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canadianguy


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This is a message to all the lurkers out there (and there are many of you) - who come here to read and learn, but have not yet posted your story or questions/concerns....

I wanted to say......  WELCOME! - and please feel free to stay as long as you want!  This is a great site, with tons of awesome people on board.....  When you are ready, I would encourage you to post your story or specific thoughts on things....  This program works by us exchanging ideas, and supporting one another....

So - an anonymous "glad you found us" to all of you, and hope to hear from you on the board one day soon!

 

Take care

Tom



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kitty


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haha Tom, thanks!    and always remember to, "take what you like and leave the rest." 



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clep


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I was a lurker for a couple of weeks before posting.   This post probably would have made me cry as unconditional acceptance was a myth to me.

What a lovely post.  



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I appreciate all the newcomers and all they share with us, because it works when we work it, and it helps us too!

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Debilyn


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Every step you take, every move you make..... (c:

I hope too Tom that the people who are reading are seeing we LOVE everyone to join us. We are just like you lurkers, shy, unsure, wonder if anyone can undertand us, or well they have heard it before....

Everyone who comes in is valuable to us.

I could never lurk as I am too much of a chatterbox, and have to work on not "suggesting" what one should do....eh hmmmm

Please come in, we never run out of chairs or duct tape here!

Love,debilyn



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Thanks, Tom, for your kind words. I found this forum a couple of weeks ago and have been "lurking" ever since. My AH and I are currently separated (it's been two months since I moved out). I joined Al-Anon two years ago thinking that it would enable me to learn how to "fix" his issues. Little did I know that Al-Anon was all about me getting well. So...now I'm on the road to recovery and wellness, and my AH is still drinking, destroying his family, health, and finances. I never would have thought that I'd be the one to walk out, I always thought it would be him. But, once I found out that, unbeknownst to me, we were days away from being evicted from our home of 23 years due to him hiding the fact that he had stopped paying our mortgage for over a year, that was my final wake-up call.

It is a tough road that I'm navigating right now. My AH is very skilled at manipulation and placing blame on others. I have used HALT and JADE (don't Judge, Argue, Defend, or Explain) a lot these past months, and both work quite well when I use them- as well as the Al-Anon "Do's and Don'ts." My sponsor is a Godsend and my HP continues to show me a path to serenity. I am sad at the impending loss of a 29 year-old marriage, I don't want to be divorced, but I know that my HP is taking care of me - and my AH. I have found it extremely challenging to give up trying to control "God's Alcoholic" and to stop my "stinkin thinkin," but, in the end, I am in a much better place right now, both physically and mentally.

Thanks to all of you on this forum for sharing your support and  insight. They are sincerely appreciated. 



-- Edited by becinca on Thursday 9th of June 2011 01:31:30 PM

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Hi Becina

Welcome to our MIP Family. I am glad you decided to post and share your wisdom with us. 

 I have been enriched today by hearing your experience, strength and hopePlease Keep coming back



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kitty


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welcome to the board (( becina ))!  Way to work it ~ glad it is gettting better, it is truly amazing how we can transform in this simple and challenging program.  You are not alone anymore!  Focus on what you can do to allow you to feel better about yourself and your situation.  Many things require us to grieve and reconcile with accpeting them- what you're going through is very challenging and compounded right now, it will get better.  Keep looking to what choices you have and how you can learn to protect yourself legally & in every way.  Boundaries really helped me to change my life in this program.  so glad you found us!! Hope you stick around to see the miracle!



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nice4ever


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Thanks for the nudge to join. I'm comfortable lurking, but I'll try to jump in and share sometimes.
I'm glad you are all here with great ESH.


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Hi Nice4ever  Welcome

Love your log on name and avatar.  Looking forward to knowing yousmile



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What a nice post Tom.  That was a very warm welcome. 



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