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Ava2010 · Ava2010

Hi, My husband is in 37 yrs old and he has a very stressful career. For a few years now he has been drinking 70 proof Southern Comfort several night a week (usually Fri,Sat, and Sun night, not during the work week) He has 2 to 2.5 glasses each time. About 350ml . It ends up that the largest bottle you ca...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I don't have much drama in my life right now, thankfully. I'm so sooooo grateful for this, because I had so much drama for so long! My best friend is another story. She has drama day in and day out with her in-laws (her FIL is an A). Yesterday she and I were on instant message while we were each at work. Sh...

RLC · RLC

Happy Birthday Jerry F.....I hope you have a wonderful day!!! Memory Lane: In my first post on MIP I was very disappointed in you when I asked for advice.....and in your reply to my post all you gave me was Experience, Strenght, and Hope.....and you still do. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Monday 19th o...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Some days are very manicky for me. Right now I feel a rush to my head. I am going to make this short as I don't know what to say. I hope this is not a rambling mess. I want to recognize when I am not feeling up to par. Sometimes I feel like I should get on here every chance I get--like right now. I only usually spend...

bud · bud

This song on the radio had this line and the line truly speaks to where I'm at... that juncture in the road I have tried to avoid, for so hard and for so long. It's not easy, but I know I need to find a way to let go and say goodbye to the world that I thought I lived in... that place where I thought my love for my e...

sandy70 · sandy70

Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...

Pushka · Pushka

I just really have a hard time wrapping my brain around some of my A's behavior. He says things that he means in the moment that he just doesn't mean long term. It's so interesting and frustrating to watch. I know this is sooo the 3 C's as far as not my issue. He has gone and made "plans" and I'm...

ardnas · ardnas

I need help because I don't want to feel the way I feel. I don't know where to begin in my introduction so I thought I'd share everything I was thinking while I was thinking of how to begin this post. Sorry so long. I dont know where to begin. Will my kids think that the smell of alcohol is normal?Will I be le...

amills4294 · amills4294

in the 3rd paragraph from this reading it says "We are powerless over the results of our actions. We can try to make wise choices today, but what will happen in the future is out of our hands. Since we can't know what to expect, why not trust that a Higher Power can use whatever happens to further ou...

harley · harley

can anyone tell me where an al-anon meeting is close to Wilson, or Greenville, nc. My family really needs to go and try to understand how I feel.

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all feeling really positive thing I have just experienced a little leap i my recovery. I bought a CD at the convention the other day regarding steps 45 and 6. I have just listened to it. I have been bobbing around these steps for a while but I know feel really ready to do a fearless search of my own char...

glad · glad

Felt better today than I have in almost a year. Seems like in part to being able to share and read here on this board. I enjoyed the day by myself and did not feel the least bit "alone" but rather peacefully by myself. Amazing... This week I have learned that I 1) was feeling sad over "spi...

jmanning · jmanning

I had so many mixed emotions today. My first class of the day in college first thing I was asked where is my other half is. Well I am type that always tells the truth. And all I could manage to say was he had an emergency and couldn't make it in. My teacher looked at me and asked if I was okay. I wondered could he r...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I gotta tell ya we almost didn't make it to the cruise on Saturday! My mom's car had some very serious car trouble! We had to travel over 60 miles just to get there & then we had to go up a couple of steep hills. Our HP was w/ us as we made it there & back! We also have great program friends who followed us...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Most of us have had our ups and downs for years. I am no exception. Meetings, reading and therapy but I feel defeated. It is no easy task to live with an alcoholic or even a recovering alcoholic. I honestly don't know if my husband is totally free of alcohol; I sometimes think, which is what our ther...

Mattie · Mattie

Sometimes it feels like two steps forward, two steps back in this business. My son and I were away thousands of miles from our home for a year while I was working elsewhere. I had a renter who walked out on the property early. My ex-AH stepped up to the plate and pitched in to take care of the pets for us inst...

jmanning · jmanning

Good Morning. First thanks for letting me post here and share my feelings. From my last post, my AH went to jail friday and I was lost without him. Wow I said was.... This morning is the first morning I didn't cry. This is also the first morning of college without him. It will be ackward because the first 2 c...

rosielee · rosielee

its been so many years living with this disease now that i pretty much live by the steps- before i knew what they were i had come to them naturally anyway. but since ive been on here ive noticed that i needed to address my need to fix everything. dont laugh- i know i answer all the posts here- and am hungry to...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I tell ya if I had not been offered and learned all I have here, I would not have any hair left, or teeth either. Life is so frigging complicated, hectic. Bundling up in a corner sounds good sometimes. Nothing specific, just life. Have a certain amount of money. Needs to go to different places. I bought a n...

maresie · maresie

One of the things I have felt such shame about was how I both chose partners, married them, or became "attached" too quickly or got so triggered by what was going on I completely melted down. I have been really mean and judgmental to myself about that. Needless to say on some level I felt abso...

pineapple · pineapple

How Important Is It? This has been one of my mantras for months now. And it often has helped to defuse potential angry, resentful situations. But lately it hasn't helped. To those who don't know my situation, I cannot make him leave. We have a small guesthouse that we used to rent as a B&B. At my reque...

kris10 · kris10

NOT because I dont want to. I would love to! I would love to do soo many things that i just cant do. I have severe pannic attacks and agoraphobia that wont let me do alot. My A is the ONLY one who was here for me when noone else was. I was literally house bound. I am now going a few places with the help of my counsel...

concern for member · Debilyn

Ok I got very concerned about a new member. Sounds like some very serious stuff is going on. This person and I pm'ed. The situation is dire, she is alone in it. I shared all I could from my experience, keep them in my prayers. I felt pretty well geez what emotion? I needed to share what I could with out givin...

peggyjean · peggyjean

Married 20+ yrs and alcohol has been an on and off problem throughout. Had a wonderful 3 year period of abstaining but that ended 4 years ago. After one drink, he's cheerful and still connected. Any more than that and the words slightly slur or the eyelids bat more often - just enough that I notice. W...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I haven't been on line for quite some time. Just letting you all know, I'm still here. Things are going really well for me. Still attending my F2F weekly meetings to help keep me on track. I live in Minnesota, so this time of the year is really busy. Winterizing, cutting/hauling wood for winter, yard cl...

Katy · Katy

Two trees growing close together, but not in each other's shadow Nature is a great teacher. A walk in a forest can teach us about life and help us to experience something far greater than ourselves. Suppose you came upon a colony of mushrooms decorating the forest floor, what would you see? At first, w...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday morning A-Anon Meeting as I will be out of the city all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair. Thanks

Pushka · Pushka

Well, things have gone really well around here. I think we are all battling a cold which is the pits and I feel really bad, because our eldest had a sleep over last night so I'm hoping her friend escapes the germs. Both my son and I have sore throats and he's got a cold to match as well as a small cough. I had t...

glad lee · glad lee

What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine? What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now we'd be grateful for that...

surfingmaestro · surfingmaestro

Hi Everyone, I haven't posted lately but I've been reading a lot. My wife is a sober alcoholic of 16 months and she says that this is the first time she is really working the steps with sobriety. Lately she has been distant and not wanted much to do with me or the kids and I've been ok with that. I've been w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just want to say that I am grateful & am looking forward to another beautiful day! I will let everyone know how the Speaker Boat Cruise went today on Monday. I decided to go w/ my mom & husband. It should be a nice experience. I have mentioned before that I really didn't want to go w/ my mom but afte...

kris10 · kris10

Up again late at night... Wondering thought.. So many questions.. My story...(Try to make short) I met my A bf a year and a half ago... While still holding on to a horrible relationship with my sons father (whom was abusive in EVERY way you can possibly think of) I must say that my sons father and I were NO...

Jonesy0505 · Jonesy0505

It was a pretty good day all in all. I stayed focused on me and stayed as positive as I could. Up until that is... I got the text " am I allowed to come home tonight? I had a drink" to which I replied " you made your choice". So he followed with "ok see you tomorrow after work and I'm s...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi All, just got back from the convention I managed to share on top table in front of AA and al anon memebers I was scared but feel good another milestone paast. The convention was called miracles al anon is my miracle I am so glad to be a member of this wonderful fellowship. hugs tracy xx

Jozie · Jozie

What a Day... Work was Insane today, Some much to do and I got so Much done, It was Fast Moving, but managable for a change, it was kinda nice... My Husband Took off early to spend the night at camp, and I have to Say, I have had an Amazing Evenning with my Son, The 1st Night I have had him All to myself for over a...

glad · glad

As I was cleaning tonight I found an old picture of myself taken just about 8 years or so ago. Wow did I look different and more relaxed for sure. I realized that the reason for most or all of my "depression" and crying over my exA bf not being here is more about the "lost years" than it...

rara avis · rara avis

Hello lovely people, Update: I've left my RA, arranged an intervention of sorts [ he is dry but was acting way off] and am staying in hotels until next Monday. Then I come home. Flummox: I was hoping for a separation and a 'wait and see' while my RA got his act together. Well, last night I talked to RA. He h...

atheos · atheos

I just got a great new job, and will be moving to a very nice apartment... my life is going very well right now. My sister is schizophrenic, and may never get to have a normal life with a job and a nice apartment and stuff the way I do now. She may never even get her drivers' license. As happy as I am that good thi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am happy to say the meeting went well on Tuesday. I am just so grateful for old-timers who kept the meeting going as well as some newer people. It is funny; I went in there thinking" Oh boy I am nervous!" It was like I thought but the reading I picked ended up being the wrong reading for that nigh...

rosielee · rosielee

there are so many posters on this site whos loved ones are still drinking, which i think is a very painful place for all. its a big open wound that weeps all the time...so this has made me want to share a bit of my story with you....and also I confess, this site is becoming my daily fix so if you want to listen...

Dharma · Dharma

that I'm positng this in the right place, but hopefully someone has some wisdom. Today I had to separate myself from my alcoholic/addict brother. Things have deteriorated so much that I just can't take the lashing out and middle of the night screaming phone messages. I went and got the car project...

maresie · maresie

Funny how stuff can trigger the feelings I have not yet processed from the eXA's incredible downward spiral (during which I left him). A friend of mine from work is talking about going to live with his relatives in part parking himself on them because he is stuck on a job front. Some of it is that he wants...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

How do we decide what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior? What consequences does our qualifier face for their behavior? I'm really struggling with this today. I had a lot of time to think today (long train ride) and while I am still feeling good & positive about everything, I am also s...

tinkerbell · tinkerbell

Hi everyone, this is my first time to this board. My AH husband has been sober 5 months, and I have been attending f2f al anon meetings for this amount of time. Although both of us are working on recovery and being quite successful, it seems that our teenage sons are getting worse. We have two boys age 15...

kris10 · kris10

I'm stuck on step 2 and 3... I'm not a real religious person I guess... I'm really not getting this higher power thing at all??? I mean I would like to hope that there is one!!! I guess I've never experienced anything like a higher power before... I really believe that anything "good" that has...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, I am sharing at a convention tomorrow I have shared a couple of times and always get lots from it. I love conventions when our two fellowships come together. However tomorrow I am sharing in front of al anon and AA members I am a bit scared there will be lots of people there and I want to do it p...

tommyecat · tommyecat

Any of you guys have some ESH on the 12 Concepts? I was asked to give a talk on the concepts next month with a focus on 3 and 4. I have looked through my literature cabinet and it is a challenge to find anything on the concepts. Your suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance, Tommye

rubyhunter · rubyhunter

I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has always been an alcholic,but has a very important job and makes great money.and has been able to keep this job through all his drinking.He has had 3 prior drunk drivings over the years but has always used his money and power to get out of them.So he has never...

matisa · matisa

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyheJ480LYA

Jonesy0505 · Jonesy0505

Hi there everyone, New to this whole al-anon thing but really can't do this alone anymore. I have friends to talk to but they don't fully understand because they do not have an A spouse. Bless them, they try. Anyway, not a day goes by that I am told "well if you would change" or " you alway...

Kicks611 · Kicks611

Hi all, This is the first time posting here, and I'm not quite sure how or what to really write. Forgive me if it sounds as though I'm rambling and not making any sense...my head is just a little out of sorts, I'm confused, and super stressed. I'm reaching out because I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to say that it is good because God is good. I have to say that my sponsor always says that it is "all good". I sometimes agree w/ her. Today is one of those days. I had a long weekend w/ my TOPS rally. I had to get up early & recovered from it on Sunday. I am so glad it is MONDAY! Sounds str...

Derek · Derek

My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol and bulimia. She's been to rehab a few times over the past couple of years, but I'm hoping that this time around is going to be the one that sticks. I think she's finally ready to accept the way things have turned out and do what she has to. I haven't seen her in ove...

matisa · matisa

Crazy can sometimes be over whelming when the person who is affecting you happens to be someone who thinks its ok to harasses you just because they knew you a long time ago but could not get over you, so they show back up in your life refusing to leave you alone, why is it people don't understand what harass...

glad · glad

The question about getting better in same house was my question for a long time and, like it sounds for so many others too,, there were break ups and returns and drama,, finally in what I thought was probably just another "break up" my AH live in boyfriend for 7 years left and he has stayed gone...

Aly · Aly

Hi - It's my first time on a forum like this, actually it's my first time making any sort of contact with alanon. My husband is no longer in the family home due to his drinking and today was the day from hell. I have been left in a bit of a mess with the finances and felt so ashamed when I had to phone the bank to...

elizabethcontreras · elizabethcontreras

Today is a different kind of day. I am home alone, it has been 2 weeks since my boyfriend went to rehab. Before he relapsed I thought everything was getting better. He was starting to take a lower dose of suboxone. He was getting back on his feet finding work and he even asked me to marry him. After that it w...

John · John

know there are many times when we wonder... why do we keep trying, why we keep holding on, why we keep letting go, why we keep silent, why we keep screaming, why we keep pushing, why we keep pulling, doing so much, and yet there is no one else we are foolin... it all hurts, and we don't want to hurt any more.....

glad · glad

The "sticky" above -why alcoholism is listed as a disease helped me so very much... The video, which was not a "sermon" helped with the "worries" I have obsessed about over the years... answered so many of the "why" questions I've had. Thanks so much for...

John · John

life, not an easy journey, but a journey that without all its twist and turns would be a journey without the very things that teach us how to navigate the roads of life that lay ahead, and guides us to the best in its moments of despair to let go of the wheel, and start looking for the scenic route. john

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	Is my husband an alcoholic? (Preview) Hi, My husband is in 37 yrs old and he has a very stressful career. For a few years now he has been drinking 70 proof Southern Comfort several night a week (usually Fri,Sat, and Sun night, not during the work week) He has 2 to 2.5 glasses each time. About 350ml . It ends up that the largest bottle you ca...	Ava2010	14	4631	Sep 20, 2011 by newlywed
	Drama (Preview) I don't have much drama in my life right now, thankfully. I'm so sooooo grateful for this, because I had so much drama for so long! My best friend is another story. She has drama day in and day out with her in-laws (her FIL is an A). Yesterday she and I were on instant message while we were each at work. Sh...	White Rabbit	8	1192	Sep 20, 2011 by pineapple
	Everyone Wish Jerry F A Happy Birthday !!! (Preview) Happy Birthday Jerry F.....I hope you have a wonderful day!!! Memory Lane: In my first post on MIP I was very disappointed in you when I asked for advice.....and in your reply to my post all you gave me was Experience, Strenght, and Hope.....and you still do. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Monday 19th o...	RLC	27	3094	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	another manic Tues. (Preview) Some days are very manicky for me. Right now I feel a rush to my head. I am going to make this short as I don't know what to say. I hope this is not a rambling mess. I want to recognize when I am not feeling up to par. Sometimes I feel like I should get on here every chance I get--like right now. I only usually spend...	Hoot Nanny	3	459	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	"Say good bye to the world you thought you lived in" (Preview) This song on the radio had this line and the line truly speaks to where I'm at... that juncture in the road I have tried to avoid, for so hard and for so long. It's not easy, but I know I need to find a way to let go and say goodbye to the world that I thought I lived in... that place where I thought my love for my e...	bud	8	927	Sep 20, 2011 by bud
	New 2 group & in a birthday conundrum! Bad birthday Birthday dillemma Alcoholic help with alcoholic Birthday trouble birthday decision (Preview) Hi all! I'm new to the group and first want to say hello and thank you for being here. I have a problem and hopefully can get an answer today (sorry to post at the last minute but I just found you guys!) My birthday was on Sep. 1st and my AH's birthday is today, Sep. 15th. My AH had been sober now for over a year. I...	sandy70	25	10132	Sep 20, 2011 by sandy70
	Don't understand .. (Preview) I just really have a hard time wrapping my brain around some of my A's behavior. He says things that he means in the moment that he just doesn't mean long term. It's so interesting and frustrating to watch. I know this is sooo the 3 C's as far as not my issue. He has gone and made "plans" and I'm...	Pushka	7	747	Sep 20, 2011 by Pushka
	Where to begin? (Preview) I need help because I don't want to feel the way I feel. I don't know where to begin in my introduction so I thought I'd share everything I was thinking while I was thinking of how to begin this post. Sorry so long. I dont know where to begin. Will my kids think that the smell of alcohol is normal?Will I be le...	ardnas	10	768	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Today's Courage to Change Sept 16 - struggling a bit with this one (Preview) in the 3rd paragraph from this reading it says "We are powerless over the results of our actions. We can try to make wise choices today, but what will happen in the future is out of our hands. Since we can't know what to expect, why not trust that a Higher Power can use whatever happens to further ou...	amills4294	4	662	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Al-anon (Preview) can anyone tell me where an al-anon meeting is close to Wilson, or Greenville, nc. My family really needs to go and try to understand how I feel.	harley	5	4599	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Steps for five and 6 (Preview) Hi all feeling really positive thing I have just experienced a little leap i my recovery. I bought a CD at the convention the other day regarding steps 45 and 6. I have just listened to it. I have been bobbing around these steps for a while but I know feel really ready to do a fearless search of my own char...	Tracy	5	423	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	Sept 18, 2011 (Preview) Felt better today than I have in almost a year. Seems like in part to being able to share and read here on this board. I enjoyed the day by myself and did not feel the least bit "alone" but rather peacefully by myself. Amazing... This week I have learned that I 1) was feeling sad over "spi...	glad	3	481	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	Mixed emotions today (Preview) I had so many mixed emotions today. My first class of the day in college first thing I was asked where is my other half is. Well I am type that always tells the truth. And all I could manage to say was he had an emergency and couldn't make it in. My teacher looked at me and asked if I was okay. I wondered could he r...	jmanning	7	841	Sep 20, 2011 by Breakingfree
	cruise went well...but car trouble! (Preview) I gotta tell ya we almost didn't make it to the cruise on Saturday! My mom's car had some very serious car trouble! We had to travel over 60 miles just to get there & then we had to go up a couple of steep hills. Our HP was w/ us as we made it there & back! We also have great program friends who followed us...	Hoot Nanny	5	454	Sep 20, 2011 by tommyecat
	I feel so defeated (Preview) Most of us have had our ups and downs for years. I am no exception. Meetings, reading and therapy but I feel defeated. It is no easy task to live with an alcoholic or even a recovering alcoholic. I honestly don't know if my husband is totally free of alcohol; I sometimes think, which is what our ther...	wifeofalcoholic	6	602	Sep 20, 2011 by lasthope
	Feeling discouraged (Preview) Sometimes it feels like two steps forward, two steps back in this business. My son and I were away thousands of miles from our home for a year while I was working elsewhere. I had a renter who walked out on the property early. My ex-AH stepped up to the plate and pitched in to take care of the pets for us inst...	Mattie	11	584	Sep 20, 2011 by lasthope
	Functioning better this morning (Preview) Good Morning. First thanks for letting me post here and share my feelings. From my last post, my AH went to jail friday and I was lost without him. Wow I said was.... This morning is the first morning I didn't cry. This is also the first morning of college without him. It will be ackward because the first 2 c...	jmanning	7	518	Sep 19, 2011 by jmanning
	made a decision (Preview) its been so many years living with this disease now that i pretty much live by the steps- before i knew what they were i had come to them naturally anyway. but since ive been on here ive noticed that i needed to address my need to fix everything. dont laugh- i know i answer all the posts here- and am hungry to...	rosielee	6	570	Sep 19, 2011 by maresie
	Al Anon has changed me (Preview) I tell ya if I had not been offered and learned all I have here, I would not have any hair left, or teeth either. Life is so frigging complicated, hectic. Bundling up in a corner sounds good sometimes. Nothing specific, just life. Have a certain amount of money. Needs to go to different places. I bought a n...	Debilyn	14	796	Sep 19, 2011 by barisax
	Forgiving ourselves (Preview) One of the things I have felt such shame about was how I both chose partners, married them, or became "attached" too quickly or got so triggered by what was going on I completely melted down. I have been really mean and judgmental to myself about that. Needless to say on some level I felt abso...	maresie	6	709	Sep 19, 2011 by glad lee
	How Important Is It? (Preview) How Important Is It? This has been one of my mantras for months now. And it often has helped to defuse potential angry, resentful situations. But lately it hasn't helped. To those who don't know my situation, I cannot make him leave. We have a small guesthouse that we used to rent as a B&B. At my reque...	pineapple	16	1008	Sep 19, 2011 by glad lee
	I can not go to meetings (Preview) NOT because I dont want to. I would love to! I would love to do soo many things that i just cant do. I have severe pannic attacks and agoraphobia that wont let me do alot. My A is the ONLY one who was here for me when noone else was. I was literally house bound. I am now going a few places with the help of my counsel...	kris10	4	522	Sep 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	concern for member (Preview) Ok I got very concerned about a new member. Sounds like some very serious stuff is going on. This person and I pm'ed. The situation is dire, she is alone in it. I shared all I could from my experience, keep them in my prayers. I felt pretty well geez what emotion? I needed to share what I could with out givin...	Debilyn	6	586	Sep 19, 2011 by youfoundme
	Drinking limits socialization (Preview) Married 20+ yrs and alcohol has been an on and off problem throughout. Had a wonderful 3 year period of abstaining but that ended 4 years ago. After one drink, he's cheerful and still connected. Any more than that and the words slightly slur or the eyelids bat more often - just enough that I notice. W...	peggyjean	8	901	Sep 19, 2011 by glad
	Checking in (Preview) I haven't been on line for quite some time. Just letting you all know, I'm still here. Things are going really well for me. Still attending my F2F weekly meetings to help keep me on track. I live in Minnesota, so this time of the year is really busy. Winterizing, cutting/hauling wood for winter, yard cl...	Sweet Stanley	6	497	Sep 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	True Intimacy (Preview) Two trees growing close together, but not in each other's shadow Nature is a great teacher. A walk in a forest can teach us about life and help us to experience something far greater than ourselves. Suppose you came upon a colony of mushrooms decorating the forest floor, what would you see? At first, w...	Katy	6	836	Sep 19, 2011 by tommyecat
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MTG (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday morning A-Anon Meeting as I will be out of the city all day. Hoping someone will be able to step up and chair. Thanks	shimo	0	388	Sep 18, 2011 by shimo
	Week in review .. (Preview) Well, things have gone really well around here. I think we are all battling a cold which is the pits and I feel really bad, because our eldest had a sleep over last night so I'm hoping her friend escapes the germs. Both my son and I have sore throats and he's got a cold to match as well as a small cough. I had t...	Pushka	5	626	Sep 18, 2011 by rosielee
	Letting Go of Worry (Preview) What if we knew for certain that everything we're worried about today will work out fine? What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now we'd be grateful for that...	glad lee	4	1771	Sep 18, 2011 by likemyheart
	My Truth (Preview) Hi Everyone, I haven't posted lately but I've been reading a lot. My wife is a sober alcoholic of 16 months and she says that this is the first time she is really working the steps with sobriety. Lately she has been distant and not wanted much to do with me or the kids and I've been ok with that. I've been w...	surfingmaestro	8	904	Sep 18, 2011 by tommyecat
	can I make it short? (Preview) I just want to say that I am grateful & am looking forward to another beautiful day! I will let everyone know how the Speaker Boat Cruise went today on Monday. I decided to go w/ my mom & husband. It should be a nice experience. I have mentioned before that I really didn't want to go w/ my mom but afte...	Hoot Nanny	2	547	Sep 18, 2011 by Debilyn
	So many things I think about.... (Preview) Up again late at night... Wondering thought.. So many questions.. My story...(Try to make short) I met my A bf a year and a half ago... While still holding on to a horrible relationship with my sons father (whom was abusive in EVERY way you can possibly think of) I must say that my sons father and I were NO...	kris10	3	623	Sep 17, 2011 by Debilyn
	Boundaries being tested for the 1st time tonight... (Preview) It was a pretty good day all in all. I stayed focused on me and stayed as positive as I could. Up until that is... I got the text " am I allowed to come home tonight? I had a drink" to which I replied " you made your choice". So he followed with "ok see you tomorrow after work and I'm s...	Jonesy0505	13	624	Sep 17, 2011 by RLC
	convention (Preview) Hi All, just got back from the convention I managed to share on top table in front of AA and al anon memebers I was scared but feel good another milestone paast. The convention was called miracles al anon is my miracle I am so glad to be a member of this wonderful fellowship. hugs tracy xx	Tracy	1	429	Sep 17, 2011 by hotrod
	Program Practicin Kinda Week... (Preview) What a Day... Work was Insane today, Some much to do and I got so Much done, It was Fast Moving, but managable for a change, it was kinda nice... My Husband Took off early to spend the night at camp, and I have to Say, I have had an Amazing Evenning with my Son, The 1st Night I have had him All to myself for over a...	Jozie	2	451	Sep 17, 2011 by hotrod
	Cleaning out some "stuff" (Preview) As I was cleaning tonight I found an old picture of myself taken just about 8 years or so ago. Wow did I look different and more relaxed for sure. I realized that the reason for most or all of my "depression" and crying over my exA bf not being here is more about the "lost years" than it...	glad	3	429	Sep 17, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	Update and help I'm flummoxed (Preview) Hello lovely people, Update: I've left my RA, arranged an intervention of sorts [ he is dry but was acting way off] and am staying in hotels until next Monday. Then I come home. Flummox: I was hoping for a separation and a 'wait and see' while my RA got his act together. Well, last night I talked to RA. He h...	rara avis	22	746	Sep 17, 2011 by rara avis
	Survivor guilt (Preview) I just got a great new job, and will be moving to a very nice apartment... my life is going very well right now. My sister is schizophrenic, and may never get to have a normal life with a job and a nice apartment and stuff the way I do now. She may never even get her drivers' license. As happy as I am that good thi...	atheos	7	740	Sep 16, 2011 by rara avis
	meeting went well... (Preview) I am happy to say the meeting went well on Tuesday. I am just so grateful for old-timers who kept the meeting going as well as some newer people. It is funny; I went in there thinking" Oh boy I am nervous!" It was like I thought but the reading I picked ended up being the wrong reading for that nigh...	Hoot Nanny	3	413	Sep 16, 2011 by maresie
	wanting to share this with you if you have the time (Preview) there are so many posters on this site whos loved ones are still drinking, which i think is a very painful place for all. its a big open wound that weeps all the time...so this has made me want to share a bit of my story with you....and also I confess, this site is becoming my daily fix so if you want to listen...	rosielee	10	630	Sep 16, 2011 by pinkchip
	Not so sure... (Preview) that I'm positng this in the right place, but hopefully someone has some wisdom. Today I had to separate myself from my alcoholic/addict brother. Things have deteriorated so much that I just can't take the lashing out and middle of the night screaming phone messages. I went and got the car project...	Dharma	10	889	Sep 16, 2011 by Dharma
	Triggers (Preview) Funny how stuff can trigger the feelings I have not yet processed from the eXA's incredible downward spiral (during which I left him). A friend of mine from work is talking about going to live with his relatives in part parking himself on them because he is stuck on a job front. Some of it is that he wants...	maresie	3	659	Sep 16, 2011 by amills4294
	Consequences, boundaries, acceptable behavior, etc... (Preview) How do we decide what is acceptable and what is unacceptable behavior? What consequences does our qualifier face for their behavior? I'm really struggling with this today. I had a lot of time to think today (long train ride) and while I am still feeling good & positive about everything, I am also s...	usedtobeanyer	14	1310	Sep 16, 2011 by usedtobeanyer
	Messed up kids (Preview) Hi everyone, this is my first time to this board. My AH husband has been sober 5 months, and I have been attending f2f al anon meetings for this amount of time. Although both of us are working on recovery and being quite successful, it seems that our teenage sons are getting worse. We have two boys age 15...	tinkerbell	11	1043	Sep 16, 2011 by clep
	spirituality help please!!! (Preview) I'm stuck on step 2 and 3... I'm not a real religious person I guess... I'm really not getting this higher power thing at all??? I mean I would like to hope that there is one!!! I guess I've never experienced anything like a higher power before... I really believe that anything "good" that has...	kris10	7	595	Sep 16, 2011 by Dharma
	sharing (Preview) Hi everyone, I am sharing at a convention tomorrow I have shared a couple of times and always get lots from it. I love conventions when our two fellowships come together. However tomorrow I am sharing in front of al anon and AA members I am a bit scared there will be lots of people there and I want to do it p...	Tracy	7	489	Sep 16, 2011 by rosielee
	12 Concepts of Service (Preview) Any of you guys have some ESH on the 12 Concepts? I was asked to give a talk on the concepts next month with a focus on 3 and 4. I have looked through my literature cabinet and it is a challenge to find anything on the concepts. Your suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance, Tommye	tommyecat	5	4379	Sep 16, 2011 by tommyecat
	Ive had enough! (Preview) I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has always been an alcholic,but has a very important job and makes great money.and has been able to keep this job through all his drinking.He has had 3 prior drunk drivings over the years but has always used his money and power to get out of them.So he has never...	rubyhunter	6	576	Sep 16, 2011 by rosielee
	life house skit (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyheJ480LYA	matisa	2	4146	Sep 15, 2011 by david62
	Why does my AH always try to blame me for his using? (Preview) Hi there everyone, New to this whole al-anon thing but really can't do this alone anymore. I have friends to talk to but they don't fully understand because they do not have an A spouse. Bless them, they try. Anyway, not a day goes by that I am told "well if you would change" or " you alway...	Jonesy0505	14	700	Sep 15, 2011 by RLC
	1st time here (reallllllly need some advice) - Dad is in Hospital... (Preview) Hi all, This is the first time posting here, and I'm not quite sure how or what to really write. Forgive me if it sounds as though I'm rambling and not making any sense...my head is just a little out of sorts, I'm confused, and super stressed. I'm reaching out because I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I...	Kicks611	12	546	Sep 15, 2011 by pinkchip
	Oh JOY! It is all good! (Preview) Just want to say that it is good because God is good. I have to say that my sponsor always says that it is "all good". I sometimes agree w/ her. Today is one of those days. I had a long weekend w/ my TOPS rally. I had to get up early & recovered from it on Sunday. I am so glad it is MONDAY! Sounds str...	Hoot Nanny	3	581	Sep 15, 2011 by tommyecat
	Trying to be a supportive husband (Preview) My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol and bulimia. She's been to rehab a few times over the past couple of years, but I'm hoping that this time around is going to be the one that sticks. I think she's finally ready to accept the way things have turned out and do what she has to. I haven't seen her in ove...	Derek	6	732	Sep 15, 2011 by rrib
	they are crazy (Preview) Crazy can sometimes be over whelming when the person who is affecting you happens to be someone who thinks its ok to harasses you just because they knew you a long time ago but could not get over you, so they show back up in your life refusing to leave you alone, why is it people don't understand what harass...	matisa	3	539	Sep 15, 2011 by hotrod
	The Question of to stay or go... (Preview) The question about getting better in same house was my question for a long time and, like it sounds for so many others too,, there were break ups and returns and drama,, finally in what I thought was probably just another "break up" my AH live in boyfriend for 7 years left and he has stayed gone...	glad	7	814	Sep 15, 2011 by Rora
	First time posting :) (Preview) Hi - It's my first time on a forum like this, actually it's my first time making any sort of contact with alanon. My husband is no longer in the family home due to his drinking and today was the day from hell. I have been left in a bit of a mess with the finances and felt so ashamed when I had to phone the bank to...	Aly	8	608	Sep 14, 2011 by Doozy
	Lonely (Preview) Today is a different kind of day. I am home alone, it has been 2 weeks since my boyfriend went to rehab. Before he relapsed I thought everything was getting better. He was starting to take a lower dose of suboxone. He was getting back on his feet finding work and he even asked me to marry him. After that it w...	elizabethcontreras	15	784	Sep 14, 2011 by likemyheart
	The impossible is possible!! (Preview) know there are many times when we wonder... why do we keep trying, why we keep holding on, why we keep letting go, why we keep silent, why we keep screaming, why we keep pushing, why we keep pulling, doing so much, and yet there is no one else we are foolin... it all hurts, and we don't want to hurt any more.....	John	6	574	Sep 14, 2011 by oldergal
	wonderful video in "why Alcoholism is a disease listed by AMA" sticky above. (Preview) The "sticky" above -why alcoholism is listed as a disease helped me so very much... The video, which was not a "sermon" helped with the "worries" I have obsessed about over the years... answered so many of the "why" questions I've had. Thanks so much for...	glad	0	367	Sep 14, 2011 by glad
	The journey (Preview) life, not an easy journey, but a journey that without all its twist and turns would be a journey without the very things that teach us how to navigate the roads of life that lay ahead, and guides us to the best in its moments of despair to let go of the wheel, and start looking for the scenic route. john	John	0	417	Sep 14, 2011 by John
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