Trying to be a supportive husband - Al-Anon Family Group

Derek · Newbie

Trying to be a supportive husband

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Derek Welcome to MIP so glad you found us

Living with the disease of alcoholism is extremely difficult and painful. The feelings you describe are very familiar to me and to many who walk through the doors of al anon Face to Face meetings.

The meetings, living one day at a time, focused on yourself ,learning how to act and not react, staying in the present are some of the tools that al anon offers that enabled me to let go of my anger, resentment and fear.

You deserve to know peace,and be happy. Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html Or call: 1-888-4alanon

Please keep coming back

-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 15th of September 2011 07:39:34 AM

rosielee · Senior Member

good luck on your wifes recovery, hopefully she will crack it this time- she has a lot of work and recovery ahead of her- which is her responsibility and her fight. good luck xx

usedtobeanyer · Senior Member

Hang in there, there are many people here who have similar experiences and they can be very helpful to you in your recovery. Also many people at an Al Anon meeting who can help. I know the idea of going probably seems awkward but just work through it and remember everyone in the room was in the same spot as you at some point, a newcomer going to their first meeting. If the meeting you go to is anything like mine, you'll find some really content, supportive, serene people.

Good luck and keep coming back.

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs, as you continue to heal I hope you will keep coming back to the board as well. MIP has been a great source of support in my own journey. It does get better regardless with what happens with our spouses.

tommyecat · ~*Service Worker*~

Derek,

Welcome to the board! I know how difficult it can be to have an alcoholic spouse. I have active alcoholics all around me. What I will say is that the face to face meetings of Alanon have given me the love, patience, support, and understanding I need one day at a time.

This forum is a wonderful tool and is an adjunct for me in addition to attending face to face Alanon meetings. I have found that this board provides tremendous relief at times when things are rough. True recovery began for me when I was willing to get a sponsor and begin working the steps. I discovered I need to get some clarity as to whether or not I should stay or go.

Alcoholism is cunning, baffeling, and powerful. There are many of us here that understand your problems as few others could. We are encouraged to share our experience, strength and hope - refraining from giving advice. Many of us here are in the Alanon program and other 12 step fellowships. Quite a few folks here are not part of a 12 step program. There is a saying here and in the rooms of 12 step fellowships. It is take what you like and leave the rest. We welcome you with open arms and are here to encourage, comfort and support you should you need it.

Keep coming back,

Tommye

rrib · Senior Member

You wrote 'My goal is to start getting to al-anon meetings regularly'

Absolutely! Whatever she does or doesn't do. attending Al-Anon is were you belong.

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