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Ive had enough!
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I have been with my husband for 20 years and he has always been an alcholic,but has a very important job and makes great money.and has been able to keep this job through all his drinking.He has had 3 prior drunk drivings over the years but has always used his money and power to get out of them.So he has never...
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rubyhunter
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life house skit
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyheJ480LYA
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matisa
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Why does my AH always try to blame me for his using?
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Hi there everyone, New to this whole al-anon thing but really can't do this alone anymore. I have friends to talk to but they don't fully understand because they do not have an A spouse. Bless them, they try. Anyway, not a day goes by that I am told "well if you would change" or " you alway...
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Jonesy0505
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1st time here (reallllllly need some advice) - Dad is in Hospital...
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Hi all, This is the first time posting here, and I'm not quite sure how or what to really write. Forgive me if it sounds as though I'm rambling and not making any sense...my head is just a little out of sorts, I'm confused, and super stressed. I'm reaching out because I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I...
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Kicks611
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Oh JOY! It is all good!
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Just want to say that it is good because God is good. I have to say that my sponsor always says that it is "all good". I sometimes agree w/ her. Today is one of those days. I had a long weekend w/ my TOPS rally. I had to get up early & recovered from it on Sunday. I am so glad it is MONDAY! Sounds str...
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Hoot Nanny
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Trying to be a supportive husband
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My wife is currently in rehab for alcohol and bulimia. She's been to rehab a few times over the past couple of years, but I'm hoping that this time around is going to be the one that sticks. I think she's finally ready to accept the way things have turned out and do what she has to. I haven't seen her in ove...
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Derek
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they are crazy
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Crazy can sometimes be over whelming when the person who is affecting you happens to be someone who thinks its ok to harasses you just because they knew you a long time ago but could not get over you, so they show back up in your life refusing to leave you alone, why is it people don't understand what harass...
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matisa
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The Question of to stay or go...
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The question about getting better in same house was my question for a long time and, like it sounds for so many others too,, there were break ups and returns and drama,, finally in what I thought was probably just another "break up" my AH live in boyfriend for 7 years left and he has stayed gone...
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glad
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First time posting :)
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Hi - It's my first time on a forum like this, actually it's my first time making any sort of contact with alanon. My husband is no longer in the family home due to his drinking and today was the day from hell. I have been left in a bit of a mess with the finances and felt so ashamed when I had to phone the bank to...
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Aly
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Lonely
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Today is a different kind of day. I am home alone, it has been 2 weeks since my boyfriend went to rehab. Before he relapsed I thought everything was getting better. He was starting to take a lower dose of suboxone. He was getting back on his feet finding work and he even asked me to marry him. After that it w...
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elizabethcontreras
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The impossible is possible!!
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know there are many times when we wonder... why do we keep trying, why we keep holding on, why we keep letting go, why we keep silent, why we keep screaming, why we keep pushing, why we keep pulling, doing so much, and yet there is no one else we are foolin... it all hurts, and we don't want to hurt any more.....
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John
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wonderful video in "why Alcoholism is a disease listed by AMA" sticky above.
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The "sticky" above -why alcoholism is listed as a disease helped me so very much... The video, which was not a "sermon" helped with the "worries" I have obsessed about over the years... answered so many of the "why" questions I've had. Thanks so much for...
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glad
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The journey
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life, not an easy journey, but a journey that without all its twist and turns would be a journey without the very things that teach us how to navigate the roads of life that lay ahead, and guides us to the best in its moments of despair to let go of the wheel, and start looking for the scenic route. john
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John
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Lightening bolt thought ..
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LOL .. and ya'll thought it was the whole not my business .. nope. I'm right where I need to be in my healing today. Even in the throws of pain which I would have and could have happially done without, I am exactly where I need to be in terms of healing from this past year. I have learned so much about myself a...
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Pushka
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Feelings
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Today was my birthday. Not a big deal really; we didn't have major plans to celebrate and I was ok with that. We did decide that we'd get take out from my favorite nearby restaurant and have some ice cream for dessert. And I have to say, I was looking forward to that, as little as it was. But when I got home, my...
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usedtobeanyer
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The Disease Took another LIFE this weekend.
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My son's friend decided (while under the influence) that his addiction was too much to handle. While in the depths of his drunken state of mind felt that by taking a gun to his own head he could end the pain of his demons the ones that haunted him daily. Oddly, strangly, curiously the face book page...
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Peggy7
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Cluttered mind syndrom
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Where is Peggy? In the past few weeks one son who had finally found sobriety of nearly a year was in a major car accident while driving to work. Side effects upon leaving the trauma unit consist of short term memory loss, chest pains, trouble sleeping, loss of his job. Other son just lost a dear friend t...
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Peggy7
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self obessed "self gratification" conversation
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im an adult child of an alcohlic mother thankfully my dramas are over (apart from the occaisional bad phase) and mostly i tend to sympathise more with the people who are having to live with this disease on a daily basis- thats where it can get heavy going so anyways...as an adult child i am lucky enough t...
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rosielee
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Been Awhile
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It's been awhile since I've been on the board and since my last post. I have missed my last two weekly F2F meetings, too. I did get the promotion at work and it has been a whirlwind! It's fantastic. And so demanding, but I love it. But I feel guilty about the F2F meeting. The last one I attended, I just p...
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NovSun
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AH diagnosed with Cirrhosis
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This is my first post to a message board I have been reading a very long time. August 9, 2011 I took my AH husband to the emergency room with a belly as big as a 8 month pregnant woman. His eyes were yellow, he has lost all his body weight, muscle mass, etc. He bascially stopped eating and would drink from t...
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Woodenships
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Not my business ...
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That is such an interesting statement and it can provoke powerful responses, especially if married, how can that not be my business that is my life partner!!? Tonight at our meeting someone shared something that I thought was amazing, what not my business means, it's not rude or meant in that way, my...
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Pushka
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light at the end of the tunnel
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I have been feeling pretty lonely lately. I thought I would dabble in dating! I've gone back and forth on it. One minute I think I am too needy and next I think why not. I've also been feeling kind of torn. Setting limits and bottom lines is hard stuff. After all I feel like I owe the world for being alive....
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maresie
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Self-focus
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In alanon we are taught about advice giving and trying to orchestrate other people's lives. It is said that to do that takes away from ourselves and our self-focus. March 25th in Courage to Change really struck me today. The line "to listen, not just with my ears, but also with my heart...&quo...
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Can I really get better while still in the same house??
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New to this.. First post. I'm really wondering if one can truely "turn a cheek" to all this and get better?? Or is that just keeping our feelings inside until we blow up??? Cuz most of the time lately this is how I feel.. Please remember I just started with this (step one and two)..... Does it g...
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chairing the meeting tonight
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I am kind of anxious about chairing the meeting tonight at an out-of-town meeting--I have been there many times but have never chaired this meeting. It is a great meeting whether there are many or few. Maybe because summer is ending, there will be a good crowd. I am not nervous about chairing the meetin...
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Hoot Nanny
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Closes a door and opens a window...
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Well, earlier this week I decided to turn down a job offer. I wrestled with it and decided I didn't want to move right now. Partially, this is because of my recovery work and I don't want to get derailed when I'm making so much progress. It's too much stress right now. So... I wrestled and decided to turn it...
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Doozy
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What to Say to AH
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Question how to handle something for those of you who've ever separated from your A. My AH is in inpatient rehab now after several hospitalizations and being unable to stay sober enough for outpatient, and going on a bender with his own mother (who'd been sober 22 years). He hasn't lived with me sinc...
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nyc018
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Even though I know why!!!!
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ok I am venting, I know better than what I am saying!! Just spitting out my imperfect me! RRRRRR son's fb is gone. HUH? He calls to check in. Hey what happened to your fb. Oh he says it is causing too many problems. HUH? His not wife cept on paper is accusing him of cheating and all that bolony. My son has very...
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Debilyn
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Productive :)
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Wow I had more steam in my engine than I thought .. LOL. I have rearranged the computer area, which cleared out a ton of clutter. I'm still going through it just taking a quick break. I'm going to pay for this tomorrow .. gak .. oh well, I"m hoping for just some sore muscles. I'm not sure I like the s...
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Pushka
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Trying to learn how to heal
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I am 28 years old and have an alcoholic mother. In the last year, with the help of God, my boyfriend, and his family I have finally begun to uncover the scars from mental and emotional abuse as I was growing up and deal with them properly. As a survival mechanism, I clamped down on all the anger and resentm...
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scholarlydragon
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Do I stay or do I go now?
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Hi, I'm new to Al Anon, but not new to AA. I'm trying to decide whether to stay and work on me while continuing my marriage with my AH, or if I need to leave to be able to finish my work. Going to just let it all out...and hope for the best here. Been married for 25 years and he is the love of my life. However the l...
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janetteaa
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Light at the end of this tunnel??
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Well, I haven't posted in a bit because I've been out of town. I'm back now and have a couple things to put out there. I'm really hoping to get to a meeting or meetings this week because I really need the support. I joined Alanon and this group primarily because of my pain at the end of a 3-yr relationship wit...
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Doozy
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Quotes
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Just a few of my favorites I wanted to share. Enjoy!There is so much satisifaction in work well done; praise is sweet, but there can be no happiness equal to the joy of finding a heart that truly understands - Victor RobinsonMay God give you eyes to see the beauty only the heart can understand unknown...
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tommyecat
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A look at my weird
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Tonight Ive been messing with my latest experiment. This morning I was doing something that made me start wondering why I couldnt make some kind of concentrated coffee thing that you just add a few tablespoons of the concentrate to a cup of hot liquid to make coffee that tastes fresh from the pot. So, af...
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likemyheart
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oops! for Hannah
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=B8ISzf2pryI
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Debilyn
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=B8ISzf2pryI
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Debilyn
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I aksed him to go. Now he's angry and i'm devasted
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I asked my husband to leave today... he has had a binge drinking problem since i met him. After 3 years i fanally had enough today and asked him to leave. He manages to stay dry for six weeks at a time and then the seventh week is hell. Thing is i miss him already and now he's angry with me for making him leave hi...
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bellaellaella
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Not reacting = a blind eye?
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Hi everyone. Question for you. I read over and over again about not engaging with our addicts. We can't control whether they are using or not. Time and time again I read that when people have seen or know their addict is using they walk away, don't react, etc. But does that show the addict we "c...
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ELEKTRAWMN
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How do I quit feeling
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My daughter is married to an addict, for years she thought he was bi polar and he was being treated for that by a doctor. He wanted her to keep that a secret and she believed that he had his right to privacy so for years our family saw strange behavior but got no answers, he abused her but she didn't tell anyo...
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Bluefin
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Do I or Don't I ..
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Well, .. my AH has a history of doing things that affect the family with no regard of the big picture. The truck .. LOL .. that has been a theme and I'm really have got to get myself into some kind of dark comedy writing course or something. Off topic one of my girlfriends who rocks in ways I can't begin to de...
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Pushka
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Something for myself
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My avatar is what I did for myself this weekend. I happened to the grocery store and they were selling 1 dozen roses for 1$. They are on their last legs they were so pretty I picked up 2$ worth. I'm sooo glad I did they look so pretty on my kitchen table (clean kitchen table). It has been nice to just enjoy...
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Pushka
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I am thankful for my sponsor
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I've had a rough couple of days. Feeling a lot of emotions. After all of these months, it is still hard for me to pick up the phone and call someone. I was sitting outside today, tears flowing, beginning to drown in my own self-pity, trying to grab some serenity and failing miserably. Then, I remembered...
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Very Very Tired
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just another day in PARADISE!
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With all the bad things that are happening in the world today, I feel so blessed to live where I do w/ the people I live with. Not to seem callous or anything to any of you who are suffering right now, but I am happy & content where I am. Sunday is a very important day to so many--especially to the survivor...
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Hoot Nanny
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here we go again
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Hi guys I have been doing well I think. Handing it over, not taking it personally, not reacting. Him noticing the change in me etc. I have been laughing and smiling again at times I even felt calm. Yesterday my husband asked me to go fishing with him today. IN the past we have talked and I 'accept' that h...
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Lindaoakford
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strength
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Hi everyone, My ABF has been back out there for over two months after being sober for 9 months its his journey and i do believe he will get back into programme he is already talking about it. I have told him I want no contact that we both need to sort ourselves out. I have not ruled out a relationship in the f...
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Tracy
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Sponsor Conflict - How do you know...
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How do you know when the sponsor you signed up with is actually not working out? I've heard people in groups say that they didn't like what their sponsor told them and they stuck it out. My sponsor points out my flaws but she's sick too so how is a sponsor credible? She'll ask my questions and then halfway...
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ineedhelpnow
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Ex sponsor in same meeting...the aftermath
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Hello: I posted a question earlier about how to determine if your sponsor is helping you or hurting you. Now I need to know how to best deal with running into her in future meetings. We go to the same meeting one day a week and I will not stop going to that meeting. She has been in the program for many,, ma...
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ineedhelpnow
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gratitude
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There are times most days when I would give a lot to be away from the addicts I live with and have to deal with. Watching them progress in their disease from whatever vantage point is not pretty. These days however I do have boundaries. I do have perspective. I do have self preservation. I didn't have t...
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maresie
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MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING - SEPT 12
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I have a Dr.'s appointment Monday a.m. and it is not certain whether I will be able to return home in time to chair the meeting. Hoping someone will be able step up and chair for me. Thanks.
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shimo
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Brande new to Al-Anon
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Hi. I don't know anything about alanon. It was suggested I go to a mtg by my therapist, but I work full time and have a 6 yr old daughter so it is hard to find the time. So I thought maybe I could give this a try. My mother was an alcholic, an abusive one and she died when I was 15. I was in a bad marriage from 19-27. I...
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hmiller6
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Eden's River pictures
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Mac had to go up a side as my Newfyx was up there about to come down an impossible side of a cliff! At first he stood below waiting to catch her. He has NO idea how heavy she is! mac is watching me take the pic as I precariously am on the side of a huge slopping rock. sauvy is next to him and his dog is right by his han...
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Debilyn
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Last night
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Two nights ago, my baby was having trouble sleeping. We had a late night. Yesterday evening I was tired (not hungry, not lonely) and the baby was having trouble with bedtime - this is frustrating (as I'm sure many parents can attest to) because it wasn't clear what the issue is, so the mommy and the ACO...
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KLotus
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Leaving him tomorrow
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Hey everybody, I am leaving my RA tomorrow. I'm going out town and will be gone for 9 days. Pray that his friends come over and help him get out, because I think that is the best of bad options. It's been such a roller coaster lately - you know, the fluctuations between awesome real guy and crazy guy. W...
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rara avis
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Prayers please
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A few days ago my moostiff developed a limp, his back leg was weak. I kept him on an easy schedule and everything seemed to be going well while we waited for the vet appointment today. Last night his leg swelled to an amazing size and his lymph nodes were hugely swollen. We went to the furry ones ER where we e...
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Jennifer
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A Mirror Into Your Soul
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Had a good run for about a month, and then the evil twin showed up. I knew as soon as I got home from work that my AH was on a rant. Verbal jabs hidden under the guise of 'just kidding', trying to get me to respond to negative comments meant to start an argument. I did well in simply not responding, went about m...
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surfgirl123
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my change in attitude
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I asked my husband if he had seen anything different in me the past few weeks. he said I seemed less stressed with...then trailed off his voice. I said less stressed with what? "well.. with me smoking and stuff, you seem to have accepted it" I was shocked he said that and my immediate response...
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Lindaoakford
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giving up fixing others
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Recently I've met two men who are really struggling in their lives. One contemplating divorce and the other a former co worker. Normally I would see it as my civic duty to help and fix them. Right now I'm just aware of how lost both of them seem. Where did I ever get the idea I could be a sign post for peop...
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maresie
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Help!
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Hello! not sure if this board is active, but I need some help on step 4. Thanks!
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Ruby
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How to respons to my son
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My son is taking on the characteristics of an alcoholic without the alcohol. He has been married six years, and the last two years has been with a full-blown alconolic. She has spent two stints in rehab, leaving both times before the end of the program, and is now supposedly going into rehab a third ti...
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PrincessPeriwinkle
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I'm BAAAAACK!!! :)
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Things have been really tense lately at home. My husband is out of work and it has put a little stress on me. He has been on a binge and is starting come off of it. It concerns me and when he comes off of his binge then I can confront him in a non confrontational way. I had slipped back a little bit. Not sleeping a...
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MDK
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