a plan B, for me I was stumped and chose to say nothing I just read loads and practiced what you all teach me, it hurts lots, lots of turmoil and heavy heart, seems son chooses to sleep outside with no home comforts rather than repsceting our wishes, o...	Katy	3	348	Jun 21, 2011 by Debilyn
	Fathers are not just blood ones (Preview) I have no fathers, gpas are gone,uncles are gone, husbands are gone. BUT all were GREAT fathers, I was blessed. Daddy always WOOPED! after he dove into our pool as it was cold! We held boards for him as he built something like a fort or teeter totter. Grampa sang to us Johny comes marching home again and I'...	Debilyn	3	355	Jun 21, 2011 by Debilyn
	Kids (Preview) Good morning, I have seen a lot of posts about A-sons or daughters recently. As a mom of a 10 year son, how can I not wonder??? I was raised by an A, but I did not get the addictive "gene" they talk about..my ex-hubby was a drinker at one time, but has not drank in many many years but has that gene,...	mslouise	8	438	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	Moving along (Preview) I have been taking the next right steps in dealing with reports and doctors, using a lockbox, changing the locks, thinking logically about who has ever had access to my keys, telling my moostiff how glad I am he did not bite whoever it was in the butt because I would rather wonder forever than have him get...	Jennifer	8	481	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	Lots of recovery, but it still stings... (Preview) Every holiday gets a little better, but it is still difficult for me not to feel a bit sad, envious, resentful, as each one rolls around that now my ex AH is sober and sharing the life that was supposed to be ours with someone else. Ouch! I gave him 18 years of my life and got gypped. Seems most people I kno...	Loupiness	7	379	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	Happy Father's Day (Preview) To all of the dads on this site. I hope you have a wonderful day!	tommyecat	5	397	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	Today (Preview) I had an ok father's day and I really had to use my al-anon skills today. My wife is 13 months in recovery from alcohol and pills and is working a program. She is also PMSing right now, which I think stands for "Permission to Mistreat Spouse." It's very hard. Holidays of any sort are hard fo...	surfingmaestro	10	722	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	Living with a recovering Alcoholic (Preview) Hi..... New to this forum, or any forum.. But recognizing I do need folks I can relate and talk to.. desperately.. First let me start by saying I am an adult child of an alcoholic who is engaged to a 1 yr recovering alcohlic. I grew up as the "peace maker/doer" and still seem to hold that ro...	javagirl67	8	2071	Jun 21, 2011 by javagirl67
	You try and do something nice (Preview) So I have drama with my family....I try to avoid while still maintaining some kind of relationship with them....it's hard....I was told by my sponser that when I start saying "no" to things and sticking up for myself, my family wouldn't like it too much. Problem with that is, your then lab...	mslouise	11	756	Jun 21, 2011 by pinkchip
	Difficult decisions. (Preview) My husband is struggling with his recovery. He made it 8 days sober then drank today. His outpatient program requires full disclosure but he doesn't want to tell them about his slip. I don't know if I should tell them. My husband thinks he'll get kicked out of the program if he tells. I don't thi...	Mlkiss75	14	707	Jun 21, 2011 by tommyecat
	it has been awhile (Preview) Oh my...It has been awhile since I have been able to open up on MIP. I am so grateful that you all don't give up on me. I am recovering(still) from my trip to CA. I have so many regrets over what hap- pened while I was down there. I am sorry to say but the experience was not good & it is all my fault. I never ev...	Hoot Nanny	3	473	Jun 21, 2011 by Jerry F
	Confused at Best (Preview) First I want to start off by thanking all of those who take the time to comment on my posts or send positive thoughts my way. It truly means the world to me. I read almost every single post on here...even if I don't respond to it; I still get something from each and every one of you. I was hoping for a little fee...	Corgi2	7	515	Jun 20, 2011 by parfait624
	The "New" A in my life (Preview) My husband is recovering, which I've said before. I think alot of his drinking had to do more with his mental health problems....but then again it's like the question "which came first, the chicken or the egg?" Our relationship is ok. It's not all great and romantic like it used to be, but it...	Kristi136188	3	552	Jun 20, 2011 by Kristi136188
	Practicing Forgivness (Preview) How do you practice forgiveness? Do you pray for the person you want to forgive? Would it be wrong to actually tell the person that you forgive them as a way of letting go? I had this idea pop into my head (after an excellent reply from Clep regarding my last post) about possibly doing a kind of reverse amme...	Aimee	16	839	Jun 20, 2011 by likemyheart
	Podcast on Sponsorship (Preview) Hi everyone - I'm passing this along. Our Area Delegate shared this with our groups: The second podcast on Sponsorship has been posted on the al-anon.alateen.org Members' Web site. To access the podcasts, click on the "For Members & Groups" logo on the home page. Members from across...	Aloha	1	459	Jun 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	When does the bitterness end? (Preview) My wife, soon to be ex, just returned from Hazeldon. Prior to seeking treatment she stepped outside of our vows, lost her job, and was beyond verbally abusive in our relationship. I had high hopes that she would return with a new perspective and we would raise our children together apart, but yet as a...	Jeff	12	779	Jun 20, 2011 by canadianguy
	Yesterday's Yesterday.... (Preview) First Let me say that I want to Send a VERY Happy Fathers Day Out to our Gentlemen Here :0) I Do hope that you all managed to enjoy your Day because you are WORTH IT... So Happy Belated Fathers Day to You All =) For me it was Tough I Suppose, but it always is... 3rd Year without My Daddy-0 ... But My Husband Re...	Jozie	1	372	Jun 20, 2011 by hotrod
	i know it not gonna be easy (Preview) after all that my a,b/f has done to me and after 4 yrs of being togethera and all ive put out on him and money lots of that and allowing him to live on me and not work and not pay nothing and stayed tanked up on everything selling my scipts scripts to but his stuff and seeling my stuff to it with and here at the end...	chinup	2	470	Jun 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Further up-date (Preview) Hi. Sorry - again another long gap since I have been in here. Life still not good in the Tattyhead household. AH has been in hospital again, having been vomiting blood, bleeding the other end and having acquired pneumonia just as an add-on. The miracle of modern medicine and all its interventions save...	Tattyhead	6	469	Jun 20, 2011 by Tattyhead
	Newcomer to this site (Preview) Hello to all: I am an Alanon member for the past 10 + years. I attend weekly meetings. However, I need all the help I can get from Alanon. I am married to an A husband for 36 years. He has been in and out of rehabs and still does not have recovery. Alanon is what keeps me together. I am unable to attend more than o...	hawaiilover	8	467	Jun 19, 2011 by hawaiilover
	Today. Well..... (Preview) Besides spilling marshmallows and brown sugar cooking it in the microwave, oh fun to clean up.Dog ran off with the towel and rags I was using cleaning it, spread sticky "everywhere." Was hot so I took a feather bed out to the bed glider on the deck, then it rained all night, The racoon is scrat...	Debilyn	1	470	Jun 19, 2011 by likemyheart
	So, this is REALLY my life??!!! (Preview) I find for me that the acceptance of reality is a gradual process. Today, it is Fathers Day. My exaH now has restrictions put on him for supervised access of our son because of a recent police report indicating an attempted suicide. I made arrangments with exaH's grown daughter to pick up our son for F...	Rora	3	528	Jun 19, 2011 by Rora
	AlAnon etiquette (Preview) Someone from my meeting is also going to my church and my gym. We talk about general things when we are not in our meeting. But I have met her husband (her qualifier ) and she has met mine (ditto) I'm not sure how to act, but it feels like by NOT acknowledging each other we are behaving like we are ahsmed.......	alexmaui	5	1068	Jun 19, 2011 by Pushka
	Newbie kind of (Preview) I started going to Alanon in December of last year and attend meetings fairly regularly. I enjoy them a lot. This year has been a year of reflection and trying to figure myself out. Who am I, what do I want, how can I finally get my act together. This has been going on for about 6 years to long now for myse...	Pushka	7	423	Jun 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	Rollercoaster (Preview) I tried to go to another f2f meeting earlier today but I saw some of the same people that were in the other f2f meeting I went to on tue. I know that everyone cries but I was completely overwhelmed with tears and emotions at the last meeting I was sort of embarassed. I really wanted to go today because I've be...	Betterfuture	8	643	Jun 19, 2011 by Rora
	Husband went into rehab today-first post Alcohol rehab pain pills (Preview) Hello all. My husband was admitted to a 28 day program today for alcohol and pain pill abuse. It's been a sudden development that I'm still wrapping my head around and I feel like it will help to get it all out. Forgive my emotions, they're all over the map right now. A little background first- He and I...	Mandagrl1	7	9229	Jun 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	part of my serenity (Preview) I dream of ex AH as you know. It is back to when he was so nice. I know being surrounded by life,plants,animals,friends etc is what keeps me ok. For me it all left a huge scar. Once inawhile it can hurt out of nowhere. I am even thinking the last couple days, I should call and go see him. Oral cancer people from...	Debilyn	5	543	Jun 19, 2011 by Loupiness
	Totally Frustrated and Overwhelmed (Preview) Hello. It has been a while since I have posted. My AM went to rehab finally and stayed for thirty days. While there she did get accused of hiding alcohol in the woods but it was never proven. Since she has been home the past four months she has gone to see her counselor who lives 2 hours away 2 or 3 times a month...	Lila Frost	6	695	Jun 19, 2011 by Pushka
	Picking up my pieces! (Preview) I dont know where to start. My fiance/ partner for the past, over 10 years, died from a Drug Overdose. I didnt know she was using drugs. Unfortunately she was a nurse and this is where her drug use started from. Years ago I sorta had an idea she might be doing something, I asked her but she denied it and...	MichaelR	6	415	Jun 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	Hi, newbie here :) (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm not really sure where to start. First I guess I should forward everyone I can be long winded lol. I have found a local meeting and will be going to my first tomorrow night. I'm nervous and excited. I have no idea what to expect so I have my fingers crossed. I've heard a few bad rings about mee...	devlynn	9	479	Jun 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	Step work (Preview) I'm very interested in continuing step work online here, when I click on the link it doesn't appear that anything really new or relavent has been posted upon for a long time? That was what I read at a glance and noticed I had to re-register. Is there a step work link that is relavent at this point?	Pushka	1	343	Jun 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	Lonely (Preview) I live in NYC with my AH of 14 months. He is seeking treatment via IOP and by attending meetings. He works sporadically and I pay most of the bills. I am a lawyer and very very busy - small office, not a lot of people to talk to. I've started going back to church and attend al anon twice a week but I still feel iso...	Mlkiss75	4	526	Jun 18, 2011 by Jerry F
	Shoulda listened to my gut...But.... (Preview) There is some nut harrassing me online. I caught him pretending to be someone else and told him to go away. Now he is on another site, my JW meeting site doing it. So unbeknowest to me...He wrote that message I got and used pictures from a guy I thought was cool a long time ago. It was another lie. Now I know wh...	Debilyn	2	555	Jun 18, 2011 by Otie
	I had a conversation with police tonite (Preview) I am just so upset right now...My daughter informed me that my grandaughter is not staying at my house as often anymore and she is hiring a 15 yr old to watch her. She said my gd apparently does not respect her (my d) enough when she leaves my house. She feels I`am a bad influence on her. Or that she respects m...	Samsgram	5	575	Jun 18, 2011 by redtara
	Is DISGUST the last stop? (Preview) I hope so because it's the only feeling I have left after rehabs, jails, psyche wards, kicking her out,3 years of sobriety out on her own, relapse, hospitals, anxiety, panic attacks, lose all she has, moving back home, AA, Relapse, AA, relapse, , kicking her back out, and now I'm back to square one deal...	Hermom	9	741	Jun 18, 2011 by Ness
	I hate this! (Preview) My stomach is all twisted, I feel like crying. Over what? There is someone interested in me. He is my religion, sounds so much like me. He contacted me. For years I have prayed for this. Then when there is a chance,I freeze up. Feel unworthy. I don't know why I care, I don't usually, but I think, well what if...	Debilyn	16	1099	Jun 18, 2011 by tommyecat
	Finding a sponsor (Preview) So this has been a hard thing for me, I know that in order to really be successful I need a sponsor. To hold me to attending meetings, hold me accountable for working the steps, and having someone that I can call when the A's in my life push me hard and I let them get the best of me. Maybe it's just easier for som...	Kristi136188	5	1938	Jun 18, 2011 by flopadopilus
	would an A lie about dying of cancer? (Preview) i'm in a sticky situation involving my ex-A. not that i want to be involved with him, but i'm 12 weeks pregnant, conceived just a week before he left us without warning. i had to tell him via email, he'd cut off all contact. now i'm regretting telling him, since i expect nothing from him ... but, isn't it th...	purpleraven	7	763	Jun 18, 2011 by purpleraven
	Newbie (Preview) I am new to this webpage. I found out a year ago that my husband had a problem with alcohol. I also found out that he had lied to me about many other things besides the alcohol. When we first met he was still in a relationship with his wife, although he told me they were still married, but seperated and only li...	Kristi136188	5	387	Jun 17, 2011 by Jerry F
	First post here (Preview) Hi everyone, I've been reading the board for about a month, and feel like it's time for me to join in on the conversations. I first want to say that I appreciate that this board and it's members are here any time day or night that I need some ESH. It's really been a great resource for me, and that's why I want t...	lifewontwait	12	614	Jun 17, 2011 by tommyecat
	Request for help... (Preview) Hello everyone, As many of us already know, the economy is taking a toll on so many people, so hard that life as we once knew it has changed. So it is with me. As I write this post I am struggling to just keep my head above water, but the water is rising very fast. And I am reaching out for help. At one time, th...	John	22	2824	Jun 17, 2011 by hopeful411
	wanting the start to a new beginning (Preview) my ab and i have been off and on for many years we have a young child. I am currently in counseling and we are working on making our family work....well so i thought. 1 week he wants the help and admits the problems. Another week its hed rather be an alcoholic then have me nagging him. I'm stronlgy encou...	hopeful411	6	372	Jun 17, 2011 by hopeful411
	dealing with anger (Preview) This morning I began to reflect on a passage I read in my how al-anon works book. In summary it read that the family holding the A out of the water to keep her head from getting wet only supports the disease further to enable her destructive behavior. This made me very angry at her family. They have been doi...	jamfu	6	1005	Jun 17, 2011 by jamfu
	me and daughter r speaking agin ,whew (Preview) gues id thought she was gonna really abandone me completely,but she called me this am and was such a sweet conversation and i got to tell her what was really going on with me ,,,,female problems,im 48 y/0,hormones r really playing games with me lol,but any ways thought id give yall the update hm i typed t...	chinup	1	295	Jun 17, 2011 by Debilyn
	now for sure ex a b/f,lied in court and won. (Preview) took my whole day in court with him back in forth i had to hunt down my witness ,all for nothing the law had the dates mixed up when he actually sliced my brand new tires it had been a yr ago and i couldnt remember took them that long to catch up with him on some other charges that his boss bailed him out of,but b...	chinup	4	510	Jun 17, 2011 by chinup
	Self Doubt.... (Preview) My AS was lashing out last night when he can't get what he wants from me, telling me that I didn't raise him right and that is why his life is in the tank now. I know that he was loved, cared for, we were not perfect (he was our first child), we were young and viewed life in a very simple way. I know how they talk...	DreamsOver	7	596	Jun 17, 2011 by Loupiness
	When will I ever learn?!?!?!? (reposted from ACoA board) (Preview) The last several days, the internal pressure's been building up again. I was aware of it, but thought I was controlling it pretty well and everything was fine. Then yesterday, I made a comment to a co-worker which apparently was far nastier than I realized. Not the comment itself (although I shouldn...	Red Hawk	5	600	Jun 16, 2011 by Red Hawk
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